
Are we addicted… to revenge? Neil deGrasse Tyson, Chuck Nice, and Gary O’Reilly break down the neuroscience behind revenge-seeking, what motivates violence, and how science can help stop it with James Kimmel Jr., lawyer, psychiatry lecturer at Yale School of Medicine, and author of “The Science of Revenge.”
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Neil deGrasse Tyson
Who would have thought you could be addicted to revenge? I mean, maybe we should have known that, because Hollywood makes big money on.
Chuck Nice
Revenge movies, and I'm gonna get them for that.
Gary O'Reilly
It's been hiding in plain sight.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Coming up, the science of revenge on StarTalk. Welcome to StarTalk, your place in the universe where science and pop culture collide. Star Talk begins right now. This is StarTalk Special Edition. And as always, that means we got Gary O'Reilly. Gary.
Gary O'Reilly
Hey, Neil.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
How you doing, man?
Gary O'Reilly
I'm good.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Former soccer pro.
Gary O'Reilly
Allegedly.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Allegedly. And you're staying in shape? You look good.
Gary O'Reilly
Oh, you're such a liar.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
No, most people by then, you know, they're like, they've just gone to pot, you know? Oh, keep it sucked in. Keep that sucked in. Chuck. Hey, all ready for another episode of Special Edition.
Chuck Nice
Always.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And for those who don't know or remember, this is a spinoff of StarTalk that specializes in all the science that matter to the human condition of mind, body and soul.
Gary O'Reilly
Oh, yeah?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And what did you cook up today for us?
Gary O'Reilly
Well, Lane Unsworth and I, co producing on Special Edition.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
She's our LA office.
Gary O'Reilly
She's in our LA office. And we were offered the chance to investigate the science of revenge.
Chuck Nice
I'll get you both for that.
Gary O'Reilly
Something we should talk about afterwards. So that's where we are today. All of us have likely thought about revenge at one point in our lives, even if it's nothing more than thwarting that squirrel on the bird feeder. I really hate those little. Anyway, moving on.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Wait, wait. Dude, this is Manhattan, New York City. The squirrel on the bird feeder, that's not an image to anybody.
Gary O'Reilly
There are people watching this who do not live in Manhattan.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Spoiler, okay? Because we're here, like at my office in Manhattan at the American Museum of Natural History. Right.
Chuck Nice
You know what's funny is that you just said that to every collective Manhattanite in this city. Because that is the mentality of everybody who lives in Manhattan.
Gary O'Reilly
I know, and I get it. And it's what makes it a fabulous place. Hopefully it's no more than thwarting this so called squirrel and so called bird feeder doesn't exist. But it can and it does get out of control. How does this happen? Why does this happen? Researchers have begun to think of revenge as an addiction. A deadly addiction. Yeah. So what is your brain like on revenge? Is it an addiction and beautiful, big.
Chuck Nice
Beautiful brains all about? I am your retribution.
Gary O'Reilly
I'm sure we'll end up there. If it is an addiction that, by the way, has been hiding in plain sight for most of us, then there must or should be an off ramp. Let's find out. Neil, would you introduce our guests?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
I'd be happy to. We've got James Kimmel Jr. J.D. doctor of Jurisprudence. James, welcome to StarTalk.
James Kimmel Jr.
Thank you very much. I am happy and honored to be here. And ready to roll.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Ready to roll. I like that. He's ready. Let's roll him then. Yeah. I love it.
Gary O'Reilly
He may not have seen the show before.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So you've got a J.D. doctor of Law. But you are not in any law school. You are a lecturer in psychiatry. The Yale School of Medicine up there in New Haven.
Chuck Nice
Look at that.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And a founder of the Yale Collaborative for motive control studies.
Gary O'Reilly
Ooh.
Chuck Nice
Motive control.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
How's that for a euphemism for stop trying to kill people?
Chuck Nice
Not to be conf. Motor control.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That's a different. Very different. And you do research identifying compulsive revenge seeking.
Chuck Nice
Interesting.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
As an addiction.
Chuck Nice
Oh.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Ooh. Yes.
Chuck Nice
Interesting.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right. Cause it's not just a single event in your life.
Chuck Nice
Exactly.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
If you're thinking about it all the time and you can't get it out of your head and. Oh my gosh, that's a whole other thing I got here. You developed the first behavioral addiction model of revenge.
Chuck Nice
Interesting.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And the brain disease model of revenge addiction. So you're in this. We love it. And James has a book out, the science of revenge. That's why he's on this show right now. Yes, that follows previous books. The Trial of Fallen Angels. Ooh.
Chuck Nice
Ooh. Yeah. By the way, that's a case that as a lawyer, every lawyer wants. I am representing Lucifer, your honor. Better Known as God.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah. But will you be the devil's advocate?
James Kimmel Jr.
Oh, yeah.
Chuck Nice
Booyah.
Gary O'Reilly
What else have we got to follow now?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yes. So let's start from scratch here. You come to this field with a JD Degree, Doctor of Jurisprudence. And how do you end up in the Yale School of Medicine with this kind of expertise?
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, that's an interesting story for sure. And maybe the better question is, how did I get to having a JD and then to the Yale School of Medicine?
Gary O'Reilly
Oh, I wish you ever suit.
James Kimmel Jr.
You know, that actually starts when I was in high school. I was raised on a farm in central Pennsylvania.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Farmer.
James Kimmel Jr.
And my. Yeah, I wanted to. Actually wanted to be a farmer when I was a kid. And my parents moved my brother and I out there when I was about 12 as to my great grandfather's farm. And when I got there, I really wanted to befriend the farm kids who lived in the area around me and whose dads were kind of real farmers, because my dad was an insurance agent. Even though we lived on this farm and we had, you know, we had cattle, we had Black Angus cattle, we had pigs and chickens and things, but we weren't making our living from the land. And the guys around me that I wanted to befriend, you know, they weren't having any of this. I was not authentic. Right. So I was the subject of some amount of derision, and I was an outsider.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So you were bullied. Just say it. We have a word for that.
James Kimmel Jr.
I was headed there, but you're ahead of me, and that's absolutely correct. I was bullied for multiple years, up until the middle of high school. And, you know, it was kind of verbal at first, and then it was physical assault and kicking and punching and getting on and off the bus and going down hallways and in the locker room and stuff. So late one night, you know, in the middle of the night, we were asleep, and we awoke, my family and I, to the sound of a gunshot. And we raced to the windows to, you know, look and see what was going on out there. And I saw a pickup truck that belonged to one of the guys that had been harassing me. So I was probably about 16, 17 years old, and it took off down the road. So we checked around the house to see if there was any damage and didn't see anything. One of my jobs every day before going to school and one of my jobs that next morning was to go out and feed our animals, feed the cows and the pigs, and also the sweet little hunting dog, a beagle named Paula. And When I went out to her pen, I found her lying dead in a pool of blood with a bullet hole in her head.
Chuck Nice
Oh, my goodness.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So that was that gunshot?
James Kimmel Jr.
That was the gunshot.
Chuck Nice
Oh, man. I mean, that's just out of pocket. That's so far beyond the pale.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right?
Chuck Nice
That's way beyond bullying at that point.
Gary O'Reilly
So what's your reaction?
Chuck Nice
What happened? Because that's insane.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, it was insane. It was, it was pretty hard to look at that and it was pretty hard to reconcile that with, with reality for a while. But, you know, we called the. We called the state police, that's who patrolled the countryside. And this was, you know, early 80s. They, they weren't very interested in it. I mean, they felt bad, but, you know, it was a dog and they had a lot of, I guess, more important things to do. And so they didn't do anything. And my dad didn't really do anything either because as an insurance agent, he was selling insurance to farmers and really wasn't going to jeopardize all of that over some kind of kids dispute. And so about two weeks later, I was home alone at night. My parents were out somewhere and a vehicle came to a stop in front of our house. We lived along this one lane country road. And I looked out again and saw that it was that same pickup truck. And then there was a flash and an explosion and they blew up our mailbox and sort of shot it into the neighboring cornfield. And that was the moment that shot me sort of into the neighboring cornfield as well. And I had been shooting guns since I was probably 8 years old. We had lots of guns living in the country. And so I ran and I got a loaded revolver out of my dad's nightstand and ran back through the house, jumped out, jumped in my mother's car and took off after these guys through the middle of the night, just like, you know, shouting and cursing at the top of my lungs until I caught up with them and I cornered them by a barn on one of their farms.
Chuck Nice
So you got them cornered now, you got the revolver and wow, what happens?
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, so I had them pinned against a barn. And what I see, you know, I'm in the car and their pickup truck is facing away from me. And so I just see three or four heads lined up in the rear window. And they slowly get out of the truck and they're squinting back in my headlights trying to figure out who had just chased them down their long, you know, gravel drive. And what was clear as they were getting out, as they Were staring into my headlights is they were confused. I had never really confronted them before. I certainly had never chased them down like this. It was my mother's car. Maybe they thought it was her. One thing that was clear to me was they were unarmed. And there was no way for them to know that I had a gun. And that was it for me. This was my moment. This is why I chased them down. And I had put up with years of abuse. Now they'd killed my dog. Now they were blowing up things around our house.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Wait, wait. If they. If they had just blown up your mailbox, how certain are you that they don't have weaponry?
James Kimmel Jr.
Well, let's just say it this way. As they were coming out of their truck, they weren't carrying anything. So maybe they did in the truck, but they didn't have it in their hands. And so I start getting out of the car. I grab the gun, I open the door, I start stepping out. And at this last second, it would have been so easy. And it's exactly what I was wound up to do at this point, was to take them out. But I had this just really quick flash of insight or inspiration, and I could sort of see into my future a little bit. And it became clear to me that if I went through with it, I would be killing the person that I knew, either real or figuratively, you know, either for real or figuratively. And I wouldn't be the same guy that I was before that moment in time. I'd have to know myself as a murderer. And that was just enough of an insight to cause me to stop. I just knew I didn't want to pay that price to get revenge. And that was just enough to. To cause me to pull the door back shut, pull myself back in the car, put the gun back down on the seat, and drive back home. So I came within seconds of committing a mass shooting and all over some bullying and this poor dog. And all because I guess my family were not like theirs. And they saw that as a difference and a bridge too far for them.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Now you know what it's like to be black.
James Kimmel Jr.
Thank you.
Chuck Nice
There you go.
James Kimmel Jr.
That's a fair point. Honestly, That's a fair point.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
You didn't fit in, and you even had the same skin color.
James Kimmel Jr.
Fair point to make.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right?
James Kimmel Jr.
Right. I was the same skin color as they are or were, but I was different. I was in their out group. You know, I was in the out group.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That's all it is.
James Kimmel Jr.
Foreign.
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Chuck Nice
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Neil deGrasse Tyson
So you were imprinted here in a way that shaped your future career.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, so when I got, you know, when I got back home and started to just calm myself down, I guess one thing that was very clear to me is that I had had a gift that night. It could have gone very differently. And it does all the time for lots and lots of people. Many, many, many people. It's two or three seconds between who we think of as the us and who we think of as the them. And so I had a gift. But the other thing I knew is that I really still wanted revenge. It was just increasingly clear that I didn't want to overpay. Right. I wanted the drug. I just didn't want to overpay for it. And over time, this didn't happen that night or in those days right after, but in probably the months or year after, I sort of ran across the idea that I could go into the professional revenge business they call hit men. But, well, no, there's a different profession, and that's to become a lawyer and do it.
Chuck Nice
Oh, that's so true.
James Kimmel Jr.
And do it for. Do it for lots of money and do it legally. Wow. Wow.
Chuck Nice
Well, guess what? You're the kind of lawyer that I want on my side.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yes, you do.
Chuck Nice
Wow.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
You know, I never thought about. Right. Of course. So much of what happens in the courtroom.
Gary O'Reilly
What's the legal brand known as? James.
James Kimmel Jr.
We popularize that with politically correct, polite term we use for revenge. That's the brand name justice.
Chuck Nice
Oh.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah.
Chuck Nice
Ooh. That's a little chilling in a way. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah. You want justice.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Well, so justice is not just in the abstract. It's justice means I'm gonna kick your.
Chuck Nice
Ass in some way. I'm getting my pound of flesh.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yes.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Gary O'Reilly
It's going biblical.
James Kimmel Jr.
Justice is an eye for an eye. And, you know, we do. We call it that.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So justice in this conversation has a whole new meaning to me based on how this. The lead up to how that word was just expressed. And so. Okay, now that's pretty clear how that would manifest in the courtroom. But how do you turn it into a psychiatric study?
James Kimmel Jr.
Right. So. Well, just stick with justice for a second because I think it's really important to think about it this way. But we don't like the word revenge. Sounds too harsh. Nobody really wants to say I want revenge all the time. Certainly political leaders never want to say that. But to say we want to bring the terrorists to justice, that sounds noble. Right? And justice has a noble meaning. The noble meaning of justice is equity, fairness, Martin Luther King justice. Right. This is like the other side of justice, which is an eye for an eye. And we're going to balance the scales by. I'm going to do to you what you did to me.
Chuck Nice
Now I have a dream that one day I'm Gonna kick your ass.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
To bring equality to the landscape. So is it DC Comics as the Justice League?
Chuck Nice
That's correct.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That would sound really different if it.
Chuck Nice
Was the Revengers or the Renz League.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
They would have to be the bad guys.
Chuck Nice
Yeah, they would have to be the.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Bad guys rather than the good guys.
James Kimmel Jr.
All right, well, you got the Avengers, right? And the Avengers are actually revengers. That's what an Avenger is, is somebody who goes out and punishes other people. So they. They kind of COVID both sides of it there. But we don't think of Avengers in that sense as the bad guys. We think of the good. There's the good revenge seekers and the bad ones. That's not really true, but that's what we. That's how we would like to think of it.
Gary O'Reilly
All right, let's drop into your lab.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah, let's. Yeah, yeah.
Gary O'Reilly
What does the brain look like when it's on revenge? Is there a revenge pathway? Are there areas that get lit up specifically? Or is it all. Well, maybe this, maybe that. Have we found those definite areas now?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
The revenge part of the brain.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah.
James Kimmel Jr.
There is not a revenge part of the brain. And that's a fascinating insight. Let me just tell you how it works inside the brain, please. When you're aggrieved, when you get a grievance, which is to say you've been wronged, mistreated, treated unfairly, disrespected, humiliated, shamed, any of those things, that. The pain of that. That grievance. The pain of that grievance is registered in the pain network of your brain. It's actually like a physical. Physical pain, mental pain.
Chuck Nice
That makes sense.
James Kimmel Jr.
And that's called the anterior insula, the pain network. And that activates when you are wronged or have a grievance of any kind. And it also does this. Whether that grievance is real or imagined.
Chuck Nice
Imagined. Right.
James Kimmel Jr.
Which.
Chuck Nice
Which. Okay, if. Please tell me. You will tell me if I'm wrong. But I believe that's the same part of the brain that when someone disagrees with the deep philosophical position that you hold, that area of the brain is activated, which is why it's very difficult to change someone's mind when they feel like you're attacking me for my belief because they're experiencing this same kind of physical pain, whether it's, you know, imagined or not.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Are you asking him that, or are you telling him?
Chuck Nice
I mean, I'm saying it, but I could be wrong. This is just from what I've read, but is that correct?
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, it is. Correct. And it's registered as an attack on their ego. Right. Their identity. Attacks on identity are very painful and threatening.
Chuck Nice
Right, okay.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah. So that's step one is you get the grievance and you get this activation in the pain network, the anterior insula. The next step in the process is that your brain, it doesn't like pain. Right? Our brains do not want pain. And so they want a counterweight and they want pleasure. Right. And what the brain does next, when the pain has been inflicted in this manner. Right. That we've just described as a grievance, is it activates the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction, that is the nucleus accumbens and the dorsal stratum.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And we know a lot. I mean, addiction has been studied for all these other reasons. Right. So it's a ready made platform on which to place this idea.
Gary O'Reilly
It's the justice thing, but this time just the scales of balance.
Chuck Nice
However, normally in addiction. Well. Oh, no, it's. Yes, that's right. So is that still a dopaminergic response? Is it still within that state?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That's a word, dopaminergic.
Gary O'Reilly
It is now.
James Kimmel Jr.
You know what I mean, Chuck? You're right. It is dopaminergic. That is a word. And there is that response in that pathway in the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction there. So there is a dopamine release that comes from beginning to fantasize about, plan, or think about revenge seeking. And then in actually gratifying that desire or that craving to get revenge, which is what follows from the initial dopamine hit. And so we get intense. Humans get. This has been shown repeatedly in study after study. Revenge seeking is highly pleasurable. It's right up there with drug high. It's right up there with sex and chocolate cake and all of those fun things. It's all there.
Chuck Nice
My name is Inigo Montoya. You kill my father, Prepare to die.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That feels good. That feels good.
Chuck Nice
Yeah.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
But you have to be eating chocolate cake and having sex while I'm doing that.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So don't try to imitate that.
Chuck Nice
No, that's why I'm laughing.
Gary O'Reilly
James. Why is it some people's revenge is at a level of extremity that's mind boggling than other people's is by comparison, quite mild? I mean, is there like a menu we pick and choose which revenge category we go for, or is this just chemically dominated?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Hmm, good question.
James Kimmel Jr.
It's not so much that although there is different vulnerability for different people, but for all human beings, revenge is Highly pleasurable. And so you have to move then into the last step of this neurologically, which is the prefrontal cortex, which is your executive function and self control circuitry for addiction. For people who have addiction, which about 20% of people in the population who experiment with drugs or alcohol will become addicted to it, which means 80% of the people will not. But 20% is a big number when you're talking about an entire nation, especially.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Given the consequences of their addiction on the rest of society.
Chuck Nice
And, and if I'm not mistaken, it all. It's not heavily dependent upon, but heavily influenced by what age you start experimenting because your prefrontal cortex is not fully developed. So the hijacking process takes place a lot easier. If I'm correct. I'm not.
James Kimmel Jr.
You are correct. As a matter of fact, you could easily be guiding this conversation. I mean, you've got it right at every point, Chuck. Absolutely.
Chuck Nice
All right, I'm leaving, guys. I gotta go.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Quit while you're ahead.
Chuck Nice
Quit while I'm on top.
James Kimmel Jr.
No, everything is correct there. And that's where I was headed, which is that prefrontal cortex is your last defense between that initial grievance and you carrying out this powerful craving to retaliate against the person who wronged you. And here's another twist to it. Or their proxy. So revenge happens all the time against people, animals, objects, anything that didn't actually inflict that original grievance upon you. If you can't get at the original person, or it would be too dangerous or too inconvenient, you will seek revenge against a proxy. Or if you want to increase the overall damage, like in a mass shooter situation, those are almost always revenge gratification experiences. And they're shooting people that had nothing to do with their initial grievance, but they are viewing them as a proxy. And the gratification is just as strong whether it's a proxy or not. And whether their grievances were real or not.
Chuck Nice
Oh, my God.
Gary O'Reilly
So, James, I'll call it the calculating part of the brain that you exercised as a teenager. When the three guys get out the pickup truck, what's the breakdown when it goes completely wrong as you've just described? Is it the same prefrontal cortex? Is this some chemical that goes on and an imbalance takes place? Or is there another functionality that just tips someone over into that category?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Let me add nuance to that. Are you the kind of person who behaved the way you did, and had you been had different brain chemistry, you would have fired the gun? So Is there a spectrum of responses where you stay within your lane, typically throughout your life?
James Kimmel Jr.
So we don't know enough about it yet to be able to fully answer that, but there are studies that show, for instance, there's a genetic component to it. Some people do have a greater genetic vulnerability to prefrontal cortex dysfunction. That doesn't mean that you can predict that such a person would become violent. There's no research to support that idea. But it does mean that you. You might, under the right circumstances, have greater vulnerability, but those circumstances could be reversed in all sorts of ways. For instance, if you were raised in a peaceful place and taught by your parents and everybody around you about acting nonviolently, and you had all of your needs met and you had a lot to live for, those factors might outweigh any genetic impairment. And you may never act violently, kind of almost no matter what somebody does to you. Although if they really threaten you or your, your family or somebody you care about, you might. It's, it's. And that's the point. It's kind of. It's a natural process. But if there is dysfunction or hijacking, as Chuck said of the prefrontal cortex because of the addiction, then that last wall between you and the violent act is gone and almost nothing will stop you. And we can see, if you look at it this way, between 1 and 2 million people are in prisons today. Let's say a vast percentage of those are for violent crimes. For those people, they, at the moments of their actions, did not have the resources and control in their brains necessary to stop those acts. So we now have now a brain biological, for the first time ever, a brain biological cause of human violence. And that leads to how we can prevent and treat it.
Gary O'Reilly
What is the pathway for that? Once you understand how to reverse engineer that situation, what pathways are available to someone who might be vulnerable to this?
James Kimmel Jr.
Sure. So what can we do? So the first thing that this enables public health officials and mental health providers and other providers to do is, is use the entire addiction prevention and treatment toolkit, but train it on violence and compulsive revenge seeking. So that's something that was not known before, really almost exactly now, by seeing compulsive revenge seeking as an addictive process, we can use things like to start for prevention, public health campaigns and school programs for kids in which we explain the dangers of compulsive revenge seeking and provide kids with resources for that.
Chuck Nice
Fantastic.
James Kimmel Jr.
We don't know that right now. I mean, humanity has not known this for the last 5,000 years. So that's one thing we can do on the treatment side. All of the normal and successful treatment strategies that have been used for addiction and can now be applied to people who are exhibiting signs of compulsive or addictive revenge seeking, including things like cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interviewing, counseling. Maybe there'll be rehabs at some point, 12 step programs, and then even. And kind of maybe the most exciting anti craving medications like naltrexone or GLP1, semaglutide drugs that have been shown to right now in early studies to be able to suppress cravings in other areas.
Chuck Nice
Yeah. This is an absolute vanguard for public health because violence, unfortunately, in this country is not seen as a public health issue, and it is indeed a public health issue. And one of the things that's been found in the treatment of addiction is that community is very important for recovery. So people who are in a very strong family unit, they have a very large support system, and they have people who are there to act as a firewall to recidivism. They tend to be far more successful in their recovery than people who are isolated. So basically, are you running for office? What's that?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Are you running for office?
Chuck Nice
No, but I feel very passionately about this.
Gary O'Reilly
You got another T shirt.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Chuck is like Chuck. But I know, very, very municipal, you know.
Chuck Nice
You know, I've done a lot of reading on this because I feel passionate about it, because, you know, I hate to say this, but in the black community, this is very deleterious.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah.
Chuck Nice
To, you know, especially these are forces that. Are forces that destabilize our community in large cities, primarily. And if we looked at it as a public health issue and we were approaching it in a treatment way instead of a crime and punishment way, we would be far more successful. So I just applaud everything that you're doing. I think it's fricking fantastic.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
I saw some show from the early 60s. It was a crime drama show, and they had a guy who was like a junkie. Right. But they all knew him. And. And. But he finally admitted he was a junkie.
Chuck Nice
What's happening, Roscoe? Man, I'm just trying to make it happen.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
But you know what they did, you know, he's there admittance. They call the cops, and the cops arrested him for his drug use.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And I looked at. I say, whoa, that would never happen today.
Chuck Nice
Yeah. Yes. Thank God.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right, Right. I'm just. Our attitudes are different towards someone who's. Who's seeking help. You don't put him in jail.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Gary O'Reilly
We're getting there.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah. Okay.
Gary O'Reilly
Slowly but surely. So, James, you know, you look at someone, you couldn't tell from the outside rapper that this person might well be a revenge seeker.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
You could, if you study the bumps and on their skull.
Gary O'Reilly
All right, that's.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah.
Gary O'Reilly
Try doing that on a New York subway. See how you get on.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
The phrenologist tried. Okay.
Gary O'Reilly
May I feel your cranium?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
They had an idea. Okay. It was like, total bullshit, but.
Gary O'Reilly
All right. Where I'm going with this is how much of the FMRI investigation is part of your research, and has it been throwing up anything that previously was unknown?
James Kimmel Jr.
As Neil pointed out multiple times, I am a lawyer and not a neuroscientist, so I myself don't do the FMRI work. I've relied for my book, the Science of Revenge, on more than 60 researchers at universities around the world who have been doing this. And those guys, in their studies have been able to reveal these different pathways that I've been explaining that are activating or deactivating inside your brain. And that is what they're able to show. And going back to Chuck's point there, which is really an excellent point, a couple of things. One is putting somebody in jail. Although people need to be isolated, if they're a threat to society, they need to be out of society until they're no longer a threat. But you have to think about it this way. If you try to treat somebody who has a drug addiction by putting them in a cell with piles and piles of coke and heroin, you couldn't expect very much success by doing that. And similarly, if we are going to put somebody in a cell for revenge addiction, their violent behavior, we are essentially doing the same thing because we're punishing them, we're inflicting revenge on them, which is just activ. Pain network, and causing them to want to seek revenge in and out of the jail when they come out. So we are not getting good benefits for it. And on top of it, for every violent crime that you could categorize for the last 50 years, for instance, just in that period of time, in 100% of those cases, the criminal justice system was ineffective by definition in stopping that crime. So we need to go beyond the criminal justice approach. It doesn't mean we have to throw it entirely away, but it needs to be modified a bit. And we need to go beyond it to a public health approach which actually goes to the. The biological root of the problem and start to fix it at that point. And we have the addiction strategies to work and then we have one other amazing strategy to work that neuroscience has recently uncovered, which I'd be very happy to share with you guys.
Chuck Nice
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Gary O'Reilly
All right.
Chuck Nice
Before, by the way, before we go. But isn't the challenge of what you just said the fact that society itself is. Is susceptible to revenge addiction, so when somebody commits a crime, we want to see them punished kind of as our own revenge response?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah.
Chuck Nice
So it's.
James Kimmel Jr.
That is correct.
Chuck Nice
It's difficult for people to say, like, let's, let's try to help this person.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah, it's the blame culture. Yeah, yeah.
Chuck Nice
It's like, no, let's not try to help them. Let's make them pay.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah, yeah.
James Kimmel Jr.
And we all feel good by doing that, right? We feel good when the bad guy gets. Gets his final price. Right. We want that to happen. We want that justice in the form of revenge, and we want it bad all the time before we get to.
Gary O'Reilly
That escalation scenario of revenge. And we will. I think our audience would like to know if any. If there is any difference at all between a psychopath and a revenge seeker.
James Kimmel Jr.
So they could be one in the same person. Psychopaths, though, are different from the rest of us than that. It's been shown in brain studies that they have less empathy than a normal person, maybe down to zero, but they only represent a small percentage, 3 or 4% of the entire human population. So psychopaths are not the majority of people who are committing violent crimes. In the country, a lot of work has been devoted to understanding psychopaths, but it's not really reducing crime rates because they're not the real. They're a problem, but they're not the problem that society is most concerned about. If we focus on the revenge seeking part and revenge addiction, we could actually get at the root of the. Of the true problem.
Chuck Nice
And many of the psychopaths, very special people, very special. You know it. I know it.
Gary O'Reilly
You said something interesting earlier on in our conversation about the real and the imagined. And I'm gonna refer you to something you mention in your book, the Revenge of science. The courtroom of the mind, where the jury, the prosecutor, the witnesses, the judge are all the same person. And this scenario plays out. Can you explain that a lot better than I just did, please?
James Kimmel Jr.
Sure. You did a good job. And it can play a role in both the problem and the solution. Let's just talk about it in the problem side for a minute. Right, so by courtroom of the mind, what I'm referring to there is that, and this goes all the Way back even to Sigmund Freud's observation that we kind of all humans are hourly and daily going through our lives, doing away with the people who get in our way or who insult us. So we're almost always and endlessly obsessively putting other people on trial inside our minds, judging whether they've offended us or not and whether they're guilty, deciding whether they should be punished or not. And then at the end, we have to decide whether we're going to carry out those punishments in the real world or not. And with revenge addiction, the only way to gratify your craving and get that high is actually to harm somebody versus a drug addiction in which you're kind of only harming yourself, if anyone, right? But with revenge addiction, the entire craving process, the behavior that you seek, is harming another person. So let's just talk about the solution side for a minute, because I think that's where you were really going on this, Gary. And the solution side is we talked about the addiction toolkit, and that's available and that's available for public health officials, but the more powerful, more readily available, easier to use strategy for controlling revenge cravings and eliminating the grievances in your life is called, it turns out, forgiveness. And let me tell you what neuroscientists have found recently about forgiveness. It's fascinating. So the first thing that happens when you forgive somebody is that it shuts down that very pain network, the anterior insula that I was talking about, which is the pain of your grievance area in the brain. It turns that off completely when you forgive, which is really important self healing response and strategy that happens at a neurobiological level.
Chuck Nice
So can I just ask you this? Then maybe you can give us a better picture of. Because I've heard this.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
He just described Jesus, forgive them, Father.
Chuck Nice
Forgive them, for they know not what they do. Which of course anybody else hanging there would have been like, yeah, I know what you're doing. I'm up here. You did it. The hell get me down anyway. But can you give a picture of what forgiveness looks like in the mind of the person who's forgiving? Because some people have a very hard time wrapping their understanding around. What do you mean when you say forgive them?
Gary O'Reilly
The family of a child that's just been taken for whatever reason, for whatever scenario, finding forgiveness in those individuals, this.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Is in the court, they have this in the courtroom all the time. There's the person who killed a family member and they're up for parole, or they could be about to be released and they bring in the family.
Chuck Nice
Right.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And this is a scenario ripe for this conversation. Yeah.
Chuck Nice
The family doesn't come in and say, we forgive you. The family comes in and says, this is why you should not be let out. So what does forgiveness look like in the mind of the forgiver?
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah, thank you.
James Kimmel Jr.
It's an excellent question. So in our society, right, we think of forgiveness and the word give, that's part of that. You know that word as meaning somehow a gift to the person who wronged you, right? Absolutely. Isn't true. And we now know that for a fact at the neurobiological level. So forgiveness at the neuroscience level, it only benefits the victim, not the perpetrator. And you don't even need to inform the perpetrator that you're forgiving them to get the benefits. The first benefit that I, I just mentioned was that it stops. You know, it deactivates the pain network so you're no longer feeling pain, but in an authentic way versus when revenge seeking. You're getting a hit of dopamine that's short, short lasting. It feels good for a while and then you're left feeling worse but wanting more. With forgiveness, you're just turning the pain network off entirely. The pain is suddenly gone from your, from your brain, at least for moments after you've forgiven. And if you continue to forgive and that pain stays away up until and through forever, because it just depends on how often you're willing to keep forgiving until the pain never shows back up.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Did you say it does not have an important effect on the perpetrator?
James Kimmel Jr.
It does not have. Forgiveness does not have important psychological benefit for the victim. And what I mean by that is that I don't want to overstate that because I think you're victim and I'm.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Getting this mixed up here. So.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, let me try and set that straight because I think that's a great question. What I'm talking about is the benefits to the person who was victimized. Sure. A perpetrator who hears that they've been forgiven, it might make them feel better for a while. They don't want to feel like a perpetrator forever. So you might be giving them a benefit, but you don't need to do that to get the benefits for yourself that you need to heal.
Chuck Nice
There's the rub. You don't even have to go to them and say, I forgive you.
Gary O'Reilly
No, it's not sharing.
Chuck Nice
You can actually perform the act internally and you get all the benefits of that act being performed the same as if you went to them and said, I forgive you, but you don't even have to give them the satisfaction of knowing that they're forgiven, you know, so you can just be like, you go ahead and suffer, you piece of crap, but I forgive you.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
No, but there are people who become remorseful, right, after having committed crimes. Surely it would boost their remorsefulness knowing that they have been forgiven.
Chuck Nice
Yes, but here's the rub.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
What?
Chuck Nice
They're gonna have to forgive themselves.
James Kimmel Jr.
Wow, Chuck. That's exactly what I was gonna say. Chuck, you're absolutely right. The forgiveness. What do we need for.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
We'll just talk to Chuck. Okay, Chuck, Chuck, what's your next case.
James Kimmel Jr.
That you're going to take? I'm just going to. I'll just get off of this. And Chuck, you can run it because, I mean, you've got it.
Gary O'Reilly
Please don't.
Chuck Nice
No, please don't. Yeah, I'm shooting from the hip, so please.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right, so.
James Kimmel Jr.
Well, your hip shots are fantastic. So what you've got. So there's three things that happen. Let me go over those and then we can talk about it. So the first thing, like I said, is forgiveness deactivates the pain network. The second thing it does is it shuts down the pleasure and reward circuitry of addiction. So no more are you being nagged by these intrusive revenge cravings that are driving you nuts or driving you toward committing a dangerous act. And then the last thing that forgiveness does is it reactivates your prefrontal cortex. It activates your self control circuitry. All of this happens, and it's been shown in studies, by simply imagining that you forgave somebody, you don't have to talk to the wrongdoer, the perpetrator. You don't even have to actually forgive the person. You can just imagine or pretend what it would feel like to forgive them. And you will experience in that moment all three of these things all of a sudden, which usually for most people, they describe that experience as a sense of relief and kind of joy because first of all, the pain's gone. That's very relieving. And then they don't have this craving driving them insane towards revenge seeking and revenge rumination. They're actually healed and it's a real healing. It's not just covering it up with some dopamine.
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Neil deGrasse Tyson
So your views here by you and your colleagues at the School of Medicine, it comes across, at least on the surface, as a very novel way to think about revenge, connecting it with the understanding of addiction. Any new novel idea in science will always have some initial pushback. So did you get such pushback from either psychiatrist or psychologists that would really rather think of it as a singular affliction that needs 300 hours of couch work?
James Kimmel Jr.
Yes, absolutely. So the initial response from some people, even my colleagues at Yale and I don't speak speak for any of them or the School of Medicine. I have to make sure that I'm clear in saying that.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
You don't have to say we'll say.
James Kimmel Jr.
That, you can say that, but I can't say that. And I don't want to put any words in their mouths. But some of my colleagues and academics in other areas, there's been some amount of pushback, but it's rapidly falling away, I'm glad to say. And that's because the evidence here, because this is really based on neuroscientists around the world now who are coming up with the same results in study after study, are starting to see that at a minimum, there does look like, first of all, that people who have a grievance and are contemplating revenge, a, are experiencing for a fact, pleasure that's been studied and shown to be so. B, that they are experiencing some form of driven. Appetitive. Or appetitive, if you say it that way, craving so that they're being driven towards it. And if they are unable to resist that urge despite knowing the negative consequences, and there are almost always only negative consequences with revenge, and they're unable to resist that, that is the definition of addiction. But I will say most academics right now are very uncomfortable using the word addiction the way I'm willing to do it freely. And I think that there's a lot of stigma around the word addiction. And you may have noticed that as the language over time from the American Psychiatric association goes from substance abuser to substance use disorder, there's always a kind of a new, gentler way of saying these things. But I think that addiction is the quickest, fastest way that most people in the general public understand for what this is. And I think the general population are now ahead of academics in terms of reducing the stigma of addiction, knowing that it's not something that we need to punish people for. We need to help them to get out of. And whether it's a substance disorder or whether it's gambling or sex addiction or food, whatever it is, other behavioral disorders, revenge is part of that category. And I think when we call it that, then we're able to. We are now able to bring all of these resources to bear upon it. I'm seeing movement.
Gary O'Reilly
We've talked about the individual. James and I said we'd get there earlier on in the show. What happens when revenge starts to take place on a grander scale? What happens when it's corporate? What happens when, as Chuck was describing, a community's coming together because of a need for justice? Or slash revenge? What then if it becomes a nation's revenge? Is this a different mechanism?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
That's just what happened in 9 11, right? In 9 11. It was like, we need. We want blood in revenge for this. And. And even if no one would admit it to themselves, that's what's driving the whole thing. The whole ramp up and the rise of our military presence in the Middle East.
Chuck Nice
And, And. And. And there are people who can very easily take advantage of that, because right after 9 11, you know, our president stood on the pile of rubble, and he said, I hear you. And the people who did this, they're gonna hear you soon too. And everybody was like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
There it is.
Chuck Nice
And basically it was like we putting together the posse.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Okay, so is it just.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Is it like mob mentality at that level?
James Kimmel Jr.
For sure it is. And it can be. So in my book, I go. I actually kind of trace the course of human history in terms of human atrocities, beginning with, you know, biblical atrocities up through the Roman Empire with their revenge spectacles in the coliseums, to the Inquisition and the witch trials and all of the significant wars that have been fought. And in all of those cases, you can find that at the beginning of those, there was a feeling of offense, there was a feeling of victimization, and that every ultimate warrior and avenger always sees themselves as a victim first, never a perpetrator. And that in every war, World War I, World War II, Vietnam, Ukraine right now, and Russia, Israel and the Palestinians, all of these conflicts, every one of them was the result of nationalized revenge seeking at a compulsive level. And here in America now, and really it's for the whole world, but it started here in America, I think we have a particular vulnerability that self inflicted, we didn't know was coming up until 20 or 30 years ago. And then from that moment all the way back in human history to the time we were apes. Humans have never had to deal with social media and algorithms that would create a platform in which you can cause millions of people to share the same grievance at the same time with the click of a couple of keystrokes. And the same platform that can spread that grievance like a wildfire pandemic also gives every one of those people who are now feeling aggrieved for with the opportunity to gratify their revenge desires instantly by firing back retaliatory digital tweets back and forth and back and forth. And we're just not adapted at all for this environment. And so now we're at this, what feels like a precipice of time in which social, social media is causing America to become a truly revenge addicted nation. And it's a dangerous point for us.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
A social fabric is imploding.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, yeah.
Chuck Nice
And it's funny cause addiction is the perfect word for it. Just look at Hollywood and how many films that we call them action films. Every action film is a revenge film.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah. And in fact, surely you know the first of the John Wick films, right? Yes. Okay. Before they numbered them, they killed his puppy, Right. They killed his dog.
Gary O'Reilly
Heard that story recently.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yes. Where do we hear that story about killing a dog? So they kill a dog and you did not turn into John Wick. But there was the same motivation for thinking about how you did it.
Gary O'Reilly
See, the thing is, what happened to James was real.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yes.
Gary O'Reilly
And therefore that was real to Keanu Reeves. Yes, of course it was. He's not an actor at all. He's a real person. How much of what goes on that drives a revenge is an exaggerated mental construct that would, if it happened to someone else, wouldn't register a bleep all the time.
James Kimmel Jr.
Right. I mean, we see that, we see this. We actually. It even goes further than that. You know, Gary, it goes one step further to people in order to get these hits of dopamine, it seems, will contrive scenarios in which they feel aggrieved, in which they feel insulted, or which they kind of create a scenario in which even other people might agree with them that they should feel insulted, but they've created the circumstance from scratch in order to be able to get that new hit of dopamine. So if you look at. Well, I look at the Stop the Steal movement that happened after Trump lost the election, there was a manufactured grievance there, and literally panels of judges were able to say there was nothing stolen. Those were the results. That was fake news, Right? It was fake news. And yet millions of people believed that they were aggrieved and that this was a serious grievance. Obviously, to steal an election is a big deal. So I can understand why, if that happened, people would be extremely angry about it, except for the fact that it didn't happen, but in their minds, it did. And therefore, we had millions of people all at once on social media screaming that one of their most valuable and important rights had been stolen from them and they needed to do something about it. If you look at I cover, I will have a whole chapter on Hitler, Stalin, and Mao. All three of them were revenge addicts. Extraordinary. And I kind of recount from their childhoods forward where that started to become manifest. And what they were able to do in their nations was to be able to infect their countrymen all with the same grievances over and over again and then give them an outlet for seeking revenge that always empowered themselves. But they used revenge addiction at a national scale to do all of that work.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So the dopamine guarantees an exaggeration of whatever the original cause or justifiable response would have been.
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah, I'm not sure if we know that, you know, that the dopamine gains that, but it does cause people to seek it out and manipulate reality, even in order to get it.
Chuck Nice
So. And that's To Neil's statement, that's the exaggeration. And the reason why you need that is you don't even know it, but you are seeking this pleasurable response that your brain gives you. So even when you're presented with all the evidence in the world that says the election was not stolen, you can't accept that because you need to be aggrieved in order to get your little fix. And so you discount that, and then you go along with, you know, stop the steal.
James Kimmel Jr.
That's right.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
It's diabolical.
James Kimmel Jr.
It is. And that happened in Germany with the stab in the back. I mean, these little phrases that do the grieving and give you the opportunity are there. So the stab in the back myth was what Hitler stated to the German people over and over again for them to feel aggrieved that, you know, people in their society, Jews, other politicians, had stabbed Germany and German soldiers in the back by agreeing to the armistice and the Treaty of Versailles.
Chuck Nice
Oh, man.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
At the end of the first one.
Gary O'Reilly
You've set up a number of programs within the prison system here in the US to help inmates. Is revenge actually curable?
James Kimmel Jr.
Revenge isn't curable because revenge itself is believed to be, by evolutionary psychologists, to be a evolved adaptive strategy that humans began to need, starting maybe as early as the Ice Age. The theory, the dominant theory right now, is that humans evolved a revenge urge and therefore pleasurable experience of revenge seeking at that time because they needed it in order to be able to live in groups and societies. So humans were coming out of the caves, and they were starting to live in community.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Well, why does that mean revenge?
James Kimmel Jr.
Yeah. So to live in community, you need the people in your community to all agree upon and comply with social norms of that society. So that might include things like, hey, don't go and take my wife, or, hey, don't come and take my stash of food.
Chuck Nice
These are all the problems that arise out of groups being together, coming together.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Got it. And you need some way to keep that in check. It's a force to contain behavior that would fall out of the norms necessary to sustain the colony, Right?
James Kimmel Jr.
That's correct. Okay, that's exactly right.
Chuck Nice
So basically, there was a caveman who was just like, we're gonna go down to the quarry and we're gonna get rocks.
Gary O'Reilly
All right, before we wrap, I have one final question for you, James. How likely is science going to be able to not just prevent violent acts, but get to a point where we're able to predict them in advance?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Dude, that was a movie yes, that.
Chuck Nice
Was the movie with the Precogs.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
With the Precogs?
Chuck Nice
What was that?
Neil deGrasse Tyson
The Minority Report? Yes. Tom Cruise.
Chuck Nice
Yes, that's when I had a man crush on Tom Cruise, but he's old now, so I gave him up.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
No, you were just as old as he was. But no. Fine.
Gary O'Reilly
Is the fact going to follow the fiction?
James Kimmel Jr.
Okay, well, right now we can't predict who would become addicted to anything like drugs or alcohol either. So I don't see anything, at least in my area of research, that would lead us to the point easily where we could predict somebody who was likely to commit an act of violence or a type of person. But there are signs that we can use to speed that along in this sense. What I identify, and I'm hoping public health officials will pick up on this, is the idea of revenge attacks being similar to a heart attack, which is in a medical emergency. So with a revenge attack, you've got somebody who is now heading into the throes of serious revenge seeking. Maybe they've already moved towards planning. They've identified a target. They have potential access to weapons or are amassing weapons. When we start to see these types of signs, and they're always talking about a grievance or grievances, and they're always ruminating on this and obsessed with it, and they're letting it interfere with their lives. Those are signs that we can start to think about.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And your legal profession holds that as the most severe form, if murder is committed, the most severe form of homicides, premeditated murder. Ah, yes, that's, you know, the planning and the execution.
Gary O'Reilly
This is where family.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And you're coming as an attorney, you're unraveling that into something that's bio. Neurological.
James Kimmel Jr.
That's right. Right. Yeah. We now know what's happening inside the brain of that same person, which we didn't know before. What's happening inside the brain doesn't exculpate them in any way. This isn't about creating legal defenses. I mean, if whatever your actions are.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Well, you guys came up with a twinkie defense, so tell me there's not a defense in this.
James Kimmel Jr.
All right, somebody will try, but I am not supportive of that idea. When you. Somebody who commits a crime out of or, you know, while addicted is still guilty for the crime, it's not recognized as a legal defense. And I don't think that's ever going to be, you know, but it can be recognized as a health issue. And if we are trained and we know ourselves, if that's happening to us, or somebody that we see. We could call 911-389-88 and start getting that person medical assistance like we would for somebody in the throes of a heart attack before there's a death or an act of violence.
Gary O'Reilly
This is family members. This is community looking out for each other if they see something.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Knowing the signs.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yes.
Gary O'Reilly
Being aware because the tragedy is however many signs.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah. The kids show up to school and only after that they say, oh, look.
Chuck Nice
We found the room.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Yeah. Yeah, that's a little too late.
Chuck Nice
We see the signs. The signs were there all the time. That's what they say. The signs were there all along, dude.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Give us a happy thought now, please. As we wind out the show, the.
James Kimmel Jr.
Fantastic news here, and it really is fantastic, is that simply imagine forgiveness when you're in pain, feel that pain go away. That's all you need to do to get on the road to healing yourself and avoiding doing something horrific like committing a violent crime. It's really that powerful. I mean, they're sort of. Now, we should be thinking about it as scientific support for the ancient forgiveness teachings of people like Jesus and the Buddha and Lao Tzu. And forgiveness isn't anything other than a superpower for humans. It really is a human superpower for healing yourselves. And you ought to take advantage of it as often as you can because it's free. You don't need a doctor. You don't need a prescription.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Okay.
Chuck Nice
There you go.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Very good. And the book. I so look forward to that being a bestseller. Any book that can make society safer and more pleasing place to live needs to be up there.
Chuck Nice
Absolutely.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
The Science of Revenge.
James Kimmel Jr.
Science. And you know the tagline, the subtitle of this book, the Science of Revenge, is Understanding the World's Deadliest Addiction and How to Overcome It.
Chuck Nice
Nice. Right on.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Right up to the national level, as you brought up there. Well, I'd like to sort of land this plane with the little cosmic perspective I might offer our audience with this discussion of addiction being an ailment that can be applied to revenge. Oh, my gosh. I'm reminded of how many things used to be just blameworthy of people's conduct that we came to understand and have sensitivity to and realize that it is a problem of society and of our neurochemistry. And when you look at it that way, we all are accountable for the behavior of the one. And that's a different world that I'd like to think we're evolving towards. And that's a cosmic perspective. So, Sir James, thank you.
James Kimmel Jr.
Thank you. All three of you. What a great conversation. And appreciate it.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
And this will come out. I mean, just because of the time it takes to edit this right around when your book comes out. So your publicist was right on time with this. And best of luck. You need a little bit of luck, too, when you're selling books.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah, just get Jimmy Kimmel to endorse it.
James Kimmel Jr.
That's what I need. That's really what I need.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
No, you just need us. We're the ones who put you on the list.
Gary O'Reilly
Yeah.
James Kimmel Jr.
The fact that you guys are here is a big deal. So I'm really honored to be part of your show and to meet all of you. And just you're all. I mean, not only are you hysterical, but extremely bright. And that's a rare combination right there.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
Excellent. And let this live uniquely in your portfolio of interviews that you do for the book.
James Kimmel Jr.
It shall do.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
So that's all the time we have. That's all the time we needed to really figure that one out.
Chuck Nice
Whoa.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
This has been another episode of StarTalk Special Edition. Gary, Chuck, always good to have you on.
Chuck Nice
Always a pleasure.
Neil deGrasse Tyson
All right, until next time. I bid you to keep looking up.
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Podcast Information:
The episode kicks off with Neil deGrasse Tyson introducing the intriguing topic: the science of revenge. Tyson posits that revenge isn't merely an emotional response but may be deeply rooted in our neurological framework, potentially classifying it as an addiction.
Neil deGrasse Tyson [01:02]: "Who would have thought you could be addicted to revenge? I mean, maybe we should have known that, because Hollywood makes big money on revenge movies."
James Kimmel Jr., a psychiatrist with a J.D. from Yale School of Medicine, shares a harrowing personal experience that underscores the episode's theme. Raised on a farm in central Pennsylvania, Kimmel narrates how prolonged bullying led him to a brink where he nearly committed a violent act of revenge.
James Kimmel Jr. [07:19]: "I was bullied for multiple years, up until the middle of high school. It was verbal at first, then physical assaults..."
Kimmel recounts a devastating night when a gunshot killed his beloved hunting dog, Paula, and soon after, an attack on his family's property heightened his urge for retaliation. However, at the critical moment, a profound realization prevented him from committing murder, illustrating the brain's capacity for self-control even amidst intense anger.
James Kimmel Jr. [10:35]: "I came within seconds of committing a mass shooting... But a quick flash of insight caused me to stop."
Delving into the neuroscience, Kimmel explains how revenge activates specific brain regions associated with pain and pleasure, akin to addictive substances.
Neil deGrasse Tyson [20:17]: "The revenge part of the brain."
James Kimmel Jr. [20:19]: "There is not a revenge part of the brain... The pain of grievance is registered in the pain network."
This neurological pathway illustrates why revenge can be as compelling and hard to resist as substance addictions.
Understanding revenge as an addiction has profound implications:
Individual Level: Recognizing revenge as an addictive process allows for applying addiction treatment strategies—such as cognitive behavioral therapy and motivational interviewing—to help individuals overcome revenge-seeking behaviors.
James Kimmel Jr. [30:18]: "All of the normal and successful treatment strategies that have been used for addiction can now be applied to people who are exhibiting signs of compulsive or addictive revenge seeking."
Societal Level: Addressing revenge on a community or national scale involves shifting from punitive measures to public health approaches, emphasizing prevention and treatment over punishment.
Chuck Nice [31:18]: "This is a vanguard for public health because violence, unfortunately, in this country is not seen as a public health issue, and it is indeed a public health issue."
Kimmel advocates for forgiveness as a potent tool to combat revenge addiction. Neuroscientific studies indicate that forgiveness can deactivate the brain's pain network and suppress the desire for revenge, leading to emotional healing without harming others.
James Kimmel Jr. [40:17]: "Forgiveness shuts down that very pain network, the anterior insula... It only benefits the victim, not the perpetrator."
Additionally, embracing a public health framework allows society to implement education, prevention programs, and supportive treatments to address revenge addiction similarly to substance abuse disorders.
Chuck Nice [31:56]: "In the black community, this is very deleterious... If we approached it as a public health issue, we would be far more successful."
The conversation extends to how revenge manifests on larger scales, such as in wars, terrorism, and societal conflicts. Kimmel traces historical and contemporary events, illustrating how collective grievances amplify revenge-driven behaviors, often leading to escalation and widespread violence.
James Kimmel Jr. [55:04]: "Every war... was the result of nationalized revenge seeking at a compulsive level."
The role of social media in modernizing and intensifying revenge seeks is also examined, highlighting the dangers of rapidly spreading grievances that fuel collective revenge impulses.
The episode concludes with a call to action: transforming societal attitudes towards revenge from punitive to therapeutic. By understanding revenge through the lens of neuroscience and addiction, society can foster healthier responses to grievances, ultimately reducing violence and promoting healing.
James Kimmel Jr. [65:44]: "Imagine forgiveness when you're in pain, feel that pain go away. That's all you need to do to get on the road to healing yourself and avoiding doing something horrific like committing a violent crime."
Neil deGrasse Tyson [66:13]: "Our attitudes are different towards someone who's seeking help. You don't put him in jail."
Kimmel emphasizes forgiveness not only as an emotional release but as a neurobiological remedy that benefits the individual without necessitating confrontation with the perpetrator.
James Kimmel Jr. [05:00]: "You developed the first behavioral addiction model of revenge."
Chuck Nice [17:23]: "Well, I think that's the kind of lawyer I want on my side."
James Kimmel Jr. [43:30]: "Forgiveness at the neuroscience level only benefits the victim... You don’t need to inform the perpetrator."
James Kimmel Jr. [51:20]: "Revenge addiction is causing America to become a truly revenge addicted nation."
Chuck Nice [64:45]: "We see the signs. The signs were there all the time."
Revenge as an Addiction: Neuroscience reveals that revenge activates brain regions associated with both pain and pleasure, making it an addictive behavior.
Personal Impact: James Kimmel Jr.'s personal story illustrates the intense struggle between the urge for revenge and the ability to exercise self-control.
Public Health Approach: Viewing revenge through an addiction lens allows for the application of addiction treatment methodologies to mitigate violent behaviors.
Forgiveness as a Solution: Neuroscientific evidence supports forgiveness as a powerful tool to deactivate the brain's pain network and reduce the compulsion for revenge.
Societal Implications: Collective revenge impulses, amplified by social media, can lead to large-scale violence and societal conflicts, necessitating a shift in how grievances are addressed.
Paradigm Shift Required: Transitioning from punitive measures to therapeutic interventions can lead to a safer and more harmonious society.
This episode of StarTalk Radio offers a profound exploration into the neuroscience of revenge, blending personal narratives with scientific insights to propose innovative solutions for a pervasive human behavior. By framing revenge as an addiction and advocating for forgiveness, the discussion underscores the potential for societal transformation through understanding and compassion.