AMY: Feeling Regret… and Explaining the Point of This Podcast

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show – "AMY: Feeling Regret… and Explaining the Point of This Podcast"

Date: September 7, 2025
Hosts: Amy & Kat

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Episode Overview

This episode of the “Feeling Things” segment, hosted by Amy and Kat, centers around the theme of regret and explores the complex, often nonlinear nature of feeling one’s emotions. The hosts candidly share relatable stories—ranging from heated family moments to questionable hair decisions—while also responding to a listener’s confusion about the podcast’s structure and intention. The episode ultimately frames the show as a space for connection, honest conversation, and emotional processing, clarifying its purpose as a mental health-minded, friendship-driven discussion.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Naming and Facing Regret

• [02:26-08:27] Regret as the Feeling of the Day
  • Kat admits she's feeling "regretful," even if she doesn’t want to (“That’s part of feeling your feelings—they are what they are.”—Kat, [02:33]).
  • Amy jokes about “crashing out” after yelling at her kid for eating all the pineapple—a relatable parenting outburst which led to her own regret.
  • Quote: “As the kids say, I just crashed out a little bit and I did have regret and I did tell him I was sorry.”—Amy, [07:38]
  • Discussion on sharing food, learning to “diversify the fruit,” and the little things that trigger big reactions in family life.

2. Hair Decisions as Emotional Metaphor

• [08:53-13:14] Processing Change with Humor and Honesty
  • Kat describes an overstimulated meltdown that led her to cut four inches off her hair—an act she now partially regrets (“It’s too much change and not enough change at the same time.”—Kat, [10:59]).
  • She reflects on ending hair coloring, referencing a previous episode, and talks about being a beginner at styling her new hair.
  • Amy reframes it as a metaphor: “When you start something new, be patient… You’re allowed to be a beginner with things that you’ve never done before.”—Amy, [12:43]
  • Connection to broader adult anxieties about starting new things and allowing imperfection.

3. The Podcast’s Structure and “Point”

• [19:56-26:54] Responding to Listener Confusion
  • Reading a listener email: A long-time “Four Things” fan is confused by the new “Feeling Things” podcast format and asks for clarity.
  • Amy and Kat explain:
    • They choose a “feeling word” each episode as a starting point but allow conversation to flow naturally.
    • The aim is a sense of connection and authenticity—“like you’re listening to your friends talk.” (“That is our vibe, that is our energy, that is our structure.”—Amy, [21:58])
    • There will be occasional “deep dives” (e.g., Mel Robbins’ ‘Let Them Theory’ [22:41-23:07]) and forthcoming themed series (e.g., “The Four Horsemen” based on John Gottman’s relationship research [25:08-25:56]).
    • They encourage listeners’ topic suggestions and reiterate that both silly and serious subjects have a place.

4. Connection, Vulnerability, and Community

• [26:54-29:36] How the Show Builds Community
  • Emphasis on “connection and community” as guiding values (“We love having each and every one of you here, especially our girl Karen…”—Amy, [29:16])
  • Promotion of upcoming in-person events and reinforcing the idea that all listeners—confused or clear—are welcome (“Come as you are.”—Amy, [43:22])

5. Stories from Listeners—Flirting in the Wild

• [29:36-39:49] Listener Email Sparks 90s Dating Nostalgia and True Crime Tangents
  • “Karen” shares a story about a grocery store encounter where a man got her number off her check and asked her out (he was a taxidermist, her friend even tagged along on the date).
  • Cat and Amy marvel at the boldness and borderline creepiness of this move—and how times (and safety norms) have changed.
  • Quote: “Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see someone writing their number on a check. Also, you have to be staring. Like, he is staring. That is bold and I am impressed by him.”—Kat, [34:41]
  • Conversation takes a true crime detour, referencing the Netflix film “Woman of the Hour,” about a real-life serial killer who went on a dating game show. Amy muses on risk, trust, and safety, both then and now.

6. Friendship, Working Together, and Show Mission

• [42:39-End] Navigating Friendship and Podcast Partnership
  • Reflections on the challenges and joys of working closely as friends.
  • Final encouragement for listener engagement through social platforms and reiteration that both “confused and clear” listeners are wanted.

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Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• Amy on regret over fruit:
  “As the kids say, I just crashed out a little bit and I did have regret and I did tell him I was sorry. And I said, eat the fruit. I want you to eat the fruit.” [07:38]

• Kat on new beginnings:
  “You’re allowed to be a beginner with things that you’ve never done before.” [12:43]

• Listener Email—on podcast format:
  “I feel confused and I have no idea the point of each episode. I want to keep listening; however, I find myself waiting for the overall purpose.” [19:58]

• Amy’s response:
  “That is our vibe, that is our energy, that is our structure. Now we will have the occasional deep dive… But our main goal is Kat and I chatting. And you all feel like you’re sitting with your girlfriends and you’re having a talk.” [21:58]

• Kat on quirky dating memory:
  “Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see somebody writing their phone number on a check. Also, you have to be staring. Like he is staring. That is bold and I am impressed by him.” [34:41]

• Amy, summing up the show’s spirit:
  “Confused or clear? We’re here for the connection and community.” [43:03]

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Important Segments & Timestamps

| Timestamp | Topic |
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| 02:26-08:27 | Opening feelings: regret and parenting snafus |
| 08:53-13:14 | Kat’s hair saga: Bodily autonomy, regret, metaphors | | 19:56-26:54 | Explaining the podcast’s “point” and format | | 29:36-39:49 | Listener email on old-school dating, true crime detour | | 42:39-43:31 | Friendship & structure wrap-up |

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Tone & Language

• Warm, humorous, honest, and vulnerable
• Real-life, unfiltered conversations between friends
• Dips into playful banter, self-deprecation, and pop-culture tangents
• Invitation to listener participation and feedback

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Takeaway

This episode of “Feeling Things” is a candid, laughter-filled exploration of regret, change, and why it’s okay to be messy or confused as you navigate life and relationships. The show’s lack of strict structure is intentional; its “point” is to create a space—and a community—where all feelings and stories, big or small, are welcome.

“Come as you are. Confused or clear. Connection and community—that’s us.” [43:22]

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Transcript

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[A]

If you ever have.

[B]

Feelings and you just want some, maybe a cat got you covered like a number.

[A]

Ladies and fellas, we just follow in.

[B]

The spirit where it tell us from the real stuff to the chill stuff and the in between. Sometimes the best thing you can do.

[A]

Is just stop me. Feel Things this is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat.

[B]

Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat. And our feeling of the day is coming from you. Cat. What you got?

[A]

Yeah, I'm feeling a regretful. I didn't really want to say that word because I don't want to be feeling this, but it's. That's part of feeling your feelings is like, they are what they are.

[B]

So what did you. What did you do?

[A]

So a couple days ago, I got. Well, probably a week ago, I got. You know, I have to give you the long version of this story.

[B]

Yeah, you're like, what? I'm like, okay, this is. We're setting this up for, like, you did something crazy. Because, like, I'm like, I have regret, too, and I know what you're regretting. And I'm like, okay, you're regretting this. And, like, I'm regretting yelling at my kid because he ate all the pineapple. So.

[A]

Okay, I need to process that before I process myself.

[B]

Well, I already asked for forgiveness. I mean, I didn't, like, yell yell, but, no, I didn't. Mine was the feeling of the day. But once you said, I didn't know exactly what your feeling was going to be, I knew it was going to be about your hair. You gave it away.

[A]

I was setting the stage.

[B]

Oh, sorry.

[A]

Set the stage.

[B]

Well, they don't know what.

[A]

Okay, so wait a second. I have to say this because I'll forget one thing that does kind of get my tails all twisted. I was trying to think of a phrase.

[B]

What's that other thing you say?

[A]

Yuck. My yum.

[B]

Yeah. Okay.

[A]

That's a phrase. People say that.

[B]

Okay. Sure they do. I've never heard anybody but you say it.

[A]

We also got an email, I don't know if we read it, where a mom said it, and her daughter was like, mom, don't ever say that again. So I'm sorry.

[B]

Yeah. Because it's definitely not, like, what all the kid. The cool kids are saying.

[A]

I'm not claiming to be cool.

[B]

Like, you know how we say fire, sick, or whatever a big one right now is. I'm about to crash out, which is I'm about to lose it, and I feel like your hair is causing me to crash out.

[A]

Oh, my gosh, I am crashing out. But okay, I have to read this because speaking of cool things, I got a text last night from a friend of mine, and she said we just had a waiter describe a dish to us as the missionary sex of chicken dishes.

[B]

Wait, what? Wait, so it's just, like, you know.

[A]

Playing, but then I. I said, where? I won't say where and she said. He actually said, usually the half chicken is busing, but this version is the missionary sex of chicken. And I said, did you end up getting it? And she said, we did not get it. We were not going to be the boring couple because they were kind of like a cool couple out on a date because they have, like, kids and they're going out. But, like, how? And I. I was like, well, that's so funny. I wish that kid was my waiter. And she was like, he was like 35.

[B]

I don't think. I don't think I would want a kid waiter talking to me about missionary sex. Okay, well, I think it's better that he was 30. I don't want a teenager being like, this one's like the missionary.

[A]

Isn't that hilarious?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

But also, like, funny. Not selling the dish.

[B]

No, not at all.

[A]

Where were we?

[B]

Well, you're crashing out.

[A]

I'm crashing out. But I have to say this too. Before I crash out, one of the things that twists my ties. What did I say? Gets my ties all twisted and yucks. Your yum yum is when you have something that you're looking forward to eating and it's in the fridge and you're like, oh, it's like leftovers. And you're like, I'm going to go have the leftover Chinese food or pizza or whatever. And you open the door and it's gone.

[B]

So you understand why I crashed out with the pineapple when you were looking forward to food. It was a full thing of pineapple. Like, full.

[A]

And if you're like, oh, that juicy pineapple's in the fridge waiting for me. I can't wait to just go eat it. And then you're like, I get it.

[B]

I got home from school in cross country, so I get. He was hot and tired and probably thirsty and pineapples juicy and hydrating and like, yum. And yeah, he ate the entire cut up thing to where I'm like, now, now there's no more. Now there's no.

[A]

I don't.

[B]

Share. Doesn't get any pineapple. I don't get any pineapples to share. When I'd probably pack that in her lunch drawer. Like, I started. I started bringing in. It's true.

[A]

She. She did to your sister. She.

[B]

She had been packing it in her. L. It's gone. And the thing is, there's oranges, apples, bananas in a grocery store.

[A]

Pretty close.

[B]

Yeah. But I said. I looked at him and I said I was crashing out. I said, we need to learn to Diversify our food. Because then it won't just, you know, all disappear in one sitting. You know, like, you can't just like ever take a thing full of everything and eat it all. When you share outs with people.

[A]

Because you're never gonna have roommates when you go to college. Yes.

[B]

Because I'm like, you need like, look, you could have gotten a little bit of pineapple and you could have gotten an apple and then eaten a banana and then gotten all these different nutrients.

[A]

What was. Was he like, mom, are you okay?

[B]

He just looked at me and he was like, okay. Like, it's like he. He's like, I thought you wanted us to eat fruit. And like, I do want them to eat fruit. And yes, I can go get another pineapple. I'm not saying what I did was okay, but as the kids say, I just crashed out a little bit and I did have regret and I did tell him I was sorry. And I said, eat the fruit. I want you to eat the fruit. I said, however, there is something to diversifying the fruit. Like, I really meant that part. Like, don't. Just like. Because they can get fixated on, like, they just go and they need a variety. And then also that keeps me from having to go back to the grocery store. I want to go once a week. You know what? And. And teenage boys, they eat a lot. And so diversify the fruit because then that keeps everybody happy. Now get to the regret on your hair.

[A]

I'm just thinking of Stevenson in therapy, like at 35 years old, being like, one time, diversify the fruit. And now I can't eat a whole apple anymore.

[B]

No, you can eat a whole apple. It'd be like if he opened up the drawer and ate all apples.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Or all the oranges. Cuz he ate all the pineapple.

[A]

Okay, that's funny.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

Okay, what's happening with the hair?

[A]

Okay, so back to about a week ago I got. So I told you this. I was like, I want to shave my head because my hair. I was just having one of those over stimulated moments where like my hair was so long, it was like it didn't really do anything because it was so long and all the same length. And like, you know when your hair gets so long, it's like caught in your armpit and stuff, you know, itching. Yes. Because I had these flyaways. I don't know how, but I got like a chunk of hair cut in the front of my head. You can't see this. Anybody that's listening, but there was a small. Probably 30 strands of hair got, like, cut like that. Don't know how. So they would, like, tickle my forehead.

[B]

Oh. Which I know you just said you can't see this, so I wanted to remind people we are on YouTube, except for not this episode. We're not filming today. Just circumstances because of what I'm talking about right now. Cat didn't want to film because of her hair. Just kidding. Just kidding. We don't have our whole crew here, so it's just Kat and I. So, you know, I know that some of you that do watch us on YouTube, you might be like, wait a second, what happened? But if you haven't subscribed over on YouTube, you can, because we are growing over there, which is so fun to see because most of our loyal people listen via podcast when they're out and about. But YouTube, shout out plug. Okay, keep going here.

[A]

Okay, so my hair was, like, tickling me. So that's what I was. I felt. I was like, there's, like, bugs crawling on my head. That's what it felt like. But I think it was just, like, over stimulation. And if I think about it, I had a lot going on, so I probably was just overwhelmed, and I was taking it out on my hair. Anyway, I got cut, and I probably got 4 inches cut off, which is a lot.

[B]

Yeah, that's a lot.

[A]

And I feel like I have a.

[B]

Bowl cut, but it's still past your shoulders. A bowl cut is way. Like, I know that it's your hair, so you're feeling it, but I'm telling you, as an onlooker, it looks good. But I know that you've been also just trying to take matters into your own hands now, and I think you just need to let it go.

[A]

I did cut a couple things myself.

[B]

Keep cutting it more. Maybe this is deeper because a lot of.

[A]

It's, like, too much change and not enough change at the same time. I don't know. I haven't processed it, which means I probably shouldn't be talking about it right now. But all that to say, I wish I could take 2 inches back on my hair.

[B]

So in a couple of months, 2 inches will grow and that. That's when it will be.

[A]

But I. What I am doing is I. I stopped getting it colored. And this all goes back to. If you guys listen to the hot girl hamster wheel episode where I'm like, why am I coloring my hair? My hair is actually. Not to toot my own horn, but I have a pretty natural hair color.

[B]

Yeah, I think it's really pretty, like, a really pretty brunette.

[A]

And it looks good with my skin tone. So why have I been putting blonde highlights in it? It's just, like, got. I got into this routine of doing it, and so I didn't do that. So I do feel really good about that. And I actually do really like the.

[B]

Color well, so you want to know about cutting the four inches off, though. That helps, like, get a lot of that color off. So this is you just having, like, more of your fresh hair.

[A]

I also don't know how to do my hair. That's another thing. I just don't know how to do my hair at this length anymore because it was long for so long that how I curled it before doesn't work now.

[B]

I'm, like, trying to figure out the metaphor for life here. Like, how?

[A]

Well, you keep thinking I'll keep talking about a metaphor. She asked me if I wanted her to do the wave like I usually do or for her to do the blowout look. And I said, what's the blowout look? And she said, oh, everybody's doing the blowout look now. Why don't we try it? And she did it, and I actually really liked it. And then I did it myself today, and I was like, you look like a second grader and you tried to curl your own hair. I think I just need to practice.

[B]

Is that the metaphor that I need to practice? When you start something new, be patient. Hate on it until you practice.

[A]

You're a beginner. I'm a beginner. Allow me. You're reaching so far, but I'm gonna help you out. You're allowed to be a beginner with things that you've never done before.

[B]

Yeah, that's true.

[A]

Like, I talk about this all.

[B]

You've not styled hair this length.

[A]

Well, I have. I just, like, in times with different hairstyles were cool because I used to always have a top knot. I would cut my hair short and just put it on top knot, and that was, like my thing.

[B]

So why don't you just do that?

[A]

I don't know. I felt like I outgrew the top knot. Maybe next week I'll be wearing a top knot. If I do, just don't say anything about it.

[B]

Is the top knot like the missionary style hairstyles or is it busing?

[A]

I guess we'll have to see. But I have to say this now because you reminded me of it. How a lot of adults have troubled starting new things and trying new things. Because when we're adults, we feel like we have to be automatically good at something. But as kids, if you look back on the things that you I played soccer, I was on the year round swim team even though I couldn't dive into. I did gymnastics, dance, acting classes. I tried everything and did not think twice about it because I was young and I felt like I was allowed to be a beginner and learn. But as adults, we for some reason get embarrassed or feel shame when we're not automatically good at something. And so I ask my clients a lot who are in this space, what's something you would do if you only had to be like 60% good at it? And maybe for me that answer is I would curl my hair a new way.

[B]

Or maybe it's like you don't even have to be good at it. It's just like what would you do if you had if there wasn't this fear attached to it? Because that reminds me of this email I'm about to read and like us relaunching the podcast together because I think for me I had some fear around that. I had excitement because I knew relaunching it with you was gonna be amazing. But also like I had had four things for so many years and had built that and you had you need therapy podcast and we were going to be merging something and like what if it didn't work and then our friendship blew up. Blew up?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Crashed out because you ate all my pineapple or something.

[A]

I will never. Don't worry.

[B]

Well, yeah, because that yucks you're yum too.

[A]

Yeah, you don't want people to eat.

[B]

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[A]

The work is overwhelming, but we had.

[B]

To do it up front. And then now that we're on the other side of it, totally worth it. Maybe because we do have this listener, this listener. Email do youo Feeling Things Podcast I'm a longtime listener and fan of four Things with Amy Brown and enjoy the episodes with Kat. I only listen to podcasts during my evening walks with my dog, and four Things has been my go to pick for years. I've been listening to the new Feeling Things podcast and I'm having a hard time understanding the structure and the overall goal each episode. I feel confused and I have no idea the point of each episode. I want to keep listening, however I find myself waiting for the overall purpose. Can you all explain the structure? I do get that you all pick a feeling word at the beginning of an episode, but after that it seems to go many unknown directions. Thanks, Four Things listener. So, okay, I Get that?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because sometimes I feel confused, too. And I think what for me has been beautiful about this process is stepping into the unknown and the scary at times and not really knowing. And one thing Kat and I wanted was to discuss feelings, which I think in every single episode we do that, like, a variety of different feelings. It may not look, you know, super quote unquote, structured like, oh, we're moving on to this next feeling, but we share a lot from our lives or stories or things that we're watching, Feelings that we're having about everything from a TV show to a book to something that happened to us out in the wild. You know, like recently I talked about a guy hitting on me when I was with my kids. And we've got an email coming up from another listener that's a story sort of similar that happened to her in the wild, which the story is blowing my mind now that I think about it. Like, yes, it took guts for this guy to do what he did. But we'll get to that email in a minute. But also, speaking of these emails we're getting, another thing is the feeling of connection and the connection with y'.

[A]

All.

[B]

So this email we're going to read coming up is from a listener that has interacted with us multiple times. And we don't know her, but we feel like we know her. And while not a lot of us have met in person, some of us maybe have in the past at four things, Live events or something. But our hope is that you. You have a feeling of connection and you feel like you're listening to your friends talk. And so that is our vibe, that is our energy, that is our structure. Now we will have the occasional deep dive, which Kat delivered, our first one ever about Mel Robbins and the Let Them theory. Beautifully done, Kat. People are raving about it or they're feeling.

[A]

Having feelings about it.

[B]

They're having feelings, like, lots of feelings about it. And with that, I'll say we are going to continue to do more deep dives, but we also want to be clear that deep dives are not always going to be about people. They might be about topics or cults or ideas, other things. We're open to requests, so y' all can email us things you would like for us to deep dive on. Hey there. @feelingthingspodcast.com could even be like a trend.

[A]

Like, yes, deep dive on, Labu boos. Yeah, I know what those are.

[B]

Yes, I know what they are, but I wouldn't be interested in that, would you?

[A]

I'm just Saying like a trend that I wouldn't be super interested in. Although I, I am a little confused by it, that I'm intrigued. Not intrigued. Like I want to buy one.

[B]

Yeah, but y' all don't know what Labubus are. They're like these little stuffed animals that clip on bags and they're.

[A]

They look like monsters.

[B]

So expensive.

[A]

They look like monsters. Yeah, but my point in saying that is it could be like some kind of trend that's happening or has happened in the past.

[B]

Oh, that like we don't get.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Maybe I would be into that because it would help me understand, help me understand why people are adults. Or putting these.

[A]

If Firefax just happened, we could do a Deep Dive on Fire festival. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like things that happen in pop culture.

[B]

There will be, you know, but the point, I think offshoots like that. And then there's also going to be series like we've got the Four Horsemen coming up, which I want you to touch on. Again, Cats, A therapist, and this is a mental health minded podcast, I think is how we branded it so it can lean therapy at times. And also, again, we really. Our main goal is Cat and I chatting. And you all feel like you're sitting with your girlfriends and you're having a talk or hey guys, you're here too. Girlfriends, boyfriends.

[A]

Well, also, I'll say, like, just like you're talking with your friends, like, sometimes those conversations are light hearted and fun and silly and random. And sometimes those conversations are more vulnerable and deep and they're about your friend telling you something that they learned or telling you something that is interesting to them. And that's what the structure is, is that the structure is that we have a certain idea of how we interact with each other and we allow whatever is showing up within our friendship in our lives to come here. So when we are sharing something with you, like the Mel Robbins thing or the Four Horsemen, it's because those things have been a value to us or are interesting to us or we've been talking about them or learning about them. So it is. I think the connection piece is huge too, in that.

[B]

Well put.

[A]

Yeah. And the Four Horsemen, if you're like, what is that? It is John Gottman, who is a very famous relationship marriage therapist psycho. I don't know if he's a psychologist and researcher. He's a. Yeah, he's done more research on couples. I mean, he's. If you want to go to. If you want to be a couples therapist, you often are doing The Gottman training. I have not done that. I am not a couples therapist. However, his research found these four things that he uses to determine with 90%.

[B]

Accuracy, which is insane.

[A]

Insane. If a relationship will survive or end. And we're going to split, because there's so much we can say about them. We're going to split those up into four episodes. Either two or four.

[B]

I think four.

[A]

Okay. We'll see how. Because we always are. Like, we'll do both of those in the same episode. And then the episode's five hours long, Right?

[B]

No, I think that we make it one horseman per episode because we may go on tangents.

[A]

Tangents.

[B]

You never know. We might end up talking about dryer balls.

[A]

Yeah. Which is. That's the structure, and that's fun. We're like. We're not so regimented. And I'll say for myself, I have to have a couple different podcasts that are in my rotation, personally, because I like the podcast that is just random and fun and, like, so just out there. And then I like the podcast that you learn from. And then I like the podcasts that are more structured, but I have to have a variety because I can't just do one of those. So we're bringing you all those things into one damn. Kind of. So be looking forward to the Four Horsemen. And again, if you do have something, you're like, we. I want to learn about this. Or my friends have been talking about this. Let us know.

[B]

Hit us up. Yeah. And make sure you're following on Instagram at Feeling Things Podcast and TikTok, because we're gonna do some, like, if you live close to Nashville, in the Nashville area, coming up at the end of September, we've got an event. We're picking people to come to topgolf with us for a charity, for foster care. And, like, we're gonna have a feeling things team, and y' all are gonna be our guests. So it's fun. But those. That's how we can interact and give those slots away. So make sure you're following over there. And we'll be doing that sort of soon. So that way, in case people need to plan, obviously, their calendars and even come. Like, I know some people were saying, oh, I would. I live only a couple hours away, so I would drive. So I know some people need to plan. But community and connection, I think those two words are big for both of us. So we're looking forward to that event so that we can connect with y' all in person, but without the in person. Stuff which hopefully we'll plan more of that in the future. I've been saying that for the last few years. We haven't done a live in a while. But also life has gotten crazy at times. I think that happens to everybody where you have something on your agenda for the year and then you take a look at it later and you're like, this doesn't really make sense for me to put all this work into this right now when I have this happening in life. So I know with Kat and I even making this switch that we have a little bit more flexibility than we had before because now we have it. We're. We're a team and we have a bigger team helping us. But also one of our goals is to do more in person things. So that's part of our plan and we want y' all to know that. Cause so many of you have reached out. When is the next live or I would love to plan for it because I am. I'd fly there, which is so cool to think about. And we want that for y'. All. So just know we're going to be working on something because we love that stuff, too. So thank you for the email. And being confused is good because then you get to ask a question and you get information and then you get to decide for yourself if this is something that you want to keep listening to. And we certainly hope that you do. We love having each and every one of you here, especially our girl Karen, who has emailed me. If you know, you know. But here's what Karen sent us after hearing a recent episode where I shared that a guy, like, gave me his business card while I was with my kids, which someone said. I don't know if it was after they emailed or texted or when I mean, DM'd or sent it to one of us later. But, like, the more shocking part was that he had a business card.

[A]

Why is that shocking?

[B]

A lot of people don't carry business cards anymore, do they?

[A]

You know what? It is shocking because I have business cards and I never have one when I need it.

[B]

Well, maybe you should start carrying around.

[A]

I should start carrying them around.

[B]

All right, here's what Karen wrote. We've been made to believe that saying yes is a good thing. But I've realized there's a big difference between doing it intentionally and doing it unintentionally. Isopure protein helps you focus on more of what matters, like feeling your best every day with great tasting nutrition. That's high protein and also low carb if you need that Isopure fits seamlessly into your lifestyle and that's why I've added it to my daily routine. I use Isopure unflavored protein in recipes like pasta sauce and guacamole during the week. With 25 grams of ultra filtered protein and 0 carbs plus 20 vitamins and minerals, you can boost nearly any recipe without changing the taste of your favorite foods. I've already restocked four times because I add the Isopure Unflavored to everything. You can try the Isopure vanilla to blend 25 grams of protein into your smoothies or your oatmeal. Or check out Isopure Clear protein water with 15 grams of protein, which supports hydration with electrolytes and a light berry flavor. Enjoy more of what matters [e-mail] and get 20% off your order when you use code Fieldtrain20 at checkout. Let's be honest, getting kids to do math can feel impossible. I've had those moments just staring at the homework thinking how did we get here? If that's you, you need to check out Prodigy. It's an online math game kids actually want to play, teaching the same math that they learn in class. Trusted by over 800,000 teachers and voted number one by kids, it's helped over 22 million students and 91% of parents say their kids enjoy it. Head to prodigy.com and get up to 50% a parent membership so that your kids can start learning for less than $5 a month. Learning can be joyful and this is proof right in our house. A top pick for back to school lunches is Boar's Head. It makes packing lunch so easy because my kids don't complain and their lunch boxes come home empty, which is huge. We're big fans of the Maple Honey ham. They love that it's got the perfect hint of sweetness. My fridge is never without it and their American cheese. It's a great combo. On some days though, we keep it simple with a sandwich and other days we may mix it up. Throw in some oven gold turkey or ever roast chicken for wraps or snack boxes. However I use it, Boar's Head just tastes better. Boar's Head has been dedicated to crafting premium deli meats and cheeses for more than 120 years. Premium whole cuts of beef, pork and poultry spices sourced from around the globe. Boar's Head uses only the finest ingredients and time honored recipes, preparing every product with the utmost care. So if you want to level up your Deli game this school year, check out the Boar's Head counter at your local deli. You'll taste the craftsmanship in every bite. Boar's Head committed to craft since 1905, here's what Karen wrote. Hey Amy and Kat, thank you for making me laugh out loud today. While I was listening to Tuesday's episode, I was gardening, so the neighbors probably thought I was crazy. When I lived in Montana a gazillion years ago, I was in line at the grocery store and heard the little girl behind me say to her dad, this thing smells like armpits. I turned around to see what she was talking about. It was a plexiglas divider thing and I laughed. I turned back around and proceeded to start writing out my check to pay for my groceries. Two nights later, I got a call from a guy. It was the dad and he wanted to take me on a date. I must have sounded very confused because he said, I watched you write your phone number on your check. I was 25ish and dumb, so I said yes. But I told my best friend and she insisted on coming with me on the date. Mainly because he was a taxidermist and she had concerns. Lol. Thankfully he was cool with that. Nice guy. But I was in my bar girl era, so dating a single dad was not in alignment with my goals. Every time I remember it though, I do have to give him props for shooting his shot. Your friend Karen. I mean, I am blown away that he creeped on her writing her phone number down and either memorized it or wrote it down himself because I mean, he didn't have a cell phone back then. Like he couldn't like dial it right away so he had to like get that number and he held it for two days and then he called her.

[A]

I am trying to think of the right feeling. I want to say shocked, but I'm more like in awe. In awe. Feels too positive. I'm shocked that that she went or that he did that in multiple ways. That he was first of all close enough and had good enough eyesight. Because I have to be pretty close to somebody to be able to see them writing something like that down.

[B]

Well, Kat, your eyesight is terrible.

[A]

First of, stop attacking me.

[B]

Oh, sorry, sorry.

[A]

Kidding. I'm just kidding. Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see somebody writing their phone number on a check. Also, you have to be staring. Like he is staring. That is bold and I am impressed by him. It sounds like he just really wanted to take this person on a date and maybe didn't want to ask in front of his child. I don't know. But what. Also, as I'm saying this, is that how it happened back then? Because that's wild that you would just see somebody at the grocery store and be like, oh, she's about to write a check. Oh, they write. First of all, she's writing a check at the grocery store. I don't think they even take checks anymore. That he's like, oh, she's about to write a check. I bet she's gonna write her phone number down and then have to stare at it. That's how you did it.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I mean, I met my husband on a dating app.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

He swiped.

[B]

Yeah, things have changed. But, I mean, someone could still do that now if they overhear you say your phone number or something. But I would be like, oh, my gosh, that's kind of creepy.

[A]

But would you be. Would you think it's creepy if it was back then?

[B]

I don't think the time matters. I think when someone does something bold like that, if you're attracted to them or think if there's an attraction, then it's acceptable. If you're not, then you're like, they're a stalker. Weirdo.

[A]

Yeah, I agree. But I do think that extra element of it being back then, that was probably more normalized than it is now. People don't even go up to you in person half the time to ask you out. They'll just, like, go on a dating app.

[B]

So, yeah, I feel like some of that is kind of coming back, though. People are missing that.

[A]

You're just saying that you had it happen twice to you.

[B]

Twice. No, I. Alex. Oh, well, he found me through someone else. Is that the same thing?

[A]

I mean, that's pretty. He also came up and said hi to you.

[B]

Oh, yeah, that's right.

[A]

Yeah, you did. Men coming up to you left and right. Must be nice. You're like, oh, I mean, it's coming back. It's happened to me six times in the past week.

[B]

No, whatever. My current boyfriend did it to me at the grocery store, which. Okay, fine. And then I did. Yeah. I had the business card guy the other day. That's not six times.

[A]

I know, but, like, oh, this is.

[B]

Making me think of that show, though. Well, just going on dates with people and then that guy being a taxidermist, you know, because being scared he might murder you. That show, it's been on Netflix. It's a movie for at least maybe a year or two with Anna Kendrick, Woman of the Hour, where It's based on a true story from back in the day where this woman went on a game show and she was matched with a serial killer because a serial killer went on as one of the contestants. Like, the girl was getting matched with guys. And I tried to start watching it the other night, and I had to turn it off because it was so disturbing. And I can't believe that this is real life and it actually happened. But I've never heard of that. You gotta be careful out there, people. Yeah. And one of his tactics, of course, he had the game show thing, which I never even made it to the part where I saw him on the show. But leading up to it, they show how he starts since this very beginning. So I'm not giving anything away in case you've been looking forward to watching this on Netflix, but it has been up there a while and this is a real story, so maybe you even know what happened. But he was like a nicest guy. And he would take pictures as a photographer of women and it make them feel special. Like one girl, I guess he was like, hey, let's go to this beautiful forest. Like a desert. Like it was in the desert in the middle of nowhere, Right. But beautiful scenery. And now you're out in the middle of nowhere with this man that has a camera. But he. You think he's a photographer and he's taking your photos, and he seems gentle and kind and nice and encouraging and like, you know, like making you feel good in front of the camera. And the next thing you know. So that was his thing. And so kind of like he looked like this nice photographer guy. They'd be like, hey, oh, hold that smile. Oh, you look like you're so cute right there. Hold it, hold it, hold it. And then you. You kind of let your guard down because you're like, oh.

[A]

And then he kills you.

[B]

Yeah, that was his thing. I don't know how many women. But it's called Woman of the Hour, so go watch that if you want to. If you want something lighter but also vulgar, then you can check out Righteous Gemstones on hbo. Max. Cat and I've been talking about that. Which Cat. And our Christians definitely don't watch it with, like, your grandparent type Christians. I don't know that my parents would have been.

[A]

My parents watched it.

[B]

Oh, they. Okay. And they love it.

[A]

They think it's funny. But I did. I don't know if they've seen the last season. And I did tell. I warned them because they thought it was hilarious. I said, if you watch the fourth season, just know they take it a little too far. It just gets weird.

[B]

Yeah, it's a little too real weird. Like there's some stuff where I'm like, okay, could have done without seeing that. Like, I don't need to see that. You don't have to say it that way.

[A]

It's like that and keep making it more ridiculous.

[B]

Yeah, they're making fun of megachurches and megachurch pastors and families and so it's.

[A]

Kind of spot on.

[B]

It's like four seasons. And I started watching it years ago, on and off, and then I was under the weather recently, I guess like a week or two ago, and had a lot of free time and I watched all of it, like season three, season four, and I'm all the way caught.

[A]

You are the one that got me to watch it in the first place.

[B]

Oh, way back in the day. Yeah. Okay. I'm such a heathen. So anyway, check that out on a lighter note because Woman of the hour is definitely heavy.

[A]

I have a question. Not to change the subject.

[B]

No, it's fine. I'd rather stop talking about cereal.

[A]

Well, I'm bringing it back to the email, which we laugh from, Karen. Yes, we laughed out loud when we read this email. It really entertained me. Would you or have you ever gone on a date with a friend? Like, they're going on a date and you just are like, I'm gonna come with you. Because I don't. For whatever reason, have you ever been a third wheel on like a first date?

[B]

On a first date? No. I have had people at my house for my first date when I'm getting picked up. Like friends, like, be here, but not go on the date, but like, be here for the pickup.

[A]

Also, I wonder if it's different now. That's a good idea. That's also. Wait a second.

[B]

What?

[A]

Well, I guess you're dating people that you know through somebody, because if you're just letting a stranger pick you up on a first date, that's wild.

[B]

Well, I did let my current boyfriend pick me up at my house for the first date because we have mutual friends. Yeah, that's the only reason.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. So your first interaction with him is like a 30 minute car ride?

[B]

Yeah, Well, I mean, he picked me up, came to my door, came in, met me, met cryo. Cat was here.

[A]

Were you so nervous? I don't remember this, but then I do it.

[B]

I think I was a little nervous. But remember I was just coming off of the whole lunch with Leslie Debacle Oh. With the other guy. So I was like, yeah, I was in. My therapist was like, you need to adult date. So I'm like, here, look, here I am, I'm out here adult dating. Look at me in a 30 minute car ride to a restaurant. Plus, I was really excited about the restaurant we were going to because I hadn't been there yet and I'd wanted to go, so it was worth a 30 minute drive. And he wasn't that awkward, and I thought it was his car. I didn't know. The car we were in, come to find out later, though, is his dead wife's car. He didn't even bring his car. I'm like, oh, so this is your wife's car that passed away. I shouldn't have said it that way.

[A]

Dead wife's car.

[B]

But, like, that's in my brain. I'm like, wait, this is your. This isn't even your car. Like, you're driving the car that she drove.

[A]

I wonder if you wanted her with him to support her.

[B]

I think this is far away. It gets better. Gas mileage.

[A]

Oh, like, it's not that deep. Well, I was gonna say, I wonder if now because. Because we can share locations with people on our phone, people don't feel the need to, like, go on the date. Like back then, I don't know how many years ago this was, but back then, like, oh, woman, there was power. No.

[B]

Oh, Karen's. Oh, Karen. This was 25 years ago.

[A]

So, okay, so like, you couldn't know where your friend was if they were going on a date with a stranger. So you're like, I'll go with you, but now it's just, would you share your location with me so I can just know if you're okay?

[B]

Exactly. Yes.

[A]

So it's not that right now that would be a little bit more weird because we don't have to, but back then it was probably actually, like, pretty smart.

[B]

Yeah. You're gonna go out with some random guy that's calling you from the grocery store that stalked your number. Yes. That's a good friend. I hope you're still friends with that person. But if you're not, we respect that.

[A]

Because things could have happened.

[B]

Things happen. And Cat and I hope to be friends for a long time, though.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But working together has its challenges. However, we do love our sibi. Don't take that personally. It's just when you work closely with somebody.

[A]

Yeah, right.

[B]

When I said that, you go, but I don't mean that. I just mean I think we have Good systems in play.

[A]

Yeah, I was kind of joking. I don't want you to get good.

[B]

Well, we love that you're here, even if you're confused or you're totally clear on what's happening. Confused or clear? We're here for the connection and community.

[A]

C, C, C, C C. Clear, confused, connection and community. That's us.

[B]

Come as you are.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay. Follow us on Instagram, TikTok feeling things podcast. Like I said, YouTube. I mean, we're everywhere, guys.

[A]

We're everywhere. You can't escape us. Yeah.

[B]

All right, well, we hope you're having the day. The day you need to have.

[A]

Work on that. By.

[B]

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