Meg Applegate (4:31)

My name is Meg Applegate. I'm the founder and CEO of unsilenced, which is a non profit organization that aims to stop institutional child abuse, especially within the troubled teen industry. The reason why I care so much about tackling this industry is really because When I was 15, I was abducted in the middle of the night by two strangers that told me that we can do this the easy way or the hard way. They forced me into the back of an suv, drove off and I subsequently spent the next three and a half years in two different facilities in Idaho and Montana. I was diagnosed with ADHD probably at age 4. My mom, back in the early 90s, she was fighting to figure out answers for me and to find me the best kind of care. She was with one of the world renowned ADHD experts back then and was able to get a diagnosis. And once I was on medication for adhd, it helped a lot. But the doctors never thought that they were able to target everything. I saw a neuropsychiatrist, I've had SPECT scans done. My mom went to like the best of the best and they always acknowledged that there's something else going on that isn't being addressed, but they couldn't figure it out. And back then autism was highly stigmatized. It was portrayed to the public that autism looks like those with higher support needs. And that's the only presentation that you can have with autism. And so if you're a high masking female especially, it was extremely ignored. I was not diagnosed with autism until two years ago.

Meg Applegate (6:07)

Do you know what led to your parents sending you to Intermountain Children's Hospital, how they heard about it.

Meg Applegate (6:14)

It's a pretty common bucket of parents to fall into this category. Our kid is going through all these changes. They're showing behavioral changes and changes in mood and who they hang out with and pushing back against authority. It's scary to have a teen going through that. And they fell into the trap that many parents do, which is hiring a educational consultant. Educational consultants. They sound great by name, but really what they ARE is one of the biggest pipelines of children into this industry. And they claim to be experts in alternative placements for youth. But what that means is many times they get kickbacks from these facilities that they send kids to. And the more kids you send, the more kickbacks. These parents spend 10, $15,000 on an educational consultant and feel like they're going to get answers. And that's the most sad thing about this, is that parents think they're getting help and in reality, they're actually on a fast track to putting their kids in harmful situations. So that's what happened with me. My parents hired a educational consultant. I believe I met with her once. I had absolutely no idea that I would be going to any place at all, let alone being kidnapped. That's kind of the point is to catch the kid off guard so that they can't plan to run away beforehand. I knew that they weren't happy with a lot of my behaviors and how I was doing in school and things like that, but I had zero understanding of what was really to come.

Meg Applegate (7:43)

Something I appreciate so much about your memoir, becoming Unsilenced is how well you tragically articulate the impact of the transport services that parents sometimes use. Could you talk a little bit about the impact it had on you, the experience?

Meg Applegate (7:58)

It was extremely traumatic, More so as time went on versus in the moment. It was just scary. Ever since then. I always wake up with a racing heartbeat. I feel like something bad is going to happen. And that's for the past 20 years. My parents, I believe, were told that they were like off duty police officers, but I don't think they actually identified themselves to me. They weren't friendly or like, hey, this is what's going to happen. It felt like I was in a dangerous situation and where are my mom and dad? They're supposed to help me. Once I saw my parents standing there and watching, that's when I just didn't understand. And it was this huge betrayal feeling. My mom was there saying, we're not abandoning you. And I remember thinking, yeah, you are. There was that emotional aspect there of something harmful happening, but then there was the really scary aspect of where am I going? Like, who are these people? The first place that I went to, Intermountain Hospital in Boise, Idaho, right after arriving, I knew that I didn't belong there. And it was because I was seeing all these things I've never seen before, like extreme mood dysregulation and kids being thrown into quiet rooms that were padded and strapped to beds and seeing kids with eating disorders, kids screaming at the top of their lungs and getting restrained. I had never even imagined this stuff in my life. It was like watching a movie. I immediately pushed back because I did that when I first got there. They thought I was all about control. And that's the one thing I remember them preaching is you don't have control. And so all of their treatment plan, if you will, for me, was to break me down so that I realized I have no control over my life. That's interesting because it was a lot like what autistics feel in the normal world going about our everyday life, only it was like 50 times worse. So it's a perfect microcosm of ableism, breaking you down and causing trauma. They really focused on making sure you know that you're not okay the way that you are. And if you want to function in this world, really, if you want anyone to like you or be accepted, you need to let go of control.

Meg Applegate (10:19)

What are some of the ways that control was asserted over you?

Meg Applegate (10:24)

One of the biggest ones that was really traumatic was it was like a two part program that they put me on called desk space and random draw. I'd get up for the morning and I'd have to start sitting at the desk writing two page papers on every one of the 36 thinking errors. We had something called programming. And programming is where the kids go to art and then they go to the cafeteria and then they go to therapy and they move around as a group. And so if I wanted to be able to program, I had to pick from this like biohazard bag that had 10 pieces of paper in it. And there were nine no's and one yes. And every time the other kids would program, I'd reach in and pick out one piece of paper. If it had yes, I could go, and if it was no, I had to stay and continue writing on desk space. That reinforcement schedule caused me to sit at a desk a lot. That was basically trying to teach me that I have no control and I need to just give it up and stop expecting things to happen. I was on it for like a month and a half. So it was a long time. It was pretty traumatic. My memory is really bad from the time I arrived because I was on so much medication. But I do know I never got to speak to my parents without a therapist in the room. And I don't think it happened very often. I believe letters were allowed. I did get to see them. They came to see me as much as they said that they were allowed. And I think There were two visits in six months. I don't remember my therapist's name because that's how like, insignificant it was to my time there. I don't even remember if it was a female or male, to be honest. I think they did have a very high load of cases per therapist, as most of these places do. I think if I was lucky, I saw them once a week for 30 minutes or something. But I don't remember any therapy that I got at all except for the session where I was told that I was going to be going to Chrysalis. I remember I was in a family call during this time with my therapist and they just said, you know, you're not going to come home. You're going to go to this place called Chrysalis. And there's a mom and a dad. It's like a family. And they have horses and tried to like entice me. It was about a month before I thought I was going to go home. I remember being really upset, but I had given up so much control at this point, like my life isn't my own, other people decide it. So I reached a place of learned helplessness. I was upset, but also I knew I couldn't be upset. What they did to get me to kind of flip and be excited about it is my level would go up and down. So I'd lose privileges and gain privileges. Lose privileges, gain privileges. If you don't have your level 2 or 1 when you leave, you're not going to be able to go to Chrysalis. And so they started framing it in a different way, making me have a goal of going to Chrysalis because it was used as a tool. I guess I kind of got excited about it, but that melted away as soon as I got there.

Meg Applegate (13:28)

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Meg Applegate (15:33)

Yeah. I mean, I give this example in my book of what I envision a trauma bond to be because it's hard to understand. I like to think about it as you get bitten by a snake and it's extremely poisonous, and instead of going to the doctor and getting anti venom immediately so that you can save yourself, you turn around and you try to convince the snake that it never should have bit you. You're a good person and they need to treat you better. That's the effect of trauma bond, and that's what Chrysalis did to us. They break you down to a point where you need them, but they're abusing you, so you're needing the abuse. And what that creates is this vicious cycle. Their form of group therapy, which is called circle, was extremely abusive, in my opinion, which is basically where you sit in a circle and one person will be in the hotspot and they'll hear everything that they did wrong that week, and everyone's holding you accountable. So you'll sit there and you'll hear for hours sometimes everything that you've done wrong and you'll just break down inside and you can't do anything. You can't respond, really, because you'll be called defensive. You can't roll your eyes. That's defensive. You just have to sit there and take it. And what that does to your morale and your psyche is Absolutely crazy. So that's one of the ways that they make sure that you don't have too much confidence. There were girls that had a lot of confidence and they got more circles about them. That was me. I had many, many, many circles about me. You'd sit there and the people who say that they love you are hurting you, and in order to get better, you go to them, and then it rebuilds itself. So it's the cyclical love bombing. Then it shifts into abuse, and then there's the feeling of everything's going to be okay. And then it just kind of goes round and round and round. So it's very complicated. I'm also a survivor of domestic violence. And it's also hard to describe that the survivors of DV out there will understand that when people say, like, why didn't you leave? It's hard because of that trauma bond.

Meg Applegate (17:42)

It sounds like Chrysalis had this cult like abuse and deliberate control. Can you talk about how listeners might relate to the abuse that you experienced to cultic abuse that they may have heard of in the past?

Meg Applegate (17:58)

When you talk about cult, one of the first things you have to do is be able to break down their internal structures that they have to be able to acquiesce to the group, think to the good of the group, the morality of the leader. One of the ways that they do that is through circle. Another really common tactic is using forced labor, making sure that as a consequence for things, you work your butt off. Whether that's hauling wheelbarrows full of gravel just from one side of the parking lot all the way over to the other for no reason, or washing logs, or mowing all the lawn or cutting wood. You name it, we were put to work constantly. We cooked all the meals, we did all the chores, we washed all the cars, we mowed the lawn, we did the baling of the hay, we fed the animals, we cleaned the entire house. We did everything that was one of their values, is work hard. But it also took time away from our school and things like that. If you were to compare and contrast the prison industrial complex to the tti, they have more rights than we did. I'm pretty sure that if you're in prison, you have a right to use the phone and contact people or yard time. Many times it's mandated that you have to have certain outside time. Many of these programs don't have that. There were many times that my nutritional needs weren't met. And a lot of that had to do with the fact that I was extremely Picky eater. And I was forced to eat food that I textually hated. I can't help that a lot of the nutrition was not up to par. There were quite a few kids with, like, eating disorders that came into Chrysalis. Let's say you were struggling with anorexia. They would force you to have seconds, which is super traumatic.

Meg Applegate (19:50)

It's alarming how much attack therapy and forced labor is mentioned by survivors that we've spoken with and the horrific impact it has on them. It makes me wonder who was running these programs. Can you talk about the owners of Chrysalis? Kenny and Mary?

Meg Applegate (20:08)

Mary and Kenny were my therapists, and they told us they loved us all the time and did stuff that therapists should never do. We thought about them as, like, mom and dad, and we called each other Chrysalis family. So your whole world becomes these people, and you want to please them so bad. You want them to just be happy. That's your biggest calling while you're there is to make them proud and be Kenny's favorite. And everyone wants to be Kenny's favorite girl and get the attention of Kenny. It was very toxic to be around that. Kenny was very outwardly confident, big presence in the room. Mary was a very strong woman. She's more quiet, but there's a lot going on in the brain. She wasn't as extremely direct. I have very complicated feelings about Mary. She was my number one therapist, so she was the one that did the most amount of work with me. On one hand, she was supportive in the times when I was really broken down, but I was also broken down from the stuff, mostly from her husband doing it to me or enabling peers to do it to me. I was telling her about abuse I was experiencing from Kenny. I would say, like, Kenny called me a pig, and she wouldn't address it. A lot of the relationship dynamics between me and her were inappropriate. We had to write in a journal every single day. And so she would read my journal, everyone's, for that matter, and would respond to your thoughts in your journal. Some kind of joke I made was, like, in bad taste, and it hurt her feelings. And I remember apologizing in my journal, and she responded, I don't feel like you see me. And I read back that, and I'm like, it's not my job to see you. I should not be apologizing to my therapist and having you make me feel more shameful. That's ridiculous. A lot of stuff that you would expect in an actual family, but you're not a family. So it should not be happening in a therapeutic relationship. So that line was definitely crossed. I just remember very toxic dynamics. Kenny used to wrestle us. It was so weird. Like, we used to have wrestling competitions, and he would just watch. I didn't even look at that back then and think, hmm, red flag. And then all of a sudden, we couldn't wrestle anymore. I think one of the girls asked Kenny about it, like, why can't we wrestle anymore? And I believe his response was so and so had to go and ruin fun or something like that. And I remember he was very angry about the topic. There is not a compliant bone in my body. I have always been very authentic, and I think that that can come off as they said that I was prickly and abrasive because I'm direct and I say what I feel, and I show my emotions on my sleeve. That was an issue especially for Kenny. He did not like that. It was very hard for me to move up the levels. People would come after me, and they'd get their level two way before I did. And it's because I just had a hard time learning how to mask. I wasn't changing. I think it took, like six or nine months to be able to get level two. I had to build a personality that they would approve of. It took a while to figure out which move I had to make that wouldn't get consequences. What face do I make during confrontations, and how do I confront people so I'm not too abrasive. I just had to learn how to act. I wasn't being myself. They allowed us to have these video cameras back when the handheld video cameras were big. And I have videos of myself, and I'm acting away. I'm like, that's not me. It's strange to look at. I mean, they told me this all the time. Who I was was not okay. And I would never be loved or accepted in society unless I changed. When you hear that when you're 16 years old, 15 years old, it's scary. And you also are being told that your parents think that too, because they put you here. It's amazing what that can influence.

Meg Applegate (24:17)

Do you know if your parents medical insurance covered any of this?

Meg Applegate (24:20)

I've actually never asked them back then. I'm not sure if it was covered or not. Before the 2008 financial crisis, a lot of these were private pay. And then it kind of moved to finding new structures, like through school districts more often and through insurance companies.

Meg Applegate (24:38)

What did communication with your parents look like while you were at Chrysalis?

Meg Applegate (24:42)

Once I got to level three. I could talk to them without the therapist. They're being told I'm doing great, I'm progressing. They didn't get told any of the stuff that was actually, like, happening unless it was about forward movement in my, quote, treatment plan. So they never knew that I was not being taken to the doctor when I needed to go to the doctor. It was encouraged to be strong and not be affected by things. So, like, if I got hurt, I would pretend I wasn't. I viewed that as a strength. All the girls experienced it, so it wasn't something that was just me. Otherwise I would have seen it as not fair. My parents only found out about it once I woke up when I was like 33, 34.

Meg Applegate (25:27)

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Meg Applegate (26:45)

Basically, I have to actively not be brainwashed even today. Mary and Kenny were invited to my wedding. I viewed them as a second mom and dad. And thank God Chrysalis came into my life or otherwise I wouldn't have been successful. And that's how it's phrased. Your parents and everyone view Chrysalis as the place that helped them, but they don't know what your life would have looked like if Chrysalis hadn't have happened. So it's then put on a pedestal as the reason for your success if you succeed. The fact that I left Chrysalis, I graduated honors in college and then get into nonprofit work. An entrepreneur, owned a franchise. I'm doing all this stuff thanks to Chrysalis. No One would have known if I would have been capable of that had I not gone to Chrysalis, and I would have. But it's credited for all of your success and there's nothing you can do about it. That's a lot of the reasons why a lot of survivors, parents, have a hard time seeing it as trauma. The wake up period came in like multiple stages. The first phase was when one of my Chrysalis sisters passed away. And when I found out that she was really dealing with trauma, I was like, trauma? Wait, what? And then I found out she had the same chronic illnesses that I did too. Then I spoke to one of my good friends from Chrysalis and I was like, do you think Chrysalis was like, abusive? And she was like, yep. And I was like, why didn't you tell me? And she was like, you weren't ready. And so that was like the first one. But even though I was able to say abusive stuff happened, it had not settled in my body yet. I wouldn't have said at that point I was abused in childhood or I went to abusive programs. It hadn't gotten to that level. And then the second wake up period was when Paris Hilton's documentary came out. This is Paris. I was pregnant with my youngest. And we were sitting there, my husband and I, in the pandemic, very pregnant, watching this this is Paris documentary. And I remember bawling my eyes out. I was so small minded at that point that I thought Chrysalis existed. And that's it. And then I found out, oh my gosh, it's an industry. This is a huge network of, of facilities doing this to kids all over the world. And my brain kind of exploded. I remember, like hyperventilating, crying with this trauma spiral. I didn't know what was going on. And then the last one was when my husband had to go to an inpatient treatment for his recovery. He called me and he was like, I'm being abused. I got in the car, I sped to the facility, and during that time period of 30 minutes in the drive, I remember thinking I was at a facility, I needed help. I didn't get to make this kind of phone call. This is how I would have wanted someone to respond to me. And that's when I realized that I wanted to do what I do. I wanted to be the person that would have saved me when I was 15. And that's when I truly, truly woke up. I don't think I ever would have fully woken up if I wouldn't have had kids. And became a mom because that allowed me a new lens to look at things. If this was happening to one of my kids, how would I feel?

Meg Applegate (30:06)

It's so alarming that there's still so many children being put into these programs today. Can you talk about unsilenced and how that came about?

Meg Applegate (30:17)

Yeah, I mean, reporting makes it really hard. Hard to count. But we estimate about 120,000 to 200,000 youth are funneled in these programs. And I think that that's really what caused me to be like, all right, I need to do something about this. Back in the end of 2021, after I did an extensive amount of EMDR therapy and biofeedback and things I needed to do to regulate my emotions and being able to handle triggers and being at a place where I knew that if I heard about abuse all day, that I'd be able to handle it. That's when unsilenced was born. It's really born out of a grassroots movement. BreakingCodeSilence started many years ago at this point, but we took it a step further to we are unsilenced, and it's grown pretty big. And we've really focused a lot on a few core principles. Our main mission is to stop institutional child abuse. But the way that we do that has kind of shifted. One thing we believe in heavily is transparency, and we think transparency is almost impossible within this industry. We believe it's our job to make sure that information makes it back into the decision maker's hands. People in school districts, therapists, parents, caregivers, foster care facilitators, juvenile justice court systems, you name it. So what we do is on our program archive, which is on our website. We've got over 100,000 documents and information on over 3,500 different programs. We make sure that lawsuits, abuse allegations, DCHS reports are on there so that people can see them. Otherwise, every single person out there would have to do record requests to all the states, all the agencies, to see a lot of this information.

Meg Applegate (32:01)

What you're doing is incredible. Even the website, the way it's all put together, everything is so organized. You have so much program information in there.

Meg Applegate (32:10)

Thank you. I have to give it to Katie McNamara. She did so much work on that. It's changing lives. We're really thankful to have that. And that led into realizing where we shine, which is in our legal advocacy. About two years ago, there was a death in a facility, Diamond Ranch Academy in Utah. Taylor Goodridge passed away. She was 17 years old. And after that happened, a couple really Unique things happen. I did a TikTok and it ended up going viral and reaching Taylor's family. They reached out and they said, can we get your help? We don't know what to do. And at that point I connected them with Senator McKell in Utah and subsequently went to Alan Mortensen, which ended up being their attorney. Through our work in the Taylor Goodrich case, we were able to find whistleblowers and witnesses for, for what happened. We got incredible amounts of information and we realized that our work within these legal cases is instrumental and also being like a safe place for whistleblowers and former staff to come to and say I think I might have more information or even an anonymous tip. Being able to get information and make sure it's facilitated and disseminated to those who can use it, whether it's investigations going on or lawsuits. Through that we have taken off. We now have an attorney directory on our website and we have law firms across the country that we have partnered with that we trust. So it allows survivors to go to our website when they feel like they have been mistreated in these facilities and choose an attorney that we know are going to be able to handle institutional abuse cases. Through that work, in probably the last year we've had a hand in 135 cases. So we believe that making justice more accessible for survivors is not just important for survivors. Healing and being able to change the narrative and validate the fact that they were mistreated, but it also changes the systems. The accountability that you can bring through a lawsuit can close a program faster than through abuse allegations and DCHs and law enforcement.

Meg Applegate (34:30)

I'm curious what your relationship and healing journey has been like with your parents in adulthood.

Meg Applegate (34:35)

I've always been really close with my parents. There was a period of time where they'd get a little defensive, but then all I did was just let them know more about the facts and said, look, these are the reasons why I'm comfortable with saying it was abusive. And these are the things that they did. And they were astonished. They just had no idea. And that's not their fault. They weren't told all this information. And so they had to go through their own wake up period. When I first announced I was going to be writing a book, they were like, oh shit. They would never for a second tell me no or anything. But I think that there was a feeling of let's do this wake up period a little at a time, give us some time to adjust. I was understanding in that they had a different time frame of healing than I did. And that's totally. And by the time the book was released, they were ready and they thought it was amazing. They're huge supporters of unsilenced. My dad is the chair of the board. They're donors. They are really, really big activists now, which is really cool. My dad will bring up stuff and random board meetings for stuff that has nothing to do with child rights. He'll talk about the troubled teen industry. And it goes to show that the people that are out there that potentially have that cognitive dissonance or have yet to be able to own that you sent your kid to a place. One of the ways to really like help heal that is by being activists trying to make sure other kids don't have to go through that. The thought process around parenting has changed a lot too. The parenting of boomers is a lot different than that of millennials. I believe that millennials are doing a lot of work to get rid of that generational trauma in general because we have more informed parenting techniques. The war on drugs dare this led into let's fix your teen. Troubled teen. We'll fix them. They use that deceptive marketing to apply to all of these different issues that teens are having. But they failed to tell the parents that those are super expected behaviors and actually really normal when you're a teenager. And I think something that people don't understand is these are not just small businesses, they're big businesses. Like $23 billion of public funds go toward this industry. So chances are that if you are invested in a publicly traded company, you might find one of these private equity backed companies that is supporting one of these facilities and they make a lot of money. It really does affect everyone. Chrysalis didn't used to be like that. They're owned by nbark Behavioral health now, but back then it was just a little private Mary and Kenny program. But they sold it to Interchange and Interchange became embark behavioral health.

Meg Applegate (37:22)

During this season, we're also speaking with survivors of wilderness programs. What would you say is unique about those experiences versus therapeutic boarding schools?

Meg Applegate (37:32)

Wilderness is especially egregious because there's really no home base. There's no feeling like you have true shelter. Even if it's chrysalis, at least it's a roof over your head. Many wilderness programs that I've come in contact with have repeated allegations of not having clean water, having bugs in food, extreme overexertion and exercise to a point of losing too much weight, being malnourished, getting parasites. You know, at Trails Carolina they do the burrito, which is where they would wrap the kid really tight into a sleeping bag. And then they'd put like a tarp over them and wrap it. And then a staff member would, would lay on top of it so that they couldn't move. Almost every survivor I've spoken to has said that they just feel like they can't breathe all night. They had to do it the first three nights so you don't run away. There's those kind of techniques that I've heard of. Most wilderness programs in my head look like the wilderness programs that you're going to expect. But as you get out of the country especially there aren't regulations. I think that in general it's more traumatic because you're dealing with all the same things that other programs are. Where you're like feeling abandoned and you're feeling unsafe. But then you add in that you're out in the cold or in the heat and you don't feel like you have enough water or food. It's just way more extreme, in my opinion that I have seen. There is no legitimate research to show that wilderness therapy is effective. Between therapeutic boarding school and residential treatment center. Sometimes they can look similar in terms of space. But residential treatment centers many times are going to be more lockdown. So more restrictions and more enforcement over certain things. Like you might not be able to have things that could potentially be used to self harm or something like that. Whereas as therapeutic boarding schools, they might have doors that you can open and you could go outside if you wanted to. I'd say in general they might look more lax. Some of these places go by these names like the word academy, but they are not like that at all usually here in the United States. Many of the states make you be a licensed facility in order to get licensing. There's different forms and categories of licensing and that is going to be based on your name. So if you have therapeutic boarding school, you are likely going to be in a therapeutic residential facility. Type of licensure. And it's common to try to skirt that. That's what we try to figure out. Is this the wrong license? Are they doing this? But in other countries, whether or not they regulate or have to have licensure is one thing I'm not certain of. Casa by the Sea, which was in Mexico, if a program's being shut down by the federales, that shows that there were some pretty egregious things going on. And that's why they go to other countries.

Meg Applegate (40:35)

There have been tragically so many cases in the news lately. What are some that stand out to you for those who are following the legislative path and victories for survivors?

Meg Applegate (40:46)

The tragic one that I'm working on right now is Baruch Silvers, who died at Discovery Ranch in Utah. I work with his parents very closely. I've helped since the very beginning and trying to raise awareness. I can't even tell you how frustrating it is that his parents and I are trying to fight to get it in the news. It's beyond wild to me that this isn't breaking news nationally.

Meg Applegate (41:09)

In May of 2025, the parents of 17 year old Baruch Silvers sued Discovery Ranch Academy, a Utah teen treatment center, after he died by suicide there in November 2024. The lawsuit alleges that staff members ignored his mental health warnings, left him unsupervised with means to harm himself, and failed to follow safety protocols. State licensors confirmed multiple violations on Discovery Ranch's behalf, including improper supervision and neglect of his care plan.

Meg Applegate (41:46)

These are facilities that school districts are paying for to send kids to. I don't think people understand this. This isn't just, oh, maybe it's the parents that made this decision. No, we're talking about juvenile justice paying money, we're talking about foster care paying money, public funds as well. So we need to highlight the cases of death and abuse and neglect and get to the decision makers that are in charge of regulations and reporting and policy. That's how we get to change, is by creating awareness. Luckily, Baruch's mom and dad work so hard to put his name out there and fight against this industry. They lost their son and they're using that pain to make sure no other kids can have that happen to them and no more parents, hopefully have to go through what they're going through. That's one of the best things you can do, is engage with our accounts who are constantly lifting up these kids and these families and spread awareness.

Meg Applegate (42:48)

If you could help design a bill to get passed to address some of these issues, what would that include from.

Meg Applegate (42:56)

Your perspective for a perfect world? Talking about legislation, There would be federal legislation that gives kids a bill of rights mandating that children or youth that go into any facilities are given a literal handout of all of their rights. The fact that they're taking away the ability to communicate with the outside world is a huge red flag. So mandating that communication is not cut off from the world. And that goes for communication with parents. Being able to speak to your parents on a regular basis and being able to speak to an advocate Anytime I get contacted by kids that are still in facilities, every kid in a facility should be able to be like, I want to call Meg Applegate. She's an advocate for youth. They should be able to contact an attorney. Communication is a big thing. Being able to be free in contacting whoever you want, not only whenever you want, but to do so without any kind of recorded line or anyone listening in is extremely important for being able to report abuse. On top of that, unannounced visits from whatever agency is overseeing it in that state. In my perfect world, we're talking about like eight a year. And you can have some that are planned, but I would say three quarters of them should be unannounced because the planned ones are always rehearsed. And I've seen it happen. On top of that, really defining what abuse is. And by defining it, we're talking about no restraints, not laying your hands on kids. I do not believe that locked doors should be allowed. I also think that all staff should not only be background checked, but should have relevant education. Let's say there's a place that has licensed therapists. It's wonderful. But what they don't realize is that those therapists spend maximum one hour a week with the kids. The majority, the 247 supervision is by the everyday staff. Those people are usually like 18 to 25 years old and many times don't have college degrees. And certainly not experts in kids with behavioral issues. So mandating the qualifications that you would need to have to be able to work in a everyday capacity. And that includes making sure they're not on the sex offenders list that's so common. How many sexual predators end up in these programs, female and male. Also information sharing and information availability. I think that there needs to be a national database. It has to be available where every state has all of the facilities that operate in the state. And if There are any 911 calls, any allegations of abuse, it shows up on there. Lawsuits are tracked on there.

Meg Applegate (45:46)

Anybody who's looking to suppress real data, I feel like that's a huge red flag.

Meg Applegate (45:51)

Yep. I can't tell you how frustrating it is, especially with Baruch Silver's case. I'll make a post about Baruch Silver's and so many people are commenting saying it's the parents fault or it's a great program. Information would also help that to show all of the different abuse allegations that have been going on. If we had a database we'd be able to say look at all this that's happened, then it wouldn't be about survivors versus other people. Some people are just not understanding that multiple things can be true at once. One kid could go to a program and think it was amazing, and another kid could go to the same program at the same time and be absolutely traumatized. Those two can exist at the same time. Until we can make sure that every single person coming out of a health facility is not traumatized, it's not regulated enough. The troubled industry, even though it is part of health care, it's being covered by health insurances, but it is not driven by data.

Meg Applegate (46:47)

It seems like survivors of institutional child abuse have higher rates of chronic health conditions, addiction, and suicide. Can you share some data that reflects these trends?

Meg Applegate (47:00)

I do know that the best data that we have has to do with ACEs or adverse childhood experiences. ACEs are potentially traumatic experiences that happen before a child reaches the age of 18 that can have detrimental effects on the rest of their life. The more aces you have, the more likely you are to be in a domestic violence situation. This is not just institutional abuse. We're talking about all trauma. If trauma goes unaddressed, especially if it's not responded to by a caregiver, it leads to toxic stress. And toxic stress is what can lead toward this happening.

Meg Applegate (47:34)

According to a landmark CDC Kaiser Permanente ACE study, people with four or more adverse childhood experiences, things such as childhood abuse, neglect, or household challenges are 4 to 12 times greater increased risk for substance use disorder, depression, and suicidal ideation. In another ACE study conducted by Cornelius Van Nealand and his colleagues, they found compared with persons with an ACE score of 0, those with an ACE score of 4 or more were twice as likely to be smokers, 12 times more likely to have attempted suicide, and 7 to 10% more likely to have a substance use disorder. Is there anything else that you feel like would be important for listeners to keep in mind when they're listening to survivors stories?

Meg Applegate (48:29)

I think just understand that just because someone has a completely different experience, even if at the same facility, does not negate the other experiences and vice versa. I think that's really important to be able to hold space for the people who have trauma and the people that may not have trauma or maybe they haven't decided that it is trauma yet. Listen with compassion. Most of the survivors that I talk to are very open to telling more about it. So asking more questions is something they're usually pretty willing to do because they know how important awareness is. And if you're listening to this and you're not around a survivor, use their narrative. Talk about it in the community. Or talk about the podcast with someone else in your family and discuss it, because awareness is key. And I'd say that every survivor I've talked to, their number one goal is to make sure no other kids get hurt.

Meg Applegate (49:27)

I can tell you're so passionate. I can hear it in your voice. And I think after living through what you've gone through, it has to, I imagine, be healing in a way to do this work. How can we support the work that you're doing?

Meg Applegate (49:39)

We need donations. We're a nonprofit, 501C3. We rely on our generous donors to be able to do all this work that we do. We need more attorneys. On our attorney directory, we rely on attorneys that are usually personal injury. Another part of what we do is teaching. We really like to educate professionals on the troubled teen industry, how these cases are different, how working with survivors of institutional abuse are different. Beyond that, you can download the unsilenced Impact app and be a part of our community of over a thousand survivors following us on our social media and really trying to highlight and help us raise awareness about this industry. Go out today and tell someone about the troubled teen industry because chances are with how common this is, with how many kids are going into these facilities, they'll know someone that has been to it. That validation that can come from it and the awareness that can stem from it is extremely important and bringing these issues to the forefront.

Meg Applegate (50:42)

We will definitely link to unsilenced.org and Meg's incredible book Becoming Unsilenced. It is not only available in print, but in audio format. We'll make sure to link to both. I hope you'll join us in donating to unsilenced. Thank you so much.

Meg Applegate (50:59)

Thank you so much for having me.

Meg Applegate (51:06)

Next time on Something Was Wrong. She made it sound tolerable, like I would come out of this program a stronger and healthier, productive kid. She sold me on a lie. I didn't know that until I got there, though. Something Was Wrong is a broken cycle. Media production created and produced by executive producer Tiffany Reiss. Associate producers Amy B. Chesler and Lily Rowe with audio editing and music design by Becca High. Thank you to our extended team, Lauren Barkman, our social media marketing manager, Sarah Stewart, our graphic artist, and Marissa and Travis from wme. Thank you endlessly to every Survivor who has ever trusted us with their stories, and thank you, each and every listener for making our show possible with your support and listenership. The theme song this season is yous Think youk by Glad Rags from their album Wonder under to hear more music from them, follow the link in our Episode Notes or search for them on your favorite music streaming app. Speaking of Episode Notes, there you'll always find episode specific content, warnings, sources and resources. Thank you so much for your support. Until next time, stay safe, friends.