Not to bring up old shxt, but I don't like how "the media" glazed over Kendrick Lamar calling out ShxtsNGigs specifically, on 'wacced out murals'. Kendrick is just as sick of the podcast industrial complex as the rest of us and I think that's hilarious. In this episode we talk about Kendrick (because I must) but more importantly we use the men-with-podcast-equipment epidemic as a jumping off point for how to approach trusting men in our community, the potential for betrayal - and how the way we approach both reflects our understandings of oppression, and our individual relationships to power, privilege, and accountability.

00:58 LA fires, California Black Freedom Fund

2:14 Kendrick Lamar is tired of the podcast industrial complex too

5:51 Queen is ok not watching anime

8:37 Were James & Fuhad ever “one of the good ones”

10:56 Is participating in misogyny a choice

13:18 Misogyny sounds cute in a British accent

15:26 Your privilege increases your capacity to harm

17:16 Hyper-focusing on marginalization lets privilege of the hook

19:33 Deifying “nice” men

23:05 Is the disappointment/upset at men like ShxtsNGigs performative

24:53 Are you an agent of oppression?

31:50 Are you in community with people more marginalized than you

36:40 Is your partner's misogyny a reflection of you

Check out the California Black Freedom Fund https://www.pledge.to/BlackLA

For other vetted funds, resources, and events in California check out Philanthropy CA https://www.philanthropyca.org/2025-california-disaster-response

The previous episode referenced is Black American Dollars, Black American Politics, available on patreon, where we discuss the ShxtsNGigs incident and anti-Blackness across the diaspora: https://www.patreon.com/posts/bonus-video-113195050?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

Watch full video version of this episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/is-participating-121221180?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

Music featured in this episode includes "Totter Teeter" by Guustavv https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/4y6tgclvb0/

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This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna,

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