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This is an iHeart podcast.
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Guaranteed Human the best bits of the week with Morgan, Part one. Behind the scenes with a member of the show.
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What's up, Everybody? And happy 2026. Mike D. What's up? Hey. New Year feels crazy because we are currently recording this in 2025.
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Feels like the old year.
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It is the old year for us. But in this moment, you're hearing this. It is a happy 2026. What'd you do for New Year's? What were your plans that you had planned to do, at least?
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I love New Year. New Year's Eve is kind of like, I don't really do anything. I don't drink. So it's not really a holiday to me anymore. Used to be I used to party. All that was, like, my favorite day of the year.
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Really?
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Yeah. But now New Year's Day is my favorite because you can do nothing and there's no expectations. I think it's the best holiday.
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It really is that in between right after Christmas and those five days until New Year's and New Year's Day, there is nothing happening.
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Yeah.
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Like, there's not a single brain cell that's moving in my head during those five days.
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It's that time where you forget what day of the week it is. You're like, what am I eating? Who cares? And you're kind of like, in that. That blindness.
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Yep. I live in my sweat uniform. You see me in the same outfit probably about three or four times during that whole thing. Yep. I totally get that. But I. I feel like New Year's is an overrated holiday.
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I mean, it's fun, depending on what you do. Like, if you love to party, it's a great holiday.
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It's true. But, like, I used to love to party, and I still do. Like, I love gatherings now versus party, per se, but. But I don't know. Something about the hype around New Year's where you have to get all dressed up, it's freezing cold outside, you pay an exorbitant amount of money to go somewhere, and Ubers cost a crap ton of money. So if you are drinking, you better be prepared for that. It's like, the only way that New Year's is good to me is if you're going to a house party.
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Oh, yeah. When I say party, I mean only house party. I didn't really do going out partying. I'm talking about house party.
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Okay.
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I have the best memories is, like, getting and drinking a lot in the cold. Like, something about, like, having a cold drink in your hand and it also being cold out.
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Oh, you like it.
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You're committed to it. Like, this is. That's fun to me.
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Okay. But maybe it's because you don't have to wear like a tiny sparkly dress and heels. That's the difference. But that's fair. I will say we're doing a house where we did a house party this year with a bunch of my friends from back home. And I was really excited looking for like coming to that day versus normally when New Year's, I'm like, I don't want to do anything. Like last year I was at my parents house. I did nothing. I ate grapes under the table. Is that last year or the year before? It all blurs together now. But I don't. I've stopped doing stuff. Cause I. It was so overrated for me.
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I'm also a sucker for live events, so I love watching the New Year's Eve, like countdown.
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Oh, you watched the ball drop.
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I watched like all three hours leading up to that. Like for Thanksgiving, we watched the entire Thanksgiving parade. I. I don't know. There's something about those two holidays that just tell me, like, I need to watch the live TV version of this.
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So you like the live celebrations? Yeah, we watched the one from Nashville.
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I will. I'll go back and forth because they'll go to commercial at like different times. So I'll go back and forth between the main one and the Nashville one.
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One isn't there for New Year's now. Isn't there four or five different ones?
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I know there's the two main that I flip back and forth and I don't know if they're doing that third one still. I remember like Miley Cyrus and Pete Davidson hosted it one year and it wasn't very good.
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Yeah, it was like, it was all the major, I guess, networks trying to compete with each other. Everybody kind of had their own.
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Yeah.
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So I don't know if they're all still doing it, but yeah, Nashville's now one into the mix. They've been doing that one for quite a while, though.
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Yeah, it's pretty good. Yeah.
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I like the performances.
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Yeah. That they record like months ahead. That's the thing I always, like, pick out. I'm like, here are the live ones. Here's one where it's clearly July.
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I know. And I get it because people have plans on New Year's. It's not how you get the big names. But it's funny to me because like, the people that go, I feel like, they get gypped a little bit because you think everybody's going to be there. They're not. You get like three or four of them, maybe. Okay, so New Year's parties. But this year you were low key.
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Low key.
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Watching the ball drop.
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That's what I like to do.
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Do you drink on New Year's now?
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No. I am questioning whether or not I'm going to drink on this break.
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Okay.
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Because I. I probably haven't had a drink since like, the first vacation this summer.
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Oh, okay. So significant break.
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And usually I like, plan it out. Like, I. This year I did retire the. The day where I would eat everything. My Purge day. For the last two years, I haven't done it. One, because I don't feel like I need it anymore. And two, because now that I'm married and we go back and forth between families, it's hard to plan a day for. Was kind of more of a single thing where I was like, I know I'm gonna be with my family on this day. I can go buy all the food and have it for that one day. But now it's like, we don't always know where we're gonna go and where we're gonna be. And I have to be like, in the right state of mind and have everything perfect in order to make that day work.
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Yeah.
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So it's harder to do now in this phase of life. And also I just feel like I'm kind of past it. It was kind of a thing I put on myself early on, but I don't think I need it anymore.
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Well. And I feel like, correct me if I'm wrong, but now if you wanted to have something, you just may have it.
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Yeah.
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Versus. It was like, you were really strict on yourself up until that moment.
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Yeah. My wife has been able to convince me that I'm not going to revert back just because I have a couple of things here and there.
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That is true.
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But the thing I would kind of like, place and assigned to that was like, that's also going to be the day where I drink a lot. And now I'm like, I don't really factor that in anymore. I'm like, if I want to, I will, but it's usually only on vacation or Christmas and I'm debating on whether or not I even want to.
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Okay, well, then here's this question. When you have those things, when you've had the food and you've had the alcohol, are you like, oh, my gosh, give me more. I need more immediately or Are you okay? That tasted good and I'm good.
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Going back, I feel like it's not worth it anymore where I have it. And I'm like, this isn't as fun as I remember. Yeah. Even the last time, like my whole favorite thing is to go to baseball games and have beers at a baseball game. Just because that's like, that's comfort to me. Even the last time I did that, I was like, this isn't as fun as I remember to be. Like, I could still have the same enjoyment. Enjoyment from this not drinking.
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Yeah. And I feel that same way too. The hangovers just aren't worth it to me anymore.
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I think it's just more the idea of drinking that I enjoy. Like social aspects, even just the having something in your hand sometimes like the bottle in your hand. Like I like that feeling and like sipping on something. But I don't think I necessarily need it to be alcohol. Like I could just have a Topo Chico and have the same effect.
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I've learned, I was going to say there's so many cool drinks now that are non alcoholic. I feel like you could find something to sip on to hold it in your hand and have that same feeling without the repercussions of drinking.
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That's also why I think more sports like venues need to have coffee.
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Yeah.
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Like I would just drink a bunch of coffee.
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Okay, Mike, let me tell you what happened. So I went to a pop up bar with my boyfriend and he was. He got an espresso martini. He loves those. That's very trendy.
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I've heard people love them. I've never had one.
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I feel like you need to try one since you love coffee.
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Is there, is there dairy in it or is it just espresso and alcohol?
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It depends where you go. Some it's just because I've seen them.
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They look kind of sweet.
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Well, so they have foam, but that's from shaking the espresso.
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Ah, got it.
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So. So some of them could have dairy and like a creamer in them potentially. But I've known plenty that don't. And they don't have a significant foam on them. So they're all different. And you can make them at home and it'd be the same thing. You just have to shake it. I've learned is kind of the key ingredient to make it look like an espresso martini. But he got that. And I got a hot apple cider because I wanted to participate but I wasn't really wanting to drink. I still haven't been and I Got a message and was like, you're having coffee at a bar, grow up. And I was like, excuse me. First of all, this is apple cider. I can have that at a bar. And second of all, who cares? Like, what are we really shaming drinks now?
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I don't think that's a grow up type of thing. I think that is your preference. Yeah, I think more places should serve coffee for, or even just have more options that don't feel like you're just ordering like a virgin drink. Like nonalcoholic options. That's the way to go. And why not branch out, have coffee.
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I see. I don't see a problem with it. I was so like offended by that. I was like, grow up. Where am I supposed to grow up to?
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Not like you're having like an apple juice or like, like a Kool Aid pack.
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And let me tell you that apple cider vinegar or not vinegar, apple cider. Just apple cider, hot apple cider.
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I was like, apple cider vinegar. That'd be hardcore drink. That'd be horrible.
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I can't. I can barely take a sip of apple cider vinegar and I want to vomit.
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You should just, in spite of that person, have a Capri sun out next time.
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They do make alcoholic Capri Suns.
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Sounds delicious. The only thing I've had like that, that I worried about my health was vodka Red Bulls. The first time I went to Vegas, I was like an end of the night thing. But it tasted amazing. But I was not able to fall asleep that night.
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Oh yeah, those are those. I. When I used to drink a lot in college, when I wanted to stay awake through the night, I was drinking a Red Bull Vodka about midnight.
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I think out of every flavor in the world, the flavor of Red Bull is my favorite flavor. Yeah, there's something about all the chemicals or whatever it is, they get to make it taste like that. That is amazing.
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Well, and they have a new one, it apple vinegar type thing, apple and cider. I can't remember. Ginger. Ginger.
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That sounds like a drink.
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Yeah, it was apple and ginger and it was amazing. It tasted very fall cold weather type. So if you like the taste. I don't know if you'd like the taste of a flavored one, but it was bomb.
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I think out of everything now I've just convinced myself to go get a Red Bull.
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Leave here.
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You go get a Red Bull. No beer, no alcohol. I just want a Red Bull.
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So no drinking this holiday. Just some. A pack of Red Bull. You'll be wired every night and your wife is like, what is happening? Which does your wife drink a lot? How is that, like, situation for you too?
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She likes wine, okay? So she'll. She's like, I wish you drink wine so I could enjoy this with somebody. Yeah, but she loves wine. And if we go out, she'll. She likes a spicy margarita.
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You know what's funny about that is I have realized my boyfriend doesn't like to drink alone. And I don't like to eat sweets alone.
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So, like, yeah, I can see that there's like this. There's a social aspect to both of those things.
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So your wife's saying that complete makes so much sense in my head. Cause like, if I go, say we go get a sweet treat somewhere, especially right now, if I find a vegan, gluten free sweet treat, I'm all about it. Cause I want to try it and I want to curb my sweet tooth. And we'll walk into those places and he'll look at me and say, I don't know, I'm not feeling it. And he gets like a death stare from me. I'm like, you're really not going to. We went all this way and you're not going to get one. And he's like, I just want a few bites of yours. And I was like, no, I don't share, but I want you to participate. And we laugh about it because he does the same thing with drinking. Like, sometimes he won't drink because I'm not. And I'm like, you're fine. Please have as much as you want. I'll drive. That's the best part of this. And he's like, but it's not as fun to drink by myself. So we've realized our comparisons are that.
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I think she's grown to like it because like you said, I always just drive so she can have a drink. And I'm the one who's always gonna be sober and I can drive.
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Exactly. But I do see the aspect where you're like, I really wish I could cheer someone. Or like, you know, we're in it together, we have the little buzz. It's a partnership thing. Because I'm the same thing with sweets. I want to be like, okay, well, how was it? And more than anything, I really just want to try two different things, but not only have to buy one thing, that's really what it is.
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Work in the system. Yeah.
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Guess. All right, so first of all, how did your new year resolution for 2025 go?
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It went okay, but I think that's the thing leading me to my new resolution. Cuz last year was for me to invest more in myself.
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Yep.
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Which I thought I did an okay job at, but I don't think I put enough time into it.
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Okay. And invest more into yourself. Meaning?
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Meaning doing things that I normally wouldn't do because I think I don't have time to do them. Whether it's like, okay, here's an opportunity where I can maybe host something, but I have to like, take time out of doing something else and just find time for it, because that's really hard for me to do. Like, even planning a month ahead, I'm like, what is work going to look like in that time frame? Can I commit to this? So it's doing things like that of like, okay, I want to invest in myself. And knowing that that could lead me to something else I want to do in my future, I gotta make time for that and invest in myself. It was also this past year with my teeth getting those fixed and going through that entire process, figuring out what road I wanted to go down, how painful or not painful I wanted it to be. That was all. Investing in myself to just feel more confident. I think that was probably the biggest thing that paid off last year. I just felt better overall. And that allowed me to just feel like, okay, like I can do these other things and invest in myself. Because now I kind of in a weird way felt worthy of things now. Just because that's a big part of. I think even the way I carry myself now is like having no braces anymore.
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It was a confidence factor for sure.
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And I didn't realize it. Like, I thought the entire time I had them, that I got used to them, that I like them, but it was so weird. Like a month or maybe two months after going back and seeing pictures of me and I'm like, oh, wow, I looked a lot different and I just feel so much better and more free. Yeah, well.
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And I'm sure being an adult and doing that as an adult is also comes with its own challenges. So you weren't just like yourself trying to work through your confidence of what was happening, but also you're doing something later on in life and that always comes with its own judgment and things, even though there shouldn't be somebody just trying to do something cool for themselves. You know what I mean?
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Yeah. I think it's hard to invest in yourself because you feel selfish.
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Mm, yeah. It's like if you get braces as a kid, it's almost like your parents are making you, but as an adult, you're like, oh, I'm doing this for me. Nobody else is making me. I don't have to. I'm spending money on myself. But, like, that's where it matters. I feel like that's where the confidence comes from is when you start to really invest in yourself.
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And I feel like there's this weird line that I walk of like, wanting to invest in myself but also not feeling like I don't. Like, you're kind of like a little bit like conceited or something. Or just like I care about myself a little bit too much.
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Okay. Everybody feels this way about, like, things. Okay, here's another reference on social media.
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Okay.
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I have posted like a carousel. And it was like, my boyfriend takes pictures of me and somebody wrote, isn't that conceited to have pictures of you? And I'm like, I'm sorry. Since when is like wanting memories of myself locked into a photo a bad thing? We look back on him. You're 80 years old. I want to look back on photos and me actually be in the photos.
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Yeah.
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You know, I don't want to be the one taking all of the photos. It's cool to do that, but it's also cool to be a participant in that. Like, we love to self assign this association of somebody being selfish by doing anything that's for themselves and that's just not the case. Like, somebody being selfish is like, oh, I purposely shut the door on your face because I don't want to hold it open for you. That's selfish. Or I'm selfishly going to take every last, I don't know, frickin Christmas tree that exists so nobody else can have them.
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You know what I mean?
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Those things are selfish.
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Now that you point out other examples, I can see why, like, what I'm doing doesn't feel as selfish.
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No. And it's not you taking care of yourself. And anybody wanting to do something that makes them happy isn't selfish. And I do not know where this whole trend came of like, making fun of people to be selfish for doing things that make them happy.
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The picture thing is interesting because I feel like as a society we start saying, we've been saying for a while now, like, don't have your phone out. You're just live in the moment. And I feel like I started to do that for A little bit like, okay, I just need to experience this. I need to enjoy that and have my mind record it. Something that changed my mind was the new Bad Bunny album that came out earlier this year. And that translated the title of it is I should. Like, I should have taken more photos where it's somebody looking back in like their 80s or 90s and realizing they didn't have photos of people that they love throughout their life. And I think we're seeing that now. Like, oh, you need to live in the moment. You need to not have your phone up at a concert or take pictures. Like you're saying these person calling you out for, you know, capturing these memories. We're not thinking about us when we're 80 or 90 years old. Thinking back, like, what did I do when I was 30? I know I went to a car, I don't have any videos of it. You're going to look back, man, I should have taken more pictures.
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Well, and I think there's a sweet balance there, right? Like, yes, live in the moment, enjoy yourself. Don't be, you know, when you're out of dinner with friends, don't be on your phone or when you're spending time with family. Try to make sure you're present and not, you know, doom scrolling or whatever. But to capture memories and be the one who's like, no, we need a photo of everything is actually a really good quality trick because I promise you, you know how many times when we've been at the senior living community, I've watched them scrapbooking their photos from the past and they get so excited to see these photos, whether it's of themselves or their family or these memories that they have. And it really gave me that perspective of I'm gonna take a picture of whatever I wanna take a picture of and. Cause I wanna remember it always. I don't know that I'm gonna have my memory in 50 years. So I hope that I can look at pictures and say, oh, that was a cool time. You know, even if just for a moment. And I think there is a good balance there that can exist. But I just, in general, I just think it's so wrong that people seem to think that anything along the lines of making you happy that you think is gonna serve you at some point in your life is selfish. That's insane to me.
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It is crazy, right?
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Like, especially giving up the examples of like, yeah, these people are selfish. That's a selfish thing to do versus that reality. Like we've really twisted the definition of that so do the braces. Speaking of braces. And you were like, talking about your, like, new vibe, new look. We got an update. Is that coming into the.
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B
I've hit a roadblock.
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A
Okay. So that's not the New year's resolution for 2020.
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B
My New Year's resolution is just like, double down on that.
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A
Okay.
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Continuing to feel like I didn't do as good of a job with some of the things, like some of the projects I wanted to do where I just never made time for it. And I feel like that's investing in myself of just getting these things out that I've been wanting to do for a while. So I feel like that was the hardest part for me to find time to invest in. Because when I started looking at like, all these hours I have in a week, it is so hard for me to assign, like, this is a time where I'm going to focus on this. That's not necessarily a task I need to complete. There's no timeline on it, which I think is probably the most difficult thing for me. If I have something that has no deadline, no real structure to it, it's hard for me to make it a priority where this is just kind of a concept. There's nobody checking on this. It's all just me. So it's hard for me to think, like, ah, that's something I can, I can just do that next year. I can do that later. And it's something I've just never done yet because I just haven't invested the time to actually do it.
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You have to reframe, Reframe the way that your brain sees that activity as something you need to do for you. Not a need because it has a timeline, Not a need because you have like this goal to hit at this point. It needs to be a need for yourself. Like, you have to teach your brain, like, no, this is necessary for my mental health, for my joy, for my sanity, you know, to keeping myself happy. It's a need. You know, I. I think it's easy to categorize those things as once, especially when you do have, like, you and I have only so many hours in a day to get so many things done. And we push away the other things, but those other things are the only things that are going to keep that to do list actually moving and you happy. You know what I mean? Like, you deserve to be happy in the midst of all of that chaos. And so you almost have to, like, teach your brain to say, no, that's. That's a. On the. To do List because it's necessary and not treat it as like, oh, I want to do that. And maybe when I have some time, I will.
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B
Yeah. I think it's just like, for me, I need, like a checklist. So I need to at least give myself checkpoints throughout the year.
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A
Okay.
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That I'm like, looking at. That's what I'm going to try to do. Like, okay. By this time, I need to be doing this. And if I'm not, then I can reevaluate.
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A
I love that.
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B
It doesn't feel like it's as daunting because I've learned that without having anything, I just don't do it. So give me something that makes it feel a little less daunting, that I can just take it on.
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A
I love that. I feel like that's going to help you and it'll allow you to prioritize it, hopefully with those checkpoints. Because you seem to operate well with checklists.
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B
Check. That's what I do every day. I have like a little rundown, like a little small to do list I make every single day and mark things off. And then I have like a thing below it that's like, at least in this week. And then the things I really want to do, I just don't put there. Cause I'm like, ah, I'll find time for that.
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A
And you don't.
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B
Yeah, and I don't.
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A
So now you don't have to. You gotta add it to the checklist. I have typically, I have a, like a list for like. Like you said, kind of like the week. And then I have like a win. Like, it's like house projects. Whenever we have time, like, this is what we have to start working on. And then I have a year list where it's like, this is. We're hopefully getting done in the week. Hopefully within the month, and hopefully within the year. That's kind of my. And then I. Putting them on the list. Man. I don't know if you're like me, but if I see something on list that's not crossed off, it really bothers me.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So if you can do that too, that would help.
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B
Yeah. Because I see something and I'm like, how do I get that off immediately?
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A
Yep. At least it like kind of forces you to be like, this is an activity I need to do. And then it reframes your brain.
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B
Yeah.
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A
I don't know. Potential. I like that it's rolling in from this year, though, because feeling it makes it more attainable because you're just working off of it. Yeah.
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B
Because in the past, I've always tried to, like, set a resolution that I'm completely changing. Here's a whole brand new thing. I've never carried one over and thought, how can I improve this resolution that I've already started and made it better? So I was like, why not just double down on what I did before and just make that better instead of trying to think, like, I need to do some new resolution this year again.
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A
Yeah, you know what? And I'm also the same, because 20. 25. I think it might have been 25. Heck, I don't even know if I made one this past year. But the last one I remember is me walking my dog every day was my goal. And that trashed out about, I don't know, three weeks in. I did not accomplish. And I want to. That's still a goal that I have, but mine's actually like yours, where I started it. In July of this year with all of my health stuff, I'm hoping to continue that, like, really honing in on how my body's being stressed, how I'm working my body in different ways and how I can optimize myself and my health a lot better. And. And so I'm like, feeding off of what I've already been doing to, like, really continue to buckle down into the new year. And it doesn't feel as daunting because I've already started it. It's not like I. January 1st. Yeah, I have to.
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B
That's a great thing. Yeah. I would say, even if you don't have one by the start of the year, at any point, just start. Because I remember a big thing for me when I first lost weight, I was going to wait until the new year, but I remember I was like, I can't wait because then I'm going to. I mean, they're not going to commit to it or it's going to feel like a fad. So I remember starting in October, and I was like, if I could get over the holidays sticking to this diet, it'll be so much easier whenever January 1st comes around that I'm already going to feel like I have a head start and have already kind of proven myself a little bit. So I remember that being a pretty big deal and, like, that being successful, because before I had tried it and it was always like a New Year's resolution, I was like, I'm just going to start in October.
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A
Well, it's true, because in New Year's resolutions are notorious for a lot of health goals. Right. Because you're starting fresh. It's a new year, new you party.
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B
And you want to.
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A
You already did all the treats, the alcohol.
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B
You're ready to get it out of my system.
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A
That's why also, what is it? Sober January or dry January is so popular. And I'm just like, I'm just going to continue what I've been doing and focus on that trajectory instead of like, stop, start, stop start. Because I don't do well at those. If I just stay what I've been doing, it works. So I'm hoping I continue, like, maybe this time next year. I'm hoping that I've really narrowed down and figured out my diet and hopefully don't feel like the need to even eat a lot of the holiday foods would be my ideal goal in that world. Because right now I still have a lot of the cravings and I want to try things and I still want to have it. I feel like I'm missing out if I don't. You know what I mean?
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B
Yeah.
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A
But while still doing my routine and my normal diet in my everyday life. But then I see a holiday treat or a hot chocolate and I get really excited.
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B
That's crazy to me that I don't have cravings anymore. I was thinking about this because we've been doing a gift basket, snack basket for our delivery drivers and we have just big thing of candy in the house. And I thought, me, 10, 15 years ago, that couldn't have existed in the house. I would have seen it and I would have just annihilated that thing. I couldn't have candy and not finish it all. And now I saw it and I was like, I realize that I don't even think about that. Like, I don't even. I see that as something that I don't even want to partake in and I just don't have cravings anymore.
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A
I'm so jealous.
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B
It's weird. And that's what took me to realize that that dang, I don't even, like, crate. Like, I can't even go to the store and think, like, I want to throw something in or I'm driving home and like, stop by Taco Bell.
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A
Nice to me though. I mean, it shows how far you've come, right? Like, mine's mostly there. Like, I. Shockingly, I haven't had Taco Bell in three months. Who am I? Cause I eat Taco Bell every weekend. That was my go to. And now even with the sweet treats, I'll try them. I won't overindulge in them now. Now it's like, I just want. You know, I want a little bit. Or like, Thanksgiving. I had. I think I ate three meals total over Thanksgiving stuff. Like, normally I would eat it every single day until, like, the food's gone.
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B
Yeah.
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A
You know what I mean? And I still am. I'm bad about that. I don't like wasting food. I'm not a. Like, I'll try and eat everything before it goes bad, because I just don't like wasting stuff. And my boyfriend's had to be like, morgan, that's been in there for, like, a week. I think we need to throw that away.
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B
And I'm like, no, you're like, me, then.
- [30:37]
A
So you're, like, trying to eat it all. And so that was kind of how I felt about Thanksgiving leftovers. So I'm also trying to rewrite that where I'm like, it's okay. You can get rid of it. But I've gotten a lot better where now I just taste things and I try them instead of having 15 sugar cookies that I didn't need. So I'm hoping to be where you are next year, because that would be cool. That's probably a cool place to be where you just, like, you have complete control over what you want to have. And when you do want something, you'll have it, but it's not a craving. It's like a. Okay, yeah, I'm good. I want to have that.
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B
I feel like those dogs, whenever you put, like, a treat in front of them, and they're, like, so well trained, they don't even look at it. That's you, that's me.
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A
That's impressive, because we all know the dogs want that treat.
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B
And then if you say treat and they eat it, that's. That's me.
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A
And I'm the dog who sees the tree, like, and goes crazy, and it's like, give me more. That's my dog. So that tracks. Okay, take one more quick break, and we're gonna come back and talk about our. Our personal raps for the year. So we're gonna talk about some top foods.
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B
Okay.
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A
How many minutes you maybe watch tv? Which we're not gonna have exact numbers. This is kind of a guess. So we'll be right back.
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A
There's companies all over the place that are talking about their, like, you know, how their 2025 looked. So I want to talk about our 2025 years. What did your 2025 look in the aspect of top foods? Give me your top three foods that you think you consume this year.
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B
Should I go three, two, one, or start at one?
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A
Whichever you want.
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B
I know my number one food, that I eat way too much, that other people probably don't eat as much as I do is dates. I think that's my number one snack.
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A
I love a date.
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B
I buy a big thing dates every single week.
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A
And you just eat them plain.
- [37:13]
B
Plain. On the weekends. Sometimes I'll put a little peanut butter or I think my wife has some oat butter.
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A
Okay. Yeah.
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B
Some kind of nut butter.
- [37:22]
A
Any kind of butter.
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B
And it tastes delicious. It tastes like. To me, it tastes like a donut.
- [37:26]
A
Okay, those are good. Have you added flaky sea salt to the almond butter or whatever butter you're adding?
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B
No, I don't really like salt.
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A
Gosh, you're so good at this.
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B
Sweet and salty has never been. Even when I. Yeah, I don't understand the appeal of that.
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A
Hurt my heart. Okay, that's a good one. Dates, number one.
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B
Number two is probably some kind of fig bar. Is what I eat a lot of when I just need something quick.
- [37:51]
A
Those are your breakfasts typically, aren't they?
- [37:54]
B
I ate that literally before coming in here.
- [37:55]
A
I'm really good at figuring out everybody's breakfasts because we're all pretty normal.
- [37:58]
B
Like, we do some kind of protein bar or some kind of fig bar, but I enjoy the fig bar better.
- [38:03]
A
Is it like nature's bakery or something?
- [38:05]
B
That one? And then I just tried a new one. I don't even know the name of it. But they're. They're really good too. And they're like, a little bit more bite sized.
- [38:10]
A
I'm very observant. I see a lot of things. Okay. All right.
- [38:13]
B
Fig. And then number three, three overall is just caffeine coffee.
- [38:17]
A
Oh, yeah, because you always bring in your, like, water bottle full of coffee, right?
- [38:23]
B
Well, that has water. If I drink that much coffee, that'd be crazy. I drink my coffee before I even walk in the studio. But I'll have my 16 ounce before the show, and then I have my afternoon coffee later in the day.
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A
Okay, so that might as well be a water bottle, Mike.
- [38:37]
B
We might as well. The other was like 24 ounces, but, I mean, I probably do drink about close to 24 ounces.
- [38:43]
A
I was gonna say you said 16 is the first one, and then you said another one during the day. How much is the one in the afternoon? Like a mug?
- [38:49]
B
No, it's like a 10 ounce can.
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A
Unless 24, Mike.
- [38:53]
B
Unless I go to Starbucks and then I get the. The 30 ounce.
- [38:56]
A
They did even more than that. You made water bottles seem like it was crazy, but that's how much you're consuming every day. All right, those are good ones. I think Mine number one has been chickpeas. I have been devouring chickpeas in brownies, in soups, in just full blown dishes. I found every way to change a chickpea.
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B
I like a crunchy chickpea.
- [39:16]
A
Oh, see, those are good. A crunchy chickpea and a salad. That's bomb. Chickpeas have been my, my guy this year. I don't know why, but I've been. I found them in every recipe. And number two, let's see. I feel like a big one for this lately has been soup. I've really. Even, even in summer I was eating soup. Don't ask me why.
- [39:39]
B
Year round food.
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A
I, I just am a winter girly, you know, I'm just really not a summer girly. I like the winter. I like being cozy and comfort and soup is comfort to me. And I found so many soup dishes that I really like, especially in the last several months. So soup.
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B
I don't think I can eat soup anymore. It just takes me back to when all we could afford was soup. So to me, soup feels like, like loneliness and like sorrow. Okay, but man, I really want Burger King right now. But we got soup.
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A
Oh, is it like sad soup?
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B
It's canned soup.
- [40:09]
A
Okay. Sad soup. These are like suits that you make and you add a whole bunch of things in.
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B
Maybe Alphabet soup. I guess I just don't have a real relationship with soup. That's right. That's like good soup. That's why I was like, people order soup at restaurants. Like why would you get depressing soup? I didn't realize it's something that could be.
- [40:25]
A
It is. Okay, I need to send you my vegan potato soup. And you would love it.
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B
Maybe like my mom would make an elevated version of soup with like actual meat and other things in it, but I didn't really see that as soup. I think some people would, but just like straight up soup. I'm like, this is sad to me.
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A
Well, guess cause you're having sad soup. So I get it. We need you some good hearty soups. And I need you to make the vegan potato soup because I think you would really like it and I would be honored if that changed your. It's not my recipe, I just found it. But I'd be honored if that helped change your narrative on soup that we want. And then gosh, my number three. Hmm. Well, I mean, it's probably a drink for me too. In the last six months, I've consumed this more than anything else. Really? Because I've really tried to hold back on drinking alcohol is Ollie pops.
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B
I couldn't really get into those, so.
- [41:15]
A
I can't get into most of them. But that grape flavor has me until.
- [41:19]
B
Maybe I just had a bad flavor.
- [41:21]
A
Yeah, I think there is some bad ones because I've had other ones. When the grape was ran out and I got really sad, I was like, this tastes like crap. But the Olipop grape flavor. Granted, I love grape flavored things. I don't know if that's a weird thing. Do you like grape flavored stuff again?
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B
Kind of reminds me of being broke.
- [41:38]
A
So what you're telling me is my diet of that of a child. I'm seeing this right now. Okay, well, Ollipop grape is the top tier flavor in my opinion. And I've been drinking a lot of it.
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B
As far as flavors from my childhood, I think I associate grape with being. All we have is grape left like.
- [41:55]
A
For like a grape popsicle.
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B
Like if they were like. I think of like when I'd go to party, like kid parties when I was a kid and they had all just like the random generic flavored soda. Oh. And all like the colas were gone, the sprites were gone. It was always like grape soda that.
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A
Was left because nobody wanted so excited.
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B
I'd be drinking like a Welch's and like.
- [42:17]
A
That'S funny. Okay, I'm sorry. My two. My two triggered stuff for you. How many minutes do you think you watch TV or movies and we're going generic. We don't really have a good number.
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B
I know about how many movies I watched this year. I think it was about 115.
- [42:33]
A
Holy crap.
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B
Because I keep a long running list of everything that I watch and review and that's just new movies. I don't really. Well, I know. I think the 115 is maybe total because sometimes I don't factor in the reviews of like things I rewatch or maybe something old that I watch for the first time.
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A
Okay.
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B
But I think I've seen 115 new movies this year.
- [42:56]
A
Okay. And I'm gonna times that by two because that's relatively. Each one is nearly two hours. We're just gonna generalize so about 230. That doesn't seem right. That doesn't seem right.
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B
Wait minutes.
- [43:11]
A
Yeah. That doesn't feel like enough for Cuz each one is 60 minutes. That doesn't make sense. I don't like math. You guys are seeing in real time. Why B was the only. I only got a B in math and the only subject because I sucked at it.
- [43:28]
B
Be 13,800 minutes.
- [43:31]
A
Thank you.
- [43:32]
B
That's a lot of minutes. Roughly. A lot.
- [43:35]
A
And that's just in movies.
- [43:36]
B
Just in movies? Yeah. TV shows. I don't even know how many shows I've watched this year.
- [43:40]
A
Right.
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B
Probably a series or two a month.
- [43:43]
A
I feel like I'm the same way. I don't think I've watched as many movies as you because you'll sometimes, like, triple them up on it on a Saturday. I would say I'm probably somewhere about, like, 70 movies as a lot. Yeah, I watch a lot of tv. And it's also like, it's including all the things in background that I'm watching too.
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B
Right.
- [44:00]
A
Like, because when I'm at home working, everything's on the tv. So also including the ones that I specifically make sure to watch. So I would say I'm about, like, three fourths of yours.
- [44:11]
B
That's still a lot.
- [44:12]
A
It's still a lot. But yours is a lot.
- [44:14]
B
Although that's crazy because I do minimum three new movies a week. That's just minimum. That's a normal week.
- [44:20]
A
Also fair, though, because you do have a movie podcast, so I can't, like, give you too hard of a time about that, but that's wild. It's a lot of minutes. Do you, like, see that number? You're like, could have done a lot with those minutes.
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B
I'm like, that's a lot.
- [44:33]
A
How many scams did you fall for in 2025?
- [44:38]
B
I think this year I am scam free.
- [44:41]
A
Not a single one.
- [44:42]
B
I don't think. Not a single one.
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A
I think I almost fell for two mike. I didn't, but they almost had me on two. One was like the hacker on PayPal. And I feel like that happened.
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B
Oh, yeah, I remember that. You saw it in real time, right?
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A
Yeah. And I stopped him. It was like a whole dramatic scene. I was so proud of myself. But I think the way it happened, because I was playing a game on my phone called Travel Town that I really like to play, and there's a Facebook page where you can go and you can get more energy. And it's a legit Facebook page. It's the company that has this game. Well, people can post on that page. And I think somebody realized that if you like to get their extra energy, you click their link, which is that company's link. I was always very good about that, but they started getting, like, floated into my feed. And it was a scammer, I think, and it was a scam link because.
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B
I was trying to get more energy with the Energy.
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A
I'm so mad. And I was like, there's no. Because it was right around that PayPal PayPal hack. So I'm like, it had to have been that link. What was crazy, though, is I was like. As soon as I clicked into. I was like, no, no, no, I don't know what that is. And I, like, tried to go backward, but I think I was too late just even clicking it.
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B
Yeah. Once you click it and matter how long.
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A
Yeah. So I think at least one. And then there was another one where I got a text message, and I panicked. It was just recently, actually, and it was like, you have $188 left on a bill, a medical bill outstanding. And, like, we don't want to send it to collections or whatever. And I panicked. Thankfully, though, I didn't panic to them. I called the medical office where I was like. And they're like, yeah, no, you don't have a bill. And I was like, go.
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B
The one that almost gets me, no matter how often I see it, is there's a Facebook one. Whenever they're like, oh, no, I can't believe they died. And they're like, wait, who died? And you want to click the link like it's a new story. That one always gets me. Like, I don't click it, but for a second, I'm like, should I click. Oh, it's a scam. Yeah.
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A
This is so funny. You say that. My mom fell for that one.
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B
Yeah, it's.
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A
It's.
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B
It'll get you, like, even if you're, like, vigilant about that, there's something about that curiosity because the post is so unassuming.
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A
Yep.
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B
And it just kind of teases you with that clickbait. Like, oh, yeah, we're curious. And you're like, who died?
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A
This is how it happened for. My mom was like, somebody she's known for decades posted it. So their account got hacked. And posted was like, you'll never guess who died, or whatever. And I see my mom comment on it was like, well, who is it? And I, like, talked to her the next day. She's like, yeah, I clicked on. I was like, no, you didn't. And she got hacked on her Facebook page.
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B
Dang. So that did remind me that my TikTok did get hacked this year.
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A
Oh, my gosh. Yeah. But you got it back.
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B
I got it back, but I don't know what. I don't know how it happened. Like, I know. Ended up figuring out what country it was from and what they wanted to do, which they got in Change my username, changed my profile change. Like, the email just completely took it over. So much so they would not even have any remnants of, like, me ever owning that account. Because what they do is they do that so they can turn around and turn it into a TikTok shop.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And they were applying for it, trying to get it approved, and luckily it never got approved and I was able to get it back.
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A
Yeah, that was. And that was happening in the early morning hours too.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Because we were messaging about. I was like, okay, I gotta. I'll wake up a little bit so we can see if we can help Mike. But I'm glad you ended up getting it back. That was crazy. Lunchbox never got his Twitter account back.
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B
Yeah, it was gone.
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A
We tried, but also Twitter's a dumpster fire, so I didn't anticipate getting it back. There's not like a support to reach out to. Don't really have anybody there.
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B
And just like, Sorry.
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A
It literally is. It's a crazy social media platform right now. Your top online purchases.
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B
I don't really buy a whole lot of stuff online.
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A
What?
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B
No.
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A
Do you buy stuff in stores?
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B
Yeah. Okay.
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A
Okay. We'll do just top purchases.
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B
Okay. Because I'm not really. Here's the thing. I don't really spend money.
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A
Well, that's a good quality to have.
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B
Like, I don't really find enjoyment out of buying things. Okay. I think about whenever I moved to Nashville and got rid of all my things coming here, that was kind of a me having I don't really need possessions type thing. Like, there was something sobering about filling up my car with everything that I own and thinking like, this really doesn't add up to much. And like, I could just. It was so easy for me to dump whatever little things I had into a dumpster because I was like, this is worthless to me.
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A
That I'm not a hoarder.
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B
Yeah. That I kind of had like this minimalist approach to life after that of like, I don't really need things.
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A
I like that, though. I think that's a really cool thing, especially in a consumer based economy right now. So I think that's something.
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B
I think it also just takes a lot for me to pull the trigger on a purchase where I'm like, do I really need this? How am I going to see this in a. In a month? Am I still going to want it? But I would say my number one thing that I do spend money on is probably comic books. Okay.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Like this. This year I found a lot of joy in going, like, every week to New Comic Book Day and comics, and I'd probably spend maybe on a good week of. A lot of good stuff came out. It could be like, 30 bucks a week.
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A
I thought you were about to say, like, 300.
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B
No, 30.
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A
30 is nothing, Mike. I mean, that's a. That's a good number for even the thing that you find the most joy.
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B
Out of, like, on a light week when maybe only a couple comics come out, like, 10 bucks a week. And I've kind of slowed down even on that just because I got to a point where it felt like I was having to, like, keep up with it. And I was like, I'll take a little bit of break. Yeah.
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A
Okay. Comic books is a good one. And it's also turned into something you use, too, as your background with your podcast. So it technically might be a business.
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B
Expense, But I read them and then put them up.
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A
I like it. I like it.
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B
Okay. Two others, I guess, clothes. But I've seen that more as an investment, like we were talking about earlier. But again with that. I have to, like, overthink every purchase. And I'm like, am I like this? I. My wife hates going to shop with me because I'll go with the intent of getting something and not. I'm like, if I don't fully love it, I'm not gonna buy it, because then I know that I'm not gonna wear it.
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A
Okay. But that's a great mentality to have. My boyfriend's kind of been revamping his style and stuff, too. And I always am like, if you do not love it, do not buy this. I don't care if I love it. You are the one that's gonna choose it and get it out of the closet and wear it. So do you love it? Great. Get it.
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B
Because for a while, I was taking her suggestions on, like, what she thought I would look good in, and I was open to that. I tried that, but then I realized if I don't feel comfortable in it, like, I'm just not going to wear it.
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A
Yeah.
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B
I was like, I'm just not. I know instantly when I put something on, like, if it feels like, oh, this is a perfect fit, I can't convince myself otherwise if I don't get that feeling.
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A
Yeah. And I think guys naturally have a little bit easier. Their clothes don't change quite as much in style wise, I've learned.
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B
Oh, fly away. I thought you meant fitting wise. Well, that's the whole thing.
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A
I've had to learn that, too. But Also just like your, our style, women's style seems to change every three months. Right. There's something new, there's new trend where guys, I feel like it's maybe once a year, maybe, maybe every other year. So at least you know, the things that you like, you don't constantly have things being added in to be like, do I like this, do I like that? And your guys's trends aren't dramatic shifts. Like we went from skinny jeans to wide leg jeans to barrel jeans and span of about three years. But guys, they're still over there with like a little bit bigger than skinny jeans, you know what I mean? So it might make that process a little bit easier. I would think I could be wrong though. I don't know. Yeah, but at least it's like something that you guys can, can do together and you know for sure, like yes, this or no, not that. You know what I mean? Yeah, that's a good quality to have. There's a lot of. I go in there a lot. I don't know. And my mom had to teach me that. She's like, do you love it? You don't love it? You're not going to pick it out of the closet and wear it. And she was right.
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B
It has to spark joy, right?
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A
It does. Who is that?
- [52:44]
B
Marie Kondo?
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A
Yeah, I was getting there. Okay. I think, I think that's it. I think we're wrapping for today. Oh, okay. Well, not something funny. What is the thing that you are not looking forward to about the holidays? Because we talk about all exciting things like, and we, we will have already experienced this at this point, but mine, and I'll, I'll give you mines is that I'm dreading the 11 hour road trip to Kansas and back from Kansas. I love being there, it's great. But that 22 hour drive in the midst of everything is brutal.
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B
That is a, that's a road trip. Like that is, I think anything over six hours I consider a road trip.
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A
Yeah.
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B
That is like a whole.
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A
Yeah. Because right at the six hour point you're like, dang, we still got five hours.
- [53:26]
B
If it ever gets to a point where it's like this has been a while and you're only halfway through, that is a road trip.
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A
Exactly. So what is your thing that you're not looking forward to about the holidays that are currently happening?
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B
Luckily my trip is pretty easy, like a two hour flight so I don't have to worry a whole lot about that. My thing is I wake up so early naturally, I hate that Period of time when I'm the only one awake because I don't know what to do. I'm at somebody else's house and I'm like, I don't feel fully comfortable here.
- [53:55]
A
Like, do I get out of bed? Do I stay in bed?
- [53:56]
B
Do I go turn on the tv? Do I go make a cup of coffee? Do I get out of the house? Like, what do I do?
- [54:02]
A
Oh yeah. Are you getting to a point now though where you're a little bit more comfortable or still?
- [54:06]
B
No, no, I don't think so.
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A
Cause how long have you and your wife been together now?
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B
Since 2018. So seven years going on. Right.
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A
Cause I'm assuming at your house you feel more comfortable when you were like staying with your parents.
- [54:20]
B
Yeah, but at first, but even then, like sometimes it feels I'm still not.
- [54:24]
A
Like even in your parents house.
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B
Yeah. Cause we're. This year we're going to my sister's house.
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A
Okay.
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B
And I still feel like, do I turn on the tv? What, what can I do here? Because it's different like at my parents because like I live there.
- [54:37]
A
Yeah.
- [54:37]
B
I didn't live at my sister's house. So it still feels like I'm at her house and it's still weird like getting up and making noise and everybody else is still asleep. I just find like that time, like do I end up just laying in bed and watching TikTok for a while until everybody else wakes up?
- [54:49]
A
Doesn't wait for everybody. How many hours does it take to at least another person to wake up?
- [54:53]
B
I mean, luckily my mom wakes up semi early Ish too. So maybe it's like another hour until she wakes up. So then I just have somebody to like to talk to or like game plan with.
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A
Yeah. And you can't turn off that internal body clock.
- [55:06]
B
Yeah.
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A
It's just going to be what it is.
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B
But at my wife's like it could be three to four hours before anybody else wakes up.
- [55:12]
A
Oh, that's brutal. You watch a lot of TikTok, you know a lot about what's happening in the world. By the time everybody wakes up, I.
- [55:17]
B
Turn into an iPad kid and just watch stuff on my iPad.
- [55:20]
A
You got to get yourself like a game that you start playing in bed, you know.
- [55:23]
B
Oh yeah, I'll take my switch.
- [55:25]
A
Yeah, that's what you start doing. So at least you have to different technology items to go back and forth between. Well, Mike, thanks for being on Tell the people where they can hear you and find you.
- [55:33]
B
You can listen to my podcast movie Mike's movie podcast. New episodes every single Monday. And I'm at Mike Diestro on everything online.
- [55:40]
A
And you can follow the shows on all social media, particularly YouTube if you want to subscribe at Bobby Boneshow. And there'll be some holiday content up here and there, so check that out. And we're getting out of here for part one. We gotta go to part three. All right, bye everybody.
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B
That's the best bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks for listening. Be sure to check out the other two parts this weekend. Go follow the show on all social platforms obbyboneshow and follow ebgirlmorgan to submit your listener questions for next week's episode. Did you know that parents rank teaching.
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