10: Full Show PT 3: Tuesday, February 10 [Vault]

Summary

The Bert Show – Episode Summary

Podcast: The Bert Show
Episode: 10: Full Show PT 3: Tuesday, February 10 [Vault]
Date: February 10, 2026

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Overview

This episode centers on two primary themes:

1. A listener’s marital drama involving deception and financial control.
2. An unsettling but frank discussion about the prevalence of young women and girls experiencing inappropriate advances from older men, particularly during babysitting jobs.

The show features hosts and listeners candidly sharing stories, reactions, and advice, maintaining the show’s signature blend of humor, authenticity, and empathetic debate.

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1. Marital Drama: Nicole and the "Stolen" WaveRunners

Timestamps: [01:35]–[17:27]

Key Points & Flow of Discussion

• Setup:

  • “Nicole” calls in (with voice disguised) to share a secret she’s been keeping from her husband: she has “stolen” his WaveRunners and is holding them for ransom after he was late on the first loan payment.
  • The hosts clarify the backstory: Nicole’s husband worked nine months to save half the money for two WaveRunners, financing the rest, as per an agreement between them.

• Nicole’s Perspective:

  • She expresses frustration that her husband “acted like a little boy” with the purchase and failed to consider her wishes for a cruise.
  • Explains her course of action—taking the WaveRunners and lying about bank repossession—was justified to “teach him a lesson” about responsibility.

• Hosts' and Listeners’ Challenge:

  • The hosts (Kelly, Jeff, Melissa, Stacey) question Nicole’s logic, pointing out her husband honored the agreement fully, and her subsequent actions constitute deception and manipulation.
  • Jeff: "He did everything that you guys agree to. Everything." [09:27]
  • Multiple listeners call in, universally condemning Nicole’s behavior as manipulative, unfair, and damaging to the relationship.

• Nicole’s Defense:

  • Insists her “subtext” was clear: her husband should prioritize adult, family-oriented spending, and “pick up on that.”
  • Nicole: “Yeah, but there’s a subtext there. He needs to pick up on that.” [09:31]

• Memorable Quotes & Moments:

  • Kelly: "You need to realize you're not his mother." [10:00]
  • Listener Felicity: "For her to even assume that listeners would even remotely agree with this woman is ludicrous." [11:42]
  • Nicole’s reluctant admission: "I thought. Yeah, I didn't think that he would." (When asked if she only agreed thinking her husband would never save the money) [13:21]

• Conclusion:

  • The cast cannot find a single listener in support of Nicole; the consensus is strong that her actions constitute betrayal.
  • Jeff, closing: "We could talk to you for the next hour, and nobody would say what you're doing is right." [15:59]

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2. Open Phones: Inappropriate Behavior Toward Girls and Babysitters

Timestamps: [18:35]–[32:27]

Context:

Prompted by a prior story about men being jailed after (unknowingly) having sex with underage girls misrepresenting their age, the conversation shifts to the topic of young girls, especially babysitters, being subjected to unwanted advances or outright abuse by older men/fathers.

Hosts’ Discussion:

• Stacey: Shares a personal story of being made uncomfortable by a father while babysitting, emphasizing the vulnerable position of young sitters.
• Jeff: Observes, "Plus you want the money too. So you're thinking, you know, if I just shut up about it, is it that bad?" [21:43]
• The cast agrees these experiences are both far too common and rarely shared openly.

Caller Stories (selected highlights):

• [23:24] Sarah: Tells of being hit on by a married man at the gym, then discovering he was the father of her babysitting clients.
• [24:27] Charlotte: As a young teen, stopped spending time at a friend's house because her friend's father was "touchy feely."
• [25:04] Kristen: Recounts a 40-something dad making inappropriate comments and touching her leg, prompting her to quit babysitting for the family.
• [25:58] Tori: Babysat for a family with unruly kids; the father would drive her home drunk and try to hit on her. At 15, she had to drive herself home to feel safer.
• [29:05] Stacy’s Caller: Her sister, at age 14, had a two-year affair with a church deacon; the church and family failed to respond appropriately.
• [31:02] Carol: Babysat for a family where the 50-year-old father drunkenly crawled into bed with her when she was 13; terrifying her into never babysitting again.

Panel Reactions:

• Kelly: Emphasizes that girls in these situations are victims and are often disbelieved or made to feel responsible.
  • "Most women, I would be shocked to find one woman in some scenario... hasn't had an adult male be inappropriate to her at some point." [27:15]
• Stacey: Notes the “testing” pattern—adults start with comments and escalate as they sense opportunity and lack of resistance, especially given girls’ inexperience and deference to adults.

Tone:

Candid, raw, deeply empathetic, and at times, heavy. The hosts balance seriousness with compassion and a sense of solidarity, especially in affirming that these experiences are not the fault of the young women involved.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Nicole’s Rationalization:

  • "There’s a subtext there. He needs to pick up on that." [09:34]

• Host Pushback:

  • Jeff: "That is not the agreement that the two of you made." [09:52]

• Listener Outcry:

  • Felicity: "For her to even assume that listeners would even remotely agree with this woman is ludicrous." [11:42]

• On Babysitting Dangers:

  • Kelly: "Most women, I would be shocked to find one woman... hasn't had an adult male be inappropriate to her at some point." [27:15]

• On Patriarchal Excuses:

  • Callers: Share shock, anger, and, in many cases, reports of inaction by families, churches, and communities—highlighting cultural failures to protect girls.

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Key Takeaways

• Nicole’s Story:

  • Resonated as a clear violation of trust and partnership; every caller and host found her behavior indefensible, serving as a cautionary tale about manipulation, respect, and communication in relationships.

• Babysitting Stories:

  • Sparked a groundswell of honest, often harrowing accounts of the dangers many young women face from predatory or inappropriate older men, and the persistent cultural issue of girls being disbelieved or blamed.

• Show’s Tone:

  • Real, humorous when appropriate, but unafraid to confront serious, sensitive topics head-on, allowing listeners and hosts a space to share, reflect, and be heard.

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Timestamps for Reference

• Marital Drama/Debate with Nicole: [01:35]–[17:27]
• Babysitting/Appropriate Behavior Discussion: [18:35]–[32:27]

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The Bert Show once again leverages listener calls, group dynamics, and unfiltered real talk to navigate both the humor and heaviness of daily life, relationships, and growing up.

Transcript

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[Melissa]

Cap Apply the Bird show all right, Jeff.

[Jeff]

Quote unquote Nicole is on hold and ready to go. Do you want her to tell her story or do you want to tell her story first?

[Melissa]

The short version is this. She is doing something to her husband. She is stealing. She has stolen something that her husband has worked very hard for and she's holding it for ransom. And he doesn't even know. He has no idea that she's the one who stole. She knows it's stolen. He knows it's stolen. But she is confused.

[Kelly]

You said he didn't know.

[Melissa]

No, he knows that it's stolen. He doesn't know that his wife, for better or for worse, the woman who took his hand like a year ago in marriage and said, I will support you and love you forever. She has stolen something that he has worked as ass off for the past year to get.

[Kelly]

And she thinks that all the Women are gonna agree with her, and she.

[Melissa]

Totally thinks she's justified.

[Jeff]

She has no conscience about this. Okay. Good morning. Is Nicole going on the voice disguiser or no?

[Melissa]

I think so.

[Jeff]

Hey, Nicole. Go ahead. You're on the voice disguiser.

[Nicole]

Hi, you guys.

[Kelly]

Hey. What'd you steal?

[Nicole]

You didn't set it up very nicely for me.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Nicole]

Well, first of all, he didn't work a whole year for it. He worked nine months.

[Jeff]

We got to back up even more than that, because nobody knows exactly what he's worked for.

[Nicole]

All right? So we got married last June. And after we counted up all our wedding money, my husband got it in his head that he wanted to buy wave runners, and he wanted to buy two wave runners with all the accessories and all of that. And I said, no, we're buying a house, and we need money for landscaping and, you know, contract work and all the stuff that goes into a house. And he wanted to spend $14,000 on these two WaveRunners. So I came up with the idea that if he worked his butt off and decided that he absolutely needed those waverunners, he could pay for half of the waiverunners and then take out a loan for the second half and be responsible for the loan. So that was our deal. So for nine months, he went and worked with friends on construction sites. He built decks. He did a lot of handyman work. And in nine months, he saved up the money, and he went ahead and put. Put down the $7,000 in cash and called our bank and got a loan for the other half, and he got the waverunners. Well, after he got the wave runners, I was kind of mad. I mean, he realized in those nine months how much money $7,000 is and how that could go towards our house. Also, I've been wanting to go on a cruise forever. And he didn't take that into consideration. And I. I got mad. And I think I'm completely entitled to be upset that he's, you know, acting like a little boy who wants his toys. And.

[Kelly]

Just let me make sure that we're clear on this. So when you had the initial conversation with him, the initial agreement, did you bring up the cruise? Did you bring up the house?

[Nicole]

No.

[Kelly]

Or did it. Was it just the wavering?

[Nicole]

Not in that conversation. But he. He knew.

[Kelly]

Wait, hold on a second.

[Nicole]

So I cut out, you know, magazine articles about where I wanted.

[Jeff]

No, no, no, no. That wasn't the question.

[Kelly]

That's not my question.

[Jeff]

Melissa asked.

[Kelly]

That's not my question. The agreement. I'm asking a question. And answer the question directly, please. If you had an agreement with him about the waverunners and he fulfilled his part of the agreement, you still think you're entitled to call him a little boy?

[Nicole]

Yes.

[Kelly]

Okay.

[Stacey]

I still don't know how she's standing.

[Nicole]

There, because a man is someone who takes care of their financial responsibilities. And, you know, after nine months of marriage, he could look around and realize, wow, there's a lot to be done around here. And my wife works very hard. Maybe she deserves a little playtime as well.

[Jeff]

Okay, let's get to the second part of the story, because we haven't even gotten to that.

[Kelly]

Okay, so there's more. I'm sorry.

[Melissa]

Oh, yeah, she hasn't stolen.

[Kelly]

Oh, I'm sorry. So there's more. I just wanted to be clear on that. Okay, let's move forward.

[Jeff]

So up until this point, you guys made an agreement. He went through on the agreement that the two of you made together. At this point, you still think that he's being childish, but let's move on to the second phase.

[Nicole]

Well, so I'm kind. I'm kind of upset that he actually went ahead and bought the waverunners with this money. And so I'm at home one day and I get a phone call from the credit union, and they say, said, we haven't received your first payment yet, and you're going to get a late charge of $35. Maybe you haven't received the coupon booklet, or, you know, we're not sure, but if you send it in now, you'll only be charged $35. Well, I was fuming. It validated everything that I thought about the whole negotiation. And I. I called my friend and I said, can you believe this? Not only are we getting. Not only are we. Do we owe the bank $7,000, but we also owe them $35 late fee. You know, am I the only one who knows how to balance a checkbook? It was infuriating. So she has a car, a big suv, and so she came over and we hooked up the waverunners, and she took them where? They're behind her garage. So. And I told my husband. My husband obviously was wondering where they are. And I told him that the bank reclaimed them, repossessed them, and if he can go ahead and make the payment, half of the payment, that they would.

[Melissa]

Return them half the payment, half of the balance.

[Kelly]

So the 30 had to pay $3,500.

[Nicole]

Of the loan they're demanding. He'll get his Wave runners back.

[Melissa]

So in summary, he busts his ass, saves seven grand, takes out a banknote, and is financing the other seven grand. His first payment is three days late. That was the courtesy call. And the call, if I'm not mistaken, was, hey, in case you haven't received your payment book yet, your first payment is now due.

[Jeff]

So it hasn't. It wasn't officially late.

[Melissa]

Right. It was like a courtesy call saying, you know, sometimes the payment books take time to generate or whatever. Boom, you gotta pay. Make your payment now. And so she uses this excuse to trick her husband into thinking that the water toys have been repossessed by the bank and cannot be reclaimed until he comes up with 3,500 more dollars, which.

[Stacey]

You know he can't do.

[Nicole]

Well, then he shouldn't have gotten himself in this mess.

[Kelly]

Did you pay that first payment? Since the bank really didn't repossess those WaveRunners, yes, I did.

[Jeff]

So I don't understand. I have zero idea how you can defend this.

[Nicole]

You know, I grew up. I started working when I was about 14 years old. I have pulled my husband's credit out of the toilet. I have been nothing but responsible. He needs to learn how to handle his finances better. He's not five years old. You can't just stomp your feet and get any toy you want.

[Jeff]

He did everything that you guys agree to. Everything.

[Nicole]

Yeah, but there's a subtext there. He needs to pick up on that.

[Jeff]

What's the subtext? There was no subtext in your agreement with him.

[Nicole]

The subtext is, hey, we're in our 30s. We're adults. Get your shit. Get your crap together. And you need to spend your money on family stuff. We are family.

[Jeff]

That is not the agreement that the two of you made.

[Stacey]

Well.

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[Nicole]

You know what? He needs to read between the lines.

[Jeff]

No, come on.

[Melissa]

You need.

[Kelly]

You need to. You need to realize you're not his mother. And you. You were the one.

[Nicole]

Are you a psychologist?

[Kelly]

Excuse me? I'm somebody that you called for advice from, I think, or to call for justification from or support from. But I am a woman, and I'm telling you that I don't agree with you.

[Nicole]

To show your listeners.

[Kelly]

No, I'm. I. Your story is that you went back on the deal that you agreed to, and you're acting like his mother, and you haven't even been married for a year or just a year. This is ridiculous.

[Nicole]

It's really not ridiculous. It is ridiculous, is that if you take out a loan for $7,000, even if you don't get a coupon in the mail.

[Jeff]

Set up an automatic payment that has zero to do. Zero to do with the agreement that you made with your husband.

[Stacey]

And that's also not why you're mad, right? Well, you're not mad because he was.

[Nicole]

Three days and I really. I don't know why you're taking his side on this. Because it's because he fulfilled his end of the bargain.

[Kelly]

Excuse me, you can't see anything into the bargain. You did not.

[Jeff]

You can't see anything that could be controversial with what you're doing. This is very black and white to you.

[Nicole]

Yeah.

[Jeff]

Wow. Hold on, let me take call.

[Nicole]

It's about knowing your responsibilities. And you know, I. As I said, I pulled him out of a horrible credit situation.

[Jeff]

Doesn't matter.

[Nicole]

It wasn't. If it wasn't for me, he would probably have to declare bankruptcy.

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[Jeff]

Not the agreement you made.

[Melissa]

But she saved him, Bert.

[Kelly]

So she gets to tell him what to do and act like his mom the rest of the marriage.

[Nicole]

Excuse me?

[Melissa]

Nothing.

[Jeff]

Felicity, you're on Q100.

[Caller]

I am so furious. But not furious with him. For her to even assume that listeners would even remotely agree with this woman is ludicrous. I mean, this is definitely going to be a one sided relationship. And she definitely, definitely went back on the agreement. And like Jeff said, I mean, it was only late. Just a little bit late. Absolutely ludicrous. The woman's crazy.

[Melissa]

And it was the first payment.

[Caller]

Exactly.

[Melissa]

And I guarantee you if you called your bank or your credit union or whoever it was back and said we didn't get the payment book on time, blah, blah, blah, blah, they would cancel out that first charge. Especially, you know, they might say, well, I'll tell you what, we'll delete it after you've made your first three on time or something like that.

[Jeff]

Nicole, what I can't understand here is how your sense of what's right and wrong is so warped that you would actually think that people would rally behind you on this.

[Nicole]

Well, obviously you are not in this relationship. You don't know the history behind our finances. You don't know how irresponsible he can be.

[Kelly]

Then you shouldn't have made the agreement.

[Jeff]

Right?

[Kelly]

Then you should not have made the agreement. You're.

[Caller]

Here's something.

[Nicole]

Well, I'm sorry, when. When a grown man is begging like a 10 year old, jumping up and down wanting his waverunners, what do you want to do? You want me to be like, you know, he deserves some joy in life.

[Jeff]

Nicole should have married someone.

[Nicole]

And then you have to realize your responsibilities.

[Stacey]

Nicole, let me ask you this. When you first talked about the Waverunners and you guys sort of set up the deal about how he was going to do it, did you only agree because you didn't think he'd get the money?

[Nicole]

I thought. Yeah, I didn't think that he would.

[Stacey]

So then he proved. Then he proved you wrong.

[Kelly]

Yeah.

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So then he proved much money.

[Nicole]

And you know what? After he saved that much money, I'm like, well, gee, nice of you to try a little harder for something you want.

[Stacey]

You're wrong. So that's the only reason she agreed in the first place.

[Jeff]

Hey, river, go ahead. You're on Q100.

[Caller]

Hey, guys, how are you doing? That woman is absolutely a serious manipulator.

[Jeff]

You think?

[Caller]

Absolutely. She. How could you do that? You're lying to him and you stole from him. And that. That's so much better than him being a child and not responsible. And that was responsible, what you did. Absolutely not. And if any woman agrees with you, they're just as crazy as you are.

[Jeff]

Can't find anybody to agree with her. That's the good news.

[Melissa]

What's going to happen, Nicole, if he goes into work, you know, or talks to his buddies or even probably a better move, talk to, like, a buddy's wife. And they say, you know what you should do? I mean, you're not more than a month past due. You should go in and talk to the person who did your loan and go, hey, I'm really sorry about this. Here's a check for two payments or something like that. What are you going to do if he walks in and tries to negotiate that?

[Nicole]

Because he doesn't have that insight. He would never do that.

[Melissa]

But he could find somebody else might, like, you're taking advantage of him, but somebody else might be smart enough. I mean, he got the.

[Nicole]

He doesn't really discuss his finances with anybody but me.

[Jeff]

You don't even know what he's capable of. You didn't think he'd be coming up.

[Kelly]

With, you know what, and he got.

[Melissa]

The loan on his own. Yeah, he missed the first payment all by himself.

[Kelly]

The sad thing is, because you helped him with his finances in the past, you have no respect for him anymore. You have no respect for him, and you. And I don't think you'll ever get it back.

[Jeff]

See?

[Kelly]

Exactly. You have no respect for your husband, and this is sad.

[Jeff]

Good morning, Kelly. You're on Q100. Hi.

[Caller]

I want to totally agree with the last two callers. I mean, she is a Manipulator, and she's being very selfish. I went through a very similar situation with my fiance. He wanted a $7,000 guitar. We're both in our 30s. His credit's in the trash. I own the house. But yet we made the deal. You pay for half, you finance the other half, and it's yours. We have a hole in our roof, but yet our agreement was to pay for half, and he's done that.

[Stacey]

And that doesn't make you mad when you think about the hole in your roof?

[Caller]

It does. But, you know, that wasn't part of our agreement. And the house is mine in all technical terms, so shouldn't that be my responsibility?

[Jeff]

In agreement with her.

[Melissa]

She's comforted by the sounds of Stairway to Heaven.

[Jeff]

We're gonna go. Nicole, I can't find anybody to support you in this. And I can't believe, like I said before, that you've got this warped sense of justice, that somehow, some way, you thought people would actually rally behind you. We could talk to you for the next hour, and nobody would say what you're doing is right.

[Melissa]

Is there anything that could happen? Because the lifespan of a waverunner in Georgia is not like how long you're gonna own it for, but the season to use it is.

[Jeff]

Well, we may be at. The good news is we may be out of water, and he'll never have a wave to actually use it on.

[Melissa]

It's like three or four months, right? And it took him nine months to get seven grand, so it's fair to assume it'll take him at least four to get half of that. Right? You follow my math. Which is right about the time summer's.

[Kelly]

Wrapping up, are you gonna get. I mean, what is the plan for these waverunners?

[Melissa]

And then all of a sudden, stay there until he.

[Nicole]

He figures it out.

[Melissa]

You realize what out you're talking about? Finances. Just you. You realize that at the end of this season, those $14,000 wave runners are probably gonna be worth, like, 11 grand, you know, because the value, it'll be a model year older and everything. So your cost. You're taking money out of your own family's pocket.

[Kelly]

I feel bad for him. I really feel bad for him.

[Jeff]

Yeah, this is. I can understand how, as a single guy, you're listening to the show going, I'm never getting married. Never, never, never, never, never, never, never getting married. See you later, Nicole.

[Nicole]

Bye.

[Jeff]

Wow, the fruit show.

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[Jeff]

We got into this story I was telling my wife, but these two dudes that went to jail because they had sex with a girl that was 13 years old. They didn't know it. Her MySpace page said that she was a 19 year old divorcee. Then they found out later after they had sex with her that she was 13 years old. One of the guys goes to her dad and goes, oh my God, dude, I gotta tell you something, I had sex with your daughter. And I think he was 22. And the dad said, I don't care, I don't care, you're going to jail.

[Melissa]

She prints out the MySpace page showing that she's portraying herself as 19 and explains, I met her here. She never corrected this, told me she was 19, picked her up on the street, went back to my place, had a date, but a bing, bada boom, 13.

[Jeff]

So dad says, do the right thing. Dad says, I don't care, I'm calling the cops. And he does. And to make a long story short, he ends up in jail. Guy ends up in jail for.

[Stacey]

And it happened twice.

[Jeff]

Yeah, he the first guy ends up in jail for a year with five years probation. And I don't know about the second guy, but he went to jail also. And the 13 year old's MySpace page is still up online. And last when they talked to her father, he's like, yeah, she's still out all sorts of hours of the night. So he wasn't doing a damn thing about it. So we got into this yesterday and I asked the provocative question knowing they were going to be shocking answers is like, how young were you when you had sex with an older guy when you misrepresented your age. Like he thought you were 22, but you were really like 15 or 16. And the most shocking call that came in yesterday, I think was from a woman that said that her boyfriend had been cheating on her for a year. And the guy just broke up with his girl that he was having sex with two weeks ago and found out when they first started having sex she was 12 years old. 12 years old.

[Stacey]

And then another call that we heard from was a woman who had had a three year long affair with the man of the head of the family that we babysat, that she babysat for.

[Jeff]

And that's the focus today because Jen said she doesn't think that's gonna be that strange a call because she thinks a lot of young girls get hit on by the fathers of the children that they're babysitting for.

[Stacey]

Yeah. If that's you, Colin, tell us your story. Because it definitely happened to me when I was younger. You know, because you're, you're young and you're with their family or whatever, so you're in their house all the time. So they are in a comfortable space where they feel in charge and very comfortable. And also when you're babysitting, it's usually when the parents are going out partying. So it usually wouldn't happen or they wouldn't be inappropriate before going out, but then after coming home after having some drinks or whatever, then there was a couple of different times that that happened. But the only time it got really weird was one time when I was being driven home and I never went back and worked for that family ever again. But he just got inappropriate or saying inappropriate things or asking inappropriate questions or whatever. And I was probably 14 or 15, something like that.

[Jeff]

How long did you say this went on for?

[Stacey]

Oh, no, just one time where I was certain it was inappropriate and I never went back and worked for that family again. But I would imagine because you're young and you don't really know what's going on, you also have a respect to this person because they're, you know, you're essentially employer when you're that young and a babysitter.

[Jeff]

Plus you want the money too. So you're thinking, you know, if I just shut up about it, is it that bad?

[Stacey]

Right.

[Jeff]

You know, at 16 years old, when you get 20 bucks, that's a lot of money.

[Stacey]

Sure.

[Kelly]

And then who's gonna believe you? Like if you went to the wife, do you, you know, is she gonna believe what you Say, and it's just an awkward position. It's an unfair position to put the babies that are in.

[Jeff]

So I'm curious if we can find women that, at the time, you're young girls where. Or maybe there's a young girl listening right now. He's like, yeah, every time I go over to babysit.

[Stacey]

Mm.

[Jeff]

Dude gets hammered. And when he comes home and the wife goes upstairs to check on the kids, there he is. He's got his hands all over me.

[Stacey]

Mm. I would imagine it happens very often.

[Jeff]

Really? And you said that yesterday. I was really surprised by that.

[Stacey]

Did you tell Stacey that part of it or were you guys just talking about the other stuff?

[Jeff]

We talked about the other stuff. We never got into that.

[Stacey]

Cause I wondered if. Cause she was probably a babysitter growing up, right?

[Jeff]

She was, yeah.

[Stacey]

I wonder if that ever happened to her too, or she was ever in a place. Because I was only in a place where I was uncomfortable. But it never went, you know, any further than that. I was more uncomfortable the times that, you know, the parents had to drive me home. And they were obviously, you know, had been drinking a lot more of those instances than there were this. But I would imagine it happens all the time. And that caller yesterday, a three year affair for. With the dad of the family she babysat for.

[Jeff]

And the most shocking part of that is when she revealed her real age to him. He didn't care.

[Kelly]

He said, oh, that's right.

[Jeff]

Remember, Wasn't she like 15?

[Melissa]

And they kept it going, right?

[Jeff]

They kept it going for three years. He was 41 by the time the affair was over. And the wife never found out about it. But this doesn't have to be about sex. This is about just. It's about the husbands. Wives have zero idea. And you're the babysitter and they're coming on to you all the time. Sarah, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[Caller]

Hey. Actually, when I was a freshman at Emory University a few years ago, I was going to the gym a lot, and this guy, he was clearly older than me. I think he's about 45, 43 maybe. He's a lawyer for Emory.

[Nicole]

And he hit on me at the.

[Caller]

Gym and I kind of rejected him.

[Nicole]

I was like, no, thanks.

[Caller]

And then my friend referred me to this family for babysitting. She was like, yeah, the dad's a lawyer at Emory, the mom's a doctor at Emory. They're super rich. Babysit for them. I go to the house when the parents get home, the father is the married guy. Is the guy that hit on me at the gym.

[Melissa]

Oh, really?

[Nicole]

Yeah. Awkward.

[Jeff]

See, the most. There's so many offensive parts of that story. But did he ever come home after being out with the wife and start hitting on you without the wife around?

[Caller]

No. He was actually very uncomfortable about it. But then when we go back to the gym and I'd see him at the gym again, he'd be very flirty, but at home, he was very uncomfortable, clearly, because he was, you know, he'd asked me out. And he's married.

[Jeff]

Right?

[Nicole]

Yeah.

[Caller]

Classy, huh?

[Jeff]

Thanks for calling. Charlotte. Good Morning. You're on Q100.

[Nicole]

Hey.

[Jeff]

Hey.

[Caller]

I never really wasn't babysitting, but I had a friend that when I was probably 12, 13 years old, go over and spend the night. Her dad would always try to hit on me and say things. I eventually just wouldn't go over anymore.

[Melissa]

What type of things would he say?

[Caller]

He never really said anything. It was just more or less trying to be touchy feely. I was probably 12 or 13. Have a daughter that age now. That's why I don't let her go over to too many people's houses.

[Stacey]

Mm.

[Jeff]

Kristen, good Morning. You're on Q100.

[Nicole]

Hey.

[Caller]

My name is Kristen. I was like 15 years old, and I was doing this babysitting job. I couldn't drive yet, so he would. He would always take me home afterwards. And one night he was taking me home and he had just. He was talking about all his weird stuff. He was like, in his 40s, maybe 43 or so. And the guy would talk about, like, smoking weed and how I should come and smoke weed with him sometimes. And then, like, occasionally he'd say something that was, like, really off the wall. And he put his hand on my leg. And then, like, needless to say, I never went back after that. But then they called me, and then they got pissed off at me because I wouldn't babysit for them anymore.

[Jeff]

Right.

[Stacey]

And then you can't tell them why.

[Jeff]

The mom has no idea. Right?

[Caller]

Exactly. And then, needless to say, the kids were awful. I mean, they didn't even discipline their kids. I mean, the whole situation was just ridiculous.

[Jeff]

And you're not the only one. Here they come.

[Stacey]

Yeah.

[Jeff]

Good morning, Tori. You're on Q100.

[Caller]

Hey.

[Jeff]

Hey.

[Caller]

Actually, this has happened to me a few times. I used to babysit for this crazy family. Literally, like, their kids were like, the son put their cat in the microwave.

[Kelly]

Oh, God.

[Caller]

And started it, and it was crazy.

[Kelly]

Wow.

[Caller]

But the dad has actually come home. He Came home once or twice and has actually hit on me before. And he would be driving me home and he'd be drunk as mess and I would drive home. I would drive his car home.

[Jeff]

You were how old when you were driving his car home?

[Caller]

15.

[Melissa]

15.

[Caller]

It was legal. And I would drive his car home because I wouldn't feel comfortable him drive me home. I'd get home and he'd leave and he would hit on me. He'd be like, so when you come over the next time, stuff like that. And I'm just like, hello.

[Jeff]

Yeah, I think you nailed this one. It's like when they come home, they're all buzzed.

[Stacey]

Mm.

[Kelly]

And the sad thing is like, you know, we did have that caller that it wasn't a babysitting thing. It was just going over, spend the night with friends. But I would, I think most women, I would be shocked to find one woman in some scenario, babysitting, spending the night, doesn't matter what it is. Has had some adult male be inappropriate to her at some point.

[Jeff]

She's 13 years old and 16 years old.

[Melissa]

And that's jacked up because that 13 year old daughter of that woman now can't have sleepaways with her friends. Because mom's experience is that daddy's gonna be touchy, touchy guy. Then.

[Jeff]

You got something.

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[Jeff]

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[Kelly]

Yeah.

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[Kelly]

I just shook my head. No problem. When I was 16, I used to work at like a pub bar, like an Irish pub kind of thing, restaurant. We get guys that would just be.

[Jeff]

Completely drunk at the bar and hit.

[Kelly]

On me non stop. Of course I'm 16. I'm like, okay, like, no idea. Just kind of like.

[Stacey]

And how old were these guys?

[Kelly]

Oh, like at least in their 50s. It was like older. It was older gentlemen. They used to come in there. Of course, it's like the weekend they'd be completely plastered.

[Stacey]

There was a music teacher at my school growing up that was always inappropriate with the girls.

[Jeff]

Like, there's always one creepy, like. Yeah, like swinging looking teacher.

[Stacey]

Yeah, definitely. He was really creepy. And he was let go from our school and then several years later was like arrested for inappropriate behavior at another school. Oh, so creepy.

[Kelly]

The two at our school, there was the women's basketball coaches were both the junior high and the high school and they were guys. And they both were brought up on charges years later.

[Jeff]

Rebecca, you're on Q100.

[Nicole]

Hey.

[Caller]

When I was 19, I went to University of Tennessee. Govall.

[Kelly]

Govals.

[Caller]

Yeah. And I used to babysit for this family. The dad was probably about 50 and, you know, young and cute, had on some short shorts. And I was in my car in their driveway and I leaned over to the passenger seat, you know, and I felt this presence. And I looked up and the dad was standing over me and he went, m tasty.

[Stacey]

Oh.

[Melissa]

Did that line work?

[Jeff]

Oh, Stacy, you're on Q100. Good morning.

[Caller]

Yeah, my sister, it actually wasn't me, but my sister, she was about 14. And our church at the time there was an older man and he was about 40, 45. And he had a son the same age as my sister, and he had an affair with my sister for about two years.

[Jeff]

He had a position at the church.

[Caller]

Yeah, he was like a deacon.

[Melissa]

So deacon means okay.

[Nicole]

Yeah.

[Caller]

For the rest of her life. She was how old she is now? She is 20, but she was 14 at the time.

[Jeff]

Good God. What do you say to a 14 year old? And, you know, I've never been around this kind of thing, so, like, there's some part of me right now going, I don't know, like, maybe it's misinterpreted.

[Kelly]

A 14 year old doesn't. I mean, the thing is that he.

[Caller]

Would tell her that he loved her and that he was gonna leave his wife and all this Stu. And then after everything went down, they didn't say anything to the man, the preacher didn't say anything to the man about it. And the wife didn't believe anybody. But there was one time where we came out of high school one day and there were like flowers on the car from him and stuff like that, and it was bad.

[Jeff]

That's hard to misinterpret.

[Kelly]

There's so many stories that women have about this, and I think that it's never the girl's fault. Like, it's. I mean, if you, especially if you feel, as a time you feel awkward, you don't feel attractive, you probably are arguing with your mom or your parents. And then if somebody comes into your life and talks about how much they care about you and how much they think you. You know, for some girls, they just, you know, it's not that they 100%, like, follow along and, okay, I'll do this. It's just this awkward. Okay, well. Okay, well, I don't know. Okay, this is weird, but they, I.

[Jeff]

Mean, just easy prey.

[Kelly]

Absolutely.

[Jeff]

Go ahead, Carol, you're on Q100.

[Caller]

Oh, I'm sorry. I'm at the gas station.

[Kelly]

I'm guessing you're going to be there.

[Jeff]

A while, so we Got plenty of time.

[Caller]

How'd you call it?

[Stacey]

I was there.

[Caller]

How'd you call it? One night, this lady was a flight attendant, and I had it to babysit for this couple. And the husband was 50 years old, and I had to stay over. And the husband came home one night, and in the room I was sleeping in, he came in the bed, and he was sleeping there, and he was drunk. I had to roll off the bed easy and go downstairs and make sure that he wasn't following me back downstairs.

[Jeff]

And you were how old? And he was how old?

[Caller]

I was 13.

[Jeff]

Damn. And he was how old?

[Caller]

50.

[Melissa]

50.

[Jeff]

Just climbs in bed with you?

[Stacey]

Crawled in bed with her.

[Caller]

He climbs in bed with me with his stinky boxers on, and he's drunk. And he. I don't even even know if he even did it. And I crawled off the bed, went downstairs on the sofa, shaking, and I supped all night with my eyes open on the sofa.

[Jeff]

No doubt.

[Caller]

It was the most I never babysit again ever.

[Stacey]

Yeah, it's funny, too, like, what Melissa was saying, like the. Like the progression of the weirdness. Because I think that they test you out by saying comments or compliments or whatever, and then it goes further and further depending on what your reaction to it is, you know, and at 14 or 13 or whatever, your reaction to it isn't what it is. When you're a grown woman and you can say, back off.

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