Jamie (0:01)

Welcome back to the Authentic Society. It's been a long two weeks, friends. I took a little hiatus which was good for me. I've been super busy with my job and just life and working in events. You know, this is like prime event season. In the spring it'll slow down like mid summer, like July, and then it'll pick back up in the fall and life just gets really crazy. I've also been feeling not motivated when it comes to this podcast, which really sucks because, I don't know, I just feel if we're being really transparent and really honest, doing something that requires you to talk about your feelings and to be in front of the camera and to want to feel good about yourself and to talk and be transparent can be sometimes exhausting. Sometimes these feel like therapy sessions when I'm just being really open and honest and, you know, also wanting to look good. Sometimes I'll look at a video and be like, God, Jamie, you could have put more makeup on or whatever. And I just don't need to be so hard on myself right now. I'm not wearing, if you're watching this on YouTube, I'm not wearing any makeup and you know, my hair is really dirty, I need to wash it. But I know I don't need to show up in my absolute best form. I just need to show up and that's okay. Being in the content creation and really wanting this to be something that I do as a side hustle for the rest of my life or even turn it into a career, the pressure to show up perfect can be very exhausting. But if you are starting content creation or even if you're not in content creation and your a mother or you're in another career, that's really like hustling and stuff, you don't have to show up perfect, you just have to show up. And you know, some days you don't have to give it a hundred percent every single day. That's really impossible. Sometimes you're going to give it 90, sometimes you're going to give it 50. And then there's some days you're going to give it 150% because you really, truly are making up for the lack of the other days. But, but whatever you're doing, just show up, keep showing up, keep putting in the work and effort and you know, you'll look back and you'll be proud of yourself. I have nothing to really talk about this week other than just playing catch up and just sharing my feelings and having a girl chat, which is really what I want to do with this podcast. I want to be fun and silly and not be serious and just act like I'm chatting with all of you girls. There's so many of us. That message, whether it's about, you know, real life things or silly stuff that I say on the podcast that we relate to and that's all that it comes down to. I am just gonna show up and sometimes my episodes are gonna hit and sometimes I'm going to be preaching to the choir, whether it's about friendship, breakups or relationships or whatever. And sometimes I'm just going to be rambling about who knows what. But either way, if you're here and you're sticking with me through this journey, thank you for being here. I know I say that repetitively, but I am very appreciative and I love chatting with you guys online and I love the community that I have kept and built and I'm proud of that and I'm going to keep telling myself that. And sometimes it's good to take a break and to refresh and then sometimes it's just good to show up. And no matter what form and it doesn't have to be a necessarily perfect dolled up makeup on, have the right list of notes of things to say. Sometimes you just have to show the fuck up and hope for the best. And that's what I'm doing. So just a little catch up on things. I have, you know, been working on some exciting things. I did get a great partnership brand deal with Wellness and Aesthetic Spa in Raleigh, North Carolina. And you're going to see a lot of things coming with that. That was like a really proud moment of me. That's kind of what boosted me to be like, okay, Jamie, get out of your funk. Keep going. Good things do happen. Heart work does pick up, pay off and it's really fun. The ladies that I'm going to be working with are great. They have a great, a lot of great ideas. We really want to talk about, you know, Botox and injectables and, you know, the misconceptions of what people think when you get do stuff to your face and micro needling. And they also have a registered nurse that can take your blood and tell you like what hormones are off or what vitamin supplements you need. They have all these great, amazing things that can truly help you feel better about yourself, not just externally, but internally. And I'm excited to work with them because as somebody that just got her lips done for the very first time this year and loved it and was Such a confidence boost. I really do feel like working with them and seeing the other side of things and really breaking down people's misconceptions on whatever it may be is going to be great. And I'm really passionate about doing this brand partnership with them. And so if you're in the Raleigh, North Carolina area or if you're listening to this in surrounding areas, please stay tuned for that. Go follow them. They're called Indiglo Wellness and Aesthetic Spa, and they are just a great team. And I'm just so excited because, you know, on my kind of, like, mood board or whatever you may call it, or the list of goals that I wanted to do this year, it was get a partnership that I really wanted. And this really came out of nowhere. But I'm so excited for it because it's local and I am really passionate about a lot of things in the Raleigh, North Carolina area. And, you know, sometimes in content creation, you're trying to always look at numbers online or TikTok or get to that following count. But sometimes great things can happen locally. It doesn't have to be like you're going on a brand trip or you're, you know, getting paid thousands and thousands of dollars. Sometimes it can be a local partnership that can, you know, really make you feel good about boosting something locally and also boosting yourself. And I'm just really excited for it. I'm gonna be doing some podcasts with them. I'm gonna be taking you along for all the journey of doing stuff to my face. I promise I won't. And even if I wanted to look like a whole new person, these ladies would not let me. I think when you try to find a wellness and aesthetic spot, it's really good to find people that are going to tell you no because they don't want you to look crazy and they don't want you to look not like yourself. It's really just enhancing your beauty and making you feel good in your own skin. And that's what I'm going to do. So that's a really exciting update. Also, if you guys have been paying attention to my social medias, I have a seltzer launch coming out next week. This is something that I was super excited about and it's taken over my complete time. If you guys are confused on what that is on social media, I am a marketing and events coordinator for several breweries and the Triangle area. We also are Distro Brewing. So basically what Distro Brewing means is that we sell to the markets like we sell to Lowe's Foods or we sell to other bottle shops or restaurants or other big breweries in the Triangle area. And we also have our own tap room. So we have three tap rooms. And then we also opened another brewery under a different entity that doesn't do distro. And yeah, I got to create a seltzer. We create a seltzer every year. But obviously I wasn't working for them last year at this time. And so I being really the only woman that works there in kind of the higher level, I was like, you know, this seltzer last year was not that great. And it's because you have a bunch of men creating a seltzer that don't drink seltzer. So I was like, let me take this over. And so I got to pick the ingredients that went in. I got to pick how much went in it. I got to, you know, see the whole process from start to finish on what it's like to brew a seltzer. And it's just really cool because, you know, when you're being, when you are, you know, brewing beer all the time and stuff. Even though I love beer, I'm a beer girly through and through, it's nice to do something that is just fun and for the girlies and you know, it's lightweight, it's gluten free, it's, it's great and I'm so excited for it. So I'm doing a big launch and coming from somebody that again is in the local content creation space, I was like, you know what could I do something that's really fun for the seltzer launch? And so I thought, you know what, I'm going to reach out to anybody and anybody that is in content creation in the Raleigh, North Carolina area and even in the surrounding areas. I did so much research. I tried to find so many girls that even that were like smaller creators like me. And just if you were posting in the Raleigh area and you're trying to post and get yourself out there, I tried to invite them. I also have people reach out to me and be like, I really want to come. Like, I'm just starting on the content creation. And so it's kind of going to be like an influencer event, which is really funny, or a content creator event. Also I have other people that aren't even content creators coming and enjoying the event. And you know, we're gonna all meet and connect and I always think it's great to meet new friends that kind of have the same interest as You. And it's hard because I don't have a lot of friends. I really don't have any friends besides my friend Kylie that is kind of in the content creation space and makes content. And. And so finding people that like to make content or have podcast or whatever that may be is kind of hard. But I think I never. I think you're never too old to make a new friend, and I don't think you're ever too old to find your new best friend. Of course, I have a core group of best friends that I know will always be there for me, but I'm always down to make new friends. I'm always trying to put myself out there. I will message somebody in a heartbeat. I, you know, message Raleigh's Girls Club, and I was like, do you guys want to be a part of this? I messaged so many people. Just trying to put myself out there and be like, hey, like, there are going to be other content creations in the area. Let's all find this niche friend group and connect and whatever. I'm always trying to involve myself in the Raleigh area and also just meet new friends. I just don't think you're. You're never too old to meet somebody that you might connect with. I don't think it's ever too late. I have so many comments and so many messages of women that really struggle with finding good friends. And I promise you, I know how difficult that can be. There was a time where I really felt like I didn't, like, even like any of my friends, and I don't felt like they. They liked me. And that is such a crazy place to be in. And, you know, I completely get all the women that are like, my husb. Husband's my best friend, because I understand that too. When you have a good husband and you know they are your friend, it's like, why do I need anybody else? But you still want that girl connection. Basically. All I have to say to that is, keep putting yourself out there. Don't ever give up. It's never too late to meet a new friend. It's never too late to connect with somebody. And that goes with, like, being single, too. If you are coming out of a divorce or a really bad breakup or, you know, you feel like it's too late for you, it's never too late to find somebody you can connect with. You just have to put yourself out there. I. I know that's scary and really hard, but, you know, who cares at the end of the day if somebody's going to judge you for putting themselves out there. They're. They're only judging you for putting yourself out there because they're jealous they can't do it. Because if somebody ever judges you or thinks you're stupid for putting yourself out there, whether it's on social media or going to a local group alone or starting a new hobby like pickleball or whatever it may be, or starting a photography business, if somebody thinks you are stupid for doing that and starting over, it's because they're too scared to do it and they're jealous that you're doing it. And so just remember that, you know, coming from somebody that has really had to put herself out there. The last two weeks, really the last month while planning this seltzer launch event, it's been quite interesting and eye opening and I'm excited and nervous for this event because I'm going to meet so many new people that I've just only talked to online. And that can be so overwhelming. But I'm so excited and I know that the outcome will be a hundred percent worth it and hopefully I make some good connections and good friends and I'm just excited for it and I'm really proud of it. Also you have that nervousness that like no one's gonna show up or everyone's gonna back out on you. Because I've had that happen too and happens. I just have to tell myself, well, you tried and you know, take it as like a learning curve. But all those things are really hard to kind of conquer and get over. But at the same time, I'm really excited and I'm going to be probably so annoying and showing all of you guys that if you're interested in seeing that event and you're interested on how I plan events, let me know. I could do a whole podcast on how planning events, it's something that I'm really love to do. It's. It's fun and you know, it's hard work. It's a lot harder than people think. But I, I'm just feel like even being kind of in a year in this industry, I'm just getting the hang of it. I'm just feeling really confident in the events I plan. And obviously it's so much easier for me to plan events for just the girlies because that's where I connect. But you know, the event's gonna have live country music. I have a great musician, is a country artist. She's local. She also goes to Nashville. Her name's Paige King Johnson. She's great and she's going to be there, and I'm so excited for that. And then I'm also going to have a black flower bar brushed by Beck, who is just. She's wonderful. She's so super talented with all her designs and stuff. And I'm also going to have Vestique and Carrie, one of my favorite shops locally in Cary, is going to be there. So I'm super excited to partner with all these people and to work with them. And all it took was me reaching out with a message saying, like, hey, do you want to be a part of this with me? And nine times out of 10, you know, you might get rejected, but also, there's a good chance you won't. And it is rewarding. And put yourself out there, people. Moving on. That is my update on the last couple weeks since I've been in my A. I am really been focusing. I'm romanticizing my life, and I kind of wanted to chat about that today. That sounds so corny. Romanticizing your life. And you can call it whatever you want. You can call it gratitude, you can call it looking at the positive things in life. You can call it anything you want, but really looking at romanticizing your life for what it is. And I'm gonna. I'm gonna chat about a couple things for somebody that is chronically online, and it's probably not healthy because it is my career, it is my hobbies or whatever. I've been really struggling. And I know I've talked about this before, about, you know, feeling like I can't keep up or feeling like my life's not picture perfect, or I don't have enough content to put out there, or I don't have the cutest outfits or I have to be in makeup or whatever. And it's all bullshit. It's such complete fucking bullshit that I am waiting. Sometimes it feels like to enjoy my life when I have such a beautiful one. And it's the little things. And if you focus on the little things in your life to romanticize them, they really take away from all that negative mind junk that you keep telling yourself that your life's not beautiful or pretty or whatever. I went to the beach this past weekend, and if you know me, I love being by the water. I tell my husband, I just want to be by a body of water. Whether it's a pool, a river, a lake, a beach, I just want to be by a body of water. And I always am so freaking jealous of people that have houses by a body of water. And you know, my even My in laws have a camper at the river and my brother and sister in law have a camper at the river and me and Dylan don't. So we don't go down there as much as they do. And you know, I always tell Dylan, I'm like, I really want to buy our own camper. I really want to be by the water and stuff like that. And obviously it's just not in the cards for us right now. Whether it's financially or just logistically, it doesn't work. And even when I came back from the beach, who doesn't love to look at Zillow when they're at the beach, you know, and that humbles me because it's like, damn, they didn't. This ain't ever going to happen. And which is a negative mindset because it could. You could, I, you know, we could win the lottery that I don't play. But you know, I was on the ride home to the beach and of course you have a lot of time to think to yourself and you know, just thinking of like, gosh, I really just want a dream of mine is to have some type vacation spot that we can go and like me and my, me and Dylan and the dogs and even when we have kids, it's just like a space that's ours and kind of just feeling like, gosh, I don't know if that's ever going to be attainable, especially in this economy and you know, blah, blah, blah, and just being like, don't dream too big because it's so, it's so not, it's pointless. And so, you know, I'm driving and I get home and I pull in and I pull into my lovely home and I am slapped in the face that I am so deeply blessed. And you know, I love my home. I'm so proud of it. You know, Dylan and I were fortunate enough to have a lot of, you know, things that most people don't have. Like our land was given to us by his parents. I know I've just said that before. Also, you know, his dad has a concrete business. So we got a lot of concrete, which a lot of people don't realize in the eastern part of North Carolina, or even in North Carolina in general, a lot of people have gravel driveways. We have a concrete one, which so blessed for. But me and Dylan have been in this home. It'll be two years in October. And so, gosh, was I 27. So when we started building our home, I was 26, and it was built by 27. And I know a lot of people aren't able to do that in the economy we're in. And I know a lot of people aren't able to even buy a home because of interest rates and down payment, and it's. It's just ridiculous. And it's infuriating that, you know, talking to my grandparents, which obviously this is. This is probably everyone's grandparents, but my grandparents, you know, they've lived in the same home probably my whole life, probably since their 20s, early 30s, and, you know, they're in their 80s now, but they bought their home for $16,000, and they did remodeling throughout the years, they added on throughout the years, and their home now is worth appraises for over, like, $300,000, which is just crazy. And their mortgage is paid off, and what a great, beautiful investment that you can see that their whole life really is there in that home. And so, obviously, things are just not that way. But I'm so blessed to have this home. And I know that at 28 years old, and by the time it'll be two years, at 29 years old, like, I have a beautiful home. I have a piece of property. I have a beautiful view from my property. And, you know, not a lot of people have that. And so, yeah, I don't have a home by the water. I don't have a vacation home. But, you know, I have a beautiful back porch that I can sit my coffee on in the mornings. And I have a job that, you know, is able to not only help support our home, but also I get to do other little things like go to the beach sometimes. So I need to just stop. Always. It's good to dream because I am such a dreamer. But I also. It's good to be like, this is what I have now. You're not. You're not gonna have all dreams said and done at 28. And I think being chronically online, we just assume that's the case, and it's not. And, you know, I am love my home, and so enjoying being here is important to me. So romanticizing that the things that I get to do in my home. I get to have an office in my home. I get to have a podcast studio in my own home. And so, you know, it can be such a negative space when you're driving home from a great vacation and you're like, God, I love the beach. I could be there all the time, but it's, like, not possible. And there's so many people that have that option to go to the beach and have a home and like they just don't realize how lucky they are. And I know people look at me and feel the same way. And so romanticizing your life on just every little thing that's possible. Like take pictures of a good cup of coffee. You know, I've just started to learn how to make lattes for myself and let me tell you, that's changed my whole entire life. It really has. I'm going to make one after this. Even though I'm going to be jittery the rest of the day. I take the picture of the lattes. Buy yourself flowers. It's tulip season. I love fudgeing tulips. Go get yourself some tulip. Put them in a nice vase. They're only like seven bucks at the Walmart. Romanticize your life, big or small. Go in your closet and make a new outfit out of old things to wear. You're too embarrassed to wear it. Fuck that. Who cares? Not I take a cute picture. You're too old to take a selfie. No, you're not. No, you're not. Selfies aren't cool anymore. Who cares? Who cares? Selfies should come back in. Okay, let me tell you something. No one knows how to take a good of a picture of myself but me. When did selfies go out? Kim K. Making herself an own selfie book really was the peak of it all. Selfies need to be in mirror. Pics are coming back in. Do you remember when you were like in middle school? If you're around my age, nothing beat if you had a digital camera going in the bathroom, taking a mirror picture with the flash on, with your Abercrombie shirt and your Aero Postal jorts after you just straighten the out of your bangs, your side swoop with your braces. Nothing like that. Eight more. I'm gonna have to find a picture and insert it here because let me tell you that that's what peak happen happiness and romanticizing your life. Where was I going? The skating rink? Did I think I was hot shit? Yeah. Why? Where was my confidence now that it was at 12 years old, nothing could be going to the movies or the skating rink and and putting on your best Abercrombie shirt and your Aeropostale jorts. That was the peak of happiness. That was romanticizing your life. Anyway, my point of it is we need to start thinking the things that aren't. When we think something in our life is cool, we need to stop second guessing it. It probably is cool. Why do we think everything is so uncool now. You get a new job. Cool. You buy a house. Cool. You rent a really cool house. Cool. You make a good latte. Cool. We need to start thinking things are cool again. Why is everything so uncool? Like a selfie that makes you feel good about yourself. Why is that uncool? I don't get it. I don't get it. Point is, we really need to start being less chronically online and comparing apples to oranges because apples are never going to taste the same as oranges and they're never going to look the same. But they're both great fruit and romanticizing and thinking that the things in our life are cool. And I know people probably don't even think the word cool is cool, but it's cool. You get it. You got it. Anyway, this is the segment of the podcast where we're going to do State of the Union. We're going to tell you the ins and outs of this week. I know you guys just love this. In this week, being sun kissed, Okay, I got a little toasty at the beach. It wasn't like super hot. So, you know, why do we think as women that if it's not hot, I can't get sunburned? That's a lie. Got a little toasty. I don't know if you can see it up here on my legs, but being sun kissed is in. I'm so ready for summer. Speaking of buying yourself flowers is in. Even though my husband did buy me flowers today. He knows I love tulips. And anyway, tulips are in. Go buy yourself some tulips. They're almost out of season. Tulips are in for me this week. My husband bought me some. And I just feel better when I have some flowers, fresh flowers in my house. It makes me feel like Martha Stewart. You know what I mean? Also in the beach. Go. Even if it's just for the day, you don't live if you're in the middle states. That's what I call them. Like the middle states of the United States. I. I hate that you don't live near the beach. Like, I live two hours from the beach. And again, that's cool. You know, the beach is in this week also. Back porch sits are in this week. Anything outside is in this week. Out now, while I could go in and out of this, it's kind of in my end. It's kind of in my out. I haven't decided. Ransom Canyon. If you guys are on Netflix and you've watched Ransom Canyon, I can't Decide if it's an in for this week or an out for this week. I can't decide if I love it or I hate it or if it's both. I watched it all. I ate that up. But it was also like a Hallmark film and such bad acting and you know, the plots were mediocre. I was waiting for something like really to pop off. There were moments where I was like on my phone scrolling because it's like I didn't even need to watch it. But there were also moments that are rewinded because the quotes were so good. So I can't decide if the TV show Ransom Canyon or is in and out this week. It's going to be in the middle and I know I'm going to get hate for that because I know a lot of people have loved it. Trust me, I eat up a corny TV show like the rest of you. That doesn't mean I won't be watching season two. I just don't know how I feel about it. I think I hated it so much. I loved it. I don't know. I can't decide if it's an inner out this week. Another out for this week. For some reason I'm having a really hard time with eating healthy. I was so doing so, so good. So bad foods are in this week and healthy food is out currently. I think you should be able to eat whatever the fuck you want. Not everyone needs to be on a diet plan and it's okay to have balance in your life. And I'm here to tell you just because you don't care about being the tonest, buffest, healthiest smoothie, loving no gluten free girly does not mean you're living a bad life. So out is always thinking that you have to be tip top shape and help the you do need to be healthy but you also should be able to eat whatever you want. Another out this week is. Where did I put that? I had another one. Another out for this week is dirty cars. I cleaned up my car this week and I will say that having a clean car is like having a clear mind. I don't know why I treat my car like it is a dumpster site. Treat. Your Kris Jenner made a comment and I saw this and she was like how can you have a clear thought process on your way to work if you don't have a clear car? I said, oh my God. I don't even like Kris Jenner. I do like Kris Jenner. I don't know. She's out or in for this week. She's how I feel about Ransom Canyon. But yeah, I Clean car or dirty cars are out. Clean cars are in for the week. Okay, guys, that is it for this episode. I. No, that was probably a lot. I just had a lot to say. Let me know what you guys want to continue to see with me. Let me know your ins and outs for the week. I've missed my YouTube people. My YouTube people are the best. Sorry. Spotify and Apple podcast listeners love you guys too, but you don't comment like YouTube people. YouTube people are superior in the comments. Sorry. Love you all. Love you all. Love you all. And yeah, I will talk to you guys next week. Look out for my partnership with Indiglo aesthetic and look out for all my Seltzer launch content. Even if you aren't a drinking girly, I, you know, mocktails are in. And yeah, if you don't like beer, you can like Seltzer. Anyway, missed you guys. Glad to be back. Not showing up. Perfect. Just showing up. Bye.