Style-ish: The Wedding Series – Our Biggest Wedding Regrets
Host: Shameless Media
Episode Date: April 2, 2026
Special Guest: Jasmine Wallace
Episode Overview
This episode of Style-ish is part of their three-part Wedding Series, focusing on "Our Biggest Wedding Regrets." Hosts Rhiannon Joyce and Jo Fleming welcome recent bride and writer, Jasmine Wallace, for an honest, insightful, and often funny conversation about what they wish they had done differently on their big days. The episode explores personal experiences, audience poll results, and listener stories, with a tone that is equal parts candid, empathetic, and practical. The aim is to normalize the experience of having wedding regrets, provide advice for future brides, and encourage everyone to stay true to themselves amid the pressures of modern wedding culture.
Table of Contents
- Meet the Hosts and Guest
- Jasmine’s Wedding: The Essentials [03:01]
- Wedding Regrets: Weather Woes and Backup Plans [08:35]
- Other Common Wedding Regrets: Photos, Timelines, and The Veil [18:11]
- Audience Poll: Most-Common Wedding Regrets [26:00]
- Wedding Party Dilemmas [28:09]
- Wedding Dress Choices [34:34]
- Spending, Eloping, and Family Drama [36:30]
- Advice & Words of Wisdom [40:12]
- Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
Meet the Hosts and Guest [00:32]
- Hosts: Rhiannon Joyce (“Ri”) and Jo Fleming (“Jo”)
- Guest: Jasmine Wallace, podcaster and writer, married in November 2025
- All three have been recent brides, bringing real, up-to-date experiences.
- Theme: Normalizing wedding regrets, sharing learnings, and reading out listener contributions.
- “Regrets are normal. It doesn't mean your day wasn't perfect. It doesn't mean it wasn't incredibly special to you.” – Ri [02:28]
Jasmine’s Wedding: The Essentials [03:01]
- Style: Intimate garden wedding, 47 guests, heritage cottage in inner Melbourne.
- Dress: By Honeymoon the Labels—ensemble with bodice, long sleeve shirt with floral trimmings, and veil with embroidered flowers.
- Intention: Stay authentic, avoid excessive social media pressure, focus on people and real experiences.
- Guest List: Kept small due to budget and desire for meaningful, quality time, especially with international family.
- Special Touches: Scottish elements (kilts), bagpiper, hand-picked photographer, emotional significance for family.
- “It was just like looking around this room at the dinner candle at dinner and seeing all of your best friends. And…a full circle moment of going through all of this kind of hardship to get where you are on your wedding day.” – Jasmine [06:18]
Wedding Regrets: Weather Woes and Backup Plans [08:35]
Jasmine’s Story
- Main Regret: No proper wet weather contingency.
- Planned an outdoor ceremony and reception, denied the possibility of rain right up to the day before.
- Actual Weather: Coldest Melbourne November day in 80 years.
- Reaction: Bursts into tears, feels grief as her plans changed last-minute.
- “I was being so delusional and so naive. And I guess that's what I regret, right?” – Jasmine [09:15]
- Venue had a backup inside, but it was not part of her dream. Eventually, had to hold both ceremony and reception indoors.
- Supported by her partner in her disappointment, ultimately found comfort in the day’s emotional core.
- “It wasn't until I walked down the aisle and I saw Lori that I was like, nothing else matters.” – Jasmine [14:38]
Rhiannon’s Experience
- Weather threatened her ceremony, but she bet on a brief window of sun—thanks to compulsive weather app monitoring (even used ChatGPT to amalgamate forecasts).
- Arrived early to ensure ceremony happened in the dry, succeeded in getting outdoor ceremony.
- “I was adamant that we were going to have this 45 minutes of sunshine. …I was like, well, get them fucking seated.” – Ri [15:44]
Jo’s Experience
- Jo was luckier, with rain before and after her outdoor wedding but clear skies for the ceremony and reception.
- Credits hiring an “Etsy witch” for good weather.
Other Common Wedding Regrets: Photos, Timelines, and The Veil [18:11]
Timelines and Missed Portraits
- Jo regrets poor time management: ended up rushed before ceremony, missed many family & friends portraits.
- “I missed all of this portion of time to have portraits with my family and my close friends… one of my regrets is that I missed out on having those portraits taken that I really wanted.” – Jo [19:13]
- Jasmine had similar regrets—by not doing a first look, and due to rain and tiredness, didn't get enough variety in portraits.
- “It was literally like, okay, parents in, sister in, like, really fast. There was no variety of the portraits…” – Jasmine [23:41]
The Veil
- All the hosts experienced veil-related stress—putting it in, wanting to ditch it, or getting photographers to do it last minute.
- “There was four people trying to put it in, couldn't work it out.” – Ri [20:58]
- Jasmine, Jo, and Ri all note the veil as an unexpected source of tension.
Solutions:
- Buffer extra time for portraits and hair/makeup.
- Rehearse cute traditions/logistics (like veil insertion).
- Flexibility and communication with photographers for impromptu sessions.
Audience Poll: Most-Common Wedding Regrets [26:00]
- 69% of surveyed listeners have regrets about their wedding [26:07]
- Jo expected higher; Ri expected lower.
- Top Regrets (from 12 categories):
- “Other” – 33.1%
- Guest list
- Photographer – 8.9%
- Dress – 8.6%
- Makeup & Hair – 7.7%
- Guest list is cited as the most common (e.g. wishing they'd included/excluded certain people).
- Photographer regret also high because photos last the longest and carry the day’s legacy.
Wedding Party Dilemmas [28:09]
Ranks, Roles, and Regrets
- Many listeners regret either having a wedding party or the choices therein (drama, politics, feeling left out, hierarchy).
- Notable listener submission:
“I regret having a wedding party because it was just too much about politics and people pleasing. I would have rather had none and let everyone be equal.” – Listener [29:21] - Jasmine: Opted for just her sister; didn’t want to rank close friends, wanted to avoid budget and drama complications.
- Jo: Didn’t have a bridal party; prefers alone time, didn’t want extra social obligations.
- Rhiannon: Had a bridal party at her husband’s request, but assumed most of the planning herself and minimized responsibility for her bridesmaids. Stresses expectation management as key.
Wedding Dress Choices [34:34]
- Dress regret is common—length, color, fit, and style.
- Notable listener submission: Chose a non-traditional, muted color; now wishes she’d gone for the deep red or jewel tones traditional in Indian weddings after learning more about color theory.
- Jasmine found wedding dress shopping triggering for her body image; custom-fitted due to being a G cup; wanted something that fit the intimate and toned-down venue.
- “It's so much pressure and I think that's really common to have those regrets after.” – Jasmine [35:56]
Spending, Eloping, and Family Drama [36:30]
- Listener regret: “We spent over 52,000 on our wedding. And I can't help but regret not eloping… there was so much family drama surrounding our wedding that planning it was the most stressful time of my life.” [36:30]
- Jasmine and Jo agree the main reason for a wedding over eloping was the rare chance to have family together—especially with international families, elderly relatives.
- Money is fleeting, but experiences can’t be re-bought.
- Ri shares a creative solution from a friend: reshot wedding photos and had a private dinner post-wedding to create new, positive memories divorced from the drama.
- Family finances and input are “complicated” and often lead to stress and regret.
Advice & Words of Wisdom [40:12]
Jasmine
- “Remember what the day is about…you are calling the shots. That's my biggest piece of wisdom.”
- Post-wedding: Unfollow wedding accounts to avoid comparison spiral. “Any time I felt like why wasn't my wedding like that? …I just unfollowed it because I was like, I don't need this anymore.” [41:13]
Jo
- "Always come back to your why.”
- If regret and stress creep in, center yourself on the real reason for the wedding—marrying your partner, gathering loved ones.
Rhiannon
- “Always have to come back to the feelings, not the facts. …The love in the room, the why, making sure that that is the thing that is most important…That is your North Star.” [42:16]
- Stylishness and money are secondary to atmosphere and authenticity.
Jasmine (again)
- “Two things can be true at once. Yes, I was disappointed about the rain and I was sad, but you could really feel the love in the room.” [43:00]
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- “I literally remember being like, yeah, yeah, yeah… not manifesting that. Not my problem.” – Jasmine, about the wet weather backup plan [10:15]
- “I was delusional. I was Delulu girl as well.” – Ri, on wedding weather optimism [14:47]
- “You’re allowed to make a big deal out of things that feel big to you.” – Jasmine’s friend Claire, on post-wedding sadness [17:21]
- “The day is about Adrian and I. It's not about other people.” – Jo, on skipping the bridal party [30:43]
- “There’s no foolproof way that you can guarantee every single person on your list will be in your life in the future.” – Ri [27:47]
- “You can always earn more money…but money can’t buy time.” – Jasmine [37:24]
- “That’s what matters most.” – Jo, on prioritizing love and connection [43:17]
Timestamps for Key Segments
- 03:01 — Jasmine’s wedding story and guest list
- 08:35 — Weather regrets and contingency planning
- 18:11 — Regrets about timelines, missed photos, and veil mishaps
- 26:00 — Audience poll: main regrets
- 28:09 — Bridal party dilemmas
- 34:34 — Regret over dress choices
- 36:30 — Eloping, family drama, and spending regrets
- 40:12 — Closing advice from all hosts and guest
Summary Takeaways
This episode is a frank, often humorous, and highly relatable exploration of how real weddings rarely match the Pinterest-Bride ideal, and why that’s OK. The hosts and guest encourage future brides to embrace what really matters—connection, authenticity, and memories made in imperfect conditions. Regrets aren’t failures, but natural results of big, emotionally-fraught events. The episode offers gentle advice to honor your boundaries and feelings, let go of perfectionism, and stop doomscrolling wedding content after the fact.
For anyone feeling let down or second-guessing their “Big Day,” this episode is a reassuring hug and a practical resource, full of moments that will have listeners nodding, laughing, and feeling less alone.