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My client book the most. Get ready. Oh my God, you guys do a pack my bag. I recently opened up on TikTok about becoming a mom and the amount of love and support that I've received from all the comments of women. It has been so overwhelming and so incredible. It was a really hard thing for me to share, like, not only because I wanted to keep them safe, but because I feared the judgment that I would get from being a sex worker and a mother. Unfortunately, there's so much stigma still around sex workers, so because I wanted to keep them safe, like, I chose to keep them offline. And there were certain people that thought that it was their story to tell that I had children. They thought it was their T or whatever. So I decided to come out and share my story because I didn't want, you know, their assumptions of me. You know, they were saying that I was a bad mother because I didn't show my kids online. Or like, she obviously doesn't have her kids or she doesn't have custody. Like, the most wildest speculations you could think of. They were all saying it in those comments. So I decided to share my side of the story and why I keep them private. I think a lot of sex workers can agree with me that we don't talk about our private lives to our clients or to anyone for that matter, because it risks people invading your privacy. And not only am I a sex worker, but I do have a pretty large following. So it just stressed it even more to keep that side of my life private. Sex workers get stalkers. They get people showing up to their house all the time. Like, this happens on a daily to so many sex workers. So that's why we stress keeping it private, I guess. Like, so the reason why I shared that TikTok video and opened up with you guys is so about six months ago, I saw a thread online of people discussing my children. They were literally sharing information that was just absolutely ridiculous. They were asking. People were asking for photos of my children, asking what they looked like, their ages. Like, I just. It really saddened me to see that. It disgusted me. Gave me such an icky feeling that people were discussing children online like this. And so that was like, I sort of knew that one day it was probably going to come out. But when I saw that and I just saw how people were reacting from knowing that I had kids, that completely took me off. Like, it completely put me off sharing my private stories because of that. And then literally, like two days ago, my friend Girth Master sent me a video of like someone on TikTok discussing the tick Tock itself wasn't to do with me, but the comments were saying about that I had kids and people putting in their two cents about what they thought of me as a mother, saying that obviously I don't see my kids or I don't spend time with them because I decide not to show them on my sex work at Tick Tock, which I just, I was gobsmacked to see. And then also I had Facebook, like mums groups and gossip groups literally sharing private information about my kids and myself pretty much doxxing me, which was such a surprise to me because I guess like on my platform I'm all about women supporting women. And to see that women were putting their fucking tea in front of children's safety, like that just broke my heart. It really, it really broke my heart to see that like my children's lives aren't your tea. That's not something to be discussed. I shouldn't have to tell this side of my story, but because people wanted to see the drama, they wanted to see the tea. Now I'm here talking about it. So I was also scared of the judgment. I'm still a very anxious, I'm a very anxious person. So I struggle day to day with the judgment. Whether it's like the fear of, you know, being at school and someone recognizing me or just being out in public with the kids and someone recognizing me, I live in a constant state of anxiety from it. I've even had recently when this stuff was coming out about me having children, I had someone literally take a photo of me and my kids in public, which is so fucked up. And I'm sure like people would have seen that shit around the mums groups basically. Like not many people know this but because I've never shared it before, but the reason why I started sex work was for my kids because I never thought like being from a small town and a lot of the time like the people I was around, we didn't have like, like huge ambitions or goals or anything like that. And so I never thought I'd be able to like provide a comfortable lifestyle for my family. And when I started sex work and seeing the money that it could make like once in my life, I was like, wow, I can actually I could create such a beautiful lifestyle for my family. When my ex partner and I fell pregnant, we had no money. Like it was just literally no money. Like he was studying in uni and I didn't have a job. Like I had recently moved to Australia. And we were so fucking broke. But, like, we were so broke, but we always said that we would make it work. We fell pregnant pretty young, and it was not the most ideal situation. Like, obviously we were had no money, but we loved each other. So we were like, let's fucking do it. And if it doesn't work out, it's okay. We're still going to be positive role models for the kids. Our thinking has not changed from the time we met to now. Like, we've always put the kids first no matter what. So even though we were like, I mean, we're both pretty impulsive, so when we found out we were pregnant, we were like, yeah, like, fuck it, let's just do it. Like, you know, we had, like, we shared the same values and morals. Like, we were, like, so infatuated with each other. We're like, let's do this. Like, we can raise beautiful children. So, yeah, we always struggled with money. We always struggled. And it got to a point where the relationship no longer worked. But we always said, we're gonna keep it working for the kids if it's positive. If it's positive. Like, if it works for us, then we'll keep it. So, yeah, I started sex work. And basically, like, my thinking was, with the way things are going, the way the world is, like, my kids might never be able to buy a house. They might never be able to have a comfortable living. So my goals when I started was to set up for their future, to buy them a house each because, like, I never thought I would be able to do that. And then I had this opportunity where I could make so much money, and I was like, I am just going to try and milk that as much as I can and been incredible. Like, it's given me time with the kids. Like, I'm so fortunate that I don't have to work a 9 to 5 and I can be there for the extracurricular activities and for the games and things like that. It's a struggle socially, it's a struggle for me because I'm a very anxious person and I'm afraid of what people are thinking and stuff like that. But I've never let that come in the way of the kids wanting. Like, I've never let that come in the way of what the kids want to do. Like, if they want to go to some social event and I'm just like, if they want to go to a party, they want to do this. Anything they want to do. I'm like, yep, like, it doesn't matter how I feel it doesn't matter if like, you know, the thought of me being like, I know everyone here knows who I am, like, I don't care. I will just go there for them. But because their happiness is what's most important at the end of the day, I feel like a lot of judgment that you get from being a sex worker and a parent is a lot of people will say, like, oh, what are you gonna do when your kids grow up and they find out you're a sex worker? Like, I wanna say first of all, like, you do obviously, like you have no idea, like what our relationship is. Like, we are so close. I teach them to not be judgmental. I teach them love, I teach them kindness, empathy. They are the most kind. Like, they're the kindest kids like I've ever met. And I'm not just being biased, they are. But because I've always taught them to love people for who they are, like, no matter what their situation. And that's the kind of person I am. So I felt like, and the same with my partner, ex partner. So I felt like that that's just really aligned with them. And I think like, people care so much about what my kid, like if my kids are going to get bullied for it, like, how about teaching your kids, like, not to be judgmental because like, it's not my kids that are the problem, it's the other kids. Thank you so much, Hideaway, for sponsoring this episode of Storytime with Kayla Jade. You can get 10% off if you use my code Storytime on their website they have perfumes, lubes, mousses and so much more. So much good smelling products. I love it. I love something smelling good. Thank you, Hideaway. You'll find the link to their website in the show notes. I knew that I always wanted to be a mum. I just always felt like such a connection to motherhood, even in pregnancy. Like, I just loved being pregnant. Like, I just remember being like, I just love having a baby inside me when I was pregnant. When I first found out I was pregnant, like, I was so happy. Like me and my ex partner, we were so happy. We both wanted to be parents. I remember the day that we found out, like, this is so like naive we were. But we literally like went to like a Toys R Us and was like, we went and like bought some toys because we were so excited and like I just always felt like such a connection as a mother. Like being pregnant, being even though I was like sick throughout my pregnancy, I just loved being pregnant. I loved the feeling of, like, the baby and everything. And I was a bit of a hippie back then, and I like, even, like, I didn't take any medication. I had, like, I had them completely natural. I had no drugs at all. I was like, I cannot poison this baby. Like, I, like, didn't take anything, even though people wanted me to. Like, they were like, oh, you should get it every day. I was like, no, no, I'm not getting it. And I had them completely natural. I remember, like, even. This is so funny, but, like, I remember even, like, taking them home from the hospital and I was like. Like, trying to, like. Like, I just hated them being out, like, in the pollution, because it was just, like, the air is just, like, so, like, you know, you could smell, like, people smoking and the cars driving by. I was like, don't pollute my baby. Like, keep it safe. And. Yeah, I've always just been very protective of my children. And I think, as well, I just. I get. I get really triggered by anything. Like, any story about, you know, something happening to a child. I don't know if it's my ADHD or if it's the fact that I'm a cancer or something, but, like, if I hear a story like that, I will hold onto it in my head and I will constantly think about it. And I, like, I just feel so much pain for if a child goes through, something breaks my heart. So that's why I've just always been so protective of my children. I think, like, when my kids look back on their life, they're not gonna look back thinking, like, oh, mum was a sex worker. They're gonna look back and think of all the wonderful memories that we've had together, all the trips that we've been on, everything that I've been able to provide because of my work, the time, the care. Like, just being a present mother is so much. And I think that is so much more than what you do for work. And I think, as well, sex work is just trending more and more. It's becoming more positive. It's. The stigma has. Yes, there's still much stigma, but it has come a long way, especially in the last five, 10 years. It's actually been a really nice feeling, like, getting this off my chest and sharing this with you guys, because I know that I have such an incredible support network of women who cheer me on. So, like, I feel like we've gotten even closer now that I share that part of my life with you, even though it didn't go in the way that I wanted to, like, I'm still, it still feels nice like getting that off my chest and not have to worry about, you know, someone seeing me and my kids or like talking about it online. Like, I've been able to share my story with you guys. So that makes me super happy. I guess going forward, like, I would still like to talk about this incorporated a bit, but obviously, like, for privacy reasons, like, I'm not going to share details of my children. That's just something that's really important to me. So I hope that, like, lot of you respect that boundary that I do have because the page, the TikTok, it always has and always will be about sex work and about my journey, not like my kids journey. Like, this is new. This is a new venture. I'm really excited to be on this journey with you guys and see where it takes us.