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Okay, guys, welcome back to the Authentic Society. I'm Jamie. Welcome. I don't know if you know who I am, but I'm me. I don't know what I'm talking about. Okay, welcome back. Hope everyone has had a lovely week since we last chatted. I know that I where I'm living right now. It is gotten a little bit of springtime love. It's been in the 70s, it's been sunny, and honestly, that is fueling my soul in so many ways because I, you know, me, seasonal oppression's been hitting me hard. Even though this week is going to get back in the 40s and it's raining, I have just been soaking in the sunshine. It's a beautiful day today. After I am done recording this podcast, I will be going laying in my grass. So I suggest if it is sunny and warm and starting to give you springtime feels where you live, go lay in some grass. Honestly, that touching earth shit actually works, but yeah. So this upcoming week, some fun, exciting things. I'm going to be going to Nashville, Tennessee, one of my favorite places this weekend with my husband and our two best friends, Josh and Taylor. We are going for the National Turkey Banquet. The National Turkey Banquet. That's some yeehaw, right? No, honestly, we really wanted to go because it was a really good excuse to go to Nashville. It is going to be cold there. But I'm excited. This is like my fifth time going. My husband has never been. And nothing sounds more like romantic Valentine's Day than going to a dive bar off of Broadway with live music. So excited for that. I don't think there's going to be a podcast episode next week because I will be in Nashville and I just, I'm running out of time to do things this week, so I don't think there will be an episode next Monday. Gonna take a little break, but I am going to try to vlog in Nashville if you are interested in that, let me know. If you're not, I understand. Nashville is very much like a party town and I don't go out and party at all anymore. But when I do go to places like Nashville, I do go a little wild. And I think that's healthy. It's all about balance, right? I can't remember the last time I went out and got a little feel good. So I'm excited. I'm excited to do it with my husband. He's never been. He loves live music, so I know he's gonna love Nashville. And yeah, it just sounded like a fun, non romantic Valentine's Day weekend. And honestly, I love that. I am one of the people that don't need a lot of romance around Valentine's Day. I just like more fun. I rather us have do something fun and laugh a lot, then do something, like, super romantic and put too much pressure on it. And so Nashville just seemed like a really fun thing to do on Valentine's Day to be with our friends. And, you know, we've almost been married for three years, so it just, it's. It's going to be fun. And I know that Valentine's Day can hit a lot of people hard. If you are single and listening to this. Use this week on Valentine's Day to love yourself. I think the best relationship that you can ever invest in is the one with yourself. And instead of looking at this week that you're single and you don't have anybody to spend Valentine's Day week, spend the week doing stuff that is all about you and things you love, whether that's taking yourself out to dinner to your favorite restaurant, or even getting takeout from your favorite dinner and getting a bottle of wine or taking a bubble bath, getting a massage, you know, meeting up with your girlfriend and just laughing and putting on your favorite movie. I highly recommend for all my single girlies out there, or anybody that's really struggling around Valentine's Day to do something that you truly love this week and take a good chunk out of your week this week, to spend time doing something that's just going to make you happy and feel good about yourself. And that's kind of the topic that I want to go into this week is beauty standards. And I've been wanting to talk about this topic because I think about this constantly with social media and beauty standards and how they change and how trends change and how beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. I think it's so interesting how different people view beauty and. And how we view ourselves in that aspect. So I do want to talk about beauty standards and loving yourself and being confident in your own skin, which I think, as women, we all struggle with. I know I do. And I want to be very transparent with you guys and authentic. And I thought it was a perfect time to talk about beauty standards because this week, this past week, it did something. I got my lips done for the very first time. And I know I might get some hate on that, which is fine. But I also am not going to sit there and not talk about it. I have a podcast that we talk about everything on here. We've Become friends. This is like a girl chat. So I'm going to talk about why and, like, the process of getting my lips done and what made me decide to do it and kind of what beauty standards that are in social media and just really perceiving that as a woman. It's so funny because I think confidence changes the older you get. I always used to think back in the day, I. I look at my younger self, and I was almost like, so much more confident in myself, but yet at the same time, I wasn't because I am so much more confident in myself in ways now that I wasn't at 19. You know, at 19, I just didn't care. I didn't care. I was gonna wear what I want. I was going to say what I want. I was going to do what I want, and no one could. And now at 28, my confidence is now that I think a little bit more hard about things, which I think is good. And I try to dress for my body. You know, I'm not big by any means, but when I was 19 years old, I was 115 pounds, can fit in zeros and ones and twos and size small. And now I'm a size 8. I have bigger boobs. And so a lot of times my top area is medium large, and so is my bottom area is medium. I'm very, like, in middle. I'm not tiny, but I'm not big. And it's just learning to dress my body and love my body for what it is. And that the Nash natural progression of things with a lot of women is that we do get. What do we do get weight? Do we do gain weight? And it is harder for it to fall off. You know, I remember when I was 19 or 20 years old and I was tiny and I could eat, you know, fast food three times a day. I drank a lot. I didn't take. I was not active and take care of my body, and I never gained weight. And now it's at 28, it's like, no matter what I do, I can't even drop a pound. And it's learning to be okay with that and to still find things that are going to make me feel good about myself. Because that's so important as women is, like, we have to feel good about ourselves, right? And we have to learn to talk to ourselves and be okay with dress, dressing our bodies with what we're comfortable in. And so I really wanted to. I've been wanting to get my lips done for a while. I've always liked My lips, it's never been, like, this big insecurity, but I've always wanted to try it. I think having beautiful lips is so great. Like, so many. My lip. So many of my lips. So many friends have gotten their lips done, and I always look at them like, oh, my God, that looks so natural. That looks so good. I really want to try it. And I'm 28 now. I make my own money. I don't have kids. And, you know, I'm okay with trying different things in moderation. And also things that are going to make me feel good and enhance my body and not make me, like, look crazy, right? I want to look natural with not being really natural. I mean, it's so hard for me to say because I do have extensions. I do my. I do my eyelash extensions by myself now. I've gotten my lips done. And it's so great when people compliment you in the comments and say, you are so beautiful. And I love. I mean, who doesn't love a compliment where somebody's like, you are just so beautiful. But to be transparent with you guys and any of the people look like listening, it's. I. I have hair extensions. I do my eyelashes. I've got. I get my lips done. I just don't want anybody to ever look at me and be like, oh, my God, I feel bad about myself. She's so pretty. Or I put in the work, and it's okay because I do that, too. I will look at a beautiful woman on social media, right? She has the perfect outfit on. Her lips are full. She has perfect hair. Her. Her makeup's flawless. And it's because she's doing the same things I'm doing to make herself feel good and not all of it's natural. And I think that's okay because we have to tell ourselves, like, that girl is beautiful. And she probably has her lips done and probably gets Botox and has extensions and like, you know, gets. Has self tanner on. Like, all of that. And knowing that girl is doing the same things I'm doing and just knowing that it's okay, that we don't need to beat ourselves up about not being this. This wiring, natural, beautiful girl that has long eyelashes and the longest hair and the fullest lips, like, not all of that's attainable. And to say that I am just, like, this natural beauty that doesn't put in, like, some work behind the scenes is just not the case. And so anybody that's listening or watching me or sees me on social media, just know that social media is a highlight reel. I do the things to my body and to get hair extensions and eyelash extensions because it makes me feel good about myself. It makes me have confidence. It makes me get up in the morning and look in the mirror and go, you know what? I feel good today. And I think that's why you should do anything to your body. I think that women should have the right to do enhancements on their body without feeling like, oh, my God, you're going to be judged for it. Now, that's not to say that you should not have pressure to do anything to your body. Right? But it should be your choice. It's not. I didn't go and get my lips done because I see other people on social media and I feel like I had to have them. I wanted to do them because I wanted a confidence boost, right? I wanted to feel good about my lips just to try them and to really just feel good about myself. And let me tell you, going and getting my lips done gave me so much of a confidence boost. I think anything that's going to make you feel good and beautiful in your own skin is great for your confidence. Because I want to be confident. I want to love myself, and I do like my natural self. But it was such a confident boost going when I got them done. I just felt so good about myself. My shoulder sat a little higher. I felt good putting on makeup today for the first time since I got them done. I'm getting, like, putting my lipstick on. I just feel good about myself. I smiled a little harder. I like them in pictures better. And I just feel good. And I think that if you are wondering to do something like Botox or getting your lips done or getting hair extensions, if it makes you feel good and it's a boost to your confidence, I think that you should do it. I think you should do it for the right reasons, though. You know, if everything was taken away tomorrow and I wasn't able to get my lips done, I would be okay. Okay. If I had to take out my hair extensions and show the world, I would be okay. I showed my hair extensions out last week on social media when I was getting them done. I get people commenting, comment a lot on my hair, and I just like to be transparent and be like, honey, this is fake. This is fake hair. Well, the hair is real and it is mine because I bought it, but it didn't grow out of my head. And I like to be really transparent with you guys because I think we need more of that on social media because I think it's helpful when I see a beautiful influencer on my timeline, and she's authentic about the things she gets done. Like, these aren't my natural lips. I. At Botox, I've gone on Ozempic. It is so important in our society, especially with women, that we're just honest about the work we get done. We're honest about the things we do for ourselves. To feel confident, I worry about the people that don't want to say, like, hey, this isn't natural, or, I got this, or. And don't want to say it, because young girls need to know, yes, you're looking at me. Yes, you're idolizing me, but I'm going to be honest with you. This is what I get done. And I think the perception of beauty is very interesting, because when I was calling my mom about getting my lips done before I went, I was like, I want to go get my lips done. She was like, oh, my God, you don't need that. Don't do that. And I know my mom's older generation, like, they just didn't have this stuff. So to them, it's not necessarily, like, they think of it and they think of it in a bad way. And I was like, sherry, which is my mother, I was like, sherry, you have to trust me. You have to trust me that you've raised me to be a woman. I am. That if I go get my lips done, I'm not gonna get too crazy, they're not gonna look bad, and that I'm gonna do what's right for my body and for myself, and I am going to do them in a way that's tasteful and looks good. You have to know that you raised a daughter that's not going to go and plump her lips out like Daisy Duck, or, you know, transform my whole face where I don't even look like myself, because that's not the woman you raised. I'm confident enough, and I am smart enough to know that everything has its limits and everything's in moderation. And I met her after I got my lips done. She was like, oh, my gosh, they look so good. They look natural, and they look good. And I'm like, exactly. You have to trust that you are a woman or you've raised a woman that is going to make the right decisions for her body to make herself feel good and that not everything, you know, needs to be done full throttle. I love my lips. They will probably last me, like, eight or nine months. We'll see in eight or nine months. If I feel like getting them again, I might not. And if I. I don't, they'll dissolve, and that's okay. I. I just think that every woman should do what they want with their body and to make themselves feel beautiful. I have also have to tell myself that you don't always have to wear makeup or don't always have to have your eyelashes on or your hair completely done. Um, it's okay to, you know, not be dressed in the nines all the time. I'm in sweats half the time. And, you know, I want to be able to do things in moderation for myself that. And still be humble and still like myself without makeup or all the things. And so for the longest time, I have always done this, and I didn't even realize that I had really done it until I went on Friday and got my lips done. But ever since I was a teacher, I did no makeup Fridays. I, you know, wore makeup from Monday through Thursday every day for work or whatever it may be. And then on Fridays, I was like, you know what? I'm gonna. I'm not gonna wear makeup to work on Fridays. And I'm gonna call them no makeup Fridays. For one, it's Friday. I'm tired. The week's done. I just don't want to wake up early to do it. I want to sleep in a little on Fridays. And two, I want to be. I want to implement that because I want to be okay leaving my house without makeup and feel good. And for some reason, I still do that. It was so funny because I realized on Friday morning, I got up and I was like, I'm not going to put any makeup on. Like, I slicked my eyebrows back a little bit, and then I put some chapstick on, and that was it. And I was like, I'm going to do no makeup Fridays. And because a lot of the times I'll end up coming home and getting ready to. For. On a Friday evening or whatever. But I do no makeup Fridays. And honestly, I'm really proud of myself for that, and I really want to continue to do that because I think it's good, and it's good a reality check to be like, I can go to work, I can face people. I can go out in public and not have makeup on, and I'm still going to hold my shoulders just as high. I'm still going to feel just as good about myself, and that's okay, you know, and so I will continue. And I never really even realized I did the no makeup Friday thing. It was Just like a habit I got into because I didn't want to wake up early on Fridays at the end of the week, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah. But I'm glad I still do that. And I did it even Friday and my busiest days for my like actual job are on Fridays. We meet at 10:00 and, and you know, I have meetings all day on Fridays. So implementing that I just don't need makeup to go in and like do my meetings and feel good about myself is something I'm going to probably hold on to for a long time. And I think it's all about balance, right? You know, we, anything's good in moderation. You know, you people say, oh, she has blush blindness where she puts on too much blush or she has a lip filler blindness or she has this blindness and blah, blah, blah, blah, or she has like highlight blindness, like those. All things can be true. We can all get a little sidetracked and do things extent. But I also think it's good to have people and women are surrounding you that are willing to, like my mom, say, don't go overboard, you don't need it. You're beautiful the way you are. And all those things are true, right? She, she wouldn't have been a good mom if she didn't tell me all those things. Hindsight, I'm glad I have a mom that's like, you're beautiful naturally the way you are. You don't need anything. Because I know some people don't have moms like that. I know they have moms that put them down and tell them they need to lose weight or they need to do this or that. And I'm glad I have a mom that's always going to tell me I'm naturally beautiful. And you know, she's your mom. So I'm always like, oh, she has to say that. But not really. You could have a mom like the complete opposite that puts you down all the time. And I've just never had that. But I do think that social media has given us a different standard for beauty, obviously. And you know, it's hard, it's hard as a woman to constantly scrolling on a feed, constantly be seeing these influencers or content creators that have the money to get their lips done or to get extensions or to, you know, get a personal trainer or to afford to get on Ozempic or to forward to all these great clothes that fit them exactly the same. It's hard. We're constantly fed it as women and we're constantly seeing it on our feeds. And I sometimes will catch and be like, God, why can't I just look like that? And it's because it's not attainable for my lifestyle. You know, I have a real normal life, you know, And a lot of these content creators and influencers don't. They have tons and tons of money and tons and tons of people helping them. They have everything disposable at their fingertips. They have the best products sent to them. They always have the best outfits because they work with people that are going to provide them the best outfits. They take the pictures, they know their angles. I mean, there's some content creators and influencers on there that takes the best pictures all the time. And it's the exact angle that makes their body look the exact best. And that's just not real life, you know, and it's important for us to tell ourselves as women that it's just not real life. Yes, it's beauty. Yes, they're beautiful. But they're also probably looking at themselves in the mirror and going, I need this done, or I don't like this, or that angle is horrible of me, or I hated that outfit. It didn't look good on me. Every woman I know know struggles with the beat down of themselves. And I think it's a good balance of wanting to do things that are going to boost your confidence, which is why I got my lips done. And the balance of knowing that social media is a highlight reel and that all these influencers and content creators are, you know, just like me, trying to boost their confidence. And what they pose isn't necessarily how they look on their couch in their sweats, you know, and so I think two things can be true, right? I say this all the time. I didn't need to get my lips done. I'm pretty the way I am, but I got them done because it really did boost my confidence and I do love them. And life's too short not to feel confident and good about yourself. And if you want to do something and you want to make a change, you should, because that's okay too. And I just wanted to be real and be doing the authentic thing. If I just didn't tell you I have hair extensions or all those things, you know, and that's why I really want to be transparent because I don't even consider myself a content creator. I think that's such a, like, crazy thing to call. Like, that is not what I am at all. I want to be the, like, person that is just gonna keep it real. And I'VE worked with a lot of people that do content creations. I've seen a lot of the behind the scenes stuff and at nine times out of ten, it's not authentic. And I think as women, you know, beauty especially is just. It's so in our face now. You know what I mean? Even when I was like 13 and before social media, the only time that you would get a peek or, you know, get. You would see things as if you were watching it on the tv, you know, which was like Disney Channel. My inspiration was Hannah Montana, Miley Cyrus, or you would go to the store and see a magazine, right? So if you weren't watching TV on Disney Channel or, you know, MTV or Nickelodeon or whatever, you weren't really paying attention about beauty or you go to the aisle and you would pick up a magazine. Now it's everywhere. When we lay in bed at night and we scroll on TikTok or we scroll on Instagram, it's just a constant comparison game. It's on our TV screens, it's. It's on our phones. It's all, it's everywhere. It. And it makes, it does worry me from especially the younger generation because I can't imagine what it's like raising a daughter, a teenage daughter, where it's just so in your face. Like the struggle of eating or the struggle of, you know, being skinny and the struggle to have the perfect teeth or the perfect hair. It's hard. So if anybody that is listening to me that's younger, you know, I don't think it gets easier necessarily older as a woman, because I think we all struggle as women no matter what age. But I do think that at my age, I do feel like I have a lot of confidence and I do think I know my worth on my inside. And it's just learning that I feel like I'm rambling. But I guess that's what every podcast I feel like. But I think as women, we just have to be really good about balancing, right? Everything. Life is a balancing game and it is exhausting. But it's a balance game. It's a balance game. It is never doing too much and still doing stuff that makes you feel good. And I think that's what life's all about, feeling confident. Like we talked about, I wanted to start walking and taking vitamins and just getting healthy, not necessarily losing weight, because for the first time in my life, I really struggled for a while that I wasn't like a size 0 anymore. I think a lot of women struggle with gaining weight and not being Able to lose it. But I also learned that how to dress my body. So I'm really proud that I've learned how to dress my body, what looks right on me. And I can still dress cute and feel really good about myself with the things I put on my body because I know how to dress my body. I'm never going to wear crop tops. Crop tops don't make me feel good. Right. Skinny jeans don't make me feel very good. I don't think they're very flattering on me, but it might be the opposite. You know, you don't have to wear baggy jeans just because they're in. Girls might like to wear skinny jeans because that's what makes them feel good. Do what makes you feel good and learn how to dress your body and your confidence. I promise you will go up. But just same with walking. I've been walking on my walking pad three times a week. I've started taking vitamins and I've started doing a supplement green to get my greens in. And I already feel more confident and better about myself than I did a month ago. Have I lost any weight? No. Do I feel better because I'm doing something actively to get myself healthier? Yes. Does that make your confidence go up? Yes. Is that what it's about? It's not about the number on the scale. It's not about the number of followers you have. It's not about comparing yourself to a content creator that goes to the gym seven times a week and has a personal trainer. No. It's not about that. It's about the inner work you put in and just keeping yourself accountable for that. And therefore you're going to have more confidence in general. Now, I'm not perfect, okay? I have had to cook out milkshakes this week. Do I regret them? No. Would I do it again? Yes. Did I also have a side of cheese curds? Absolutely. Was that the highlight of my week? Probably so again, life's about balance. Life is too short to sit there and not eat the damn cheese curds or the strawberry cheesecake milkshake, okay? That gut you have because you can't get rid of it, that's your life, okay? That's the milkshake that you go and get with your husband on a late night milkshake run. That gut that you can't get rid of, that's the glass of wine that you have with your friends at a sushi dinner, okay? That arm fat that your arms look too big in, that is going to get brunch and mimosas with your mom. That's your life. Okay? Those things add up. And I think that as women, we're just too hard on ourselves to do this or to get super healthy or to stop drinking or, oh, no, I can't tell people I got my lips done, because they're gonna judge me that I got my lips done even though my lips look perfect. And people keep asking me, oh, my God, you're just so naturally pretty. But that's not the case. It is all a balance. And I just know that coming on here and being real with you guys was the right thing to do. Not that I. You probably can't even tell a difference. I can't wait for people to be like, I can't notice. Good. That was the point. But, yeah, I don't know if any of this made sense. Why do I say that every episode? Jamie, stop saying it. You made sense. You made sense, girl. You made sense. If you're listening to me and I've taken you to church today, hallelujah. Amen. No, but I just think with the beauty standards, especially as women, we have to have these talks, right? They're so good for you. You know, I was talking to my best friend last night, and we were just. She's like, I'm tired of laying in bed and feeling fat. And I'm like, I am, too. But also, at the same time, I don't want to give up my milkshake from Cookout, you know, because that made me happy in the moment. And she's like, I absolutely agree. This chicken wing, I like. You know, it's just about balance. So I think as women, we have to remind ourselves of that. And, you know, I had a lot of friends that were like, go get your lips done. You'll feel so good. It's such a confidence boost. And then I also were like, I had friends and, like, my mom and my husband be like, well, you don't need it. Why are you doing that? And having, you know, those people in your life that are going to bring you back down to earth is good. But also just trusting the woman you are, knowing that you're not going to go crazy and that it's okay to do things to boost your confidence. It doesn't make you weird. It doesn't make you not naturally pretty. You still are beautiful, and it's okay to do stuff that makes you feel better about yourself, and it's okay not to. If you never get your hair done, if you never get your nails done and you feel good, Your best in sweats or T shirts and shorts. That's what you feel good in. That's what makes you feel beautiful. And I think recognizing that every woman has different ways of making themselves feel beautiful, as long as we're honest and authentic about that, especially on social media. I think no matter what you do or how you feel beautiful or how you're going to boost your confidence is exactly what you should do. And I think that's what's important. And we should bring up women, no matter what they want to do, whether they want to get their boobs done or whatever. I just see so much on social media. You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. If you don't tell people that you've gotten something done, then they sit there and they'll badger you and be like, we know you've got something done. You didn't need that, blah, blah, blah. Then you finally tell them and they say the same thing. They're like, you didn't need that. Why'd you do that to your body? It's hurt their body just being honest about it. So especially younger women and younger girls can know that 99% of the time you see a girl on social media, she has done something to enhance herself, to make her feel good about herself. And that's okay as long as she's doing authentic, authentically. And she's doing it in a way that she's honest and still confident in who she is without all that stuff. So, yeah, I just want anybody that listening know they're not alone. I struggle with confidence. I think every year I get more confident in myself. Every year I feel better about myself. Every year I tell myself that, you know, it is what it is. The older you get the cares, you're gonna find gray hairs in your hair. You're. You're not going to be able to lose weight like you once did, and that's okay. That's aging. It's also a beautiful thing as well to welcome age. I don't all the time, but I'm telling myself that I need to. And, yeah, I think I could probably go on about beauty standards and how we feel or how I feel as a woman lately. I do feel like it's so much in her face. I do feel like I follow so many content creators. I'm like, God, she just looks so good. And she always has the perfect outfit. She has a stylist. God, her lips are so pretty, what lipstick is she's wearing. She's gotten her lips done. Gosh, she has the most beautiful hair I've ever seen. She has extensions, you know. God, how did she lose all the weight? She's on Ozempic, and those things are okay. The woman doing that is not wrong for doing that. But for me, I have to tell myself she's doing that to make herself feel good. So don't beat yourself up and make yourself feel bad. That's my message for the day. So, yeah, if you want me to talk more about beauty standards, I probably could go on and on and on and on and on and on about it. Also, another thing. Something that looks good to you might not look good to somebody else. Some people might not like when women get their lips done, they might not think that's their beauty standard. Right? And that's okay, too. It's mine. It made me feel good. I didn't get my lips done because I care about what Jenny from down the block says. I got my lips done because when I look in the mirror, I like them and they make me feel good. So if you're doing something to enhance your body, do it for you. Not because you think, you know, Mr. Ralph up the street handing you the pizza is going to think you're hot. Do it for you, because you deserve to think you're hot and you feel good, and that's okay. Some people might look at my lips and be like, God, she looked prettier before. That is okay. That might not be their beauty standard. You know, there's a lot of people that think natural is beautiful. And then there's some people like me that likes a little pl here, likes a little eyelash lift. That's okay, too. Beauty's on the eye of the beholder. But I also think inner beauty comes from within. I'm honest about the stuff I'm doing, and I hope that even if you don't think it's the best thing for my body or I look beautiful with shorter hair and natural hair or this or that, that, none of that matters. If you like the person I am and you think I'm beautiful on the inside, that's really where it all come from. But, yeah, I'm gonna wrap that up with saying, you know, all the people that are struggling with their confidence. I think every woman does. I think that's what gives me peace at night. You can meet the most confident woman, the most beautiful woman, and she still struggles with something. It's just a natural thing, and that's okay. That's also boosted my confidence for me is That I know that every single person and every single woman I meet struggles with it too. And that's what kind of makes and brings us together. I think. I think it's kind of our superpower to know, like, we're all in the same boat 99% of the time. And you're not alone. I do think it reassures people. But, yeah, just if you're listening, know you're not alone. Know that it's okay to have days where you're not confident, and it's also okay to have months where you're not confident. If you want to go get your hair highlighted or do something that's a confidence boost, do it. Life's too short not to feel good about yourself, and life's too short not to to love who you are. You know, this week is all about love. And I think the most important relationship you can ever have is with yourself. And if you don't love yourself, well, that's a long, lonely life because at the end of the day, the person you really are going to have is yourself. And I think that if you are single or you're not in a good relationship, you know, your marriage is struggling or you're struggling or, you know, you don't have a lot of friends, whatever it may be, if you're feeling really alone this week, because it is all about love, just look at it as an opportunity that you can do things to love yourself this week. And I think that's a really beautiful thing. Whether that's giving yourself affirmations or just something that's going to make you feel good, I. I really, really recommend you doing that. And yeah, share in the comments. One thing that you do for yourself to make you feel good, mine was getting my lips done. So, yeah, all that ramble is to say do what makes you happy and feel good. And yeah, I hope you guys have a great week. Hope you have a great Valentine's Day. Keep up with me. As I'm going to Nashville, I will probably post a lot on my Tick Tock. I'm trying to get better at posting on Instagram. It's really hard. I don't know why. I feel like everyone's judging me on Instagram and Tick Tock's just a lot less pressure. I gotta get out of that mindset because Tick Tock probably will go away at some point. But yeah, if you want to see what I do in Nashville, let me know below. And also let me know what you're doing to to do self love this week. I will see you guys. Not next week, the week after. I am taking a little break. And, yeah, I'll talk to you guys soon. Bye.