B&T Extra: Alli Breen with Sexy Time

Summary

The BOB & TOM Show Extra: Alli Breen with Sexy Time

Date: March 24, 2026
Episode Theme:
This episode of The BOB & TOM Show Extra dives into the complexities and humor of romance and major relationship milestones, discussing everything from first kisses and moving in together to navigating blended families and whether coordinated bedtimes really make for happier couples. The lively crew exchanges personal stories, survey results, and comedic banter, keeping the tone light and entertaining while touching on genuinely relatable experiences about love and long-term relationships.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. How Long Should Couples Wait Before Major Relationship Milestones?

(05:08–14:13)

• Survey Results from YouGov:

  • Majority think a first kiss should happen within a month of dating; a third say less than a week.
  • On first dates: Most agree a hug is appropriate; stories and jokes abound about cheek kisses and awkward moments.
  • On sex: 30% say wait 2-7 months, 20% between a week and a month, with much laughter about “3-day rules” and personal approaches.
  • “Are you turned off by a woman who has sex with you on the first date?” Most panelists say no; Krista shares she’s been in a relationship for over ten years that started as a ‘one-night stand’.

  Tom Griswold [09:34]: “If I have sex with you on the first date, you won’t respect me in the morning. I don’t respect you right now. … You’d be surprised at how actually you’ll go up in my estimation.”

• Saying ‘I Love You’ and Engagement:

  • 40% think you should wait 2–7 months to say I love you, 20% say wait at least 8 months.
  • Half think engagement should come no sooner than a year; 10% prefer to wait three years.
  • Hilarious stories about short and quick engagements/marriages (some within three months of meeting).

  Bob Kevoian [11:05]: “We had been dating a few months and then we got married within nine months of knowing each other.”

  Pat (Co-host) [11:33]: “We did a radio trip down to Jamaica, I met her, we were married three months later.”

2. Living Together, Buying Homes, and Blended Families

(12:13–15:44)

• 40% say move in together before marriage, 30% say wait, and half say you should be together at least two years before buying a home.

• Debate on whether you’d buy a house with someone before marriage.

• Considerations for step-parenting, meeting kids, and boundaries.

  Tom Griswold [13:04]: “How long do you have to be their stepdad before you can hit them?” (followed by laughter and clarification about discipline and boundaries)

• When to introduce your partner to your kids?

  • Most agree: only after saying 'I love you' and establishing the relationship is serious.

  Krista [14:22]: “That's an after I say I love you … like I have to know we’re in it for the long haul before you meet my kid.”

• Never having overnight guests when kids are home—strong boundaries and anecdotes from panelists.

3. Pets Are Part of the Deal

(14:55–15:01)

• Introducing a partner to your pet happens almost immediately, as pets are excellent judges of character.

  Krista [15:01]: “The dog will tell you. If you don’t get along with my dog, we’re never out.”

4. Sex Before Marriage – Survey Says …

(15:34–15:49)

• Split opinions:
  • 30% say have sex before marriage,
  • 30% say wait,
  • 40% say it doesn’t matter.
• Banter about envelope-of-cash scenarios and the “too busy to answer the survey” crowd.

5. The Bedtime Gap and Happy Marriages

(16:26–20:23)

• New study finds happiest couples go to bed at the same time (average 80-minute difference, otherwise).

• Co-hosts share quirky sleep schedules due to morning show jobs.

• Debate over whether couples actually sleep better together.

  • Jess: “My husband lays down with me and then gets back up, comes to bed at 11.”
  • Some co-hosts sleep better with their partners, others don’t.

  Jess [18:01]: “Oh, my husband’s out of town and I had nightmares last night. I was scared to death.”

• Sleep discussion expands into co-parenting and handling kids’ odd hours.

6. Unconventional Relationships: Separate Houses, Separate Closets

(21:19–22:13)

• Stories about couples with two (or more) houses next to each other, sometimes connected by walkways.
• Jennifer Tilly’s separate home arrangement is discussed.
• Speculation on the practical and emotional perks of having personal space in a relationship.

7. Trophies, Recognition, and the ‘Stuff’ Battle

(22:39–23:14)

• Wayne Gretzky’s MVP trophies relegated to the garage to hilarious effect.

  Tom Griswold [22:39]: “Wayno can’t have his MVP trophy in the house. … So if Wayno can’t have [his stuff] in the house…”

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Tom Griswold on First Date Strategy

  [06:09]: “At the beginning of a first date, I’ll go, ‘Hey, look, I’m just going to get this out of the way. I do not kiss on first dates.’ Oh, more often than not, I kiss on.”

• On ‘I Love You’ Timing

  Pat (Co-host) [10:05]: “I’m a ‘I love you on the first date’ guy.”
  Josh (Co-host) [10:11]: “Aren’t you like three hot breaths in and—‘Hey, nice place you got. I love you’?”

• Krista on Sleeping Arrangements

  [14:42]: “As a single mom, never ever did I have someone spend the night while my kids were there. Ever.”

• On Unconventional Arrangements

  Bob Kevoian [21:30]: “I have a friend who has two separate houses. They’re right next door to each other, and they have a sidewalk in between the two. They’ve been together for over 10 years now.”

• On Pets and Partners

  Krista [15:01]: “The dog will tell you. If you don’t get along with my dog, we’re never out.”

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Important Timestamps

• [05:12] – Survey: When do most Americans have their first kiss on average?
• [08:00] – How long before having sex? Panel jokes and survey results.
• [09:23] – Are you turned off by sex on the first date?
• [10:05] – When do people say “I love you,” and personal rapid-fire engagement stories.
• [12:25] – Moving in, buying a house, and living arrangements stats.
• [13:04] – Debate on blended families; discipline and meeting each other's kids.
• [14:42] – Panelists on overnight boundaries as single parents.
• [16:31] – Study: Bedtime differences and happiness in marriage.
• [21:30] – Separate houses and unconventional long-term relationships.

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Tone and Style

• The episode is irreverent, candid, and filled with authentic exchanges. The hosts maintain their usual comedic tone, sharing both playful anecdotes and real-life experiences. Relatable topics are balanced with punchlines and self-deprecation, making the segment feel both humorous and grounded.

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For Listeners Who Missed the Episode

This B&T Extra episode is a quintessential blend of comedy and real talk about relationships—expect survey stats, raw honesty about modern romance, a few sincere moments about parenting, and plenty of laughter about all the ways love can be weird, complicated, and wonderful. If you want fun, insight, and a gentle ribbing of society’s “rules” for love, this one’s a must-listen.

Transcript

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[Song Performer/Guest]

You should have seen me last night when I I fell down laughing and I stumbled down a flight of metal stairs. I went crashing through the window at the VFW hall Tumbled over a pile of metal chairs. Then I cussed out My girlfriend tried to feel up her mom. I wrecked my car I think I bruised my spine oh, you ought to go When I go out drinking Always have myself a real good time. I got drunk and stole this boat out of the Edgewater yacht club doing 90 miles an hour up to the bay I sank her right by Buckeye Point and walked on into town Tore up someone's flowers on my way. Then I barged into the cruise nest and I threw up on the rug Slap that hostess on her bit behind oh, you ought to go with me When I go out drinking Always have myself a real good time I talk dirty to the waitress and I never ever leave her no chip leave her all my roaches in the guacamole Will you want to go with me When I go out drinking Always have myself a real good time so I'm going out tonight and I'm gonna tie on a good one does anybody here want to go out drinking with me? Yeah. Well, I'll take you to this biker bar where we can kick some ass In a gay bar we'll get our drinks for free we'll do shooters of tequila and a queso beer a piece we'll wash it down with a gallon of cheap island wine oh, you are with me I go out drinking Always have myself a real good time I like to shout out loud and moon the crowd when I'm dancing on the bar and go out in the parking lot Piss on all the cars I go out drinking Always have myself a real good time oh, give me that wine Always have myself a real good time I'm feeling beautiful Always have myself a real good time.

[Tom Griswold]

Yeah.

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[Tom Griswold]

Extra Tom. We're talking romance this morning, which is a nice change of pace. Love.

[Bob Kevoian]

And new survey from the organization known as YouGov explores how long Americans think couples should be together before they hit major milestones in their relationships, like having sex, getting married, and buying a home.

[Tom Griswold]

Just Americans. We have no age.

[Bob Kevoian]

No age. That's all I got.

[Tom Griswold]

That's fine.

[Bob Kevoian]

Two thirds of U.S. adults say the minimum amount of a time a person should be seeing someone before the first kiss is

[Tom Griswold]

two weeks.

[Bob Kevoian]

No more than a month. Very good.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

What?

[Tom Griswold]

Okay, so first kiss.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Less than a month.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. One third said less than a week.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh.

[Bob Kevoian]

When was your. With your current partner? When was your first kiss? First date.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

No.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

At least go for the cheek and see what happens.

[Bob Kevoian]

Do you really? First date? Cheek?

[Song Performer/Guest]

Yeah.

[Tom Griswold]

Face.

[Bob Kevoian]

Cheek.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

No.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Turn around, lady.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah. No, no, Josh, turn around. Well, that's awkward. Hey, I was reading. I'm supposed to kiss your butt. What the hell are you talking.

[Bob Kevoian]

Can I give a hug on the first date? You don't.

[Christopher (Producer/Announcer)]

What?

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, you absolutely hug.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tom Griswold]

You know what? I. Oh, boy. Oh, here we go.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

This has.

[Tom Griswold]

This has worked for me.

[Bob Kevoian]

Okay.

[Tom Griswold]

At the beginning of a first date, I'll go. Hey, look, I'm just going to get this out of the way. I do not kiss on first dates? Oh, more often than not, I kiss on.

[Bob Kevoian]

Do you go to them or are they coming to you?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh, they're coming.

[Bob Kevoian]

They're coming to you.

[Tom Griswold]

That's interesting.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

That's a challenge.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yes.

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Yeah.

[Bob Kevoian]

They're like, hey, I can get him to kiss on the first day.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

That's great.

[Bob Kevoian]

30.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Do you remember the Nick Griffin story? The great comedian Nick Griffin, one of the best people out there. Nick decided he was doing a lot of Internet dating. Do you remember this?

[Tom Griswold]

Yeah. This is cool.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And funny. Describe what he did. Go ahead.

[Tom Griswold]

He decided that he was going to go in for a kiss no matter what, on every.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

If it was going well.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Just roll the dice.

[Tom Griswold]

Nick is not a creep. He's not like. And he's not. He's certainly not like an aggressive, sort of threatening guy.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Very handsome guy.

[Tom Griswold]

Yeah, yeah, for sure.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And brilliant. Brilliant writer, but.

[Tom Griswold]

And sweet and very quiet, thoughtful. Yeah. So it's funny that he chose to do that. I don't remember what he said. Did he say that it went well?

[Bob Kevoian]

Most. No. He said like one time he was in the parking lot at a coffee shop or something AM and he smashes this woman's lips and she was like,

[Tom Griswold]

it's like 10:00am Yeah, I think it

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

was really early in the morning.

[Bob Kevoian]

It was really early. It was. Yeah.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

You don't do it in the morning.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

No, Josh, you trick the. Well, you don't trick the girl into the first kiss. Are you the same guy who is like, oh, I can't achieve that way when it comes to another thing. So that they are like, oh, I'm going to show you.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

That's very common.

[Tom Griswold]

I think I.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes,

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

we're going to leave it right there.

[Bob Kevoian]

What do you think? The. How long should it be before you have sex?

[Tom Griswold]

Well, you know, what's the average American think? Is that a time period or like a.

[Bob Kevoian]

In months?

[Tom Griswold]

Okay.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah, three.

[Tom Griswold]

Three months.

[Bob Kevoian]

30 believe couples should hold off from having sex for two to seven months, while 20% said between a week and a month.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Okay, so wait a second. Hold on a second. So it's 30% said some of them was 20. So what about the other 50?

[Bob Kevoian]

I don't know. The other 50. Probably they were too busy.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, they were too busy banging it out to answer the survey.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

I thought it was three days.

[Bob Kevoian]

Three days. Three days rule. Yeah. Well, maybe your date span.

[Song Performer/Guest]

What was.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

What was the. What was the shaving rule? I'm sorry? A shaving shave, shaving your legs rule. What was that?

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah, you don't Shave your legs if you're going on a date. So you're not tempted to have sex.

[Tom Griswold]

Now, that only works for the woman to keep herself from doing it.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah.

[Tom Griswold]

Oh, I think I can't have sex with you, sir. I didn't shave my legs. You think that's gonna stop? Says every guy. By the way, it's not Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Pat. It's breakfast, lunch, dinner.

[Bob Kevoian]

Are you turned off by a woman who has sex with you on the first date?

[Tom Griswold]

No, I think that's a misconception.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, I'm with mine ten and a half years later. No, honestly, I thought it was gonna be my first and only one night stand and it just last.

[Tom Griswold]

I've never understood. If I have sex with you on the first date, you won't respect me in the morning. I don't respect you right now.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

You're out with me.

[Tom Griswold]

I lost all respect for you when you said yes. I think you'd be surprised at how actually you'll go up in my estimation.

[Bob Kevoian]

Over 40% of respondents believe couples should wait between two and seven months before saying I love you. Which comes first, I love you or the sex?

[Tom Griswold]

I bet in most instances, definitely. Which might be backwards.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

You know, I'm gonna I love you on the first date guy.

[Bob Kevoian]

Oh, yeah.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Fall hard.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

You're like, aren't you? Like three hot breaths in and.

[Tom Griswold]

Hey, nice place you got. I love you.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

You want to meet my son?

[Tom Griswold]

Hey, Jimmy, come meet.

[Bob Kevoian]

That's a tough one. And do you say it first?

[Tom Griswold]

Well, it varies, doesn't it? If you feel it, you know, if you're really feeling it, you can say it.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

How you feeling?

[Bob Kevoian]

20% believe that you should wait at least eight months before saying I love you. Half the people are married by then a long time. Half of Americans think an engagement should come no sooner than a year after dating.

[Tom Griswold]

Krista, you're. You're teased a lot, unfairly for having multiple ex husbands at this point.

[Bob Kevoian]

I'm proud of it.

[Tom Griswold]

No, I mean, life is life. But you. What is the shortest between a first date and getting engaged for you?

[Bob Kevoian]

My first husband.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

How long?

[Bob Kevoian]

I think we had been dating a few months. And then we got married within nine months of knowing each other.

[Tom Griswold]

Boy.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah.

[Tom Griswold]

Hotter than a pepper sprout.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And not even knocked up.

[Bob Kevoian]

No. I wanted to buy house. I needed his credit.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Good for you.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

No one.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

No one to add to the good for you. The list.

[Bob Kevoian]

I got married in three months, 20. I didn't have any credit.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Wait, beginning from the day you met her, you Were married three months later.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah. We did a radio trip down to Jamaica. I met her. We were married three months later.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Which one is this? One or two?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

That was Kim 3.

[Bob Kevoian]

Kim.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Kim 3.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah. Or Kimchi. I'm not quite sure.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I think Kim3 smelled better than Kim

[Bob Kevoian]

G. 10% feel that.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I'm gonna whiff of that stuff.

[Bob Kevoian]

An engagement shouldn't come until three years after you've been dating.

[Tom Griswold]

I'm closer to that.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

I. I say 12.

[Bob Kevoian]

12 years?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

How long you been missing?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

10 and a half.

[Bob Kevoian]

Well, Ali was 12. Wasn't she close?

[Tom Griswold]

She was older than that.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

All those chicken hormones.

[Bob Kevoian]

70% of those polled think couples should be together for at least a year before getting engaged. 20% said, you should wait three years before taking that step. All right, let's see. 40% of Americans said it's better to move in together before marriage.

[Tom Griswold]

Okay.

[Bob Kevoian]

30% said it's better to do this after getting married. I say wait until you've been married eight months before he moves in. That's what we did.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

I say separate residences.

[Bob Kevoian]

I tried that path. Didn't work. Yeah. Yeah. Half said people should be together a minimum of two years before buying a home together. Now, is that being married, or is that just. Would you buy a house with someone you weren't married to? Oh, wait a minute. Why am I asking?

[Tom Griswold]

Well, that's a.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Well.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Well, I don't think you want to ask that.

[Bob Kevoian]

I mean, that's. That is how long?

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

I think so.

[Bob Kevoian]

That's a tough thing.

[Tom Griswold]

Are there any other. Because I'd like to know how long you can be with somebody who has kids. How long do you have to be their stepdad before you can hit them?

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Thanks, Jeff.

[Tom Griswold]

Jeff.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Six months. I've never hit mine, but I yell at them like they're my kids.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Do they respond with, you're not my real dad?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh, if they did, they would. Oh, yeah, I know. I pay all the bills. I'm nothing like your real dad.

[Bob Kevoian]

I remember

[Tom Griswold]

I was dating a girl and her son. We got along great, but her son. We were in the living room. She was getting ready for work. He and I were in the living room, and he was getting on the back of the couch and then jumping onto the floor and doing this repeatedly. And she came in and she goes, you're just gonna let him jump off the couch like that? And I didn't say anything. And she went back to getting ready for work. He gets up on the back of the couch, jumps on the ground. I go, knock it off. She comes in she goes. How dare you yell at myself.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, see, that's. That's gonna happen.

[Bob Kevoian]

Well, that was gonna be my next question. How long are you dating someone before you meet the kids? Pat can't answer.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, you take Jimmy with you, right?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh, he goes on all dates. Yeah.

[Christopher (Producer/Announcer)]

Free meal.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

She's mine.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

See, to me, that's an after I say I love you.

[Bob Kevoian]

Oh, absolutely.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Like that. Like I have to know. Yeah. I have to know that we're in it for the long haul before you meet my kid.

[Bob Kevoian]

Exactly. That's what I feel, too. This is another one. As a single mom, never ever did I have someone spend the night while my kids were there. Ever.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, you guys set that timer for 3:30 in the morning and get up and out before they wake up?

[Bob Kevoian]

No, I wouldn't even. I know. I mean, it was either. You know, we had split schedules, so on days off, that's when. Yeah.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

How about meeting your dog?

[Bob Kevoian]

Meeting your dog?

[Tom Griswold]

Yes. At what point do you let them meet your dog? It's got to be right away, right?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes, because the dog will tell you. Yeah. Yeah. If you don't get along with my dog, we're never out.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah. This is not gonna. And this is not gonna work.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

So you never snuck in a back bedroom while the kids are downstairs? No.

[Tom Griswold]

Nothing.

[Bob Kevoian]

Wow. No, I was real adamant about that.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

That's pretty good. That's pretty cool.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Apparently, Pat has.

[Bob Kevoian]

Apparently.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah. I was a little fuzzled, too.

[Bob Kevoian]

50 said couples should be together for at least two years before having a child.

[Tom Griswold]

All right.

[Bob Kevoian]

Sometimes you don't have a choice.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. And how do you feel about having sex before marriage?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

So what's the survey says?

[Tom Griswold]

What?

[Bob Kevoian]

30% said it's better for a couple to have sex before getting married. 30% said you should wait till after marriage to have sex. 40% said it didn't matter.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Again, that middle ground is the people who are too busy having sex to fill out the survey.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah, I think all those people are having fun. The rest of them are. Yeah.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Okay.

[Tom Griswold]

How many said you leave the envelope of cash on the dresser before the act? And how many said you give it to her after the act?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

I think after.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

What do you do?

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Do you use one of those dine and dash, those semi. Semi clear envelopes so they can see that it looks like a C note in there?

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

You put 100 on top and then just magazines. Magazines.

[Tom Griswold]

Yeah, exactly. Why is Art Link letter on the

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

screen

[Bob Kevoian]

if you're already married? Did we talk about the shared bedtime thing? Did we talk about.

[Tom Griswold]

If not.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Go ahead, read it again.

[Bob Kevoian]

A new survey suggests the secret to a happy marriage might be as simple as going to bed at the same time. Talker research pulled 2,000 married Americans and found the. On the average, a couple has an 80 minute bedtime gap between the time one goes to bed and then the other one several times.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

This is not fair for us because virtually all of us have an odd situation in which we get up. I mean, I got up this morning before 2:30.

[Bob Kevoian]

Well, you're a freak.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

You don't count.

[Bob Kevoian]

You don't count.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

That's what I'm saying.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

The rest of us do count. You don't.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

My husband, Jeffrey, what you get, you got here like at 4. What time do you get up?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

No, I get up at 4 and I'm here at like 4.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

4. Okay. Does, does your girlfriend.

[Bob Kevoian]

She's going to bed at 4?

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, no, she's, she's sleeps till 11.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

It's, it's 3:30am for me and my son is still up, so.

[Tom Griswold]

Oh, that's a problem.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Even school nights?

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

No.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes, but he goes bed. He's supposed to go to bed at 11 on school nights, but he has 11.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

11.

[Krista (Co-host/Guest)]

Ours is 11.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

I'm the good dad,

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

by the way, Pat. I've got a good bail bondsman I'll give.

[Bob Kevoian]

My husband and I go to bed at the same time and he gets up as I'm leaving at five.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

That's a rarity, I think.

[Bob Kevoian]

I know it is.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

My husband lays down with me and then when I fall asleep, he gets back up and then comes back to bed at 11.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh yeah, you wake up when he gets back to bed?

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

No, no, not usually. I mean, maybe little, but not really.

[Tom Griswold]

Now, my husband, I mean boyfriend. I mean,

[Bob Kevoian]

couples are reported being very happy.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

So that gift from Brokeback Mountain is the one you. Sorry.

[Bob Kevoian]

Said they go to bed together about four times a week compared to just once a week for less happy couples. What time do you go to bed?

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Ideally 8:30.

[Bob Kevoian]

And what time does Kelly go to bed? You don't know because you're asleep.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

He doesn't know.

[Tom Griswold]

And she does not wake you up when she slides into bed.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

If she were to get into bed and it'd be a miracle. Do trampoline stunts.

[Tom Griswold]

You're still out.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And then have the dog start barking. I would not wake up.

[Tom Griswold]

Okay, that's good.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

And she's usually in a different time zone.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

That's for a funny pet.

[Bob Kevoian]

Coordinated bedtimes were also linked to better sleep with 40 saying that they sleep better with their partner in the bed.

[Tom Griswold]

I wish I did, man.

[Bob Kevoian]

I did too.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

I. I do.

[Bob Kevoian]

I don't.

[Tom Griswold]

Oh, yeah. You like?

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Oh, my husband's out of town and I had nightmares last night. I was scared to death. It was. It was. It was horrible. It was so bad.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

You could have called me.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

I could have called you.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I. Of late, one of my dogs now has discovered that once everybody's asleep, he can climb up.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Yes. I'll feel that hot breath on my face, thinking, oh, I look up and there's a large white golden retriever staring at me. Hi. What you doing?

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. Both of our friends, I've had enough sleep.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Let's go out. That was this morning at 2:00am but this thing about going to bed at the same time. Then there's also the factor of kids.

[Bob Kevoian]

Sure.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

When you have. Getting them to go to bed. I mean, the human. Human being. There's a famous study in which. I think it was In France, whatever. 100 years ago, they did a thing where they put people in a cave, remember this? And they see what would happen.

[Bob Kevoian]

Circadian rhythms.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And you don't. For whatever reason, you always want to stay awake, like an extra hour. And pretty soon you get completely off yourself.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. Huh.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

So it's. It's sort of natural to want. That's why your son Pat wants to stay up.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

Yeah, he does.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

He doesn't really have to because he's. You're up, you're running, you're thinking, you're feeling great. Why go to bed? It really throws everything off.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah. But sleep is so important. It's like one of the number one things you need.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Well, this is why I'm so screwed up. I don't get any. No. But I like having her right there. I do love that.

[Tom Griswold]

I like. Oh, that's good.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I'm with you on that one. Just having her there is great.

[Tom Griswold]

Now Jess and Pat have the kind of relationship where I could honestly see Jess calling Pat and going, I need a sleeping buddy. And you could go over there and she would just spoon you. Yeah. And that's it.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yeah.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

I just. I just need to throw my leg over his hip, fall asleep, then you can.

[Bob Kevoian]

Come on, man. And men and women can't just be friends like that.

[Tom Griswold]

Oh, I'm not saying Pat wouldn't want to immediately beg.

[Bob Kevoian]

I'm saying Jack, say, I know Pat. I don't think he would

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

one.

[Pat (Co-host/Guest)]

I'm very, very sweet.

[Bob Kevoian]

Can you imagine if your husband, hey, Pat's going to come spend the night while You're.

[Song Performer/Guest]

Oh.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

There's been times that Pat and I have been on the phone on a Saturday morning, and my husband's like, you've

[Bob Kevoian]

got to be kidd.

[Tom Griswold]

Just cause of the giggling.

[Bob Kevoian]

Yes.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

It's just. You would think I was on the phone with a girlfriend.

[Tom Griswold]

Right, Right.

[Bob Kevoian]

Well, it's closer.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

Do you know, are you the one that has the friend that has the two separate elaborate bedrooms with the separate closets? Was that.

[Bob Kevoian]

I have a friend who has two separate houses. They're right next door to each other, and they have a sidewalk in between the two.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

They are.

[Bob Kevoian]

They've been together for over 10 years now.

[Tom Griswold]

It's not for everybody, but I bet they are that reinvention.

[Bob Kevoian]

And they're building a home in Michig for retiring.

[Tom Griswold]

For her boyfriend. And it's really.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

That's a good idea. Yeah. Yeah. Torch Lake.

[Bob Kevoian]

They're actually building very close to Walloon Lake, and they're building a home up there.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

And so this guy's a billionaire, huh?

[Bob Kevoian]

Separately.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

Kidding.

[Bob Kevoian]

They're building two separate homes again, connected by a walkway. Who was just talk.

[Jess (Co-host/Guest)]

There's Jennifer Tilly and her husband or partner are the same way. Like, right next door. She wakes up every morning, walks over to his house. They have their coffee. They have their breakfast.

[Tom Griswold]

Like, I love Jennifer Tilly. I really do. But waking up to that voice could be a little challenging.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I wonder if. I wonder if they have. With separate houses. I'm guessing that the lady will still come over to the guy's house and start rearranging stuff. Walk into his office and go, those papers I don't want to see. Put those away.

[Tom Griswold]

I just recently heard a story about Wayne Gretzky, and there were buddies hanging out with Wayne. They went out to the garage, and there were all these boxes out there, and they go, what are in these boxes? And Wayne goes, I don't know. And he started opening up. He's like, oh, here's my MVP trophy. Here's my. His wife wouldn't let him have any

[Bob Kevoian]

of that in the house.

[Tom Griswold]

So if Wayno can't have.

[Bob Kevoian]

Right? Yeah.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

That's pretty funny. Do you have any of your awards posted at your house?

[Bob Kevoian]

Posted? I have the Marconi's on a bookshelf. Yeah.

[Tom Griswold]

Mm.

[Bob Kevoian]

That's cool.

[Josh (Co-host/Guest)]

I think mine are in Sam's space.

[Bob Kevoian]

You don't have those up in your house.

[Christopher (Producer/Announcer)]

That's it for another Bob and Tom show. Extra. Catch us on itunes, Google Play and Stitcher for Bob and Tom. Extra. This is Christopher. Take care, everybody.

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