Dating Requirements, Athlete Phases & Ditching The Date

Summary

Podcast Summary: Tall Blonde – Episode: Dating Requirements, Athlete Phases & Ditching The Date

Introduction

In this engaging episode of "Tall Blonde," hosted by Sarah Lauren, the conversation delves deep into the intricate dynamics of modern dating, the influence of urban lifestyles, and the journey toward achieving 'it girl' status. The guest for this episode is Ralph, also known as Lord Caribbean, a Miami-based content creator who brings a fresh perspective on dating, social media, and personal growth.

Guest Introduction: Ralph (Lord Caribbean)

The episode begins with Sarah introducing her guest, Ralph, who explains the origin of his unique social media persona, Lord Caribbean. [01:05] Ralph shares his Caribbean and Haitian heritage, emphasizing his desire to create a name that reflects his cultural background while maintaining a memorable and stylish online presence. He draws inspiration from figures like Scott Disick, blending cultural relevance with modern aesthetics to craft his brand identity.

Social Media and Content Creation

Ralph recounts his transition from a corporate job at T-Mobile to becoming a successful content creator. [08:46] During the COVID-19 pandemic, Ralph found solace in creating dance videos, which initially garnered moderate attention. However, his true breakthrough came with a viral 15-second cleaning video that amassed 3 million views overnight. [09:18] This unexpected success led him to pivot towards lifestyle and skincare content, specifically targeting men's skincare—a niche he identified as underserved in the influencer space.

Facing Backlash and Building Confidence

As Ralph's content began to resonate with a broader audience, he faced significant backlash, particularly when addressing men's skincare. [15:27] "A lot of backlash. My beauty videos are at, like, millions of views," Ralph admits, highlighting derogatory comments that questioned his masculinity and intentions. Despite the negativity, Ralph remains undeterred, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and confidence. He states, "I can handle backlash like nobody's business," showcasing his resilience and commitment to his vision. [16:03] This segment underscores a critical lesson for creators: staying true to oneself can help navigate and overcome public criticism.

Monetization and Brand Collaborations

Ralph delves into the nuances of monetizing content and establishing successful brand partnerships. [19:04] He explains that many creators with substantial followings fail to secure lucrative deals because they lack a clear niche or fail to integrate brand promotions seamlessly into their content. Ralph emphasizes the importance of being marketable and having a defined target audience. He shares his experiences working with prestigious brands like Calvin Klein and Dior, highlighting the professionalism of his team in maintaining smooth collaborations without any negative experiences. [23:37]

Differences in Dating Scenes: Miami vs. New York vs. Toronto

The conversation shifts to the contrasting dating scenes in Miami, New York, and Toronto. [38:34] In Miami, Ralph describes the environment as fast-paced and superficial, with a prevalence of attractive Latino men who often prioritize wealth over genuine connections. "Nobody in Miami has exclusivity," Ralph notes, highlighting a culture of casual dating and a high turnover of potential partners. [39:35]

Conversely, New York City's diverse and vibrant dating landscape offers a broader range of men, including tall, professional gentlemen who are more inclined towards long-term relationships. Ralph contrasts this with Miami's tendencies, stating, "New York City gives you a little bit of everything," and points out the challenges of finding mature, established partners in Miami compared to New York. [44:12]

Toronto is described as a "mini New York," with its own set of challenges such as limited dating pools and repetitive encounters with the same individuals. Both hosts agree that city-specific dynamics significantly influence dating experiences, with each location offering distinct advantages and obstacles for those seeking meaningful relationships.

Dating Experiences and Requirements

Ralph and Sarah discuss personal dating preferences and the importance of setting boundaries. Ralph emphasizes the necessity of training a partner to understand one's love language and maintaining self-respect in relationships. [43:51] He shares his own dating requirements, such as expecting regular romantic gestures like roses and jewelry, and seeking a gentleman who is financially stable and emotionally mature. [42:52]

Sarah contributes by sharing her recent breakup due to her partner's insecurity about her income and social media presence, underscoring the challenges of dating in the public eye. [34:17] Both speakers agree that confidence and clear communication are vital for sustaining healthy relationships, especially when external factors like career and public image come into play.

Sharing Date Stories: "Date or Ditch"

In the "Date or Ditch" segment, Sarah and Ralph entertain listeners with real-life dating disasters submitted by their audience.

1. Wrong Ride Disaster: A listener recounts a first date where her date acted mysteriously distracted after being picked up, ultimately pulling away mid-date. [61:24] Both hosts agree that such behavior is a red flag and an immediate reason to leave, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acting on warning signs early.

2. Dog Mom Drama: Another story involves a date who insisted his dog sit at the dinner table and later demanded the dog sleep in their bed. Sarah promptly decided to end the date, highlighting the significance of maintaining personal boundaries and prioritizing one's comfort and standards. [61:32]

3. Bathroom Ghoster: A listener describes a date who abruptly left during appetizers to use the bathroom and never returned, blocking her on all platforms afterward. [62:19] The hosts discuss the frustration and heartache of being ghosted mid-date, reinforcing the need to move on confidently and not let such experiences impact one's self-worth.

Rapid Fire Questions

In the rapid-fire segment, Ralph and Sarah answer quick questions covering various topics, offering listeners a glimpse into their personal preferences and professional insights.

• Favorite Date Night Spots: Ralph recommends "The Standard at Lilo" and "Shamba in Midtown" for their chic atmospheres, while Sarah lists venues in Brickell like "Moxies" and "Raw Sugar." [66:58]

• Dream Collaborations: Ralph expresses his desire to partner with high-fashion brands like Schiaparelli to expand men’s fashion, highlighting the need for more inclusive and stylish options for male audiences. [67:31]

• Essential Skincare Products: They share their go-to products, with Ralph endorsing La Roche Posay's Double Repair Moisturizer and Rare Beauty's blush, and Sarah mentioning foundation from House Lab and Dior perfumes. [69:29]

• Most Important Traits in a Partner: Both agree that looks are paramount, followed by personality and financial stability. Ralph emphasizes the importance of a man being a provider and emotionally mature, while Sarah highlights the balance between attractiveness and personal connection. [69:09]

Conclusion

The episode wraps up with Ralph and Sarah reinforcing the core themes of confidence, self-care, and setting clear boundaries in both personal and professional realms. Ralph's experiences as a content creator and his candid discussions about dating offer valuable insights for listeners navigating similar challenges in their lives.

Notable Quotes:

• Ralph on Content Creation: "I'm so confident and comfortable... I could take backlash like nobody's business." [14:54]

• Ralph on Monetization: "Money talks to me." [25:29]

• Sarah on Facing Backlash: "It's tough to look at my comments." [17:42]

• Ralph on Dating Boundaries: "If he doesn't give it to me, I promise you, the next person will." [43:37]

• Sarah on Date or Ditch: "Unfortunately, that's an ick." [63:25]

Final Thoughts

This episode of "Tall Blonde" offers an unfiltered look into the intersections of social media influence, city-specific dating cultures, and personal empowerment. Ralph's journey from corporate life to a successful content creator, coupled with his honest take on modern relationships, provides listeners with both inspiration and practical advice to enhance their own lives.

Transcript

[A]

Men like sleep control.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

In private? Yes. In public?

[B]

No.

[A]

I promise you. Like, if you tell a man in private, get on the floor, they will get on the floor.

[B]

I had my, like, phase of athletes.

[A]

Oh, they're giant.

[B]

Just everything is big. Okay.

[A]

Sometimes you have to train a man because they're not used to a high quality woman or high quality men. And also, how would someone know your love language if you don't tell them? If you don't say something, you're a girl making more money than a straight man. Like, that would hurt his ego, which is fair from a milk perspective. I get it.

[B]

Hello, everybody, and welcome back to Tall Blonde. Hello, everybody, and welcome back to Tall Blonde. Today I have another exciting guest who does go by Lord Caribbean. How we're going to get to know him is by his real name. And what is underneath that. We're gonna understand how you even got to have that name and why you go by that. But I am introducing to you, Ralph.

[A]

Al said yes, correct.

[B]

So can you first of all give us a little bit of a breakdown as to why you chose to have the name? Like, why didn't you go by. I know in your bio you do, it's not like you're hiding your real name, but why did you choose a different name to go by on social media?

[A]

Well, I'm from the Caribbean, which is from Haiti.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

So. So a lot of people don't know I'm Haitian.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

On social media, it's always like, oh, where are you from? Are you American based? Or you, like, somewhere else? But born and raised in Haiti. Came like, 15 years ago. But I wanted a name that, like, stuck to, like, my culture and my background. And my mom is half German, but grew up in the Caribbean. My father's full Haitian, so I decided, do you know Scott Disick? Like, his name is like, Lord Disick, right?

[B]

I love Scott Disick.

[A]

Right, Me too. I love his aesthetic. Back then, I think it was, like, around Tumblr face.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And his name was Lord Disick. He was, like, on private jets.

[B]

I think I still call him Lord Disick.

[A]

Me too. I really do. And I really like the first name Lorde. And then I saw on social media back then when Instagram had a different font, and I was like, my God, I love his name Lord. And then I thought about, like, Lorde, but, like, what can I do to still relate it into my background? So Lord Caribbean came about.

[B]

Okay, and has it always been like that, or were you wanting to, like, change like, you obviously had Instagram probably before you changed your name to Lord Caribbean. Lord Caribbean.

[A]

Yeah, it's always pretty much been like that.

[B]

Oh really? Okay, so you knew it for a while.

[A]

I knew for a while, yeah. It's been like that for quite some time.

[B]

And it says in your bio, New York slash Miami. But you say you're in Miami. Yeah, you say you're in Miami for more time than you are in New York, but you're kind of like in between Miami's home.

[A]

Because I've been here for like 15, 15 years and plus. But Miami is like where I'm based, where like my place is my family, my friends. But New York is more like for work, you know, cute little vacation, cute little trips to like meet other content creators.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But yeah, Miami is like home, home, home.

[B]

And how long have you been here in Miami then?

[A]

I've been in Miami 15 years.

[B]

15 years?

[A]

Yeah, 15 years.

[B]

So you're settled in.

[A]

Settled in.

[B]

This is me.

[A]

This is me. Like, this is me. But obviously like, as I grow in my career, I do like eventually want to like transition to like maybe LA or New York. But is that the best fit? I'm not sure yet because Miami is such a growing economy for the creation world now. Three years ago it wasn't, but now it's booming with like a lot of things. Like the influencers are having. So like it would be wrong for me to leave now while it's just.

[B]

Like there you want to be a part of like the come up.

[A]

The come up growth of it. And like everybody knows I'm from Miami. Like when they're like, aren't you that boy that's from Miami? Aren't you that boy that does like beauty? Aren't you that boy that does skincare? I'm like, yeah, I'd see it.

[B]

Yeah. And I feel like, I mean, truthfully, I haven't really seen too many events in Miami until like a couple years ago.

[A]

Like three years ago. Yeah, three years ago.

[B]

But there is a lot happening now here, which is great. And it's also like, well, let's keep it a secret. Yeah, nobody come here. But like the difference between Miami. Cause I've traveled here, I've never lived here by any means, but I've traveled here for weekends, for trips, for people's birthdays, partied, partied on yard, did the whole Miami thing. And I love it. But that compared to New York is polar opposites, 100%. Like the lifestyle.

[A]

The lifestyle, the dating scene, the friendship.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Night and day.

[B]

So how, like, what do you see as the biggest difference for both?

[A]

When you think of. When you think about Miami, you think of, like, party. You think about Liv. You think about, like, going out with your friends, staying up yachting, staying up late at night, just, like, partying.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But when you think about New York, it's just like, you know, sex in the city. Carrie Bradshaw, like, having a little fun, going to cafes. You know, getting that New York City, you know, experience. Going to the Manhattan, Brooklyn, you know, it's just chic and aesthetic. Miami. A lot of folks don't think about Miami in that sense. It's more of, like, a party scene. Like, welcome to Miami.

[B]

But then living here. Do you think that.

[A]

I think living here, it's different. Because if you're, like, a local here, like, you know the difference. And I think, like, obviously, like, we all get sucked into the party lifestyle. Like, going out.

[B]

Too easy.

[A]

It's too easy, and it's so fun. And everybody. You never know who's really a local or who's really visiting, because there's so many every single day.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But the people that do live here, we do party here and there. But obviously, we know, like, the places to go, the places to not go.

[B]

Like, what days of the week?

[A]

What days of the week. Like, what's, like, ghetto? What's, like, very elegant? What's, like, very nice?

[B]

What's the vibe that you kind of want to do that night? You know, it's like, you get it. Whereas people coming are like, okay, we need to stop at 11. We need to stop at live.

[A]

We end the night at space.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, and then we go to put a vida, and then we hop on a plane, and then we go back home.

[B]

Yeah. And I did the 11, and I love it. I mean, I had so much fun.

[A]

What's your favorite nightclub?

[B]

I loved Mila. We went there, which is, I guess, not a nightclub. It's like a bar.

[A]

It's like a lounge bar. But it's so chic and elegant.

[B]

So chic and elegant. I loved it. And it didn't feel as clubby. Like, I've had my club phases. Loved them. But I think, like, I'm only 24. How old are you?

[A]

I'm only 26.

[B]

Okay, so we're very, very similar in age. But I feel like every single time I come back to Miami and go to live and stuff, there's obviously a wide range of ages, but I used to be the youngest, and now I'm not the youngest anymore. And it's like, and everything's changing.

[A]

Everything. Everything is changing at Liv. But it's like, still so cool to go if you've never been 100%. Like, I think, like, if you're a first time, if you're a first timer here in Miami, you have to go to space, like, just for the experience. Is it worth it? In my opinion, I think if you're a huge techno disco, like, you may like it, but everybody that goes to space is on something. Like, everybody's on something at space.

[B]

Well, it's also a lot of, like, you said it and I've heard it from other people that live here. Space is the place to go, like after the night.

[A]

After that place does not close.

[B]

So if you're going to be up at 7am, I'm sure you're. You have a little help.

[A]

Oh, if you live in downtown or Brickell, some of them go home, sleep for two hours, get some breakfast, and then go back.

[B]

That's insane.

[A]

Yeah, that's insane.

[B]

The first time I came to Miami, I remember I was out like all day, all night, until like 7am Then I'd wake up at around 2pm, then go back out. I was like, how the hell do people maintain that lifestyle? But you saying it of, you know, you figure it out. You figure out when you want to.

[A]

It's all about balance. Figure out the balance. Like, obviously, like, I live here, I don't go to space.

[B]

Yeah. Like, when's the last time you've been to space? Or 11.

[A]

Oh, my God. Okay, I know this may sound crazy, but I've only been to space twice in my life. One time was last year in Art Basel, and now two weeks ago with like, unexpected. With this Jewish guy. Literally unexpected.

[B]

It was just like it happened. You ended up there.

[A]

I don't even know how I ended up there. It's just like they all grabbed me. We ended up there, stayed there for like three hours and went back home.

[B]

Well, it is like very close from 11. What is it like right around the corner, literally. So it's very easy to go 11 to space.

[A]

Literally just across the street.

[B]

Yeah, it's like, twist my arm and you're there. But okay, let's go a little bit back. I'm going to get into the dating. I know you said that it's a.

[A]

Night and day in New York City and Miami.

[B]

It's very.

[A]

Everybody knows it. Literally night and day.

[B]

So we'll get into that. But I want to talk social media and content creation, because we did talk a little bit about it before we started this podcast and recording. But of course, Miami is new to the scene and everything with content creation. New York is very blunt in your face. There's an influencer at every single corner of the street taking content. But how did you get started? What was the reason for you to even start taking content and doing it? And how did you end up here?

[A]

Oh, my God, that's such a good question. It's not something I talk about on my channel. My channel at all. But I started because I was working for T Mobile's like, corporate location.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Just, like, I was going through some tough time, like 9 to 5, waking up, like, my boss telling me when to go to lunch, coworkers, like, arguing. And it was just such a miserable place to work at. And, like, I found myself going down a slope that I didn't enjoy. So during COVID like, it was such a fun thing to create dance. And then that's what I started doing.

[B]

Be yourself.

[A]

Be myself. But I was doing a few dancing videos, but I didn't. It wasn't really my style. So one day I decided to, like, I think it was like around midnight, clean, like, my space, like, got the Lysol, the broom, the mop, everything. Did like a quick 15 second of me cleaning my space. Literally posted at, like, a trendy sound. Woke up the next morning viral. Like 3 million views. Yeah, 3 million views. I was like, wait, hold on, let me do more of this. So the next day, literally after work, did the same thing. Started cleaning, started doing lifestyle. It was going viral. 700k, 100k, 300k views. I was like, my God, I love this. Yeah. And I started getting more attraction, more followers. And then, you know, things were not really serious. Like, I would get like maybe $500, $1,000 brand deals. But it wasn't nothing crazy.

[B]

Like, I'm starting out. That's good money.

[A]

Yeah. Back then that was really good money. But it wasn't until I went to Mexico Tulum. I was living there for one year, came back, but I was still creating content while I was there.

[B]

When was this?

[A]

It was like maybe 2020, 2021, 2022, I would say I was creating content in Mexico Tulum for that whole year I was there. You know, my followers was going up. I hit like 100k, all this stuff. But however, I couldn't work with any brands because I was all the way in Mexico. So I decided to come back after that one year, and that's when management signed me. That's when, like, you know, I became full time money started rolling in. But until you start growing more and getting such a follower and like creating such a niche for yourself, that's when brands take you more serious and you start getting really good money and things become a little bit more like structured.

[B]

Yeah. So explain the once you find your niche a bit more like explain how you do that and what exactly that means to people that don't do content creation.

[A]

Do you remember when I said dancing wasn't really my style?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So when I started like, you know, cleaning and like doing lifestyle and things that made me feel happy. Like finding your niche, you know, for everybody is different. It could be making food, it could be skincare, it could be beauty, it could be whatever it feels like your pass passionate about and you can really educate on. That's your niche. So once I found like beauty, once I found lifestyle skincare and I realized a lot of men in the space needed help with their skin care with a lot of men need help with their skincare. Straight men, but like literally, but like obviously you can't blame them because they don't know better. Like they use their girlfriend skincare because it's easier. And also when you're straight, it's sort of like why try.

[B]

And I feel like there's a barrier of like it's not manly.

[A]

Yeah, it's not manly.

[B]

And it's, I mean it's a fault of other people too to not share it and post it online. Like it's not just that, but there was such a in between. And I think you're nailing it with being and putting yourself in that. And like I said before, you're so relatable.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

So try to like explain in a way of like we were talking about, but in your own words how you are kind of broadcasting things that not all other people are.

[A]

So in the sense of like a lot of folks are scared to put themselves out there.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So like a lot of men, not like in the influencer world, it's all female. It's very female, which is amazing because obviously the women have a feeling for themselves that they're thriving. They're you know, being bosses and CEO. It's amazing. But when I started out I was only watching girls, which really it was cute, it was nice but. But I really couldn't resonate with the female. Especially when they were doing sponsored posts like doing tampons and doing like, you.

[B]

Know, like things that you just couldn't relate to.

[A]

Couldn't relate to like, you know, sleep and wellness for like their period. I'm like, okay, this is not me. This is not something I'm like, I am not. Yeah, like, I'm gay, but I'm not that gay. Yeah, but literally I was like, okay, I don't resonate with the female. That too well. So I was like, somebody in this space has to fill that gap. So I decided to be that, you know, kind of guy to fill that gap with skincare beauty. And I feel like a lot of straight men may think about it way too deep when it comes to skincare. It's a three step, it's a four step. As long as you have a serum moisturizer, toner, you're good.

[B]

The basics, you're good.

[A]

Just three skincare step, you're good. And like, you cannot go out after showering. And like, okay, cool. No, you need to protect your skin. As a man, you need to protect your skin, which is not good enough. It's not. And a lot of straight, straight men think, oh my God, it's gay. It's not gay if you put deep. Is it gay if you put lotion on your feet? No.

[B]

No.

[A]

Is it gay if you brush your teeth? No. So what's, what's the point of not putting a skincare on?

[B]

It's more attractive when a guy can, I mean, in my opinion, it's more attractive when a guy can take care of himself and be bold to do that and want to do that for himself than people that just don't care.

[A]

But I think it's society that like kind of judge guys 100%. You know, put a little skincare on, put whatever, like a moisturizer on. And then you have. Folks are like, you're gay.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And now they go back in like their self esteem and like, they're like, no, like, I'm never gonna do that again. Maybe if my girlfriend put it on me, cool, I'll do it.

[B]

But they question themselves.

[A]

Exactly. But in reality, it's not gay for you to take care of yourself. It's not gay for you to self care yourself at night. It's like, every man needs to take care of themselves. Whether you're straight or gay. Like, it's just, it's essential.

[B]

It's a common thing.

[A]

Yeah, it's essential.

[B]

And did you, when you first started making these videos and doing skin care and wellness and cleaning your apartment or whatever you were doing, did you feel that like, oh, are people going to judge me or this or that? Or were you like, I'm so confident and comfortable in myself.

[A]

No, I'm so confident and comfortable. Like, I could take backlash like nobody's business.

[B]

Really.

[A]

Yeah, it doesn't affect me.

[B]

Hey, let's talk about that.

[A]

It doesn't affect me because that's tough.

[B]

And not a lot of people could be able to say that it doesn't.

[A]

Affect me at all. Like, I could battle ash and we move on. Like, because, like, my thing is you're not hurting my pockets. You're not sleeping with me at night. Yeah, you're not hurting me. What's the point? Yeah, like, why would I take it? Like, I remember when I started doing Beauty maybe a few months ago, and, like, a lot. A lot of backlash. My beauty videos are at, like, millions of views.

[B]

Like, what? What do you mean, backlash? What were the comments?

[A]

Like, oh, like, you're gay. Like, why is it, man, like, you doing, like, makeup, like, you. You're a fag. Like, you should, like, da, da, da.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

Yeah. Literally, like, oh, what are you doing? This is unacceptable. Men shouldn't be doing this. This is like, 2020. This is, like, unappealing to, like, even the girls were backlashing at me, too. Like, the girls, Right?

[B]

You're fucking kidding.

[A]

Which, like, I get it. Like, I know we're progressing.

[B]

I don't get it.

[A]

I mean, I get it because, like, I'm Caribbean and African, so, like, I get it because my family is very religious. So I get it. So I get it.

[B]

You see a different side.

[A]

I see both side of it. But in reality, like, it's your life. It' my life. I'm going to live my truth. It doesn't matter. But I know, like, I'm not going to suppress, like, what I want in life and who I am. But, like, I could handle a backlash, like, nobody's business.

[B]

I love that when you said, I can hand. I'm. I want to live my truth and I can handle it. Like, I. That's beautifully well said. But it is hard. Like, it's so I'm sure. Like, do you read your comments?

[A]

I do. I look at it. But, like, I don't, like, respond to it.

[B]

I'm like, okay, so you don't bite back?

[A]

No, I don't bite back.

[B]

Okay. Have you ever bit back?

[A]

No, not really. Like, I remember, I just, like, I just troll. I'm like, oh, my God, thank you so much. Thank you, thank you. But, like, yeah, like, I don't really, like, say, oh, my God, I'm taking offense offensive. Or, like, I'll make a video, like, responding because, like, I'm like, that's not my style. I could care less.

[B]

You know what I'm saying? So true. And it's like you're wasting your time giving in to somebody else's stupid, mindless.

[A]

Comments, and you're never gonna see them. You're never gonna see them.

[B]

And negative comments say so much more about them than it does about you. It's like, you guys, they're going through something and you are clearly jealous or having a tough time understanding that I'm doing so well in this field that you couldn't do something or follow your dream. So you're going to take it out on me 100%. And, I mean, I'm getting to that point, but I've been. I get a lot of backlash on, like, comments and things just because I think I talk advice. And you can totally disagree. And I'm sure a lot of people do disagree, which they stay in in my comments. But it's hard to look at my comments, so I hope one day I can get somewhere.

[A]

But why do you feel like that? Like, I.

[B]

Like, now I'm confident in who I am. I think everyone has their own insecurities. I am very insecure about looks and, like, body image and everything. I've always kind of dealt with that.

[A]

But you look freaking amazing. If I was straight, I would date you.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

You're freaking amazing.

[B]

But, like, it's just. I think I'm getting over it. And as I mature and grow older, I'm, like, being more confident in that. But, like, getting a comment saying, oh, you look bigger today, or something that you're already worried about and you see it and then somebody else notices it really, like, hits deep.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I mean, so I've gone through phases where I don't look at my comments. But then, you know, it's so true when you say, they're not hurting my pockets, they're not sleeping with me at night. They're not. Like, their comments really don't mean anything. Like, you're following your dreams and that's exactly what you should be doing. But easier said than done, 100%.

[A]

Like, we all, like you said, we all go through our own insecurities. Like, behind closed doors, we all have our, like, demons and secrets. Like, you never know what someone's going through. And, like, comments does hurt. But however, it's just like, if you truly just believe in yourself and you truly just don't care, like, life is so much better. And if you see the people that are commenting, it's just like, wow, babe. Okay.

[B]

User 567825.

[A]

Right. Like, let me focus on me now.

[B]

Yeah, you're like. And bye.

[A]

Bye.

[B]

So monetization and making money. You said that some of the people that were bigger than you and doing, getting more views and stuff.

[A]

I think it's so crazy. Like, there are a lot of male creators and just girls as well too, who have like millions of followers, but they're not making no money.

[B]

Why do you think? What's going wrong? What are they doing?

[A]

Well, they're not monetizing and they're not marketable, which a lot of people don't know what being marketable means. And like, you're not appealing to any brand. Like, what's your niche? Like we talked about. Like, and you're not appealing as well. I said, what are you advertising really on your platform? Like, what are you doing and who are you targeting? Like, who's your target audience?

[B]

Are they going to listen to you for advice? Are they going to copy what you're wearing? What are they doing?

[A]

What are they doing? Like, why are they following you? You, like, you have girls who have like, maybe like a million followers, but, like, they only post bikini pics. Yeah, but really, like, you're not even tagging where you got the bikini from. And the way you're posting the bikini pics is just like outrageous. Like, I fear, like, we all post a little thirst trap here and there.

[B]

Of course, that's fair. You gotta do what you gotta do.

[A]

Just for a cute little by, you know who's watching, like your love interest.

[B]

You'Re talking to someone, you know, Cool.

[A]

But your whole page cannot be about you in a bikini piece. Yeah, like, your whole page cannot be about you. Shirtless.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Like a guy. Like, come on. Like, are you a fitness influencer? Sure. But also, are you promoting any supplement? Well, like, what are you doing?

[B]

What are you eating a day? What are you taking to get to this physique?

[A]

And a lot of them are not relatable. Like, you watch them. It's just like, sir, what's different about.

[B]

You than the next?

[A]

And like, what are you doing? Like, can I see you a day in the life? Can I see, like, where do you live? Can I see your lifestyle?

[B]

Who are you?

[A]

Who are you? Give me something.

[B]

Is there a transition pick? Did you all. Were you always in this physique? Like, what? So how did you start making money? What did you find work? What does work at the moment? Like, how did you start gaining money and income from this?

[A]

Well, like, I went to school for marketing okay. So I think it was easier for me to understand that background concept.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Right. And also I realized a lot of the brands were targeting more towards, like, lifestyle skincare, like, a day in the Life. Like, how. What products are you using? It never has to be that serious. As long as you include it or transition it in a very, like, seamless way. It makes sense. Like, I wake up in the morning. Like, I make my bed, but, like, what sheets am I making my bed with? I wake up, like, what supplement am I drinking? What toothpaste I'm brushing my teeth with? Like, I don't have to show it in your face. Like, boom, this is what I'm using. No, you just, like, add it. But, like, a lot of the folks are going to like, my God, what toothpaste was that?

[B]

They go in the tags and they can see you.

[A]

And then you could tag the brand, like, hey, I'm using Sensor Die. I'm using Crest. Boom, Boom. But a lot of people don't realize that it's just like, just make it natural is just going to be the most beautiful thing for you when you create your content.

[B]

Yeah. And what is the majority of your content? Like, male, female, age group, location? What is, like, majority? At least right now, Obviously it changes.

[A]

When it comes to gender. It's like 58 male and the other one's female.

[B]

Okay, that's kind of nice. You got almost 50. 50.

[A]

Well, like, I think the girls fancy me.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because they like masculinity and, like, a guy that's confident, but they also, like, follow me for their boyfriend. And, like, some of them do ask me, like, hey, like, what can I get for my boyfriend? Because I do, like, gift set for your boyfriend on, like, perfume. Perfumes. Like, I recommend, like, what. What's the best cologne your boyfriend should be wearing? And also, I think the guys follow me because, like, obviously, we're the gays.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, like, I'm influencing. I'm inspiring, and I'm trying to inspire folks to just live a better and healthy lifestyle and not to care about what others think about you.

[B]

And I think also, like, just in my head, and obviously I've creeped you so many times, but, like, I. I actually found you on YouTube.

[A]

Really?

[B]

Before? Yeah. That was the first time I've seen you, like, on YouTube. And then I went to, like, your pages, but I found you on YouTube before, even, like, this podcast and everything, and me reaching out to you. But that's what I watched you on for a while. And, I mean, you're the same person as you are in person. But, like, you're so relatable. And I think a lot of people, probably even girls, follow you for their boyfriends. That. So that if their boyfriend, you know, doesn't feel like he's an Instagram person and want to follow all these people, they can do it for them.

[A]

And I have no idea how many straight male messaged me asking me for just advice on skincare. And like, I remember this one dm, this guy was like, hey, like, I'm getting married very soon. Like, I have an insecurity with like my under eye. Like, what concealer do you. Do you use to just hide or like, what's the best brand of concealer? Like, to just help me out, bro.

[B]

I love that.

[A]

Go to Sephora, get the Haus Lab concealer. It's just gonna change your life. It's seamlessly. Just use a small. A small amount goes a long way.

[B]

And they need that. Like, that's exactly what needs to be put out there.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

So talking about monetization and everything, brands that you've worked with, top brands you've worked with, or like dream brands that you want to work with.

[A]

I'm so blessed enough to have worked with so many brands and in like, such a luxurious way. Like, I've worked with Calvin Klein, I've worked with Dior, I've worked with like skincare products. Like Caudalied, I've worked with. It just goes on and on. Like, I've worked with so many brands.

[B]

Any horror stories? You don't have to say the brand.

[A]

No, like, no. Like, me and my team are so professional. Like, we haven't had any horror stories at all. Like, not even a single brand. But obviously there are brands who are a bit like, nitpicky when it comes to, like, campaigns. Like, I'm not gonna say the name of the brand, but, like, this one was like the most, like, unhinged. Like, it wasn't bad, but it was just like they asked for just way too much budget was there, which is like, okay, like, you're supposed to.

[B]

Approval wise.

[A]

Approval wise. Like, it's just like.

[B]

And approval wise means, like, they obviously give you a campaign of things that you need to incorporate and say or whatever, make it into your own content and then you send it to them for approval before you post and then them coming back to you if they want any changes. So you're saying 10 times.

[A]

Oh, God, yeah, it would. And mind you, I typically don't have any, like, feedback from. From brands cuz like they trust my content cuz it's so professional and it's so you quality. So me and it's so like beautiful. But this brand was just like I just think they just wanted different takes so they can use it and twist it for their own channel. And I realized that at the end. Yeah, I realized that.

[B]

But don't they have to like sign off on saying like if they're ever going to use it or reuse it?

[A]

Yeah, but when they have the video they can twist it to however they feel like because they paid for that video for that amount of time. So really they don't ever have to ask you because like they would say like we own that content for like a year span or 365 days and then they could do whatever they want with that content within that year.

[B]

Which is tough because it's like you would never know that. You're just trying to make them happy with the content that you're making. You know, like it's still a brand at the end of the day. It's a business partner for that brand.

[A]

It is, it is. Money talks.

[B]

Money does talk.

[A]

Money talk.

[B]

What is.

[A]

Listen guys, money talk to me.

[B]

What is how much or like your biggest brand deal? Can you give us like a range of what you've made?

[A]

Like an amount? Yeah, like the biggest brand deal.

[B]

Yeah. That you've done.

[A]

I would say like 80k.

[B]

Okay, that's great.

[A]

Yeah, that's just for like maybe like couple videos for like the year and like a few story frame.

[B]

And are you talking Instagram or Tik Tok? What's your main platform? Like your Tik Tok.

[A]

Tik Tok and then Instagram and then YouTube.

[B]

Do you still make like a bunch of YouTubes? Are you still consistent with that?

[A]

YouTube is difficult, you know, in terms of like editing.

[B]

Editing like waiting for it to upload.

[A]

Waiting for it to upload and like copyrights. Like like obviously like it's just like Instagram and like making those small videos are so quick, so fun. But YouTube, you really have to sit there and make sure the clip, the transition, the song matches which is like obviously this year I want to take it even more serious. But yeah, like YouTube is difficult.

[B]

In what way do you mean more serious when you say that?

[A]

Like post more frequently? Because I promise them like once a week but I'm like doing like maybe once a month.

[B]

You're getting there though. Okay. It's baby steps. And so would TikTok be your most favorite platform that you use so far?

[A]

And Instagram.

[B]

Okay. Because you can connect with people or.

[A]

Just it's just easier to post. I can connect. It's not that serious. It's fun. And also it's just like you can find anybody on there very quickly.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

Yeah. And it's so just.

[B]

It's a Google.

[A]

Yeah, it is.

[B]

Like, when I came here, I even looked up on Tick Tock and I was like, okay, where should I go for dinner? And, you know, it gives you, like, the best goals for 2025 for work base.

[A]

Just keep my money up and work with more brands and take things to like, more of like a upscale level than what it was last year. So that's my only goal.

[B]

And when you say upscale, like luxury.

[A]

Luxury, like, very much so, like, maybe attend, like, maybe Paris, Milan, Fashion Week and like, you know, be on the COVID Because I don't know if you see like, if you know who Tony Bravo is or like a few other girls who shot with Silver. Selena Gomez.

[B]

Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

[A]

They, like, are in, are in their campaign and stuff like that. I want to be that for the milk creator world.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

So, like, I think that will be my goal this year.

[B]

I can see it. I think big things and it's only like, it's still. We're still in January, literally. Why does it feel like it's been like six months this year?

[A]

This quarter Go goes by so slow. It's a slow month. It's a slow year.

[B]

I was traveling because I told you, like, I went to New York and then I came here for basically, like work, podcasts and stuff. And it goes by fast. But, like, New York and Miami are probably the most two draining places you'll ever go because you're out about doing things.

[A]

Oh, my God. This past three weeks, I haven't been home.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

I haven't been home.

[B]

What have you been doing?

[A]

Events. Events. Everybody, like creators has been flown to Miami and there's so many things happening.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Go home, change and like, club, dinner parties, friend party, brin dinner, all this and that. I just haven't sat down and really enjoyed my time. That's why I'm taking a trip very soon because I need to just enjoy, enjoy.

[B]

Where are you going?

[A]

Paris, London and then Brazil.

[B]

Oh, my God. That's a dream.

[A]

Yeah, it's a dream.

[B]

And you're going to be doing content and everything there too. Of course, you never really get a day. Like, even when you vacation or take time off for Christmas, whatever.

[A]

Content is hard. Like, it's A hard thing. Every single day you're thinking about what's next. What's. What's the post? How can I go viral? How can I entertain my audience?

[B]

Checking out comments.

[A]

Checking out. Right, exactly. Check DMs. Because most brands DM you now or it's. Or it's an email. It's a lot.

[B]

And do you go live and stuff?

[A]

No, I don't go live.

[B]

You don't go live?

[A]

Not really.

[B]

I don't love it, but I do it once a week now.

[A]

I feel like I would. I would want to do it, but I just like haven't really like press it just to do it.

[B]

Yeah, you should because you get a lot of followers off that.

[A]

Oh my God.

[B]

Maybe it. Because I think TikTok wants you to use it. So they push you like you're. They push your live and like put it onto everyone's page. Okay, now let's get into a fun part. Obviously you've seen that I talk a lot about dating on.

[A]

Oh, that's the part I was waiting for, guys.

[B]

That was the part I was waiting for. This is the fun part. I love it. I mean, I've been single for way too long. Like.

[A]

Oh my God, how long?

[B]

Two years.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I think I've had situationships, but. But nobody's ever been it. Yes. I don't want to say good enough. They're good enough in their own way, but they're not perfect for me.

[A]

What's perfect for you? Like, what's your Build a bear man?

[B]

Build a bear man. This is a fun question. Build a bear man would be older than me. I normally go for like five or six years older. Max. 10. Because I.

[A]

That's the limit.

[B]

Yeah, that's the limit.

[A]

I agree. That's the limit.

[B]

But so I'm 24, so 34 would be the highest maybe.

[A]

I agree. I would say 35.

[B]

Well, because men age and mature slower than females.

[A]

Fine wine.

[B]

Like fine wine too. Yes, but it's like I couldn't go for someone my age. They would just not be. They don't get it.

[A]

Yeah, they don't get it. But also they're not established and they're not mature. Like 20 year olds are still figuring out themselves. And also it's hard to find someone that's like your same age in the mid-20s that really got their stuff together.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Car. That's a gentleman. That has their own apartment, pays their own rent, that takes you out. That's intentional. That is just a man driven. We are lacking men in Society men, like, they all just want to be like females, which is not me, guys. But I'm just saying, you're like, don't.

[B]

Put me in that guy.

[A]

No. Like, we're seriously liking men out there. Like, just regular men.

[B]

Yeah. So I would say 28 or 29, because I would want them to be like 30 when I get married to them. No kids, no divorces there. I want them to have siblings.

[A]

Okay, girl, you're not for too much sisters. Okay.

[B]

Too much sisters. Or else they, like, don't get like, females unless they have, like, girlfriends.

[A]

They don't have the feminine side.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like the very caring, compassionate, emotional. But their mother, if they're. If they don't have sister, is their mother if they're very close to their mom. But there's a fine line. Are you close to your mom or your mama's boy?

[B]

Boy.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I don't want that. Put that on the opposite side of what I mean. And then just someone that's driven and has their life together.

[A]

I agree, I agree. But thing is, mature men, they age like fine wine. They are put together, they have their stuff. But they're also looking for girls that are way younger. And they're also just looking for fun because they, at this point just don't care.

[B]

Yeah. And once they get to a certain age, it's like, okay, so you're 34. Not that it's a bad thing to be single at 34, but why are you single at 34?

[A]

Why aren't you married?

[B]

Why haven't you had, you know, kids and a wife yet?

[A]

100%.

[B]

So it's like.

[A]

So it's like, is there a few red flags about you that I should know about? But it's just like, you just never know until you just get to know them.

[B]

No. So what are you looking for? Would be your build a bear type?

[A]

Okay, that's a good question. My build a bear type would be like someone five'ten and up.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. How tall are you?

[A]

I'm 6ft.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah. I would. I love someone 5, 10 and up, gentlemen.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Kind, soft. A soft man that's very kind and just like, just like gets it. Someone that is caring. Someone that has money. Like, money is a big part when it comes to dating someone.

[B]

Absolutely.

[A]

Someone that has money, has a nice car, has a good background, and is also very subtle in how he acts. I don't like guys that allow it.

[B]

Okay. Yeah.

[A]

Like, just be calm.

[B]

You don't need the loudest.

[A]

No, Like, I like a Mysterious guy. Let me think about you, like, and act like you're not into me because like, I want to be like, damn, why isn't he into me?

[B]

Yeah, I want more from you. Like, I want to get out more.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

I love that. So how long have you been single?

[A]

I've been single for like a year now. I broke up with my ex. Yeah. Last year around.

[B]

How long was the relationship, if you don't mind?

[A]

A year and maybe three or two months.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So I mean, every time it goes past a year, I'm like, okay, it was a legit.

[A]

Yeah, it was a legit. Yeah.

[B]

Were you living together or was it.

[A]

We were living together and then he got a job offer and then moved to a different part of town. So we were like a few hours away. But I think that also put a strain in their relationship for sure. And also my career as a full time content creator puts a, like, really put a strain in the relationship as well too because like a lot of men on social media do fancy me.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But however, it's sort of like he wasn't confident.

[B]

And I mean, you're attractive. You have a lot going for you. You're like out and about all the time with all these events. You're now classified as someone that a lot of people might know when you're walking down the street. It's like, it's hard if they're not confident in themselves.

[A]

It really is hard. And like, I'm sure you get it as well too. Like you're a very attractive girl and like guys will, you know, ask for your number. They're in your DMs. But also if you're confident and if I'm with you, there's a reason why. Just believe in me, I'll believe in you. If I don't want to be with you, I'll just break up with you. Like, sir, there's like billions of guys out there. I'm that person.

[B]

I don't need you.

[A]

I don't need you.

[B]

I want you.

[A]

Thank you. I want you.

[B]

I said that to a guy I was talking to recently. I was like, he's like, not okay with the social media stuff. Not okay. But just kind of like off putting. Like he would have rathered me not do it. And I said, listen, like, that is my life now.

[A]

That's my job.

[B]

That's my job. So if that's what you. If like you're even a little bit uncomfortable with it, the door is over there because.

[A]

And they are, they will be especially like, he was like, tmi, but he was like, I don't want you to make more money than me. Which he had a beautiful. He made a lot of money. He had a beautiful job. But he was like, I personally don't like guys who make more money than me because I want to be the provider, which I like. A provider. Yeah, I get it. But I can't control. Because the content creation world, you make a lot of money, and I can't control it.

[B]

And why would you ever want to, like, try to not get bigger and make less money?

[A]

Thank you. Because, like, we all could live in a big house together, you know, drive nice car. But I think it's just his ego because if I made that much money, I don't need him to provide. I could do things by myself. Which, like, it was getting to a point where, like, I was surpassing him. And he was very insecure. Yeah, very insecure.

[B]

So I think it goes without saying, like, you need to be confident to date someone. Especially, like, you know, like, I'm sure. Which is I. Every single time I think of Beyonce and like, Jay Z, I just think of how he cheated on her.

[A]

Crazy.

[B]

But in that caliber of, like, celebrities and things, you need to be confident. Or else, like, times Us by million jillion people, they're getting the same thing. And it's not easy to date someone that puts herself out there on social media or.

[A]

But I'm sure it's not easy, especially if you're a girl making more money than a straight man. Like, that will hurt his ego. Like, a lot of girls don't realize that hurts a man's ego because they don't want you to make more money than them because now they're not a man. You control the money in a way, and it's sort of like, damn, if I can't provide, if I can't be dumb, if I can't do this, then why is everyone of us being together? Which is fair. I get it. From a male perspective. I get it.

[B]

I understand. Understand.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

But it's like, why, Like, I just don't get it physically in my own head of the sense of, okay, say.

[A]

For instance, you make like a million dollars a year. Right. And your husband makes, like, you know, 300k a year. Now, are you guys doing joint bank account or. But, but, like, what percentage of money are you allowing him to take out of your pocket? Yeah. So you got to think about it in that. In that aspect. Like, oh, my God, that's. I am so imagine me, like, dating you right, I'm straight. You're my girlfriend. I'm like, hey, babe, like, I love this watch. Can I borrow like 20k to get my new Rolex? And then you could be like, babe, no, it's not the right time for now. And then he's like, damn. But like, imagine you asking me as a man, hey, babe, I love this Van Cleef. Okay, cool. How much? 6K. Here you go. Or like, hey, Daddy, can I borrow some money? Yeah.

[B]

Okay, I get it now in a way that you put it, it's not.

[A]

The right time right now, but I promise I'll get it for you. Okay, cool, babe. Kiss. You see what I'm saying?

[B]

Yeah, yeah. And it, I think not, like, I would have never thought about it in that way if you didn't just give me a scenario that I could have put my, like, feet in.

[A]

That's what I'm saying. So I get it. When it comes to the straight male side, like, I do get it. I do.

[B]

But, yeah, I mean, I guess you have to be just a confident person to be able to put yourself in a position that's not normal.

[A]

Right.

[B]

You know, like, that is not as seen from previous decades and years and everything. But I hope she making a million dollars a year. Like, I hope I'm doing great.

[A]

I hope so too. And I hope your future husband does.

[B]

Yeah, I hope he makes double.

[A]

Right. Right.

[B]

I'm like, please, seriously, I want to.

[A]

Drop all this, all the rich men. Especially if you're Arab.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Or African.

[B]

So have you dated? Was this in Miami? Right. This wasn't a guy.

[A]

This was in Miami.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So how was dating in Miami?

[A]

Oh, my God. I want to talk about dating in Miami and dating in New York.

[B]

Yeah. I need the differences because I've dated in New York and we can talk about those horror stories.

[A]

I also want to know what it's like, date like for Toronto, but dating in Miami, it's not for the week.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

Like, especially if you're gay. Especially if you're a female, it's not for the week in Miami. Everybody looks good. When it comes to the guys, when it comes to the women, I can honestly say everybody looks good in Miami. Body is on 10, faces on 10. So it's sort of like everybody in Miami, it's like, okay, I can do you the next day I do her. Yeah, I could do her the next day I do her. So it's sort of like you have so many options. It's sort of like a kid that goes in A candy shop that's like, I don't know what to do. Like, I see Starbursts, I see Skittles, I see this, and I'm going to get it all.

[B]

So it's like, people don't want to settle down for just one.

[A]

No, they want to settle down with all. Like, everybody has a roster in Miami. Everybody's tasting each other in Miami. Like, nobody in Miami has. Has, like, exclusivity.

[B]

Interesting.

[A]

Nobody in Miami. And it's hard to find someone that's very demure in Miami and that carries themselves such an elegant way. Yeah, it's hard.

[B]

And do you think that's mostly for the men? Like, are women looking for to settle down?

[A]

No. Like, women in Miami, I can honestly say, say, are looking for. They don't care how the man looks. It's all about money, money, money, money, money. You could be 6 years old, you could be 18 years old. You could be 24 years old, ugly, black, white, whatever. Do you have the money, sir? And, like, fair. I get it. Like, I get it. Like, these girls in Miami, I get it.

[B]

Like, they want the things done that they want. They want the money in the pocket. They want to wear that nice bag. They want to get everything.

[A]

They want that Van Cleef. They want that Rolex. They want that Birkin. They want that D. Your. Yeah, I get it. And when I say I get it, I get it.

[B]

No, I want that.

[A]

I want that, too.

[B]

But it's like, but at what cost?

[A]

At what cost? And when do you have self respect for yourself as a woman? You see what I'm saying?

[B]

Absolutely. Like, you don't need to be taken advantage of. And what if they said, okay, I'll only get you that Van Cleef if. Or they just took it all. All away tomorrow.

[A]

Right?

[B]

You know, like, if you do this.

[A]

If you do that, like, it's just like, okay. Like, at what Cause do you be like, okay, bro, I have self respect for myself. Like, I'm good. I don't need to. To lower my standard or lower my dignity for you. And a lot of the girls in Miami, they don't realize how beautiful they are, lowering their standard. And they have the power, but they don't realize they have the power. Like, you can control a man. A man likes to be controlled.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

A man likes to be controlled.

[B]

Why? Yeah, explain that.

[A]

Like, in private. Yes. In public, no.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So you need to know the difference. They want to seem like the dom when they're out with their friends. Friends with their Family. But in private, they're like little kid. Like you're tugging around.

[B]

They're a little teddy bear.

[A]

Yeah, they're a little teddy bear. And they're soft. They're sweet. If you tell them, get on the floor, they'll get on the floor. I promise you. Like, if you tell a man in private, get on the floor, they will get on the floor.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Without a doubt.

[B]

Or like, it's like the whole kind of like, I'm envisioning, you know, like the baby talk that guys do when they go home and like, whatever. But then it's like, you would never be caught dead sitting out in front of your friend, like, ever, ever, ever. But I think that's just things that we don't even talk about, which is hilarious. Yeah, no, I. I love that because. So men like to be controlled in, like, private spaces, whatever. At home with their significant other, but not in public, period. End of story. Like, there. There's no better way to even say that.

[A]

Like, I swear to God, like, all. All the girls in the gays can agree with me.

[B]

I wish I could have known that sooner.

[A]

I'm telling you, test it out with your partner, if you have one, or, like, your situationship.

[B]

One of the people in the process.

[A]

Oh, my God. Especially when you get them at a vulnerable state.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Oh, you can get the world on the palm of your hand.

[B]

Anything.

[A]

Anything. If you get them out of vulnerable state. Especially during sex.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like doing sex.

[B]

Or when they want something.

[A]

When they want something, they're like, so anything. Anything. They bend over backwards.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

They're like, okay, whatever you say. And they. And they would actually do it too.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

This is like, my whole brain is like, whoa. Something just clicked it.

[A]

Click. Yeah.

[B]

And now I'm thinking of, okay, the people that I'm talking to. How do I use this for my advantage? I'm telling you, which, I mean, is bad. But everyone's got to do it.

[A]

Everyone got to do what they got. Everyone's going to do it for me. I have requirements when I date a guy.

[B]

Like, what are your requirements?

[A]

You're a gentleman. A, you're a provider. B, you get me what I want and what I need. And I like roses. So I expect a rose once a month. I expect. I expect jewelry once a month. And I expect some type of spontaneous gift once a month. It doesn't matter. I love that I require that. Like my last ex, once a month, even while he was on vacation, business trip. There was a rose at my front door.

[B]

I love that. And it's like, that's not even just you asking for a lot. That's your boundaries.

[A]

That's my boundaries. But also, sometimes you have to train a man because they don't know that. Because, like, they're not used to a high quality woman or a high quality man. So you have to train them. And also, how would someone know your love language if you don't tell them, if you don't say something?

[B]

People are afraid, I think, nowadays to even express themselves in what they want because they think that they're asking for too much or they think that they don't deserve it. Whereas it's like, no, you will never be 100% happy in a relationship if you don't lay out what you need.

[A]

Exactly. And if he doesn't give it to, I promise you, the next person will. It's not that hard. Like dating, like, if you're. You're only dating in your pool. Like, I'm only dating Miami. But when I, when I travel outside the country or even in New York City, the world opens up to me.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Like, it's like night and day.

[B]

And if we were to now put it on to New York dating, what are the differences? Talk to me about that.

[A]

Have you seen the guys in New York City? In Tribeca, in soho.

[B]

They're attractive.

[A]

Oh, my God. I have never seen such an attractive white man in my life, but I've.

[B]

Never seen such a rude white man in my life.

[A]

Fair. But it's just like, damn, you're so attractive. Yeah, I let it pass.

[B]

Like, you give them a little bit more.

[A]

You give them a little bit more freedom. But obviously, like, you, you have your boundaries. But dating in New York City, it's fun, it's cute, it's aesthetic. But also dating in New York City, it's a little bit more diverse and unique. Where in Miami, you're dating only Latinos.

[B]

It's true.

[A]

You're only dating Latinos.

[B]

I agree with that. And I mean, you can have whatever you want. It just depends on what city, what, like, part of the city you're even in. Are you in Soho? Are you going to NoHo? Are you going to Village?

[A]

Are you in Brooklyn? You can find, you can find different men. Like, if you're in Brooklyn, you may find like a couple blacks, a couple whites. If you're in, like, maybe the Bronx, you find all the Latinos, all the Spanish. But if you're in soho, Tribeca, Chelsea, or even Fidi, like, financial, you're seeing.

[B]

All guys in suits coming out of work. Yeah.

[A]

Right. So New York City gives you a little bit of everything where in terms of Miami, it's only straight up Latino, I guess.

[B]

Yeah, but like, attractive Latinos.

[A]

They're attractive but short. They're attractive but short.

[B]

And the men in New York are very tall.

[A]

Yes, yes.

[B]

I'm like, you just went from an 8 to a 10, literally.

[A]

And that's what I love about New York City because you have the diverse and you have guys who are actually gentlemen and guys who are tall in Miami. They're beautiful Latino men, but they're just so short.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, what am I going to do with you, sir?

[B]

Yeah. And it's like, you want to be taken care of. And how am I. You just can't vision.

[A]

I can't vision dating someone that's like 5, 7, 5, 8. Like, sir, like, what are we doing?

[B]

It's tough.

[A]

It's tough.

[B]

Like, so would you ever date someone shorter than you?

[A]

I mean, five, five, ten is like my, like, limit cap. Like, cap cap. I just can't do someone, like, lower than that because it just feels, like, odd.

[B]

And you said you're six feet?

[A]

Yeah, I'm six feet, six feet.

[B]

I'm five'nine and a half, five'nine But I probably wouldn't do under six'two because I wanna feel small.

[A]

But do you honestly find that tall men around, like, in Toronto and just anywhere?

[B]

My first relationship was 6, 6, 6, 7.

[A]

God damn.

[B]

But I went for athletes for a.

[A]

Really long time that is tall. Like, that's like, whoa.

[B]

That's like, whoa. But it felt amazing. Cause I was just this little thing. But normally I'm like the tallest girl, you know, dope. So it was incredible. Loved it. But then I went. I had my, like, phase of athletes, went for basketball. So of course all them were tall. I'm a football player.

[A]

Oh, they're giant.

[B]

They're giant.

[A]

And their feet are huge.

[B]

Like, just everything is big. Okay. Everything is big. Without saying anything, you get the chance. I see the fifth, so that's just a whole different ball game. Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But it was great and it's fun. But, like, you realize that if the athlete is to a certain caliber and they're on the starting lineup, they're never. You're never going to be the only one that they're dealing with.

[A]

You're never going to be the only one. And it's just like, you have to be mindful of, like, the type of guys you date in different, like, esthetic and different career. Like, for me, like, a Basketball player would never be my type. I'm more of like a, like finance guy. I like. Okay, finance, doctors, lawyer, entrepreneurs. I like. You have to be in power. I think that attracts me a lot because like my last ex, he was like someone that like he sold two, two of his businesses. He's an accountant.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

He has like a few other projects going for himself. He knew everybody in Miami.

[B]

How old was he?

[A]

He was 27.

[B]

Oh, so he was young.

[A]

Yeah, he was young, but like, I.

[B]

Thought you were gonna say he was like a lot older.

[A]

No, but it's just like he was, he was mature. He has two houses already. He already has his businesses. He. He's an accountant and he's, you know, he has everything going for himself.

[B]

Amazing.

[A]

Yeah, he was mature and he was ready for me to move in his house. I just wasn't ready.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. And other things that probably, of course, like the issues with sometimes them not being confident in themselves to be not competing, but kind of in a way of like money wise for the relationship. But yes, they're more attractive. New York men are animals. They don't want to settle down. They want to have. They make so much money that they think that they can have whatever they want. And they don't have to treat their significant other that great because they are sitting on this pedestal that they put or that we kind of all put for them.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because it's like, oh, no, that's so attractive that you're doing A, B and C. And a lot of the times when people are living in New York, they come from a wealthy family as well to be able to even get there. And I think that a lot of girls were so desperate to find like significant other and like to have someone take care of them and not want to work, that they were just throwing themselves at men. That men were getting so many, you know, so much attention and so much that they didn't even have to try. So it's like the rose that you were asking for once a month. They don't give a shit. They're not doing that. You wanted this, that and other thing. They don't even care. It's them, them, them, them, them. And then if you fit into their schedule, then they'll date you if it works for them.

[A]

Yeah. But also it depends on the stage that they're at as well too.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like age plays a whole role. And also what stage are you at? Are you a fuck boy? Are you looking to get married? Yeah, Because I know a lot of straight guys in Miami that are my friends. Like I think they're approaching like 30s.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

So like I think now they're more like, okay, like I really want a wife and kids, I really want to settle down because I think they know, like, okay, you're not the young bachelor that you were anymore.

[B]

Yeah, but I mean it's good that they're realizing that. But I feel like it's getting later and later and later in life for men to realize.

[A]

To realize that. Yeah.

[B]

Or want to settle down. But that's okay. It's fine. Do your thing.

[A]

Wait, so like we talked about Miami, we talked about dating in New York, but what's Toronto?

[B]

Toronto is a mini New York.

[A]

Like I've heard that so many times.

[B]

It truly is. But like when you say mini, like I genuinely need like 10 times smaller. Like if you just take, let's say West Village, that's where downtown Toronto is. There's a few different spots for like different kind of types of people that you can find, but realistically there's only about three and.

[A]

But the men are attractive.

[B]

Yes. And in the summers, like come in the summer to Toronto and you will have the best time of your life. It's so great. It's not as humid as New York, but it's still just as hot. We have a bunch of fun spots. There's not enough to be able to, you know, go for dinner every day of the year. Like Toronto, I mean like New York, but it's just as fun. But then once you've done everything, you are always running into the same people. Like you know, when you want to kind of get out of that, you can go to a different area of town in New York and maybe even here. Cuz everything's so.

[A]

It's sort of like you have to be mindful of like, okay, if I.

[B]

Date here him, I can't date his friends.

[A]

I can't date his friends, which, which like sucks. Like honestly, before I date you, I need to see your brother, your cousin, your dad and your friends.

[B]

Like your best friends. Yeah.

[A]

Cuz like you think you, you have the attractive one, but when you see their friend group, oh my God, like I had the most ugliest one.

[B]

Yeah. So it's sort of like, like oh, that's unfortunate.

[A]

That's unfortunate. Like now I have to pretend and now I'm talking to your friend and I'm just like, I just yeah, date him.

[B]

I'm looking at him a little bit more than Right.

[A]

So I need to see your father too and your cousin, your brothers. I need to see it all, hide them all. Literally.

[B]

Literally. We're really having a quick burn relationship, if that.

[A]

Literally. Because like I. We have this friend group and this one girl, she's dating this like guy and when we met, he's like other friends. I looked at her, I'm like, well, I'm sorry for you, babe. And like we said, it's the shittiest feeling. It is. And we understood each other. I'm like, whoa, I'm sorry for you.

[B]

Because when he's Frank came really like a dramatic difference.

[A]

Oh, that his friends were so attractive and taller. They were attractive and taller and money was there too. And I was like, whoa. I was like, I feel you. But at this point, you got yourself in this situation, but she lost you, you lost.

[B]

So this is a huge loss.

[A]

Huge loss.

[B]

I don't even know if she's going to come back from it.

[A]

She has to either stay with him, break up, or like wait. Wait a few years to like DM the friends. Yeah, wait a few years or just.

[B]

Like maybe catch him doing something sneaky and then everyone will feel bad for her.

[A]

Yeah, but. But you still cannot go. Yeah, but you still cannot go to the friend that's like, oh, you're a homie hopper. You're a homie hopper.

[B]

Yeah, but then if it's like, well, you made me do it, but like, I would have never gone for your friend if you didn't cheat on me.

[A]

That's your excuse.

[B]

You know what I mean? I'm like, maybe throw some girls at him. Yeah, that's where it's bites. But no. Yeah, but Toronto, like style and stuff. Not there. Yeah, okay, not there. I don't by any means there. We have really attractive girls. Guys are attractive, but style is just not there. They don't get it. So it's like you're dressing your boyfriend or he has no style.

[A]

All the straight men, you have to dress.

[B]

True.

[A]

Like you have to take.

[B]

But some people, like in New York, people seem to get.

[A]

Yes. In New York. It seems like the straight men's do get it in New York. Yeah, I agree.

[B]

What's the problem with everyone?

[A]

Especially in Europe too. They get it. Yeah, but I think it's just like, I don't know, if you date. Do you like country guys? I could see like a nice country, like really, like if you wanted a softer life lifestyle. If you wanted a very softer.

[B]

I don't want soft.

[A]

You want like passion. You want crazy, you want yaz.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay, then a country where I would Never.

[B]

No. He would hate his life.

[A]

I feel like you would be good if you want that lifestyle. A yah is like an Arabic man.

[B]

Okay?

[A]

Like, have you ever dated a Arabic man?

[B]

Not Arabic. I've had a few, like, best friends that were Arabic. But no dating.

[A]

You should date one.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

It's a life changer.

[B]

Why?

[A]

They're just so passionate, crazy. They're gentlemen, but they're jealous and they give a lot. They give and give a lot. It's like, you don't have to ask, but they give.

[B]

Okay, so compare that to like a Jewish man. Because I feel like they're very similar too.

[A]

I mean, yeah, Jewish men is like that, but like, they're a bit softer.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

The love is softer. The love is calm and it's beautiful. But it's not as crazy, passionate and.

[B]

Raw as like fiery.

[A]

Fiery as like an Arabic or a black man. Latinos are so soft as well. They're so cute. They're passionate. The Latin men's are so passionate. They're tender. They're all about lovey dovey, lovey dovey. They're all about love, which is cute. It's cute at times. And then you have what other races are out there? You have like, you know, Asian men or Indian men that are very like in between. It's just. It just depends on who you get. But they're more softer too.

[B]

I feel like the definitely more softer and like soft spoken.

[A]

I think I feel like the rush. Like, if you want adrenaline, if you want passionate, if you want crazy. It's Arab and black.

[B]

So where would you find. Let's talk about like dating in real life here. So like, we'll talk about Miami. Cause we're here now. But if you wanted to find places that are for like very wealthy men, where would you go?

[A]

Oh, wow, that's a good question. Like in Miami.

[B]

Yeah. Like a bar or restaurant could even be like a hotel bar. Where would you go?

[A]

The Standard.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

In Miami, Soho.

[B]

But I went to the Soho. It was fine.

[A]

Yeah, it's fine. Like, you just never know who. Yeah, you just never know until you have a conversation. Okay, but Soho's like. And then, and then you can go to Fina.

[B]

Where's Faina?

[A]

It's in Sal Beach.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Fina, the final lounge. Beautiful man. Beautiful aesthetic. The man. Yes. And you can also go to this place called. It's a members only Chateau zz.

[B]

Okay, I've heard of that.

[A]

Yes, it's a restaurant. But they also have like a members club as well too.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Private. They won't. They won't even let you up unless you're a member.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But I've been there once and I'm.

[B]

Like, oh, yes, interesting. Like, I get it now.

[A]

Right? And then if you go to Mila, like the Mila Lounge, and Mila also has a membership too, but.

[B]

Oh, really? I didn't know that.

[A]

Yeah, like, it's like right next to the lounge where you party. So it's just like, it's on the left and then the party side's on the right. So downstairs. So it's downstairs.

[B]

Okay. Yeah, yeah.

[A]

So the upstairs.

[B]

I was downstairs.

[A]

Yes. So it's just like the. The door right there, like where the bar is?

[B]

No, no, no.

[A]

It's literally right when you walk down the stairs. And then the lounge is like for everyday folks. It's just like on the ride. And then right there, it's the members only, but they cover it up with a curtain.

[B]

Gotcha. Yeah, that's kind of nice.

[A]

It's like exclusive. Exactly.

[B]

And if you were just looking for a good time, but still cute guys, maybe like a bar, where would you go? But like, not too expensive. Like, guys maybe a bit younger, in their 20s.

[A]

Everybody goes to Moxies in Brickell.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Which, like, I don't really fancy it, but, like, there are good, good potential guys that are like, they're doing okay for themselves. They live in Brickell. They go there. So it's moxies 1k, raw and sugar and Tea Room.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Those are all in Brickell.

[B]

Okay. Everyone says Brickell. Like a lot of people that we met, like, guys that we met here while we were here, me and my friend, she is single too. And all of them said that they were from Brickell.

[A]

Everybody want to say they're from Brickell, but are they really from Brickell? It's just like some live in downtown, but they say Brickell because it's, like, easier. It's a five minute walk. But yeah, Brickell is really small. Like, if you. You've been there, right? Yes, it's a small walking thing. Like, you walk four blocks, you're done. So Brickell is really small.

[B]

Everywhere kind of is small, I think here.

[A]

Yeah. In Miami, like, Edgewater is really small. Wynwood is really small. Over Midtown is really, really small. Overtown is really small. Brooklyn is really small. It's just a small place. But when I tell you, if you want to meet quality guys that are your type and wealthy, go to Coconut Grove.

[B]

Okay, Wait, I heard that too, but I've never Been.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

What's kind of like the vibe?

[A]

Oh, it's like. You ever been to Mexico City? Yeah, it's like you're in Condesa. It's like you're in Mexico City. It's so aesthetic. It's so chic. The. The amount of beautiful cars that are going around. You walk around, grab a coffee. There's nice bars and restaurant.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Coconut Grove is where it really is. At the Grove. Wow.

[B]

Okay. And would that be like, a Raya in real life?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What's Raya like?

[B]

I have never. I don't use dating apps, really. But, like, all my friends do.

[A]

So, like, you would thrive on Hinge?

[B]

I think I had Hinge one time because I was, like, in the midst of creating a dating app with some, like, tech people, and then an app came out, and it was, like, very similar. So I was like, you know what? It. I'm not gonna do that anymore. But I downloaded Hinge. Hinge and something Matte. Perfect match. Is that it?

[A]

Perfect match, yeah.

[B]

And it was kind of, like going through, but, like, you almost feel like you're not really talking to real people because it's so. It's like social media on steroids. It's like all the questions that you have to talk about when you're dating someone, you know?

[A]

But the thing is, like, I tell the girls, if you're on Hinge, like, think about Hinge as a networking, not a dating app. Like, forget it's dating. Like, you're trying to impress. Think of it as a networking app. Cause you can make friends off it.

[B]

Yeah, true.

[A]

Or you can make connection. You can even get a job off of it. It just depends, like, who you're talking, because most of the time, they tell you what they do for work.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So you can kind of base it.

[B]

Like, oh, where exactly they're living.

[A]

Like, where exactly what area they're living. And it's. And it's also like, oh, I've seen you on Hinge. How are you? And it's just like, I feel like Hinge is more quality and you can actually have a conversation. The prompts help, the pictures help. So, like, I like Hinge.

[B]

Is that a dating app that you use most?

[A]

Yes, that's the one that I'm currently on right now.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

So it's cute. I like it.

[B]

If you want to find me, keep swiping on Hinge. Yeah, maybe I'll show up.

[A]

I mean, I'm only there for, like, maybe a few months, and I delete.

[B]

It for A few more picky though. Like, on end.

[A]

Very picky. Like, I'm very, like, high career, obviously. Like, looks matter when you date somebody.

[B]

Of course, you can't date someone if you're not attracted to them, right?

[A]

Looks matters.

[B]

Like, they do.

[A]

Like, I'm so sorry, but looks.

[B]

No. Like, don't tell me that I'm not.

[A]

Superficial or anything, but looks matter. Like, it's just, like, I want to be daydreaming about you.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I want to look at you when we're in bed. And I just want you so bad.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And I want you, like, while you're across the room right now.

[B]

I'm like, wow, you're too far.

[A]

You're too far. Like, I just want to kiss you. I just want to grab you.

[B]

I just rip the clothes off.

[A]

Right, Exactly. Even for girls. So I'm like, Like, I'm gay. I'm like, wow, she's very attractive. And, like, I look at girls all the time and they think, like, I'm honestly straight. So I'm just like, oh, babe, no, no, no, no. Like, I'm. You're beautiful and I'm looking at you.

[B]

But, like, not into you.

[A]

I'm not into you. Your boyfriend might be.

[B]

Not me. Thank you very much. Yeah. Okay, so I. I asked this question to. To a bunch of my guests because I put it on my story for. On my personal page about, like, worst date stories. Because I was talking about it on one of my podcasts and I put a few in my notes and I named it Dater Ditch Vader Ditch.

[A]

Okay, that's a cute.

[B]

So yeah, so I'm gonna tell you two of, like, the write ins. I picked, like, the most kind of craziest ones.

[A]

Right.

[B]

And this is the fifth one we're doing so far because I did two with the other guests. So you have to tell me date or ditch. Why or why not for those reasons.

[A]

Got it.

[B]

I labeled this one as the wrong ride disaster. And I haven't even really read these yet because I read them like a week ago. So this will be first reaction for both of us. Sarah. I match with this guy who seems super cool. So I let him pick me up for our first date. I get in his car and he's acting weirdly distracted. A few minutes later, we pull into. Oh, no, I already said this one. Okay, sorry. Cue to my next one, the dog mom drama. So I went on a date with a guy who brought his dog. Cool, right? Wrong. He insisted the dog sit at the table with us and even ordered It a steak. I thought it was a one time thing until he halfway through the date said, if we're going to be together. Sorry, I just clicked something. If we're going to be together, you'll need to be okay with her sleeping in the bed. And by bed, I mean the middle of the bed. I laughed, but he was dead serious. That was my cue to leave.

[A]

That's my cue to fly back home and kill myself.

[B]

That's my cue to be like, what in the fuck? Like, no, sometimes it makes me like actually be like, I give me the man. First of all, give me his number. Cause I need to talk to him.

[A]

Right. That's a huge ick. Like, what are you doing? Sleep in the bed with you. And especially like, I'm your wife, I'm your girlfriend, I'm your potential lover.

[B]

This is someone that he's pursuing, doing right.

[A]

Like, I'm your potential.

[B]

You think that's gonna like, intrigue me.

[A]

And I feel like it was a red flag when the dog sat on a chair. And also like, I get it, the dog needs to eat.

[B]

But like, it's a reality TV show, right?

[A]

It's just like, first of all, that's a huge red flag. So sorry. If.

[B]

Okay, let's say, let's reenact this. If the dog, he like brought it up to the table and it was on a physical human seat.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Would that be your cue to leave or like, at what point would you.

[A]

Have been like, it depends because I feel like if it's a smaller dog, sure. Like, you know, do whatever you need to do. Or like, if the dog's sitting on the chair, that's fine. I'm not gonna make a ut.

[B]

You're not gonna talk about it.

[A]

But if now you tell me, like, the dog has to sleep in bed with us. Oh, that's my cutie cue to live like that.

[B]

What would you say?

[A]

I would say, unfortunately, that's just like unsanitary, unsafe, and like, I don't. That's like, that's a huge rift. Like for me. If that's also non negotiable for you, it's okay. We can end the date.

[B]

Unfortunately, that's an ick.

[A]

Or simply walk away.

[B]

I honestly, like, if the dog was sitting there at the dinner table, I don't know what I think I would have to be like, no, this is, this was great.

[A]

But it's tough to say that out loud. I know it is face to face. So I think you would have to play like you're cool with it and just never respond. Yeah, that's the best case.

[B]

Like, when you leave, you just ghost.

[A]

You just ghost.

[B]

Would you rather ghost or get ghosted?

[A]

I rather go.

[B]

You'd rather go?

[A]

Yeah, I'd rather go.

[B]

Me too.

[A]

Because, like, why are you ghosting me, sir? No, like, do you not see this material?

[B]

No, literally, I have so much going for myself. Why you would go? You missed out on an opportunity for you.

[A]

Right, right. Exactly. So ditch.

[B]

So ditch. I'm glad we can agree on that. Okay, next one is the bathroom ghoster. I met this guy at a nice restaurant at our. At our first date, and it was going great. He was finding funny, charming, the whole package. But after our appetizers, he said he had to use the bathroom. He never came back. I sat there for 45 minutes before realizing he ghosted me mid date. When I checked my phone, he had blocked me on the app too. To this day, I wonder what I said or did to make him bail so dramatically. No. Poor girl.

[A]

I mean, that's very Sad. But also, 45 minutes. Waiting that long?

[B]

Yeah, I don't know if I. I'm sorry, babe.

[A]

10 minutes. What are you doing? Yeah, but also, like, what did she say to make him, like, ditch?

[B]

I think this is time for some self reflection.

[A]

Yeah, like, what did you say?

[B]

And talk it through with a friend and maybe be like, but I said.

[A]

That that would hurt my ego too.

[B]

I'm not kill my ego.

[A]

We're all human beings. The fact that you ghosted me like that, and plus, you block me. Like, I'll be like, damn.

[B]

No, I was even like, I gave you two options. And the options being would you have said that you need to leave, right? Or would you have gone through the date and you were saying how it's hard to say that you, you know, you need to get up and leave. We didn't even even give the option of fake leaving and jumping out the.

[A]

Wash window and all. But also, the bill's not paid, so she's left paying the bill. Like, honestly, I wouldn't pay the bill. I would just say, you guys have security cam. Find this man's face and have him pay the bill. Send him the bill. Yeah, that would be my fuck you back.

[B]

No, I'd be like, I know his name. He blocked me. But he blocked you. You can go find him.

[A]

This is why before. Before you go on first date. Girls, listen up. Before anybody. Before you go on a first date with a guy, screenshot their profile.

[B]

True.

[A]

Screenshot. Every picture. Every picture. And if you could find them on ig. Screenshot their ig, but never share yours, though. But screenshot your IG and save it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Save it for next time. Because, like, what if he does block you? In this case, she also has a way to get back at him. Also a way to like him up.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That's what I always do. What the 100.

[B]

Wow. She can't even ditch. She was ditched.

[A]

She was this. And I hope she never reveals her. Her face, because that's embarrassing.

[B]

No.

[A]

And that's very embarrassing.

[B]

No. We are taking that to the grave.

[A]

Yeah, baby.

[B]

I don't even know who she is, but she. Take it to the grave.

[A]

Take it to the grave.

[B]

Okay, last things. It's a rapid questions. And this is where you can plug in a few things that people might, you know, maybe it's cosmetic or whatever, something that you use.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Some of these we might have gone because I said biggest brand deal, and we've kind of gone through that. But we'll start with another one. Favorite date night spot in Miami and New York.

[A]

Favorite date night spot in Miami would be the standard at lilo.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Or it would either be Shimba in midtown.

[B]

Okay. Shamba. Shamba. What kind of food is that?

[A]

It's like American Latin cuisine.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Would you rather. Oh, no, I already said that. Dream collaboration. Something that you want. Like, this year, I want to collaborate with them. They. This would, like, make your year.

[A]

That's a tough question. Wow. It's never gonna happen, obviously. Say it, but I would love to work with Schiaparelli.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

As well as it may seem like they don't. I don't think they make guy clothes, but it's just, like, that would be amazing. I just want them to make something for the guys.

[B]

And it would be good for you too, to even, like, partner with them and give them some, like, ideas and things that they can do.

[A]

The creative director, Daniel, he is just a fantastic mind. He creates. And they just did, like, the 2020 feature 5 fashion, you know, show.

[B]

Yep.

[A]

My God, the pieces are insane. But, like, I just want him.

[B]

They're very innovative.

[A]

They're very innovative and how they incorporate the gold into everything. But I just wanted them to do something for the guys because a lot of the time, guys are lacking clothes. Guys are lacking, like, a few things where, like, you girls have so much, like, I love it like, you. You guys have fast.

[B]

We almost have too much now.

[A]

Too much. You guys have mango. You guys have fashion Nova. Pretty little thing like house of CB or something. Like that you guys have so much or like what's the other one? Revolve.

[B]

Revolve.

[A]

You guys have so much. Where the guys. It's just like. I get it. It's not a mass market where like a lot of guys buy. But like we need more. Yeah, we need more because like the only place we rely on. Or like maybe like Lana Piano. But that's if you really have money.

[B]

Yeah, but that's like also I think a lot of these brands probably don't even know how they need to work with someone that gets it, that can share their side of the vision and visions.

[A]

Vision, exactly. Like there's a huge market.

[B]

Uhhuh. I agree. Okay, what's the most. What's most important in order? Looks, personality. Money.

[A]

Looks, personality, then money.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What about you?

[B]

Looks for sure. First. And then personality and money go hand. Like I'm not going to date.

[A]

It goes hand in hand. Yeah, it goes hand in hand. It's like 50. 50.

[B]

Yeah. Favorite date night skincare products. Like what would you wear when you're going out?

[A]

Like as like my moisturizer.

[B]

Moisturizer. Concealers. Anything and perfumes and stuff too.

[A]

Moisturizer would be the La Roche Posay Double Repair Moisturizer.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Live and swear by it. I promise everybody should try it. It's like one of the best moisturizers out there.

[B]

Like you'll never turn back.

[A]

Concealer, hourglass.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yeah, one of the best. Like concealers.

[B]

Great coverage.

[A]

Great coverage. Foundation house lab.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Such a great foundation. Skin, like it blends you. It blends into your skin. So smooth.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Blush. Rare beauty.

[B]

Rare Birdie Love rare beauty. Yeah.

[A]

So good. And then if you want, if you perfume for the men, I would say would be Cre Aventis Dior Sage. But it has to be the elixir. Don't get the OD Toilette. Don't get the eau de parfum. The elixir, it's a bit more. But like the elixir lasts longer. It's more intense. It's. That's what I have on right now. It's so beautiful.

[B]

Do you have like an everyday like scent or is it like you wear certain things for like a night out or an event or.

[A]

I wear my fragrance as I would wear it like any other every day because I feel like that's the reason that I buy it for. So why save it for a special occasion?

[B]

Same. I'm like that too.

[A]

Just wear.

[B]

I think a lot of people have.

[A]

I mean a lot of folks do because it's like, oh, it's. It's like a little bit more money, it's a little more expensive, but also, baby, you could die tomorrow if you don't wear that fragrance.

[B]

And what if you meet someone that's, like, incredible, and, like, at a cafe shop, smell your best, right?

[A]

Like, I think everybody should step out the house looking their best. I don't care where you're going, always. If you're going to a cafe shop, if you're walking your dog, put a little something on. Put a little cute set on. Because you just never know who's watching you. You never know who's watching you. And you never know when you're gonna meet your partner. Just never know. And you meet your partner at the most random places when you least expect it.

[B]

Yeah. And it's like, look good, feel good. You will feel better.

[A]

You will feel better. Exactly.

[B]

Well, do you have any last questions for me before we wrap up?

[A]

So, uh.

[B]

Oh, I'm scared.

[A]

Okay, so where you're at right now, do you think you're ready for a serious relationship or you just want to keep the situationship alive? But. Oh, I have another question.

[B]

Yeah, okay. Serious relationship within the next two months. No, but within the next year. Yeah, I would love one.

[A]

You're enjoying your single time.

[B]

I love my single time.

[A]

Do we have a roster?

[B]

I always have a roster.

[A]

Do you have a favorite on the roster?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Can you give us a little bit, like, description of him?

[B]

He's six, two, he's in Toronto or he's in the U.S. he's in Toronto.

[A]

Okay. One more thing. And then you don't have to give more.

[B]

He has scruff.

[A]

What do you mean by scruff?

[B]

Scruff, like face scruff.

[A]

Like, is it like, thick or is it, like, thin?

[B]

Thin.

[A]

Okay. That means he eats it really well. Yeah. Okay.

[B]

That's how you know.

[A]

Okay. Oh, my God. A guy that can eat it well. Oh, my God.

[B]

Well, like, 90 of them don't know anything.

[A]

They don't. But this is why you train your men. Because, like, a lot of time you have to train them, unfortunately.

[B]

But, you know, that's just what you got to do.

[A]

You got to do, like, you just got to train because, like, everybody's body is different. So you have to train your man.

[B]

Yes. And you know what you want. You're the only person.

[A]

You know what you want. But a lot of the girls, it's so crazy. A lot. A lot of the girls don't enjoy themselves with their partner. It's more about Their partner.

[B]

But I think that it's because they're not comfortable. I think that if they were under, like, if they were comfortable and understood it and asked what they want and spoke about it, then they would just as much.

[A]

They're scared to train their men.

[B]

They are.

[A]

But also, men don't last long.

[B]

No.

[A]

Like, they're like a quick boom, boom, boom.

[B]

But if they understand that and know how long they do last, then they will start.

[A]

For you understanding. I agree. 100.

[B]

Yeah. Okay, next question.

[A]

Next question is back on the roster. How many guys do we have on the roster? Or don't enter that actually, because that's a little bit more controversial. Like, I'll answer anything on a roster. How many guys do you think we're supposed to be juggle, like, for a girl, like, when she has a roster, how many guy do you think are supposed to be on that roster?

[B]

Three is a great number, but five would be, like, pushing it. Like, I think five would be hard to juggle. You still want to be able to FaceTime each one of them a bit. So I think three is a great.

[A]

Number, but it also depends on what level that you are with them. Like the comfort level. But I personally believe you should have a roster at every city.

[B]

True.

[A]

Like, you need a roster if you're living in the US you need a roster in New York, in Miami, in la, in Georgia, in California.

[B]

And it keeps you traveling.

[A]

It keeps you traveling and it keeps like, hey, like, I'm at the airport, I need to be picked up.

[B]

Exactly. Boom, boom.

[A]

And they take care of you.

[B]

Someone did pick us up from the airport here.

[A]

Like a potential on the roster.

[B]

I'm sure I'm on his, but he's not on mine.

[A]

Oh, my God, I love that.

[B]

We'll leave that there.

[A]

I love that so much. I love that.

[B]

You know, But I mean, very nice guy. I'm always polite and I'm always nice. And I say my pleas and thank you. Yes. And that's that.

[A]

Okay, me too.

[B]

How many people do you have on your roster right now?

[A]

I don't have a roster really. I would say I'm only, like, seeing, like, entertaining. Entertaining one guy. But it's like once in a blue moon, I see him.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I don't really see him around. But, like, I think when I start traveling, I will have a more legit roster. But in reality, I have, like, two potentials on my roster.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

So it's like, one isn't like, not.

[B]

Even in the U.S. so there.

[A]

It's still there. But then I've been in the U.S. okay. The other one, it's like they're both not even in the U.S. so do.

[B]

You just like people that are far away?

[A]

It's. I feel like European guys are more like my type.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But you're traveling.

[A]

I travel, so. But, like, I see them once in a blue moon. Yeah.

[B]

So you still have something to be excited about.

[A]

FaceTime.

[B]

FaceTime is a great thing. FaceTime dates.

[A]

I mean, we don't do that, but.

[B]

Okay. You can get there if you want to. You will if you want to. This was a lot more fun than I thought, really.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

So. Thank you so much for coming on.

[A]

The podcast, for having me.

[B]

People are going to love you because I already love you. And they're, like, obviously watching our content. You're such a relatable and, like, sweet soul and great person, but in person, you're just even more amazing.

[A]

Thank you. A lot of people think I'm, like, so, like, hard to approach.

[B]

Oh, no, you're so. Well, it's because you're hot. And people that are attractive, they intimidate people.

[A]

They say that.

[B]

So that's just. Take it as a compliment.

[A]

Likewise. You are.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

You are.

[B]

Well, thank you guys for watching. I will see you next week on to.