What this musician’s identity crisis teaches us about navigating change

Summary

TED Radio Hour (NPR)

Episode: What this musician’s identity crisis teaches us about navigating change
Air Date: September 26, 2025
Host: Manoush Zomorodi
Guest: Joshua Roman (Cellist, TED Speaker)

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Brief Overview

This episode chronicles acclaimed cellist Joshua Roman’s profound identity crisis following a life-altering struggle with long Covid. Roman, whose path as a musician was once crystal clear, confronts physical debilitation, creative despair, and spiritual doubt. Through an open, vulnerable conversation with host Manoush Zomorodi, he traces his journey from relentless ambition to renewed joy and self-acceptance, offering insights for anyone grappling with unexpected change and the need to reinvent themselves.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Early Passion and Singular Focus

• Joshua’s Musical Upbringing
  • Began playing cello at age 3; passion for music intertwined with family and religious life in Oklahoma City.
  • “...music was a service to God. That's how I saw it.” (Joshua Roman, 03:27)
• Dedication
  • Practiced up to 10 hours a day, with almost all other interests secondary to cello.
  • Had clarity about his career from childhood: “By the time I was six or so, I was telling everyone, this is what I'm gonna do for the rest of my life.” (Joshua Roman, 04:25)
• Fast Rise
  • By age 22, principal cellist of the Seattle Symphony (their youngest ever); then launched a global solo career.

2. Ambition, Exhaustion, and Pre-Pandemic Life

• Relentless Pace:
  • Life was “100 miles per hour”—constant touring, intense rehearsal, and rare relaxation.
  • “My idea of relaxing was to sign up for a 10-day silent Vipassana meditation course.” (Joshua Roman, 06:35)
• Gig Mentality:
  • Found himself driven by an unending quest for validation and opportunity: “I was stuck in a gig mentality for much of my career, waiting for the phone to ring...” (Joshua Roman, 19:13)

3. The Disruption of Covid and Onset of Illness

• Everything Stops:
  • Pandemic canceled all future concerts, erasing his “entire future income.” (Joshua Roman, 06:54)
  • Pivoted to “musical response mode,” livestreaming and using music to serve others.
• Health Crisis:
  • Contracted Covid in January 2021; symptoms were atypical—fatigue, brain fog, breathing trouble. (Joshua Roman, 11:02)
  • Struggled with “weights inside my body,” loss of mental focus, and profound exhaustion.

4. Loss, Identity Crisis, and Spiritual Reckoning

• Unable to Play:
  • Even after recovery, fatigue made performing grueling. After forcing himself through two concerts, he “crashed” and put his cello away for almost three months—the longest break since childhood. (Joshua Roman, 20:21)
• Doubt and Darkness:
  • Lost trust in the meaning of music, especially after losing the religious framework of his youth:
    • “I didn't know if I could believe anymore that music would save people because I didn't believe in the construct that had given me that...” (Joshua Roman, 24:37)
• Questioning Self-Worth:
  • For the first time, considered alternate life paths and allowed suppressed doubts to “flood” in.

5. Catalyst for Change: Rekindling Connection

• Invitation from a Friend:
  • Asked to play at a friend’s small gathering, which forced him to pick up the cello again.
  • The experience was visceral and emotional:
    • "I started playing the Bach prelude after not having touched the cello for so long...I started crying because it was something that I really needed. Pretty immediately, I felt that here is the thing that I've been missing.” (Joshua Roman, 26:13)
• Physical and Emotional Connection:
  • Describes the deeply embodied experience of feeling the cello’s vibrations—“close to the heart”—and realizing his absence from personal engagement with music.

6. Newfound Approach: Presence, Trust, and Joy

• From Obligation to Joy:
  • Shifted from practicing out of compulsion to playing when there was genuine desire:
    • “I needed to stop practicing when I didn't want to practice...I started being able to keep my mind on the cello more when I was playing. I was there.” (Joshua Roman, 30:15)
• Embracing Vulnerability:
  • Realizes that allowing himself to fail and to be personally touched by music is essential for authentic artistry:
    • “At my core, I'm working on trusting myself. Practicing is about trusting.” (Joshua Roman, 32:00)
• Creative Renewal:
  • Produces his debut solo album, Immunity, blending classical, original, and contemporary works, and harnessing vulnerability as creative energy.
  • Album’s genesis tied to performing for Princeton’s “Healing with Music," where honesty about imperfection was not only accepted, but required.
• Joyful Improvisation:
  • Attempts at a serious, “epic” composition for the album fell short until he spontaneously improvised, resulting in “one of the most unabashedly joyful compositions I’ve ever written.” (Joshua Roman, 41:53; 45:42)

7. Reflections on Transformation

• Paradox of Mastery and Surrender:
  • Skills, discipline, and technical mastery are valuable, but the “thing” he sought was beyond brute effort; real fulfillment came from letting go.
• Letting Go of Fear:
  • Now less afraid to be authentically himself as a musician and person:
    • “I'm the same person with less and less fear of being who I am.” (Joshua Roman, 48:08)
• Host’s Parallels:
  • Manoush shares her own experience with loss of ego after postpartum depression, leading to creative freedom (46:48).

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “By the time I was six or so, I was telling everyone, this is what I'm gonna do for the rest of my life.”
  —Joshua Roman [04:25]

• “It was a really dark time. Nothing on the calendar. No confidence in my ability to recover. A crisis of faith about what music meant at that point.”
  —Joshua Roman [12:49, 18:39]

• “I had to be taken down to my knees before I let go of pride and let myself be vulnerable and experience the beauty of music with that veil pulled away.”
  —Joshua Roman [29:19]

• “At my core, I’m working on trusting myself. Practicing is about trusting.”
  —Joshua Roman [32:00]

• “I couldn’t force myself to write the piece that I wanted, but when I let go and just played, I came away with the piece that I needed.”
  —Joshua Roman [41:53]

• “I’m the same person with less and less fear of being who I am.”
  —Joshua Roman [48:08]

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Important Segment Timestamps

• Early Life and Relentless Musical Focus
  [01:11-05:21]
• Pandemic Strikes; Touring Cancelled, Illness Begins
  [06:18-13:09]
• Physical and Spiritual Crisis Sets In
  [15:13-24:37]
• Turning Point: Picking Up the Cello After Hiatus
  [25:15-29:19]
• Redefining Practicing and Pleasure in Music
  [30:15-33:18]
• Producing 'Immunity', Embracing Vulnerability
  [35:24-41:53]
• Reflection: Letting Go, Transformation, and Acceptance
  [45:42-51:30]

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Podcast Highlight: Live Improvisation

• Improvised piece performed live
  Joshua Roman offers a short, spontaneous cello improvisation (with his cello "Cindy"), embodying the episode’s themes of presence and creative renewal.
  [49:05-51:20]
  “This is today.” —Joshua Roman [49:13]

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Overall Tone and Takeaways

The episode is open-hearted, honest, and at times philosophical, blending personal struggle with universal lessons on meaning, identity, and recovery. Both host and guest challenge the myth of relentless ambition, illustrating instead the value of rest, self-compassion, and allowing change to reshape us. Joshua Roman’s journey models how hitting rock bottom can, paradoxically, clear space for joy and new creative strength.

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Transcript

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[Joshua Roman]

You know, I went through a phase when I was 10 or so. A few of these kinds of things where it's like, oh, I could be a fighter pilot or a firefighter or it was always something heroic. The fastest man in the world, but only if I break my arm and can never play the cello. Oh, wow, then I'll join ski patrol, that sort of thing.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

He has always spent most of his days practicing his cello.

[Joshua Roman]

It's pretty all consuming. It's a practice, not just practicing the cello, but the practice of sitting with a friend and working on something together. All of the things that I think other people might expect, explore, and really get into. I would do that, but it was always kind of on the side. I never put more effort into anything than I did into the cello.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Was it love at first sight or was it more of a slow burn?

[Joshua Roman]

You know, I don't remember my first time playing the cello. I was three years old. But I do remember the UPS lady at the front door with. And we had one of those glass doors and a wooden door and the wooden door was open and she was standing there in her brown shorts with this box that was bigger than me. And I was so excited. And yeah, I don't remember ever not loving the cello. So it's been inseparable since memory began.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Growing up in Oklahoma City, music and faith were two sides of the same coin and what his family stood for. By the age of 13, Joshua practiced cello five hours a day, often at church alongside his father.

[Joshua Roman]

When I was growing up, it was was very religious. We went to church all the time. My dad was the music director. He's Reverend Paul David Roman. We were at church almost every day of the week, my whole life. And music was a service to God. That's how I saw it.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Eventually, Joshua went on to study music. He joined the Seattle Symphony Orchestra. This is him on cello playing Shostakovich. At 22, he was their principal cellist, their youngest ever. At 24, he left to pursue a solo career playing with orchestras around the world. Live streaming on YouTube from Carnegie hall in 2009, introduced by Yo Yo Ma.

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Occasionally, I get to meet an extraordinary young musician.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

Such is the case with Joshua Roman.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Tens of thousands of fans online, traveling the globe. Life with his cello was exactly what Joshua had hoped for ever since he was a little kid.

[Joshua Roman]

By the time I was six or so, I was telling everyone, this is what I'm gonna do for the rest of my life. And I just knew it. It wasn't a question, it wasn't a consideration. It was just that was what I was gonna do. No question.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

I think a lot of people, or I won't speak for a lot of people, I'll speak for myself, which is that I'm envious that you had that clarity at such a young age.

[Joshua Roman]

You know, you can imagine that's something that I get told a lot or asked about quite a bit. And I think it cuts both ways. For me, it's been great and great, but it's also been something my whole life has revolved around. And my time has always been limited.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Because of your commitment?

[Joshua Roman]

Because of my commitment.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That commitment to his craft gave Joshua Roman the focus to become a world famous classical musician. But like millions of other people in 2020, his life shifted when the pandemic happened. Not only because he couldn't tour or play concerts, but because after Joshua got Covid, his body completely changed. His health, which he had always taken for granted, became fragile. And his old friend the cello. It was like they hardly knew each other anymore. Today on the show, an hour with cellist and TED speaker Joshua Roman. An identity crisis that nearly ended his passion for his cello and how he had to rethink his approach to life and music so he could love both. But first, let's go back to a typical day for Joshua in 2018 before all that happened.

[Joshua Roman]

A typical day pre Covid was packed. It was all super intense. So I used to practice anywhere from six to ten hours a day. I was always reaching, striving to make myself better, whether at the cello or some skill or more reflective learning, meditation. But it was all 100 miles per hour. You know, my idea of relaxing was to sign up for a 10 day silent Vipassana meditation course and you're really grounded. But I wouldn't call it relaxing in the sense of not doing anything. And that's what I would do to take a break. And I would get up early, I would run. I got my mile under six minutes again. The year before the pandemic, while I was bouncing around, I had been so busy, gone about 80% of the time playing concerts, that I decided I didn't want to bother living in New York anymore. And so in 2019, I left everything in storage and I just. For the first six months, I just lived in hotels and host family homes while I played the concerts that I had. And occasionally I needed to add an extra night or crash at my sister's. So I'd spent a long time kind of just roaming, being a kind of nomad. And it had been, I think, eight or nine months of doing that when the pandemic hit. Hi, everyone. What a day, what a time. All the concerts were canceled that March 12th or whatever it was. Concerts that have been canceled between now and maybe it's for the best. Got a phone call from my manager that wiped out the entire future income that I had, except for, I think, one concert. And I immediately went into a kind of musical response mode. Welcome to Cello Bello. And started doing daily livestreams on Facebook. I was doing this project called the Musical Journal. And I would record these multi track cello things. When I would get somewhere and unpack, the first thing I would do is set up my recording equipment, my little mobile studio, and record an entry into the Musical journal. And that was what music was doing for me at that point, was an outlet to serve. Looking back, I think that I was really ignoring my personal relationship with the cello. I think I was using the cello as a tool, trying to extract all the. The good that I could from it in a way that would make an impact for other people. But I wasn't really considering, what does this sound, what does this practice mean for me? I was on a mission and that was it.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

And then we get to January 2021.

[Joshua Roman]

That's right.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

And like the vast majority of us. You got Covid.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Where were you?

[Joshua Roman]

I was in Jacksonville, Florida, the one concert that wasn't canceled. And I just, I will always say, for the record, the Jacksonville Symphony did a great job with their safety protocol and measures. No one else got Covid. They canceled the second concert. We played the first concert and I woke up the next morning and I had a. I couldn't Smell. Couldn't smell the Altoids.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

Oh, man.

[Joshua Roman]

Stuck my nose in the box and I couldn't smell a thing. I was like, this is not good. Yeah. So I took the test, and then, you know, in those days, you would cancel the whole concert, and I was just kind of stuck, and I had no idea what it was going to do to me. But from the very beginning, it was an ordeal.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Yeah, because, like, it's really hard to remember, which is so weird because it's not that long ago. But I think, you know, it's not fun to think about. But let's just remind ourselves that for some people, it was no big deal to get Covid, and for others, it was an extremely big deal. How did your symptoms progress? And at what point did you realize, like, oh, nuts, this is not good?

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah, it was weird because I didn't feel like I had such a bad Covid. I mean, it was strange. What I didn't have is the extreme, regular flu, like, symptoms. I basically had the weird stuff that Covid brings and not a whole lot of traditional sick stuff. I wasn't. I had a lot of trouble breathing. That was a thing. And I had incredible fatigue, which was like nothing I'd ever experienced where it wasn't being tired because I had done something or being sleepy. It's this feeling like I'm wearing weights inside of my body or something that I just. Lifting an arm can be so difficult. It just feels like it weighs a thousand pounds. And the brain would have similar things. I was really struggling with brain fog. It was very difficult to read, and it was very strange. I didn't feel sick. I felt like I was inhabited by something else, like I'd been possessed with some weird thing, and then it just didn't go away. And I'm very, very lucky that my primary care doctor knew about and understood enough about Long Covid, both to suggest that that might be what I had and also to say, you need to get extra help. Because. Because I'm not an expert in this.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

When we come back, Joshua puts away his cello, unsure he'll ever return to it.

[Joshua Roman]

That was probably the lowest point. Nothing on the calendar. No confidence in my ability to recover. A crisis of faith about what music meant at that point. It was a really dark time.

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More from my conversation with Joshua Roman. I'm Anoush Zamarodi, and you're listening to NPR's Ted Radio Hour. We'll be right back.

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[Minouche Zomarodi]

It's the TED Radio Hour from npr. I'm Minouche Zamorodi. We are spending the hour with cellist Joshua Roman. By age 26, he had a flourishing and frenetic career. By 30, he was traveling the globe playing the world's biggest venues. But when the pandemic hit and Joshua developed long Covid, everything ground to a halt for him, including the pleasure he'd always gotten from playing his beloved cello.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

I was facing the possibility of never playing this beautiful music again.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Here he is on the TED stage.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

In January of 21. I caught Covid and unfortunately I never fully recovered. I could tell something was wrong when I continued struggling to read, even after my initial infection. Sometimes even basic sentences wouldn't make sense. A few weeks later, I was returning from the trip I'd been on when I got sick. When I arrived home, the simple act of walking up the stairs to my bedroom completely laid me out. I only made it halfway before falling to the floor on the landing, unable to continue or even to lift myself to a sitting position. I was there for half an hour, frustrated and crying.

[Joshua Roman]

So.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

So what happened next after that?

[Joshua Roman]

Well, eventually I made it home. Well, home. I made it to New York to the last place that I had been staying. And I only had two concerts, but they felt so important, so I kept those concert dates and. Oh, wow, that was wild. You know, of course, my. My manager and I had a big. Several conversations about it. Am I going to be able to do this? I worked my way up to playing the Saint Sans Cello Concerto. It's a. It's a solo cello with orchestra piece, and it's only about 20 minutes long, which is unusual. The big cello concertos, the famous ones, are 30 or even 40 minutes long, but this one was only 20 minutes long. And it's one that a lot of kids learn. So I had learned it when I was 12 or 13 or something, I don't know. And if there was any piece I was going to be able to perform at the level that I expect of myself, even with long Covid, it was going to be that piece. So I got it ready. It was nuts at first. I could only play two to five minutes, and eventually I got up to 20 minutes, and I could do that, but I would have to rest so much to be able to just play the cello for 20 minutes. So when I did that performance, I definitely had to recover. But right after that, I was working for the very first time with Edgar Meyer and Tessa Lark. The only way some concerts went on was that they were videotaped. And so that's what we did at Edgar's house. And we were able to spread out our work over the course of a week so that I could manage it.

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And.

[Joshua Roman]

And it wasn't until after I pushed through those two things that I truly, truly just crashed. That was probably the lowest point. Nothing on the calendar. No confidence in my ability to recover. A crisis of faith about what music meant at that point and whether I wanted to continue at all. It was a really dark time.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

I abandoned the daily practice routine that I'd been cultivating for over 30 years. I put my cello in its case, and I left it there. Doubts that had been lurking for years came to the surface. I'd been stuck in a gig mentality for much of my career, waiting for the phone to ring, afraid to say no to any opportunity, and completely unaware of the exhaustion that ran through my body and spirit. I've always wanted to feel like what I do matters, but after decades of ambitious effort to play every note in tune, make every phrase clear and powerful. I was having trouble seeing that possibility. Through my fatigue, with the difficulty I had even lifting the bow, let alone putting in a decent practice session, I lost hope that it mattered.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

You say you put your cello in its case and you left it there.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

How long did that break last.

[Joshua Roman]

April Major it was like two and a half months, Almost three months.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Oh, wow.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That was probably the biggest break you'd taken by. Ever in your life, Basically, yeah.

[Joshua Roman]

Because my rule was somebody told me when I was a kid that Heifetz said, I've never looked this up because I don't want to know. If I miss a day of practice, I know. If I miss two days, the critics know. If I miss three days of practice, the whole world knows. And even as, like a six year old, that was the mentality that was drilled into me. So almost three months was inconceivable.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

What do you think your cello thought of this? I'm starting to think of them truly as your life partner.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah. They're not happy about, I can tell you. Midge is her name. And she. She had been put in the closet a few times, I'm sorry to say, but always because I had another cello that I would be playing. I see it was never me not playing the cel, but there's something about cellos when they don't get played for a while, they get stiff. It's hard to get a sound. You don't have a lot of sound. It's kind of crazy how much this wood changes when it's played and when it's not played. So she was very unhappy. But also my fingers, I had pretty much lost my calluses, which is something I think any string player will understand what I'm saying. Saying with that, I had pretty much lost my calluses.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

When you were in the midst of that of not playing, did you miss it? Did you miss Midge? Did you. Did you.

[Joshua Roman]

No.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Start think. No.

[Joshua Roman]

No. I started thinking about other things I could do. I. I mean, it was not. I don't think I was very in touch with myself. We talked about earlier. I knew from such an early age, and people. A lot of people look at that and think, that's awesome. But that flip side is real, that there are all of these other things that just got pushed to the side because I knew what I was supposed to do. And so I wasn't gonna let anything that would counter that narrative become real. So when I did put the cello away, I was flooded with those doubts that had Been shoved down. And it was the first time that I had truly voiced those things that had always kind of been there.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

I want to try and understand that why you don't know if music is going to do it? Because physically, I don't feel able, because, wow, I haven't given the rest of the. The world a chance in my life. Was it that you still had long Covid and you were just like, I'm just so damn tired. I'm just gonna sit in this not.

[Joshua Roman]

Knowing, like, what exactly, you know, this is getting. This is cutting to the quick of it. When I was a kid, I grew up in a church. Music was a service to God. I was able to have incredible ambition to serve in this place where there's meaning attributed to those things which can't be articulated sometimes by science. So, well, so spirituality, really. And I left the church when I was 16 or 17. And at the point that we're talking about, it had been, gosh, 20 years of not being a Christian, but I hadn't yet figured out how music was going to save the world if it wasn't through God and Jesus the way that I had thought when I was a kid. And so a lot of what I had done for service was kind of, like, automatic. And in this moment, all of that that had been building up just came down on me. And I didn't know if I could believe anymore that music would save people, because I didn't believe in the construct that had given me that in the first place, and I hadn't yet found a new one.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

So Covid almost forced you into confronting this confusion in that you just stopped playing 100%.

[Joshua Roman]

It totally forced me into facing something that I could have faced a long time ago in.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

In those very dark days. You got a call from a friend.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That ended up changing things for you. What did they say? Like, I. I know you're struggling right now, but would you consider playing just for us friends?

[Joshua Roman]

It's so. It's so funny to me because I had this friend who asked me to play for her summer solstice party, and, you know, I said yes. I. At that point, I wasn't really sure if I was even going to continue a career as a cellist. And I think I had in the back of my mind, you know, I can just cancel. It's fine. She'll understand. But then I procrastinated, actually thinking about it, and so I couldn't say no anymore. And that is actually when I picked up the cello, was the day before this Party. And that's why I took Midge out again and started playing. And that's the moment where everything changed for me. There's. There's a place on probably most, if not every cellist's chest that has marks on the skin from where the cello touches it. And for me, it's right on the breastbone, slightly to the left, close to the heart, which is kind of crazy. And when I started playing the Bach prelude after not having touched the cello for so long, I think I was extra sensitive to the vibrations. You can feel the whole cello vibrating. You're holding it with your knees. It's against your chest. Sometimes your head is touching the scroll a little bit. You feel it in your hands. I know that that vibration wakes the cello up. This is something that we. We know. It's studied the effect that vibrations have on the instruments. And I think that was one of the only moments in a long time, maybe the only moment in many, many years, that I let myself feel the vibrations from my hands touching the cello and the cello leaning against my chest and against my knees just waking me up. I started crying because it was something that I really needed. Pretty immediately, I felt that here is the thing that I've been missing. It's my own personal connection to the music and to the cello. That all of the other stuff has to come from that. That I'd been so singularly focused on putting music out there for other people, that I wasn't. You know, in some. It's ironic, I wasn't even really doing that as well as I could, because I wasn't letting myself be a part of the equation. And I was trying to disappear. I was trying to make myself a perfect, empty vessel for music. And that's just not how it works. And being moved, literally feeling the vibrations and emotionally feeling the. The vulnerability that I had in that moment be touched in a way that I hadn't experienced before. That showed me that music is, on its own, powerful and necessary. And all of the layers that I've been peeling back since that moment come from that basic element of. I had to be. I had to be taken down to my knees before I let go of pride and let myself be vulnerable and experience the beauty of music with that veil pulled away.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

What did you see in front of you then? Because it looked different, it sounded like, than where you'd just been. Very different.

[Joshua Roman]

Very different. I wasn't immediately sure what to do with it, except that I knew that I wasn't gonna quit the cello. That, in fact, the Cello is my partner and my life, and that I just needed to have a healthier relationship with it. And I think setting out to explore that, what is my relationship with music, with the cello? What is the power of music? Those have become my structure, in a way, those questions. And it's led me to do very specific things. Like, there was a point that I realized, and I think it was many months after that, but there was a point that I realized I needed to stop practicing when I didn't want to practice. And that's just so weird for me to even now, for me to hear myself saying. But whenever I would feel the urge, I started asking myself, is this because I really want to practice, or is this because I feel like I should practice? And I discovered that when I started that I actually started being able to keep my mind on the cello more when I was playing. Like, my mind wasn't wandering off like it used to sometimes. I wasn't just playing by rote. I was there. It took a little while, but now that's. That's very true. And also I found that I really love playing the cello and that I really love practicing. And it's not just, this is the difference. It's not just about getting better at something. It's about just enjoying doing it. And another paradox, or irony, or whatever you want to call it, is that I think I'm playing better than ever. And. And I don't. I don't show up unprepared and stuff like you. You'd think that's what would happen if you said, I'm not going to practice unless I want to. But. But no, it's actually. It's not really that. At my core, I. I trust. I'm working on trusting myself. Practicing is about trusting. And just like in any other relationship, trust is a matter of building the trust part, not the verify part. And I had been so focused on all of the little check boxes. Have I done my skills? Have I done this? Then maybe I can relax and trust myself. But I hadn't ever actually practiced trusting.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Myself, because that's scary to do. What if you fail?

[Joshua Roman]

It's really scary. Yeah. Well, that's the other thing I realized I'm going to fail. That's okay. That's going to be part of it. And I'm going to somehow find a way to let people experience this thing that I feel right now, and that's going to make me fail in other ways. Ways that I would have considered failure before. But maybe now that's actually the point that truly I can put my bow where my mouth was and really do this thing of truly giving something.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

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[Minouche Zomarodi]

It's the TED Radio Hour from NPR. I'm Minouche Zumarodi. On the show today, cellist Joshua Roman and how long Covid changed his life and his approach to music. So you went through a lot, but it has brought you to sort of this unexpected and kind of wonderful place. Your debut solo album, I Close My.

[Joshua Roman]

Eyes Only for a Moment and a Moment.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

It includes classical pieces, original compositions. You also do covers of more contemporary music and features you on guitar as well as cello. And you sing.

[Joshua Roman]

That's right.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Tell us about the album and the process of putting it together.

[Joshua Roman]

Well, it all started with that moment and trying to figure it out. But there was a catalyst which was a friend of mine who ran still runs a series at the Princeton University concert series. And it was new at the time called Healing with Music.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Oh yeah, I'm familiar.

[Joshua Roman]

Okay, awesome, right? So the basic idea, you know, you hear artists playing music that has helped them through their health journeys. And it was very scary to think about that. To be up on stage saying, I'm not okay. You know, I had played a couple of concerts at that point and of course we told everyone, the presenters to make sure that everyone backstage knew. But I wasn't going out on stage and being like, I've got long Covid.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Oh, you weren't?

[Joshua Roman]

I'm going to be tired after this. Until this moment I see this proposal from my friend Dasha was come do a concert where the whole point is something's wrong and here's how music helps. One of the challenges I face is that especially classical music is hard for me now because cognitively it's not that simple. It's actually pretty taxing and can take a lot out of me. But it has been the center of me understanding my relationship with myself and being kinder to myself. So I started thinking about the pieces that had meant something to me on this journey and all of the pieces that were on that concert ended up being a part of the project. And this idea that I would be on stage and I would tell my story in words and music came from that experience. Experience that was another layer being peeled back of, sure, I'm performing, but I'm not. I'm not performing to hide in a way. I'm not trying to be bulletproof up here. I'm showing people something that really matters personally to me. Not just something I've picked because it seems important, but because like it truly affects me. And that, that was different. Well, it goes like this. The fourth, the fifth, the minor fall and the major lift the baffled king composing hallelujah. It's so interesting to me because it's not what I ever would have said I should have done as a debut album. And yet I think 12 year old me would not have been surprised at all. It would have made so much sense to 12. Like of course that's the music that you would put on an album. And I, like 12 year old me, didn't know what musical genres and boundaries were supposed to be. It was just things that fit together. Fit together.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

I mean, what you're talking about is vulnerability.

[Joshua Roman]

Exactly.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

And one might think, oh, that means he's going to Sound wistful or sad, but no, that is not the case. This is joyous.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah. I mean, there's sadness, but what's interesting actually is when you put it all together, it's just life. There's a moment. You know, I did write a piece specifically for the project much later when it came time to record it. And the idea was this is going to be the piece that's about my experience. And I really desperately wanted it to have this up and down feel, the journey, kind of Lord of the Rings landscape at the same time. It's supposed to be a five minute piece for solo cello, and I'm such a doofus. But I couldn't get that piece out and I kept trying and failing. And so I started improvising every day to see what would happen and how I would get there. And it was really fun, but I wasn't making this epic that I had in mind. And it was the weekend before I was walking into the studio. I still didn't have that thing done or even really know what it was going to be. And so I finally just totally gave up. And I said, all right, whatever's coming out is the piece. And, like, it just kind of. It just kind of showed itself immediately.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

And very quickly, those fun improv sessions evolved into one of the most unabashedly joyful compositions I've ever written. I couldn't force myself to write the piece that I wanted, but when I let go and just played, I came away with the piece that I needed. I gave it the same name. I've given my project immunity.

[Joshua Roman]

Here was this joyful celebration that was just dying to burst out of me, and I'd been trying to restrain it and turn it into this serious thing. It was so. I still don't quite understand except that a lot of. Actually a lot of religions and spiritualities and philosophies have this idea of the paradox, and it's. I think it's really real. You know, we don't have to be all one or the other.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

I guess I'm also thinking that maybe Freud might say you lost the ego or that you.

[Joshua Roman]

Well, that sounds nice.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

It does, right? Well. But it just reminds me of being. Having, honestly, postpartum depression. And. And the one thing that came out of that was that I lost my filter and just kind of said what I thought. And that's when my career took off.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah. What was that like? Wow.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

You know, having to go to the darkness and then doing things because you want to. And it's incredibly freeing. And Life is more pleasurable and oddly easier.

[Joshua Roman]

Yes. I think that's something that I don't feel like I can articulate it very well. For me, it's another one of those paradoxes where in music and in life, understanding enough to be able to let go is like, even just that sentence is a weird thing to chew on, but they go together. Understanding and letting go.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Do you think you essentially came back to being the same sort of musician? Or. Or are you very different?

[Joshua Roman]

No. Oh, my gosh. I mean, there's. You know, the roots are there. I would say that something has been unlocked. Something. You know, it was like I was circling something for so many years, trying through skill, through dedication, through commitment, through brute force, trying to get at something. And all of those skills, they're not useless skills. They're. They're good. They help. They help do the thing. They just weren't the thing. They were just tools that help when you have the thing. So I'm the same person with less and less fear of being who I am.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

So I would love to use the time that we have left together to ask you, would you play some music for us?

[Joshua Roman]

I'd be happy to.

[Joshua Roman (TED Talk Excerpts)]

Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Who is this with you? Cause I know you were talking.

[Joshua Roman]

This is Cindy.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Oh, Cindy. Woo.

[Joshua Roman]

Cindy. Yeah. That was the response. Cindy likes one piece back.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

She's got curves. Cindy.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

How long have Cindy. You and Cindy been together?

[Joshua Roman]

Oh, wow. Two and a half years, actually. We were a little bit on and off at first, so it's hard to remember.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Well, you were with Midge before, right?

[Joshua Roman]

I was with Midge, yeah.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

All right, so talk to me about what you and Cindy are gonna do for us right now.

[Joshua Roman]

Well, I think there are a lot of things that I could do, but probably the most appropriate thing, given our conversation, is just to play a short little what's happening right now. And I have no idea what that's going to be. So this is. This is today.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That was amazing.

[Joshua Roman]

Oh, thank you.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That just. Gentlemen, that just came out of you.

[Joshua Roman]

Yes. Yeah. This is a gentle.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

Something I loved was what I needed to bring me down a little bit today. And I don't mean, like sad. I mean, like, just, like. Take a deep breath.

[Joshua Roman]

Yeah, I think probably me too. You know, sharing this story, what we have been speaking about, it's always hard. I still feel anxious sharing these things and having something that was just so simple and grounding. So there we are.

[Minouche Zomarodi]

That was Joshua Roman. His album is called Immunity. The selections you heard come courtesy of his record label, Bright shiny things. You can see his talk and all of his ted [e-mail] thank you so much for listening to our show today. If you enjoyed it, got something out of it, please leave us a comment or a rating on Spotify or email [e-mail] we read every comment and we love hearing from you. This episode was produced by Matthew Cloutier and edited by Sanaz Meshkinpour and me. Our production staff at NPR also includes James Elahousie, Rachel Faulkner White, Katie Monteleone, Fiona Guerin and Harsha Nahada. Our executive producer is Irene Noguchi. Our audio engineers were Patrick Murray and Simon Jensen. Our partners at TED are Chris Anderson, Roxanne Hylash and Daniela Valorezzo. I'm Minouche Zomorodi and you've been been listening to the TED Radio Hour from npr.

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