The BOB & TOM Show Extra: Alli Breen with Sexy Time

Date: March 24, 2026
Episode Theme:
This episode of The BOB & TOM Show Extra dives into the complexities and humor of romance and major relationship milestones, discussing everything from first kisses and moving in together to navigating blended families and whether coordinated bedtimes really make for happier couples. The lively crew exchanges personal stories, survey results, and comedic banter, keeping the tone light and entertaining while touching on genuinely relatable experiences about love and long-term relationships.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. How Long Should Couples Wait Before Major Relationship Milestones?

(05:08–14:13)

• Survey Results from YouGov:

  • Majority think a first kiss should happen within a month of dating; a third say less than a week.
  • On first dates: Most agree a hug is appropriate; stories and jokes abound about cheek kisses and awkward moments.
  • On sex: 30% say wait 2-7 months, 20% between a week and a month, with much laughter about “3-day rules” and personal approaches.
  • “Are you turned off by a woman who has sex with you on the first date?” Most panelists say no; Krista shares she’s been in a relationship for over ten years that started as a ‘one-night stand’.

  Tom Griswold [09:34]: “If I have sex with you on the first date, you won’t respect me in the morning. I don’t respect you right now. … You’d be surprised at how actually you’ll go up in my estimation.”

• Saying ‘I Love You’ and Engagement:

  • 40% think you should wait 2–7 months to say I love you, 20% say wait at least 8 months.
  • Half think engagement should come no sooner than a year; 10% prefer to wait three years.
  • Hilarious stories about short and quick engagements/marriages (some within three months of meeting).

  Bob Kevoian [11:05]: “We had been dating a few months and then we got married within nine months of knowing each other.”

  Pat (Co-host) [11:33]: “We did a radio trip down to Jamaica, I met her, we were married three months later.”

2. Living Together, Buying Homes, and Blended Families

(12:13–15:44)

• 40% say move in together before marriage, 30% say wait, and half say you should be together at least two years before buying a home.

• Debate on whether you’d buy a house with someone before marriage.

• Considerations for step-parenting, meeting kids, and boundaries.

  Tom Griswold [13:04]: “How long do you have to be their stepdad before you can hit them?” (followed by laughter and clarification about discipline and boundaries)

• When to introduce your partner to your kids?

  • Most agree: only after saying 'I love you' and establishing the relationship is serious.

  Krista [14:22]: “That's an after I say I love you … like I have to know we’re in it for the long haul before you meet my kid.”

• Never having overnight guests when kids are home—strong boundaries and anecdotes from panelists.

3. Pets Are Part of the Deal

(14:55–15:01)

• Introducing a partner to your pet happens almost immediately, as pets are excellent judges of character.

  Krista [15:01]: “The dog will tell you. If you don’t get along with my dog, we’re never out.”

4. Sex Before Marriage – Survey Says …

(15:34–15:49)

• Split opinions:
  • 30% say have sex before marriage,
  • 30% say wait,
  • 40% say it doesn’t matter.
• Banter about envelope-of-cash scenarios and the “too busy to answer the survey” crowd.

5. The Bedtime Gap and Happy Marriages

(16:26–20:23)

• New study finds happiest couples go to bed at the same time (average 80-minute difference, otherwise).

• Co-hosts share quirky sleep schedules due to morning show jobs.

• Debate over whether couples actually sleep better together.

  • Jess: “My husband lays down with me and then gets back up, comes to bed at 11.”
  • Some co-hosts sleep better with their partners, others don’t.

  Jess [18:01]: “Oh, my husband’s out of town and I had nightmares last night. I was scared to death.”

• Sleep discussion expands into co-parenting and handling kids’ odd hours.

6. Unconventional Relationships: Separate Houses, Separate Closets

(21:19–22:13)

• Stories about couples with two (or more) houses next to each other, sometimes connected by walkways.
• Jennifer Tilly’s separate home arrangement is discussed.
• Speculation on the practical and emotional perks of having personal space in a relationship.

7. Trophies, Recognition, and the ‘Stuff’ Battle

(22:39–23:14)

• Wayne Gretzky’s MVP trophies relegated to the garage to hilarious effect.

  Tom Griswold [22:39]: “Wayno can’t have his MVP trophy in the house. … So if Wayno can’t have [his stuff] in the house…”

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Tom Griswold on First Date Strategy

  [06:09]: “At the beginning of a first date, I’ll go, ‘Hey, look, I’m just going to get this out of the way. I do not kiss on first dates.’ Oh, more often than not, I kiss on.”

• On ‘I Love You’ Timing

  Pat (Co-host) [10:05]: “I’m a ‘I love you on the first date’ guy.”
  Josh (Co-host) [10:11]: “Aren’t you like three hot breaths in and—‘Hey, nice place you got. I love you’?”

• Krista on Sleeping Arrangements

  [14:42]: “As a single mom, never ever did I have someone spend the night while my kids were there. Ever.”

• On Unconventional Arrangements

  Bob Kevoian [21:30]: “I have a friend who has two separate houses. They’re right next door to each other, and they have a sidewalk in between the two. They’ve been together for over 10 years now.”

• On Pets and Partners

  Krista [15:01]: “The dog will tell you. If you don’t get along with my dog, we’re never out.”

Important Timestamps

• [05:12] – Survey: When do most Americans have their first kiss on average?
• [08:00] – How long before having sex? Panel jokes and survey results.
• [09:23] – Are you turned off by sex on the first date?
• [10:05] – When do people say “I love you,” and personal rapid-fire engagement stories.
• [12:25] – Moving in, buying a house, and living arrangements stats.
• [13:04] – Debate on blended families; discipline and meeting each other's kids.
• [14:42] – Panelists on overnight boundaries as single parents.
• [16:31] – Study: Bedtime differences and happiness in marriage.
• [21:30] – Separate houses and unconventional long-term relationships.

Tone and Style

• The episode is irreverent, candid, and filled with authentic exchanges. The hosts maintain their usual comedic tone, sharing both playful anecdotes and real-life experiences. Relatable topics are balanced with punchlines and self-deprecation, making the segment feel both humorous and grounded.

For Listeners Who Missed the Episode

This B&T Extra episode is a quintessential blend of comedy and real talk about relationships—expect survey stats, raw honesty about modern romance, a few sincere moments about parenting, and plenty of laughter about all the ways love can be weird, complicated, and wonderful. If you want fun, insight, and a gentle ribbing of society’s “rules” for love, this one’s a must-listen.