The blondEST Podcast – "Healing Generational Trauma"

Host: Savanna Boda
Guest: Ariel Ryan
Date: February 2, 2026

Episode Overview

In this emotionally charged and insightful episode, Savanna Boda welcomes recurring guest Ariel Ryan to explore the intricate topic of healing generational trauma—especially as it pertains to women. Together, they discuss the influence of ancestral wounds, the science and spirituality behind trauma inheritance, and practical tips for emotional healing. The conversation also dives into personal experiences, the psychology of relationships, and the power of the subconscious mind, concluding with tangible self-work tools and rituals.

Throughout, the tone is heartfelt, candid, and occasionally playful, allowing listeners to feel like part of a meaningful and relatable conversation about growth, vulnerability, and the pursuit of authentic love.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Generational Trauma & Epigenetics

• Inherited Trauma: Both Savanna and Ariel discuss how we carry unresolved traumas from our ancestors, emphasizing the science of epigenetics.

• The Weight of Ancestry: Ariel illustrates the sheer number of forebears required for our existence and frames personal healing as a way to honor those who came before us.

  “It has taken just in the last 400 years, there was 4,000 people who had to come together for you to be here...We are our ancestors’ greatest dreams.” – Ariel (00:53)

• Privilege of Processing: The freedom to discuss and process emotional wounds is noted as a privilege not afforded to all, underscoring the responsibility and honor in healing.

2. Blood, Memory, and Mysticism

• The Mystical Nature of Blood and Water: Ariel references research claiming a single drop of blood holds immense ancestral memory, and describes water as "deeply magical" for its ability to hold and transmit energy (01:00–03:05).

• The Unexplainable: They exchange thoughts on blood or organ transplants influencing recipients, with Savanna injecting her signature humor:

  “Whoever gets my blood...sorry, you get my blood, ripdo. It’s crazy in here. It’s not safe.” – Savanna (02:35)

3. The Science and Spirituality of Vibration & Healing

• Love vs. Fear: The show explores the concept that all human experience boils down to vibrational frequencies—love and fear—with relationships often being battlegrounds for these opposing energies (04:10–05:02).

  “God is love. Love in its fullness is wholeness. ...We are experiencing what it’s like to be separate from love and that frequency.” – Ariel (04:10)

• Shifting Mindset: Both agree that mindset can dramatically shift experience, as illustrated by personal anecdotes about intentionally choosing more empowering thoughts (05:03–06:44).

4. Emotional Honesty and the “Yellow Brick Road” Exercise

• Nonjudgmental Emotional Presence: Ariel urges honesty with oneself about emotions, noting that feelings unprocessed become stored in the body. She describes emotions as chemical responses that subside in about 90 seconds unless we attach stories to them (07:44–09:24).

  “When we add story, that thing can last forever...If we actually feel the thing, [it will] be processed through the body.” – Ariel (08:00)

• Yellow Brick Road Exercise: Ariel leads Savanna through the “Yellow Brick Road” (or “because-because”) technique to bypass the conscious mind and access subconscious beliefs about love and self-worth (09:32–17:35). The method involves probing each answer with “because,” revealing deep-rooted truths.

  • Sample progression (12:28–17:16):

    • “I feel disappointment because I thought it'd be a lot easier for me.”
    • “Because I think I’m pretty awesome.”
    • “Because I have a lot of love to give.”
    • ... “Because no one has ever made me feel safe.”
    • ... “Because maybe I haven’t met the right person because I’m attracting the wrong ones.”
    • ... “Because I don’t feel safe to attract the right one. Because it’s scary...because I can get hurt.”

  • The exercise leads Savanna to a feeling of peace and release from self-blame.

  “I feel at peace because I know that I can’t make someone love themselves so that they can love me.” – Savanna (14:24)

5. The Reality of Heartbreak & The Value of Pain

• Normalizing Pain in Love: Ariel shares that all relationships eventually end—through parting or loss—but this inevitability shouldn’t prevent us from embracing love and connection (21:37–22:27).

  “All relationships end. ...So to try to prevent [hurt] from happening keeps you from the love that is available.” – Ariel (21:37)

• Contrast & Growth: The hosts discuss how negative experiences (“contrast”) are necessary for learning and self-definition (32:07–32:53).

6. Modern Masculinity & Relationship Readiness

• Understanding Men: Ariel speaks empathetically about men’s current struggles to integrate emotional intelligence with traditional roles (24:29–25:54).

• Savanna’s Growth: Savanna reflects on attracting “boys instead of men” because she hadn’t processed her own relational wounds. Intensive self-work has redefined what she will and won’t accept in relationships (23:28–27:35).

  “I’ve leveled up in everything in my life and why am I still playing with boys and not men?...I really needed to heal that part and I’m so thankful that I did.” – Savanna (23:28–27:35)

• Manifesting What You’re Ready For: Both discuss how energy and self-worth determine the types of people we attract.

  “When I’m here, when Savanna’s here...the people that orbit around me meet me where I’m at and they don’t drag me back down where I was.” – Savanna (31:16)

7. Energy, Choice, and Healing Practices

• Rejecting Binary Thinking: Ariel notes that attracting “wrong” people isn’t always a sign of low vibration or failure—just more contrast for growth and choices (34:15–34:43).

  “We are vibrating at many different frequencies all at once...It’s just like, what channel are you tuned into, period?” – Ariel (34:44)

• Spiritual Rituals: Ariel closes by recommending sustainably sourced Palo Santo for energetic cleansing, distinguishing it from sage and debunking common misconceptions about its use (35:26–36:30).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the privilege of healing:

  “The fact we even get to have these conversations about emotions...is a privilege in itself.” — Ariel (00:53)

• On all emotions being equal:

  “Happiness is just as good as sadness, it doesn’t feel—okay, I’m not gonna say that it does. ...But they’re not any better than happiness, joy, elation—they’re all emotions.” — Ariel (08:30)

• On relationship endings:

  “All relationships end. ...That doesn’t mean the relationships weren’t successful. They were successful for the time they existed.” — Ariel (21:37)

• On masculine and feminine energy:

  “Masculine energy is a frame holder. Feminine energy is a flow...so it is this yin and yang.” — Ariel (28:21)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:53 – Origins of generational trauma, honoring ancestors
• 02:16 – The mysteries of blood, organ transplants, and energy
• 03:05 – Blood and water as carriers of memory
• 04:10 – The world as a vibrational experience; love vs. fear
• 09:32 – The Yellow Brick Road “because” exercise demonstration
• 17:36 – Reflection on the emotional revelations of the exercise
• 21:37 – Accepting the inevitability of hurt and loss in relationships
• 23:28 – Savanna’s journey from past relationships to self-growth
• 25:54 – Discussion on emotional intelligence and masculinity
• 32:07 – The necessity of contrast in life and love
• 35:26 – Palo Santo: Origin, significance, and ritual use

Conclusion

This episode of The blondEST masterfully blends science, spirituality, and practical psychology, delivering a nuanced conversation about healing generational wounds, embracing emotional honesty, and consciously attracting healthier relationships. With real-time demonstrations and heartfelt anecdotes, Savanna and Ariel model vulnerability, self-compassion, and the willingness to grow—leaving listeners with both insights and actionable tools for their own journeys.

Connect with Ariel on Instagram (@arielryan); look for her upcoming healing toolkit, and remember: “People are going to human all around you.” — Ariel (32:54)