Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show – "AMY: Feeling Regret… and Explaining the Point of This Podcast"

Date: September 7, 2025
Hosts: Amy & Kat

Episode Overview

This episode of the “Feeling Things” segment, hosted by Amy and Kat, centers around the theme of regret and explores the complex, often nonlinear nature of feeling one’s emotions. The hosts candidly share relatable stories—ranging from heated family moments to questionable hair decisions—while also responding to a listener’s confusion about the podcast’s structure and intention. The episode ultimately frames the show as a space for connection, honest conversation, and emotional processing, clarifying its purpose as a mental health-minded, friendship-driven discussion.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Naming and Facing Regret

• [02:26-08:27] Regret as the Feeling of the Day
  • Kat admits she's feeling "regretful," even if she doesn’t want to (“That’s part of feeling your feelings—they are what they are.”—Kat, [02:33]).
  • Amy jokes about “crashing out” after yelling at her kid for eating all the pineapple—a relatable parenting outburst which led to her own regret.
  • Quote: “As the kids say, I just crashed out a little bit and I did have regret and I did tell him I was sorry.”—Amy, [07:38]
  • Discussion on sharing food, learning to “diversify the fruit,” and the little things that trigger big reactions in family life.

2. Hair Decisions as Emotional Metaphor

• [08:53-13:14] Processing Change with Humor and Honesty
  • Kat describes an overstimulated meltdown that led her to cut four inches off her hair—an act she now partially regrets (“It’s too much change and not enough change at the same time.”—Kat, [10:59]).
  • She reflects on ending hair coloring, referencing a previous episode, and talks about being a beginner at styling her new hair.
  • Amy reframes it as a metaphor: “When you start something new, be patient… You’re allowed to be a beginner with things that you’ve never done before.”—Amy, [12:43]
  • Connection to broader adult anxieties about starting new things and allowing imperfection.

3. The Podcast’s Structure and “Point”

• [19:56-26:54] Responding to Listener Confusion
  • Reading a listener email: A long-time “Four Things” fan is confused by the new “Feeling Things” podcast format and asks for clarity.
  • Amy and Kat explain:
    • They choose a “feeling word” each episode as a starting point but allow conversation to flow naturally.
    • The aim is a sense of connection and authenticity—“like you’re listening to your friends talk.” (“That is our vibe, that is our energy, that is our structure.”—Amy, [21:58])
    • There will be occasional “deep dives” (e.g., Mel Robbins’ ‘Let Them Theory’ [22:41-23:07]) and forthcoming themed series (e.g., “The Four Horsemen” based on John Gottman’s relationship research [25:08-25:56]).
    • They encourage listeners’ topic suggestions and reiterate that both silly and serious subjects have a place.

4. Connection, Vulnerability, and Community

• [26:54-29:36] How the Show Builds Community
  • Emphasis on “connection and community” as guiding values (“We love having each and every one of you here, especially our girl Karen…”—Amy, [29:16])
  • Promotion of upcoming in-person events and reinforcing the idea that all listeners—confused or clear—are welcome (“Come as you are.”—Amy, [43:22])

5. Stories from Listeners—Flirting in the Wild

• [29:36-39:49] Listener Email Sparks 90s Dating Nostalgia and True Crime Tangents
  • “Karen” shares a story about a grocery store encounter where a man got her number off her check and asked her out (he was a taxidermist, her friend even tagged along on the date).
  • Cat and Amy marvel at the boldness and borderline creepiness of this move—and how times (and safety norms) have changed.
  • Quote: “Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see someone writing their number on a check. Also, you have to be staring. Like, he is staring. That is bold and I am impressed by him.”—Kat, [34:41]
  • Conversation takes a true crime detour, referencing the Netflix film “Woman of the Hour,” about a real-life serial killer who went on a dating game show. Amy muses on risk, trust, and safety, both then and now.

6. Friendship, Working Together, and Show Mission

• [42:39-End] Navigating Friendship and Podcast Partnership
  • Reflections on the challenges and joys of working closely as friends.
  • Final encouragement for listener engagement through social platforms and reiteration that both “confused and clear” listeners are wanted.

Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• Amy on regret over fruit:
  “As the kids say, I just crashed out a little bit and I did have regret and I did tell him I was sorry. And I said, eat the fruit. I want you to eat the fruit.” [07:38]

• Kat on new beginnings:
  “You’re allowed to be a beginner with things that you’ve never done before.” [12:43]

• Listener Email—on podcast format:
  “I feel confused and I have no idea the point of each episode. I want to keep listening; however, I find myself waiting for the overall purpose.” [19:58]

• Amy’s response:
  “That is our vibe, that is our energy, that is our structure. Now we will have the occasional deep dive… But our main goal is Kat and I chatting. And you all feel like you’re sitting with your girlfriends and you’re having a talk.” [21:58]

• Kat on quirky dating memory:
  “Regardless, you have to be pretty close to see somebody writing their phone number on a check. Also, you have to be staring. Like he is staring. That is bold and I am impressed by him.” [34:41]

• Amy, summing up the show’s spirit:
  “Confused or clear? We’re here for the connection and community.” [43:03]

Important Segments & Timestamps

| Timestamp | Topic |
|-------------|--------------------------------------------|
| 02:26-08:27 | Opening feelings: regret and parenting snafus |
| 08:53-13:14 | Kat’s hair saga: Bodily autonomy, regret, metaphors | | 19:56-26:54 | Explaining the podcast’s “point” and format | | 29:36-39:49 | Listener email on old-school dating, true crime detour | | 42:39-43:31 | Friendship & structure wrap-up |

Tone & Language

• Warm, humorous, honest, and vulnerable
• Real-life, unfiltered conversations between friends
• Dips into playful banter, self-deprecation, and pop-culture tangents
• Invitation to listener participation and feedback

Takeaway

This episode of “Feeling Things” is a candid, laughter-filled exploration of regret, change, and why it’s okay to be messy or confused as you navigate life and relationships. The show’s lack of strict structure is intentional; its “point” is to create a space—and a community—where all feelings and stories, big or small, are welcome.

“Come as you are. Confused or clear. Connection and community—that’s us.” [43:22]