How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained

Summary

Podcast Summary: "Something You Should Know"
Episode: How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Release Date: December 19, 2024

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Introduction

In this enlightening episode of "Something You Should Know," host Mike Carruthers delves into two primary topics: the art and science of influencing others positively and intriguing scientific explanations behind everyday phenomena. The episode features insightful conversations with Peter Bregman, a renowned consultant and author, and Dr. Joe Schwartz, Director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society. Skipping over promotional segments, the episode offers valuable wisdom and scientific clarity to empower listeners in both personal interactions and their understanding of the world.

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Section 1: Changing Other People with Peter Bregman

Timestamp: [01:47] – [29:35]

Guest: Peter Bregman
Expertise: Consultant, Coach, Author of "You Can Change Other People"

Key Discussions:

1. Challenging the Common Belief:

   • Peter Bregman begins by addressing the prevalent notion that individuals cannot change others. He asserts, "You can change other people. It's just that the way we try to change other people doesn't work because we're doing and saying the wrong things and we're actually creating resistance" ([06:48]).
   • Emphasizes that while people resist being changed, they are open to change when approached correctly.

2. Four-Step Process to Facilitate Change:

   • Shift from Critic to Ally:
     • Instead of criticizing, engage empathetically. For example, when confronted with his daughter eating excessive cookies, Peter chose empathy over criticism: "I totally get you eating a plate full of cookies at 4 AM when you're exhausted" ([08:31]).
   • Identify an Energizing Outcome:
     • Focus on positive goals rather than merely eliminating negative behaviors. Peter explains turning weight loss into aspiring to be a better athlete: "I want to act and be an athlete as opposed to I want to stop eating sugar" ([10:15]).
   • Uncover Hidden Opportunities:
     • Recognize underlying needs driving undesirable behaviors. In his example, excessive sugar intake signaled a need for rest ([12:45]).
   • Create an Action Plan:
     • Develop experimental plans that encourage gradual change without pressure. Peter emphasizes the importance of viewing these plans as experiments: "It's an experiment. I don't know if it's going to work or not. I just care that you're going to follow through on something that looks a little different" ([14:00]).

3. Maintaining Momentum and Respecting Autonomy:

   • Acknowledges that change is often incremental and requires ongoing support. "If permission is not granted, that's pretty much the end of that" ([11:07]).
   • Highlights the importance of respecting the other person's control over their own change process: "It's her change, it's her choice" ([15:25]).

4. Applying the Process in Various Relationships:

   • Discusses different scenarios, including professional environments, where setting clear boundaries and expectations can facilitate change without coercion.
   • Shares insights from leaders like Alan Mulally, who successfully transformed teams by establishing clear standards while allowing individual autonomy ([21:40]).

Notable Quotes:

• "People don't resist change, they resist being changed." – Peter Bregman ([06:48])
• "It's not about manipulating people. It is ultimately about them." – Peter Bregman ([07:32])
• "Change is one thing. Boundaries and consequences for how you operate as a team is another." – Peter Bregman ([21:40])

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Section 2: Interesting Science Explained with Dr. Joe Schwartz

Timestamp: [31:31] – [49:08]

Guest: Dr. Joe Schwartz
Expertise: Director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society, Author of "Superfoods, Silkworms, and Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life"

Key Discussions:

1. Debunking the “Superfood” Myth:

   • Dr. Joe Schwartz critiques the term "superfood," arguing that no single food inherently possesses miraculous health benefits. "No food really merits being labeled as an angel or a devil...it's possible to eat blueberries every day and still have a terrible diet" ([32:37]).
   • Emphasizes the importance of an overall healthy diet over focusing on specific "super" foods.

2. Bio-Based and Biodegradable Fuels:

   • Explains the difference between bio-based fuels and biodegradable substances.
   • Bio-Based Fuels: Derived from renewable resources like corn or canola, useful as alternatives to fossil fuels. "Gasoline can have up to 10% ethanol content...that ethanol can come from corn because the glucose in corn can be fermented to produce alcohol" ([35:46]).
   • Biodegradable Plastics: Highlights that while certain plastics are labeled biodegradable, they often only break down under industrial conditions. Personal experiments show that these plastics do not degrade naturally in typical environments: "I've left it out in my backyard for two years...it has not degraded at all" ([38:00]).

3. Understanding the “Old Book” Smell:

   • Describes the chemical processes that produce the distinctive odor of old books. "Smells originate from the breakdown of cellulose and the infusion of fungi" attributed to moisture and microbial activity ([40:14]).

4. The Science Behind Duct Tape:

   • Traces the origin of duct tape during WWII and its evolution. "Originally made with a backing of a rubber adhesive and some polyethylene that made it waterproof" ([41:14]).
   • Highlights its versatility and historical significance, such as its use in saving the Apollo 13 astronauts ([42:30]).

5. PFAS – Perfluoroalkyl Substances:

   • PFAS are a group of chemicals known for their water and oil-resistant properties, used in various products like rain gear and firefighting foams. "The carbon-fluorine bond is very strong, making them non-biodegradable and persistent in the environment" ([43:27]).
   • Discusses the health implications and environmental challenges posed by PFAS, emphasizing that their widespread use leads to environmental contamination: "They are present in our urine and our blood," but presence does not automatically equate to risk ([45:00]).
   • Addresses common misconceptions about carcinogens in everyday items like coffee, clarifying that exposure levels and overall diet context matter significantly ([48:30]).

Notable Quotes:

• "You are constructed of the food that you eat." – Dr. Joe Schwartz ([32:37])
• "Biodegradable plastics are biodegradable under ideal conditions, which usually means some sort of industrial commercial composting facility." – Dr. Joe Schwartz ([38:00])
• "The presence of a chemical cannot be equated to the presence of risk." – Dr. Joe Schwartz ([43:27])
• "If coffee did cause cancer, we would know because there's enough coffee consumed by enough people around the world that this would reveal itself epidemiologically." – Dr. Joe Schwartz ([49:08])

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Conclusion

In this episode, Mike Carruthers successfully bridges the gap between personal development and scientific literacy. Through Peter Bregman’s expertise, listeners gain actionable strategies to influence positive change in others without fostering resistance. Simultaneously, Dr. Joe Schwartz demystifies complex scientific concepts, encouraging a more nuanced understanding of everyday phenomena and challenging widespread misconceptions. Whether it's improving interpersonal relationships or making informed decisions about health and the environment, this episode equips listeners with knowledge and tools to enhance their lives meaningfully.

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Transcript

[Mike Carruthers]

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[Peter Bregman]

There is no point in this process where I am telling her what to do or giving her advice. I'm engaging with her in thinking about and asking certain questions that always keep her in control.

[Mike Carruthers]

Also, you've heard that having a pet is good for your health. So how does that work exactly? And some everyday science explained on things like plastics, old book smell and superfoods.

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

No food really merits being labeled as an angel or a devil because it's possible to eat blueberries every day and still have a terrible diet. And it's possible to never eat blueberries and still have a good diet.

[Mike Carruthers]

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[Peter Bregman]

Thanks so much for having me, Michael. It's great to be here.

[Mike Carruthers]

So since there is this common belief that you cannot change other people, explain why you can and why you would and why you'd want to. And what's the point of all of this?

[Peter Bregman]

You can change other people. It's just that the way we try to change other people doesn't work because we're doing and saying the wrong things and we're actually creating resistance. People don't resist change, they resist being changed. And so I change all the time. But if you try to change me, forget it. I'm going to fight because that's my loss of control. So we have to change people in ways that doesn't elicit the kind of resistance we end up fighting against.

[Mike Carruthers]

It also seems though that one of the reasons people don't change is that when you try to change somebody, you're trying to change them to fit your needs and wants and desires. It may have nothing to do with them. You want them to do what you want to do.

[Peter Bregman]

Exactly. And this process is not a magic manipulative process where I'm going to give you three words to say and people will instantly, hypnotically change. It does drastically increase your hit rate in helping people change, but it is ultimately about them. So most often we want people to change, right, because there's something we're frustrated about. But that frustration is coming out of a place of care. Usually when you're frustrated or angry about something, it's because you care deeply about something. And almost always the thing you care about is in your mutual interest as well as their individual interest. But it's not being framed that way at all because you're coming off as sort of a critic of their behavior as opposed to an ally working with them.

[Mike Carruthers]

And so we've been talking so Far in kind of the abstract. Can you give me an example of how you would change somebody so I get a better sense of what you're talking about?

[Peter Bregman]

Sure. And you know what I'll do? I'll give you an example that fits your category of something where I want someone to change, but they don't necessarily want to change. And I'll up the ante and I'll make it my daughter, who's 19, right. So now I want to change one of my kids. One day I went downstairs in the morning and I found her eating a chocolate chip cookie for breakfast. And she looked up at me with this guilty expression and she said, yeah, this is the last one. I stayed up till 4 o'clock in the morning and baked a plate, baked a sheet of chocolate chip cookies and ate them all. And my instinct is to immediately criticize, to be like, what are you thinking? You don't want. You told me you want to lose a little bit of weight and this is how you are doing it. And like, seriously, chocolate chip cookies, Is this what I've taught you? Chocolate chip cookies in the morning for breakfast? But I immediately shortcut that process because I knew that that would instigate a resistance denial. Like, you know, when we criticize someone, we come at them, or even when we give feedback to someone, we're eliciting their shame, we're telling them there's something you're doing that I'm pointing out that's bad. And people will do almost anything to avoid shame. So what do we do? We go into either denial or defensiveness because those are the easiest ways to avoid, which is to say, I'm not doing it or I don't even know what you're talking about. And then that's a nonstarter conversation because now we're in a conflict. I don't want to be in a conflict. I'm her ally. Right? And so what I said instead, I followed. The first step in the four step process is to shift from critic to ally. And we have a formula for doing that, which is three steps, which is empathize, which is express confidence and ask permission because it always has to be up to them. So I said, hey, I totally get you eating a plate full of cookies at 4am when you're exhausted. And especially your cookies are awesome. Like, there's no way I wouldn't have eaten a bun. I would have just joined you. I'm glad I wasn't up at 4 o'clock in the morning. So I totally get it. And I Also can see the guilt in your face and how frustrating that must feel. I also know that you can make different decisions and do it differently if you want, because I've seen you do that in the past also. Do you want to think about this together? Do you want to think this through together? And so it's express empathy, express confidence, and then ask permission to engage in the conversation. That's the first step.

[Mike Carruthers]

And so it would seem that if the answer is no, if permission is not granted, that's pretty much the end of that.

[Peter Bregman]

And in the case of my daughter, which is why I brought this particular example up, in the case of my daughter, she said, no, I don't want to talk about it. And this is what's really important. That's her call. So I said, okay, no problem. And then I said, if you ever want to talk about it, I'm happy to talk about it with you. But I gave her the power. Later that afternoon she came back to me and she with the confidence that it was up to her to say hey and a little distance from the situation and from her own shame around it and said, hey, will you. Can we talk about it? I kind of do want to talk about it with you, but I want to stop whenever I want to stop. You know, you have to stop. And I said, that's fine. Like you're totally in control of this. This is for you. The second step is to identify an energizing outcome. So when there's a problem, when we're giving someone feedback, when we're telling them we want them to change, it's often de energizing. We're basically telling them this thing they're doing is bad. People don't like to sink into problems. People get very narrow minded around problems. Their energy gets sucked out. So the first thing you do is you say, what is the outcome you want that would actually be exciting to you. So that's step two, the negation of the problem. Meaning if the outcome were just, I don't want this problem, it's I don't want to eat so much sugar. That is not very inspiring. So my next question is, for the sake of what, what do you hope not eating sugar will give you? The answer became, I am an athlete and I want to think and act like an athlete. I'm a skier, I am an ice skater, I want to do a double axel. I need the right strength to weight ratio to do that. So think about how much more inspiring it is to have an outcome that says I want to act and Be an athlete as opposed to I want to stop eating sugar. One is just depressing and the other is sort of exciting. So, ok, so now that is step two. So we have got this energizing outcome. So step three is what is the opportunity that is hidden in the problem? Because we still have a problem. It is great that you want to be an athlete, but you still have this problem of eating too much sugar. So then the question is, what's the opportunity there? And after asking certain questions, we get to the point that actually, the reason I'm eating that sugar is because I'm exhausted. And it's. In this particular case, it was four in the morning and I was exhausted. But in general, I work myself too hard, I push myself so hard and sugar gives me this burst of energy. Well, all right, that's interesting. So the opportunity that you find hidden in the problem of eating too much sugar is rest. It's like, I need to rest. And by the way, an athlete, probably the most important thing that you can do for yourself as an athlete is to rest. So now we've got this outcome of an athlete and we've got the opportunity, which is, I need to find more rest. When I am yearning for sugar, that is a sign that I'm overtired and that I need to rest and I need to build rest into my life and I need to build rest into my schedule. And then that once we figure that out, now we're up to the fourth step, which is to plan. Specifically, what am I going to do by when? How am I going to do it? And that plan is an experiment. So it doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't have to be right. We don't necessarily need to know that you will solve this 100% this week, but we want to know that you can choose some action that you can do that will reflect movement towards the solution, towards the outcome that you want to achieve.

[Mike Carruthers]

So clearly, in a situation like that, the person you're trying to change has to value what you have to say. In this case, your daughter obviously is going to value what her father has to say. But that isn't always the case. People have varying feelings about the people in their life who are trying to change them and may not respect what they have to say or advice they have to offer.

[Peter Bregman]

So here's the thing. There is no point in this process where I am telling her what to do or giving her advice. I'm engaging with her in thinking about it and asking certain questions that always keep her in Control. It's her change, it's her choice.

[Mike Carruthers]

What about the momentum of this? It seems like you could have this conversation with your daughter, but a week later there might be another plate of cookies again.

[Peter Bregman]

Exactly. So it's a great point, Michael. And that's why step four is the plan that says, I'm confident that I'm going to follow through on this, but it's not necessarily going to solve the whole thing. It's an experiment. I don't know if it's going to work or not. I just care that you're going to follow through on something that looks a little different. Let's get together again in a week and see how it's going. No shame with failure. Like that's just part of the process. We're scientists here, we're experimenting. We don't know what the solution is about how to get better as opposed to just where we started, which was me criticizing you.

[Mike Carruthers]

What about though, when you're in a situation with someone and let's just change the nature of the conversation. You walk in, your daughter's eating the last cookie of this plate of cookies that she's been up till till four in the morning and she doesn't see a problem with it. Why don't you just get off her back?

[Peter Bregman]

So I think that that is absolutely her choice. In a sense. This will not work with everybody in every situation because in order for people to change, they need four things. They need ownership, they need independent capability. They need emotional courage. They and they need resilience, future proofing when it gets hard.

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

Right.

[Peter Bregman]

They need those four things. Emotional courage is the willingness to feel hard things. We could build all of those things. But if ultimately she says, I don't care, I'm happy with eating those cookies. I don't really care what my weight is. I'm not so interested in being an athlete. I don't really care. I'm good. So you have to realize that when you want other people to change and you want to help them change, you show up as an ally to support them. But it's not going to be a. And you could predispose them to it. You could open them to the possibility of making the change. You could support them in making the change, you could give them ideas and ways of approaching it. But ultimately it's going to be their call if they decide they don't want to.

[Mike Carruthers]

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[Peter Bregman]

So change is one thing. Boundaries and consequences for how you operate as a team is another. So Alan Mulally, who was the CEO of Ford for the turnaround in 2008, and before then he was the CEO of Boeing during September 11th. I mean, he's an unbelievable leader and he was amazing at this. Whereas what he would do is he would say, these are the standards. And by the way, when he. Just to give you an example, when he turned around Ford, Ford was losing billions. And he turned it around so they were making billions. And this was during the recession when everybody else was taking bailouts. And he made that turnaround with essentially exactly the same team. There was a turnover of one person, but Otherwise the same 16 people who were driving forward into the ground rescued for it. Right. So he changed them. He changed what they were doing. And he had a view of creating a certain set of boundaries. This is how we act on the team. These are my expectations. And if someone wasn't fulfilling their expectations, he would say to them, that's okay, that's really your call. Like, it's your choice whether you do this or not. There's nothing wrong with you for deciding to act differently than I'm stating that we're going to act. But you just can't do that here. I will help you leave. Well, it's your call. And the one person who left he had this conversation with, and they left another person he had this conversation with, and they decided to stay and change. But as in, you know, when you're working in a system, when you're working in a team, it is completely valid to set up clear standards of how we operate and hold people to it and then support them in changing if they want to. And if they don't change, then that's okay, too. But there may not be a place for them on the team.

[Mike Carruthers]

I wonder what it is that if people want to change, why they need somebody else to help them Change why they need that ally. What happens there that people just don't do it on their own.

[Peter Bregman]

I love that you asked this question. The people, the clients that I work with are not remedial. I'm working with the top CEOs in the top companies. They are incredibly successful people. They don't, you know, they're not people with tons of problems. Then the question is, well, why do they need me? And the answer is, you need. When you are stuck in a problem or stuck in a rut or stuck in a problem or a habit or a challenge that you're not getting over, you cannot think your way out of it with your current capability because you're in it. You need, you know, if you're struggling in water, think of if you're like drowning in water and you can't swim, like, you still need an arm to reach out and pull you out of the water. That arm is really important. So you don't have to be a brilliant person with all of the solutions already to help people. You just have to help them through a process where a different mind is thinking about their problem with them and helps them to see things they can't see otherwise.

[Mike Carruthers]

Yeah, well, that makes perfect sense that you know, you're too close to the problem. It's your problem. It's always easier to help other people. It's always easier to solve somebody else's problem than your own 100%.

[Peter Bregman]

And I. That's true for me. Like, I've been, you know, I've honed this process over 33 years of doing this, and I still need someone to think through the problems with me. I can't think. Even though I know the process better than anybody, I still need someone to help me through it.

[Mike Carruthers]

How do you start this process? How do you approach someone who you would like to see change and get them to buy into this?

[Peter Bregman]

So the most important step, the sort of turning the light on step, is that first step of shifting from a critic to an ally. So when you really shift from this sense of I care about you and I care about this, and I'm not coming at this from anger or frustration, but I'm coming at this as someone who wants to help if it's helpful to you, if it's not helpful to you, it's not a problem either. That approach as an ally versus a critic is the thing that switches, you know, kind of switches the light to say, yeah, I would. I have the control and I'd be willing to talk about it.

[Mike Carruthers]

It certainly puts your Defenses down, I guess. Because if, you know, if somebody comes to you as a critic, you get defensive and, you know, off we go. But this way there's nothing to be defensive over.

[Peter Bregman]

Yeah. And if they say no, they don't want to talk about it with you. Your acceptance of that. No. Reinforces that they have the control. And what they realize, what they know. And what often happens is they will then come back to you like I described with my daughter, because you're not threatening to them anymore, like something has changed and they know. Well, you know what? I really do want to get better at this. And actually, here's someone who is willing to talk to me about it. They're probably my best bet, and I didn't feel judged by them.

[Mike Carruthers]

Well, yeah, that's kind of a good way to feather the nest there and make it so that that conversation goes much better. But I think you have to be very careful not to slip back into critic once the conversation starts. Seems like that would be very easy to do if you're not careful.

[Peter Bregman]

100%. 100%. It is very, very tempting. You really have to keep reminding yourself, I'm here in support of them. It's not about me. I'm here in support of them. And, yeah, that's really critical.

[Mike Carruthers]

But it does get back to the idea that you can't change people who don't want to be changed. You can't solve a problem that the person doesn't think exists.

[Peter Bregman]

Yeah. And I think the real focus then is to sort of say, what is that outcome that we're trying to go to? So when you shift to the outcome and you're no longer talking about the problem, then you're in a more interesting, positive, engaged conversation. It's actually one of the things I always suggest to leaders that I'm coaching, which is if you're disappointed with someone's behavior and they've made a big mistake, if you go back and say, what were you thinking? What were you thinking in this when you decided to do this? That is a setup for a disaster of a conversation. And the reason is because they're going to tell you what they were thinking. It obviously wasn't smart thinking, but they're going to tell you what they were thinking. They're going to answer your question, and that's going to sound defensive, and you're going to see the holes in it because it obviously didn't work. And then you're going to get mad, and then they're going to get defensive, and it's just going to go back and instead I always suggest you say instead of saying what were you thinking or what you say, what would you do differently next time? So now you've gone from a defense offensive, shameful conversation to one of hope and opportunity and energy.

[Mike Carruthers]

When I think about trying to get someone else to change, I've always thought of it more of as a I'm right, you're wrong kind of problem that you need to do this because I. I guess because I said so. And what you're talking about is a very different approach that aligns the parties and probably has a lot better chance of success. Peter Bregman has been my guest. He is a consultant and coach and author. The name of his book is you Can Change Other People and you can find a link to his book at Amazon in the show Notes. Thank you Peter. Appreciate the insight.

[Peter Bregman]

Excellent. A lot of fun. Michael. Thanks so much.

[Mike Carruthers]

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How often have you heard people make a claim about and say, but it's scientifically proven. There's real science here. Often it involves food, nutrition, or some other health claim. That must be true because of the science. Well, not so fast. Here to give us all a better understanding about what is and isn't science and how that word science gets misused in order to mislead is Dr. Joe Schwartz. He's director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society. He's the author of several books. He's been a guest here before. And his latest book is called Superfoods, Silkworms and Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life. Hey, Joe, welcome back. Merry Christmas.

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

Hi, Michael.

[Mike Carruthers]

So let's start with superfoods. Cause I hear that expression a lot that, you know, blueberries are a superfood or, you know, pick your food, but that a lot of foods are labeled superfoods. What is a superfood?

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

It's an expression that I dislike, even though I used it in the title of the book. And I don't like it because no food really merits being labeled as an angel or a devil, you know, as a superfood, because it suggests that it has some sort of health quality. And usually there's a lot of hype in there. Now, obviously, food is very, very important in terms of health. There's no question about that. We are constructed of the food that we eat, right? I mean, food is the only raw material that ever goes into our body. So we are indeed made of the food that we eat. And, you know, Hippocrates supposedly 2000 years ago said, let thy food be thy medicine. Although, frankly, I've never found any concrete evidence that he ever said that. But. But he could have. It's much reported in the literature. So diet is certainly important. And go back to, you know, the Ebers Papyrus that was written 1500 BC suggested already that a half an onion and the froth of beer is a delightful remedy against death. Well, that's an overstatement. But of course, since that time we've had many, many allegations of, you know, there being foods that were deemed to be especially healthy. Sylvester Graham gave us the Graham cracker, you know, high fiber food. Kellogg regaled us with stories about the health benefits of yogurt. And today, of course, there's a whole collage of foods that are labeled in the popular press as superfoods. Ranging from olive oil to blueberries. And what I point out is that while certainly there are diets that are healthy and diets that are unhealthy, it is a mistake to label any single food as that. And that's why, you know, whenever students or members of the public ask me to kind of have a look at their diet and evaluate it, I say the only way we can do that is if they keep a diary in which they write down everything that they eat, including amounts that they eat for several weeks, then we can have a look. Because, you know, it's possible to eat blueberries every day, which actually I do try to do. It's possible to do that and still have a terrible diet. And it's possible to never eat blueberries and still have a good diet. So it's the overall components of the diet that will determine whether it is healthy or less than healthy. And that's why I don't like the idea of superfoods. So I use it in the title so, you know, I can discuss all of these nuances.

[Mike Carruthers]

So talk about this term biobase. We hear this a lot about fuels, like, oh, we need more bio based fuels because that's better for the environment and we're going to run out of fossil fuels. What about that?

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

Right? Well, we will run out of fossil fuels. That's a given. Because the earth is of a finite size and we only have so much in terms of raw materials. I don't think we have to worry about running out of fossil fuels within our lifetime. But eventually it is going to happen. So there is a search for alternatives. Bio, of course, comes from the Greek word meaning life. So we're looking for substances that are replaceable, usually because they are isolated from crops that can be grown. We cannot manufacture any petroleum. Right? I mean, that's a given amount that we have in the earth, which is really the end result of the degradation of vegetable matter and animal matter over millennia. So we're not going to replenish petroleum, but we can grow crops from which we can isolate useful components. So we can grow corn, we can grow canola, from where we can extract oils. And those oils can be used as fuel. And those would then be termed as bio based. And that is certainly a legitimate endeavor. For example, we are already doing that to some extent. As you may know, gasoline can have up to 10% ethanol content. And that ethanol can come from corn because the glucose in corn can be fermented to produce alcohol. So that would be biofuel. And then of course, we also Talk about biodegradable substances. And that is also a very important concept in terms of environmentalism, because we don't want substances building up in the environment that will stay there forever. We would like them to decompose into innocuous substances. So there's a lot of work on that as well, especially when it comes to plastics. Plastics have been demonized recently. And, you know, there's, of course, some legitimacy to that. We don't like to see plastic bags fluttering in the breeze or, you know, hanging in trees. We don't want to hear about this giant plastic garbage patch in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. We don't want to hear about nanoplastics, which are the end product of the badgering by sunlight and waves of plastics that get into the ocean and which eventually end up in our body. Right. We don't want macro micro nano plastics ending up in. In our body. So the question is to produce substances that are biodegradable, meaning that they will break down. And we can do that with certain plastics. Polylactic acid, for example, is made from corn, and it is biodegradable. However, there's a but. There always is a but in science. You know, we tend to give with one arm and take away with the other. So it would be great to have the one armed scientist, you know, only gives us good things. The fact is that these biodegradable plastics are biodegradable under ideal conditions, which usually means some sort of, you know, industrial commercial composting facility. And I can tell you that I've done an experiment where I have one of these plastic cups, the polylactic acid cups that are biodegradable. And I've left it out in my backyard and now for two years. And I can tell you that it has not degraded at all. It looks the same as it looked then. But if it were present in a compost pile that is constantly being turned all the time, and where the microbes are monitored or where the temperature is monitored, then it would degrade.

[Mike Carruthers]

Talk about the science of old book smell. Anybody who has opened an old book, maybe in a library or something that hasn't been opened in a long time, there's a very distinctive old book smell. And you talk about that. What is that smell?

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

If you've ever opened an old book, I mean, we're talking at least decades old, probably a book that has not been stored very well, that has been exposed to mold or fungi, mostly humidity, you can develop a variety of smells and that originate from the breakdown of the cellulose which of course, is the fundamental building block of paper, and also from the infusion of fungi. Fungi are everywhere. They're present in the air. They're microscopic, so you don't see them. But when they get into a book, and especially aided and abetted by moisture, they will start to use the cellophane or the cellulose that is the essential part of, of paper as food. And when they digest that, they crank out some pretty smelly compounds.

[Mike Carruthers]

What's the science behind duct tape or the science about duct tape?

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

Duct tape is fascinating, of course, in many ways. First of all, the name, it actually comes from a Dutch word and it has nothing to do with ducks. It has nothing to do with Duchess ck. And it turns out that during the Second World War, ammunition boxes were sealed with a type of paper tape, but that paper tape would tear very easily. So when soldiers in the heat of the battle had to open these ammunition boxes, the tape would tear and they wouldn't be able to open the box. And that precipitated a search to find a tape that would be hardy, but that would easily be removed without tearing. And that's what gave birth to what we now call the duct tape. Now, one interesting connection there is that that tape originally was made with a backing of a rubber adhesive and some polyethylene that made it waterproof. And in between those was a sandwich. The type of fabric that was referred to as cotton duck, that was the name of a type of fabric. So that also is one of the reasons that that people have used the word duck tape. D U C C K and there are all kinds of uses, you know, as you can imagine, for duct tape, it saved the lives of the Apollo 13 astronauts where a catastrophe was averted because the astronauts were able to rig up a contraption to remove carbon dioxide from the air that they exhale. And they used duct tape in order to do that. You know, it's been said that WD40 is what you need to make things go, and duct tape is what you need to make things stop.

[Mike Carruthers]

We hear a lot today about PFAS that. I mean, I get press releases all the time about, you know, this is the end of the world kind of thing. And I think people don't really know much about it or really know how big a concern it is.

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

So clear that up PFAS stands for perfluoro alkyl substances, which are really a family of compounds that have some very interesting properties that, that are commercially useful because they make substances water resistant and oil Resistant. So PFAS would be used, for example, in the making of rain gear. It is used in firefighting foams because it can very effectively blanket a fire and seal out oxygen. It is used in the manufacture of. Of Teflon. It has a myriad of uses. Your pizza box in which your pizza is delivered, you don't want that box to be greasy or wet, so it is treated with these chemicals. Now, the problem is that whatever makes these so useful also creates a problem. The carbon fluorine bond is a very, very strong bond, and it is responsible for all the beneficial properties of these compounds. But it also means that they are very difficult to break down. So these are not biodegradable. These substances build up in the environment. Now, of course, then the question comes up, so what? Well, once we find that they build up in the environment, we start looking for them everywhere, including in our urine and including in our blood, and it turns out that they are there. It is, however, always important to point out that the presence of a chemical cannot be equated to the presence of risk. That's a different question. So just because they're present in our urine and our blood doesn't mean that they're creating some sort of havoc in our body. But it does mean that it requires further exploration and that further exploration has been done. And it turns out that there are links to elevated blood pressure, to greater risk of kidney disease, to greater risk of diabetes, when there is an excessive amount of these chemicals in the bloodstream, which unfortunately can happen because they are so widely used in so many commercial items. However, the real problem is that they get into the environment not from the products that we tend to use on a daily basis, but from their manufacture. So it's not the pizza box from which we eat the pizza that has transferred some trace amount of PFAS into the pizza that gets it into our body. That's not the major problem. The major problem that these chemicals are manufactured on a gigantic scale around the globe because they are so much in demand. And when you're manufacturing things on such a large scale, it's impossible to prevent their entry into the environment. So they get into the water, they get into the air, they get into the soil, and from there they get into our body because we drink water, we eat food, we. We breathe air. So really, the only way to try to battle this, this problem is to cut down on the overall production of these substances. But that means that you've got to find replacements. And right now, there are no substances that can do the job as well as these PFAs. However, I think in this context, it also needs to be mentioned that we are exposed to literally millions of compounds on a daily basis. Chemical Abstracts, which is a service that basically lists all known chemicals. There are over 160 million chemicals that are now listed. Now, of course, we're not. We're not going to encounter all of those regularly, but we certainly encounter thousands of chemicals on a daily basis. Just to give you an example, when you drink a cup of coffee, you're consuming over a thousand compounds. Over a thousand compounds, including some like caffeic acid or furphural, which are known carcinogens. Now, if we label something as a carcinogen, it means that we know that at some dose in some animal or in some laboratory trial, it causes cancer. It does not mean that it does so in humans. That's a common misconception that people make. They think that if something is labeled a carcinogen, it means that it causes cancer in humans. No, it just means that it has the potential to cause cancer. Now, we know that coffee does not cause cancer. We know this. If coffee did cause cancer, we would know because there's enough coffee consumed by enough people around the world that this would reveal itself epidemiologically. So here we have a situation where we have known carcinogens present in the coffee. But of course, the whole coffee as an entity doesn't cause cancer. Why? Because the amounts of the carcinogens in there are in very, very small doses. And coffee also contains some compounds, like antioxidants, which can mitigate cancer.

[Mike Carruthers]

Well, great, Joe, it's always a pleasure to have you on. I enjoy listening to your scientific explanations because they're unique and they make you think. I've been speaking with Dr. Joe Schwartz. He is director of McGill University's office for Science and Soc. He's the author of several books. His latest is called Superfoods, Silkworms, and Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life. And there's a link to that book at Amazon in the show notes, if you would like to buy it. Thank you for coming on again, Joe. Always a pleasure.

[Dr. Joe Schwartz]

I appreciate that very much. Thank you.

[Mike Carruthers]

You've probably heard the theory that having a pet dog is somehow good for your health. And you may have wondered, well, how? Like, how does that work? Well, here's one way it works. Scientists took a look at 421 heart attack victims, some dog owners, some not dog owners. They found the dog owners were far more likely to survive the heart attack than the non dog owners. Dog owners are less obese and more active physically and socially. Another study found that pet owners have to go to the doctor less often than people with no pet. The study looked at kids too, and those kids with pets had stronger comforting and empathy skills and a better sense of overall well being. So those are just some examples of how having a pet dog is good for your health and that is something you should know. I assume you've enjoyed this podcast since you made it all the way to the end of the episode. And so since you did enjoy it, perhaps you could tell someone you know and ask them to give a listen and help us grow our audience. I'm Micah Ruthers. Thanks for listening today to something you should know. There is a fascinating and unique podcast I'd like you to check out as I have it's called Only One in the Room. A few years back, Laura Cathcart Robbins attended a writer's retreat where out of 600 attendees, she was the only black one. So later she wrote about her experience and the article went viral because people understand what it feels like to be the only one in the room. Only One in the Room is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people. I bet you've had that feeling. Listen and you'll hear guests like Hilary Phelps, sister of Olympian Michael Phelps, sharing her story of her secret addiction, former Fox News reporter Christine O'Donnell, who was fired after one of her social media posts was taken out of context. Only One in the Room was named a top podcast by Reader's Digest, the Manual and Bustle magazines. Every week, Laura and her co host Scott Slaughter invite you to join them for an hour and lose yourself in someone's Only One story. Check out Only One in the Room wherever you get your podcasts.

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