Stavvy’s World #155 - Demi Adejuyigbe (November 17, 2025)
Episode Overview
In this lively, laughter-filled episode of Stavvy’s World, comedian and musician Demi Adejuyigbe joins host Stavros Halkias and co-host Eldis for a deep-dive hangout. Touching on topics from the chaos (and comfort) of communal living, the joys of baking, cultural upbringings, comedy movies, friendship dynamics, family obligations, relationship anxieties, and the darkly hilarious state of American politics, the trio brings their trademark blend of heartfelt honesty and razor-sharp silliness. Listener voicemails get the crew’s signature blend of empathy, commiseration, and roasting.
Main Themes & Talking Points
1. Roommate Woes, Baking Obsessions, and 'Domestic' Turf Wars
Communal Living & “Bad Roommates”
- The group reminisces about the universal struggles of apartment living:
- How one person letting dishes pile up can change the whole vibe (“I truly was...the bad element in every single apartment I’ve ever—” Eldis, 02:31).
- Stav and Demi commiserate about being “worse roommates” in the kitchen, especially when cooking a lot means making a mess.
- Demi shares the horror of having a roommate reorganize the kitchen without consulting him—“Oh no, you need to move out.” (05:08).
Baking as Therapy
- Demi describes how he took up baking “for control” during the pandemic, likening it to “microdosing control” (04:49).
- Baking fruit pies—especially a legendary mango pie with graham cracker or gingersnap crust—became both a creative outlet and a way to connect with others (“That’s now a recipe in the New York Times...I’ve got it down, it’s in my brain.” Demi, 07:31).
- The group jokes about the fine line between doing something out of love and just being obsessed (“If he writes you 300 sonnets, he loves sonnets.” Stavi, 10:09).
“I felt like that’s the closest I’m gonna get to feeling like how a mother feels, where she’s like, ‘You don’t appreciate anything I do, you little shit.’”
— Demi (05:51)
2. Cultural Upbringings, Family, and Where to Raise Kids
Culture, College, and the Immigrant Experience
- Demi shares his Nigerian-Texan upbringing and how large immigrant communities form via family, college, and church (14:16).
- Conversation shifts to how cultural values impact career choices and family life (“With black and African communities…you have to go to college. Past that, you’ll figure it out.” Demi, 16:07).
Community & Religion
- Stav and Demi debate the pros and cons of raising kids in big cities versus having a strong ethnic/cultural community—do you lose and gain different things in each scenario? (19:22)
- Church as a community anchor, less for belief, more for social structure—Stav reflects on wanting kids to “figure it out for themselves.”
Do You Want Kids?
- The conversation turns personal as the hosts reflect on their desire (or not) to become parents and the appeal of being a “fun uncle” instead (20:54).
3. Friendship, Gender Dynamics & Dating Realities
Being ‘A Girl Dad’ vs. The Bro Crew
- Demi admits he’s “destined to be a girl dad” and has always found it easier to click with women as close friends (26:41).
- Stav relates his own lifelong comfort with bro friendships and how “being dumb as shit with your bros” is uniquely comforting (27:43).
- Both reflect on the pitfalls of learning (too late) that “being friends first” is usually a losing strategy in dating (32:00).
"It's like girls are video games: I put in enough time, I've nice’d her 15 times, then they give me pussy."
— Stavi (32:44)
4. Comedy Movies, Success & Perspective
Movie Nostalgia
- The group nerds out about their favorite comedies (“Hot Rod,” “Night at the Roxbury,” “Ocean’s Eleven”), the strange construction of SNL movies, and the joy of watching not-so-great comedies in a group (45:11).
- They praise “Night at the Roxbury” as an underappreciated classic—and laugh about Will Ferrell being the supporting star to Chris Kattan (47:01).
- The resurgence (for better or worse) of parody films, and debate over which vibes are coming back in comedy (40:46).
Making It—Or Not
- Demi and Stav reflect on how their own careers have outpaced their early dreams (“I just wanted to headline shitty comedy clubs…It’s been surreal to be like, what do I do now?” Stavi, 51:34).
- The stress of social media, public perception, and not fitting the classic “I made it” mold (53:40).
5. Listener Advice Calls (Timestamps Below)
Cheating Friend Dilemma [58:01]
- Listener’s friend cheated, bragged about it, and then the girlfriend came to the listener’s partner devastated.
- Consensus: Callers should confront friends about sleaziness, especially when it’s so egregious. Silence isn’t virtuous.
“If a guy comes to you being like, ‘Pretty cool, huh?’—your gut is to just let it go, but you gotta be honest, like, ‘I don’t know, I don’t think this is cool.’”
—Demi (62:06)
Family Obligations Overload [66:45]
- A woman is overwhelmed by her boyfriend’s constant family gatherings and wonders how many she “has” to attend.
- Key advice: Find what’s truly expected. Communicate with your partner about what’s important, and negotiate attendance—don’t be guilted by the family’s “culture” (72:45).
Proposal Cold Feet [74:50]
- A 25-year-old man, together since college, is nervous about “never being with someone else” as he shops for engagement rings.
- Demi and Stav validate “cold feet” as normal—finding other people attractive doesn’t mean you’re making a mistake, but check your real reasons for proposing (77:21).
When Politics Break Friendships [81:09]
- Caller is politically left, friend is MAGA, wants him to join ICE (!). The tension causes rifts.
- Stav and Eldis: Cut people out when it becomes demeaning or beyond debate; but give people a chance before writing them off (85:39).
“How Weird is Too Weird on Dates?” [93:25]
- Caller wonders how much to let their freak flag fly right away on dates.
- Demi: Be authentically yourself—a freaky date is “high risk, high reward.” Stav: But maybe save your weirdest bits for later, so you don’t “hit everyone with…guns blazing” (98:23).
Bonus: The Cartoon Porn Callback [100:04]
- A previous caller, roasted for liking “cartoon thirst traps” on Instagram, calls back—Stav and Demi lovingly roast him again, but urge honesty about desires (101:32).
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On Baking and Control:
“It gives me—I keep saying—it’s like microdosing control, where I’m just like, I have a task...”
— Demi (04:49) -
On Partner’s Cleaning Without Asking:
“Oh, no, you need to move out.”
— Demi (05:08) -
On Making It In Comedy:
“It’s nice being old and mediocre and not really giving a fuck.”
— Stavi (51:19) -
On Meeting Your Heroes’ Timeline:
“You hear about a 22-year-old starring in a FOX show and you’re just like, god damn it, I’m really fucked up. Nah, you’re not.”
— Demi (50:40) -
On Dealing with a Friend’s Cheating:
“At the end of the day, you want honesty from your friends—even if it means telling them ‘this thing sucks.’”
— Demi (64:29) -
On High-Risk Dating Vulnerability:
“The best way to date—the times I’ve ever had the best date, has always been like: be fucking crazy.”
— Demi (97:31) -
On Cartoon Instagram Follows:
“The fact you felt the need to call back and be like, ‘Stop saying I jack off to cartoons’…”
— Eldis (101:32)
Key Voicemail Segments & Timestamps
- [58:01] — Cheating Friend Dilemma
- [66:45] — Family Obligations Overload
- [74:50] — Cold Feet About Proposing
- [81:09] — Political Rift with Friend (ICE)
- [93:25] — Dating and When to Show True Weirdness
- [100:04] — Cartoon Instagram Callback
Takeaways & Tone
This episode delivers Stavvy’s World at its best: honest, hilarious, sometimes profane, and always a little heartwarming beneath the goofball energy. Demi fits in beautifully—quick-witted, open, and slightly self-deprecating about his baking, his upbringing, and his own weirdness. Advice is given with clarity, wisdom, and plenty of laughter (“We’re not anti-cheating, but we are anti-bragging about it!”). And at every turn, the crew isn’t afraid to roast both themselves and their listeners—but always with a big-hearted wink.
Side note: Demi’s new special “Demi the Ju Bay is Going to Do One Backflip” is out (or about to drop) on Dropout.