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Episode: Would you take a pill that made you love everyone? | Meghan Sullivan
Date: January 15, 2026
Speaker: Meghan Sullivan (Philosopher, University of Notre Dame)
Host: Elise Hu

Episode Overview

In this thought-provoking episode, philosopher Meghan Sullivan explores the true nature of love as a virtue and its role in the good life. She challenges listeners to reconsider their assumptions about love, proposing a philosophical "love pill" thought experiment and drawing insights from both Aristotle and Jesus. Sullivan makes the case for embracing vulnerability, even with strangers, and argues that such openness can transform not only individual lives but also society as a whole.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

The “Love Pill” Thought Experiment (03:22-05:16)

• Sullivan’s prompt to students:
  Sullivan opens by describing her popular Notre Dame course on the good life and introduces a recurring philosophical thought experiment: Would you take a pill that made you love everyone you met?

• Students’ responses:
  Most of her students instinctively refuse. One student, "Chris," offers a poignant explanation:

  “Professor, I sleep with my cell phone across my bedroom at night, and sometimes it goes off...I wake up and I think, ‘Oh my God, something’s happened to my mom.’...Feeling that way about everyone, that would be unbearable for me.” — Chris (05:16)

• The risk of love:
  Sullivan explains that love is seen as both essential and risky—“Love is essential to the good life, but it’s also risky, dangerous. It can even be downright unbearable.” (05:38)

Contrasts with Hate and the Current Social Climate (05:53-06:34)

• Cultivating negative emotions:
  She notes that while love is complex and risky, hate and resentment are cultivated easily, especially in today’s polarized internet and politics.

  “We can absolutely cultivate [hate]. In fact, our current politics, the Internet, it has us taking a hate everyone pill just about voluntarily every day.” (06:17)

• Modern philosophical response:
  The current ethical trend is to valorize civility and emotional restraint, but Sullivan questions this focus on “turning down” our emotions in the name of better political coexistence.

Is Civility Enough? The Cardboard Virtue (06:35-07:09)

• On civility:

  “In 2,400 years of philosophy, I can think of no major thinker who thinks civility is a cardinal virtue. Civility, it’s a virtue, but like a third tier Division 3 virtue at best. Love, on the other hand, love is the deep magic.” (06:45)

• Love at the center:
  Sullivan asserts that for many major philosophers and religions, love—not civility—is central to the good life.

Aristotle: Love as “Another Self” (07:10-08:05)

• Aristotle’s conception:
  According to Aristotle, love is not just an emotion inside you—it’s perceiving another as “another self,” dissolving the membrane separating individuals.

  “When you love another person, you experience them as another self. Love has the power to dissolve the membrane between yourself and another person.” (07:18)

• Warning from Aristotle:
  Because both virtues and vices cross that membrane, Aristotle cautioned to be selective about whom you love.

Jesus: Love Through Vulnerability (08:06-09:58)

• Jesus as philosopher:
  Sullivan presents Jesus as an innovator in philosophical thought about love, citing the parable of the Good Samaritan from the Gospel of Luke.
• The “splanchnizomai” moment:
  The Samaritan’s compassion is described in Greek as “splanchnizomai”—his guts churned with emotion.

  “In the ancient world, strong emotions like love...lived in your intestines. If you wanted to make someone an ancient philosophy inspired Valentine, you wouldn’t cut them out a heart. You would literally cut them out a coil of intestines...” (09:21)

• Jesus’ shift in emphasis:
  While Aristotle’s love connects through virtue and achievement, Jesus models love as connection via shared vulnerability, which is universally accessible:

  “What really connects us with other people is vulnerability. And what’s interesting about connecting with people on vulnerability is that you can do it with absolutely anyone...” (09:55)

Social Psychology Confirmation: The Arthur Aron Study (09:59-10:56)

• Lab experiment on vulnerability:
  Sullivan references social psychologist Arthur Aron’s experiment showing that strangers can be made to feel deep “love” or connection by mutually answering increasingly vulnerable questions.

  “30% of participants in Aron’s study reported feelings of closeness that rivaled how they felt towards their most intimate partners and towards their best friends. Vulnerability has the ability to cause these connections.” (10:54)

Ethical “Constipation” and the Need to Move Our “Guts” (10:57-11:38)

• A diagnosis for modern times:
  Sullivan humorously diagnoses our era as suffering from “ethical constipation,” arguing that societal connections have become blocked by abstractions, better debates, and avoidance of vulnerability.

  “We have to get our guts moving again, and we’re not going to be able to do that with better political discussions, more abstractions...We have got to learn to connect, and we’ve got to learn how to do it through our vulnerability.” (11:10)

Final Reflection: The Good Life is Gutsy (11:39-11:50)

• A call for courage in love:
  Many, like her student Chris, believe vulnerability makes them weak, but Sullivan contends:

  “This feeling in our guts, this kind of love, this connection, it’s the surest sign that we are on the road to the good life.” (11:47)

Notable Quotes and Memorable Moments

• Chris on the pain of loving everyone:

  “Feeling that way about everyone, that would be unbearable for me.” (05:16)

• On how easily hate is cultivated:

  “Our current politics, the Internet, it has us taking a hate everyone pill just about voluntarily every day.” (06:17)

• The role of civility:

  “Civility, it’s a virtue, but like a third tier Division 3 virtue at best. Love, on the other hand, love is the deep magic.” (06:45)

• Where love lived in the ancient world:

  “In the ancient world, strong emotions like love...lived in your intestines.” (09:21)

• On vulnerability:

  “What really connects us with other people is vulnerability. And what’s interesting about connecting with people on vulnerability is that you can do it with absolutely anyone.” (09:55)

• Vulnerability as a sign of the good life:

  “This feeling in our guts, this kind of love, this connection, it’s the surest sign that we are on the road to the good life.” (11:47)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 03:22 — Introduction of the “love pill” thought experiment
• 05:16 — Student Chris’ answer and the unbearable risk of universal love
• 06:17 — The ease of cultivating hate in modern society
• 07:18 — Aristotle’s concept of love as “another self”
• 09:21 — The meaning of “splanchnizomai” and love in ancient biology
• 09:55 — Vulnerability as the foundation for love (Jesus’ view)
• 10:54 — Details on the Arthur Aron vulnerability experiment
• 11:10 — Critique of modern “ethical constipation”
• 11:47 — Embracing vulnerability as the way to the good life

Summary Tone

Meghan Sullivan’s talk is thoughtful, witty, and inflected with both philosophical depth and practical urgency. She interweaves ancient wisdom, spiritual insight, modern psychology, and lived classroom experience, never hesitating to poke fun (“ethical constipation”; intestines for ancient Valentines) yet ultimately offering an earnest call for greater vulnerability, connection, and love in daily life.

For Listeners

If you want to understand why love—not just for partners or family but for the wider world—matters so deeply, and how vulnerability with others can reshape our lives and communities, this episode is deeply resonant. It’s both a philosophical challenge and an invitation to be gutsier with our hearts.