That's A Gay Ass Podcast

Episode: "My Big Hairy Knockers" w/ Gianmarco Soresi
Release Date: October 15, 2025
Host: Eric Williams
Guest: Gianmarco Soresi

Episode Overview

This milestone episode of "That's A Gay Ass Podcast" features host Eric Williams interviewing comedian Gianmarco Soresi—the show's first-ever straight male guest. Known for his Broadway fandom, self-deprecating humor, and, yes, his "hairy tits," Gianmarco chats with Eric about queer cultural intersections, theater kid journeys, career hustles, anxieties, and the beautiful chaos of relationships. The conversation is both heartfelt and raunchy, delving into everything from ketamine on Fire Island to the awkwardness of middle-school queerness, to the mechanics of maintaining a happy (and horny) adult relationship while hustling in showbiz.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Breaking the "Glass Floor"—Gianmarco as First Straight Male Guest

• Historic Guest Choice: Eric points out the significance of inviting "a straight man who loves Broadway" on the podcast (01:09).
• Gianmarco humorously responds:
  • "I'm flattered to break the glass floor, or however we want to phrase it." (02:24, Gianmarco Soresi)

2. How They Met—Early Career Struggles and Clown Bar

• The two reminisce meeting as swings/understudies in the off-off Broadway show, Clown Bar.
• Venue stories morph into tales of late-night, erotic New York variety shows, including a wild fisting act (03:11).
• Discussion of navigating early acting careers, blowing money on casting workshops, with Gianmarco conceding he "should have spent more time building community" (07:54).
• Industry financial realities: low commercial pay and hustle anecdotes, Eric: "I made either exactly 2500 or like 22-hundred dollars" for a Zelle ad (10:16).

3. Ketamine, Drugs, and Growing Up "At the Wrong Time"

• Gianmarco recounts his first ketamine experience—at a gay Fire Island house, no less (04:28).
• Both discuss being late bloomers with drugs, and how this is navigated with humor and caution ("I never did drugs when I was at the age that I should have... Now that I'm past my mid-30s, I'm like, okay, let's get it in while you still can." 06:22).

4. The Theater Kid Experience as a Straight Guy

• Gianmarco tries to parse what straight boys aspire to in musical theater:
  • "When I listen to women sing... if I'm hearing 'Gimme, Gimme,' I am imagining some mix of first-person, third-person, and I'm performing it not even necessarily as a woman, but I'm performing it at that key." (13:53)
• Both recall vocal anxieties, neuroticism, and the trauma of needing to belt unattainable notes (14:35–16:06).
• Eric's panic attack during Buddy the Elf tech is a stand-out vulnerable moment (16:17).

5. Early Encounters with Queerness: Teachers, Identity, and Visibility

• Gianmarco tells poignant and comedic stories of openly gay middle-school teacher Mr. Breyer:
  • "I date men, but that's the gayest thing I've ever seen." (18:29)
• Assemblies as metaphors for queer isolation, parental responses, and viral band teacher drama ("My dad told him to go fuck himself...").
  • Eric: "Dr. Lewis was clearly grappling with his own internalized either homophobia or just outright homophobia..." (24:31)
• Early performative queerness—even as a straight kid—revealed as a form of testing boundaries and leaning into liminality.

6. Career, Validation, and Navigating Success

• Gianmarco on being recognized, social media-fueled "blow-up," and the surreal (and sometimes stressful) side of notoriety (26:30–28:03).
• Quote:
  • "I would be in stressful situations and getting recognized and you go, oh, I see why people go crazy." (26:56, Gianmarco Soresi)
• Discussion of the Thief of Joy special, issues of impostor syndrome, and the psychological toll of constant performance:
  • "You're like, oh, did I con everyone into being here?" (28:51)

7. Partnerships, Therapy & Self-Valuation

• Both open up about therapy and the difficulty of separating career validation from relationship fulfillment (30:06–34:21).
• Gianmarco's partner is now his manager, adding layers:
  • "We have two text chains now, and we're like, this one's personal, this one's business..." (32:13)
• On the impossibility of partners fulfilling the "parental" role of unconditional validation:
  • "A parent is one of those few relationships that, like your existence feeds the relationship so it can be imbalanced... but a partner is always going to need a balance." (33:27, Gianmarco Soresi)
• Eric on self-parenting:
  • "I need to parent myself. The therapist... really resonated with me. I have to be my own, like, kindergarten teacher. Firm, but really warm and encouraging." (34:21)

8. J.Lo, Broadway, and Pop Crossover Realness

• Talk of J.Lo's latest Oscar push and the inherent absurdity/beauty of cross-medium transitions ("It was the most expensive disaster I think I've ever seen in my life." 36:12, Gianmarco on This Is Me...Now).
• Anxiety over new Wicked movie songs ("You know that the new song... wasn't like... how does this add to the script? It was like Ariana could sing this as a pop version... and it's not going to be good. I'm nervous." 38:23, Gianmarco Soresi).
• Riffs on Broadway-to-pop and pop-to-Broadway transitions, with a loving nod to Falsettos as "the gayest musical" (46:09).

9. Body Image, Comedy, and "Hairy Tit" Content

• Gianmarco gives the backstory for his current beefy, hairy-chested look:
  • "I think like, three years ago, I got a trainer... then I started intermittent fasting, which changed my life." (42:21–43:17)
• Eric confesses: "I myself am newly on a get tit journey, and I think that you are an inspiration and I want to try to show as much skin as you've been showing." (45:27)

10. Quick-Fire Lightning Round: Musicals, Narcissism, and Butt Stuff

• Gianmarco's favorite gay musical: Falsettos (46:09).
• On narcissism:
  • "Oh, I know I'm a narcissist. And I think it's just important to, like, ask yourself, okay, how do I balance this? This is my tendency." (46:56)
• On straight/bi rumors: Hugh Jackman is "gayer" than Christian Borle, but all in good (queer) fun (48:14).
• Butt play: "A finger for sure... I have yet to get over the feeling of 'oh, you don't have to do that.'" (49:49–50:02)

11. The "Gay Ass" Final Question: Save One Character Actress

• Gianmarco's instant pick:
  • "Julianne Moore. Right, right, right away. My dad had a lot of ex-girlfriends, ex-wives, and I just feel like Julianne, like all of them, I could see her playing..." (51:08)
• Eric: "Julianne Moore is a perfect answer. And she's one of the few character actresses that has given us so many, many, many great films, but has a lot more left in her career. I think she is only starting." (51:36)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "My favorite story from [the Box] is there was a performer where the act was that they were fisting themselves... That's, I imagine their version of cracking on the high note."
  (03:09, Gianmarco Soresi)
• "If I could sing like that, oh, I'd be a menace."
  (14:01, Gianmarco Soresi, on Sutton Foster belting levels)
• "I date men, but that's the gayest thing I've ever seen."
  (18:29, Mr. Breyer via Gianmarco)
• "All I know is this... if I was a teacher, if I was an adult and a 12 year old started being like, 'Hey, come.' I'd be like, get away from me."
  (25:03, Gianmarco Soresi, on weird school interactions)
• "You have to acknowledge your tendencies, certainly."
  (47:42, Gianmarco Soresi, embracing the self-aware narcissist label)
• "Your people pleasing gets in the way of you..."
  "Yeah, yeah, yeah. Finger. I go like, okay, and--and I'll..."
  "We can kiss whilst I ride your knuckle."
  (50:36, Gianmarco & Eric on (literal) butt stuff.)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• First straight male guest / Show introduction: 01:09–02:24
• Meeting at Clown Bar / Industry Hustle: 02:41–11:32
• Ketamine and late-in-life drug culture: 04:28–06:54
• Theater kid aspirations & vocal trauma: 13:03–16:17
• Gay teachers, queerness, and parent moments: 18:29–24:31
• Career anxiety, social media, fame: 26:30–28:51
• Relationships and therapy talk: 30:06–34:21
• J.Lo, Wicked, Broadway-to-pop: 35:20–41:15
• Body image and fitness: 42:21–45:39
• Quick-fire round (gay musical, narcissism, butt stuff): 46:09–50:40
• Character actress apotheosis (Julianne Moore): 51:08–52:24

Episode Tone & Style

• Language: Candid, irreverent, self-deprecating, warm; loaded with industry in-jokes and Jewish-tinged kvetching.
• Vibe: Hilarious, confessional, occasionally raunchy, but always rooted in real affection for queer culture and the complicated, anxious lives of theater kids (and those who love them).

For Further Exploration

• Gianmarco Soresi’s Comedy Special: Thief of Joy (YouTube)
• Podcast: The Downside with Gianmarco Soresi
• Eric Williams’ Solo Show: Why All The Drama? at the Elysian, LA (October 23)

This summary distills the core conversations and comedic gems from an energetic and boundary-breaking episode that brings queer and straight culture into a shared, cantankerous, and loving embrace.