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That Sober Guy Podcast
Hosted by Shane Ramer · EN
Shane Ramer is the founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, a culture and performance platform examining what happens when high-performing men remove alcohol and reclaim clarity, focus, and leverage.
Since launching the show in 2014, Shane has reached millions of listeners across 100+ countries by challenging conventional narratives around masculinity, success, and sobriety. His work sits at the intersection of identity, discipline, and modern performance.
Shane works privately with executives, founders, athletes, and creatives who are no longer interested in numbing high performance with low-level coping tools. His approach reframes sobriety not as healing, but as optimization, removing friction so men can operate with precision in business, health, and leadership.
He is also the creator of the Sober Male Index, a performance-focused data project tracking how sobriety impacts focus, productivity, income, and social dynamics in men.
Shane is a husband of 20 years, a father of two, and lives his work through faith, fitness, and daily discipline.
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Why So Many Successful Men Feel Lost | Brandon Siler
6d ago00:39:40Tap to summarizeWhat happens when the dream you've spent your entire life chasing comes to an end? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with former NFL linebacker Brandon Siler to discuss identity, purpose, leadership, mental health, and life after professional sports. Brandon shares his journey from being a standout athlete at the University of Florida and captain of a National Championship team to spending six seasons in the NFL with the San Diego Chargers and Kansas City Chiefs. But this conversation goes far beyond football. Together, Shane and Brandon explore what happens when your identity is tied to performance, why so many high achievers struggle after reaching their goals, and how men can build a life of purpose beyond success, status, and external accomplishments. They also discuss leadership, resilience, mental health, discipline, and the challenges many men face when navigating major life transitions. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why identity can become a trap for high performers • What happens when the thing that defines you is taken away • The connection between purpose, fulfillment, and mental health • Why many successful men struggle silently • Leadership lessons from the NFL that apply to everyday life • How discipline and accountability create long term success • The importance of building a legacy beyond your career • How to find meaning and purpose in your next chapter Whether you're an athlete, entrepreneur, business owner, father, leader, or someone navigating a major transition, this conversation offers practical wisdom on how to build a life rooted in purpose rather than performance alone. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to improve your health, strengthen your mindset, and connect with other men committed to growth and accountability, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll find support, encouragement, and practical tools to help you become a stronger husband, father, leader, and man. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help men eliminate alcohol, increase focus, improve energy, and build momentum in every area of life. Pure Recovery California Siler Brain Clinic Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Ozempic, AI Girlfriends, and the Death of Happy Hour
1w ago00:33:36Tap to summarizeSomething strange is happening. People are drinking less alcohol. Not because they joined a recovery program. Not because they found religion. Not because they suddenly became health gurus. Instead, they’re taking Ozempic, talking to AI companions, binge-watching Netflix, ordering DoorDash, and staying home. In this solo episode, Shane dives into one of the biggest cultural shifts happening right now. What if alcohol isn't disappearing because society got healthier? What if it's simply being replaced? We explore how GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic are reducing alcohol cravings, why AI companions are becoming a substitute for human connection, and how technology is quietly replacing the role bars and happy hours once played in our lives. This isn't just a conversation about sobriety. It's a conversation about culture, connection, loneliness, comfort, and where we're headed next. The future may be sober. But it might not be for the reasons we think. In this episode: • How Ozempic could disrupt the alcohol industry• Why AI companions are exploding in popularity• The decline of happy hour culture• What technology is replacing in our lives• The hidden connection between alcohol, dopamine, and modern comfort If you've ever wondered where drinking culture is headed, this episode is for you. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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I Was Sober for 11 Years... Then I Went Back | Matt Farnsworth
2w ago00:59:27Tap to summarizeWhat happens when someone stays sober for 11 years... and still ends up relapsing? In this powerful episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with keynote speaker, bestselling author, filmmaker, and recovery coach Matt Farnsworth to discuss the hard truths about sobriety, relapse, identity, and what it actually takes to build a life worth staying sober for. Matt shares his incredible story of achieving more than a decade of sobriety before relapsing and spiraling into a devastating car accident that left him with a broken neck and clinically dead for three minutes. Yet even after surviving the crash, he found himself seeking alcohol again just hours later. Together, Shane and Matt explore why simply removing alcohol is often not enough, how many people mistake abstinence for recovery, and why rebuilding identity is one of the most important parts of lasting transformation. They also discuss the tendency toward self deception, the danger of trying to recover alone, and why rock bottom may be the beginning of a comeback rather than the end of the story. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why white knuckling sobriety often leads to relapse • The difference between being sober and being truly free • How identity shapes long term recovery • Why the brain that got you addicted cannot be trusted to get you out • The cycle of temptation, isolation, shame, and relapse • Why outside help, accountability, and community matter • How to turn rock bottom into a launchpad for change • What it takes to build a life worth staying sober for Whether you're newly alcohol free, years into recovery, or simply looking to level up your life, this conversation offers practical wisdom, hope, and a reminder that your past does not have to define your future. Takeaway: If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, and build momentum in your life, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll connect with other men committed to becoming stronger husbands, fathers, leaders, and business owners while living alcohol free. You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase focus, improve energy, and unlock their full potential. Best Selling Book - The Comeback Blueprint https://a.co/d/0gkMmmXy ARMOR UP Apple https://apps.apple.com/us/app/armor-up-gospel-warrior/id6748839645 Google Play https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.armor_up.app Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Personal Responsibility vs. Addiction: What Actually Works? | Dr. Tyler Evans
3w ago00:50:55Tap to summarizeIs addiction really a disease? Or does personal responsibility play a bigger role in recovery than most people realize? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with Dr. Tyler Evans, addiction medicine physician, public health leader, and CEO of Wellness Equity Alliance, for a thought provoking conversation about addiction, recovery, personal responsibility, and the systems that influence our health and behavior. Together, they explore some of the most debated topics in recovery, including the disease model of addiction, the role of trauma, the power of personal choice, and whether our current approach to recovery is helping people or holding them back. If you've ever questioned what you've been told about addiction, wondered why some people successfully quit drinking while others struggle for years, or challenged the labels and beliefs often associated with recovery, this episode will give you plenty to think about. In this episode, you'll learn: • Is addiction a disease, a behavior, or something in between? • How personal responsibility impacts long term recovery • Why alcohol remains one of society's most accepted addictive substances • The role of trauma, environment, and individual choice in recovery • Whether recovery labels help people heal or keep them stuck • How alcohol impacts performance, leadership, and reaching your full potential Whether you're sober curious, alcohol free, in recovery, or simply looking to optimize your health and performance, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on one of the most important topics affecting millions of people today. If you're a man looking to quit drinking, improve your health, and level up your life, join our free online men's community, The Victory Circle. You'll connect with other men committed to living alcohol free and building stronger lives, businesses, marriages, and families. https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout You can also check out our 30 Day Alcohol Free Performance Challenge, designed to help high performing men eliminate alcohol, increase energy, sharpen focus, and build momentum in every area of life. https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days https://www.tylerevansmd.com/ https://www.wellnessequityalliance.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Pandemics-Poverty-Politics-Decoding-Political-ebook/dp/B0D9C6GTN6 https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyler-b-evans-md-ms-mph-dtmh-fidsa-767ba738/ Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →What If “Alcoholic” Is the Wrong Identity?
4w ago00:34:03Tap to summarizeWhat if alcohol was never really the problem? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane Ramer dives into identity, addiction, purpose, and why he no longer identifies as an “alcoholic.” From recovery culture and the disease model of addiction to faith, connection, masculinity, and personal responsibility, this is an honest and controversial conversation about what real freedom actually looks like. If you’ve ever felt stuck in labels, shame, or the endless cycle of escape, this episode will challenge the way you think about sobriety, and yourself. Sobriety gave me clarity. Purpose gave me freedom. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Everything Is ‘Self-Care’ - Except Quitting Drinking
Apr 3000:34:39Tap to summarizeEverything Is ‘Self-Care’… Except Quitting Drinking? Everywhere you look, it’s “protect your peace,” “prioritize your mental health,” and “build better habits.” But somehow… drinking still gets a free pass. In this episode, we take a fun, honest look at the irony of modern self-care culture, where we track our sleep, invest in routines, and talk about mental health… while doing the one thing that quietly works against all of it. From “you deserve it” mentality to the real impact alcohol has on stress, sleep, and performance, this episode breaks it down in a relatable (and slightly sarcastic) way. Most of what we call self-care isn’t actually helping. If you’ve ever felt stuck in that cycle, or started questioning it, this episode will hit home. Because real self-care isn’t always comfortable—but it’s what actually moves your life forward. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Things That Used to Sound Fun… Until You Quit Drinking
Apr 2400:22:58Tap to summarizeRemember when staying out late, bar hopping, and “just one drink” sounded like a great idea? Yeah… not so much anymore. In this episode, we’re keeping things light, fun, and real as we talk about the things that used to feel exciting while drinking, but now just sound exhausting. From late-night chaos to hangovers that ruined entire weekends, we’re looking at how your definition of fun changes when you quit drinking. Sobriety isn’t boring. It’s clarity, energy, peace, and actually enjoying your life again. If you’ve ever realized that your priorities shifted after quitting alcohol, or you’re starting to feel that shift happening—this episode will make you laugh, nod your head, and maybe even feel a little proud of how far you’ve come. You didn’t lose fun when you quit drinking. You upgraded it. If you're tired of guessing… If you're tired of starting over… If you're ready to build structure instead of relying on willpower… That's exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge. It's a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this. If that sounds like what you need, you can check it out in the description. If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here: https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →The Real Reason You Can’t Quit Drinking
Apr 1600:22:34Tap to summarizeMost men think they can’t quit drinking because they lack willpower.They tell themselves they need more discipline, more motivation, or to just try harder next time. But that’s not the real problem. In this episode, I break down the truth most men never hear: drinking isn’t random, it’s functional. It’s solving something. Stress, pressure, boredom, loneliness, or the need to escape. And when you try to remove alcohol without replacing what it was doing for you, your brain fights back. Not because you're weak.Because you're wired for survival. We’ll talk about why quitting feels so hard, what’s actually happening behind the scenes, and how shifting your focus from willpower to structure can change everything. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of starting over, this episode will help you finally understand why, and what to do next. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why willpower alone isn’t enough to quit drinking The real reason alcohol becomes hard to let go of How habits form around stress, routine, and reward Why structure beats motivation every time The first step to breaking the start-stop cycle Ready to stop guessing and start building a plan? That’s exactly why I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple, step-by-step daily framework to help you reset your habits, build discipline, and prove to yourself that you can do this. If you're ready to commit to 30 days and build momentum, you can start here: https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →How to Quit Drinking for 30 Days (Step-by-Step Plan)
Apr 1000:05:13Tap to summarizeThinking about quitting drinking for 30 days but not sure where to start? In this episode, I break down a simple, practical step-by-step plan to help men go alcohol-free for 30 days without white-knuckling it or relying on willpower alone. This isn't about perfection — it's about discipline, clarity, and building momentum. You'll learn: • Why most men fail to quit drinking• The biggest mistake guys make in the first week• How to prepare your environment for success• What to expect during the first 30 days• How to stay consistent when motivation drops If you're tired of starting over every Monday, this episode will give you a clear path forward. And if you're ready to take action, I created the 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — a simple daily plan designed to help men build discipline, improve performance, and gain control of their habits. Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →How Do I Stay Sober Without Feeling Like I'm Missing Out?
Apr 800:21:25Tap to summarizeWhen you quit drinking, one of the biggest fears is this:Am I going to miss out on all the fun? In this episode, I talk honestly about the fear of missing out, and why sobriety doesn’t make life boring… it makes life better. I share how alcohol culture sells us the idea that drinking equals fun, why that belief is so hard to shake, and the mindset shifts that helped me realize I wasn’t missing out, I was leveling up. If you’ve ever worried that life without alcohol will feel dull, lonely, or restrictive, this episode will give you a new perspective and practical ways to enjoy life, stay social, and build a life you don’t need to escape from. In this episode, we cover:• Why FOMO is common in early sobriety• The truth about alcohol and fun• How to reframe the “I can’t drink” mindset• Ways to stay social and enjoy life without alcohol• Why sobriety gives you more, not less And if this topic resonates with you, be sure to check out my book,Sober Guy: How Do I? — Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking and Win at Life, where I dive deeper into the exact strategies and mindset shifts we talk about in this episode. Because the truth is simple:You’re not missing out. You’re leveling up. Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Want to go 30 Days Alcohol Free? Try our 30-Day Sober Performance Challenge — https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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