Sixteen years later, she still tells this story. She was called into the office of a 6'4" senior executive she barely knew. He sat with his back to the door and said: "You will either make me a very happy man or a very unhappy man." Something in her snapped. She replied: "I was always told I'm not responsible for how other people feel." He slowly turned his chair around with a smile on his face. That one moment became the foundation of a decade-long mentorship.

Melissa is Executive Director and Chief Privacy Officer at Kodiak Solutions, and she's spent her career learning, sometimes the hard way, what it actually means to hold onto your personal power when the professional stakes are high.

In this episode, she breaks down the real moments that tested her, and the specific tools she built to handle them.

You'll learn:

What "giving away your personal power" actually means, and how to catch yourself doing it before it costs you
What Melissa said to a senior executive that instantly shifted how he saw her, and why most people would have responded the opposite way
How she handled a new boss who made every conversation feel like an interrogation, and the scripting technique that got her through it without losing her composure or her job
Why a mentor told her "if you're going to swim with sharks, you need to thicken your skin", and what that actually means for women moving into senior leadership
How to stop taking feedback personally when your whole identity has been built around being the A student
The self-awareness practice that tells you when to speak up and when holding back is the smarter move

If you've ever left a difficult conversation beating yourself up, questioning your own judgment, or wondering why you didn't say what you meant, this episode gives you the tools to stop that pattern.

About Melissa: Executive Director and Chief Privacy Officer at Kodiak Solutions, Melissa brings decades of experience in technology and healthcare leadership. She is an active mentor to early-career women in tech and a champion of honest, values-driven leadership.

How to Reclaim Your Personal Power When Authority Figures Try to Diminish You