Save the Date I Robert Madu I Social Dallas

Summary

Social Dallas Podcast

Episode: Save the Date | Robert Madu | Social Dallas
Date: May 17, 2026

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Pastor Robert Madu of Social Dallas dives deep into the subject of dating through a faith-centered lens. As part of the ongoing "Easy to Fall" relationship series, Pastor Robert moves beyond just romantic attraction to discuss discernment, character, and the cultivation of healthy, God-honoring relationships. Drawing from both scripture and real-life examples, he offers practical and spiritual wisdom not just for singles, but for everyone at any stage of relational life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

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1. Introduction & Series Context

[00:00–05:09]

• The "word" for Social Dallas in 2026 is Confident Trust—not shaky or partial reliance on God, but a steadfast dependence on Him.
• Recap of previous messages in the relationship series:
  • Week 1: "Easy to Fall" — Everyone falls in love easily, but staying in love takes work, especially in a broken world.
    • "It's easy to fall in love. It's much harder to stay in love ... because we are fallen, it's easy to fall in other things too." – Pastor Robert [03:03]
    • "We all come from a dysfunctional family... the Adams family." [03:37]
  • Week 2: "The Man We Need" — The difference between males (born) and men (formed); a call for men to be present, purposeful, and honorable, to all women, not just the one they desire.
    • "Males are born. Men are formed in the presence of God." [04:18]
  • Week 3: "The Woman We Need" (by Taylor Madu) — Women who make God their God, embrace hard things, refuse to be silenced, and are legacy-bearers.

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2. Dating: Why It Matters & Who It's For

[05:09–10:00]

• Today’s unique focus: Dating.
• Addresses diverse listeners:
  • Singles eager for dating wisdom
  • Married people tempted to tune out ("You don’t stop dating your spouse when you get married" [07:03])
  • Singles satisfied with being single
  • Those casually dating or cycling through “situationships”
• Insight: The way you steward this season of life shapes your future and impacts others.

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3. The Weight of Decision & the Limits of Scripture

[10:00–15:40]

• Dating is the second most important decision in life (after choosing to follow Jesus).
• Challenges the cliché "you can’t choose your family"—dating is precisely how you choose your future family and legacy.
• "When you date, you are not just choosing a person, you are choosing a future." [14:22]
• Reality check: The Bible has no verses specifically about dating (see [15:23]), because dating in its modern sense is a recent cultural construct.
  • "There are no scriptures in your Bible [about dating]... the Bible does not address modern dating." – Pastor Robert [15:23]
• However, the Bible does offer timeless wisdom for discernment, character, and relationships.

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4. The Call to Discernment & The Grocery Store Analogy

[16:25–18:47]

• Modern dating often happens without clear criteria ("shopping without a list").
  • "Have you ever gone grocery shopping while hungry... that’s how some of y’all’s dating looks like." [18:13]
• Importance of setting intentional standards before entering the dating scene.

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5. The Biblical “List” – 1 Timothy 4:12

[20:36–27:16]

• While the Bible doesn't tell you how to date, Paul’s guidance to Timothy offers a framework for discernment in relationships:
  • "Set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity."
• Main dating question shifts from "Are they the one?" to "Am I becoming someone healthy enough to be the one?" [24:09]
  • "Everybody has a list for who they want. Very few people have a plan for who they're becoming." [25:50]
• Story: Example of a single man wanting a “church girl with a credit score” despite his own lack of qualifications [26:28]

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6. The Two Dating Tools: The Mirror & The Jeweler’s Loupe

[27:17–30:26]

• Mirror: For self-examination—Am I healthy, healed, whole, and honest about my character?
• Jeweler’s Loupe: For wise observation of others—looking carefully and slowly at character and value.
• Not every relationship requires scrutiny; some are obviously unhealthy ("ring pop" analogy for childish, unserious daters).

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7. Five Diagnostic Categories for Relationships

[30:26–55:45]

• Derived from 1 Timothy 4:12, these five areas should be examined in oneself and a potential partner:
  • Speech:
    • "Words reveal heart ... out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." – [32:35]
    • Observe how they talk about others, authority, family, and God.
    • Address to men: "The onus and responsibility is on you to lead with clarity and just say it, bro." [35:21]
  • Conduct:
    • "Don’t just watch words—watch patterns... Past behavior is often the clearest indicator of future behavior." [38:17]
    • Don’t ignore red flags or patterns in favor of potential.
    • Anecdote: A mentor called the church to check if his fiancée tithed. [40:19]
  • Love (Agape):
    • Look for sacrificial, selfless, serving love—not just chemistry.
    • "Watch how they treat people that can do nothing for them." [41:40]
  • Faith:
    • Not just professing Christianity, but actively trusting God.
    • Be “equally yoked”—moving in the same spiritual direction.
    • Example: Pastor Robert and Taylor sharing church ministry even after a breakup, united in mission. [45:51]
  • Purity:
    • "Watch their boundaries."
    • Purity is about stewardship of life, not merely sexual restraint.
    • What and who do they let shape them?
    • "If they're willing to ignore God's boundaries to satisfy themselves while dating, why would you assume that marriage is going to change that?" [48:38]
    • On sexual temptation: "God knows the power of sexual temptation ... sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is leave the room, block the number, delete the app..." [51:40]

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8. Practical Application & Encouragement

[55:45–62:00]

• Reiterates: Focus first on character, not chemistry—both in yourself and others.
• Pastor Robert’s prayer: That this message would spark relationship revival, cause people to break off toxic ties, get married in covenant, and create legacies for their children.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “It's easy to fall in love. It's much harder to stay in love ... because we are fallen, it's easy to fall in other things too.” – Pastor Robert [03:03]
• “Males are born. Men are formed in the presence of God.” [04:18]
• “When you date, you are not just choosing a person, you are choosing a future.” [14:22]
• “There are no scriptures in your Bible [about dating]... the Bible does not address modern dating.” [15:23]
• “Everybody has a list for who they want. Very few people have a plan for who they're becoming.” [25:50]
• "Don’t date potential while ignoring patterns because patterns tell the truth. Past behavior is often the clearest indicator of future behavior." [38:17]
• "Love is patient. Love is kind... Real love is about service. Real love considers other people." [42:46]
• “If they're willing to ignore God's boundaries to satisfy themselves while dating, why would you assume that marriage is going to change that?” [48:38]
• “Why would I resist the temptation in the future that I have the power to eliminate today?” (quoting Pastor Craig Groeschel) [52:41]
• “Purity is not just about what you don’t do. It’s about what you protect.” [53:12]

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Important Timestamps

• Main theme & context: [00:00–05:09]
• Why dating matters to everyone (single & married): [05:09–10:00]
• Modern dating vs. Biblical principles: [15:23–16:25]
• Grocery/Target analogy (dating without a plan): [18:08–18:47]
• The 5 categories from 1 Timothy outlined: [30:26–55:45]
• Purity, practical boundaries, and temptations: [47:07–53:12]
• Altar call and invitation to new beginnings: [56:23–end]

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Episode Tone & Language

• Warm, humorous, and direct; uses everyday stories (shopping, ring pops, Target trips) for relatable illustrations.
• Frequently addresses both single and married listeners—emphasizing that wisdom in relationships is a lifelong pursuit.
• Employs encouragement, compassion, and gentle challenge rather than condemnation.

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Summary Takeaways

• Dating is not just about attraction or chemistry—it's about character, discernment, and future legacy.
• The Bible may lack explicit dating instructions, but offers timeless wisdom for evaluating both ourselves and others—especially in speech, conduct, love (agape), faith, and purity.
• The journey to healthy relationships begins with honest self-reflection—using the "mirror"—before looking outwardly through the "loupe."
• God’s design for relationships includes intentional boundaries—not to hinder joy, but to nurture it.
• It's never too late for redemption, restoration, or a new beginning; it starts with surrender to Jesus.

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For listeners seeking deeper relationships—either platonic or romantic—this sermon urges intentionality, self-examination, and the pursuit of Christlike character as the true foundation for lasting love and community.

Transcript

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You like who you're worshiping next to. If you don't, change your seat. Change your seat. If you don't. Hey, I want to welcome our social global family that's watching right now from around the world. Social Global, we love you.

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All of our brothers and sisters watching this on the Pando app. We're praying the same presence of God that is in this space is meeting you right now.

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It's going to be a good day. God's gonna do something awesome. I feel it already. You look good. You look like you got confident trust in the Lord. Do you trust him? Come on. If you're new to social, that's actually our word for 20, 26 that we would have. Confident trust, not ratchet trust, not shaky trust. Confident trust in the Lord. And since trust is our word, we went to the word of God. Hebrews, chapter 10, verses 35, 37. Y', all, we read this every single Sunday. But come on, let's read it with uplifted voices. Y' all ready? So do not throw away.

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Remember,

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patient endurance, Then you will receive. For in just a little while, the coming one will come and not delay. Do you believe? It

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Sounds good to me.

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And for today, You can sit down. Chillax.

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Chillax.

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Chillax.

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Ooh.

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Look at the person next to you and say, I'm glad you're here. Yeah. Now look at your second option. Say, I'm glad you're here, too. If you ever heard me preach before, you know that typically after we read our verse of the year, I'll share the scripture that I'm actually teaching from. But I chose not to do that today because I want to do something a little bit different. If you've been here in the last three weeks, you know that we are in the middle of a series on relationships called easy to fall. How many have been loving this series on relationship? Yeah, Easy to fall. We opened up this series right out the gate saying, hey, it is easy to fall. Easy to fall in love. So easy to fall in love. How many know all you need to fall in love is a pulse. It's easy to fall in love. It's much harder to stay in love. It's much harder to build a healthy relationship when we live in a broken world. And so we began this series understanding it's easy to fall in love. And because we are fallen, it's easy to fall in other things, too. Yeah, we're falling. You know, we all come from a dysfunctional family. Yeah. It's called the Adams family. Yeah. Adam and Eve, Jacked all of us up. Yeah. That's why you creepy and you spooky and you all together Kooky. The Adams family. Because when sin entered the world, so did shame. So did hiding. So did blaming. And so we opened up the series saying, hey, it is easy to. But God can redeem anything. But then, the second week of the series, we preached the message that I believe marked our house. And that message was entitled, the Man We Need. All the men of God. Make some noise real quick. Where my dog's at. Yeah. And I issued a clarion call to all the mighty man of God. And I told you, we need you. We need you. Anytime men flourish, that society and that culture will flourish. It starts with us as men. I'll let you know there's a difference between a male and a man. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Males are born. Men are formed in the presence of God. So we need a man who is governed and guided by God's word. We need a man who has found his work. Amen. God did not create you to just sit on your blessed assurance, wake up at the crack of noon and play NBA 2K all day and call of duty. No, you actually have a call. You actually have a duty. Find your work. And then we said, the man we need is a man. Watch this. Who honors not just the woman you want, honors all women. Man, we need you. We need you. We need you. And then last Sunday, my wife, the mother of all my kids and the mother of this house, with elegance and beauty and poise and grace, preached a message called the Woman We Need. Yes, women, we need you.

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We need you.

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We need a woman who will make God her God. Ruth shows us that we need a woman who will do the hard thing. And sometimes the hard thing is leaving what is familiar and stepping out into the unknown. We need a woman who is submitted but will not be silenced. And we need a woman that will hold the lie. Because your legacy is depending on it. And now for today. Yeah, today I'm going to preach on something that I have never preached on before on a Sunday morning. Pray for your boy. Because I'm about to jump into some waters. I'm about to jump into some murky, shark infested, sometimes shallow waters. Today. Because today I want to preach about dating. Yeah. Buckle up, buttercup. We going there. I want to preach about dating. And right there, you see what just happened? I just revealed the demographics of this church. Okay? I just revealed it because some of y'. All. I mean, as soon as I said it, you checked in and you locked in. You're like, come on, P.R. this is what I've been waiting for. Talk about dating. Help this them out. We need this right here. I got my notepad. I'm ready to take notes. Some of y' all are locked in, and you're ready. I want to talk to you today.

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And some of y', all, as soon

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as I said I'm talking about dating married people. You just checked out. No, I saw you. You just checked out. You're like, for real, Regina, this is why we came to church today. We should have gone to brunch. I don't want to hear about dating.

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I'm married, okay?

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When you get married, you don't date your spouse anymore. You stop dating when you get married. Don't nobody got time for a date. I'm trying to survive. I'm trying to raise these k. And if that's what you said, Houston, we have a problem. Just because you're unmarried doesn't mean you

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stop dating your spouse. Come on.

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You should always be dating them. You should always be romancing them. You should always be pursuing them and surprising them and studying them. Come on, married people. Keep on dating. You gonna get something out of this message today.

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And by the way, while we.

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On topic, married people, do you know

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how many times single people have had

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to sit in church services listening to sermons about Marri?

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I think you'll be all right

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sitting in a service listening about dating, dating, dating. If you are single in the house today or watching online, and you're single. Hear me? And satisfied with being single, which is okay. Not scarred, not scurred, but you're actually satisfied with being single. You gonna get something out of this today, too, because now you are gonna be able to help your friends that you know, you have that keep making dumb dating decisions, messing up the whole dinner, just emotionally dumping on you. I got you now you got a

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message that you can say, remember PR Talked about this? Remember he had the blue thing on.

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He talked about this. That's gonna help you today, too. And I'm really hoping that today. Ooh. Reaches this person. And you're in here today, too, where, yeah, you're in a season of life where you not really dating to go somewhere. Dating is really just a system that you stay in. In fact, you don't even like the term dating. Cause you have situationships and you have companions and you have friends. And your philosophy is, I use them and then I lose them and on to the next one, and I'm gonna settle down one Day, but not today. Right now turn up. I'm living my life.

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I want to talk.

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I want to talk to you because I know you can't see it now, but later, when you realize that you are currently writing the story of your life and down the road, when you maybe want to settle down and you look back at the carnage and the damage and the heartbreak, watch this that you caused and the hurt that you brought to yourself, and you start feeling the weight and the shame and the pain of that. I'm praying that this message today would prick your heart and that you would live relationships the way that they were designed to be lived and understand that you are an image bearer of God. I want to talk to you today because if you desire healthy, whole God honoring relationships, hear me, that can lead to a God honoring marriage, lean in. Your boy has something for you today. To be completely honest, one of the reasons I felt so burdened to preach this message is because as a pastor, you get a unique vantage point. You really do get to see the beauty and the brokenness of human relationships. So much so that I wish I was like a DJ instead. Cause you know, at least the dj, the last image of your mind at the wedding is the couple dancing and having a good time. But when you sit as a pastor, you get to see when vows are exchanged and you get to see the pain of when those vows are violated. You get to see the heartache, the heartbreak, the tears. You get to see after the betrayal. And after a while, you start realizing how much pain could have been avoided if people had just slowed down long enough to discern while dating. I've watched people ignore warning signs because they were lonely. I've watched people ignore character because there was chemistry. I've watched people look past patterns because there was attraction. And then months, sometimes years later, they are living with heartbreak that they never thought they would experience. And hear me, as a pastor that can think of names and faith faces and stories, hear me today, that hurts. I also come before you today, not just as a pastor, but as a parent. A parent that realizes I am pastoring the generation that my children are going to be dating and marrying. So I come to you today to say, this is a big deal. This matters. The single most important decision you will ever make after deciding to follow Jesus is who. Who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. This is critical. This is a big deal. There's an old saying. I'm sure you've heard it. It says, you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. I disagree. I disagree. Because how many know when you are dating? How many know? You are choosing your family? You're choosing your potential family. You are choosing who will shape your children. You are choosing who your kids will will call mom or dad. You are choosing whose voice your children will hear every day. You are choosing whose values will fill your home. You are choosing whose habits, wounds and wisdom are going to collide with yours. You are choosing who you're going to build a life with. You are choosing who's going to hold your hand in a hospital. You're choosing who's going to sit with you in grief.

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You are choosing who's going to walk

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with you in disappointment.

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You're choosing who's gonna pray with you when you feel like your life is falling apart. You are choosing who's gonna celebrate with you when you're on the mountaintop. And who's gonna cry with you when you're in the valley. Hear me today, this is so much deeper than attraction. Ah. This is deeper than you just finding somebody that is cute. Now hear me today, I think you

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ought to have attraction. Hallelujah. Don't get it twisted. I am attracted to Taylor Madu.

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I look at that girl and I

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say, you are foolish.

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Fine to me still girl. Coming up on 14 years of marriage, I'm still attracted to this woman. She is fine to me. But how many know Fine will not help you when hell is coming against your home. Cute will not help you when the enemy is attacking you. How many know the devil is not afraid of abs. The devil ain't afraid of biceps. Demons don't tremble because you got a bbl. You cannot talk. Work away spiritual warfare. How many you know when hell is coming against your house? You need somebody that knows how to pray. You need somebody that knows how to call on the name of the lord and doesn't know how to just call on them when they're going through trouble, but has a relationship with God and says, that's for me and my house. We going to serve the Lord. Do you have somebody that can do that? Oh, I do.

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When you date, you are not just choosing a person, you are choosing a future. This is a big deal. It's a big deal. And because it's a big deal, hear me, social fam. We got to go to the word of God. So this is going to bless you today, okay? We're going to go straight to the word of God because right out the onset today, I want you to get your phones, get your Notes out. I want to put on the screen. I want you to see all the scriptures that we have on what it is to date biblically. Okay? I want you to get these scriptures down. I want you to memorize these scriptures. I'm gonna give you the scriptures on dating biblically. Can we put that on the screen? Scriptures on dating. Y' all ready? Make sure you get this down. Make sure you get a picture of it. Let's put them up. Here they are. Did you get it? That's all we got. There are no scriptures in your Bible. Let me just help you today. There are no scriptures on biblical dating.

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This is the challenge that I have

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in talking about dating in the church. The Bible, I don't care what somebody told you, does not address modern dating. As a matter of fact, dating as we know it, believe it or not, is a relatively new in human history. For most of history, relationships were built through family involvement, through community, discernment, and marriage arrangements. There ain't no biblical dating. You know what biblical dating looked like in your Bible? It looked like this. One family had a girl and another family had a boy. And the parents got together, and while they were playing in the sandbox, said, you know what? They gonna be together. You didn't even have a choice in it. And watch the philosophy behind it. They believed that marriage and coming together with somebody else was of such a high value, was such a critical decision that they could not leave that to your dumb, crazy self. That's just gonna catch some feelings they understand. No, we gotta do this in community because we know better than you. Cause you can catch feelings like you catch a cold.

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So before you jack something up, we're

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gonna decide for you. But obviously, our culture has changed today. In fact, the idea of casual dating for romance and compatibility really started emerging in the late 1800s and early 1900s. So, no, the Bible does not tell you how to swipe. It does not tell you how long to wait before texting them back. It does not tell you when to define the relationship. But hear me. While the Bible might not directly address dating, it. It does give us unbelievable wisdom on relationships. On discernment, on evaluation, on character, on purity, on marriage. The Bible might not give us verses on dating, but it does give us wisdom for discernment. Wisdom for discernment. If dating is ultimately about discernment, the question becomes, what? What should you be looking for? What should you, while you're dating, be looking for? Do you even know? What should you be looking for? Well, Pastor, I'll know it when I see it. How is that working for you? Tell the truth and shame the devil. Oh, Pastor, I'll know it when I feel it. When you feel it? How is that working for you? How do you know what you should be looking for? It's like this. Have you ever gone grocery shopping while you were hungry after your check hit? Have you ever.

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You ever been in Target without a Target without a list?

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And all of a sudden you come out of there because you shop without a list. And all of a sudden you got an Xbox, you got a dresser, you

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got a whole new wardrobe. You're like, did you know they made Snickers covered Funyuns? I didn't know they came out with that.

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Because you didn't have a target, you didn't have a list.

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And you get home, you're like, why in the world is all this in my cart?

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That's how some of yalls dating looks like.

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How in the world did I get this?

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Because you went dating while you're hungry. You didn't have. You didn't have a list.

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Wouldn't it be awesome?

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Wouldn't it be awesome if you could get a list? Come on. A foolproof list of what you should actually be looking for in the dating process. Wouldn't you love a list? Oh, I'm glad you came to church today. I'm gonna give you a list. I'm gonna give you a list today. And watch this. This list is hidden in first Timothy. It's hidden in Timothy. Now understand, before we go into this, let me give you the background before the breakdown. The book of Timothy, 1st Timothy and 2 Timothy, is not written to us about dating. It's not. Cause you will not find scriptures on dating. It's written by the apostle Paul to his spiritual son Timothy. Timothy is a pastor in Ephesus. He is a young man with huge responsibility. And watch this. Timothy is. Paul is writing to him and to give him instruction and wisdom and direction. Here's what I love. When you do the DNA sample of my boy Timothy, you'll find in the scripture, his father is not mentioned. His father's not mentioned. Most scholars believe that his father either did not adhere to his Jewish faith and his belief and was a Greek, or his father was just not in his life. That's why Paul says, I know there's a faith that was in you that first started in your grandmother Louis and your mother Eunice. So he doesn't have a father. Present is what people believe. But yet he found a spiritual father in the apostle Paul. Do you see the beauty of godly community and being in church. Do you see the power of what God can do if you just hook up with somebody that is further along than you, somebody that you actually see fruit of their life and you want to be like them? I'm telling you, this is the power of the church. Church. You ought to get around some couples because you're like, y' all got a marriage that looks like y' all still love each other.

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That's why I don't want to talk

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to a podcaster that's single and is trying to give me relationship advice.

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If it ain't working for you,

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how

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you gonna help me? Come on.

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If I look better than my trainer, I gotta get a new trainer.

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But look at what he's doing. He.

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He's gleaning to spiritual community. And I say that to give you

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hope for the church, connect to somebody.

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Because Timothy got connected to Paul and he filled in the gap. What I'm saying, PR. There's no excuse. So he writes to his spiritual son Timothy, and let's break down what he says. First Timothy, chapter 4, verse 12. Paul begins this way. Don't let anyone look down on you because you are what you are. What fam. I was this week old when I found out that at this time, Timothy is not a teenager. He is most likely in his late 30s or possibly his early 40s. And Paul said, don't let anybody look down on you because you are yuck.

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Sits win is late 30s and early 40s young. Holla at your boy. I'm still young. I'm still young. Since when is that young?

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Well, in that time period in that culture that was considered young. So notice what the apostle Paul is doing. He says, don't let anybody look down on you, because the culture at that time said that was young. I want you to live your life different.

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Don't let them shame you because you're

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young by their definition. Stay with me.

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I'm trying to help some of y'

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all who have been pressured into relationships because somebody started looking down on you,

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talking about, shouldn't you have a family by now? Shouldn't you be married by now? Away with this ideology that if you 29 and you ain't found the one yet, something is off, that if you 35 and you don't got a husband and three kids and a golden doodle, that you are somehow behind. Stop letting the culture put pressure on you. When God is still forming, you don't let people look down on you. I'm still Being formed.

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Some people frustrated in their marriage and

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that's why they want to talk about you.

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Shouldn't you have somebody by now? Shouldn't you be happy by now? Cut that. Cut that. Cut. But notice what he says. He says, don't let them look down on you because you are young. In other words, don't let the opinions and expectations and timelines of other people make you feel less than while God is still forming you. Oh, I want to shout somebody out. My sister. I don't call a sister in law. My sister in love just got married. Pastor Taylor's older sister, 42 years old, got married. And I had the privilege of just watching her in her season of singleness and stewarded, right, writing books, bought her own house, didn't settle. And I watched her at 42 years old walk down the aisle to an incredible man because she refused to settle. I didn't do this in the other service, but maybe some single person needs this declaration. You ought to say this. Waiting is not losing. Singleness is not punishment. Settling is not God's will. Yeah, waiting is not losing. Settling. Singleness is not punishment. Paul actually calls it a gift. Settling is not God's will. Paul goes on. He says, I don't want anybody to look down on you because you're young. But here's what I want you to do. I want you to set an example for the believers. Huh? Set an example. In other words, Timothy, don't focus on proving yourself. Focus on becoming someone worth following. This matters in dating because most of the time when we're dating, we're obsessed with this question. Here's the question. Are they the one? Are they the one? Ooh, she worshiped and she looked my way. Is she the one? Oh, is he the one? Ooh, girl, he wearing blue. He don't ever wear blue. And I'm wearing blue today. You don't think that's a sign? You know how you start doing? Are they the one? Are they the one? That's the question we ask, are they the one? And we ignore the deeper and more important question. Am I becoming someone healthy enough to be the one? Everybody has a list for who they want. Very few people have a plan for who they're becoming. So here's the question. Are you becoming the person you're looking for? For this is a principle of dating that you have to get in your mind. Are you actually becoming the person that you are looking for? I need somebody emotionally stable. Are you? I know one thing. He better have a job and it better be Six figures, at least. I'm telling you, I. I got. I got a lot of. I got high taste. He better have a job.

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Do you. Do you have a job?

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I need me a girl that's in church, Sir.

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Are you. I never forget this one day, this

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one guy, and I was talking to him, and he was just going on. He's like, yeah, man, I just been in some messed up relationship, man. Man, these girls in the club, man, they just. They ain't about nothing. And, man, I need me. I need me like a church girl, and I need to have this credit score. And he start going on this list, and the whole time he's making his list. I'm like, bro, that girl is not looking for you.

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She is not looking for you. The critical question you got to ask

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is, are you becoming the person that you're looking for? Everybody wants someone disciplined. Everybody wants somebody that can pray. Everybody wants somebody mature. Everybody wants somebody emotionally healthy. Everybody wants somebody financially stable. Everybody wants someone attractive. Okay. Are you becoming that? You know what I feel like today's message is doing? I feel like today's message is saving some dates. Oh, it's gonna save some dates today.

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In fact, that's my title.

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I waited for this moment to tell you.

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Save.

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Save the date. Look at your neighbor. Say, save the date. Save the date. Save the date. You know, I brought pictures because some of y' all offended.

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Here's. Here's.

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Here's our picture of our save the date. Me and PT that was our save the date. That was our save the date we sent out before we got married, looking like a J. Crew ad right there. Save the date. August 24, 2012. Save the date. Because if you are dating, please don't miss this. If you are dating, you need two instruments. You need two devices. Okay, I'm gonna help you. I'm gonna give you a visual to help some of y' all that are visual learners. Here's the first instrument you need. If you're. You need a mirror. This is the first device of dating. The mirror speaks to who am I becoming? Am I healthy? Am I whole? Have I dealt with my trauma? Who am I becoming? You need a mirror. It starts with you. Get you a mirror. If I had time. I tell you how my boy James said that the word of God is actually a mirror. It'll help you see you. You need a mirror. If you're dating. Get you a mirror and start with you. Am I becoming who I'm looking for? But you need another device. Cause you're dating. And this is what you need. I've never used this in a sermon before, but I love it and somebody had it. You need one of these. You know what this is? This is a jeweler's loop. They look at it when they're inspecting diamonds. Jewelers carefully and slowly investigate so that they can attribute the right value on every date. Bring you. Bring you a louvre. Because a loop. Sorry. Because you need to investigate value. So while you're having coffee, just investigate. Investigate. What you looking for? Inconsistencies, cracks and flaws.

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You need one of these.

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Now let's be clear. Let's be clear. Sometimes you don't even need one of these because it's clear without, oh God help me today. This is for careful investigation because some things sparkle and you really need to look close and say, oh wait a minute, that ain't real. That's a lab grown diamond. That's

[B]

but something you don't even need this for. Like for instance, you don't need. You don't need the jeweler's loop for a ring pop. You can tell this is a ring pop. You should be able to tell when

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somebody is just trying to play games. This is for kids.

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You can tell I don't need the loop for this.

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It is obvious you just want to play and discard when done. So I don't need it for that. But I do need it because some things, especially in these dating streets, with what some of these doctors are doing. With these profiles that project this curated fake image, you better slow down and carefully investigate and watch. So watch. Watch this. Y' all making me go longer than I'm supposed to. Watch this. So. So Paul, he gives Timothy. I love this. Five categories. Not of chemistry, but of character. Five categories of what to check first in you and then what to check in the person that you're dating. He says, set an example for the believers here. It is in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. In speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. Those are the five categories that you should be inspecting. Let's look at each one quickly. Let's start with speech. What am I looking for on the day? Speech number one. Watch their words. All while you at Cheesecake Factory. You ought to be watching when you're dating. Their words. Why? Because words reveal heart. Words reveal heart. Why am I always saying get in the word of God? Because if you want to know God's heart, look at his word. Look at what Jesus said in Luke 6, verse 45. A good man out of the Treasure of his heart brings forth good. And an evil man out of the evil. Treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. You cannot disconnect your mouth from your heart. So in the dating stage, what is your job to do? Listen. Watch those words. I love it. I think it's not by accident we use this phrase in the dating scene. Oh, you know, so and so. They're talking. That's what you should be doing, talking. And while they're talking, you should be listening. Because relationships begin with conversation. Now, let me help some of y' all to stop being weird, especially church people in the early stages. Keep it light, some of y', all, in the name of, like, spirituality. On the first date, what's your plan for five years and how many kids you want to have? That's not first date conversation. Keep it light. But as you're having conversation, what are you doing? I'm watching your words. I'm getting to know you. Keep the conversation going. Words reveal heart. Listen to how they talk about people. Listen to how they talk when they're angry. Listen to how they talk when they don't get their way. Listen to how they talk about authority. Listen to how they talk about their family, their ex sis, their church, their friends. Do they talk about Jesus and his house?

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You do know this is so simple. People naturally talk about what they love. If it's two dates and he ain't said nothing about church, nothing about his relationship with God, he is letting you know his value. If she ain't said nothing about her relationship with God, as you're talking, she

[A]

is letting you know what her values are. Do they gossip? Are they constantly harsh, cynical and dishonoring? Are they negative, manipulative? Watch their words. Where my fellas at? Oh, I lost. I lost some of y'. All. It was a whole. It was louder early in the message. It's all right, fellas. Can I just say this? This is my opinion. Take it if you want. Do you? But talking and hearing, so many ladies who get confused at the mixed signals, I think the onus and responsibility is on you to lead with clarity and just say it, bro. Just say it. Are you trying to chill? Are you trying to hang? Don't direct message you up. This is not conversation. I would like to take you on a coffee date

[B]

and give yourself an out.

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But if you're busy, no problem. Don't let it just reject you like that. Just put that in there.

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If you're busy, it's cool.

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But I'D like to take you on a coffee day. That. That's clarity. That's clarity. That's leadership. You go on the date, you're not feeling it, man. We should do this again. Sometimes, if you don't mean that,

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don't say that.

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I'll call you. I'm trying to be as practical as I can be today. Watch. Watch their words. One of the things I love about my bride is her words. She's the greatest encourager. I call her my CEO, my chief encouragement officer. Because the weight of this thing. I'm so glad that I have a spouse that builds me up with her words. Can you imagine what kind of pastor I would be without it? Can you imagine if I was like, man, that sermon was horrible. I feel like I'm a terrible leader. Yeah, you are. And the sermon was bad. It was too long. It was too long. Can you imagine?

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I would come preach to you.

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Thank God I have somebody that builds me up. Married people. I wonder who your spouse would be if you would change your words. Wonder what kind of confidence your wife would have, sir, if you changed your words. Wonder what kind of man you would have if you would change your words. No man responds to you, reminding him of his Clark Kentness. We know we Clark Kent, but mess around and say you Superman. I bet he found a phone booth and start changing. Got you, girl. Watch. Watch your words. I wish we could stop at words. Wouldn't that be enough? But Paul knew it wasn't enough because he says conduct. In other words, watch their pattern patterns. Watch their patterns. Their conduct. The apostle Paul, in his wisdom, knew that some people can get fooled by words. So don't just watch words. Watch patterns. Watch how they live. Because some people are smooth talkers. Some people know how to talk church lingo. I love that everybody's talking about their mental health. It's mental health awareness month. I love it. I think one of the problems that we've added to everybody's awareness of mental health is everybody's throwing around these clinical terms and just using the words. My ex was a narcissist. Was it spell narcissist? But we throw. Throw these words out. But conduct matters. Not just words. You throw out. One of the biggest mistakes people make at dating is they fall in love with potential while ignoring patterns. Well, I know they lie now, but they gonna change. I know they're inconsistent now, but they're going through a rough season. They're gonna change. I know she's manipulative now, but she's going to change. Don't date potential while ignoring patterns because patterns tell the truth. Past behavior is often the clearest indicator of future behavior. Did you hear what I just said? Past behavior is often the clearest indicator of future behavior. I say often because the reality is God can change people. Oh, my goodness. Thank God for his grace that can change people. However, transformation is proven through new patterns, not just emotional promises. The apostle Paul says in Romans 12, verse 2, don't conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is. His good, pleasing, and perfect will. Even the apostle Paul is acknowledging the power of patterns, that you can only be transformed by the renewing of your mind. But this world has patterns, and patterns shape lives. So watch. Look at your neighbor say watch. Watch their consistency. Watch their discipline. Watch how they steward money. I had a pastoral mentor of mine who's got a great marriage. And he said in the dating season, he called the church his bride to be went to and asked, does she consistently tithe and give?

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I said, you called the church and asked that? He said, absolutely. If she'll rob God, she'll rob me. I want to know.

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I said, hey, that's a good phone call. I started calling. My wife's a giver. She's a giver. She's a giver. I'm a giver, too. Watch do they keep their word? Watch how they treat responsibility. Watch if they apologize. Watch if they take ownership. What are you saying? I'm saying you got to watch this in the dating season because marriage is not magic. We think it is because the wedding is magical. We think it's magic and something change because you put on the tux. Not. Marriage magnifies people. Some of us are walking down the aisle thinking, oh, I'll change them. Especially ladies. I love y', all, but, man, we think she'll never change. Ladies are like, I'll change him. Number three, love. Watch how they treat people. He says, set an example with your love. The apostle Paul is strategic here in what he uses in the word love. That is the Greek word agape, not eros, not erotic. This is not shallow love. This is not infatuation. This is not chemistry or butterflies. Agape, hear me. It's sacrificial love. It's mature love. It's selfless love. Hear me Biblical love is not just emotion. It's behavior. What are you looking for? Do they have a love that serves? How can I serve and not just how they'll serve you. Watch how they treat people that can do nothing for them. How do they serve? Do they have a how serve? Or is everything. How does this serve me? Watch. Watch. Look at your neighbor. Say watch. Watch. Tell them, watch. Watch how they treat people. In 1 Corinthians 13, when Paul begins to list about love, not one of them is a feeling. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy, it does not boast. Real love is about service. Real love considers other people. Number four, faith Worship team, join me. Watch how they trust God. Not do they say they're a Christian. Anybody can say that. Not do they have Bible verses in their bio, which, while we're on topic,

[B]

y', all,

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these Bible verses in the bio with the thirst trap pictures, it's just like male and female. We gotta. We gotta pick one. We gotta pick one. Gotta pick one. What is the direction of their life moving in? Some of you are dating somebody that you know is not a believer and you think they're going to change. You think you're going to change them. I'm telling you, y' all are going in opposite directions. It will not work. I've watched it happen over and over and over again. Do they trust God? And watch this trust is often proven in the tension of life. Watch. When they're going through something, when they're going through suffering, what do they do? Do they run to God? Where are they headed? You can't build a future with somebody that's moving in a completely different spiritual direction than you. That's what Paul says to the church in Corinth. In Second Corinthians, chapter six, he says, do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? A yoke was a wooden beam they would put on two animals.

[B]

Watch this.

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That were headed the same direction. Do they value what you value? Do they love Jesus and his church? Is that where they're heading?

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I'll take it deeper. Even with life purpose, are y' all

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going to be a fit for life mission together?

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This is something to consider and discern in the dating process.

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I've told you many times before, I knew I was called to do this at 16 years old. God gave me the grace of knowing this was my thing. So in the dating season, I'm looking knowing, is this person gonna want to give their life to building the house of God and serving the church? In fact, I want to show you a picture because I got receipts. Look at this picture. See that picture? That's me preaching at my old church that I was at from 3 years old to the point that they launched us out to plant Social Dallas. That's your boy preaching at youth camp. No, not a youth camp. At a youth service at our church. Now I'm zooming in on purpose, not so you can see my Express shirt and my fake Gucci belt. Because the season of life I was in,

[B]

this was a real service.

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Preaching to young people. Wasn't getting no check for it called to it.

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And I remember this service in particular

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because I had just gone through a breakup with somebody who was on the stage who's singing Worship while I'm preaching. Let's see if we can zoom out and see who she is. That's Pastor Taylor with her. Clarissa Experience explains it all. Hat on right there. That's y'.

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All. That was a breakup. But watch this. Same purpose, same mission. You know why that says, pour out your spirit on our sons and daughters? Because that's what our church kept saying over the next generation. That God would pour out his spirit on the next generation. And there we are just volunteering, even in a breakup. But we were still on mission. We still knew this is what we're going to do for the rest of our life. And who knew then that when we were doing volunteering that God was birthing something and we'd end up getting married and a church was going to be planted in Dallas called Social Dallas. I'm so glad we got connected on the same mission. I didn't know this was on the other side of it. Are y' all on mission

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or are you unequally yoked? Hear me today. Watch. Watch how they trust God. Lastly, purity. He says, set an example in purity. In other words, here it is. Watch their boundaries. When Paul uses the word purity here, he's not talking about just sexuality and sex, although that's a part of it. He's talking about integrity, moral cleanness, being uncontaminated. In other words, purity is not just about sex. It is about stewardship of your life. Ask yourself, this is what you got to watch. What are they allowing into their life? What are they consuming? What are they normalizing? What boundaries do they have? What do they consider entertainment? I wish I would be in the dating season and some girl would say,

[B]

yeah, I want to go hear an

[A]

artist sing and do sexual things on the stage and have cherries and stuff.

[B]

Will you buy me tickets?

[A]

I wish.

[B]

What is that what she's drawn to?

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People will let you know Their boundaries in dating. Watch what they normalize. Because eventually what you normalize becomes what you tolerate. And what you tolerate eventually shapes your life. And yes, purity includes sexuality.

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Come on.

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People who aren't even Christians are saying this.

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Sex is not just physical.

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It is spiritual.

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It is a covenant. It is sacred. Culture treats it casually. But God says, no, this is holy. I created it. I'm not trying to limit your fund. I created the context that it should be in, and that is in marriage and covenant. And hear me, if somebody is willing to consistently step outside of God's boundaries in order to fulfill their desires, they are telling you something. They are revealing and dating how they view obedience. They're revealing and dating how they view review, covenant. They're revealing how they handle boundaries. Because if they're willing to ignore God's boundaries to satisfy themselves while dating, why would you assume that marriage is going to change that? They're letting you know right now. I don't respect the context of marriage. I'll go outside of it to fulfill my sexual desire. This is why I'm always confused. The people that get hooked up in an affair and you think it's going to work. An affair was the basis of your relationship.

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You have to have boundaries. Boundaries matter because physical intimacy affects discernment. Some of us have gone so far that now we're connected. So physically I can't even. I can't discern. I can't discern if this is healthy or not. Because we've already crossed boundaries. And I tell myself a story. Well, it's good when it's good.

[B]

What?

[A]

Or maybe if we get married, it'll fix it. It will not fix it. Maybe if we move in together, dad

[B]

will not fix it.

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We keep trying to go outside the boundaries God has created and we think we're going to flourish. Paul says in First Corinthians, chapter 6, verse 18, flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside of the body. Look at what Paul is saying. This one is different. This one is different than anything else. Why? Because God is not going to change how you are wired. This one is different. But whoever sins sexually sins against their own body.

[B]

Do you not know that your bodies

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are temples of the Holy Spirit who

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is in you, who you have received from God. You are not your own. You are bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies. God says, your body is not yours. Flee. Robert Madu Translation Run from sexual immorality. Flee. Run. Is it interesting that James says, resist the devil. Resist the devil.

[A]

And he will what?

[B]

Flee. But he says, yo, when it comes to this thing called sexual immorality, this ain't something you try to pray through. Oh, Lord, we together on the couch.

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Just pray.

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That doesn't. No, no, no, no, no. He says, you got to run. You got to flee because I designed you to do it. You got to run. God knows the power of sexual temptation. That's what made Joseph. When Potiphar's wife kept coming at him, what did he do? He didn't say. Well, let me just speak in tongues. No, he ran. You gotta flee from it. Let me tell you what fleeing looks like. Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is leave the room, block the number, delete the app, cancel the subscription, unfollow the account, stop replying to the dm, stop hanging out alone at midnight. Stop putting yourself in situations you already know will weaken your convictions. Change gyms, switch jobs, take a different route home. Get accountability. Hand somebody your passwords. Put the phone in another room. Sleep with the door open, move out. Create the boundary. I'm not judging you. I'm telling you that God created. Created this to function in a certain context. You got to flee. How many walk of shames do you want?

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How many times you going to keep convincing yourself that. Yeah, Noah, it was just casual. It didn't. It didn't mean anything. But your soul is telling you something different. This is from a God who says, I love you so much that I created you to flourish in a certain context. And I want you to honor. Honor the boundary. I love something Pastor Craig Groeschel says. He says, why would I resist the temptation in the future that I have the power to eliminate today? Did you hear what I just said? Why would I resist a temptation in the future that I got the power to eliminate today? That's why I don't travel alone. That's why I have my location on everywhere I go. That's why we have each other's passwords and access. Why? Because we're going to fall out of love and do something? No, because. Watch this. Purity is not just about what you don't do. It's about what you protect. And our covenant is worth protecting. This is not a message of condemnation. This is a message of clarity and wisdom. And maybe you say, hey, Pio, I have. I've crossed the. The boundary and I've. I've messed up. Please don't let the enemy make you think that it is too late. That's the other thing. I've watched God redeem stories after story, after story, after I'm a living, breathing testimony. The apostle Paul gives us five categories. Not of chemistry, of character, Speech. Watch their words, conduct. Watch their patterns. Love. Watch how they treat people. Faith. Watch how they trust God. Purity. Watch their boundaries on the date. That's what you're looking for. That's what you're looking for. But it doesn't start with this. It starts with this. That's why this is for everybody, because watch this. I gotta watch my words. I've gotta watch my patterns. I've gotta watch how I treat people. I've gotta watch how I trust God and I've gotta watch my boundaries. What would it look like? What kind of community would we have if we did that right there?

[B]

Oh, I'm telling you, I'm believing for a revival to happen in relationships after this series. I'm believing some of y' all are gonna cut off toxic relationships that you don't need to be in. I'm believing that some people that have been living together are gonna do it right and all of a sudden come under covenant and get married and watch the blessing and the favor of God. I can't wait for your children to look up and say, oh, I know what to look for, cuz my mama and my daddy did it right. Oh, they didn't start off right, but one day they made a decision to say, God, I'm yours. I'm going to change. There is still hope. I'm believing this will be a community,

[A]

relationships flourish. Because we're saying, God, I'm starting with the character, not just the chemistry. Would you stand to your feet all over this place today? Please honor this moment. I'm going to ask every head be bowed and eyes be closed, please. I hope you hear the heart of a pastor today that's not trying to shame you. But y', all, something has got to change. Our culture is dying because of the broken relationships. And I wish I could say it was just the world. No, it's right here in the church, heads bowed, eyes closed. I saw a statistic as I was studying for this message. They said for the first time, teen pregnancy is on a decline. And they started celebrating it and said, oh, this is amazing. It's never been this low. But they realized that the stats were deceiving because the reason teen pregnancy is lower is because so many young people are being introduced to pornography at such a young age. They're not having premarital sex, they're just looking at screens. As young as seven, eight years old, y' all. Society is not giving us a picture of what flourishing relationships should look like. We have an opportunity as the church, to say, this is how God created it to function. And hear me, it doesn't start with trying harder. It starts with surrender, starts with being honest about where you are. Heads are bowed, eyes are closed. If you're in here today and you say, I'm starting with me. I'm starting with the mirror, not with the loop. But I know there is one of those areas that God was speaking to you. Maybe it's your words, how you talk to people, maybe it's your faith. You. You say you're a believer, but your conduct is so contradictory. Maybe it's your purity. Just what you've allowed yourself to take in what you do in the name of entertainment. And you don't realize it's shaping you. It's not my job to be the Holy Spirit for you. I believe God speaking to people. But as you're here today, you say, hey pr I know what that thing is. And today, surrendering with the help of the Holy Spirit, today I'm gonna make a change, starting with me before I start looking at it in other people. If that's you and you know what that thing is, would you just lift up your hand as a sign to the Lord to say, lord, I hear you. I hear you talking to me about this area. Thank you God. Thank you God. I appreciate you lifting your hand. Powerful. But for some of you, the hard work is going to be after this service. Some things you're gonna have to delete, some transparency you're gonna have to have with somebody you can trust. Some. Some patterns you're gonna have to address and change and do the work. PT Said it earlier, she gave the Lord a year in dating somebody of you. Your patterns have gotten so off. You don't need to date anybody right now. Cuz there's still formation that needs to happen before you wreck somebody else life. Anybody else? Heads to bowed out, still close. If you're here today and you've never taken that first step, would you say, jesus, my life is yours. That's where it starts. I'd love to give you that opportunity today to say, today I'm giving Jesus my life. Would you lift up your hand high enough and long enough to where I can see it? Thank you Jesus. Thank you Lord. Hands are going up all over this place today. Thank you God. Anybody else? Anybody else? Thank you God. Thank you Lord. That's where it starts, a relationship with him, the one. Watch this. Who loved you and didn't wait for you to get yourself together. But while we were sinners, Christ died for us. In anybody else saying, today's the day. I need a new nature. I can't fix myself. I gotta give him my life. Just lift it up. Thank you, God. Thank you, God. Hear my heart today. This is not to embarrass you. I just think there's something powerful about leaving where you are and coming to a new place. We often do this. Why? Because I think it's a picture of you saying, the old me, the old ways, the old patterns, that's staying in my seat. But the new me is ready to step into what God has for me and allow the Holy Spirit to do a work in me. So hear me. If you lifted up your hand or you should have lift up your hand that second time, saying, I need to give Jesus my life, or maybe there's just something inside of you that says, I need to respond today. I know God is asking me to change the way I've been functioning. If that's you, when I count to three, I just want you to come as close to this altar. Come right up here when you can. 1. Come on. Don't worry about what anybody else is going to think. 2. I don't care how far you got to walk. I promise every step is worth it. 3. Would you come? Would you come? Come on. Come on. Thank you, Jesus. I'm changing today. I can't.

[B]

I can't keep functioning like this.

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Come on. Thank you, Jesus. Anybody else?

[B]

Come. Come on. Come on. I promise it's worth the walk. I promise it's worth the walk. There is, therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. If anybody be in Christ, the old is gone. Behold, all things. All things. All things are made brand new. All things. I promise it's not too late. It's not too late. Late. We serve a God that can redeem. We serve a God that can restore. Thank you, God.

[A]

Come on.

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Come on. Come on. Come on.

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Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, God. Thank you, guys. Thank you, Jesus.

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I promise it's worth it. I promise it's worth it.

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Thank you, God.

[B]

Thank you, God.

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Thank you, God. Thank you, God. Thank you, Jesus. Anybody else? Anybody else, please, if you could just honor this moment we're about to dismiss. Thank you, God. Thank you, God. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, God. Thank you, God. Does it matter? Absolutely. It matters because my body doesn't belong to me. And there's something about your body coming to the front and saying, God, I'm Giving you me. I'm giving you all of me. Thank you, God.

[B]

Hear me.

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There is no story our God cannot redeem. There is no person that's too far gone. Thank you, Jesus. I've watched him do it. I watched him do it in my life. He can do it in you. It doesn't start with trying harder. It starts with surrender. Anybody else? Yeah. Come on, come on.

[B]

Come on.

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Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, God. Thank you, God. As people are still coming, can we just lift up our hands today as a sign of surrender? I love this because as I lift up my hands, I'm saying, God, I am yours, all that I am. I present my body as a living sacrifice. Yeah. Thank you, God. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Lord. I'm gonna lead you in this prayer, but I want you to say it from your heart today. Can we all declare it with those who have responded? Just say, Jesus, my hands are lifted because I'm holding nothing back. I'm giving you all of me. I give you my heart. I give you my mind. I give you my soul. Lord, you thank. Thank you for loving me so much that you paid the price for my sin. You were shamed so I don't have to live in shame. You were beaten so I don't have to be abused. Thank you for taking my place. So today I'm giving you everything. Forgive me of my sin. Make me brand new. I want to do relationships the way you designed them. Because I am yours. Bought with a price, fully loved and fully known in Jesus name. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen.