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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Hosted by Neeki Motabar · EN
Join Neeki, your favourite Machiavellian Barbie, every Wednesday to learn how to take advantage of the patriarchy's loopholes and to unlearn the patriarchal conditioning keeping us small, quiet, nice girls.
"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" 💋
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The 5 habits that trigger people to lose respect for you
1w ago00:39:50Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.No self-improvement journey is complete without unlearning our internalized patriarchy. This doesn't only manifest itself as macro-level behaviours, like being a huge pick me. Some habits are so subtle, they're almost hidden within our subconscious...Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:32 1- Saying "sorry" instead of "thank you"10:19 2- Not ending your sentences17:39 3- Using qualifiers to soften your contribution23:29 4- Taking yourself too seriously 30:12 5- Being overly reactiveIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsEpisodes mentioned:Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win (listen on Spotify or Apple) The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being unbothered (listen on Spotify or Apple)Patriarchy Hack #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you (listen on Spotify or Apple)Patriarchy Hack #Hack 34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead (listen on Spotify or Apple)__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about
2w ago00:41:48Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Read more about 20 ways to unlearn how the patriarchy groomed us. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.The patriarchy is a textbook example of the law of inversion: what we see isn't the truth, it's a defence mechanism. In fact, the entire system is an institutionalized defence mechanism of Venus/womb envy and it's governed by slave morality (hi, Nietzsche).Flip what it tells you and that's when you get the truth. In this episode, I'll discuss 5 examples of how the patriarchy hides the truth in plain sight. I encourage you to do the same with anything presented to you as "truth" or "nature."Make sure to watch until the end to see a little satirical skit of the patriarchy's first PR meetingBTW you can listen to my episode the biological clock as a patriarchal myth on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube <3Timestamps:0:00 Intro8:29 Lie 1- Women are naturally nurturing11:25 Lie 2- Men are dominant because they're stronger15:06 Lie 3- Women only have worth when they're of service19:49 Lie 4- Men are scarce26:56 Lie 5- The default is maleIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsSources:It’s Hard Work Being a Boy (and, It Turns Out, a Girl)Male vs. Female DevelopmentSex Begins in the Womb__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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5 sneaky examples of medical misogyny: which ones have you faced?
3w ago00:34:05Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Women are not small men, yet for decades medical research has treated us as such. What's even worse is that women have been excluded from research because of our menstrual cycles.And what's even worser is that because of this bias, many girls and women get misdiagnosed, undiagnosed, and gaslit. In this episode I'll debunk some myths, share some useful information, and hopefully give you a starting point to do your own research.Disclaimer: I am not a medical, dental, or mental health professional and this video is not medical advice, dental, or mental health advice.Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:14 Gender bias in ADHD diagnoses7:31 Oral hygiene16:16 Needing 6-8 hrs of sleep19:39 Cold plunges/cold showers25:01 Intermittent fastingIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsSources:Comparing gingival inflammation and salivary acidity to hormonal variation during menstruationDaily sauna time might help prevent menopause-related weight gainEffects of cold environment exposure on female reproductive health and its regulatory mechanismsFemales with ADHD: An expert consensus statement taking a lifespan approach providing guidance for the identification and treatment of attention-deficit/ hyperactivity disorder in girls and womenHow Intermittent Fasting Affects Women: Metabolism, Perimenopause & Hormones | Dr. Stacy Sims Inattentive ADHD in Women Intermittent Fasting vs Time-Restricted Eating: What Actually Works for Women 40+?Oral HealthPeriod Power by Maisie Hill The Menstrual Cycle’s Influence on Sleep Duration and Cardiovascular Health: A Comprehensive ReviewWhy Women Require a Different Oral Cleaning Routine Than Men__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Patriarchy Hack #35: Never do anything with the expectation of gratitude
4w ago00:40:14Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Doing anything with the expectation that we’ll be appreciated and recognized is a surefire path to disappointment. However, it’s something many women and people pleasers continue doing. In this episode, we’ll discuss:3 things about gratitude we need to learnA deep-rooted misconception that we need to unlearnA textbook example of why gratitude keeps us waiting for a reward that never comesThe mindset shift you need to finally stop begging for validationLet’s stop appealing to the past. The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present.✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:02 3 things to learn14:36 A misconception to unlearn19:01 A textbook example of this hack27:24 What this means for you 36:19 ExceptionsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Your anger towards men is quietly marginalizing you
May 2700:27:51Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Female rage can move mountains. As women, we have so much to be angry about, and rightfully so.However, many women get caught in the trap of channelling their anger towards men. Don't get me wrong, that anger is justified. But anger without an outlet becomes, at best, resentment, and worst, self-destruction.In this episode, I'll help you unlock a new level of consciousness about your anger and how it could be rooted in things you never thought of.I highly suggest you also listen to my episode "7 ways to make your feminine rage work for you" on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:26 The power of female rage8:35 The truth about anger & why we repress it14:48 A new level of consciousness about anger21:21 The antidote to anger If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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“Treat people how you want to be treated” is a scam
May 2000:35:44Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.This week's episode is a bit counterintuitive. Every culture and religion (yikes) has a variation of "The Golden Rule": Treat people how you want to be treated.This principle has brainwashed many women into a false sense of fairness and reciprocity with the world. It keeps us running in a hamster wheel, waiting for a reward that never materializes.Worst of all, it makes us oblivious to the way the world really operates.Listen to find out how The Golden Rule may have damaged your relationships, and four new rules to replace it with.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:18 Why The Golden Rule is so harmful11:55 You're prob doing too much20:56 The four PLATINUM rulesIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being unbothered
May 1300:27:57Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Your compulsion to argue, get the last word, or make someone "pay" for what they did to you is a projection. You think, "If I were in their shoes, I would've never done that."Well you're not in their janky Crocs.In this episode, I'll discuss:Why people want to trigger you to begin withHow to spot energy vulturesHow to pull an uno reverse on themWhy being unbothered is the best form of revengeWhy reacting to an energy vulture is dangerousTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:49 Why people want to trigger you6:08 A textbook example of an energy vulture12:37 The psychological power of being unbothered15:58 How to be unbothered20:50 The power of ambiguityIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Girly law of power #34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead
May 600:37:18Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Most of us are so caught up in arguing, trying to get the last word, or shattering someone's ego that we fail to realize how GOOFY we look. Not to mention arguing and trying to be understood are forms of emotional labour. So cut it out.Besides, why would you want to shatter someone's ego when you can trigger it?In this episode, you'll understand that real power is making your opponent look goofy, often without saying a word.I'll discuss:- Two things we need to unlearn- Why there's no such thing as winning an argument- The real reason people want you to argue with them- A crazy example of how I implemented this law- The silent, Machiavellian strategy of winning✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:08 Unlearning the crap (#1)7:58 Unlearning the crap (#2)17:16 The law in the wild (and I mean WILD)23:19 What this means for you (#1)30:17 What this means for you (#2)34:59 Exceptions & final thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The dark side of "sprinkle sprinkle"
Apr 2900:42:51Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Over the last few years, Shera Seven's content has taken social media by storm. Her "sprinkle sprinkle" philosophy preaches that women should be gold diggers and marry a man solely based on his ability to financially provide.Don't get me wrong, I love the woman and agree with most of what she says. However, there are some flaws in her advice that at best, get bastardized and misinterpreted, and at worst, lead to deeply engrained patriarchy.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:00 Spending money on someone is a cop out8:42 Reality isn't real, it's mediated13:34 The 9 to 5 trap19:36 The femininity trap26:31 The dark side of sprinkle sprinkle32:31 Do all men cheat?38:57 What should we do?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays#sprinklesprinkle #sheraseven #wizardliz #patriarchy #capitalism #itgirl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You don't fear failure, you fear your own success
Apr 2200:29:52Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Most of us want best for ourselves. We want the dream job, salary, house. But that's all it is: a want.You can't want something and have it at the same time. So you stay in a perpetual state of want to prevent yourself from getting the things you desire. Then you breathe a sigh of relief, because nothing has to change.Unfortunately, stagnation feels more comfortable than success because your brain and nervous system want to keep you safe and comfy. On top of that, you've internalized a lot of crap about how women should behave and what we should aspire to be.In this episode I'll discuss exactly how to stop standing in the way of your own success so you can finally build the life you deserve. BTW here's the lifetraps quiz I mentioned.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:15 Your body’s been programmed for misogyny6:15 You’re a parasite to yourself11:13 Reinvent yourself in 3 steps20:51 A VERY important note23:59 Never fear success againIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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