Episode Overview

Podcast: Social Dallas Podcast
Host: Social Dallas Church
Episode: Dangerous Whispers | Robert Madu | Social Dallas
Date: November 24, 2025
Guest Speaker: Pastor Robert Madu

Theme:
Pastor Robert Madu concludes the series “God Hates _______” with a passionate sermon titled "Dangerous Whispers." He explores the scripture in Proverbs 6, focusing on God's hatred of "a person who stirs up conflict in the community." Madu discusses the subtle, destructive nature of sowing discord through whispers, gossip, and relational seeds that damage families, communities, and churches. He challenges listeners to become peacemakers, grounded in the reconciling love of Christ.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Understanding "Dangerous Whispers"

• Opening Illustration: Pastor Madu references viral lip-reader Jackie Gonzalez, highlighting how whispers, though quiet, can say a lot and often go unnoticed yet carry powerful consequences.
  • "She didn’t learn to listen by sound. She learned to listen by sight. She didn't tune her ears. She trained her eyes—so where you and I would depend on volume, she looks at detail." (06:45)
• Body Language of Whispers: He discusses the subconscious body language we use to conceal words we know are wrong or harmful.
  • "It's as if our body innately knows...that the thing we're trying to cover up and whisper is something that shouldn't be said in the first place." (09:04)

2. Scriptural Foundation: What Does God Hate?

• Proverbs 6:16-19: Review of the infamous list: haughty eyes, lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, heart devising wicked schemes, feet rushing into evil, a false witness, and finally: a person who sows discord.
• Emphasis on Discord as the Final, Most Hated Item:
  • "If you do these six things, you will become this seventh person... The seventh thing is the crescendo. He's saving the worst for last." (12:30)
• Hebrew Word "Madon": The word for ‘discord’ is defined: intentional, strategic strife—not accidental misunderstandings.
  • "This is deliberately sown divisiveness. Messy." (13:42)

3. Modern Examples of Sowing Discord

• Gossip in Everyday Life: Demonstrated through common phrases:
  • "Hey, come here, real quick. I could be wrong, but I just think you can't trust so-and-so..." (15:11)
• Church Culture and “Spiritual” Gossip:
  • "Girl, the devil is attacking marriages right now... I’m just telling you this so you can pray for them." (16:14)
• Warning to Church Leaders: People who constantly criticize leaders or other churches are sowing seeds of discord that will eventually return to the current church.
  • "It's only a matter of time before I'll be the person and this will be the church, and you'll leave here and go, 'Let me tell you about Social.'" (17:22)

4. The Seriousness of Division

• Unity is Essential:
  • "Unity is the one thing that God paid the price of His Son for—to reconcile us to Him and each other. Discord is antithetical to His character." (18:48)
• The Only Thing God Paid For:
  • "God didn't pay for the sun. God didn't pay for the mountains... The only thing God had to pay for was reconciliation. And He paid with the precious blood of His Son." (19:02)
• The "Re-" Prefix in Christianity:
  • "Revive, redeem, restore, regenerate, reconcile—because sin ripped everything apart." (19:51)

5. Jesus's Prayer for Unity

• John 17: Christ’s priority in prayer was not influence or reach, but unity.
  • "'Lord, this is my only prayer. Make them one. Bring them together... because then the world will know.'" (21:13)

6. Analogy: Tuning Pianos for Unity

• You cannot tune a piano to another piano—unity must be based on something “outside” us (God/truth):
  • "I tune myself to the Word of God and the truth of God. When you tune yourself to that... watch how God will move." (22:47)

7. Historical and Scriptural Evidence: The Power and Destruction of Discord

• Church growth in persecution vs. division:
  • "The Church has never been destroyed from outside persecution... Only from internal whispers of division." (25:22)
• Paul’s Letters Emphasize Unity: Calls on the church to make "every effort" to maintain unity (Ephesians 4:3, 1 Corinthians 1:10).
  • "A divided church is a defeated church, but a united church is an unstoppable church." (26:48)

8. The Three Seeds of Discord

Pastor Madu identifies three “seeds” that lead to discord, each with biblical and modern examples:

• Jealousy: Often unconfessed, results in comparison and resentment.
  • "Jealousy is the issue. Sometimes jealousy is not even about what a person has, it's just that you don't think they should have it. Jealousy compares. Jealousy resents." (28:00)
• Offense: Living perpetually offended, especially in today’s culture.
  • "Offenses are inevitable. But watch this: there's a difference between an offense and being offended. An offense is an event. Offended is a decision." (35:51)
• Bitterness: When offense lingers and takes root.
  • "If offense is a seed, bitterness is what grows when you water it. Bitterness is offense, replayed, rehearsed... It is the closest thing to spiritual witchcraft—casting spells with your imagination, waiting for someone to get what you think they deserve." (37:31)

9. Practical Call to Action: “Quit Your Job”

• “Full-time jobs” in jealousy, offense, and bitterness:
  "Some of you, that's your full-time job and you love your job of jealousy, offense, and bitterness." (39:42)
• Find Relief:
  • "Maybe you need a place to quit this job... Mind your own business. Stay in your own lane." (40:45)
• Become a Peacemaker:
  • "If God hates discord, what does he love? God loves peacemakers... Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God." (41:18, Matthew 5:9)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "Discord will always go further than you intended and spread faster than you ever thought that it would. And sometimes the damage is irreparable because you’ve already sown the seed with your whispers." (17:26 – Robert Madu)
• "The devil knows he doesn't need you to sin big if he can get you to whisper small." (24:07 – Robert Madu)
• "A divided church is a defeated church, but a united church is an unstoppable church." (26:48 – Robert Madu)
• "An offense is an event. Offended is a decision." (35:51 – Robert Madu)
• "Bitterness is offense that is stored instead of surrendered to God." (37:27 – Robert Madu)
• "Please quit your job of jealousy, offense and bitterness... and apply for the job of being a peacemaker." (41:18 – Robert Madu)
• Broom Analogy: Story from Nigerian heritage where unity makes a family or community unbreakable, but division (cutting the cord) makes it easy for the enemy to destroy piece by piece. (43:00)
• "How can you say you love God and hate your brother and your sister? I don’t want God to be nauseated because I’m sowing seeds of discord... I want to be a peacemaker." (46:47 – Robert Madu)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 06:45 – 09:20: Lip reading illustration and the subtlety of dangerous whispers
• 12:10 – 14:30: Proverbs 6 breakdown and progression to discord
• 15:00 – 17:30: Everyday examples of sowing discord through conversation
• 18:48 – 19:51: God’s price for reconciliation—Christ’s death
• 21:13 – 22:10: Jesus’s prayer for unity and its importance
• 23:11 – 26:48: Tuning pianos metaphor and the critical nature of unity within the church
• 27:51 – 39:42: The three seeds of discord: jealousy, offense, and bitterness
• 39:42 – 41:18: “Quit your job” analogy; practical takeaways for avoiding seeds of discord
• 43:00 – 45:29: Nigerian broom story and visual illustration of unity
• 45:30 – End: Final call to be peacemakers and the closing prayer

Actionable Takeaways

• Be vigilant about the small whispers—what seems like harmless conversation often plants seeds of discord.
• Audit your own speech: Are you a peacemaker or stirring division, even unintentionally?
• Deal with jealousy, offense, and bitterness: Recognize when these are forming in your heart and surrender them to God.
• Commit to staying in your lane: Focus on your own purpose and growth rather than comparing yourself to others.
• Become a peacemaker: Not by passivity, but by actively seeking reconciliation, breaking cycles of gossip, and protecting unity.

Conclusion

Pastor Robert Madu’s message in “Dangerous Whispers” is a challenging, vivid exploration of the dangers of subtle discord in families, churches, and communities. With humor, biblical wisdom, and practical advice, he urges listeners to actively root out gossip, jealousy, offense, and bitterness—replacing them with intentional, proactive peacemaking in the spirit of Christ.