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Model and Creator Lexi Wood on Love, Public Judgment, and Choosing Herself
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Rebecca Minkoff
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Lexi Wood
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Rebecca Minkoff
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Lexi Wood
The art of letting go, I think, is where power lies in everything. Bet on yourself. Period. Always bet on yourself. When it comes to love, choose yourself when it comes to business, go for your goals and do not be afraid. Put all of your money always on yourself. Because wherever you're sitting right now, you can always get back to that. You already did it.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Hey, everyone. Welcome back to Super Women. Today's guest is a dear friend of mine, Lexi Wood. We met many years ago, and we've continued to stay in each other's orbits. She is an influencer, a creator, a former reality TV star. Today we talk about love, dating, what it means to learn lessons through love, how to reframe breakups, and what to do when the worst case scenario happens.
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Lexi Wood
They used to get me cakes every single time I broke up with a boyfriend. Since my very first boyfriend, they would get me a cake and be like, this is so exciting. You learned a lesson. Let's celebrate this. So either way, I look at dating as I'm winning. I either have my husband great. Or I'm learning a lesson great.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I always say, like, in any win or fail, like, a failure is a learning lesson. But I've always looked at it for business. But to switch it to love is really a good nuance to that.
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Lexi Wood
Being in, like, the influencer world, it's so oversaturated. Modeling is same thing. There's so many beautiful, creative people in this world, and it is so competitive, foreign.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I'm Rebecca Minkoff, and this is Superwomen. Each week, inspiring women are interviewed to uncover the unexpected journeys, the challenges, and the unwavering spirit that makes them powerful. Get ready to be motivated by stories of resilience and discover the keys to unlocking your own potential. Okay. Ms. Lexi Wood.
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Lexi Wood
Hello.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Hello. So I'm sure people tuning in are thinking we're going to talk about a certain thing, but guess what? We're not, because you are so much deeper, better, talented. We don't need to give that any more air time.
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Lexi Wood
Thank you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You're welcome.
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Lexi Wood
So refreshing.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah. I was like, if I have to hear this, you know, like, sometimes, like, even with me, certain people want to talk about certain subjects. I'm like, can you just look up a. I've said it, like 60 times. No, I go listen to it.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. Also, I feel like because we're friends, we've beat that dead horse over drinks, over everything so many times. So.
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Rebecca Minkoff
So we're not beating the dead horse for anyone listening. Sorry.
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Lexi Wood
Sorry.
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Rebecca Minkoff
We're gonna talk about far more interesting topics.
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Lexi Wood
Exactly.
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Rebecca Minkoff
We first met 2021. You reminded me in the sunken living room during Fashion Week when, like, my Fashion Week show was like, what were they even called crypto. NFTs. We were selling NFTs. We were selling matching merch. It was, it was a real patch together experience.
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Lexi Wood
I loved it though. It was. Honestly, everybody was so nice. I had so many friends there. I felt like it was a really good vibe. I loved, like all the campaign photos were beautiful. It was so nice obviously meeting you. I was. It was a great time. My mom came.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yep. That's when I got to meet Mama Shannon for the first time.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I love your mom, I love your sister and I love that you're surrounded by people you can trust. You know, I think in your industry that's rare. Well, in any industry, but especially like you're with what you do because it's not just one thing. Like, to have that family with you is so incredible.
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Lexi Wood
It's so nice because I feel like they're just such strong women in their own selves and like they are so interesting. We're all actually surprisingly so different. Like how we conduct everything is so different. So I feel like I get to learn every single day. But I also feel like there's been something in me that I've been able to open up that I Never in my 17 year career have been able to open up. Where it's just saying yes. Just being like, you know what, I want to try this. I don't want to fit into a box, per se. I don't want to. Some days I do, some days I don't. And I feel like being able to write my own story and write my own rules has actually been a foreign experience for me because growing up in the industry with agencies, it's kind of like, I mean, you know, you deal with agencies all the time. It's very just. This is what it is.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Right. She's just a model and that's. She can only pose and make clothes look amazing.
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Lexi Wood
Exactly like.
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Rebecca Minkoff
No, but actually I do a lot more than that.
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Lexi Wood
That's the thing. And I feel like I've just really been able to expand in so many different ways. Expand my even like emotionally. Like just grow so much over these last three years of working together. And I don't think that that's a coincidence, but that it's also been my most success careers.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Right. Well, also, I think when you have people you can trust, a lot of shouldering the load and just time wasted thinking or doing things that you're not good at, when you can finally pass that on to someone, like, it frees you up to do what you do best.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah, no, exactly. And I Feel like again, because they are so smart. I'm like, there's things that where I'm weak, they're so strong. And then where they're weak, I'm so strong. And we really balance each other out, and it's just so much fun. Also, I love the chaos of us. I love, like, the ups and downs, and it's just.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Just.
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Lexi Wood
It makes life more interesting.
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Rebecca Minkoff
It does. And I love that your mom comes off like she's your sister. Like, she's not. She doesn't have the presence of, like, the stage mother to me.
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Lexi Wood
No. It's so funny. I would actually say my dad is the stage mother. Oh, really? So funny. My dad is such a diva. Like, I will bring him to an event, he'll be like, so should I do the red carpet? Like, no, no. He's an extreme diva. He's actually the one that got me into modeling. And he used to, like, sit on set and be like, okay, good job. Like, so. It is so cute. Especially because he was, like, one of the chiefs of the fire department back home. So his job was so, like, masculine and, like, fighting fires and running into burning buildings whenever he's running out and always surrounded by men. And he's just like, the epitome of a girl dad.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Wow.
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Lexi Wood
And so, yeah, so it's so fun, like, the balance of my mom and dad.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Does he ever get jealous? And he's like, shannon, you're out. I'm going with this one.
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Lexi Wood
Honestly, I feel like no, because, like, during fashion week, he's like, I gotta go. I gotta go to Canada. Like, I need to give you guys some room, some space. But honestly, I feel like, because we are such like, a unit, a lot of the time, people are like, invite the entire family. Like, they love. They love the chaos of it.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Maybe there's, like, the Wood family in the making.
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Lexi Wood
Look at. Who knows? You know, I think it would be so fun. I think that my family individually is all crazy and amazing and flawed and perfect all at the same time. So, yeah, who knows? But it's so fun. Like, last week we went to one of my ex boyfriend's events, and my dad was like, oh, like, this is so fun. He's like, I need the red carpet.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I'm dead.
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Lexi Wood
I'm dead. Yeah, he's. He's amazing.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I love that. Well, so you have great support system all around. You mentioned, like, the last three years have been your most successful. We are both reality tv. What's the right word for us?
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Lexi Wood
Like, icons.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Outlaws. Yes. Yes. Icons. One Season icons, one and done, baby. Do you attribute any of being on Summer House to that success? Or is it in spite of. Or is it in what you turned that maybe would have been, like, signals for not being successful into, like. No, no, no. This is the narrative I'm going to shape and take.
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Lexi Wood
It's really funny that you say that. I actually feel like a lot of brands that I worked with kind of coming out of Summer House and, like, when my season was airing were actually brands that I had been working with for years. Some of them, like, five years. Even my Hanky Panky collection, we were working on it before I even casted with Summer House. So everything kind of just seemed to be flowing while Summer House was kind of coming out, which was great. But a lot of every project that I was doing was actually way before I even thought about going on Summer House, which I just think kind of made everything so much better, because then obviously, having such a huge, like, platform and being in people's living rooms every week, I'm sure you felt this too. It is like, a nice reminder of people being like, oh, my God. Wait, what? Like, Lexi Wood, Rebecca. Like, that's. I remember them. Like, I think that obviously it was a benefit, of course, but a lot of the clients I had already had, so it was nice to kind of be able to bring them with me along the journey.
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Rebecca Minkoff
And coming out of that, how have you looked at building your business differently? And. And when I say you're building a business, a lot of people will just disregard a model or a creator as, like, that's not a business. But there's definitely. If you're having success, it is a business. There's a method to it.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You obviously work with your family, so there's an infrastructure to it.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
So have you approached building your business differently? And how do you look at it?
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Lexi Wood
I think you definitely have to be more strategic. I think before, I mean, being a model forever, you kind of do have to be sometimes your own lawyer, your own accountant, your own. I think some. A lot of the time, models are just kind of looked at as, like, oh, you're pretty, like, period. And that is true. Models are gorgeous, amazing people. But it honestly goes so much deeper than that. Like, models are some of the most brilliant women I know. Like, I'm, like, the smartest, most brilliant women that I've learned from. And, like, I was always lucky enough to be able and crazy enough to be able to live in model apartments, too, when I was growing up. So being able to kind of like, always see and like, how other women were conducting their business and learn from them as well was so huge in my kind of come up. But now being able to work with my mom and sister, I do feel like after reality, after kind of doing more projects that are expanding the way I even was doing business before. Of course, like, with agencies, I do feel like being more strategic, being more kind of like, okay, this is what I want. This is the goal. Being very particular and concise with it and then just executing, like, I think execution a lot of the time in this industry. And I'm sure, again, you know, this, like, it is scary. There is so many moving parts, especially being in, like, the influencer world. It's so oversaturated. Modeling is same thing. There's so many beautiful, creative people in this world, and it is so competitive. And so I do think just kind of like, going for it and having no fear. Like, I really. I'm naturally so shy, so I have had to just kind of.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You are not.
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Lexi Wood
I was in confidence classes growing up.
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Rebecca Minkoff
What?
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Lexi Wood
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Did you speak softer too? Because you don't strike me as someone you. You. You embody confidence to me.
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Lexi Wood
Thank you so much. It's funny. I think modeling really helped me, just even having to be on set with people. I remember I walked into one of my, like, high school classes. I went to, like, a normal high school for a year. Yep. And then I was homeschooled. And I, like, shook my teacher's hand. Like, I walked in, I said, hi, I'm Lexi. Like, shook his hand, took my seat. He was like, did she just shake my hand? Like, this is not a business. Like this. It was so confusing for him, but it was so funny because that's just how I always conducted myself because I was always kind of in business mode growing up. So I. But yeah, no, I think modeling really helped my confidence. I was so shy.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I, like, wouldn't speak even, like, at the modeling. Like, in the beginning, at the start,
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Lexi Wood
yeah, I was, like, so shy. But then I feel like everybody on set really just, like, warms you up. Like, you really do create, like, little families on set. And, like, when you're shooting campaigns, it's like my hair and makeup team are like my best friends. The other girls that I'm shooting with, like, you have so many, like, funny inside jokes and just, like, great, amazing, magical things that happen on set. And it's so nice when you get to work with the same teams, because then it's like, it really does create a little Family. And I think that's why I was so attracted to going into reality tv, because I was like, wow, I'm going to be able to go to the same. You're going to have a family. Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Of people that love you.
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Lexi Wood
Yes. And, like, go through something together. And, like, so what I thought it was more like I was going to the same crew every day, and I loved a lot of my producers, and it was. It was honestly, like, so great that way, where it was so familiar. I was like. It was really a place that I felt like if it expanded, I could really flourish in, because that comfortability.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Totally.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
So you said something that was ironic to me, and it's ironic depending on what happens. But as a model, it gave you confidence. But the modeling industry can be so hard. And I say this as a designer, because sometimes I'm making choices on, like, does a shoe fit? Or that doesn't look good on her waist or her ankle's too big. Like, whatever it is. And it's very visual to what you're trying to achieve. So what made you receive or get confident in an industry that's so less so now, but so all about, like, what you look like?
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Lexi Wood
I mean, being so young and having people kind of be like, no, you're not getting the job. Like, you're not at all what we want. I think you just kind of, like, get used to it. But also, I remember, I will never forget, I auditioned for a commercial. It was the first, like, right out the gate of me being a model, and I auditioned for a commercial. Never heard back. And I was like, dang. Like, I really thought I killed that, that casting. Like, dang. And then the commercial starts to play. My entire family's, like, going silent. They're like, how is she gonna react to this? It was a boy that got it. I was like, you know, and right there and then I was like, well, I can't be a boy, so that is what that is. And it was just so funny. My entire house just started laughing. They were like, well, we know that she's gonna be fine with, like, dealing with criticism or dealing with not getting a job. And honestly, I'm like, if I can't get it, I hope that my friends get it when we're all kind of going for the same job. And I do understand that it's very based on if the shoe fits. It could come down to, like, a freckle. And you're like, oh, I love that. Freckle is so unique. That's the girl I'M gonna choose because she has a unique freckle, and I don't have it. And that's nothing against me. That's nothing against how I conduct myself. My friendships, my character. It's just a vision.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I know. I always struggle with that because, like, when models will come in, I want to be like, I love everybody. But, like, I've already. I've already set my vision, and I'm like, I. I'm so sorry.
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Lexi Wood
You're just.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You know, it's me, not you.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. It's almost like a breakup. You're like, oh, no, it's me. Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my God. We've had some of those, and I'm just like. Or, like, they're on hold, and then I let them go, and then I just feel worse. I'm. I'm probably too connected to it.
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Lexi Wood
But, no, I love that, though. You know, like, you really love the people that you work with and the people that you meet, and I feel like that also. You exude that so much. And I feel like even if you're saying, like, no to somebody, like, you're still so loving that it's like, I'm
- [16:55]
Rebecca Minkoff
trying to be loving. I'm trying. Plus, you've really pissed me off.
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Lexi Wood
You're so honest. Good, good. That's. That's how it should be. That's like me.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You're right. I know you can be, like, tough, because I've seen it, but you are nice until you're pushed to that limit.
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Lexi Wood
Exactly. And it's funny because the more almost angry I get, the more calm I get.
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Rebecca Minkoff
People are really creeped out by that skill.
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Lexi Wood
Very creeped out.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I know.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I was in the hot seat the other day. They're like, you're so calm when shit's going wrong. And I was like, it calms everyone down. But also, like, it doesn't mean internally I'm not angry or fuming. I just feel like you can get. You can be so effective when you are calm using your anger. Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
And honestly, I feel like people somehow, like, hear you more when, like, you're not, like, screaming about it.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Right. Because then they're like, oh, they write you off. They're like, she's reactive.
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Or emotional.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. Which I think is, like, such a disservice to women. Like, oh, we're reactive. How about your actions shouldn't make us want to get there? Like, you know, like, it's always somehow with women, it's like we're blamed for how we're reacting to their actions. God, Forbid.
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Rebecca Minkoff
God forbid. God forbid. You did something that was asshole.
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Lexi Wood
Like, right?
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
I'm like, that's crazy. I feel like Taylor Swift said something like that. She' like, well, if you don't want me to write songs about you, then don't give me anything to write a song about. Like, be a better person.
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Rebecca Minkoff
That is really good.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yes. Smart lady.
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Lexi Wood
I love her.
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Rebecca Minkoff
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Let's talk about what you said. Dating is your favorite subject.
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Lexi Wood
Oh, I love dating.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay. Why?
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Lexi Wood
I am just a lover girl through and through. I love love. I love self love. I love friendship, love. Like Valentine's Day is my favorite. It's like a national holiday. Well, it is a holiday, but it's not a holiday.
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Rebecca Minkoff
It's not a holiday, but it is a national holiday.
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
It's just not like you're not like, skipping work for it.
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Lexi Wood
I think every should skip work for it.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay, wait, when you say you love dating.
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You love dating many people or you love dating one person?
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Lexi Wood
So it's. You know what? Right now I'm letting the best man win.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Like, okay, how many men are contenders?
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Lexi Wood
Like, four.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay.
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Lexi Wood
Which is a lot.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Are they aware that they're in a competition?
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Lexi Wood
They are.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay.
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Lexi Wood
Of course. It's so funny. I feel like this year, like, specifically 20, 26, I've really tried to master the art of not being so attached and just being more, like attached to, like, my center. And nothing can kind of like, waver that. Whether it's a boyfriend, whether it's a job, whether it's. I'm just like, I'm sitting in my confidence, I'm sitting in my power. I'm sitting in, like, I know my abilities and I know that, like, timing is so divine and So I do feel like I'm using that in dating now, where I'm like, you know what? Like, yeah, bring me out on dates. Like, court me, court me, and then we'll decide. But I just need to see. I need to see it out. As we all have seen me date. I have always been the type of person that kind of just goes in, just dives in. Is, like, perfect. Like. Like, let's ride this out. Like, I don't necessarily. Like, I'm not crying over, like, well, I do, but I'm not, like, desperately heartbroken if it doesn't work out. I'm more like, okay, perfect. One guy closer to my husband. This is great.
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Rebecca Minkoff
How long has it taken you to get that perspective? Because so many girls struggle, me included in the past, with getting over a guy that you thought was gonna be your husband.
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Lexi Wood
So I really think that it's my family, they used to get me cakes every single time I broke up with a boyfriend since my very first boyfriend.
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Rebecca Minkoff
What if he breaks up with you? Do they get you a cake?
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay.
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Lexi Wood
It rarely happens. No.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Like, and this never occurs. So I've had, like, four cakes in my life.
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Lexi Wood
I. They would give me a cake and be like, this is so exciting. Like, you learned a lesson. Let's celebrate this. So I think I've just always kind of had that mindset. And because I do love loving people. Like, I love making people feel seen, heard, loved, and a lot of the time, men can take advantage of that. So I've had a lot of cakes, but. But I love it. I'm like, this is amazing. I'm learning a lesson. Yeah. So either way I look at dating as I'm winning, I either have my husband. Great. Or I'm learning a lesson. Great.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I love that.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Everyone, sorry for the quick pause. I want to share something really exciting. Superwoman has a brand new YouTube channel. It's still under construction, but big things are coming in 2026. You'll find past episodes, new episodes, and some bonus content I cannot wait for you to see. Just search SuperWoman Media on YouTube and hit subscribe so you don't miss a thing. Okay, back to the pod. Always applied that failure. Like, I always say, like, in any win or fail, like, a failure is a learning lesson. But I've always looked at it for business. But to switch it to love is really a good nuance to that.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. I think every woman should switch it and honestly apply it to every aspect of your life. Like, if you are learning, then you're growing and the whole point of life is to grow. And I hope that I never stop growing, even when I'm old and I do have a husband and I'm living my dream life. I want to always grow and learn lessons.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah. You know, so what is a lesson that one of these four has taught or you've taught you've learned through this Hunger Games that we're on right now?
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Lexi Wood
I think, honestly, like, the art of not being attached. Like, I think being able to have different people kind of fill different cups and kind of slowly. I also think all of them are very, like, respectful, great men. And believe it or not, I actually. I pick great men in my life. Not all the time, but just one.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Just one minor. Yeah. One minor one.
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Lexi Wood
Just a couple. But that's why I'm friends with a lot of my exes. Because I'm like, just because it didn't work out doesn't mean I don't want you to move on. Like, I want you to go find your person. I'm gonna go find my person. And honestly, like, some of my exes will probably be invited to my wedding.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I had my ex's daughters as my flower girls at my wedding.
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Lexi Wood
Stop it.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay.
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Lexi Wood
I love that.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah. I love that I identify with that.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
And I think that detachment subconsciously creates a switch from a lot of desperation that myself included had and that girls I see in New York have. And I learned that I was already married, but I was out with some friends who were single, and. And one of them brought out these dice. And the dice were all body parts, and you had to roll two. And so we'd be out at a bar, and then you roll the dice, and it was like, ear, elbow. And you had to find a reason to touch the guy's ear and his elbow. And I. Because I didn't. I wasn't trying to meet a man. And because. And all of us had signed up to play the game. We weren't out hunting or they were not hunting. The response from men when you found a way to touch both body parts and none of the body parts were, like, sexual.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Was wilder. Like, because they could feel that you weren't like, is this gonna be the guy tonight? Is this my husband?
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
And I was like, if I had only known this when I was dating, like, man, this would have been so much more fun.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. No, it's so funny. It's so true. Like, I do feel like men and women are actually so different, and I feel like we. Like, women are obviously so nurturing we're so kind of, like, in touch with, like, obviously our emotional selves, but a lot of the time that kind of, like, shows in almost, like, taking care of a man, almost, like, babying them sometimes. Like, I think that it's just natural, and men are dramatic. So I think that it almost, like, when a man's being dramatic, it, like, almost makes women want to kind of, like, dive in and, like, protect and. And, like, be kind of whatever they need. And I know I. I always used to do that, and now I'm like, you're grown. I'm grown. Be grown. You know? Like, I'm like, it's going to be a meme.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You're grown. I'm grown. Be grown.
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Lexi Wood
Like, I'm just like, I'm here for you. I am still so. But I also, like, so open and loving and whatever, but I think that there has to be maybe some parts of me that I do preserve for the person that I do end up dating, and there has to be. Like, I don't necessarily want to be crying over a guy that, like, let's be honest, like, did I think. Did I even like him? Like, sometimes dating, you get so caught up in the actual act and art of dating that you look back and you're like, did I even like him? Or did I just, like, kind of get stuck in a dating cycle?
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Rebecca Minkoff
Like, I had that once. I didn't even really like anyone enough. I just liked that I could count because I had gone from such a terrible, like, lost the love of my life. Not like, he didn't die, but he broke up with me. And then I was like, they were like collector's cards to me just for a year of my life. And I was like, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. And it was like, not even about liking any of them. It was just that I had five people's phone numbers that I could text and entertain myself. And that was a very different view of it than deciding if you even want to be with that person.
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Lexi Wood
No. 100%. I really do think that, like, taking a step back, I also think I'm at the point in my life where I can. I give myself everything I want. So I'm like, I give myself emotional stability. I give myself self love. I give myself even. Like, if I want to go and buy something, I will work hard so I can buy that thing. Like, I just kind of feel like every single thing that I am looking for in a man, I am already giving myself. And I know that I can also give a man that if he's lucky enough. And I feel like. I think right now where I'm at, I just know that I'm gonna end up with, like, an amazing guy, because the men that are kind of. I've been surrounding myself with, I. They're all amazing. And so I am really. Yeah. Just kind of, like, focused on myself, and it's working well.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Hallelujah. Give some tips to the listeners out there who love you and who are gonna be like, okay, now, how do I do that, Lexi?
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. I think, honestly, just have confidence in yourself. Just kind of, like, have confidence to your ability to love, have confidence in your ability to work and give yourself your dream life, and then your dream man will come along because it's part of the dream life that you're already building for yourself. I think that, like, not being so attached to any outcome and being, like, perfect, like, almost look at it as, like, okay, perfect. Like, we're on to the next.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Like, it's goals, it's added value. It's the shift of. I need a man to complete my life is like, I'm gonna make my life complete, and a man is gonna fall into that or a woman or whatever. Right?
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. No, exactly. And I do think that they like the partnership. They do appreciate it. They do kind of see that on attachment until you're attached. And I, again, like, once I do decide to whoever I'm gonna be with and we're making it official and all that stuff, I'm gonna. I'm. I know that I'm gonna be a great girlfriend, and I know that I'm gonna pick somebody that's gonna be a great boyfriend.
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Rebecca Minkoff
So with all this dating, is your goal to enjoy this part? Are you ready in your life, like, you want to settle down or get married, or are you just like, no, I want to have fun. I want to be with a guy. I want to learn a lot of things and have a fun partner.
- [28:51]
Lexi Wood
I think you don't even necessarily have to choose. Like, I'm kind of like, I want. Obviously, I'm a relationship girl, so I'm looking for, like, I do date to find my husband. That being said, I want it all. Like, I want to date somebody. I want them to be like, yes, that's my girl power couple. Like, I think it was Jason Statham said about Rosie Huntington Whitley. He was like, I want to be with one woman for the rest of my life, eating good food, traveling the world, and just, like, that's kind of what I think every girl wants. And I feel like that's yeah, like, I want to find my person that I want to absolutely kill life with them. Just make all of our dreams come true, have cute babies, just.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my God, I see it. I see a dating love show for you.
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Lexi Wood
It's so funny. Everybody says that. They're like, you need to, like, host some dating show because how much I just love love. I love setting people up. I love watching love flourish. I ask everyone, I'm like, so how did you meet your husband? Like, tell me. I just love it. And I love even the breakup, if that happens. I'm just like, you know what? No, we're. We're moving on.
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Rebecca Minkoff
That's so amazing and so rare to hear because, like, I just think it's hard, like, for a lot of girls. And you've reframed it as, like, what did you learn? And I think that's going to be so valuable to those listening. But, yeah, cake. And what I learned, you got to have the cake.
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Lexi Wood
You have to have the cake. Honestly, I now added a martini. Obviously, when I was younger, I was not add the martini. A cake and a martini.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my gosh.
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Lexi Wood
An iconic duo.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I tried a six pack of Corona and I just ended up with a headache and a very swollen face. And I was like, well, that's not the outcome that I was going for with my breakup.
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Lexi Wood
Oh, no. Okay. No. Six sock of Corona.
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Rebecca Minkoff
No, they were the mini ones. So for everyone listening, I could not handle a real six pack. But. So what is this plan? Are you living in la? Are we staying here? Are we? Are we? Because the four boys are here. I'm assuming you're here.
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Lexi Wood
I don't know where life is gonna bring me right now. I still have my place in New York. I have been looking in la, so right now I feel like I'm just gonna heavily do bicoastal. I used to live in la, so I do feel like this has always been such, like, a sense of peace and home for me here. So, yeah, just kind of being everywhere. I feel like being in New York for too long gets you, like, kind of like it hardens you a bit. And then being in LA for too long makes you a little soft. So, you know, just gonna go back and forth. Yeah, perfect mix. Well, we'll see. Kind of where I end up making my permanent address.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Well, you don't even have to. That's the beauty of the life we lead right now is like, people like, where are you from? I'm like, I. At this point, I don't know. Airplanes in Florida, New York.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
That's all I know.
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Lexi Wood
No, exactly. So it's so nice. I feel like right now everything feels open for me, which is also so empowering. Right now I feel so. Yeah, I feel like being so open makes me feel so empowered to kind of like make any dream come true, get any guy I want, do anything that I want.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay, so how do we translate this for other people to take on? Because it's infectious.
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Lexi Wood
Thank you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You know, how do you, where do you get that source of that, you know, like, how do you keep that positivity?
- [32:07]
Lexi Wood
I think being just kind of like having faith. And I know that that might sound so like woo, woo and whatever, but I have such strong faith and I think that the universe is always testing me. When I'm dropping the ball on patience, it forces me to have to practice patience. When I'm dropping the ball on, when I'm feeling too controlling, it throws in a curveball. That makes me practice having faith in the universe and slowing down. And I think just kind of always giving myself kind of like space to be like, you know what? Like, my path is my path. I know that I always will do everything I can. Like, I will communicate in every single way that I can. I will do as much as I can, but I can only do as much as I can. I can't control the universe. I can't control what other people are going to think about me, say about me, feel about me, whether it's in business, dating, TV, Instagram, my DMs, I made up dramas. Yeah, yeah. I can't control any of that. So I think just like, honestly, letting go, the art of letting go, I think is where power lies in everything. And I think once you kind of like just let go of the outcome, do everything that you can, but then once you've done every single thing and you've went from every single little angle, let it lie, let it kind of expand how it needs to, let it grow where it needs to. It's like, I feel like life in general is like a plant and it's like you're putting all the seeds in, you're putting the seeds in, but then you have to water it and give it time to grow. You can't just have like a full tree because you put some seeds down. You really need to let it go.
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Rebecca Minkoff
And the stress of trying to control every outcome is time and effort spent on not planting a new seed.
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Lexi Wood
Exactly, exactly. And I think that you can plant 10 seeds, you can have 10 different scenarios going on 10 different scenarios growing, and one of them will stick. One of them you will feel passionate about. But I do think that, like, you. Even the world works in such mysterious ways, and sometimes, like, something doesn't work out because it was never meant to work out. And you wouldn't. You wouldn't have been happy if it worked out. I really do look at that. Like, some jobs and stuff that I had or even. I'm sure you felt like this too, with, like, going on tv. We went in with, like, the best intentions. We went in wanting, like, a new friend group, a new everything, and have our life kind of expand, but it wasn't for us to maybe grow in that. That specific scenario.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
It doesn't mean that there's a billion other scenarios. But what I did learn is that I love being vulnerable on tv. I love sharing my life. I didn't feel weird about being clowned on TV by a man because it's just a human experience.
- [34:48]
Rebecca Minkoff
Right.
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Lexi Wood
And I love being human.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I learned. I didn't learn that lesson. I think I learned that I got so strong with what people perceive of you, you know, like, because there was a perception in a character made of me or how people thought I should act in reaction to a character that I was like, oh, now I really don't give a. What people think.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You know, or opinions or criticism. Like, that hardened me in a good way to, like, oh, no, no. I just. I'm gonna be the best that I can be, and I'm gonna do well and I'm gonna prosper. And, like, that's it. And you know what? All you people that are attacking, I checked your IG profile, and you're sad. Okay.
- [35:26]
Lexi Wood
Also, it's always the ones that say, like, God first, or like, I love my kids or be kind. It's always those ones that are the meanest. I'm like, okay.
- [35:36]
Rebecca Minkoff
Those tiny keyboard warriors.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. That's the thing. And I think you can't control what people think of you. Sometimes they just decide whether you tell them what's going on. And you try to paint the picture for them as much as you can. And you're always trying to almost, like, explain yourself and give more context and give more of a reasoning. Give more so that people understand. If people are committed to misunderstanding you, they're going to misunderstand you. So there. It's completely out of our control. And I also think with reality tv, it's like. And I'm sure it was the same with you. We film so much, but if it doesn't fit into that. Our episode, then it doesn't fit into the story. And they don't necessarily like editors and producers and everyone. They're just doing their job and they're trying to make things as clear as they can. But there's also so many other people that go into that. And so if that's not what other people are feeling, or if that's not, it's really out of all of our control. It's out of all of our control, and there's never going to be enough context that we can ever give to make people understand us.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Except talking about it a lot on podcasts.
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Lexi Wood
Exactly. But then. Then you can do that too much.
- [36:44]
Rebecca Minkoff
I know, I know, I know.
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Lexi Wood
I think, like, when I was going on my press tour, obviously we know how press tours work, but it was a lot. I was, like, talking about it nonstop. I was like, guys, I'm tired. Honestly, it was also really funny because I was fully dating somebody during that whole time, during the whole press tour and everything.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Like, I have to talk about this because these are my talking points, but really, I give a fuck because I got a nice, hot piece of meat at home. Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
You'd always call me, like, how was it? I'd be like, well, I had to talk about the same thing. He's like, how does that make sense? You feel like he was amazing. I feel like he. Honestly, like, he came into my life. We met right when the, Like, a couple weeks before the show was starting, and then just. It just didn't end up working out with us. But I literally feel like he came into my life at the best time.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my gosh.
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Lexi Wood
Such a great support system. And kind of like when I was going through everything and I was seeing things that were said behind my back that weren't true, where I was seeing all these things. And then I got to get his kind of take on it, too, and he would just be so nice, and I feel like he really helped my confidence.
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Rebecca Minkoff
That's the best.
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Lexi Wood
Stay strong during that time instead of get, like, broken. Yeah. So I feel like he was, like, a gift from the universe at the time. And we still talk and we're still friends, but just didn't work out. But, yeah, he's amazing. And I was so lucky that he came into my life at that time.
- [38:04]
Rebecca Minkoff
That is so nice to hear that you had that going on with what I know you were.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
When I. I could empathize with what you were going through.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. Which is so nice, especially being friends with you before it's so nice that we've always been able to kind of, like, connect through fashion. And now we can connect so much, like, deeper from going through this.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
Thing.
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Rebecca Minkoff
We're trauma bonded.
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Lexi Wood
We're trauma bonded. It's so fun.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I remember I would, like, text you, like, are you okay? I saw this. Are you still okay? Like, I just ended my thing and yours is starting. And I was like, oh, God.
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Lexi Wood
Also, I was with you when a lot of things were going down. Remember, I was at an event with
- [38:43]
Rebecca Minkoff
you and I vomited all over you. I was just like, this is everything that's happening to me. I don't know what to do. And you were just like, I just was coming to say hi.
- [38:51]
Lexi Wood
Yeah. And then literally I was like, read these text messages. Like, I was like, well, I have no idea what's happening right now. Like, you were just, like, so nice and calm for me because you were just going through it.
- [39:03]
Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
You're like an anchor for it.
- [39:04]
Rebecca Minkoff
Here's how to, like, get out of the fucking hellfire and damnation.
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Lexi Wood
Like, don't even pay attention. Like, too much, too much.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my gosh. I remember Psy had told me in the beginning, she's like, don't read the comments. Just stay away from the comments. And every time I entered into them, I was like, oh, I got to get the fudge out of here.
- [39:21]
Lexi Wood
Well, it's so funny. I've always been very heavily into my comments. Like, so you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You read everything about you a lot.
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Lexi Wood
I try. Okay. So once it got, like, really bad, I was just like, I got to back up off these. But because my job has always been, like, influencing, modeling, whatever. I love my community that I've built on Instagram. Like, I'm like, they are my best friends. Most of my fan pages, I literally still talk to. Like, my one fan page has been, honestly, we're like, good friends at this point. Because she's been a fan page for eight years. I know everything about her. She knows everything about me. We DM all the time. I'm always answering my DMs, like, non stop. Like, if somebody asked me any little question or if even somebody's just like, nice or telling me something about them or I always answer because I just love connection. That's, like, one thing that I crave in my soul, like, deeply. And I feel like social media has given me so many different connections, like, all through the world. And I was so lucky to have this great, strong community of, like, over a million people that I genuinely feel like I Could DM any of them be like, hey, I need your opinion on this, or whatever? And they'd give me the best feedback. So I was always so in my comments, so in my DMs, so, like, on it with the girlies. And then, yeah, I was like, I need to get back up for a minute. I need to go. Choose peace. Choose peace. Choose a martini, choose the cake, and go home.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my God. So it's a wild place.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. But I'm back in my DMs and comments now.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Okay, you heard it here first. She's available.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah, I'm back.
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Rebecca Minkoff
So is there anything that you're excited about that's coming next? Next?
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Lexi Wood
I have been working on a couple projects. I can't share too much. Just know something. Something is cooking.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my gosh, that's so vague.
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Lexi Wood
I know. It's so vague. I know. It's so annoying. But hopefully soon we're just, you know, like, the stages and the. The everything. But there is stuff cooking, so just know I'm. I am hustling every single day trying to get, like, one step closer to being able to tell everyone. But I do have a couple projects that I'm so excited about because they're so me. They're gonna feel like once everybody kind of finds out, they're just gonna be like, duh. Like, it's just gonna be. Yeah, it's gonna be so good. And it's. I'm so passionate and excited, so.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, that's awesome.
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Lexi Wood
Yes.
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Rebecca Minkoff
You've got four on Beautiful Men. You got some projects coming up.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Is there anything else you want to share?
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Lexi Wood
Let's see. I mean, my. I honestly would like to share my gratitude to you and our friendship and being able. Yeah. And I feel like I've always been so comfortable with you. Obviously, there's so many different aspects. You inspire me so much as a woman in business and somebody that wants to kind of, like, follow your footsteps in a lot of ways. And I just think you're so strong. You're so cool.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
You're so beautiful on the inside and out. So.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah.
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Lexi Wood
I'm so grateful that you had me on here.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I was so glad you came. And you've been, like, so generous with me. Like, you show up to my things when I invite you, you support. And that means so much because I feel like, like, lately the landscape has been so transactional.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah.
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Rebecca Minkoff
And I just don't think you can ever create something meaningful when it's just like, hey, I showed up, I saluted, and I left.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. No, it's always strong in the authenticity. And I just. I will always, like, show up for the people that I adore and look up to in my life. That's just kind of how I am. And I really appreciate you always including me and always thinking of me. So, yeah. Would love to express my gratitude.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Oh, my gosh, guys, I didn't pay her for this. Okay?
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Lexi Wood
She did not. Yeah. And just, like, I'm so lucky to have been able to have so much support through the last couple years, even with people that follow me and have followed me through everything, but also the new people that started following me, I've really felt, like, loved and supported. So just my gratitude in general.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Well, we love love. We love love. We love gratitude.
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Lexi Wood
We love love. We love you guys. We love each other, everything.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I loved having you on. Thank you.
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Lexi Wood
Thank you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Sorry. Duh. My last question. I always do this. A piece of advice. You want to leave my listeners with a piece of advice about any subject. It could be love, dating, business, staying positive, good vibes.
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Lexi Wood
Bet on yourself, period. Always bet on yourself. When it comes to love, choose yourself. When it comes to business. Go for your goals and do not be afraid. Put all of your money always on yourself, because wherever you're sitting right now, you can always get back to that because you already did it. So have faith in yourself. Bet on yourself. And I think that that's something that I've had to hear a lot throughout the years. And just like, a reminder, and it's so simple, but people forget about it. And I think that when there's other people doing so great and doing so many big things and you kind of. It's easy to compare yourself. But just stay in your lane and bet on yourself.
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Rebecca Minkoff
I love that. And if you are gonna forget, if you're a forgetful person, set reminders.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah, I actually put, like, sticky notes all over the house, like, even for, like, the girls or my friends. Or, like, I'll, like, put it in a makeup compact and they open it up and it's like something cute.
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Rebecca Minkoff
Yeah. But we need those reminders because you can get. You can forget. And then someone just like, hey, remember, you can do this. Oh, yes, I can.
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Lexi Wood
Yeah. And just hearing that somebody else believes in you, and, like, I genuinely think that that's so important to just remind yourself. Like. Like, believe in yourself. Bet on yourself. Don't be afraid, because you'll never grow if you sit in your kind of, like, cocoon.
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Rebecca Minkoff
It's true. I love it. Thank you, Ms. Lexi. Wood.
- [44:58]
Lexi Wood
Thank you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
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Lexi Wood
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Lexi Wood
Thank you.
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Rebecca Minkoff
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