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Host (0:00)
In this lessons episode, discover how a journey from addictive pursuits to humanitarian service can spark profound transformation. Learn why leaving self serving habits behind paves the way for true purpose and impact. And understand how leveraging storytelling and personal skills can mobilize global change. So I've heard you speak about how you were always trying things that would be considered addictive. So like drugs, alcohol, gambling, women, you would always all like, you try these things for a period of time, but then you'd get bored and you'd shut off and you go on to the next thing. And it was always about seeking purpose. And I'm curious how after seeking purpose in all these, you know, traditional vices, how none of it paid off and none of it really gave you what you needed. What prompted you to do that 180 where you realized, okay, outside, if somebody's from the outside looking in, life looks great, life looks like I'm fun, I'm king, I have a, a hot girl. I mean, I have influence, whatever. But what was that point that you realized that all these vices that you were trying to find purpose in were not really doing it?
Guest (1:25)
Yeah, well, in many ways it was a spiritual awakening. So I hit that kind of moment in South America where I just remember it was almost like the game of musical chairs and for the first time the music stopped and I had nowhere to sit down. It was a jarring existential moment where I think if I put it in a sentence, I realized there will never be enough, someone will always have more. And I was actually surrounded with people who had more, who had planes, who had, you know, yachts, and they seemed unhappy too. So this endless pursuit of more would never bring the happiness. And so what is the opposite of that, you know, the self serving. So I looked to God and I remember reading the Bible again and, and you know, rediscovering that faith as a 28 year old without it being shoved down my throat, without being told what I must believe. I remember just thinking like, well, Jesus is kind of badass. He's, he's not religious. In fact, he was raging against so much of the religious establishment of the day. And you know, he was really all about service, you know, pouring your life out for others so that others could flourish, so that others can benefit. I remember coming across this, this book in the, this, this verse in the book of James where it said, you know, if you care about true religion, true religion is this, look after widows and orphans and just keep yourself from being polluted. I'm like, I'm friggin over too. I mean, I have done nothing to look after anyone in the widow and orphan category. And not only am I polluted, I actually pollute others for a living. And the more people I pollute in my clubs, the more money I make. So it was a lot of these things happening, you know, kind of reaching the end of rope, reeling this would. Realizing this would not make me happy. Kind of coming back to this lost faith and spirituality, morality, and then just needing an idea, which was actually, you know, went back to this concept of the tithe. When my parents were growing up, they would always give 10% of whatever they made to the church. I was like, well, what if I tithed time? I just blew 10 years. What if I gave one of the 10 years in service and just saw where that would take me? And, you know, interestingly, it was almost impossible to volunteer. So I remember applying to the first 10 humanitarian organizations, from the Red Cross to World Vision to Save the Children. And, you know, nobody wanted a nightclub promoter. These are serious, you know, Doctors Without Borders, it turns out, wants doctors to join their mission, you know, not club rats. So it became incredibly frustrating because I now had the desire to try something different, to serve, and nobody would take me. And then I was very fortunate that, you know, I call it the 11th organization, you know, wrote me back and said, hey, if you're willing to pay US$500 a month and if you're willing to go live in the poorest country in the world, you can join our mission. And I just remember thinking, I mean, that is really the opposite of my life, you know, going from clubs and Cristal champagne to a post war country in West Africa and actually having to pay money to be of service.
