Invest Like Warren Buffett & How To Disagree Better

Summary

Podcast Summary:
Something You Should Know
Episode: "Invest Like Warren Buffett & How To Disagree Better"
Host: Mike Carruthers
Guests: John Longo (Finance Expert, Author), Julia Minson (Behavioral Scientist, Author)
Date: July 27, 2026

---

Episode Overview

This episode tackles two insightful topics:

1. Timeless Investing Wisdom from Warren Buffett – Dr. John Longo delves into Buffett's strategies, principles, and what ordinary investors can glean from them.
2. The Psychology of Disagreement – Dr. Julia Minson discusses why we avoid disagreements, how to have productive conversations with those we disagree with, and the benefits of doing so.

--

Segment 1: Warren Buffett’s Approach to Investing

[05:33–26:41]

Buffett’s Unique Edge and Broad Appeal

• Why Buffett Stands Out

  • Track record: “He's worth about $150 billion. And that's after giving almost half his money away. So he has a tremendous track record for investing.” (John Longo, 05:47)
  • Plainspoken advice makes him relatable to the average investor.
  • Longevity and adaptability have defined his decades-long success.

• Advice for Ordinary Investors

  • Circle of Competence:
    “Everybody knows a lot about something... music, sports, fashion... So everybody does have a circle of competence in something.” (John Longo, 06:45)
  • Buy Index Funds:
    For people uninterested in picking stocks. “There's advice there for everybody.” (06:45)
  • Diversification:
    “If you stick within that circle of competence, and do what you love and work with people that you admire – that’s a good recipe for getting on the path to wealth.” (07:51)
  • Don’t Swing at Every Pitch:
    "He says you don't have to swing at every pitch... Right now he's owning a lot of cash, perhaps because there's not a lot of great bargains in the market." (07:51)
  • Stay Invested Long-Term:
    Avoid panic selling during crises; long-term investing wins.

• Ways to Follow Buffett’s Strategy

  • Buy Berkshire Hathaway stock ("kind of like buying a piece of America") (09:15)
  • Use index funds (S&P 500)
  • Watch Buffett’s public 13F filings for individual stock choices

• Financial Literacy and Basic Principles

  • Step one: Live within your means, save, and invest consistently.
  • “Einstein said the eighth wonder of the world is the miracle of compound interest.” (John Longo, 13:31)
  • Understand basic due diligence: Is the company profitable? Is there a competitive moat? (Coca-Cola as an example)

• Balancing Growth and Safety

  • Mature, dividend-paying companies are safer but slower-growing.
  • Take calculated risks with a small portion in higher-growth sectors (e.g., AI, quantum computing), hedge with stable index funds.

• Price Matters

  • Buffett mantra: "It's great to buy a wonderful company at a fair price." (John Longo, 19:09)
  • Focus on price relative to earnings/cashflow, not just share price.

• Golden Rules of Buffett

  • “View stock as ownership in a business.” (20:18)
  • “Stay within your circle of competence.”
  • “When others are greedy, be fearful. When others are fearful, be greedy.” (20:18)

• What Makes Buffett Uniquely Successful

  • Early entrepreneurial instinct ("He would buy packs of gum and sell individual slices... at a very, very young age." 22:13)
  • Ability to adapt as markets change, unlike many investors who stick to a single strategy.
  • Willingness to act swiftly during crises—providing 'white knight' rescues to businesses.

Notable Quote:
"Buffett has adapted, although in recent years his performance hasn't been quite as strong, primarily because he's been a little bit underweight technology. But I would say Buffett's knowledge for business and his ability to adapt to a dynamic market are among the reasons why he's been super successful for many, many decades." (John Longo, 23:19)

---

Segment 2: The Psychology of Disagreement with Julia Minson

[27:35–47:49]

Why We Dread Disagreement

• Disagreement vs. Conflict:

  • "Disagreement is: I see it one way, you see it another... those kinds of disagreements are really useful and productive and can actually be sort of like very fun..."
  • “What people are afraid of is what we often think of as conflict, which is, you know, the experience where I decide that like no reasonable, good, well-informed person could possibly hold the opinion that you just expressed...” (Julia Minson, 30:29)

• People Would Rather Go to the Dentist than Disagree

  • Julia’s research found that the discomfort level of a difficult disagreement is comparable to visiting the dentist. (29:04)
  • “We found that people’s sort of ratings of how they would feel about [difficult] conversations were equivalent to going to the dentist.” (29:57)

Types of People and Conversation Strategies

• “There’s the camp of people who love a good argument…” (32:38)

• “There's a bunch of people in between who are sort of ambivalent... I really would like to understand why Uncle Joe feels this way... but also, I am very, very weary about having this conversation.” (32:38)

• Avoiding “No Upside” Discussions

  • Many choose to avoid certain topics for fear of damaging relationships, but Julia sees this as a missed opportunity for understanding (34:17).
  • “I learned about their sort of life experiences... And I normally conclude something like, yeah, you know, I still disagree, but I kind of get it now. And that was interesting. And now I feel closer to you and like a better informed human.” (34:37)

How to Disagree Better

• Shift from Winning to Understanding:

  • “So the question becomes, like, what other goals could you have? A very nice goal to have... is the goal of understanding where the other person is coming from.” (36:14)
  • “Setting out to learn about the other person’s point of view does not mean that you are adopting it.” (37:11)

• Practical Technique:

  • Be explicit: “I am not here to change this person’s mind... I’m just here to understand why this matters to them, what they think of it, where they learned it...”

• Why It’s Hard:

  • Mike: "I would have trouble with that if I strongly disagreed with what I was hearing." (38:22)
  • Julia: “It really feels quite humbling, right, because you’re... putting yourself in the position of the learner...” (38:40)
  • The discomfort often feels like a betrayal of one's beliefs (39:43)

• Lifelong Lessons from Constructive Dialogue

  • Julia asks students to practice this for 15 minutes – most find the experience surprisingly positive.
  • “I had a woman from Syria... She decided to have the disagreement with one of her classmates... a young Israeli woman... I found shocking was that I could have lunch with an Israeli, talk about the conflict, and walk away as friends.” (Julia Minson, 44:59)
  • Another: "It was the first time that [my mother] felt heard by me in years..." (46:17)

Takeaway Tactics

• Begin by stating your intention: "I want to understand your side."
• Express your views only in service of better questions, not winning.
• Enforce conversational structure (e.g., set a time, focus on listening).
• Remember: understanding does not mean conceding.

Notable Quote:
“My assignment puts my students in a particular situation, but you can imagine taking the important features of that situation and implementing them in your own life.” (Julia Minson, 46:53)

---

Mini Segments and Practical Tips

• Driving Safety Tips ([02:52])

  • Modern hand placement: 9 and 3, not 10 and 2
  • Scan far ahead, not just the car in front
  • Keep more distance than feels necessary (4-second following)
  • Avoid looking at headlights at night—look to the side lane marker

• Dishwasher Wisdom ([47:56])

  • Don’t pre-rinse plates for newer dishwashers; they clean better when they sense food residue.

---

Memorable Quotes

• John Longo:

  • "You don't have to always be fully invested at all times and just look out and stay within your circle of competence and also buy things at a discount." (08:29)
  • “Einstein said the eighth wonder of the world is the miracle of compound interest.” (13:31)
  • "If you were as rich as Buffett, would you buy the entire company? If the answer is no, you probably shouldn't buy the stock." (20:18)

• Julia Minson:

  • "What people are afraid of is what we often think of as conflict... and then it goes sideways from there." (30:29)
  • “I normally conclude something like, yeah, you know, I still disagree, but I kind of get it now. And that was interesting. And now I feel closer to you and like a better informed human.” (34:57)
  • "Setting out to learn about the other person's point of view does not mean that you are adopting it." (37:21)

---

Key Timestamps

• [05:36] – What makes Warren Buffett unique as an investor
• [07:51] – Practical advice for everyday investors
• [09:15] – Can you follow Buffett dollar for dollar?
• [13:31] – Compound interest and getting rich slowly
• [19:09] – The importance of stock price and value investing
• [20:18] – Buffett’s two golden rules and mindset
• [27:35] – Introduction to disagreement: why we avoid it
• [29:57] – People would rather go to the dentist than debate someone they disagree with
• [34:17] – The hidden upside to difficult conversations
• [36:14] – How to shift from winning arguments to understanding
• [44:59] – Surprising positive outcomes from student dialogues

---

Actionable Insights

• For Investors:

  • Start by saving and living below your means.
  • Emphasize investments you understand; avoid the urge to get rich quickly.
  • Diversify via index funds unless you have a clear edge.
  • Remember: quality companies, bought at the right price, held for the long term, outperform.

• For Better Disagreements:

  • Approach tough topics with curiosity, not combativeness.
  • Explicitly state your intention to understand, not change minds.
  • Practice listening and asking questions before defending your position.
  • Recognize that understanding does not jeopardize your beliefs—it broadens your empathy and strengthens relationships.

---

Final Note

This episode skillfully blends practical financial advice with socially relevant tools for communication, equipping listeners to improve both their portfolios and their personal relationships.

Transcript

[Micah Ruthers]

Today on something you should know. I'm sure you're a good driver, but there are a few things you could do to be better then want to invest. Like Warren Buffett, a top money manager explains what's behind Buffett's success Early early

[John Longo]

years when he was five or six years old, Buffett would buy packs of gum and sell individual slices. He would buy like a six pack of Coca Cola or Pepsi and sell individual bottles. Buffett has had a nose for business at a very, very young age.

[Micah Ruthers]

Also something your dishwasher really wants you to know. And did you know the average person would rather go to the dentist than have a disagreement with someone?

[Julia Minson]

What people are afraid of is what we often think of as conflict, which is I'm going to tell you just how wrong and misinformed and possibly immoral you are for holding that view. And then of course, it goes sideways from there.

[Micah Ruthers]

All this today on something you should know One thing I love about summer is how simple getting dressed becomes. And I've noticed something kind of funny. When I'm getting ready in the morning, I keep looking for the same shirt. Not because I plan to wear it, it's just the one I want for me. That's my Quince linen shirt. It's light, it's breathable, it looks good without trying too hard. And somehow it works, whether I'm meeting someone for lunch or just running errands. That's when you know you've bought something good, when you stop thinking about it and you just reach for it. I have several Quint's pieces now, and they're all like that. Their T shirts are incredibly soft. The linen is perfect for the summer heat and when the evening cools off, their lightweight cotton sweaters are exactly right. And they look great. What also impressed me is that Quint sells everything for 50 to 80% less than similar brands because they work directly with ethical factories and skip the middleman. So you're paying for the quality. Not the middleman, not somebody else's marketing budget. And it isn't just clothing anymore. We've picked up things for the house and for travel too, and the quality is consistently excellent. Make your summer wardrobe easier. Go to quince.comsysk for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada too. That's Q-U-I-N-E.com sysk for free shipping and 365 day returns. Quince.comsysk

[Mike Carruthers]

something you should know. Fascinating intel the world's top experts and practical advice you can use in your life today, Something you should know with Mike Carruthers.

[Micah Ruthers]

So I'm sure that you're a fabulous driver, but there are a few things you could do that would make you an even more fabulous driver. So we're going to start with those today on this episode of SOMETHING YOU SHOULD know. Hi, I'm micahruthers. Thank you for joining me today. So here are a few things that will make you a better driver and a little safer on the road. The first is to don't grip the steering wheel at 10 and 2. That was the old advice. Today, safety experts recommend putting your hands at 9 and 3. It gives you better control during emergency maneuvers and reduces the risk of arm injuries if the airbag deploys. Look farther ahead than you think you need to. Good drivers don't stare at the bumper of the car in front of them. They continuously scan 15 to 20 seconds down the road. Seeing potential problems early gives your brain extra time to react, making sudden braking and swerving much less likely. Keep more distance than you feel is necessary. The old one car length rule really isn't enough. Safety experts recommend at least a 4 second following distance in normal conditions and even more in rain or darkness. It dramatically increases the odds that you'll avoid a rear end collision. And if oncoming headlights are blinding you at night, don't stare into them. Instead, shift your gaze towards the right edge of your lane, using your peripheral vision to stay on course. The auto club says this simple habit can reduce the temporary blindness caused by today's brighter LED headlights. And that is something you should know. Every day, people make investing decisions that quietly cost them thousands, sometimes hundreds of thousands of dollars over a lifetime. Warren Buffett has spent decades explaining how to avoid those mistakes, yet most people never hear or follow his advice. My guest has sifted through Warren Buffett's annual letters, interviews and public appearances to distill his most practical lessons into simple strategies any investor can understand. John Longo is professor of professional practice in the finance and economics department and at the Rutgers Business School. And he's chief investment officer at Beacon Trust, a registered investment advisor managing more than $3 billion in assets. He's co author of a book called Buffett's A Guide to Financial Literacy and Life. Hey, John, welcome to Something youg Should Know.

[John Longo]

Thanks for having me, Mike. Glad to be here.

[Micah Ruthers]

So Warren Buffet seems to be universally regarded as just brilliant when it comes to investing. Why is it? Why him? What is it about him?

[John Longo]

Well, let's start with his track record. He's worth about $150 billion. And that's after giving almost half his money away. So he has a tremendous track record for investing. Not only that, he's built a number of businesses. His main business that your listeners probably know is Berkshire Hathaway. They're a conglomerate. They own things like Geico Insurance, Dairy Queen railroads. So he's a businessman as well as an investor. And perhaps most importantly, he speaks in plain English. He speaks in a way that your listener on Main street can easily understand. So you put all that together. He's quite unique. And he's 95 years old, so he's been around a long time. I would say he's been known on Wall street probably the past 40 to 50 years. So you put all that together. It's not surprising that Buffett is sort of the oracle of Omaha, they call them.

[Micah Ruthers]

His advice, or what he tells people they should do with their money is not exactly the way he made his money.

[John Longo]

True, there's some truth to that. So first of all, he says invest within your circle of competence. Everybody knows a lot about something. It could be music, sports, fashion. I mean, there's great stocks in all those areas. Spotify, an example of music, sports. There's actually Madison Square Garden, that owns the Nixon Rangers. Fashion, there's Louis Vuitton. So everybody does have a circle of competence in something. But he also has another piece of advice for people that don't really want to get involved, and that's buy index funds. And as we're speaking today, Mike, the S and P is at an all time high. And think about all the craziness that's happened with the war in Iran and everything else with COVID over the past several years. And here we are with the stock market at an all time high. So you put all that together. There's advice there for everybody.

[Micah Ruthers]

But also the advice is to diversify your portfolio. And sure, index funds sort of do that by default, but you're still just in stocks. So isn't his advice to put it in other things?

[John Longo]

Well, he's made his money mostly in stocks, but he's lived in the Same House since 1958. It's gone up quite a bit in value. As I mentioned, somebody might have a different circle of competence in different areas. So real estate, a lot of people have done quite well with. It is risky to start your own business. But if you look at the wealthiest people in the world, many of those people have started their own business. So I think if you stick within that circle of competence, and do what you love and work with people that you admire. That's sort of a good recipe for getting on the path to wealth. And I obviously Berkshire has some other things you might know. They're sitting on about $400 billion in treasury bills, and that's not a long term holding for them, but it is part of diversifying. When you don't see some great, great ideas using a baseball or softball analogy, he says you don't have to swing at every pitch. So right now he's owning a lot of cash, perhaps because there's not a lot of great bargains in the market. At least that's the way he sees it. So you don't have to always be fully invested at all times and just look out and stay within your circle of competence and also buy things at a discount. He's known as a value investor.

[Micah Ruthers]

Does he give very specific advice and is there a way to follow what he does with his money, kind of dollar for dollar, or is it much more general? Be in the stock market, buy index funds, that kind of thing?

[John Longo]

There's a few things you can do. So step one is you can buy the company that he runs or now is the chairman of Berkshire Hathaway. That's been a fantastic stock, up over a million percent since he took over the company in 1965. So that's step one. You can buy the stock, which is a diversified conglomerate, kind of like buying a piece of America. And I mentioned some of the companies out there that he owns, like Geico and Dairy Queen. Two, as I mentioned, you could sort of buy the S and P index fund. And three, if you want to get into the weeds, there is a form that all investors have to file, these large investors with the SEC called Form 13F. And that lists his individual stock holdings. So if you look at that list, there's Apple, there's Coca Cola, American Express, Chevron. So I look at those numbers very closely. So you can get into the weeds if you want, or you can just buy an S and P or global index fund or simply buy Berkshire Hathaway. And that's how you can kind of follow Buffett.

[Micah Ruthers]

But people who have money, and not necessarily even a lot of money, but just money, and they have some sort of retirement plan or something, usually I think go to some sort of expert, some investment advisor who allocates their money in various things is, according to Warren Buffet, is that unnecessary?

[John Longo]

For many people it is. So for example, you mentioned retirement funds. They have something called target date funds. So as an example if somebody, let's say is 25, 30 years old, the bulk of their portfolio would be in equities or stocks. But as they get older, let's say approaching 60 years old, that mix would shift more towards fixed income or bonds. So that's one simple approach people can do. As I mentioned, if you feel like you know something about businesses, you can also invest in specific funds. But if you have a very complicated situation, things like trusts and estate planning probably come into play. But for your average investor on Main street, no, you don't need a lot of expensive advice. It's sometimes good to have somebody to talk to. There's a whole school of economics called behavioral economics. And a lot of times people make decisions that are not good for the long term interest. So I mentioned the war with Iran going on or the conflict. So some people may have panicked and sold everything. And as I said, here we are at an all time high. So sometimes it's good to have somebody to talk to to really make sure that you're staying on the right track.

[Micah Ruthers]

One of the criticisms of, well, one of the criticisms of people today is that we're not particularly financially literate. We weren't really taught in high school or college, like you know, how to pay bills, how to write, balance a checkbook, let alone how money works in the investment world. And so I think a lot of people feel like they don't have the smarts to do this.

[John Longo]

Well, it's a good point Mike, but I think everybody can start with step one, that is trying to live within your means. Now I know that's hard for a lot of people, especially if you have college loans and other things as well. But step one is you got to find a way to spend less than what you earn. So once you're able to do that step one, then the question is, how am I going to invest my money? Well, certainly you want to have some money set aside for an emergency type thing. People say three to six months of living expenses, but let's say you get past that, well then having a diversified portfolio and that could consist of US equities, international equities, and most of these can be done in a mutual fund or etf. You could have fixed income as I mentioned. You could have real estate investments besides physical real estate. That I know is quite expensive. But that is sort of step one, living within your means, then investing and two, really not panicking and being a long term investor. That tends to pay off if you have a long term horizon.

[Micah Ruthers]

But are there some financial principles People need to understand as to how money really works in order to really know what they're doing.

[John Longo]

I think there are some principles. So everybody out there wants to get rich quick and generally it's not possible. You can get lucky. Let's say you Invested in investing 10 years ago, you invested in Bitcoin 10 years ago before somebody trying to be consistent. It's probably not going to happen in terms of getting rich quick, but you can get rich slowly. And Einstein said the eighth wonder of the world is the miracle of compound interest. And it does take a while for it to really pay off. But certainly if you have a horizon of 10, 20 years, you really see the benefits. And it's important just to save a little at a time and, and not panic and your money will actually snowball in terms of maybe investing with some training wheels on. Well, first of all, you should ask yourself or look on the various financial websites, whether it's Yahoo Finance or Bloomberg, is the company making any money? Right. A lot of companies have a great story and they're not really making any money. So companies that are profitable, if you want companies that are more mature, they might pay a dividend, which is an annual cash flow. You could look at companies. Buffett talks about companies having a moat around the business that is a barrier to competition. One example he gives is Coca Cola. Anybody can make soda. It's kind of water and sugar. But Coca Cola has 100 plus year history. They're in more than 200 countries around the world. They have great shelf space at the supermarket. They're in McDonald's. So I think investing in higher quality companies is something where I think you're less likely to get burned as opposed to companies that promise the world and yet don't have any earnings.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, but isn't the concern that, you know, how much bigger can Coca Cola get? How much more can the price go up? Because they are everywhere. They've saturated, literally saturated the world in Coca Cola. And so doesn't it plateau and not become such a great investment now?

[John Longo]

Well, I would put Coca Cola and let's call it the lower risk bucket, a stock that's less likely to blow up. Coca Cola today is not the growth Stock it was 20, 30 years ago. So that's just one example that you can have a mix of more, let's call it faster growing companies that are profitable and then slower growing companies that are profitable and then maybe more mature companies paying like a dividend, maybe like your local utility. And sometimes it's hard to resist companies that maybe have tremendous growth potential and sometimes they pay off. So think about a young Tesla when the electric vehicle came out. Today there's a lot of discussion about quantum computing and really there's nobody making a lot of money in quantum computing. So I wouldn't put the bulk of my nest egg in quantum computing. But if you're excited about areas, whether it's AI quantum computing that have long term growth potential, well, maybe you can put a small amount in and then balance that out with safer companies. Whether it's a Coca Cola type investment or simply a diversified S and P index fund.

[Micah Ruthers]

I want to ask you how important you think and how important you think Warren Buffett thinks about the price of the stock when you buy it. I think that's one thing people look at when they're thinking about buying a stock and sure there are other factors, the company in general and but the price of the stock at the time. And we'll talk about that in just a moment.

[Shopify Announcer]

Starting or growing your own business can be intimidating and lonely at times. Your to do list may feel endless with new tasks and lists can easily begin to overrun your life. So finding the right tool that not only helps you out, but simplifies everything as a built in business partner can be a game changer for millions of businesses. That tool is Shopify. Shopify is the commerce platform behind millions of businesses around the world and 10% of all e commerce ecommerce in the US from household names like Gymshark, Rare Beauty and Heinz to brands just getting started. Shopify has hundreds of ready to use templates that can help you build a beautiful online store that matches your brand style and you can tackle all the important tasks in one place from inventory to payments to analytics and more. No need to save multiple websites or try to figure out what platform is hosting the tool that you need. And if people haven't heard about your brand, you can get the word out. Like you have a marketing team behind you with easy to run email and social media campaigns to reach customers wherever they're scrolling or strolling. Start your business today with the industry's best business partner, Shopify, and start hearing. Sign up for your $1 per month trial today at shopify.com realm. Go to shopify.com realm that's shopify.com realm

[Mike Carruthers]

right now get up to 15% off select storage solutions put heavy duty HDX totes to good use, protecting what's important to you. The solid impact resistant design prevents cracking and the clear base and sides make items easy to find even when the totes are stacked. Find select shelving and tote storage up to 15% off at the Home Depot. To organize every room in your home, from your garage to your attic, visit Home Depot. How Doers get more done.

[Micah Ruthers]

I'm speaking with John Longo. He's author of the book Buffett's A Guide to Financial Literacy and Life. And John, so when Warren Buffett looks at a company to invest in, how important is the current price of the stock at the time he's looking? Because I think that's what a lot of people look at. So is it important to him?

[John Longo]

Absolutely, Mike. So one of Warren Buffett's favorite sayings is that it's great to buy a wonderful company at a fair price. He doesn't say buy a wonderful company at a high price. And some of your listeners may not be familiar with how Wall street professionals look at price. They don't look at actually the price of the stock. They look at the price in relation to earnings or some type of cash flow. So Berkshire is class A. He has two classes, Class A and Class B is literally worth hundreds of thousands of dollars per share. But if you look at it on a per cash flow basis, it's actually cheaper than the market as a whole. But yeah, absolutely. And this gets to Buffett in his early years that he learned from this guy, Benjamin Graham, who's known as the father of value investing. There's a lot of ways to describe value investing. Buying something you think is worth a dollar for 50 cents, or I like the expression you can't get hurt if you fall out of the basement. You can get hurt, but maybe not as much if you're buying a stock that is super inflated.

[Micah Ruthers]

What are Warren Buffett's two golden rules if they haven't come up so far in our conversation?

[John Longo]

Well, there's a lot of things that he says, but one is view stock as ownership in a business. And he learned that from his mentor, Benjamin Graham. A lot of people think it's a piece of paper gambling. That's not correct. Stock is a tiny piece of a business. If you were as rich as Buffett, would you buy the entire company? If the answer is no, you probably shouldn't buy the stock. 2 I mentioned stay within your circle of competence, and then one for the market as a whole. One of his most famous quotes is that when others are greedy, he's fearful, and when others are fearful, he's greedy. So at this point, I'd say he's more a little on the fearful side.

[Micah Ruthers]

You mean Just at this moment in time, he's more on the side.

[John Longo]

Yeah, at this moment in time with the market as a whole, because he's been accumulating almost $400 billion in cash.

[Micah Ruthers]

Does he move the needle because he's such a big player? Does what he does affect the market?

[John Longo]

Absolutely. So I mentioned these quarterly forms that you have to fill out with the SEC if you're a big investor. And as soon as people see Buffett's changes, the market almost immediately reacts. So one of his more recent calls that's worked out quite well is Google. As you and your listeners may know, Buffett generally does not invest a lot in technology stocks, but he's used their product, the search product. His businesses have used it like Geico, and he felt comfortable with that. And that's been a home run for him. Google, obviously, not only Search, but AI Waymo, they changed their name from Google really to Alphabet because they have all these verticals, including YouTube.

[Micah Ruthers]

What is it do you think makes him so special? Because a million people claim to be experts in the market and there have been a few, like, big players, like, I remember Peter lynch used to be very well regarded as somebody who could really pick stocks. But why are so few people good at it? And why is Warren Buffett so good at it?

[John Longo]

Good question, Mike. And you're speaking to my heart with Peter Lynch. He was one of my first idols and role models when I was in college. Didn't really know about Warren Buffett. Let's go back to Buffett's. I mean, early, early years. When he was five or six years old, his grandfather operated a supermarket. So Buffett would buy packs of gum and sell individual slices. He would buy like a six pack of Coca Cola or Pepsi and sell individual bottles. So step one is that Buffett has had a nose for business at a very, very young age. He had a very large paper route, he owned farmland. This is all before he graduated from college. So that's one thing that people don't really know fully, that Buffett had a great nose for business. He early on started investing in stocks, and as I said, he really came to understand the discipline of value investing from his mentor, Benjamin Graham. Now, this gets to your point about why it's so difficult to continue to perform well. So when Buffett was in his early years, let's call it the 1950s, when he first started managing money, he followed Graham's strategy of buying companies at a very deep, deep discount. But as he became more successful and had to put more money to work, he was almost forced to buy higher quality companies. We mentioned Coca Cola, American Express, Apple. So I think it's a lot of people out there have one strategy and they're not able to adapt. Buffett has adapted, although in recent years his performance hasn't been quite as strong, primarily because he's been a little bit underweight. Technology. But I would say Buffett's knowledge for business and his ability to adapt to a dynamic market are among the reasons why he's been super successful for many, many decades.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, maybe a better way to ask the question is why isn't, why aren't there a bunch of people being able to be like Warren Buffett? Why is he such a rarity when it seems like there are other people with interesting business backgrounds? You would think, why is this so unusual?

[John Longo]

Well, part of it becomes a little bit of a self fulfilling prophecy that a lot of people go to Buffett with a good deal. So imagine you built your own business. You've built it up for 20, 30 years. You care about your employees, you want them to do well over the long term. Well, you could maybe sell it to a private equity company and there's a risk that they fire a lot of people and add a lot of debt and risk of the company going bankrupt. Or you can sell it to a company like Berkshire Hathaway. Warren Buffett, sometimes known as a white knight, who largely will keep the company as it is. He very, very rarely fires people. He may allocate capital to faster growing businesses. So one example is that his company owns World Book Encyclopedia. I don't think too many people are buying encyclopedias today, maybe some libraries and people are using Wikipedia. So a business like that he still owns, but he'll reinvest the cash flow into something faster growing, whether it's a GEICO or something of that nature. So he does get a look at a lot of deals. He is willing to act quickly, especially during times of distress. So I know the Great Recession is quite a while ago for some of your listeners, but that was a pretty severe time. The financial system was almost falling apart and he stepped in and bought Goldman Sachs, bank of America, ge, which had a large financial arm at the time. So he's willing to act very quickly and decisively when others are panicking. And a lot of people don't have the stomach for that.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, I think it's really great that you've distilled his philosophy and his advice down into this book, plus filtering it through. I mean, you're no slouch either. I mean, you clearly know what you're talking about, and to filter it through what you know is a really unique way of looking at the world of investing. I've been talking with John Longo. He's a professor of professional practice in the finance and economics department at Rutgers Business School, and he's the Chief Investment Officer at Beacon Trust, a registered investment advisor managing more than $3 billion in assets. The name of the book is Buffett's A Guide to Financial Literacy and Life, and there's a link to that book in the show notes. John, great job. Thanks for being here.

[John Longo]

Well, thank you so much, Mike. I appreciate the opportunity and wish you continued success with your podcast. And if I can be of help in the future, let me know. I'm Arch Manning.

[Julia Minson]

I'm Madison Skinner. I'm Eva Jovic.

[John Longo]

I'm Decoria Moore. Wanna train like a Red Bull athlete?

[1-800-Contacts Announcer]

Tell us your fitness goals this summer to enter the Red Bull Athlete Challenge.

[Julia Minson]

You'll get to try each of our workouts for a chance to win an ultimate Red Bull experience.

[Micah Ruthers]

Think you have what it takes?

[Julia Minson]

So good, so good.

[Micah Ruthers]

So good.

[1-800-Contacts Announcer]

New markdowns up to 70% off are at Nordstrom Rack. Stock up and save big on shoes, tops, dresses, accessories and more must haves for summer. Join the NordicLub to unlock exclusive discounts. Shop new arrivals first and more. Plus, buy online and pick up at your favorite rack store for free. Great brands, great prices. That's why you rack.

[Micah Ruthers]

Have you ever had an argument with someone where somewhere along the way you stop trying to solve the problem and instead you just tried to win the argument? It happens all the time. Whether it's with your spouse, a co worker, a friend, or someone online. Disagreements often become battles that damage relationships without resolving anything. But it doesn't have to be that way. There's a psychology to disagreement, and when you understand what's really happening beneath the surface and you can have difficult conversations that actually lead somewhere. Here to explain how is Julia Minson. She's a behavioral scientist whose work focuses on the psychology of disagreement. Her research has been featured in Time, the Atlantic, the Washington Post, and the New York Times. She is a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and author of the book how to Disagree Better. Hi Julia, welcome to something you should know.

[Julia Minson]

Hi Mike. It's great to be here.

[Micah Ruthers]

So something jumped out at me as I was looking over the material about you and your book and all from a study that I guess you were involved in that says the average person would rather go to the dentist than have a 20 minute conversation with someone they strongly disagree with. And wow, think about that. I mean, that says it all. And I think people relate to that. I mean, disagreements are often something you would just rather avoid.

[Julia Minson]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, you know, I mean, it was a fun study. It was a fun study to run because, like, everybody gets the disagreement is unpleasant, right? People sort of get that we don't like it, but I wanted to know just how much we dislike it. And so we came up with this whole list of things that people do in their lives. You know, like, you know, playing with, like toy trains with a kid and, you know, taking your dry cleaning to the dry cleaner and, you know, going to visit an LTD elderly relative and doing your bills and, you know, going to the dentist. And we had this whole long list of things and we asked people how much they would enjoy doing each of these things. And mixed into the list were different types of conversations, including conversations about sort of hot button policy topics with people you agree with and with people you disagree with. And we found that people's sort of ratings of how they would feel about one of these conversations were equivalent to going to the dentist.

[Micah Ruthers]

Do you have a sense from all the work you've done on this people don't like conflict and disagreement? Because why? Just because it's unpleasant or they fear the outcome or what is it that we're afraid of? Because, well, if we had that conversation, we could get this off our plate and move on.

[Julia Minson]

It's a very important point, right? Because there's a lot of things that are good about disagreement and a lot of things that are beneficial about disagreement. And I think this is where the distinction between disagreement and conflict is an important one. Because, you know, I think of disagreement as I see it one way and you see it another way, or I expect one thing to happen and you expect a different thing to happen, right? And those kinds of disagreements are really useful and productive and can actually be sort of like very fun, right? Like you can sort of debate about how a book will end or, you know, about which sports team is better or, you know, if you disagree with me about some, you know, plan we've made at work, it may be because you're about to prevent me from making a very, very disastrous mistake, right? So those disagreements can be great. And I think what people are afraid of is what we often think of as conflict, which is, you know, the experience where I decide that like no reasonable, good, well informed person could possibly hold the opinion that you just expressed. And I'm going to tell you just how wrong and misinformed and possibly immoral you are for holding that view. And, you know, and then of course, it goes sideways from there, right? Because if once I tell you that you're like, you know, and not very smart and not very good human being, you will likely not appreciate that. And that's when you get sort of like the negative emotions and the escalation that we normally associate with the term conflict.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, and this is why I find it somewhat useless to have conversations about very strongly held things, often political things or. Yeah, political things that. I'm not going to change your mind. You're not going to change my mind. The only thing that good will come. The only thing that will come from this is a fight. And so what's the point? Why don't I let you believe what you believe and let me believe what I believe and just put this off the table?

[Julia Minson]

I mean, I would say there's sort of three camps in the world, right? There's like the camp of people who just love a good argument, right? Or people who just feel like they own the moral high ground. They get how it really is and they're gonna tell all the rest of us how it really is, right? And so those people just love starting those types of conversations. And then there's kind of the view that you articulated, which is, this is a waste of time and I don't need this and I don't want to have this conversation, right? And then there's a bunch of people in between who are sort of ambivalent, who are like, well, you know, I really would like to understand, like, why Uncle Joe feels this way about, you know, immigrants or about, you know, the environment or about Iran or whatever the case may be, because, like, Uncle Joe has had some interesting life experiences and maybe he has something to say. But also, I am very, very weary about having this conversation. And so I think people experience a lot of angst around this.

[Micah Ruthers]

So I have friends, I have people in my life who I care about, and we've more or less agreed to not discuss political things. Not because we want to avoid them because. But because there's no one can see an upside into having that conversation. I agree. I'll believe what I believe. You believe what you believe, and we just don't. That's just not on the table for discussion, and life is fine. And so I don't see anything wrong with that, do you?

[Julia Minson]

I don't know that wrong is the word to use, but I do see, I guess, a missed opportunity There, because, you know, there's a variety of versions of this. Sometimes many people believe very different things than you do. And there are people that you respect and care about. It sort of nags at you. You're like, well, you know, I know this is a good person and I know that, like, I love them and I know they've always been like a reasonable person, but how could they possibly believe this? Right? I have certainly had people in my life that made a comment in passing about politics, right? Or about, you know, something happening in the world at the time. And I didn't want to, you know, open the can of worms and discuss it. And what I found is that when I do approach the conversation, I learn things from the other person and I learn things about the other person that kind of make all the puzzle pieces fit. I learn why somebody who is, you know, fundamentally intelligent and loving and caring and thoughtful believes things that I couldn't imagine them to believe. I learned that their perspective is actually far more nuanced and interesting and complex than I maybe initially credited them with. You know, I learned about their sort of life experiences. And I normally conclude something like, yeah, you know, I still disagree, but I kind of get it now. And that was interesting. And now I feel closer to you and like a better informed human.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, I said something at the very beginning when I introduced this segment because I find myself doing this sometimes too, where there's a point in the conversation where you stop trying to resolve anything and instead you try to win the argument, right?

[Julia Minson]

Like, I'm going to educate them. I'm going to tell them how it is. I'm going to tell them that they are sort of following the talking heads on TV and they're not really thinking straight. And if they were thinking straight, here's what, you know, they would believe. And of course, that, you know, that often doesn't go well. And so the question becomes, like, what other goals could you have? A very nice goal to have. And when I say nice, I mean it just leads to better conversations. Is the goal of understanding where the other person is coming from, Right? So if you go into a conversation and you say, I am not here to change this person's mind. I am not here to educate them. Like, I'm not here to give them the facts. I'm just here to understand why this matters to them, what they think of it, where they learned it, right? Like, what their evidence is. It really changes the trajectory.

[John Longo]

And.

[Julia Minson]

And what's interesting about it is that, you know, it completely sort of gets Rid of that feeling of conflict escalation that these conversations are often characterized by. Because, of course, the other person is like, oh, my God, like, somebody's listening to me. I love it. You know, like, let me talk more. And the thing that's also, and I think this is a very common misunderstanding, is that setting out to learn about the other person's point of view does not mean that you are adopting it. Right. Like, I can be very clear about the fact that, like, look, here's what I believe. Here's my issues with what's going on in the world right now. But I know you disagree with me, and I'd love to hear how you think about it. Right. And so you can be very sort of clear about the fact that you are not here to change your mind. You're not here to, like, reach agreement or compromise or any of those things. You're here to simply understand their perspective because you find it, you know, interesting or you care about them or, you know, what have you. I think starting out with that mindset of wanting to learn about and from the other person is just tremendously powerful.

[Micah Ruthers]

You know, I love that idea. Don't you think it takes a lot of self discipline not to say, yeah, that's just not right, or that's crazy, or that to just sit there and go, mm, oh, I see how you think that I would have trouble with that if I strongly disagreed with what I was hearing.

[Julia Minson]

You know, so that's right. And, you know, I. I almost want to, like, turn this on you and ask you why you would have trouble with it, because we have run many experiments where we try to get people to do this. And I am, you know, me and my research team are somewhat at a loss as to, you know, kind of like, what is so hard about this? And we have our theories, and I think, you know, part of it is that really feels quite humbling, right, because you're sort of putting yourself in a, you know, you're putting yourself in the position of the learner. I want to learn from you about your experience. And that feels, you know, that's a more humble position than. Let me tell you how it really is and teach you about the world. You know, I think that's one thing that people struggle with, and I think other people think that people struggle with is, like, once you ask the question, you actually have to listen to the answer. And that can be very frustrating if the answer is something you disagree with or don't think is accurate. But I don't know what do you think is hard about that approach?

[Micah Ruthers]

I think what's hard about it is it's flying in the face. It might be flying in the face of my beliefs. And I have an obligation to stand up for my beliefs. And if I have to stifle my beliefs in order to listen to this without disagreeing, that I'm somewhat betraying my own belief system. So I think that's where the difficulty comes in.

[Julia Minson]

That's really interesting. Betraying. I like the words you use that you have an obligation to stand up for your beliefs and it feels like a betrayal. Yeah, I can sort of relate to that feeling. And you know what's interesting is that. But part of the reason that I am so committed to this approach is again, because we've studied it experimentally and what we've done is do studies where we send people messages where there's an argument about, let's say, a policy topic. So we've done a lot of research on, for example, gender based affirmative action. We send you an argument that's for the opposing perspective. But part of that argument is this is what I believe, but I would love to hear how you think about this issue and why. Right. So it's expressing this desire to learn even though you're also clearly disagreeing. And what we find is that those, the formulation of the argument that also expresses the desire to learn lands better. Right. So the person on the receiving side actually finds the argument more compelling. They think of it as sort of more reasonable and more true and like more relevant to the topic than if you just made the strongest version of the argument. And so it's ironic because if your goal is to have your perspective kind of acknowledged and, you know, kind of defend the righteousness of that perspective, you actually are more likely to succeed if you also solicit the other person's perspective. So it's a little bit like Jedi mind trick.

[Micah Ruthers]

Part of this is interesting to me because I don't know that I've ever done this, what you're talking about. So I think that's how I would react, that I would struggle with it. But I have to go do it and see. But my sense is that I would want to say yes, but, but can't you see or you know those kinds of phrases that I'm thinking, like I need to knock down that argument rather than sit and listen to it because again, because it flies in the face of what I believe. But you gotta, I imagine you gotta try it to see and see what happens because it would be an interesting thing to do to. To really try to do what you're saying and see where that goes.

[Julia Minson]

So I do this in my classes all the time. So when I teach negotiations at the Harvard Kennedy School, and then I also teach an elective that's entirely about conflict management and disagreement. And one of the assignments I give my students is to go find a person in their life that they strongly disagree with and sit down and have a conversation with them. And the assignment is that you have to spend 15 minutes trying to understand what the other person believes. Right? So this is exactly sort of like what we're talking about, right? And I. I say in the instructions that you can express your perspective, right? You don't have to sort of withhold it, but you only get to express your perspective in the service of asking better questions, right? So you can say, like, I don't understand this part of what you're saying because of, you know, I've read blah, blah, blah, right? You can't say, I've read blah, blah, blah. And that's why you're wrong. And so they have to do this, and then they have to write a paper about it. And I just. I have students come back to me, like, year after year, and they just find it very, very surprising what that experience is like. And one of the things they find surprising about it is how different it is than what they normally. And, you know, the 15 minutes is crucial because I think when you're trying to do this on your own, it's very easy to fall off the wagon, right? Like, you set your good intentions, and then three minutes later in, you're arguing. But if you have to do it for class and you've been told you have to do it for 15 minutes, then it sort of keeps you honest, and then you have a very, very different conversational experience.

[Micah Ruthers]

And so what do those students come back and say if there is a general, general consensus of. This went better than I thought. This was a nightmare. This was a train wreck. This guy's a jerk. Or is it just all over the

[Julia Minson]

map the vast majority of the time? And again, we have actually sort of studied this experimentally. It's much better than they expected it to go. And I have some sort of memorable examples that are memorable for different reasons. So I had a woman from Syria in one of my classes who was an older woman, and she. She decided to have the disagreement with one of her classmates. So she was also in the class. So they were. They paired up together. And that woman was a young Israeli woman. And afterwards we were sort of debriefing out of the class, and the older Syrian woman raised her hand and she said, you know, I did this because it was an assignment, and I've lived sort of the Israeli Palestinian conflict my entire life. Like, I know all about it. I didn't think I could possibly learn anything there is to learn about this thing that I haven't learned over the last several decades of my life. What I found shocking was that I could have lunch with an Israeli, talk about the conflict, and walk away as friends. She was like, that's what I learned. And I thought, you know what? That was a day of work worth doing. Like, that was a good. That was a good work day for me. You know, I had another student who came up to me after class once, and she said. She said, professor, my mom wanted me to talk to you, and she wanted me to thank you because it was the first time that she's felt heard by me in years, you know, and that almost made me cry because I have teenage daughters. And so, you know, you can imagine how we get into these conversational habits and we don't notice them, but when somebody imposes structure that makes you do something different, you know, it can have sort of really, really interesting and powerful effects. Right. So my assignment puts my students in a particular situation, but you can imagine taking the important features of that situation and implementing them in your own life.

[Micah Ruthers]

Well, I like that idea. I like the idea of stating your intention that, you know, I want to understand your side rather than, I'm here to tell you why you're wrong. It seems like that would have a better outcome. I've been speaking with Julia Minson. She's a behavioral scientist. Her work focuses on the psychology of disagreement. She's a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and author of the book how to Disagree Better. And there's a link to her book in the show notes. Julia, thanks for coming on and talking about disagreement in such a nice, agreeable way. Thanks.

[Julia Minson]

Thanks, Mike. This was a great conversation. I really appreciate being on.

[Micah Ruthers]

If you automatically rinse every plate before loading the dishwasher, you're not alone. It feels like the right thing to do, so a lot of us do it. But if you have a modern dishwasher, it may actually make your dishes less clean. Many newer dishwashers have sensors that measure how dirty the water is at the beginning of the cycle. If you've already rinsed the dishes until they're nearly spotless, the dishwasher may decide you don't need much washing. And shorten or lighten the cycle. On top of that, today's dishwasher detergents use enzymes that work best when they actually have food residue to break down. Scrubbing everything clean beforehand can actually reduce their effectiveness. So the experts say, scrape off the big chunks of food, but skip the rinse. You'll save water, you'll save time, and in many cases, your dishwasher will do a better job. And that is something you should know. If you've never left a review or haven't left one in a while. Please leave us a review on wherever you listen, Apple, Podcasts, Spotify, whichever platform you listen on, you can usually leave a rating and review. And we read them, we appreciate them and they do help. I'm Micah Ruthers. Thanks for listening today to something you should know.

[1-800-Contacts Announcer]

Class is now in session and the UPS store is here to help you Ace Arriving on campus, our certified packing experts can pack everything you need, from desktops to decor. Plus, when you pack and ship with us, you get our exclusive pack and ship guarantee. Your items arrive safe or your money back. Restrictions and limitations apply. To get a 20% off packing coupon and for full details, visit theupsstore.com packing

[Julia Minson]

Close your eyes, exhale, feel your body

[Micah Ruthers]

relax and let go of whatever you're carrying.

[1-800-Contacts Announcer]

Today, while I'm letting go of the worry that I wouldn't get my new contacts in time for this class, I

[Julia Minson]

got them delivered free from 1-800-contacts. Oh my gosh, they're so fast. And breathe.

[1-800-Contacts Announcer]

Oh, sorry. I almost couldn't breathe when I saw the discount they gave me on my first order.

[Julia Minson]

Oh, sorry. Namaste. Visit 1-800-contacts.com today to save on your first order. 1-800-contacts.