Podcast Summary: The Bobby Bones Show — "FEELING THINGS: When You’re Feeling Judged, Consider the Source (Also: Labia Changes No One Talks About)"

Date: November 23, 2025
Hosts: Amy & Kat

Episode Overview

This episode of "The Bobby Bones Show" (Feeling Things with Amy and Kat) explores themes of judgment, self-worth, societal expectations, and the importance of listening to credible sources. The hosts also address lesser-discussed women’s health issues, like changes to the labia with age, in a candid, humorous segment. The conversation flows naturally from personal anecdotes and deep reflections to playful tangents and practical advice.

Key Topics & Discussion Points

1. Feeling Empowered & Considering the Source (02:45–12:40)

• Empowerment through validation: Amy starts by reflecting on a recent compliment and discusses how it's often hard to accept genuine praise.
• Fashion chat: The hosts riff on crew neck sweaters and layering tips, highlighting everyday self-expression and confidence.
• Notable quote: "When you're feeling judged and get down on yourself, consider the source. Is the source qualified to be giving judgment?" — Amy (08:11)
• Discussion: The importance of evaluating where feedback and criticism originate, especially when the source may not be an expert or even know your story.

2. Information Credibility, China’s Online Law, and Social Media (09:15–12:46)

• Kat discusses China's new law requiring influencers to have credentials to talk about topics like medicine, law, or finance.
• Amy considers the pros and cons of such rules, weighing the balance between combatting misinformation and censorship.
  • “I think part of that can be very helpful…there are plenty of certifications that don't require you to go to grad school to be able to speak on certain things.” — Amy (12:38)
• Kat reflects on her own habit of taking advice from random internet personalities vs. Amy’s more skeptical, credential-oriented approach.

3. Societal Pressures & The Definition of Success (13:26–16:29)

• Amy recalls a study: While less than 10% of Americans define success by status (career, money), the majority believe others do.
  • “We end up chasing things that we don’t actually even think matter.” — Amy (14:18)
• The hosts discuss how these misperceptions drive behaviors, leading to insecurity and the fear of judgment or failure.

4. The Regrets of the Dying & The Call to Authenticity (16:25–27:08)

• Amy references Bronnie Ware’s “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying,” focusing on the wish to have lived true to oneself rather than to others’ expectations.
• Kat shares her personal story about her mother’s hospice experience, illuminating the realities and misconceptions around hospice and end-of-life care.
• Notable regrets highlighted:
  • “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
  • “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
  • “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
  • “I wish I’d stayed in touch with my friends.”
  • “I wish I’d let myself be happier.”
• “If people who are dying are saying this, we know it’s important.” — Amy (27:08)

5. “Consider the Source” & Handling Criticism (28:22–28:36)

• The hosts create a shorthand for “Consider the Source”—C.T.S.—as a mental check for dealing with unwanted criticism or online negativity.
• Lighthearted riff about "Cindy Lou Who" as a placeholder for anonymous internet critics.

6. Childhood Boldness vs. Adult Fear (30:22–35:28)

• Amy and Kat recount their childhood experiences trying new activities (cheerleading, student government) with little self-judgment.
• Amy notes adults often place greater expectations on themselves, which inhibits risk-taking and trying new things.
  • “If you only had to be 60% good at something, what would you do?” — Amy (33:41)
  • They encourage listeners to pursue interests without the pressure of perfection.

7. Inventions, Persistence, and Success Stories (36:03–41:30)

• Kat shares her idea for a new head/neck sleep product and references Sarah Blakely (Spanx) and inventors who faced rejection before massive success.
• Amy quotes Thomas Edison: "Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."
• Discussion of Shark Tank stories and recent high-profile business successes, like Poppy being sold to Pepsi.

8. Social Media Success & The Importance of Just Trying (56:08–61:07)

• Amy and Kat’s TikTok video goes viral; they reflect on the unpredictability of online algorithms and the importance of letting go of control or hyper-curation.
  • “You just go forward posting all the videos with just no fear. That’s the whole point of this episode.” — Amy (61:07)

9. Raw Dogging Boredom (44:46–47:40)

• Kat introduces the Gen Z trend "raw dogging boredom" (a.k.a. "radical downtime"): intentionally sitting with boredom and zero stimulus to increase creativity and problem-solving.
• Amy, as a therapist, laughs at potentially recommending "raw dogging boredom" vs. "radical downtime" to clients.

10. Listener Segment – Labia Changes & Women's Health (65:33–68:09)

• The hosts play a voicemail from listener Melissa (66:43), confirming labia shrinkage with age and sharing tips about estrogen cream for reversing changes:
  • “No one ever mentioned it. So I just wanted to set the record straight and tell you that it does happen, but you can also reverse it by using estradiol cream.” — Listener Melissa (67:20)
• Kat and Amy celebrate normalizing these conversations and providing space for tips women might not otherwise hear.

11. Vulnerability and Relationship Growth (69:45–72:00)

• Kat describes helping her boyfriend with speechwriting, demonstrating support and referencing advice from Alex Cooper (Call Her Daddy) on co-working in relationships.

12. Regional Communication Quirks — “O” vs. “Zero” (72:14–74:49)

• Listener voicemail reveals Texans often say “O” for zero, sparking a tangent about dialects and phone numbers.

13. Closing Thoughts – Permission to Try (74:28–77:07)

• Amy and Kat reiterate the episode’s theme: give yourself permission to try new things, regardless of potential judgment or failure.
  • “If you’ve been wanting to try something… try it.” — Kat (74:51)
• Fun wrap-up about “Pilates princesses,” stars, and encouraging listeners to step out of their comfort zones.

Notable Quotes & Moments

• “When you're feeling judged and get down on yourself, consider the source.”
  • Amy (08:11)
• “We end up chasing things that we don’t actually even think matter.”
  • Amy (14:18)
• “If people who are dying are saying this, we know it’s important.”
  • Amy on Bronnie Ware’s regrets of the dying (27:08)
• “If you only had to be 60% good at something, what would you do?”
  • Amy (33:41)
• “Raw dogging boredom” vs. “radical downtime”
  • Kat & Amy riff on the Gen Z trend (44:53–47:40)
• “No one ever mentioned it. So I just wanted to set the record straight and tell you that it does happen, but you can also reverse it by using estradiol cream.”
  • Listener Melissa (67:20)
• “You just go forward posting all the videos with just no fear. That’s the whole point of this episode.”
  • Amy (61:07)
• “If you’ve been wanting to try something… try it.”
  • Kat (74:51)

Key Timestamps

• 02:45 – "Feeling Things" segment and opening banter
• 08:11 – The essential quote on considering the source of judgment
• 09:15 – Discussion on credential requirements for influencers in China
• 13:26 – Statistics on perceived vs. actual definitions of success
• 16:25 – Bronnie Ware’s “Regrets of the Dying” and what truly matters
• 28:22 – Creating “C.T.S.” (Consider the Source) as a personal mantra
• 33:41 – The 60% good rule for trying new things
• 36:03 – Invention stories and the importance of persistence
• 44:46 – "Raw dogging boredom" explained
• 66:43 – Listener voicemail: Fact-checking labia changes
• 74:28 – Final advice and encouragement

Tone & Style

Lighthearted, open, supportive, and conversational, with frequent jokes and tangents that humanize the hosts while still diving into meaningful, at times vulnerable, topics.

For New Listeners

Expect brainstorms, relatable anecdotes, and honest conversations about mental health, societal norms, body image, and empowering yourself to try or be something new—topped with humor and an atmosphere of friendship. The discussion is both informative and validating, aimed at reminding listeners to reject unqualified judgment and live for themselves.