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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Hosted by Neeki Motabar · EN
Join Neeki, your favourite Machiavellian Barbie, every Wednesday to learn how to take advantage of the patriarchy's loopholes and to unlearn the patriarchal conditioning keeping us small, quiet, nice girls.
"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" 💋
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Patriarchy Hack #37: Always have one foot out
2w ago00:44:24Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Commitment and loyalty are glorified ways of infantilizing ourselves. Patriarchy needs to mentally capture women in order to function, and one of its PR team's favourite marketing tactics is "commitment."In this episode I'll discuss:Why you've been conditioned to think your worth depends on how committed you areHow people play mind games to make you commitThe different disguises loyalty wearsAn example of a baddie who committed, got screwed over, became unattached, and found huge success 4 strategies to never fall victim to loyalty againIn a world full of sheep and wolves, be a fox.✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro6:02 Unlearning the crap21:35 The law in the wild27:32 What this means for you41:00 Exceptions & final thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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There’s a big loophole in the patriarchy & it’s been hidden in ancient texts
3w ago00:43:12Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Patriarchy has made us believe we’re separate. It has pitted men against women, women against women, women against men. But this division is based on manufactured fear and scarcity. The truth is, we were never separate and we never can be.In fact, the ancients revealed five fundamental truths about humanity, the meaning of life, and what it means to be you. Those truths tell us exactly how to escape from the patriarchy.And it all starts with the consciousness you’re about to gain. Timestamps:0:00 Intro6:34 The first truth15:53 The second truth21:53 The third truth30:37 The fourth truth34:43 The fifth truthIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsThe inspiration behind this episode: https://youtu.be/ADYdypHZb2ASources:When Fear Shrinks the BrainWhat Is the Spooky Science of Quantum Entanglement?__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Patriarchy’s secret that Disney tried warning us about
4w ago00:34:32Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Classic Disney villains aren't just baddies with red nails, colourful eyeshadows, and arched eyebrows, they're a goldmine of information. Just like its Hidden Mickeys, Disney left some hidden messages about patriarchy, female power, and self-actualization among its baddie villains.Timestamps:0:00 Intro4:58 The first truth19:39 The second truth24:57 The third truth32:21 Recap + closing thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsEpisodes mentioned:There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about (listen on Spotify or Apple) Do NOTHING for men | Machiavelli vs Patriarchy Ep. 1 (listen on Spotify or Apple)__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Do NOTHING for men | Machiavelli vs Patriarchy Ep. 1
Jul 1500:28:23Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Welcome to the first episode of Machiavelli vs Patriarchy. In this series, I decode The Prince, one of the most controversial texts in history, to help women flip the patriarchy on its head.In this episode, I discuss the Machiavellian strategy of why we should never build up another person and apply it to relationship dynamics with men.xoxoxoNeekoloTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:22 What Machiavelli says7:33 Why being in love makes you stupid11:36 The sneaky way we're socialized19:46 Why you've been doing too much for menIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsMusic credit © Chœur des Marais, Villefranche sur Saône, FrEpisodes mentioned:Is falling in love a patriarchal trap? (listen on Spotify or Apple) Patriarchy Hack #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone (listen on Spotify or Apple) Patriarchy Hack #35: Never do anything with the expectation of gratitude (listen on Spotify or Apple)__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt
Jul 800:22:51Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.First things first, make sure to watch until the VERY END of the episode...you'll know what I mean.Second of all, the benefit of the doubt is a way we've normalized gaslighting ourselves. We dismiss our intuition, which patriarchy deems un-empirical and unreliable, and give people chances they don't deserve. Rinse and repeat until we get burned enough times that we finally stop. Timestamps:0:00 Intro1:23 We've glorified gaslighting ourselves9:58 We act like doormats 16:49 The bad habits holding you backIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsEpisodes mentioned:There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about (listen on Spotify or Apple) Everything you need to know about your menstrual cycle & how to sync it with your life (listen on Spotify or Apple)"Treat people how you want to be treated" is a scam (listen on Spotify or Apple)Girly law of power #21: Stop giving the benefit of the doubt (listen on Spotify or Apple)__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Patriarchy Hack #36: Avoid nostalgia like the plague
Jul 100:40:30Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Patriarchy fetishizes youth and disdains aging. On top of that, it also functions based on zero-sum thinking: that for you to succeed, someone else has to lose. Although these sound like a load of baloney, we're all mirroring these patriarchal mindsets. That, in turn, keeps us in a debilitating cycle of nostalgia. We romanticize the past and become mentally stuck in a location we physically left.In this episode, we’ll discuss:The patriarchal mindsets engrained in us4 things to unlearn so we stop romanticizing the pastHow Charli XCX didn't let brat nostalgia dictate her career7 effective behaviours of forward-looking peopleThe past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present. ✨ Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:05 How we mirror the patriarchy7:23 4 bad habits to unlearn18:48 Example- Charli XCX & brat25:38 Your 7 new habits36:39 Exceptions & final thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsEpisodes mentioned:Why the biological clock is a damaging patriarchal myth (listen on Spotify or Apple) 2016 collage in thumbnail created by Hannah Bell, Creative Director at The Concordian__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The 5 habits that trigger people to lose respect for you
Jun 2400:39:50Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.No self-improvement journey is complete without unlearning our internalized patriarchy. This doesn't only manifest itself as macro-level behaviours, like being a huge pick me. Some habits are so subtle, they're almost hidden within our subconscious...Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:32 1- Saying "sorry" instead of "thank you"10:19 2- Not ending your sentences17:39 3- Using qualifiers to soften your contribution23:29 4- Taking yourself too seriously 30:12 5- Being overly reactiveIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsEpisodes mentioned:Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win (listen on Spotify or Apple) The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being unbothered (listen on Spotify or Apple)Patriarchy Hack #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you (listen on Spotify or Apple)Patriarchy Hack #Hack 34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead (listen on Spotify or Apple)__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about
Jun 1700:41:48Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Read more about 20 ways to unlearn how the patriarchy groomed us. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.The patriarchy is a textbook example of the law of inversion: what we see isn't the truth, it's a defence mechanism. In fact, the entire system is an institutionalized defence mechanism of Venus/womb envy and it's governed by slave morality (hi, Nietzsche).Flip what it tells you and that's when you get the truth. In this episode, I'll discuss 5 examples of how the patriarchy hides the truth in plain sight. I encourage you to do the same with anything presented to you as "truth" or "nature."Make sure to watch until the end to see a little satirical skit of the patriarchy's first PR meetingBTW you can listen to my episode the biological clock as a patriarchal myth on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube <3Timestamps:0:00 Intro8:29 Lie 1- Women are naturally nurturing11:25 Lie 2- Men are dominant because they're stronger15:06 Lie 3- Women only have worth when they're of service19:49 Lie 4- Men are scarce26:56 Lie 5- The default is maleIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsSources:It’s Hard Work Being a Boy (and, It Turns Out, a Girl)Male vs. Female DevelopmentSex Begins in the Womb__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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5 sneaky examples of medical misogyny: which ones have you faced?
Jun 1000:34:05Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Women are not small men, yet for decades medical research has treated us as such. What's even worse is that women have been excluded from research because of our menstrual cycles.And what's even worser is that because of this bias, many girls and women get misdiagnosed, undiagnosed, and gaslit. In this episode I'll debunk some myths, share some useful information, and hopefully give you a starting point to do your own research.Disclaimer: I am not a medical, dental, or mental health professional and this video is not medical advice, dental, or mental health advice.Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:14 Gender bias in ADHD diagnoses7:31 Oral hygiene16:16 Needing 6-8 hrs of sleep19:39 Cold plunges/cold showers25:01 Intermittent fastingIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestampsSources:Comparing gingival inflammation and salivary acidity to hormonal variation during menstruationDaily sauna time might help prevent menopause-related weight gainEffects of cold environment exposure on female reproductive health and its regulatory mechanismsFemales with ADHD: An expert consensus statement taking a lifespan approach providing guidance for the identification and treatment of attention-deficit/ hyperactivity disorder in girls and womenHow Intermittent Fasting Affects Women: Metabolism, Perimenopause & Hormones | Dr. Stacy Sims Inattentive ADHD in Women Intermittent Fasting vs Time-Restricted Eating: What Actually Works for Women 40+?Oral HealthPeriod Power by Maisie Hill The Menstrual Cycle’s Influence on Sleep Duration and Cardiovascular Health: A Comprehensive ReviewWhy Women Require a Different Oral Cleaning Routine Than Men__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Patriarchy Hack #35: Never do anything with the expectation of gratitude
Jun 300:40:14Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want a better, expanded version of the first 20 Patriarchy Hacks in book format? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Doing anything with the expectation that we’ll be appreciated and recognized is a surefire path to disappointment. However, it’s something many women and people pleasers continue doing. In this episode, we’ll discuss:3 things about gratitude we need to learnA deep-rooted misconception that we need to unlearnA textbook example of why gratitude keeps us waiting for a reward that never comesThe mindset shift you need to finally stop begging for validationLet’s stop appealing to the past. The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present.✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:02 3 things to learn14:36 A misconception to unlearn19:01 A textbook example of this hack27:24 What this means for you 36:19 ExceptionsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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