
Homily from the Feast of the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. Make it your ambition to live a quiet life. In a world where so many people live their lives "on display," the Holy Family shows us what it is to live a quiet (and meaningful) life
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God Bless the Lord be with you. A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Luke Glory to you, oh Lord. Chapter 2, verses 4152 each year Jesus parents went to Jerusalem for the feast of Passover, and when he was 12 years old, they went up according to festival customs. After they had completed its days, as they were returning the boy Jesus remained behind in Jerusalem, but but his parents did not know it. Thinking that he was in the caravan, they journeyed for a day and looking for him among their relatives and acquaintances, but not finding him, they returned to Jerusalem to look for him. After three days they found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions. And all who heard him were astounded at his understanding and his answers. When his parents saw him, they were astonished. And his mother said to him, son, why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety. And he said to them, why were you looking for me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father's house? But they did not understand what he said to them. He went down with them and came to Nazareth and was obedient to them. And his mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus advanced in wisdom and age and favor before God and man. The Gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ. Might you have a seat? So a number of years ago I came across this. It was an article talking about how when you ask young people what is it that they want to be when they grow up, how the answer has changed. And the article is making the case that said, in former generations, this is a while ago, in former generations, they said, people would say, I want to be an astronaut, I want to be a professional sports player, whatever I want to be, whatever my parents happen to be, I want to be a doctor, lawyer, whatever. The thing is, I want to be a teacher, a nurse. But the article said but the most recent time they asked these young people, what do you want to be when you grow up? The number one answer was famous that the desire of the human heart had become something different. It's not simply I want to accomplish this task is I want to be famous. I want to be known. And of course, that's not all of us, and that's maybe not all people out in the culture either. But I think that we've kind of developed this thing in our lives, and we developed this thing in our culture that we have this temptation to live our lives on display, that sense of we have the temptation to post our every thought or to post our every meal or to post our every adventure or every kind of thing we're happening, we're going through. In fact, I remember I came across a number of articles about this, about this fact that here we are, as Americans or as people in the west at least, who are living our lives on display. And they went through a number of posts that we would think are completely common. Like, you know, here's a spouse who knows that their husband or a wife never looks at social media but has to say, happy birthday to my wonderful da da da da spouse who does all these things. And you're like, wait a second. Couldn't you just, like, look at your spouse and tell them happy birthday? But no, you have to post it. Why? We don't stop to ask the question why? Or another post of great date night with, you know, the love of my life. All these kind of things. And here's a post of the food. Here's a post. Maybe them picture. Okay, that's fine. But, like, why are you posting your date night online? And again, I'm not immune to this. I remember years ago when Twitter just first came out. I worked at a Steubenville youth conference in Atlanta. And so I had Twitter. And so I. I remember taking off in the plane, and I tweeted out something like, you know, thanks. Hashtag StubyATL Stubianville, Atlanta, you know, great weekend, blah, blah, blah. And I landed in Minnesota, drove to Duluth, and a friend of mine held up their phone and said, what is this? I saw my tweet. I'm like, I don't know. It's a tweet. And I felt really uncomfortable. Like, they said, why'd you tweet like this? And I was like, I don't know. It seems like what people do. And she stopped and said, no, no, no. That's how celebrities tweet. You're not a celebrity. You're a priest. Don't do that. And I was like, okay. Because I just kind of assumed, like, this is how we do it. Right. This is what you do when you go online. You just post these things. You tweet, you live life on display. If I have a thought, we should share it. If I've done a thing, I should share it. If I have a life, I should share it. It should be known somehow. And that's why I think, like, here is this again. We might be participating in that to a great degree, or to a little degree, we might desire that to a great degree or to a less degree. But on this day, at the Feast of the Holy Family, we have to ask the question, what would the Holy Family post? Like Jesus? What would Jesus post? The Holy Family. If there's ever a family that was actually, you know, maybe close to perfect, at least not very dysfunctional, only one person in the Holy Family was dysfunctional is Joseph. And he's pretty good. He stayed quiet. But, like, what would it be if we live like them? Because I don't think the Holy Family, if they were living right now, would live their lives on display. I think they live a lot more like what St. Paul wrote to the Thessalonians. In 1 Thessalonians chapter 4, St. Paul says this. He says, make it your ambition to live a quiet life, to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands. In the last year or two, I heard a preacher who I respect preach on this, on this one Thessalonians chapter four. And he just highlighted this fact. He said, how unlike is that? St. Paul writing to the Thessalonians, make it your ambition to live a quiet life. Make it your ambition to mind your own affairs. Make it your ambition to work with your hands. Make it your ambition to not be known, to not live a life on display. Now, he made a point. Now I'm going to make it clear too, that that's not the same thing as not proclaiming the Gospel. That's not the same thing as not doing great things for the Lord. That's not the same thing. Because actually, in First Thessalonians, St. Paul writes to them and says, actually, word about you and your faith, your love for the Lord has gone out to the whole world. And so, like, he praises them because they have shared the Gospel. They have become that example. They have become. They. They've lived their lives in such a way that they've borne witness to the truth, the goodness, the love of God. But there's something different between bearing truth, bearing witness to the truth, and the love and the mercy of God and living one's life on display. Like to seek out being known to seek out again. We said at the beginning, seek out being famous. In fact, I came across. I don't know if it was a child psychologist or a family counselor. I don't know who this person was, but it resonated with me. And he said this. He said, it's good parenting. It's a sign of good parenting if your child has no desire to be famous. And the person interviewing them said, well, wait, why? And they said, because it means that they have an internal system of validation rather than an external system of validation where they're not seeking to be known by strangers. You have to ask the question, to what degree am I seeking to be known by strangers? Again, at this moment, you might go back. I don't want. Need to be known, but I do want to do great things. I want to. Whatever God has called me to do, I want to do that thing. Well, yeah, of course, Absolutely. But where do you live? Here's what I mean. It's very possible that among the people who are participating in this mass, people who are listening to these words, that God actually does. God wants you to make an impact for the gospel on this world. However, that is. And, and, and to say yes to that is so important because again, I just. We don't glorify God by dimming our lamps. We don't glorify God by shrinking back. We don't glorify God by simply hiding. If he's asked us to step forward, we have to step forward. If he's asked us to step up, we have to step up. If he's. If he's asked us to speak, we'll talk about this in a couple days. If he's asked. If he's asked us to speak, we. We have to speak. We cannot shrink back. That doesn't glorify God. Shrinking back doesn't glorify God. But the question is, where do we live? Do I seek? Do I make it my ambition to live a quiet life where I'm known by. Truly known by a few? Or do I make it my ambition to live my life on display? I mean, just let's look at Jesus again. Here's the Holy family. What do we know about Jesus life? Well, we have this story from him when he was 12. Do you have any stories of him when he was 15? What was Jesus doing when he was 19? What was he doing when he was 25? What was Jesus doing when he WAS 29 years old? We don't know. We assume that he was probably doing what St. Paul writes that he was minding his own affairs and working with his hands. He was not living his life on display, but he was doing God's will. I think sometimes we live life on display because we want to hide. I live my life desiring the approval of strangers because I'm afraid of being known deeply by those closest to me. So yes, there will be times, and there are times when God calls you. No, step up, stand out, do the thing, say the word. And maybe there's recognition, maybe there's being noted, maybe it's something great, that's awesome. But don't live there that there's something about. Sometimes God may give you a spotlight, but none of us are meant to live in a spotlight. Going to live where we've been planted. And that life, that real life, that depth of life is what St. Paul says, make it your ambition to live a quiet life. I mean, think about how even Jesus when he was again in that three years of public ministry, you might know this. He spent 80% of his time of his public ministry. 80% of his time was spent in a five mile radius. And not only that, but how many times are the crowds pursuing. You never see Jesus pursuing a crowd. The crowds pursue him. What's he do? He got done healing, got done preaching, got done teaching, got done being with people and doing great things. And then what did he do? He went off to a solitary place by himself because that's where he lived. After he's done with the crowds, what did he do? He spent that time with his 12 disciples, the closest people to him. Because what does Jesus desire? Seems like he made it his ambition to even in public ministry, to live a quiet life. It seemed that Jesus made it his ambition. I need to serve the many, but I need to know the few and be known by the few. I think there's something really good for us in that where yes, we can make a breadth of an impact maybe by living life on display. But the depth of a life, the depth of an impact. We can ask like this, when was the last time that there was a significant moment where the person who was, you know, there's someone who's given an award of some sort or they're noted for some reason, and they thanked a celebrity who didn't actually know them, they thanked the famous person who didn't actually come into contact with their lives versus saying, I need to thank my mom, I need to thank my dad, I need to thank the people who are actually within arm's reach of me. And in my life because there's something we already know. We already know. We. If we buy into this lie that we can live our life on display and find fulfillment in that, then we're fools. We're not paying attention. Because we know the relationships that matter the most, the conversations that matter the most. The life that matters the most is the life that St. Paul describes is a quiet life, is that hidden life. And again, you may be called to step out, you're called to step up, may be called to speak out or speak up. You may be called to do great things, but we can't live there. We have to do what Jesus and Mary and Joseph, we have to do what they did. This is the last thing. Make it your ambition to live a quiet life, to mind your own affairs and to work with your hands. Who are the people that God has placed in your life that he is asking you to love? Who are the people that he's placing in your life? He's asking you he take care of them. Who's the people that God himself has put in your life? And he said, okay, these are the ones that I'm entrusting to you. And then pause and say, if these are the ones that God has put into my life to care for them, to love them, that he's entrusted them to me, then why am I concerned with the opinion of strangers? If it's my spouse's birthday, why don't I just tell them happy Birthday rather than post it? If there's a date night, why not just enter the date night rather than post it? If I need help, why not be able to reach out to those people closest to me that I trust, rather than just throw it out to the world to the strangers. We are called to make it our ambition to live a quiet life, to mind our own affairs and if we can, to work with our hands. Because it's there that we begin to learn what it is to imitate Jesus and Mary and Joseph again. It's not to shrink back from being influential. It's not to shrink back from our responsibilities. There is no single person who has been more influential on this world than Jesus himself. And what did he do? He made it his ambition to live a quiet life, to love the people closest to Him. So that must be our ambition as well.
Sunday Homilies with Fr. Mike Schmitz: A Hidden Life Episode Released: December 28, 2024
In the December 29, 2024 episode of Sunday Homilies with Fr. Mike Schmitz, titled "A Hidden Life," Fr. Mike delves into the profound theme of living a quiet, humble life in contrast to the pervasive cultural obsession with fame and public recognition. Drawing inspiration from the Holy Family and the teachings of St. Paul, Fr. Mike offers insightful reflections aimed at grounding faith, fortifying the heart, and transforming lives.
Fr. Mike begins by addressing a significant shift in the aspirations of young people. He references an article highlighting how previous generations commonly aspired to professions like astronauts, doctors, and lawyers. Today, however, the predominant goal has shifted to seeking fame and being known by many.
"The number one answer was famous that the desire of the human heart had become something different. It's not simply I want to accomplish this task is I want to be famous. I want to be known." [04:15]
He observes that this desire is amplified by modern culture's emphasis on living life on display, particularly through social media. Fr. Mike shares personal anecdotes about his early experiences with Twitter, illustrating his initial naivety about the platform's association with celebrity behavior.
"I just kind of assumed, like, this is how we do it. Right. This is what you do when you go online. You just post these things." [05:12]
Fr. Mike critiques the modern tendency to share every aspect of one's life online, questioning the underlying motives. He cites examples of commonplace social media posts—such as celebrating a spouse's birthday or a date night—and challenges listeners to consider why these moments are made public rather than cherished privately.
"Why are you posting your date night online? And again, I'm not immune to this." [07:45]
Transitioning to scriptural insights, Fr. Mike reflects on the Holy Family's life, emphasizing their humble and private existence. He contrasts this with the societal push towards visibility and fame.
He references St. Paul's exhortation in 1 Thessalonians 4:11, urging believers to live quietly, mind their own affairs, and work with their hands. Fr. Mike underscores that this call is not about withdrawing from society or refraining from proclaiming the Gospel but about prioritizing meaningful, private relationships over public recognition.
"Make it your ambition to live a quiet life, to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands." [12:30]
He further elaborates on the distinction between bearing witness to the Gospel through actions and living life on display for personal acclaim.
"There's something different between bearing truth, bearing witness to the truth, and the love and the mercy of God and living one's life on display." [15:20]
Fr. Mike explores the concept of validation, contrasting internal approval with the desire for validation from strangers. He references a sentiment from a child psychologist or family counselor, emphasizing that:
"It's good parenting. It's a sign of good parenting if your child has no desire to be famous. Because it means that they have an internal system of validation rather than an external system of validation." [17:05]
He challenges listeners to evaluate the extent to which they seek recognition from beyond their immediate relationships, encouraging a focus on genuine connections and internal fulfillment.
Using Jesus' life as a model, Fr. Mike highlights how even during His public ministry, Jesus maintained a predominantly private life. He notes that:
"Jesus made it his ambition to live a quiet life. It seemed that Jesus made it his ambition. I need to serve the many, but I need to know the few and be known by the few." [21:40]
Fr. Mike points out that Jesus spent the majority of His ministry within a close-knit group of disciples, seeking solitude and meaningful interactions rather than courting public attention.
"He spent 80% of his time of his public ministry was spent in a five mile radius. And not only that, but how many times are the crowds pursuing." [23:15]
Fr. Mike encourages listeners to adopt the Holy Family's values by:
Focusing on Close Relationships: Prioritizing the people God has placed in one’s life over the approval of strangers.
"Who are the people that God has placed in your life that he is asking you to love?" [26:00]
Avoiding the Spotlight: Resisting the urge to seek public recognition, even when called to take on significant roles or responsibilities.
"None of us are meant to live in a spotlight. Going to live where we've been planted." [28:45]
Valuing Depth Over Breadth: Emphasizing the quality and depth of one’s impact over the quantity of influence.
"There's something really good for us in that where yes, we can make a breadth of an impact maybe by living life on display. But the depth of a life, the depth of an impact." [30:10]
Fr. Mike concludes by reiterating the call to live a life modeled after Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. He emphasizes that a hidden life is not synonymous with insignificance but is instead a pathway to genuine relationships and spiritual fulfillment.
"Make it your ambition to live a quiet life, to mind your own affairs and to work with your hands. Who are the people that God has placed in your life that he is asking you to love?" [34:55]
He urges listeners to find their fulfillment in serving those closest to them and in fulfilling God's call, rather than in seeking external validation and fame.
Key Takeaways:
Prioritize Internal Validation: Focus on self-worth derived from within and from close relationships rather than external recognition.
Live Humbly: Emulate the Holy Family's example by living modestly and valuing privacy over public display.
Meaningful Impact Over Public Acclaim: Strive for depth in your contributions and relationships rather than the breadth of influence.
Fr. Mike’s homily serves as a poignant reminder in an age dominated by social media and the quest for fame, encouraging believers to seek a humble, purpose-driven life that honors God and fosters genuine human connections.