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That's often the issue and the embarrassment that comes. And when you have someone else telling you what it is your history is, or what it is you believe, and obviously in a dark, negative tone, that. That can really cause some emotional damage and it can hurt because, you know, you think to yourself, no, there's no possible way Joseph Smith ever taught or practiced polygamy, because if he did, I would have heard about that in church or in seminary. And, well, you know, you're at the mercy then of whoever's teaching gospel doctrine and whoever your seminary teacher is. And look, nearly every seminary teacher is at some point going to talk about that. That doesn't mean that every one of them are. And so, you know, it's a great question. There's a lot of things to focus on. Let me, let me say two things, the easy part. First, the church has created the Gospel topics essays, which I think were inspired, designed to help do that. These topics were, create, were, were selected, and the church, you know, pushed for their creation and then published them to help people understand the background, both the historical background and controversy surrounding some of these issues. So, for instance, there's a Gospel Topics essay on DNA in the Book of Mormon. Why? Well, because your child is likely at some point to have someone come up to them and say, well, you know, the Book of Mormon's false right, because they proved through DNA that didn't happen. Well, it's possible that your child's never even heard anyone even thinking about doing DNA studies. I'm thinking of my children. They haven't. Right. So the idea behind the essay is, well, what does an actual PhD geneticist say? What can you actually know and what can't you know? And not just what an anti Mormon subreddit says. If you had to figure on the ones, I mean, you could already guess, David, what ones are the most important to at least have a conversation about are the polygamy essays, which there are multiple of them. Nothing's really changed since Brigham Young's time, in the sense that whenever anyone is trying to win an argument with your children surrounding the gospel, the default position will always be polygamy. Because in America or in Canada or in Europe, polygamy is considered so heinous that there's an equation that no one could possibly be righteous or from God if they practice polygamy. The Great irony, of course of that is that the entirety of all monotheistic religions is based upon the descendants and the religion of people practicing plural marriage. So it's a very weird argument that the western world, where western culture overcame the scriptures. It's crazy, right, that you talk to a Protestant. The Bible's all you need. Every word in the Bible. The Bible's all you need. The Bible's all you need. The Bible's all you need. Right up to plural marriage. Then it's like, well, I know it doesn't say in there that plural marriage is a sin, but you know, it is. And that's why it's not commanded in places to do it as part of the old law. I mean, they actually fall all over themselves. Every word in the Bible is inspired by God. Well, why is the law of Moses giving the levert marriage instructions? If polygamy is a sin in the eyes of God, why isn't God saying so? Right? I mean, you know, does God really need to wait for, does he really need to wait for David to have Uriah killed to say, hey David, you're not living the way I want? How about the other 10,000? Well, he doesn't have that many, but other thousand wives you have, right? I mean like the issue where western culture deems polygamy always an evil. Now I'm not saying it's not sometimes an evil. Clearly we believe that there are apostate people that have practiced it in evil. I mean, we are not saying that it's not that it's always good. But for someone to claim that God could never command people to practice it. Is someone saying that the Bible isn't actually all the word of God? There's some parts of it that are, and those are the parts that I care about and those are the parts that I want to do. So plural marriage I think is the one that, you know, obviously maybe you don't want to do that with your 12 year old, but your 16, 17 and 18 year olds who probably, if you're not living in Utah, they've probably already heard these things. So giving them a historical grounding of understanding how was it even practiced and what sources actually exist and what we don't know about it, obviously the restrictions on the temple and priesthood, those are another major thing that you're going to want to cover with them. And again, we have a Gospel topics essay on that that discusses that as well as many other resources on churchofjesuschrist.org There are various things surrounding the first vision. Another thing that will often be brought up as well as the translation of the Book of Mormon. Those are ones that I hear pretty commonly from people who either have questions themselves or are dealing with people who are questioning their faith. Yeah, they said that Joseph Smith totally changed his whole story about the first vision. That. And that just shows that he's lying. I mean, if you spend time explaining there's multiple accounts of the first vision, well, then the shock value of that is pretty far gone. Someone comes up to your child and says, hey, you know that Joe Smith, you know, told different stories about the first vision. Right. They're not going to be, like, shocked. They're going to be like, oh, yeah. Throughout his life, he was asked multiple times about it and he gave multiple different accounts of it, which, of course, aren't all exactly the same because that's not how people talk, you know. So I think I really appreciate, David, what you're trying to do. That's what I would make my. I would use that as my guideline. I know that Richard did something similar. Richard, why don't you tell us how that worked out for you and your family?