The Bonfire w/ Big Jay Oakerson & Robert Kelly

Episode: Bobby Buoy The Hero
Date: January 13, 2026
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Episode Overview

Today’s episode centers on a remarkable — and darkly hilarious — story from Robert Kelly’s recent vacation, where he unexpectedly became a real-life “hero.” With his signature bluntness and Jay’s relentless ribbing, the hosts dissect Bobby's dramatic ocean rescue, teasing out every beat and exploring both the real danger and the comedic gold in the situation. The episode is rich in candid storytelling, friendly insults, and classic Bonfire banter, while also touching on themes of heroism, family, racial dynamics, and the unpredictable comedy of everyday life.

Main Story: Bobby Kelly Saves a Life

(Begins ~01:06, core story runs to 36:20)

The Setup: Vacation Gone Wild

• Bobby recounts his family’s vacation to Costa Rica, a trip full of “crazy shit” – including wild animals, dicey beaches, and a near-tragic encounter (03:10-04:01).
• The family chooses a beautiful but apparently treacherous beach, with big waves and a steep drop off.
• Jay immediately begins teasing Bobby about his “hero” status and musical choices for his victory post (01:10, 01:23).

"Hardest part of making my post to let the world know that I'm a hero was picking the song..."
— Bobby Kelly [01:10]

The Rescue: Chaos in the Surf

• While playing in the surf with his son Max, Bobby hears a little girl’s frantic scream: “Help her! Help her!”
• He spots a girl struggling, her head just above the water; no surfers or lifeguards are present (04:40-05:00).
• Bobby draws upon his old lifeguard training—keeping three feet back to avoid being grabbed (05:47).
• He finds the girl in genuine terror, barely able to keep afloat (06:07).

"If you grab me, we're both going to die... stick your hand out. I'm gonna start swimming in, and when I start to swim in, I need you to start kicking with me."
— Bobby Kelly [06:33]

• They fight the undertow together. Bobby reassures her the whole way but is exhausted and making slow progress (07:01-08:03).
• The girl's father, a physically imposing ex-NFL player, rushes to help but immediately gets in trouble himself and has to turn back (08:24), leading to Jay’s classic riffing on athlete stereotypes and swimming ability.
• Eventually, a “little chubby Spanish guy” helps bring the girl in—but nearly leaves Bobby stranded:

  "I may need your help too, bro. I don't know if I can get back in at this point. I was so wiped out."
  — Bobby Kelly [09:59]

• Bobby finally gets his feet down, gets dragged in by a wave, and collapses on the beach, completely spent.

Aftermath: Hugged By a Grateful Family

• The rescued girl's dad rushes over and “just held me... it was more than a hug.” (11:08–11:31)
• Jay immediately exploits this for laughs about being entitled to half a WNBA contract and “hero money” [11:49].

"Now you're gonna get one half of her WNBA money. $23,000 a year, my man."
— Jay Oakerson [11:49]

• Bobby describes the visible gratitude and shock, noting his wife Dawn was crying, and the whole dynamic shifted during the rest of the trip (12:18).
• He reveals the girl’s father is an ex-Atlanta Falcons NFL player; the family runs into each other again at the airport, where they take a hero’s photo together (14:40-15:02).

Banter, Jokes, and Riffing: Comedy on Heroism and Race

(Interwoven throughout, especially 06:16, 08:24, 12:31, 13:45, 19:08, 21:16)

• Jay uses the story to launch a series of jokes about racial dynamics and stereotypes in swimming, often addressing “Black Lou” and playing off the trope that black people don’t swim ("He’s black, he can’t swim" [08:24]).
• They fantasize about theatrical reversals, lifeguard racism spin-offs (“American History X Part 2”), and the eternal struggle to keep “hero” status in the family (19:20, 21:16).
• Here, poking fun at Max’s lack of interest in his dad’s heroics:

"I actually told him and Don, I would like to be referred to as hero for the rest of the trip... Max was like, all right, enough with the hero."
— Bobby Kelly [31:35]

• The riffing peaks as they imagine movies about the incident, with Max turning racist or a lifeguard in Harlem.

The Serious Side: Reflections on Real Danger

(32:35–34:42, 43:18–44:13)

• Both Jay and Bobby reflect on how dangerous ocean currents are, and the very real “coin-flip’s chance” that Bobby and the girl could have drowned (32:35).
• Jay shares a personal experience of getting caught in a current in Florida with Dan Soder – suppressing panic while joking through it (33:01–33:18).
• Bobby admits there was a genuine moment mid-rescue where he wondered if he should let the girl go to save himself—haunted by the possibility his son could have watched him die trying (34:05).

"It was terrifying... because you, you, you know, my son is like, Max is just watching me do this and he can't... if I died in front of him, that would suck. Or even letting somebody die."
— Bobby Kelly [19:01]

• The group discusses who would be willing to swim out to help save someone, with Jay and “Black Lou” quickly copping to their limitations (32:08).

Social Media, Glory, and the Reality of Hero Worship

(40:20–45:29)

• Bobby is mercilessly mocked for “posting his hero story almost immediately” on social media.
• There is a hilarious segment about whether Bobby’s documentation was for the show or his own ego—classic Bonfire inside jokes about “archives,” “crisis actors,” and holding greets at live shows.
• Jay needles Bobby about the fleeting nature of such heroics — and the family’s quick move on.

"Actually, when you save somebody's life, it goes away pretty quick."
— Bobby Kelly [41:10]
"Dawn around 20 minutes later, she's like, you want to get a ACAID ball? I was like, I just saved somebody." [41:14]

Notable Quotes and Standout Moments

• On the Perils of Rescue:
  "If you grab me, we're both going to die."
  — Bobby [06:33]
  "The pressure's on the girl now... Now every day is a gift. She has to become something fucking amazing or else your heroics were for nothing."
  — Jay [18:35]

• On Race and Comedy:
  "Thank God this white was there to save my kid's ass."
  — Jay [15:21]
  "Just another black girl lost to the sea."
  — Jay [13:45]

• On Social Media and Fame:
  "What this thing did to me... It humbled me. It made me grateful."
  — Bobby [43:18]
  "You could have made the story of just the drowning and the saving the entire show today."
  — Jay [46:33]

• On Family Dynamics:
  "I actually told him and Don, I would like to be referred to as hero for the rest of the trip."
  — Bobby [31:35]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 01:06 – 07:00: Building to the rescue — beach conditions and disaster setup
• 07:00 – 12:18: The rescue interaction, father’s arrival, aftermath
• 13:45 – 19:08: Joking about the rescue, racial dynamics, gratitude
• 19:08 – 21:16: Jay’s American History X parody, generational trauma riffs
• 31:35 – 36:20: How the family reacted, Bobby’s “request” for hero-worship, honest feelings
• 32:35, 34:05: Real reflection on fear, mortality, and parenthood
• 40:20 – 45:29: Social media posting, ribbing, and the “holding greet”
• Throughout: Constant comedic riffs, playful insults, and banter

Episode Tone & Takeaways

The episode captures The Bonfire at its best: blending a harrowing real-life story with irreverent humor, genuine reflection, and the unfiltered honesty that defines Big Jay and Bobby’s partnership. While the laughs never stop, listeners come away with real insight into why ordinary acts can feel extraordinary, and how comedy can help process even the scariest moments.

Final words go to Bobby:

"I'm a hero. I saved somebody's life. The story's over. And let's just move on and know that this girl's safe with her family because of my heroics."
— Bobby Kelly [45:12]

For listeners:
You don’t need to have heard the episode to enjoy the laughs, feel the stakes, and appreciate both the high absurdity and honest humanity of The Bonfire’s “Bobby Buoy The Hero.”