Podcast Summary: "FEELING THINGS: Does the Process Know We’re Trusting It? (3 Things That’ll Help You Keep Going)"

The Bobby Bones Show / Feeling Things with Amy & Kat

Date: January 25, 2026

Episode Overview

In this episode of "Feeling Things," co-hosts Amy and Kat dive deep into the anxieties of waiting, the mystery behind "trusting the process," and everyday strategies to keep moving forward through uncertainty. Using their own friendship mishaps, therapy revelations, and a blend of humor and vulnerability, they explore how to cope with anticipatory anxiety, make peace with not having all the answers, and the importance of taking things step by step. Listeners also get practical advice—“three things to help you keep going”—and a dose of camaraderie in navigating life’s messy in-betweens.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Anticipatory Anxiety & the Power of Communication

Amy and Kat’s back-and-forth centers around a simple but anxiety-inducing text message, highlighting how easily miscommunication can spiral into worry—or even relief.

• Amy texts Kat: “I have something to run by you—maybe a dinner convo”
• Kat’s reaction (03:21–06:17):
  • Feels a heavy weight, imagining worst-case scenarios
  • Compares Amy’s message to the classic “call me” text from a parent
  • Internal spiraling: “Who in our family has died?...Why can't you just text me?” (05:17, Kat)
  • Discusses practicing calmness, trust, and pausing before jumping to conclusions
• Amy’s intent:
  • Makes notes so she won’t forget, not realizing the anxiety it causes
  • Insight: “If I tell you, I’m sending you into panic mode...” (07:15, Amy)

Notable Quote:

"Maybe we need another, like, thing for this. Like, ‘Hey, I need to talk to you about something. NBD, no big deal.’”
— Kat (08:06)

2. Trusting the Process: Does It Know We’re Trusting It?

The hosts share therapy wisdom and relatable memes about "trusting the process," poking fun at how futile it can sometimes feel.

• Amy’s Therapy Revelation (10:19–11:53):
  • Discusses the popular meme: “Does the process know we are trusting it?”
  • Talks about working through fear with her therapist, eventually accessing “a little clarity”
  • Her therapist notes Amy often “works her way from fear to wisdom”
  • Suggestion: pause, reflect, let wisdom surface
• “Play the Tape Through” (12:01–13:32):
  • Kat explains a therapy tool: imagining the worst-case scenario to its end, seeing you can handle it
  • Example: Facing a challenging situation by visualizing each step, ultimately realizing “I got this”
• Advice on Overwhelm (13:43–14:50):
  • Break daunting tasks/goals down into bite-sized pieces: “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.”
  • Ask: “What’s the next right thing I can do today or this minute?”

Notable Quotes:

"Does the process even know we’re trusting it?"
— Amy (10:51)

"How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time."
— Kat (14:31)

3. Three Things That Help You Keep Going

Practical steps discussed to help when you’re in the thick of uncertainty or self-doubt:

1. Break It Down:

   • Focus on the next right step—by week, day, hour, or even minute
   • “Some people might need to go down to the minute. That’s okay.” (15:01, Kat)

2. Small Wins Matter:

   • Practice tackling little tasks you’ve been putting off (e.g., sending an email)
   • Build confidence and prove to your brain that you’re capable
   • “Every time you do a little thing you’ve been putting off, you’re giving your brain a gift.” (15:04, Amy)

3. Borrow Hope:

   • When your own hope or confidence is low, lean on others’ stories or encouragement
   • Kat shares how hearing about others moving on from heartbreak gave her hope after a breakup (23:53–25:00)

Notable Quote:

"Sometimes you may need to borrow hope from someone else...I might, if I don’t have that hope in the moment, borrow it from you."
— Amy (19:32–20:26)

4. Capability, All-or-Nothing Thinking & Accepting Help

The hosts reflect on their struggle with self-doubt and the myth of self-sufficiency.

• Kat’s Story:
  • Embarrassed not knowing how to create an Excel doc for taxes
  • Father-in-law’s advice: “That’s okay, I don’t know anything about being a therapist. That’s why you’re a therapist and I’m a tax accountant.” (18:40, Kat)
  • Lesson: Needing help doesn’t mean you’re not capable
• Amy’s Reflection:
  • Realizing her fear often stems from old stories and that, in reality, she’s done plenty: buying a house, raising kids etc. (16:41–17:14)

5. Letting Go of Control & Moving Forward Without Clarity

Both hosts emphasize the challenge and importance of acting without knowing the full path.

• Amy’s Therapy Nugget (30:20–31:55):
  • “You have to keep moving forward without clarity…sometimes you have to borrow someone else’s hope, but you just do the next right thing.”
  • Uses “creative solution goggles” instead of “fear goggles” to see problems differently (32:27–34:03)
  • Gabby Bernstein’s mantra: “I’m open to creative solutions.”
  • Sometimes, solutions show up disguised as ordinary opportunities (“the Lord sent a boat and a helicopter” story, 33:30)

Notable Quote:

"You have to move forward to the next right thing, the next right step, without full clarity of what’s ahead."
— Amy (30:53)

6. On Acronyms, Community, and Borrowing Joy

They lighten things up by discussing their own “Feeling Things” dictionary of acronyms (e.g., NBD, ETO, CSG, FGS, LGs, WTW), misadventures with Facebook groups, and the power of shared moments—even in heartbreak or nostalgia for high school days (35:44–61:27).

• Practical Example:
  • Kat’s saga trying to join a neighborhood Facebook group, using small steps as a metaphor for life
  • Amy calling out the importance of “intentional action” even when results aren’t guaranteed

7. Therapy, Parenting, and Processing the Past

Vulnerability surfaces as Amy talks about childhood, fear of not being capable, and “passive parenting.” They reflect on how upbringing and boundaries shape confidence and readiness for real life (53:15–60:27).

• Amy’s Therapy Reflection:
  • Addressing feelings about her dad: “I think, in that moment…being a parent now, I was taking on humility…he didn’t really want me to know how hard things were.” (52:09–53:15)
  • Recognizes that not having responsibility (gas card, bills, etc.) may have affected her ability to handle adulthood stresses
• Kat’s Insight:
  • Sometimes what we think is helping our kids may actually hold them back—need for boundaries, consequences, work ethic (56:54–58:12)

Timestamps for Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment Description | |-----------|--------------------| | 03:21–06:17 | Anxiety from mysterious “we need to talk” texts; fears and assumptions | | 10:19–11:53 | “Trusting the process”—therapy revelations, memes, and moving away from fear | | 12:01–13:32 | “Play the tape through” as a cognitive tool for anxiety and decision-making | | 13:43–14:50 | Bite-sized steps and the “elephant” proverb | | 15:04–16:41 | Small wins, building capability, data vs. story | | 19:32–20:26 | “Borrowing hope” from others | | 23:53–25:00 | Using others’ stories to get through tough times (breakup example) | | 30:20–31:55 | Moving forward without clarity, “borrowed hope” revisited | | 32:27–34:03 | “Creative solution goggles” vs. “fear goggles”; embracing new perspectives | | 35:44–36:43 | The “Feeling Things” dictionary & acronyms | | 52:09–53:15 | Deep therapy moment—processing parental humility, memories, and lessons | | 56:54–58:12 | Reflection on passive vs. active parenting and its impact |

Memorable Quotes

• "Does the process even know we’re trusting it?"
  — Amy (10:51)

• "Maybe we need another, like, thing for this. Like, ‘Hey, I need to talk to you about something. NBD, no big deal.’"
  — Kat (08:06)

• "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time."
  — Kat (14:31)

• "Sometimes you may need to borrow hope from someone else."
  — Amy (19:32)

• "You have to move forward to the next right thing, the next right step, without full clarity of what’s ahead."
  — Amy (30:53)

Tone & Style

Conversational, funny, confessional, and honest. Amy and Kat freely share both wisdom and insecurities, leveraging humor (“creative solution goggles!” “fear goggles!”), personal anecdotes, and practical advice that feels genuinely accessible. Their rapport is warm and supportive—a model of friendship where vulnerability and encouragement go hand in hand.

Final Takeaways

• Anticipatory anxiety is normal, but you can manage it by communicating clearly and not assuming the worst.
• Trusting the process is both a leap of faith and a series of small actions—focus on the next step, not the whole path.
• You don’t have to do it all alone—borrowing hope or assistance doesn’t make you less capable.
• Breaking big problems into next-right-steps keeps overwhelm at bay.
• Changing your lens (i.e., creative solutions instead of fear) can unlock new opportunities.
• Letting go of control and moving forward without certainty is hard but often necessary.
• Self-compassion, community, and humor are invaluable companions in the journey.

For anyone feeling bogged down by uncertainty or self-doubt, Amy and Kat offer both a practical roadmap and a reminder: the process may not "know" you’re trusting it, but you can still keep going—one tiny step, or borrowed hope, at a time.