Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show Episode: AMY: How Angry Are You? (Mild, Medium, or Hot) + Things That Defeat ADHD Brains & More
Release Date: June 29, 2025
Host: Amy Brown and Kat
Description: In this episode of "The Bobby Bones Show," Amy and Kat delve into understanding and managing anger, particularly through the lens of ADHD. They share personal anecdotes, coping strategies, and offer insights into navigating everyday challenges faced by those with ADHD. Additionally, they engage with listener questions and voicemails, providing thoughtful advice and fostering a supportive community.

1. Understanding Anger: The Salsa Spectrum

Timestamp: [02:14] – [07:25]

Amy and Kat introduce the central theme of the episode: exploring the different intensities of anger. Kat compares anger to salsa, categorizing it into mild, medium, and hot levels.

• Mild Anger:
  "Like frustrated, annoyed." ([03:00])

• Medium Anger:
  "Mad, upset, pissed off." ([03:02])
  Kat expresses discomfort with the term "pissed off," highlighting personal nuances in experiencing anger.

• Hot Anger:
  "Enraged." ([03:16])
  Kat clarifies that while she feels intense frustration, it doesn't reach pure rage.

Kat shares her experience of waking up angry and using journaling as a coping mechanism. She emphasizes the therapeutic nature of free-flow writing, stating, "Whatever was coming to my brain, I wrote it." ([04:21])

Notable Quote:
"Sometimes the best thing you can do is just out and feel things." — Kat ([01:59])

2. Personal Anecdotes: The Hottest Shot in the World

Timestamp: [07:36] – [09:37]

Kat recounts a vivid story about losing a bet and taking the "hottest shot in the world," an experience that pushed her anger and physical limits.

• Experience Details:
  Kat describes the physical aftermath of the shot: "my face was burning," and having to pour milk over her face to alleviate the heat. ([07:44])

• Reflection:
  She connects this ordeal to managing anger, illustrating how unaddressed anger can escalate into unhealthy situations.

Notable Quote:
"If you don't feel it when you suppress anger, it doesn't disappear. It's still there." — Kat ([12:16])

3. Coping Strategies: Embracing Creativity

Timestamp: [14:12] – [17:22]

Amy discusses how creativity serves as an antidote to anxiety and anger. She shares her journey into making necklaces as a therapeutic activity.

• Creative Outlets:
  Amy details her venture into crafting, "I went and I got all the supplies to make these. And it, I literally sat at my kitchen table from probably 9am to 3." ([15:24])

• Benefits:
  Engaging in creative hobbies helps channel her emotions constructively and provides a sense of accomplishment.

Notable Quote:
"Creativity is the opposite of anxiety." — Amy ([15:24])

4. Navigating ADHD: Daily Challenges and Solutions

Timestamp: [19:41] – [44:58]

Amy and Kat discuss various aspects of living with ADHD, highlighting specific challenges and the strategies they employ to overcome them.

• Time Management:
  Kat shares her progress in being punctual, "I am going to be ready on time. And this is so great, and I'm proud of myself." ([21:20])
  Amy contrasts her own experiences with deadlines and timing, mentioning, "Why would you put yourself in that situation?" ([30:11])

• Car Maintenance:
  Both hosts admit difficulties in routine tasks like changing oil and dealing with car issues, emphasizing avoidance and procrastination as common hurdles.

• Returning Items:
  Kat and Amy talk about the struggle with returning online purchases, illustrating the overwhelming nature of seemingly simple tasks.

• Grocery Shopping and Paperwork:
  They delve into the complexities of planned shopping and handling paperwork, with Kat noting, "Filling out any paperwork... feels harder than it should." ([39:10])

• Exercise and Routines:
  The conversation touches on maintaining fitness routines amidst ADHD challenges, including unconventional activities like face fitness and using vibrating plates.

Notable Quotes:
"Journaling could be the opposite of... that's creative." — Amy ([17:09])
"It's tricky because... we're not trying to do it on purpose." — Kat ([28:17])

5. Listener Engagement: Emails and Voicemails

Timestamp: [52:00] – [59:37]

Amy and Kat interact with their audience by addressing listener-submitted questions and voicemails.

• Email Inquiry:
  A listener asks about approaching a potential romantic interest who doesn’t recognize her despite shared activities.
  Advice:
  Amy and Kat suggest open communication, "Say something. Say it in the app." ([57:04])

• Voicemail from Shannon:
  Shannon shares her experience with workplace discrimination and seeks guidance.
  Advice:
  Kat emphasizes the importance of clarity: "Just pause and ask that simple question. Could you elaborate?" ([59:28])

Notable Quote:
"If you need clarity around something, just pause and ask that simple question." — Kat ([59:28])

6. Embracing Strengths and Seeking Support

Timestamp: [41:39] – [43:46]

The hosts highlight the importance of leveraging personal strengths and the support systems available to individuals with ADHD.

• Agency and Support:
  Kat acknowledges the role of her partner in managing tasks: "Shannon's in the room, so I feel like I need to acknowledge it. And she definitely helps make a lot of my paperwork." ([39:22])

• Self-Compassion:
  They encourage listeners to understand their unique strengths and not to strive for perfection, fostering a sense of community and acceptance.

Notable Quote:
"We all want to be remembered, and it feels good." — Kat ([43:24])

Conclusion

In this episode, Amy Brown and Kat provide an insightful exploration of anger management, particularly through the challenges posed by ADHD. They offer practical coping mechanisms such as journaling and engaging in creative activities, share personal stories that resonate with listeners, and emphasize the importance of seeking support and embracing one's strengths. Through relatable anecdotes and compassionate advice, the hosts foster a supportive environment for individuals navigating similar struggles.

Final Notable Quote:
"If you don't feel it when you suppress anger, it doesn't disappear. It's still there. You might as well use it in a way that's helpful for you." — Kat ([12:24])

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