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That Sober Guy Podcast
Hosted by Shane Ramer · EN
Shane Ramer is the founder and host of That Sober Guy Podcast, a culture and performance platform examining what happens when high-performing men remove alcohol and reclaim clarity, focus, and leverage.
Since launching the show in 2014, Shane has reached millions of listeners across 100+ countries by challenging conventional narratives around masculinity, success, and sobriety. His work sits at the intersection of identity, discipline, and modern performance.
Shane works privately with executives, founders, athletes, and creatives who are no longer interested in numbing high performance with low-level coping tools. His approach reframes sobriety not as healing, but as optimization, removing friction so men can operate with precision in business, health, and leadership.
He is also the creator of the Sober Male Index, a performance-focused data project tracking how sobriety impacts focus, productivity, income, and social dynamics in men.
Shane is a husband of 20 years, a father of two, and lives his work through faith, fitness, and daily discipline.
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How Do I Stay Social and Have Fun Without Alcohol?
Mar 1200:26:28Tap to summarizeOne of the biggest fears men have when they think about quitting drinking is this: What happens to my social life? In this episode, Shane dives into Chapter 3 of his book Sober Guy, How Do I: Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life and answers one of the most common questions guys ask when they start getting sober: How do I stay social without alcohol? You’ll learn practical strategies for navigating parties, work events, dinners, and nights out with confidence, without feeling awkward, isolated, or like the odd man out. Shane shares real-life experiences, mindset shifts, and simple tactics that make staying social without alcohol not only possible, but actually better. If you're worried that quitting drinking means losing your social life, this episode will change your perspective. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →The Sober Plateau: What To Do When Nothing Is Moving (And You’re Not Dead, Just Bored)
Mar 600:32:45Tap to summarizeEver feel like sobriety, and life just… stalls out? You’re not drinking.You’re doing the work.You’re showing up. But nothing feels like it’s moving. In this episode, Shane talks about the sober plateau, that strange season where the chaos is gone, life is stable, but you start wondering… is this it? The truth is, a lot of men hit this phase in sobriety. The excitement fades, the “pink cloud” disappears, and suddenly life feels quiet… sometimes even boring. But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck. In this episode we break down: Why the sober plateau happens Why many men self-sabotage during this phase The difference between peace and stagnation Three powerful ways to break out of the plateau without blowing up your life If you’ve ever thought “nothing is moving”… this conversation is for you. Because the plateau isn’t the end of growth. It might actually be the beginning of your next level. If you’re a man looking to quit drinking, rebuild discipline, and lead your life with clarity, you’re in the right place. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Stop Chasing Motivation. Do the Reps Instead.
Feb 2500:43:31Tap to summarizeYour life doesn’t change in big moments.It changes in reps. In this episode, Shane Ramer breaks down why breakthroughs are overrated, and why discipline, consistency, and daily action are what actually build authority, confidence, and sobriety. From a random airport encounter in Denver on his way to speak at Amplify Sober Voices and Podfest Expo… to recording early podcast episodes in a Chevy S-10 with no audience and no validation… this episode is about the quiet work most men avoid. We’ve been conditioned to chase moments: The viral clip.The big stage.The emotional breakthrough. But sobriety isn’t built in moments.Marriage isn’t built in moments.Leadership isn’t built in moments. They’re built in reps. Shane covers: Why most people quit before momentum ever kicks in The danger of waiting to “feel ready” The three forms every sober leader must train: authenticity, value, and consistency How daily alcohol-free decisions reshape your identity If you’re tired of chasing motivation and ready to build real strength, this episode will recalibrate your mindset. Moments are loud.Reps are quiet.Reps change your life. Join the Victory Circle, our free digital men’s community, and surround yourself with high-performing men living alcohol-free. And if you’re ready for deeper transformation, apply for the 12-week Sober Executive Performance Reset at thatsoberguy.com/coaching. Sober minds see straight. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Great article by Brooke Redelle from The Sober Stack - Your Story is the Catalyst: Reflecting on Amplify Sober Voices Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →California’s Great Dope Scam — When “Drug Prevention Funds” Buy Activism
Feb 1800:24:52Tap to summarizeCalifornia voters were promised $370 million in cannabis tax revenue for drug prevention and youth treatment through Prop 64. So why are tens, even hundreds of millions flowing through activist nonprofits and voter registration efforts instead? In this episode, we break down what Prop 64 promised… where the money is actually going… and why many critics say “drug prevention” has turned into a political slush fund wrapped in good intentions. We unpack: How cannabis tax dollars are allocated Why NGOs tied to political organizing are receiving prevention funds What this says about accountability, governance, and cultural leadership And most importantly, what this means for men who choose to live clear-headed, sober-minded, and awake. Because sobriety isn’t just about quitting alcohol.It’s about discernment.It’s about responsibility.It’s about seeing straight in a culture that profits off distraction. Join the Victory Circle our free digital men’s community and surround yourself with high-performing men living alcohol-free. Sober minds see straight… and straight calls make change. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod https://caldoge.rhetor.ai/prop-64 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Why Successful Men Quietly Stop Going to Bars
Feb 1200:34:51Tap to summarizeGentlemen… what if the bar isn’t just a place to “blow off steam”… but a system designed to keep you from leveling up? In this episode, we break down a controversial idea: bars aren’t evil, but they are efficient. Efficient at sedating ambition. Efficient at normalizing mediocrity. Efficient at keeping men distracted from building legacies in business, family, health, and leadership. We unpack: • How bar culture subtly suppresses masculine drive• Why alcohol reduces ambition while increasing tolerance for mediocrity• The economic machine behind a $1.5 trillion global alcohol industry• How bars keep men predictable, distracted, and emotionally underdeveloped• Why younger men are quietly drinking less and what that means for leadership• The rise of sober social spaces and cultural shifts happening right now This isn’t a conspiracy rant. It’s a performance conversation. You can’t lead your company, your marriage, or your mission if your clarity is being fogged every weekend. Bars aren’t just “fun.” They shape behavior. They shape habits. They shape culture. And the real rebellion in 2026?Leaving early. Staying sharp. Building something meaningful. If you care about masculinity, leadership, high performance, sobriety, and building a life that actually matters, this episode will challenge you. Looking for 1 on 1 Coaching? Check out the Sober Executive Performance Reset Join our FREE online men’s community — The Victory Circle — for connection, accountability, and real conversations about alcohol, performance, and purpose. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc. #ThatSoberGuy #Masculinity #Sobriety #MensLeadership #HighPerformance #AlcoholCulture #SelfMastery #EntrepreneurMindset Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →From Chaos to Craft: Tattoo Artist Jeff Crabtree on Sobriety & Creativity
Feb 1001:12:24Tap to summarizeTattoo culture has always been wrapped in rebellion, late nights, and heavy drinking, but what happens when an artist decides to create without numbing? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane Ramer sits down with renowned tattoo artist Jeff Crabtree to talk about art, identity, discipline, and the uncomfortable truths no one wants to admit about creativity and alcohol. Jeff opens up about his journey through addiction, tattoo culture, and how sobriety didn’t kill his edge, it sharpened it. Together, they unpack why so many creative industries normalize burnout and substance use, how sobriety changes the way you show up in your craft, and what it really takes to build a legacy instead of just a reputation. This conversation goes deeper than tattoos. It’s about mastery, presence, masculinity, and creating something meaningful without destroying yourself in the process. In this episode, we cover: How sobriety impacts creativity, focus, and discipline Identity beyond the “artist lifestyle” The difference between rebellion and self-control What it means to build long-term success without self-sabotage Whether you’re an artist, entrepreneur, or just someone questioning the role alcohol plays in your life, this episode will challenge some deeply ingrained narratives, and challenges the status quo. www.lighthousetattooidaho.com @lighthousetattoo.id Warrior Heart Boot Camp - Use promo code SOBERGUY and get $100 off any 2026 Boot Camp! Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →What Happens When Sobriety Becomes a National Conversation?
Feb 500:51:15Tap to summarizeWhat happens when sobriety becomes a cultural priority, not just a personal choice? In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, we break down the Great American Recovery Plan and explore what it could mean if America truly shifted toward treatment over punishment, real recovery infrastructure, and accountability with support. This conversation goes beyond politics and into culture, identity, performance, and leadership, especially for men navigating business, family, and health in a world built on distraction and sedation. We also examine the broader recovery messaging gaining traction around: Mental health and addiction recovery Food quality and physical health Pharma dependence and long-term consequences Sobriety as personal sovereignty and leadership We ask the uncomfortable questions: What industries struggle when people get clear-minded? Why is avoidance normalized while discipline is questioned? What changes when men stop numbing and start leading? This episode isn’t about telling you what to think, it’s about helping you see the system clearly and decide for yourself. If you’re interested in sobriety, recovery, mental clarity, personal growth, and high-performance living, this episode will challenge you, in a good way. Listen now and join the conversation. Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Transcribe →Why Reality TV Needs Drunk Men
Jan 2900:37:40Tap to summarizeReality TV isn’t just entertainment, it’s a mirror. And what it keeps reflecting back is worth questioning. In this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane breaks down why reality TV consistently centers alcohol-fueled chaos, reckless masculinity, and emotionally unregulated men—and what that says about our culture’s relationship with leadership, performance, and sobriety. From dating shows and house-based dramas to competition series and celebrity culture, alcohol isn’t just present—it’s the engine. The louder the conflict, the sloppier the behavior, the better the ratings. But at what cost? Shane contrasts today’s reality TV landscape with earlier eras of television that celebrated responsibility, growth, and strong family dynamics—and asks a bigger question:Why does modern media reward dysfunction while treating discipline Sober Executive Performance Reset: A 12 Week Private Coaching Experience - APPLY HERE https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking Join “The Victory Circle”, our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Episode 563 - Covet the Comeback: How Christos Garkinos Turned Consistency Into Redemption
Nov 2000:34:16Tap to summarizeIn this episode of That Sober Guy Podcast, Shane sits down with fashion entrepreneur, social commerce innovator, and newly minted author Christos Garkinos, a man whose journey from Detroit to luxury fashion, Bravo TV, and running a $100M live-streaming network is impressive enough… but who's even more proud of one thing: staying sober. Christos opens up about growing up with Greek immigrant parents, working with major brands like Disney and Virgin Megastores, pioneering the luxury resale world, and ultimately launching Covet by Christos, a massive community-driven luxury platform featured in places like Vogue, Harper's Bazaar, and The New York Times. But his latest creation might be his most personal yet: his first book, Covet the Comeback. Together, Shane and Christos unpack why consistency matters, not just in sobriety, but in business, identity, spiritual growth, and making a comeback when life humbles you. They talk about what it means to just show up, surrender control, and let God work in places hustle alone won't fix. Key Takeaways • Comebacks require consistency, not perfection. Just show up, tell the truth, and let the work compound. • Sobriety creates space for identity, not the other way around. When alcohol stops leading, purpose can start. • God moves when you move. Taking action opens doors that prayer alone can't. Follow Christos on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/covetbychristos/?hl=en Check out Christos's new Book Covet the Comeback here: https://www.amazon.com/Covet-Comeback-Immigrants-Success-Everything/dp/196437734X Join the Movement → Join The Victory Circle – our free sober men's community Connect weekly with other men committed to quitting drinking, leveling up business, marriage, mindset, and faith. → Grab Shane's new book "Sober Guy: How Do I?" A raw, practical guide to quitting drinking and rebuilding your life with purpose. → Want to go deeper? Apply for 1-on-1 coaching with Shane For men ready to break alcohol dependency and lead at a higher level in life, business, and family. Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/ Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
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Episode 562 - Sober Guy, How Do I Connect with God (When I'm Not Even Sure He's Listening)?
Nov 1300:30:32Tap to summarizeA new series from That Sober Guy Podcast Life doesn't stop throwing curveballs just because you quit drinking. The bills still come in, the kids still melt down, and sometimes life just feels stale. That's where "Sober Guy… How Do I" comes in. Each short, no-BS episode dives into the real questions guys ask once the bottle's gone and life gets real again. Questions like: Sober Guy, how do I stay calm when I get a flat tire? Sober Guy, how do I deal with stress at work without losing it? Sober Guy, how do I stop comparing myself to everyone else? Host Shane Ramer, creator of That Sober Guy Podcast, keeps it honest, hilarious, and grounded, blending personal stories, spiritual principles, and practical tools that actually work in real life. No fluff. No guru talk. Just real answers for men who want to quit drinking, lead strong, and win at life. In this weeks epsiode, Jess from our Victory Circle mens community asked: 'Sober Guy, how do I connect with God or a higher power?' — and man, that's a big one. 💡 Takeaways You'll Get from Each Episode: Simple tools to keep your peace when life hits hard How to use recovery principles in everyday moments Ways to stay grateful, grounded, and strong — without the hangover ⚡ Ready to Go Further? 💬 Join the Victory Circle – our free men's community for accountability, support, and real conversations that help you grow. 📘 Grab Shane's new book, Sober Guy, How Do I… Real Answers for Men Who Want to Quit Drinking, Lead Strong, and Win at Life — available now on Amazon. 🔥 Apply for 1-on-1 Coaching with Shane if you're ready to level up your sobriety, mindset, and leadership. Check out Shanes New Book, Sober Guy How Do I - https://a.co/d/81ZIgtE Join "The Victory Circle", our FREE Sober Guy Mens Community at https://www.thatsoberguy.com/offers/SvjjuEQ2/checkout AMPLIFY Sober Voices Event - https://amplify.soberliferocks.com/ Tired of Drinking? Try Our 30 Day Quit Drinking Dude Challenge! - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/quit-drinking-alcohol-for-30-days Work with Shane 1 on 1 Coaching - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/coaching Invite Shane to Speak - https://www.thatsoberguy.com/speaking For More Resources go to http://www.ThatSoberGuy.com Follow us on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-ramer-7534bb257/ Follow us on Instagram @ThatSoberGuyPodcast Follow us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/thatsoberguypodcast Follow us on X @ThatSoberGuyPod Music - Going Late courtesy of Humans & Haven Sounds Inc.
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