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Hi, everybody. Suzio here. Now, what is the goal of money? The goal of money is for you to be secure. And there is no better way for you to be secure than having an emergency savings account. It is essential for your financial foundation. So all of you should be participating in the Ultimate Opportunity savings account at Alliant Credit Union. Go to myalliant.com to find out more. And be secure. May 10, 2026. Welcome, everybody, to the Women and Money podcast, as well as everybody smart enough to listen. And today is Mommy's Day.
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Happy Mother's Day, all the mommies out there, right?
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And so we're not mommies. Do you think we're mommies?
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Absolutely.
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To millions of people, right, you are.
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You're the godmother, the financial mommy.
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But here's the thing, everybody. As you know, we're recording this before we left For Japan on May 5, just a few days ago, actually. But I thought deeply about what message, what message do I really want to give all of you on Mother's Day? And then I realized that on March 6th of this year, not that long ago, I got an email from somebody that really touched my heart. And believe it or not, it's about her mom. And sometimes it's not just about us doing a podcast saying how great moms are, how everything like that goes, but the role that a moment can really play in our lives and the role that if you are a mom, that you can play in your daughter's lives because one day they may be moms as well. So what we're going to do right now is I want you all to sit down because this is kind of long. And KT will be reading the email that this woman sent him. Then I will be reading you the answer that I sent to her, and then we'll go from there. All right, kt, are you ready?
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Okay. Are you all ready? So this email is from a woman by the name of Danny Brunello. What is the point of life?
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And kt, I have to say, when I saw that, what made me pick this email out of all, all the thousands that we get is I thought to myself, now that is the most profound question I've ever been asked. What is the point of life? It's all yours now.
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Okay? So, hi, K.T. and Susie. What is the point of life? I know this is a big question to ask, but if anyone could answer it, I thought Susie could. I would also love your opinion and kindness. KT, I am a 37 year old woman with a supportive husband, two young girls, three and five. Mom, dad, Sister, and a large and loving Jersey Italian family. Me and my cousins all grew up in the same small town. My mom is and was always in charge of my family's finances. Growing up, she worked as a teller in a bank, a bookkeeper, and now as an accountant without a college degree for a large company. When I was a kid, my mom and I would watch Susie on Oprah together. My mom instilled a lot of the principles Susie taught about money in me, including working hard, paying down my student loan debt, investing and saving into retirement accounts early because time is one of the best assets we have for our money. Yes, I max out contributions to my Roth IRA. My mom is 65 and my dad is about to turn 67. The last two years, my mom has been laser focused on maximizing their retirement savings and getting my dad ready to start collecting his Social Security. My dad has worked his whole life in the second and third shift at a print press, a job he's hated. We grew up lower middle class, but even so, my mom always saved for their future, for their retirement, to get those golden years. My dad made it to retirement 10 whole days. And then my mom was diagnosed with stage four endometrial cancer. It has been less than a month since her diagnosis, and her health has spiraled downward dramatically. The Saturday before Super bowl, she was babysitting my children. Now she cannot even walk to the bathroom, navigate stairs, read books or texts. It's been absolutely devastating to me and my whole family.
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Her prognosis is poor. I'm trying my best to give her everything I can so she can suffer less. My big family has all stepped up. We are coming together to help each other out during this difficult time. Give me a minute, everybody.
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This has rocked my world in so many ways, but truthfully, it's disrupted my
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entire philosophy of life.
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You can do a kitty, you're just reading somebody's story.
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Go on.
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I read too many of these stories. Okay. Work hard, save hard, love hard, be
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a good person, then ride off into the sunset. During your golden years,
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I saw my mom and my whole life live by this principle.
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And I can't help to think she had it all wrong. What is the point of life? Why am I saving for a future that may never come? It is easy to say live for the now, but I know in my heart you will need to save for your future. I don't have the money to travel to all the places I want to. I need to save for that. I don't have the Money for the pool, literally and metaphorically. Kt, she knows me in my pool that I always wanted. I would blow through all my savings right now to do that. But what if that future never comes for me, my family? I may never get my pool. I love my mom so much. I thought she would help me raise
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my kids and had all those plans for her with me, my kids, during her retirement. I wanted her Grammy years to be her best years. And now my youngest daughter won't even remember her. If you have any perspective, wise words, or even just a kind word to give me, Susie, I could use all or any of that right now. Danny.
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So, Susie, you already answered her, didn't you? You wrote to her.
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Yeah, of course I did.
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Will you share that with everyone?
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Yeah. So that's what I had planned to do today. That's what I was saying at the begin of the podcast, kt, that I would have you read it. I know that wasn't easy for you because of how much you loved your mother and, you know, for us, everybody, I just want to say this. When we read emails like this, and you have no idea how many emails like this, very similar to loss, we read, and they're devastating, which is why we actually do this podcast, believe it or not. Not necessarily just to tell all of you about money and things like that,
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but for we want to share life. We want to share life.
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Life. And that's what we're doing here. So now I will read to all of you what I wrote back to Dani. First, I want to say something very clearly. What you are feeling right now is completely normal. When something this unfair and painful happens, it shakes the very foundation of how we think life is supposed to work. There is nothing wrong with you for asking this question. In fact, the question, what is the point of life? Usually comes when someone loves deeply and has just been reminded how fragile everything really is. Your mother sounds like an extraordinary woman. A woman who worked hard, took care of her family, saved, planned, and taught you values that are now living inside of you. And the cruel part, the part that feels impossible to accept, is that life sometimes does not follow the timeline we thought we were building towards. But here is something very important to understand. Your mom did not get it wrong. The purpose of saving, working, planning for the future is not just about reaching some magical golden years. It's about creating stability, dignity, and freedom for the people you love. Because of the choices she made, your parents likely have more security now than they would have had otherwise. Even in this painful moment, that matters more than you may realize. But here's the other truth that your mom's story is revealing to you. Life is not meant to be lived only for some day. It is meant to be lived in both directions at the same time. Responsibly towards the future, gratefully in the present. Not one or the other, but both. Saving for retirement isn't a bet that the future is guaranteed. It's simply an act of protection, A way of giving your future self options if life allows it. But the meaning of life is never found in the retirement account at the end of the road. It's found in what you already described. Your village, your daughters, your Jersey Italian family around the table. Your mom babysitting your girls the week before the Super Bowl. Those moments were the point, not the someday. Your mom already lived a full life of meaning because she raised you. She taught you values. She created a family that is now surrounding her with love. That is not a life wasted waiting for retirement. This is a life that worked exactly the way a meaningful life is supposed to work. And there is one more thing I want you to think about. Your daughters may be three and five. They may not remember every detail about their grandmother, but they will grow up inside the culture your mother created. They will hear stories about her. They will see the way you handle money. They will feel the way your family shows up for each other. Your mom is already living on through that. That is her legacy, not the retirement years. It's love that keeps echoing through generations. Right now, you are in the middle of grief, anticipatory grief, fear and heartbreak all at once. I get it. It's overwhelming. But if there is one gentle perspective I would like to offer you, it's this. Life is not about reaching the pool. Life is about the people who would jump in it with you. So keep saving for the future, because protecting your family matters. But also hold your girls tighter. Sit with your mom. Take pictures. Ask her stories. Let her tell you things about her childhood you never asked before. Those moments are the answers to your question, what is the point of life? And let me tell you something. Your mom did something beautiful. She raised a daughter who cares enough about life to ask this question. That alone tells me she succeeded. You and your family are in my heart. So that's what I wrote to her. Now, many of you, I'm sure, are like, okay, how did that sit with her? How did she take it? What did she think about that? Because what we don't always do on the podcast is do a follow up of what somebody responded. But Danny happened to respond to me, so I would just like KT now to read the email that she sent back. And this is actually dated. Remember, I got her original email on March 6th. I wrote her back on March 6th and the date of this email back was March 10th. So this is in a four day period of time. All right, this is easier to read, Katie.
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Okay. Again, she responds with, Susie, thank you deeply for this incredible, thoughtful response. And it was. It was Susie.
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I know.
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I thank you too. It is clear to me you took time to format such a beautifully written and helpful answer to my question. I read your response to my sister tearfully and sent it to friends and clients that have all become part of my mother's care and my own care during this time. Everyone is impressed by how insightful and kind you were to me. You truly gave me tangible advice that I will reference now and when I need a reminder in the future. I'm sure you hear this all the time by the thousands of people you have helped individually, like in my case or generally throughout your career and now with your podcast. I appreciate you and this so much. Please don't ever become numb to how
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much you have helped people, real people helped me.
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Why are you crying?
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Because that's all you do. That's all Susie does. Everybody. She helps so many people. Wait, let me finish this. All right. My sister and I agree. This will be something we share with my mom. It will be something that I can
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do for her that is special. We all have looked up to you and it will mean a lot to her.
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Now, I just want to say something. I wrote Danny and I told her that on Mother's Day we would be doing this podcast. And Danny wrote back and said, oh, Susie, my mother, Lynn, will love this. Let me just say, from my heart, from KT's heart to hers, Lynn, you were a great mother and we wish you a very happy Mother's Day. Because you should be happy because you raised a daughter, a family that loves you more than life itself. So to all the mothers out there, I hope you take this Mother's Day message with heart. To know that the point of life is really about loving one another, respecting one another, always being honest with one another, and supporting each other in the best way possible. So until next time, there's only one thing that we want you to remember, and it's this. People first, then money, then things. And once again, happy, happy Mother's Day.
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We are strong. We are wise. We will not apologize. We are here. We will thrive together. We will rise we're the little bit of faith and everything it takes we are strong, we are wise Together we will rise.
Suze Orman's Women & Money (And Everyone Smart Enough To Listen)
Episode Release Date: May 10, 2026
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A heartfelt exploration of the meaning of life, especially in the face of loss and uncertainty, and how money and security intersect with family, love, legacy, and living in the present. A special Mother’s Day message weaves through the episode, rooted in a listener’s profound question and personal story about family, grief, and what truly matters.
Suze Orman and co-host KT dedicate this episode to mothers and, more broadly, to the fundamental life questions that adversity brings. The episode is catalyzed by a moving listener email asking, “What is the point of life?” following her mother’s devastating cancer diagnosis right as her parents were about to begin retirement. Through reading the original email, Suze’s deeply personal response, and the listener’s heartfelt reply, the podcast examines the relationship between financial planning, the unpredictability of life, and the enduring value of love and family.
Suze opens by reflecting on Mother’s Day and recording prior to her trip to Japan.
She stakes the episode’s purpose: not just lauding mothers, but examining the roles mothers play in shaping our values and financial lives.
Suze frames the episode around an email that moved her deeply, setting a contemplative and empathetic tone.
“It's not just about us doing a podcast saying how great moms are... but the role that a moment can really play in our lives and the role that, if you are a mom, you can play in your daughter's lives because one day they may be moms as well.” – Suze Orman (01:25)
“Work hard, save hard, love hard, be a good person, then ride off into the sunset during your golden years… I can’t help to think she had it all wrong. What is the point of life? Why am I saving for a future that may never come?” – Dani, read by KT (06:18)
“The purpose of saving, working, planning for the future is not just about reaching some magical golden years. It's about creating stability, dignity, and freedom for the people you love.” – Suze Orman (09:21)
“Life is not meant to be lived only for someday. It is meant to be lived in both directions at the same time. Responsibly towards the future, gratefully in the present. Not one or the other, but both.” – Suze Orman (10:29)
“Your daughters… will grow up inside the culture your mother created. They will hear stories about her. They will see the way you handle money. They will feel the way your family shows up for each other. Your mom is already living on through that.” – Suze Orman (12:07)
“Life is not about reaching the pool. Life is about the people who would jump in it with you.” – Suze Orman (12:59)
“You truly gave me tangible advice that I will reference now and when I need a reminder in the future. ... Please don't ever become numb to how much you have helped people—real people helped me.” – Dani, read by KT (15:43)
“The point of life is really about loving one another, respecting one another, always being honest with one another, and supporting each other in the best way possible.” – Suze Orman (16:51)
“People first, then money, then things.” – Suze Orman (17:28)
This deeply emotional episode rises above standard financial advice to address the universal questions at the heart of human experience: how do we balance preparation for the future with finding value in the present? Suze’s guidance is both practical and spiritual, reminding listeners that money is a tool to support what matters most—family, love, and shared moments. A perfect Mother’s Day message and a touchstone for anyone questioning the point of striving in uncertain times.