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Elevate your fall wardrobe essentials with Quince. Great. Go to quince.com sewmoney for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. That's Q-U-I-N C E.com somoney quince.com somoney so Money Episode 1869 Managing financial windfalls, Inheritances, Pay Severances, and more. You're listening to so Money with award winning money guru Farnoosh Kharabi. Each day, get a 30 minute dose of financial inspiration from the world's top business minds, authors, influencers and and from Farnoosh herself. Looking for ways to save on gas or double your double coupons. Sorry, you're in the wrong place. Seeking profound ways to live a Richer, happier life. Welcome to SO money. Welcome to SO Money everybody. Today's show is all about managing and making the most of a windfall. Whether that's an inheritance, a pay, severance. The great wealth transfer as we know is unfolding A record number of assets being passed down from one generation to the next. And many in our audience are wondering about this and I've got some of your questions. And to help navigate your questions, I have two experts on standby who are going to join us later on the show, including Pam Kruger, who is the founder of wealthramp. For those of you who are curious about working with a financial advisor, wealthramp is a platform that offers a bespoke matching service. You've heard Pam on the show before. I'm a fan. Pam works with you to match you with a qualified pre vetted feature fee only financial advisor that cares about your priorities, your preferences, even your price points. Also joining Pam and I is Marianella Collado, or Nella as she likes to be called. She's a certified financial planner or certified public accountant for Tobias Financial Advisors. And Nella is here because she has extensive experience helping her clients navigate the topic of today, which is wealth transfers, inheritances. She's also very experienced in tr and we have a question later about that. She's also one of Pam's favorite financial advisors and through wealth Ramp clients have the opportunity to work with Nella and her team. So ahead of all of that, hang tight. We have some really important discussions ahead of us, but here's what's going on in my community and our Sew Money community. So firstly, if you follow me on Instagram, does any story end well when you start with back on Instagram, but on Instagram you may have caught a reel this week that I created on a hunch, completely unplanned. I just did it. I had been thinking about it during the day and I was like, I'm just going to do it. I'm not going to overthink it. And it went bonkers. Viral, folks. I have finally made it. I have finally gone viral on the Internet and I'm here to report that nothing has changed. My life is still the same. But the topic of the reel is what surprises me. I didn't realize this was something that was so popular. I've shared a lot of opinions and insights and advice on all sorts of things, but this topic about running chores and allowances in our house and how we're doing it or how we're attempting to do it has gone viral. Over one and a half million views in 48 hours. So I'm officially now the allowance lady. And if you haven't caught it, I just want to take a second here and tell you the gist of how we're doing this. And this all started basically over the weekend. I had a meltdown, basically, like a parent meltdown, where I was like, these kids, literally, I think it was my son who was on the couch, and he was like, mommy, can you get me some water? And I was just. I was so tired. It was like 7pm And I'm like, evan, just please go get your own water. You have arms, you have legs. You know where the water is. Like, I've had a long day. And he goes, I've had a long day. I'm like, really? What's your long day? What's your long day, kid? I got the water for him, but on the way to getting the water, I said, that's it. No more. We are going to. Officially, I'm going to. This is on me, too. Because I have tried to start allowances with my children in the past. It's been difficult because they have an age gap, right? My daughter and my son are three years apart, more or less. And interestingly, she. My younger is more enthused and ready and willing to help out around the house. My son is not. And at least he wasn't. And now they're on the same page, okay? They're both motivated by money. They're both motivated by accomplishment and finishing tasks and accountability. And they work well together in some cases. So I was like, let's come up with a plan where we're going to have chores, and I need to be on board just as much as them because it's hard for me and my husband to keep on top of them. Their kids, they don't remember. They fall off the bandwagon. I get tired of reminding them. I forget to pay them. All these issues, right? Which, hey, I know I'm not alone here. And I think that's why this topic resonated so much with my audience and new people who've discovered me since this video went viral, that people need more advice on this topic because it is draining. It's like you feel like you're running in circles. You know, you want to do something. But what is the thing? So here's what we're attempting now. I caveat this and say that this could completely change in the next week. I also fully assume and anticipate meltdowns and fights and arguments, but it's been five days since we implemented this and so far so good. Our framework is the following. Again, my daughter is 7 and my son is 10. The video said in our house we pay well for chores, but there are rules. There are rules. So now we have a daily list of chores. I thought about putting these on a board. I haven't gotten to that yet. The list is not long, so they're pretty easy to remember. And I guess we don't really need a chore board even because here's why. While we pay handsomely and we pay $15 per week per child, that's $60 a month if you're doing the math before anyone falls back in their chair, I know this is above market price. I've often talked about how the rule of thumb if you're not sure where to start is give your kid a dollar for every year of their age per week. So if you have a 10 year old, $10 a week, 7 year old $7 per week, we are way above and beyond that. I know it's a lot, but here are my rules and I'll tell you the chores later. But here are the rules. This income, you earn it only if you do every single chore, every single day for the week. It's all or nothing, my friends. Of course you're going to get sick. There are days when we're not home, we're on vacation. Actually one day this week my son had a long day at camp. They went on a off site trip, we had to pick him up and we didn't get home until 8pm I'm not going to make them do the dishes because there's no dishes to be done. We had dinner out, okay, I'm reasonable. But if they don't do what's expected of them on a day when it is expected of them, there are consequences. Rule number two, they have to save 10 of the $15 that we provide them every week. So what is that? A 67% savings rate. And so while yes, the $15 is a lot, what they can spend is really just five and the other 10 has to go into a savings account. We have an, we use a GoHenry account. I don't work with GoHenry. It's just what we have found to be easy. They give you a debit card and that $10 a week that they must save must be saved for at least three months. Now we were starting this in the summer so I looked ahead and I said okay, by the time November rolls around, they're Going to be creating their holiday wish lists. I think it's a good time to have this lump sum by then. $10 a week times three months. That's over $100. But it must be budgeted to include. And here's where I'm going to encourage teamwork. Any gifts. And they may choose not to buy gifts for each other, but if they want to buy gifts for their siblings or their family, they have to use what's in their savings accounts. And so here's how I foresee this playing out. Or in theory, right. If my daughter gets lazy one day and is I don't want to do my chores, it's also going to affect my son. Right. Because that means she's not going to have money in her budget to potentially buy him some gifts later this year. And they always want to do that. So that's. I know them. And here's the thing. You have to know your kids. You have to know what motivates them. My kids are very motivated by money. They know that it provides them with options. They love the autonomy that comes with it. And I want to be able to foster that. But I also want to make sure that the chores get done, because this has been great for my husband and I, to be honest. Like, after dinner, it's usually us doing all these things, which is. Here's the list. Okay. Clean your rooms and make your beds every day. It doesn't have to be in the morning because mornings are rough. I get it. I'm not a tyrant. But if you know me like, I've been known to make my bed right before I get into it. It. And I'm not encouraging that with them. But if they don't make it in the morning, then when they come home from camp and it's the summer, they have to go to their rooms and make their rooms and their beds and be done with it. Then they rotate between setting the dinner table and doing the dishes every week. So right now, this week, my son is setting the dinner table and my daughter is doing the dishes. My son is taking out the trash every day or whenever it needs to be taken out. Actually, yesterday the trash wasn't full and he took it out. And we said, in the future, don't do that. You can get a pass because that's wasteful. We want to use the full trash bag. Then they have to keep the basement clean and tidy. And this isn't an everyday chore, but once a week, they need to go down there, check it out, make sure that things look sane that it doesn't look like an earthquake happened. So that's the list. It can grow. And how I come up with this list is just I know them, know what they're capable of. I know what's doable for them, what's a little bit challenging. And they're taking a lot of pride in it. They know that this can be very rewarding. And it can also mean that they can get nothing if they don't cooperate. And it's also encouraging them to negotiate. So early on in this, my son and daughter, they were having an offline discussion about who was going to do what. They were seeing if they could maybe trade, because I know there's one chore that they're going to flip every week, which is setting the dinner table. And so Evan suggested, hey, can I do that? Because I'm not really into doing the dishes. And my daughter said, sure, that's fine. Again, it's been five days and one day they were off because we had that long night out and it's the summer and I actually think the summer can be a great time of the year to implement these sorts of rituals and practices and experimentations with your kids. I'm fully prepared that in the fall, with their schedules changing, that some of these tasks may shift, they may be replaced. But one and a half million views, everybody. This is what you're telling me? This is the content you want? What have I been doing with my life all these years? One last bit of news before we go to the mailbag. I just want to give a final reminder to anybody out there who would like to work with me and be a part of my mentorship program. My applications for the next cohort, which we kick off in August, ends this weekend on Sunday. I have stretched that it was going to be today day and giving everybody their weekend to think about it. The application is at farnoosh. Bts. Com. If you've been listening to this show, if you've been subscribing to the newsletter, you've probably heard about what this is. But this is my once in a while offer where I like to take some entrepreneurs and creators and small business owners under my wing to show them, if they're interested, to learn about all of the ways to make all of the money as a creator and brand builder, someone who uses her personal brand, that's me, to essentially create a thought leadership business that spans podcasts and books and speaking who appears regularly in the media. How do I do all of these things? What are my strategies? What do I charge. How do I negotiate? This is a tell all experience. It's four months and it's a very small group. So you would get a lot of access to me and others in the group like you who are ambitious. There's a lot of resource sharing, there's a lot of advice giving. So. So last call for the year. This is going to be my last cohort this year. Go to Farnooshbts.com and fill out that application and I will be in touch very soon after that. Okay. Joining me now is our friend, Pam Krueger, founder of wealthramp, the largest fee only network of top independent advisors. You've heard me say it before and I will say it again. If you're seeking a financial advisor, which I know many of you are, or a planner, you want to work with someone to help you with your retirement goals, your investment strategies, any financial goal. I highly recommend connecting with Pam. She helps every single person who comes to Wealth Ramp her company. Identify the most suitable expert based on your needs, your goals, your budget, all of it. We not only have Pam with us, we also have Marianella Collado, or Nella as everyone calls her. She's a certified public accountant and a certified financial planner with Tobias Financial Advis, which is a fee only independent firm in South Florida. And fun fact, Nella is an advisor on the Wealth Ramp platform. So maybe you'll get paired with Nella when you go to wealthramp.com Farnoosh But Pam, Nella, thank you both for hanging out with me. This Friday our topic is Inheritances the lump sums. We know there is this thing called the transference of wealth. We keep hearing about it and I know it's on a lot of our audience's minds what to do with a lump sum. I know maybe it's a good problem, but you also want to and mindful. So we're going to offer some strategies. But thank you so much for agreeing to coming on and making this our topic today.
