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The Baddest Bitch in the Building
Hosted by Neeki Motabar · EN
Join Neeki, your favourite Machiavellian Barbie, every Wednesday to learn how to take advantage of the patriarchy's loopholes and to unlearn the patriarchal conditioning keeping us small, quiet, nice girls.
"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" 💋
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Girly law of power #34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead
1w ago00:37:18Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Most of us are so caught up in arguing, trying to get the last word, or shattering someone's ego that we fail to realize how GOOFY we look. Not to mention arguing and trying to be understood are forms of emotional labour. So cut it out.Besides, why would you want to shatter someone's ego when you can trigger it?In this episode, you'll understand that real power is making your opponent look goofy, often without saying a word.I'll discuss:- Two things we need to unlearn- Why there's no such thing as winning an argument- The real reason people want you to argue with them- A crazy example of how I implemented this law- The silent, Machiavellian strategy of winning✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:08 Unlearning the crap (#1)7:58 Unlearning the crap (#2)17:16 The law in the wild (and I mean WILD)23:19 What this means for you (#1)30:17 What this means for you (#2)34:59 Exceptions & final thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The dark side of "sprinkle sprinkle"
2w ago00:42:51Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Over the last few years, Shera Seven's content has taken social media by storm. Her "sprinkle sprinkle" philosophy preaches that women should be gold diggers and marry a man solely based on his ability to financially provide.Don't get me wrong, I love the woman and agree with most of what she says. However, there are some flaws in her advice that at best, get bastardized and misinterpreted, and at worst, lead to deeply engrained patriarchy.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:00 Spending money on someone is a cop out8:42 Reality isn't real, it's mediated13:34 The 9 to 5 trap19:36 The femininity trap26:31 The dark side of sprinkle sprinkle32:31 Do all men cheat?38:57 What should we do?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays#sprinklesprinkle #sheraseven #wizardliz #patriarchy #capitalism #itgirl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You don't fear failure, you fear your own success
3w ago00:29:52Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Most of us want best for ourselves. We want the dream job, salary, house. But that's all it is: a want.You can't want something and have it at the same time. So you stay in a perpetual state of want to prevent yourself from getting the things you desire. Then you breathe a sigh of relief, because nothing has to change.Unfortunately, stagnation feels more comfortable than success because your brain and nervous system want to keep you safe and comfy. On top of that, you've internalized a lot of crap about how women should behave and what we should aspire to be.In this episode I'll discuss exactly how to stop standing in the way of your own success so you can finally build the life you deserve. BTW here's the lifetraps quiz I mentioned.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:15 Your body’s been programmed for misogyny6:15 You’re a parasite to yourself11:13 Reinvent yourself in 3 steps20:51 A VERY important note23:59 Never fear success againIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Life in a patriarchy is a game...and it's time to win
Apr 1500:31:55Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Life is a game and it’s rigged. Some say we should opt out altogether. Others say we should play by the rules and hope for the best.There’s no shortage of terrible advice that will make us lose. We’re in the game whether we want to be or not, and it’s our responsibility to ourselves to win.Once you understand not just the code of the game, but the blueprint of the universe, hacking the game becomes a breeze.Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win.It's time to hack the patriarchy.Timestamps:0:00 Intro3:06 How we’re programmed to lose7:32 Is it even possible to win?10:47 Taking back control of reality20:52 How to hack the gameIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Your focus on healing is silently holding you back
Apr 800:25:16Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Healing is great. It's an act of self-love and self-care. However, healing won't prevent you from ending up in the same situation that hurt you.In fact, it's a way many women internalize the external abuse they've encountered, and think they're broken.People don't treat you better based on how healed you are, they treat you based on what you tolerate and what you believe you deserve. And as women, we've been groomed to tolerate a lot of crap. There's only one way to unlearn this grooming, and healing won't get you there.Timestamps:0:00 Intro2:15 Why you're superstitious, even if you don't think so8:06 The hidden agenda behind "healing"14:52 You're not broken, but this type of person is18:40 If healing isn't the answer, what is?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Girly law of power #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you
Apr 100:37:30Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Most women think we need chase people/things. That's because patriarchy has brainwashed us to think we need to prove ourselves in order to affirm our self-worth. In this episode, I'll get into why the complete opposite is true. In fact, making women think they're the chasers rather than the choosers goes against the matriarchal nature of human beings.When we sit back and let people prove themselves to us, we trigger a very basic psychological need for validation. I call this being an anus and shifting the onus. In this episode, I’ll discuss:Why proving yourself makes you look weak & disposableHow to stop looking desperateThree psychological strategies to trigger people's need to prove themselves to youHow to use this law in dating, work, business, and lifeHow to let go of the guilt and doubt holding you back from doing this✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, NeekiTimestamps:0:00 Intro3:48 Why proving yourself makes people respect you less16:00 The law in the wild19:39 Three ways to trigger people's psychological need to prove themselves35:42 Exceptions & final thoughtsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You're not mean enough
Mar 2500:33:06Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the book that upset a bunch of fragile men? Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Niceness is a way of grooming women for extraction. We're brainwashed into thinking it's more important to be liked than to be respected, and we can only be liked by doing things for others.Not only does this set you up for failure, it also makes people much less likely to respect you.Sure, everyone likes the nice girl because they can use her, but no one respects her. And chances are, you're not mean enough.In this episode, I’ll discuss:How to earn the respect you deserveWhat it means to be meanHow to take a page out of mens' book (after we unstick the pages)3 mindset shifts to break free from the nice girl conditioningAn example of a spicy personal incident & what the baddies can learn from itAlso what I learned from watching Jersey ShoreTimestamps:0:00 Intro2:13 The dangers of "nice girl" grooming8:04 Niceness vs kindness15:27 How to be mean & gain respect29:00 Three mindsets every self-respecting woman needsIf you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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How to use mansplainers to your advantage
Mar 1800:37:16Tap to summarize🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes.In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes. Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go.Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage.This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help investigators gather information without triggering defensiveness. The same principles apply in everyday conversations, at work, in dating, and in social settings.I’ll discuss:The elicitation technique used by intelligence agencies to gather informationThe three-step formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantageThe psychology behind mansplainingHow to lower someone’s guard so they reveal more than they intendedHow “nice girl” conditioning trains women to give away their powerWhy strategic communication is not manipulationTimestamps:0:00 Intro3:30 How to use elicitation on mansplainers9:10 Unlearning “nice girl” grooming19:07 Join the Patreon20:54 The psychological formula33:41 Is this manipulative?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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How to stop over explaining yourself: The hidden social rule you need to know
Mar 1100:35:40Tap to summarize📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.In this episode, I talk about why so many women feel the need to keep explaining themselves. Over explaining often comes from people pleasing, fear of judgment, and subtle social power dynamics. Once you see the pattern, you start noticing how explaining yourself too much affects confidence, boundaries, and the way people (don't) respect you.I'll break down the psychology behind over explaining, why women do it, and the mindset shift that helps you stop explaining yourself and start being taken seriously.This episode is complimentary to the one directly preceding it (Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone).PS I strongly recommend you listen to this with earphones to get the full experience. You'll see what I mean...because when I told y'all everything up until late 2025 was just a WARM UP!! This is the most intricately produced episode I've ever created. I'm so excited for you to listen.0:00 Intro3:32 Why women have a compulsion to over explain12:52 How over explaining creates an ENERGY VACUUM 17:02 6 ways to stop over explaining yourself 31:43 My final gift to you If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone
Mar 400:36:31Tap to summarize📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.We've made it to law #32! Not that it's a particularly important number...I'm just grateful to have all you baddies here <3Being understood is bloody exhausting. It's also a way we get emotional safety, because we've been brainwashed to believe that our truth is only valid if others understand and accept it. What a load of baloney.In this episode, we're throwing out this rotten baloney by discussing: How being understood is a fear-based responseWhy the patriarchy benefits from our compulsion to feel understood How this damages people's perception of us & makes them respect us less5 ways to unlearn this compulsionThe patriarchy loophole we can exploit when we stop trying to be understood✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.Love, Neeki__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG: @baddestbinthebldg💓 TikTok: @baddest.b.in.the.bldg💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to The Baddie Brief, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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