Co-host (Jessica) (2:33)

You can call that her. And I fight about it all the time.

Host (The Bird Show) (2:36)

Do you really? I've never heard this as a source of tension in a relationship before.

Co-host (Jessica) (2:41)

Because I donate generously. Not generously. Well, yeah, I guess so. I donate generally speaking to. This is gonna open a floodgate. Don't email me. Bring it up. Until today, I donated pretty much to anyone who would ask.

Host (The Bird Show) (2:59)

Oh, yeah.

Co-host (Jessica) (3:00)

But whereas Jessica thinks we should donate more to select causes that we feel jointly passionate about, so she will discourage the frequent, smaller donations and encourage larger, more relevant donations. That make sense.

Co-host (Male) (3:21)

It does if it's something you feel passionate about.

Co-host (Jessica) (3:23)

And I'm not only talking about money. I'm also talking about time. So sometimes I'll offer through the radio or whatever to be a part of a fundraiser or a charity or something like that, because the person involved is a friend of mine, or their letter was well written, or I was in a generous mood that day or something like that. And she will say, don't do that, because it dilutes when you do something that you really do care about. Does that make sense?

Host (The Bird Show) (3:52)

Yeah. At least you guys are on the same page that some monies should be going out. I think the way that Andy was making a sound this weekend is that there are some families that, like, one guy wants to give all the cash away, and the other one is like, no, zero, no. Can't do it.

Caller or Guest (4:04)

But I think it depends on if you are financially strapped as a couple. Because I think there's some people that even if they know that they're financially strapped, they still don't think it's. It's good for them to keep the money, you know, and take care of themselves first and give it away. So when you say that, I envision a couple who are trying to make all their payments, and then if somebody's going to whatever and decided, oh, you know, this is good for us, and it'll improve our, you know, our karma, then we need to do all this. And the other person says, well, actually, we need to pay the car payment before we need to donate to this charity.

Co-host (Jessica) (4:34)

If I was broke, I'd still donate. I'm buying karma, people. I do a lot of damage in actions that I'm going to try to buy my way into heaven. You Girl Scout cookies. Give me ten bucks. Boxes. What else you got?

Host (The Bird Show) (4:45)

Hey, Sally. Go ahead. You're on the voice disguiser.

Caller (Sally) (4:47)

Hi.

Host (The Bird Show) (4:48)

Hi.

Caller (Sally) (4:49)

I'm one of those.

Caller or Guest (4:51)

Which one?

Caller (Sally) (4:53)

I donate too much.

Caller or Guest (4:55)

Okay.

Caller (Sally) (4:56)

I, by the way, love Andy Sandley, and heard that today, and I thought he was talking to me, so my face turned bright red.

Host (The Bird Show) (5:04)

Yeah, it was a great sermon, but I had never heard that as a source attention before, where one person has given away too much.

Caller (Sally) (5:09)

Well, I've been doing it my whole life. It's. It could be, I guess, an illness. You know, you spend too much, you donate too much.

Co-host (Male) (5:17)

An illness.

Caller (Sally) (5:18)

I don't know. I don't know. In college, I had a girlfriend who wanted to be an attorney, and I gave her my tuition and didn't go that semester, so she could go because she didn't have the money. So it started when I was young.

Caller or Guest (5:32)

Wow.

Host (The Bird Show) (5:33)

That is really amazing. That is amazing.

Caller (Sally) (5:36)

Yeah, I just like doing things for others, and, you know, I volunteer and just do a lot and when I need to be doing some stuff at home, too.

Host (The Bird Show) (5:46)

When is the last time you and your husband got in an argument about this very thing?

Caller (Sally) (5:51)

I've gotten much better. So it's probably about a year ago when I was volunteering at my church. I was putting on a big dinner for a fundraiser, and I didn't charge anybody for it. I paid it out of pocket, and there were about 300 people there.

Co-host (Male) (6:07)

Whoa. That's an expensive tab.

Host (The Bird Show) (6:09)

That's a big pocket. That's a really big pocket.

Caller (Sally) (6:11)

Yeah.

Co-host (Male) (6:13)

Do you all have that. Do you all have that kind of money to spend? I mean, are you pretty well off?

Caller (Jennifer) (6:18)

Yeah.

Caller (Sally) (6:19)

Yeah, we are, but, you know, we have seven children, so.

Host (The Bird Show) (6:22)

Well, good.

Caller (Sally) (6:23)

Wow.

Host (The Bird Show) (6:25)

So what if one of them doesn't eat? What's the big deal? You still got six healthy ones. Now, I think it's interesting that all the calls that are coming in are all from women who say they give too much, they give too much, and it's the guys in the relationship that are on them for giving out too much.

Co-host (Male) (6:38)

I have a problem with it. It came up before in my life. When you pull out all of the paperwork for taxes and you add it up from the last year and, you know, hand it over to the accountant, then that's when it's come up before for me.

Host (The Bird Show) (6:54)

And you were the one that donated too much.

Co-host (Male) (6:56)

Mm. And it was a.

Caller or Guest (6:57)

They count said you donated too much.

Co-host (Male) (6:59)

No, the accountant didn't.

Intuit QuickBooks Announcer (7:00)

Oh.

Caller or Guest (7:00)

Because Most accountants. Yeah, the most accountants will tell you to keep. To keep donating.

Host (The Bird Show) (7:07)

So I wonder if this is purely a gender thing, because there's not one guy on the phone saying, I'm the one that gives too much. And my wife is all over me. It's all women saying that their guys are on them.

Co-host (Jessica) (7:16)

Thanks.

Host (The Bird Show) (7:16)

Hey, Brenda, good morning. You're on Q100.

Co-host (Jessica) (7:19)

Thanks for pointing that out.

Caller (Jennifer) (7:20)

Appreciate that.

Co-host (Jessica) (7:20)

Can I say that one more time because we might not have heard you the first three.

Caller (Sally) (7:24)

That'd be cool.

Caller (Jennifer) (7:24)

Let me tell you, I actually think it's quite funny and ironic this morning. My husband and I just had a huge argument yesterday about going to church because he feels it's all about money. And, you know, I'm like, well, you don't have to go and give money, but. And he says, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's all a scam. It's all a scam. And, you know, The Bible says 10%. And he's like, why do I have to give 10%?

Host (The Bird Show) (7:50)

So he says, 10% is way too much.

Caller (Jennifer) (7:52)

Yeah. He's like, I'll give what I can, when I can. And I'm like, okay, that's understandable. But, you know, you go to church and you hear the preacher and he talks and they ask for what they can, but he just is very adamant on not giving to the church.

Host (The Bird Show) (8:11)

She's not the only one. Good morning, Jennifer. You're on Q100.

Caller (Jennifer) (8:15)

First of all, can I say I love you guys always?

Co-host (Jessica) (8:17)

Yeah. Say it a lot. You want to say it again?

Caller (Jennifer) (8:21)

I love you guys.

Co-host (Jessica) (8:22)

That's cool.

Host (The Bird Show) (8:22)

Thank you.

Caller (Jennifer) (8:24)

No, I was calling because unlike a

Caller (Sally) (8:26)

lot of the other callers you were

Caller (Jennifer) (8:27)

saying you had on, I actually had a friend in college.

Caller (Sally) (8:29)

We'll call her Vicki.

Caller (Jennifer) (8:31)

And her dad gave his entire salary

Caller (Sally) (8:34)

every month back to the church where

Caller (Jennifer) (8:36)

he was a preacher, and his wife

Caller (Sally) (8:37)

hated it because they couldn't pay their bills.

Co-host (Male) (8:39)

Wow. Entire salary.

Host (The Bird Show) (8:42)

The entire salary. 100% goes back to the church.

Caller (Jennifer) (8:46)

Yeah, he gave 100%. She told me about it. I guess she had a problem with it too, because then she needed money,

Caller (Sally) (8:51)

of course, to pay for books and

Caller (Jennifer) (8:52)

stuff in college, and she had to beg her grandparents for money because her dad was giving it all back to the church.

Co-host (Male) (8:58)

Wow.

Co-host (Jessica) (8:59)

It's something I call crazy talk too much.

Host (The Bird Show) (9:03)

Rebecca, go ahead. You're on Q100.

Caller (Rebecca) (9:05)

Hi, good morning. Yeah, I was just gonna tell you a little story about basically my ex husband. Some months he does not pay his child support on time, or there's been a couple times where he hasn't paid at all because he tells me he has to first pay his tithe to the church, which is a 10%. And he just doesn't have money that month or he's gonn late that month for that reason.

Host (The Bird Show) (9:24)

And how do you even argue with that? I mean, you can't even feel good about saying, well, can you give a little bit less to the church and a little more to your kids? Because you sort of feel, yeah, I would. You would? I would feel bad about that.

Co-host (Jessica) (9:33)

Son of youf before Son of God. Thank you very much. Write the check.

Co-host (Male) (9:37)

Feed your kids.

Host (The Bird Show) (9:38)

Yeah. Is he. Do you think he's being honest about that, or you think he's just using the church as his excuse?

Caller (Rebecca) (9:43)

No, actually I do, because the church got him out of, you know, a lot of problems he had and addictions and stuff. So he feels even more so that he owes, you know, owes that to the church. But in the same sense, his son needs food on the table. And I think it's ridiculous.

Caller or Guest (9:55)

I think a man that, you know, takes care of his responsibilities probably is,

Host (The Bird Show) (9:59)

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