Farnoosh Torabi (2:52)
Welcome to so Money, everybody. I'm Farnoosh Tarabi. It is Friday, October 10th, 2025. I'm dedicating today's show to all things debt relief because we're living in a time when many of us are carrying more debt than ever. Whether that's a mortgage, credit cards, student loans, auto debt. It's totaling over $17.6 trillion right now. And that's according to the latest Fed data. Credit card balances alone have topped a trillion dollars. We're at a, we're at 1.1 trillion. And the delinquencies are also on the rise, especially among our younger borrowers. So I'm answering your most pressing questions about debt relief today, from when to pause investing to address your debt. Whether to use a home equity loan to pay off student loans. Another question in the audience about how to tackle credit card balances when they're really high. And how do you get a good car loan these days? What's a good way to ensure a good interest rate, a good term? We have questions from many people in the audience. I went onto my Instagram yesterday. I know a little last minute, but we can be nimble around here. I asked you all what were your debt questions, and many of you came in with some good questions, which is just reinforcing the importance of doing this episode. It's very timely. And the questions were running the gamut from all everything I talked about and more, all different aspects of debt management. I've got a link created for you called somoneylinks.com with tons of resources, tons of ways to compare rates for loans, to compare rates for savings accounts, to get some professional debt relief, if that's something that you want to consider. One of the questions I did get from Marco in the audience is should I consider working with a debt relief program? I'm getting ads. I have about $37,000 in credit card debt, another $200,000 in student loans. I guess Ms. Might be a student loan from a law school or something. But he says, what should I do for our new and so I want to start with that because I'm Going to give a lot of advice on how to DIY your debt situation, your debt struggles, your debt relief. But if you do want to work with an agency or a professional, there are some things to look out for. Because debt relief programs, they run the gamut. They're not all created equal. They can be a lifeline, though, for those of us who feel really overwhelmed and we can't keep up with them. Payments. The right programs that I think are worthy of your time and money also, because they do take some fees, they help you negotiate lower interest rates, they waive those fees, they help you waive those fees, and they will even help you consolidate multiple debts into a single structured plan with a clear end date. That's often managed through a nonprofit credit counseling agency. But you have to vet these programs really carefully first. I like organizations that are nonprofit and accredited. For example, the national foundation For credit counseling, NFCC.org is fantastic. Avoid companies that promise to erase or settle your debt for pennies on the dollar, because those often do come with high fees. They might damage your credit. And ask for a written plan that clearly states how long the repayment may take, what it will cost, and how it will affect your credit. There is also the pathway of reaching out to your lenders yourself. And the thing that people like about debt relief is that there's advocacy built into that. But if you want to do this yourself, essentially it's calling all of your lenders and your credit card companies and your loan providers and saying, hey, I'd like to look at modification plans or is there a way to reduce my interest rate or get rid of some of the fees if your income has dropped a lot since you've been carrying this debt. Some credit card companies offer relief or hardship programs. They're not heavily advertised, but they can be a great way to alleviate some of that struggle due to maybe a job loss or an illness or some other financial setback. These programs might be able to lower your interest rates or temporarily waive the interest. They might suspend minimum payments and allow smaller payments. And in some cases, too, they'll work with a credit counseling agency to help you consolidate your payments into a reduced monthly plan. Okay, let's get to your specific questions that came through mainly through two ways. Instagram. Thank you for following me there. @ Farnooshtrabi and also members of my so Money members club, I give them priority on Fridays to send me their questions. I'm also in the club answering questions on an as needed basis. I have office hours every month for my members. You can learn more about that@somoneymembers.com let's start with their questions. So first a question from Mary. Should I stay self employed or get a job? I'm in a place where if I could have reliable income for six months, that would help pay off my credit card debt and my bills. I'm passionate about what I do, yet it's been a hard year selling consistently. I'm a leadership and wellness coach. I'm licensed in Medical Acupuncture. FYI, I do have emergency savings of about 2 months. I have shared savings with my fiance, about $33,000. He wants to take our CD and invest in bitcoin. And I never thought I'd say this, but now I'm curious about it too, given what's happening in the world. All right, so that's a lot. There's a question about potentially investing in bitcoin. Do I, do I switch jobs? Do I try to get a job to pay off my debt? But I'm here for this. Let's start with the broader picture. Mary. Okay, so it's no secret a lot of Americans are turning and have been turning to freelance work or self employment work. But at the same time, these payment delinquencies are rising and many households are struggling to manage inconsistent income. With being self employed. There's a lot of flexibility and you're getting to manage your own time. But if you have a quiet month or two or three, but then you have a big payday, that's hard to manage, especially in a world where we have a lot of inflation and unexpected costs. So I get that you're looking for some stability. Stability wins for now. And I would say that if taking a job, even temporarily could give you a clear Runway, a clear timeline over the next six months of how much is coming in and what you're going to be able to afford to address the debt and rebuild your savings, I think that's a really strong move. Here's how I would approach it. I would look at this full time or part time job as a short term bridge to building stability that secure, consistent income is the goal. Right. You're looking for a job and, but I, but at the same time, I wouldn't abandon your coaching practice, your leadership practice. Keep a foot in your business. Maybe you just reduce your hours there. You don't want to risk getting too quiet on that side of your professional life. Because what I'm hearing is that you have intentions maybe to go back, that this is just a kind of a, a Bridge now with your savings, I want, I would love for you to keep that safe. Bitcoin, I know it can be attractive in uncertain times, but I look at that as a real, an alternative investment. Really, I wouldn't risk it. And I'm being completely honest with you. If my husband came to me and said, let's buy bitcoin, I'd be like, sure, let's make sure this is money that you can roll the dice with. And if you lost all of it tomorrow, you wouldn't regret it. I mean, in the context of having debt just feels like a misappropriation to me. So I wouldn't gamble it right now. Bitcoin is extremely volatile. I would use that cash as your emergency run rate right now. Be grateful that you have it. Why would you excuse my French? Piss it off in Bitcoin. And if you want to blame me and tell your partner, like Farnoosh said, don't do it. Like, I'm happy to be the fall guy here for you, but with everything you've just told me, I don't think this is the move for now. Maybe down the road, once you have gotten rid of the debt and you have more than a two month savings cushion, you can look at alternative investments, including bitcoin and other things. And I just want to say this too, that this pivot doesn't mean that you've failed. It means that you're figuring it out, you're being strategic. I don't want this to be at all crushing to you. Everyone gets into debt, including me. And sometimes you have to make hard choices that at the time can feel like you're giving up on things like you're giving up on in this case, maybe paying attention to your practice and shifting focus to a full time job, which is not maybe ideal, but you're looking at it as a strategic pivot. This is going to be a short term thing because I know that it's going to help me have more consistent income to pay off the debt. That is super responsible. And, and I like this for you. Thanks, Mary. And we'll talk more in the club. Also from the so Money members club, Megan, I told them I was talking about debt today and she wrote immediately. She wrote. I am all ears on this topic as usual. Given the economic uncertainty right now, government shutdowns and the job market, what is the prevailing wisdom about prioritizing debt pay down versus bulking up an emergency fund? If you know that you need to do both, assuming one's job and income is relatively stable, also Once you set those priorities, how often should you look to reevaluate or rebalance your approach? All right, Megan, really excellent question. I think you're channeling a lot of people here with this question. There's always this concern about, am I doing enough with my debt versus my savings? How do I balance this if I have a good paying job? I have this privilege now to pay attention to both things. But is there one area that takes priority? So here's a framework, okay? And anyone listening who wants to consider this framework, it's just a suggestion, but I think can help you get a running start. If you have less than three months of your bare bones living expenses shored up in an account. If you have less than that, I want you to focus on that. That's the priority. Cash is your safety net. And I don't think we're in a recession right now, but we could be. We are due for one for sure. And I'm really skeptical of where the stock market's been. I'm like, when is this thing gonna come down? Because it's uncanny, right, how much the market has gone up this year, despite the fact that I know a lot of people are looking for work, despite the fact that I know prices are going up and credit card delinquencies, as we just talked about, are going up. But anyway, once you hit that baseline, you want to divide that money that you were pooling towards savings and divide it by 70, 30, 70% towards the high interest debt, 30% still towards savings. So you're continuing to save, but now the priority has shifted to the high interest credit card debt. When to reassess, I'd say every three to six months. Questions to ask during that reassessment, ask yourself, did my expenses go up? Has have interest rates changed? Because maybe if interest rates have changed, you can look at shifting some of the debt over to lower interest debt or asking your credit company for a reduced interest rate. So the goal is to never stop saving until you hit about six months to nine months of your bare bones living expenses shored up. And then once you've hit that goal, then you can just go full speed paying off the debt. I don't know how much debt Megan is talking about, if it's a lot, and we're talking high interest. This framework, you might want to pair it with what we talked about earlier, which is looking at how you can knock down the interest rates or get on some sort of management plan through debt relief or your own advocacy, calling your creditors and asking for some Breathing room. All right, over on Instagram, a lot of good questions. I want to start with Brittany here. Who says, what is the best way to tackle a large amount of credit card debt? Yeah, the average person right now is carrying debt, about $7,300 in credit card debt, which is up about 6% from last year. About 14% of borrowers are behind on at least one payment. So this is a national issue. Here's my advice. You want to get organized, okay, so look at the totality of the debt that you are facing, which is hard for a lot of us. We don't want to look at the numbers. I've worked with so many people that just throw their bills into the drawers or they don't open paperless statements, or I just can't. I cannot do this. But if you can't face the debt, you can't face the debt payoff. So face the full picture. List every card, every balance, every rate, and what is that minimum payment? Then it's about picking your strategy. There's two major strategies, right? There's the avalanche method, which is you pay off the highest interest card first to save honestly the most money. It's your most expensive debt, that card with the highest interest rate. So in mathematical terms, it makes the most sense to address that first. And that doesn't mean you're not paying the minimums on the other cards. It means that with this highest interest rate card, you're putting far more than the minimum towards it. Maybe triple, quadruple the minimum. If it's a $200 minimum, you're putting $500 towards that debt every single month. Because it's your highest interest debt, it's got the highest carrying costs. Alternatively, there's the snowball method, which is more of a psychological boost for those of us who want to kind of feel more motivated. If we are facing a mountain of debt and we don't know where to start, and we don't even know if we can do it. Pay off the smallest balance first. This helps you feel accomplished quickly, and it does give you that dopamine boost, that excitement to go, okay, I got this. I'm gonna do this. And maybe at that point, you go to Avalanche, but the snowball method kind of kicks things into gear. Pay off that smallest balance. It's not maybe your highest interest rate card, but it's something that you can hopefully do relatively quickly and then maybe move on to the next highest balance. You may want to consolidate if you can, if you have a good credit score. Many of us can qualify. And what do I mean by good? Like I would say 680, 700 or higher. You can try to qualify for a 0% balance transfer card which you can typically repay the debt within 12 to 18 months interest free. After that 18 month introductory rate, 0% rate, period, it jumps to whatever the market rate is. And usually it's at this point, if it was going to happen today, it's 20 plus percent. So not a good idea to hold on to zero percent balance transfer cards for too long. The goal is to optimize by taking advantage of that 0% introductory rate. Another option for consolidating is a fixed rate personal loan which has a predictable payoff date, usually a smaller rate than what you know the average of your credit card rates are. But again, for this you do want to make sure you have good standing credit. And then some people just stop using their cards, which may seem obvious, but no, people continue to sometimes use their cards while they're trying to pay off debt. And I think that's a slippery slope, counterproductive, especially if we're talking about piles and piles of debt. Switching to cash or debit until the debt, the credit card debt is more stable, knocked down is probably wise. I know that's a pain in the butt because everything is connected to credit cards now. But if you can make this adjustment, it will be a, an intentional barrier between you and the credit cards. Back in the 90s, before we had all these websites, people would put their credit cards in the freezer. Now that doesn't even matter because everything's digitized and you can connect your credit card online. If it's already connected to all the sites, what does it matter if it's in the freezer, it's on the computer, it's on the Internet. But that illustrates that back then that's what worked for people. I think that can still work, but we just have to make the effort to disconnect our credit cards from all of the different websites, which can take a minute and we may not even remember where it's all connected. But this is a behavioral trick. This will definitely save you some money. And then finally consider credit counseling debt relief. You can go to so many links dot com, by the way. 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