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Talks to Motivate You Playlist (9/10): Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi Jones
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Hey y'. All. You're listening to TED Talks Daily where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hu. Welcome back to our first podcast playlist of 2026. Today we have dropped 10 talks from our archive onto the feed all at once to motivate you, to keep you going when things are hard, to inspire you as the weather shifts, to help kickstart that new project or idea, or if things are feeling good for you right now. Just to offer a perspective, whatever type of motivation you might need. We have a TED Talk for that. Next up in our Motivation playlist, how to use our voices to speak uncomfortable truths with love and the profound implications that can have on our lives. Writer, activist and self proclaimed professional troublemaker Lovey Ajayi Jones isn't afraid to speak her mind or to be the one dissenting voice in a crowd. And neither should you. Your silence serves no one, she says. In this talk from 2017, Lavi shares three questions to ask yourself if you're teetering on the edge of speaking up or quieting down, and encourages all of us to get a little more comfortable with being uncomfortable. Coming up right after a short break, Today's episode is sponsored by Nerd Wallet's Smart Money Podcast. Navigating your finances can be stressful and sometimes you just need some advice from someone you can trust. Imagine if you could have that one money savvy friend on demand for the moments when you just need a little guidance before making a big decision. NerdWallet's Smart Money podcast can be like that friend. Their team of trusted journalists breaks down financial decisions to give you research backed insights and clear pros and cons. Whether you're planning a big purchase or just want to grow your wealth, they explain the why behind tricky decisions like investing home buying and choosing the best credit cards, all while keeping it engaging and humorous. This podcast cuts through the jargon and misinformation that's so often wrapped up with financial advice. To get to the clear, research backed answers you're looking for, make your next financial move with confidence. Follow NerdWallet's Smart Money podcast on your favorite podcast app. This message is brought to you by Apple Card. Apple Card members can earn unlimited daily cash back on everyday purchases wherever they shop. This means you could be earning daily cash on just about anything, like a slice of pizza from your local pizza place or a latte from the corner coffee shop. Apply for Apple Card in the Wallet app to see your credit limit offer in minutes, subject to Credit approval, Apple card issued by Goldman Sachs Bank USA Salt Lake City Branch terms and more@applecard.com this episode is brought to you by Planet Visionaries, a podcast in partnership with the Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative. If you've been feeling overwhelmed by climate headlines lately, here's something worth your time. A show focused on solutions. It's called Planet Visionaries, hosted by Alex Honnold. Yes, the climber from Free Solo who recently completed an impressive skyscraper climb in Taipei, now turning his attention to protecting the only planet we've got. What makes this show stand out is the people you'll hear from, scientists, explorers and storytellers who are actually building a better future and making it feel tangible, human and possible. One conversation features coral restoration leader Tituan Bernacote along with legendary oceanographer Sylvia Earle sharing what it really takes to restore our oceans. In partnership with the Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative. This is Planet Visionaries. Listen or watch on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or wherever. You're listening to this podcast. And now our TED Talk of the Day.
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I'm a professional troublemaker. My job is to critique the world, the shoddy systems, and the people who refuse to do better. As a writer, as a speaker, as a shady Nigerian, I am the person who's looking at other people like, I need you to fix it. That is me. I want us to leave this world better than we found it. And how I choose to affect change is by speaking up, by being a first, and by being the domino. For a line of dominoes to fall, one has to fall first, which then leaves the other choiceless to do the same. And that domino that falls, we're hoping that, okay, the next person that sees this is inspired to be a domino. Being the domino for me looks like speaking up and doing the things that are really difficult, especially when they're needed, with the hope that others will follow suit. And here's the thing. I'm the person who says what you might be thinking but dared not to say. And a lot of times people think that we're fearless. The people who do this, we're fearless. We're not fearless. We're not unafraid of the consequences or the sacrifices that we have to make by speaking truth to power. What happens is we feel like we have to because there are too few people in the world willing to be the domino, too few people willing to take that fall. We're not doing it without fear. Now let's talk about fear. I knew exactly what I wanted to be when I grew up. I was like I'm going to be a doctor. Dr. Lovey was the dream. I was Doc McStuffins before it was a thing. And I remember when I went to college my freshman year, I had to take chemistry 101 for my pre med major. I got the first and last D of my academic career. So I went to my advisor and I was like, okay, let's drop the pre med because this doctor thing is not going to work because I don't even like hospitals. So let's just consider that done for. And that same semester I started blogging. That was 2003. So as that one dream was ending, another was beginning. And then what was a cute hobby became my full time job when I lost my marketing job in 2010. But it still took me two more years to say I'm a writer. Nine years after I started writing, before I said I'm a writer because I was afraid of what happens without 401ks, without how am I going to keep up my shoe habit? That's important to me. So it took me that long to own this thing. That was what my purpose was. And then I realized fear has a very concrete power of keeping us from doing and saying the things that are our purpose. And I was like, you know what? I'm not going to let fear rule my life. I'm not going to let fear dictate what I do. And then all these awesome things started happening and dominoes started to fall. So when I realized that, I was like, okay, 2015, I turned 30. It's going to be my year of do it anyway. Anything that scares me, I'm going to actively pursue it. So I'm a Capricorn. I like my feet solidly on the ground. I decided to take my first ever solo vacation and it was out of the country to the Dominican Republic. So on my birthday, what did I do? I went zip lining through the forests of Punta Cana. And for some odd reason I had on business casual, don't ask why. And I had an incredible time. Also, I don't like being submerged in water. I like to be again on solid ground. So I went to Mexico and swam with dolphins underwater. And then the cool thing that I did also that year, that was my mountain, was I wrote my book I'm Judging youg the Do Better Manual. And I had to own that whole writing thing now, right? Yes. But the very anti me thing that I did that year that scared the crap out of me, I went skydiving. We're about to fall out the plane I was like, I've done some stupid things in life. This is one of them. And then we come falling down to earth, and I literally lose my breath as I see earth. And I was like, I just fell out of a perfectly good plane on purpose. What is wrong with me? But then I looked down at the beauty, and I was like, this is the best thing I could have done. This is an amazing decision. And I think about the times when I have to speak truth. It feels like I am falling out that plane. It feels like that moment when I'm at the edge of the plane and I'm like, you shouldn't do this. But then I do it anyway, because I realize I have to. Sitting at the edge of that plane and kind of staying on that plane is comfort to me. And I feel like every day that I'm speaking truth against institutions and people who are bigger than me and just forces that are more powerful than me, I feel like I'm falling out of that plane. But I realize comfort is overrated because being quiet is comfortable. Keeping things the way they've been is comfortable. And all comfort has done is maintain the status quo. So we've got to get comfortable with being uncomfortable by speaking these hard truths when they're necessary. And for me, though, I realized that I have to speak these truths because honesty is so important to me. My integrity is something I hold dear. Justice. I don't think justice should be an option. We should always have justice. Also, I believe in shea butter as a core value, and I think the world would be better if we were all more moisturized. But besides that, with these as my core values, I have to speak the truth. I have no other choice in the matter. But then people like me, the professional troublemakers, should not be the only ones who have committed to being these dominoes who are always falling off the planes or being the first one to take this hit. People are so afraid of these acute consequences, not realizing that there are many times when we walk in rooms and we are some of the most powerful people in those rooms, we might be the second most powerful, third most powerful. And I firmly believe that our job in those times is to disrupt what is happening. And then if we're not the most powerful, if two more of us band together, it makes us powerful. It's like co signing the woman in the meeting, you know, the woman who can't seem to get her word out or just making sure that other person who can't make a point is being heard. Our job is to make sure they have room for that. Everyone's well being is community business. If we made that a point, we'd understand that for the times when we need help, we wouldn't have to look around so hard if we made sure we were somebody else's help. And there are times when I feel like I have taken very public tumbles and falls. Like a time when I was asked to speak at a conference and they wanted me to pay my way there. And then I did some research and found out the white men who spoke there got compensated and got their travel paid for. The white women who spoke there got their travel paid for. The black women who spoke there were expected to actually pay to speak there. And I was like, what do I do? And I knew that if I spoke up about this publicly, I could face financial loss. But then I also understood that my silence serves no one. So I fearfully spoke up about it publicly. And other women started coming out to talk about. I too have faced this type of pay inequality. And it started a conversation about discriminatory pay practices that this conference was participating in. I felt like I was the domino the time I read a disturbing memoir by a public figure and wrote a piece about it. And I knew this person was more powerful than me and could impact my career. But I was like, I gotta do this. I gotta sit at the edge of this plane maybe for two hours. And I did, and I pressed publish and I ran away and I came back to a viral post and people being like, oh my God, I'm so glad somebody finally said this. And it started a conversation about mental health and self care. And I was like, okay, all right. This thing that I'm doing, I guess, all right, doing something. And then so many people have been the domino when they talk about how they've been assaulted by powerful men and it's made millions of women join in and say, me too. So shout out to Tarana Burke for igniting that movement. People and systems count on our silence to keep us exactly where we are. Now, being the domino sometimes comes down to being exactly who you are. So I've been a shady somebody since I was three, but I've been this girl all my life. And I feel like even that's been the domino. Because in a world that wants us to walk around as representatives of ourselves, being yourself can be a revolutionary act. And in a world that wants us to whisper, I choose to yell. When it's time to say these hard things, I ask myself three things. One, did you mean it? Two, can you defend it? Three, did you say it with love? If the answer is yes to all three, I say it and let the chips fall. That's important. That checkpoint with myself always tells me yes, you're supposed to do this. Telling the truth, telling thoughtful truths should not be revolutionary act. Speaking truths of power should not be sacrificial, but they are. But I think if more of us chose to do this for the greater good, we'd be in better spaces than we are right now. Speaking of the greater good, I think we commit ourselves to telling truths to build bridges to common ground. And bridges that aren't based on truth will collapse. So it is our job, it is our obligation, it is our duty to speak truths of power, to be the domino, not just when it's difficult. Especially when it's difficult. Thank you. Foreign
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that was Lavia Jayi Jones at TED Women 2017. This talk was originally published in December of that year. Thanks for listening to our ted talks daily playlist 10 talks to motivate you. We've got many more talks that can motivate you, so if you have the time, head on over to Ted.com playlists to check out more curated playlists on a variety of topics. And that's it for today. TED Talks Daily is part of the TED Audio Collective. This talk was fact checked by the TED Research team and produced and edited by our team, Martha Estefanos, Oliver Friedman, Brian Greene, Lucy Little and Tansika Songmanivong. Additional support from Emma Tobner and Daniela Ballaraiso. I'm Elise Hu. I'll be back tomorrow with a fresh idea for your feed. Thanks for listening.
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