Reed Dent (8:28)
No, I'm actually really glad you brought that up. This is not in my notes, but I'm thinking that community is a crafted thing and it is kind of a learned skill. And this is an important lesson, I think, because I talk to a lot of college students who, especially post college, it's like, well, I tried a church and I was there for a week and I was like, this isn't going to work because of this or this or this, you know, or you can even be in a place for a while and then some offense happens or something goes wrong, and it's like, that's it. I'm done with. And not even just with church, but with people, too. Like, I'm done with this friend, done with this family member, you know. But the experience, the practice community is a practice in and of itself. And it is something that needs learning and growing and dedication. And of course there's going to be awkwardness and we're going to fumble our way through it and we're going to mess up and we're going to have to retry. Of course, of course, of course. But, yeah, no, glad you said that. So we begin with friendship because there's a line that I always paraphrase from John Paul ii, and I, for the life of me can never remember the exact quote, but at some point, actually, it's probably time for me to stop. Drop. I'm just going to drop the. This is a paraphrase of something, and I'm just going to say it, okay? The appropriate context for theological inquiry is love and mutual friendship. So what that means is that to discuss things of God, of faith, of discipleship, first of all, recognizing that these are not simple things. These are like deep, mysterious things, some of them, and serious things, the Appropriate setting in which to do that is with people that I am friends with, people who love me and that I love, as opposed to just talking heads arguing in each other about finer points of doctrine. Because we've done that. I think probably a lot of people at some point in their life have ended up in a conversation like that. And there's just no way to feel good about it. Whether you lose it, the argument, or win the argument, it doesn't really matter. Nobody's walking away from that actually benefiting or being refined in any way. And I think the reason why this is true, why the appropriate context for theological inquiry is love and mutual friendship, is because of something that. Apologies, not apologies. Frederick Buechner wrote that. He said, all doctrine begins as an experience. So what that means is that the writers of the Bible, for example, did not just sit down and like, muse about God, like write a treatise, a philosophical treatise, in an office with a typewriter or something. But the writers of Scripture are people who had experiences. And even creators of doctrines are people who had experiences with God. And then it starts there, and they try to find a way to convey the significance of that experience. And that becomes doctrine, that becomes theology, that becomes the Scripture itself. And so if it's true, and I think it is, that the things we believe actually are rooted in experiences that we've had, then if you're my friend, I can best understand what you believe and why you believe that and how you believe that. If I actually know something of your life and your experiences that have given rise to those beliefs, and we can share about that, then in a way that becomes much richer and much more fruitful. Then again, you are kind of a stranger to me, and we are just talking at each other about ideas about God. I mean, it's not that that's inherently bad. I don't want to say that. But that I think the best we can shoot for is that kind of investigation of God, that pursuit of God with people, where it's like, I have lived with you for 20 years now, and I know why you named your kid what you named your kid. And I know what it meant to you when you were a kid, won state track, or I know what it meant to you when your grandmother died or things like that. Because those are the kinds of experiences then that our doctrine puts down roots and grows up out of and becomes a real active living thing.