The Bert Show – “Vault: Should She Call It Quits Over Drama With His Ex?”
Date: December 30, 2025 | Host: Pionaire Podcasting
Summary of the listener segment discussing: Should you break up over ex drama?
Main Theme
The central question of this episode is whether a woman should break up with her boyfriend due to drama and threats from his ex (the mother of his child). The Bert Show cast and multiple listeners weigh in on issues of relationship baggage, exes with unresolved emotions, personal boundaries, and the realities of blending families.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Recap of the Situation
- Jeff introduces a real-life scenario:
- A woman is four months into a relationship with a man who has a baby with his ex.
- Their co-parenting relationship is strained, exacerbated by past cheating and emotional fallout.
- On a recent child handoff, the ex asks about his new romantic status, reacts badly once she learns, and threatens to “beat her ass” if she sees the new girlfriend out.
- New girlfriend feels unsafe and unsure if the threat was a joke.
2. Does the New Girlfriend Stay or Go?
- Jen quickly responds:
- “Why is she dating a guy who ruined his marriage by cheating on his wife? ... I say get out.” (03:20/03:52)
- Melissa agrees:
- “If this is how it is after four months, what's it going to be like if she's with this guy forever?” (03:57)
- Both argue that after only four months, it's not worth serious risk, especially if unresolved drama is evident.
3. Does Leaving Make You a Coward?
- Jeff asks, “Does that make you look like a coward?” (03:57)
- Jen and Melissa maintain leaving isn’t cowardly, it’s sensible self-preservation. Melissa adds that enduring this after just a few months suggests worse may come if things progress.
4. Can You Stand Your Ground?
- Jeff asks if Melissa would stand up to the ex’s threats:
- Melissa: “You can't see—you almost... I can't separate a couple... both people contribute to the drama.” (05:05)
- Melissa emphasizes, “There are two sides to every story.” (05:23)
- Both co-hosts suggest that if drama is significant so soon, it's a red flag.
5. Listener Call-ins & Alternative Viewpoints
- Drew Ski says unless she’s “totally in love and wants to be with him the rest of her life, she should get out. Cause it's kind of a scary situation.” (05:48)
- Jeff jokes: “Doesn't it only take about 4 months for you guys to fall completely in love?” Met with laughter.
- Melissa adds: “If I was getting with a woman now, and four months from now her ex girlfriend is going to beat my ass. That's too immature for me.” (06:08)
- Michelle: “She needs to get out because… this girl's always going to be in their life because, you know, they have a child together. There's always going to be some drama.” (06:30)
- Another Michelle: Suspects, “it's pretty obvious that he's still sleeping with the baby's mama. To be so jealous like that, there's got to be something still going on.” (06:47)
- Jen: “Could be.”
- Laura: “If you’re in a situation and it could be on a Jerry Springer show, you’ve got to get out.” (07:29)
- The cast finds this point so apt, they call it worthy of recurring reference.
6. Could the Ex Just Be Jealous?
- Lisa disagrees and shares success:
- “I've been in the same situation and he's now my husband and we have two kids together... She said the exact same thing and she never did anything — now we get along.” (08:51)
- Describes eventual acceptance after the ex realized Lisa was in her husband’s life for the long haul.
- Melissa queries: “What happened to make you get along? I'm curious.”
- Lisa: “[The ex] just eventually just realized that we were going to be together. She… just jealous.” (09:07)
- Example provided of blending families working out.
7. Does the Drama Always Mean They’re Still Involved?
- Hope: “It wasn’t so much that I still had feelings for him as much as it was the first significant other after a serious breakup. And anytime there’s kids around, people get a little more possessive or territorial.…” (09:56)
- Melissa notes the difference between normal tension and outright threats of violence.
- Hope (10:38): Suggests the man probably “said something to drive her to that point.”
8. Closing Banter
- The show riffs on whether the situation is "immature or white trash" (08:28–08:32), and pokes fun at the idea of proactively fighting exes.
- There’s shared consensus: early-stage relationships with major ex drama aren’t worth it—unless you’re certain the relationship is for keeps.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- Jen: “Why is she dating a guy who ruined his marriage by cheating... even if he does see the kid every weekend?” (03:20)
- Jen: “If this is how it is after four months, what's it going to be like... if she's with this guy forever?... Like, I'm thinking four years down the road, she becomes stepmom, and then real mom is this crazy psycho.” (03:57)
- Melissa: “If there is enough tension between them in just a casual... like him dropping a child off to the point that she's gonna threaten physical harm... there’s still passionate emotions going on there.” (04:19)
- Laura (caller): “If you're in a situation and it could be on a Jerry Springer show, you've got to get out.” (07:29)
- Lisa (caller): “I've been in the same situation... now we're—I mean, we get along now.” (08:51)
- Hope (caller): “Anytime there’s kids around, I think people get a little more possessive or territorial as far as what kind of people are going to be around their kids.” (09:56)
Highlighted Timestamps
- 01:22–03:52: Recap of the scenario and initial cast reactions.
- 03:56–05:23: Hosts discuss if leaving is justified, address the element of fear and self-respect.
- 05:46–06:42: First round of listener calls supporting the idea of leaving.
- 06:47–07:59: Listeners speculate about possible ongoing relationship between exes and potential “crazy” behavior.
- 08:51–09:46: Lisa’s alternate perspective—co-parenting and blended families can succeed after a rocky start.
- 09:56–11:13: Hope gives insight about protective feelings over children post-breakup and cautions there may be more to the story than the boyfriend is letting on.
Overall Tone
Casual, humorous, and direct. The cast doesn’t sugarcoat their viewpoints, drawing from personal and listener experiences, with playful banter throughout. There’s also empathy for those navigating difficult family and relationship dynamics.
Takeaway
Consensus: It’s not worth sticking around early in a relationship if unresolved drama or threats from an ex appear—especially when children and heightened emotions are involved. However, there are rare cases where time heals tensions and blended families settle, but those require mutual maturity and respect.
Classic Bert Show advice:
“If you're in a situation and it could be on a Jerry Springer show, you've got to get out.” (Laura, 07:29)
For listeners: If you’re only months into a relationship and face active, serious drama from an ex, the advice is clear: think carefully about staying. Early turmoil can be a sign of what’s to come.