Podcast
The Art of Being You
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The Art of Being You
Leadership, Identity, and Internal Authority
Most people think confidence is the problem.
It isn’t.
Confidence is the result of something deeper: knowing who you are and leading from that place.
The Art of Being You explores what it actually takes to move from approval-seeking to authentic leadership.
Hosted by Leadership Identity Coach Nancy Haines, this podcast challenges the common narratives around confidence, success, and leadership.
After building a thriving career in Los Angeles and then rebuilding her life and identity after moving to Dubai, Nancy Haines experienced firsthand what happens when your identity becomes tied to external validation.
This show explores the deeper work of leadership:
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developing internal authority
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separating identity from achievement
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leading with presence instead of performance
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building confidence that comes from alignment, not approval
Each season features a mix of solo episodes and conversations with leaders, entrepreneurs, and thinkers exploring the psychology and lived experience of authentic leadership.
If you’re a high-performing professional, entrepreneur, or leader who is ready to stop performing for approval and start leading from identity — you’re in the right place.
Because the most powerful leadership doesn’t come from proving yourself.
It comes from being fully yourself.
12episodes
Episodes
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Episode 17 What Real Confidence Actually Feels Like (With Jayson Graystone)
Mar 2700:09:31Tap to summarizeEpisode Summary In this episode of The Art of Being You, I share a short but powerful conversation with Jayson Graystone — a highly successful trader and businessman — but more importantly, someone who embodies a kind of leadership that isn’t often talked about. What stood out to me wasn’t just what he said… but how he showed up. There are certain people who carry a presence that shifts a room without needing to perform, impress, or prove anything. And it raises an important question: What is it that actually creates that kind of confidence? In this conversation, we explore what it looks like to operate from internal authority — and how that changes the way you lead, make decisions, and show up in business and life. In This Episode, We Explore: How internal authority changes decision-making The contrast between pressure-driven hustle and a more grounded way of operating What authentic leadership feels like in real life — not just in theory A Note on This Conversation This is a short, focused conversation — but one that captures something deeper than just words. As you listen, pay attention not only to what’s being said… but how it feels. If This Resonates If this episode speaks to you, follow the show and continue with the next conversation. This podcast is for those navigating the shift from external validation to internal authority — in leadership, business, and life.
Transcribe →Episode 16 Why I Stepped Away From My Work — And What It Taught Me About Confidence
Mar 1300:12:59Tap to summarizeAfter several years away from the microphone, The Art of Being You is returning with a deeper message and a clearer purpose. In this episode, I share why I stepped away from my work for a period of time, what that space allowed me to see, and why this next chapter of the podcast feels different. During this time, I reflected deeply on patterns I’ve seen in so many capable people — overthinking decisions, second-guessing themselves, feeling responsible for everyone around them, and constantly looking outside themselves for validation. What I realized is that confidence was never the real issue. Confidence is the outcome. The real shift happens when we move from external validation to internal authority. This podcast is about understanding the identity patterns that shape how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. Because when identity aligns, presence changes. When presence changes, leadership becomes natural — and confidence follows. If you’ve ever felt capable but still unsure, strong but still exhausted, or clear but still hesitant to fully trust yourself, this space is for you. Welcome back to The Art of Being You.
Transcribe →Episode 15- Vulnerability & Intimacy in Relationships
Feb 14, 202100:33:12Tap to summarizeHappy Valentines Day to you! We have a special episode on this day for you to enjoy. It is a topic that most people do not discuss while in a relationship and is necessary for one to thrive. Let's be honest. Vulnerability and intimacy are sometimes the hardest things to build that require both parties to feel safe and not judged. We share some awesome tips for those who still want to grow in their relationships and give it depth. Enjoy the laughs and the vulnerability.
Transcribe →Episode 14 - Communication in Relationships
Jan 17, 202100:32:49Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we dive in a bit deeper into what communication in relationships really is. The ability to identify your communication style and to identify your needs is crucial for everything to be in harmony. At the end of the day, communication is a massive pillar for a couple. Self-love really comes into play here as well. Loving yourself enough to talk about what your needs are and also your ability to bring up problems in a relationship. Listen up as we share some mistakes we all make and tips to help you move through all the junk and get to the point of having harmony and essential conversations without the hassle.
Transcribe →Episode 13- Self Sabotage in Relationships
Dec 18, 202000:36:33Tap to summarizeLet's be honest, we have all self-sabotaged at some point in our relationships. A good question to bring up is, how many times have you stood in your own way of your happiness because "what if..."? In this episode we discuss why we self-sabotage in relationships and how to stop it. Identifying patterns and understanding where they come from are a great way to show up in relationships fully prepared and ready! To get some deeper support, remember to check out the Dim to Damn Girl online program (link found on IG @the_confidence_catalyst). Don't let this New Year start without learning some great tools to help yourself!
Transcribe →Episode 12 -Resentment In Relationships
Dec 4, 202000:32:29Tap to summarizeResentment in relationships is very common. It can be the wedge that starts creating disconnect and toxicity. The toxicity it creates may impact a relationship enough to cause irreparable damage. We talk about the types of resentment, the causes, and some tips on how to help your relationship survive it! Let's start becoming aware of our habits and start creating healthy relationships!
Transcribe →Episode 11- Roles in Relationships
Nov 9, 202000:30:28Tap to summarizeWho are you when you are in a relationship? What role do you normally take? Does it serve you? These are just some questions that we discuss in this episode. I brought my husband in to get his perspective and for men to hear a male perspective on this topic. We share some of our challenges in our relationship that led us to have the conversation that was needed to move forward.
Transcribe →Episode 10 - Does Your Self-Love Come With Conditions?
Sep 29, 202000:22:07Tap to summarizeIn this powerful episode, we discuss a very intriguing question. Do you love yourself just for being yourself? Or do you love yourself with conditions? Do you know the impact the response to these questions has on your life? A HUGE impact on what you attract and what you see in the mirror. Do you want to change it? If so, listen up and share with family and friends!
Transcribe →Episode 9 - Setting Healthy Boundaries
Sep 21, 202000:25:11Tap to summarizeSetting healthy boundaries is a form of self-love. In relationships of all sorts, boundaries are a must. You teach people how to treat you based on your boundaries. Boundaries is also tied to how strong your identity is. Taking your power back from situations that have caused you stress, trauma, or sadness makes a big difference on how you respect yourself. Enjoy the episode and the tips to help you start setting some healthy boundaries.
Transcribe →Episode 8 - The Toxicity of Judgment
Sep 7, 202000:23:03Tap to summarizeEveryone does it, but what you may not realize how much it's actually impacting your everyday life. Judgment creates so much toxicity in your mind and body. It steals your peace and it creates negativity. The moment you become aware of what you judge, you can change the pattern and create a different connection with those around you. Remember, what you focus on, grows...which means your annoyance will just keep increasing unless you decide to change it.
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