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Happy Thursday. Four things Amy here and if you have adhd, you're going to enjoy this episode. But even if you don't, you might find some of the things I'm going to talk about helpful. Kat and I were talking the other day about how there's this perception that everyone has ADHD on socials, and while that's not the case, not everyone has it. Sometimes it it can feel that way, and I gotta say, some people are definitely just using it for engagement. But regardless, the increased awareness and discussion around ADHD is helpful, so that's good, I guess. Misinformation aside, I don't like when people don't know what they're talking about and they're putting things up. But something that made me laugh and also made me feel very seen this week was a post put up by Alex Partridge. He's the founder of Lad Bible and of ADHD Chatter, which is a podcast dedicated to, well, ADHD. And he quickly ran through 15 lies that people with ADHD keep telling themselves. And it is so accurate. Like painfully accurate. Even if you don't have adhd, you'll likely relate to at least a few of these. And I'm going to go through Alex's list and then share my own thoughts around the lie. Now, the first lie is I'll take a screenshot and look at it later. Here's the deal. We're not going to look at it later. I checked my phone before I sat down to record and I have 6,528 screenshots in my phone. I picked some at random to share with you. That way they aren't just wasted screenshots just sitting in my phone for no reason. On June 3rd of last year, I have a screenshot. It's a picture of a frog and it says female frogs fake their own death to avoid mating with males they don't like. Now I'm pretty sure I took that screenshot for Fun Fact Friday on the Bobby Bones show, so it probably didn't totally go to waste. But I have a lot of fun facts screenshots throughout my phone that I know I have forgotten about and not gone back to for the show. On November 3rd of last year, I took a screenshot of a post that was put up about turning your phone to grayscale because it can help our mental health. Grayscale makes scrolling less addictive for our brains, the screenshot said. It directly impacts your brain's primal urge to scroll. Less scrolling equals better mental health. And then the post said more in caption but I didn't screenshot the caption so I don't have the more part for you. Those are two that are from last year. But then I got curious like what some of the older screenshots on my phone might be. So I scrolled all the way back to the very first screenshot that is on this current phone that I have and it is from December 28, 2015 and it's a recipe for no Bake Almond Flax Balls. Now I'm not even sure where it's from because all I can see is the recipe and the ingredients and I'm going to share it with you right now in case you want to make them, but I have no idea if they're good because I do not recall if I ever even made these balls back in 2015. What you need is one cup of dry old fashioned oats, a fourth, a cup of dark chocolate chips, a half a cup of almond butter, a half a cup of ground flaxseed, a third of a cup of raw honey, and a teaspoon of vanilla. Those are kind of like cat's protein balls. I mean, Ish doesn't have the protein powder and maybe she has some other things but she recently posted her recipe at Van Buren is her handle. If you want to go try hers. They are so good you can go to her page now. You can take a screenshot of the recipe and then you can never go back to the screenshot and maybe never make them because that is what we do Another screenshot that I'll share with you that might be of use to you is a screenshot that I took on October 25, 2019. It's a post from the Brain Coach. They put up something on Instagram titled signs you might be projecting. Sign number one, you overreact to something you're insecure or shameful about. Sign number two, you tell someone else they can't achieve a goal because you feel incompetent in achieving it. Sign three, you express other people make you uncomfortable when it's really you who feels socially anxious around others. Sign four, you believe someone hates you when you're the one who has strong dislike for that person. And the fifth sign you criticize or hate someone for their appearance when it is you who is deeply insecure about that specific flaw. Now that one was back from 2019. We went all over the place. We had 2015. I do have a screenshot from yesterday that's more current and relevant because Mel Robbins recently released her book the Let Them Theory and my sister mailed me a copy and I started reading it. But I had googled something yesterday and I guess I took a screenshot of it and it says here let them think negative thoughts about me is a phrase associated with Mel Robbins Let them Theory, which encourages individuals to detach from the need to control what others think about them. Essentially saying let them have their opinion and focus on managing your own actions and reactions instead of worrying about others perceptions. So boom, look at me using a screenshot I just took yesterday. I'm already sharing it with y'all. I'm putting it to good use. But yeah, that's the first lie. I'll take a Screenshot and I will look at it later. You're not going to look at it. Second lie. A new notebook will solve all of my problems. Okay, this one is 100% true for me. A very true lie. The joy of a fresh notebook, it just feels so good. But somehow before I use up the entire journal, like the whole magic of it has completely worn off. And now it's just this other notebook and a pile of all these half used journals that I swear I'm going to get back to and I never do. And if you're like me and this lie hits home, we need to challenge ourselves to not buy any new notebooks until we finish the notebook that we currently have. Right now. For some reason I am literally journaling in two different notebooks. I have no idea why. Actually three, because I have my gratitude journal that I also work through. So yeah, three different journals for me right now. Some days I guess it's just whichever one is closest to me, depending on if I'm journaling in my room or the living room. And I need to stick with one at a time and resist from buying a new one. So repeat after me. A new notebook will not solve all of my problems. Do not need to buy another one. I need to stick with one journal at a time. Lie number three, I need to buy some top tier professional gear because this hobby will stay in my life forever. This one actually makes me think of Kat more than myself. I mean, she just bought all of this nail stuff, but I gotta say she's definitely committed. Like she's doing so many people's nails. She's really good at it and she's enjoying it. I've started a lot of hobbies in my days, but I think this is the one that I least relate to because I don't necessarily buy a bunch of stuff and go all in and think I'm gonna do it forever. I think I've accepted that it's probably going to be short lived and it's kind of kept me from jumping into other hobbies because I'm like, I'm probably just gonna give up on this so I'm not gonna do it. But Kat, she goes all in on her hobbies. I'm definitely curious to see how long the nail salon out of her kitchen lobby goes. How long it lasts. Lie number four, I'll remember this person's name. Now names are in and out of my head in less than a few seconds. I done the trick where I try to say it out loud three times like in the Conversation. Like that's what they say you're supposed to do. Like if someone says, hey, I'm Katie, be like, oh, it's nice to meet you, Katie. And then at some point in the conversation, so Katie, where are you from? And then later in the conversation you maybe say like, oh, okay, Katie, it was nice to meet you. So there you go. That's an example of using a name three times, but I never make it to the three times because I forget it before I can even get it out. I will say I found some Brain gym exercises on YouTube that are supposed to be helpful when you're meeting someone new. Like, you discreetly can do these little exercises with your hands that will help you remember their name. Like if you're moving your hands and fidgeting them a certain way. I just can't ever remember to start doing the exercise with my hands when I'm meeting someone. So I haven't really been able to try that out. Lie 5 I'll put that pile of clothes away later on. Now, for me, I'm a pretty tidy person, but I definitely start to form piles and it annoys me so much. I hate that I am this way. I hate they're neat piles, but they are still piles. And I don't want to be this way. I just want to put stuff up right away and stop with the piles. You know, they get put away eventually. But is that eventually like a week or is it three weeks? I just add to the piles. Again, I'm tidy about it. Like, the piles will be neat. Like, I'll even spend time tidying up the piles and the time tidying the piles could be spent putting the piles away. But I just procrastinate that for some reason it makes zero sense. Lie 6 I definitely have enough time to buy a coffee before work. Now, I want y'all to understand, especially if you have someone in your life that has ADHD and you do not understand how they are the way they are with time. Adhd, time blindness is real. And if you have adhd, you know that you will convince yourself that there is time to do X, Y, Z when there is just not time. So pro tip, something I have to do is I have to build in buffer time. It is your best friend. Have your people lie to you about time, lie to yourself about time. Build in that buffer time because you need it. Set a timer. Make sure you got clocks around. Check the map. See how long it's going to take you to get somewhere. We just have to start being proactive about this sort of stuff because we need to be on time now. Work. I am always on time to work because I have fear built into me. If we are late to the Bobby Bones show, we are sent home. So I'm reacting out of fear. Other areas in my life, I don't have that fear. So I don't know. My time blindness kicks back in, and I just never tend to make it somewhere on time. I do try to be respectful if it is work or, like, someone's event, but if there's any leeway for me to be a little bit late, well, I end up late. Lie number seven. I'll just save this to my desktop and I'll organize it later.