C (2:45)

Well, it's funny, anytime that we work with women, whether it be ourselves or one of our clients, and they're like, I feel so stuck and I feel. Something feels off and I just can't name it. Maybe it's my business, maybe it's the relationship, maybe it's this. It's like if you're feeling off, it's your soul. We, we think your soul, your higher self, your spirit, whatever you want to call it, going, hey, something's out of alignment. Something is out of alignment. Sometimes it's the tiniest little thing.

B (3:08)

It may just be how you're viewing something.

C (3:09)

It might be your perspective, it might be your diet. It might be, like, who you hung out with in the last few weeks. It might be a TV show you're watching or your social media use. It might be that you're building a business out of scarcity and your body's like, no, this is not the answer. And so we really say that you gotta treat the stuckness, the numbness as a symptom of being out of internal alignment. That really is the thing. And, you know, you can think about it almost like a gps. We all have this internal GPS inside that knows our true north. And when we're tuned into that and like, really moving from that place, everything feels like flow state. We're like, oh my gosh, this feels so good. Life is so easy. Everything's a yes. Oh my gosh, how do we get so blessed? And when you're off, you're like, why does this feel weird? Everything feels off. And it may not be that anything in your circumstances has to change, but just how you're relating to it, how you're orienting to it, and so really getting that it's just a symptom. From your gps, like, hey babe, you're off track, check in. And it really does require that check in.

B (4:08)

Yeah, I mean, I think that one thing we're going to be here is consistent, right? All of this requires the practice, the consistency, the checking in, really being in that continual practice. And again, I think when we realize we don't just get there and then arrive because that's truly part of the mentality we're trying to break, that there's some place we're trying to get to. All of this is just a deeper invitation always, even for us. Again, it comes up, okay, what do I need to do to chicken? What am I? I like numbing out from what am I feeling stuck around? And sometimes it may just be that there is something we don't want to quite know yet or something we don't want to kind of shift yet. And actually again when we start to realize, because I think sometimes numbness feels like it's kind of something that happens over there that's not like it's, it's not a feeling or it's not something, but it actually is like numbness is still information. Even when you're connecting to your body. It's like, oh, if you check in and you feel numb, we feel nothing. That's still information. So still just again with all of these pieces realizing, all right, that's there is a, it is a signal, it is something. And the more, again, the more that we're in this practice because there's such a deconditioning of just constantly trying to fix. So again, not kind of coming at this of like, oh, I've got to fix something, but also like, okay, this is information. All right, I'm feeling a little stuck, I'm feeling frustrated. I feel like what the f. Like again, so many women come to us from that place of just okay, you know, when we first started this business, we started it with aliveness and sensuality and pleasure because that was so a part of what we created from this journey. And we realized quickly that really what started women on this journey is this feeling. Numbness, disappointment, frustration, disillusion, feeling stuck. Cuz that's really like again, that's the entryway to just deeper, deeper alignment, deeper connection to self, more fulfillment. But when we see it as that versus it being a problem, that I.

C (5:51)

Think that's the piece because I think so many women look at like, oh my gosh, something's off and like it's.

B (5:57)

A problem because it can't feel like a problem. Obviously it's not the experience we want.

C (6:00)

And then you're trying to fix it cuz you're like, where's the leak? Like, there's a leak in my life. I need to find the leak so I don't drown. But if we look at it like, oh, there's a leak and it's an opportunity to build a stronger foundation that really shifts. Like I remember there's a point in my life right before, right before we got into this work and started this work where I was like, I, I cannot keep doing what I'm doing, how I'm doing it. And I just felt like I wanted to blow everything up. Something had to change. And of course, of course it was at the same time as my relationship kind of going through this whole thing as well because I was out of alignment. Something within me is like, hey, we're, we're graduating, we're graduating. The woman you've been, has been awesome and has gotten you to this point, but that woman is no longer here. You, a new woman is being birthed right now. And as you're being birthed, we are going to go through some contractions. And when life starts to contract a little bit and you're like, oh, I'm feeling the squeeze. This doesn't feel as easy as it used to. It's because something new is being birthed. The contractions are part of the birthing process. And we forget, we think it's just supposed to be this orgasmic, fully open birthing process and it's not. Contractions are a biological part of transition. And so I think the, the symptoms of numbness, of disillusionment, of I'm feel checked out, I want to blow it up. It's a symptom and a sign that a big transition is coming, that you're being birthed into a new woman, into a new version of yourself. And it's a really exciting place to be in because it might be scary. We don't necessarily know what's coming, but the newer version of you is coming. And one day you're going to look back and be like, oh, that's why, that's why everything felt off, because it was off. I can't believe I stayed on that path for as long as I could did. But then I listened and then I made the shifts. And so really with this, we tell our woman, addition, subtraction, what needs to be added in to get more into alignment with what your soul, your spirit, your higher self, your muse is calling you into subtraction. What needs to be Removed. That's no longer working at one point. Another version of this. Years ago, Preston and I removed all TVs from our house because we're like, we love entertainment, we love documentaries, we love all the things. We found ourselves watching it a lot, and we just started to feel a little off. And then we said, let's just take the. Let's remove TVs, let's remove alcohol, let's remove the. And we just removed a bunch of stuff. And our life felt so dramatically different in, like, a week. Why? Because we were out of alignment and something new had to be birthed, and we needed more space for that newness to be birthed. So that's just something that you can do, is start to go, okay, if I was really in my highest self, what would I shift? Like, what's off? And waving the flag of like, hey, you're heading in the wrong direction. What direction are you feeling like you're being called to right now? And like, what a beautiful question to sit in.

A (8:33)

And what about the woman listening who's like, I know that I feel so stuck, but I really don't want to blow my life up. Is. Is there a way around blowing my life up? Still getting to the destination.

B (8:43)

Great question. Yeah. And I mean, one of the biggest things that we say in news is really, like, this whole journey is not prescriptive. So what looks like what your journey is, is going to look different to hers, is going to look different to mine. And so, and, and so much of it also is about becoming so connected again to your own truth that you know the answer. And so this will be an answer only the person listening will know, because. But it's going to take the honest ref. Doing kind of all the things we've shared about in this whole series, right, of really getting attuned to herself, getting attuned to her body, getting attuned to the practice, becoming the woman who is that woman in her life. And then through that process that's going to illuminate what stays, what doesn't, what needs to shift, but also it's going to. You know, it's even like we talked about in the relational podcast, the more and more that we do that and become so full and become so sovereign and become in the practice of being that woman, life also starts to shift around us. So it's not that we have to kind of make these, you know, maybe, but I know in my shifted. It shifted on itself. I didn't have to blow anything up. It kind of like it was, erupting. Yeah. What was what like? Life kind of did a lot of that heavy lifting. And so, sure, things may change that you're attached to, or things may look different, like your life totally melted down and. But you look, sit here now saying it was the best thing that ever happened to you. So I think it's. It's not feeling you're not going to have to do something you're not ready to do or, you know, blow up everything. But it's. You're in this process of becoming closer and closer to your truth, closer and closer to the life that you want. So how that's going. Look for everybody is going to be different.

C (10:13)

Yeah. And I think for the woman, that also is like, yeah, okay, I hear that. But Natalie, your life blew up. And your life blew up. And Lexi, your life blew up. It's. It's as you said, our lives were already erupting under the surface. And we were just trying. We were trying to, like, cover the holes of the explosion. And the energy that that takes is exhausting, which is what this whole series is about. The reason why we're burnt out is often because we're over functioning over our body's response to say, hey, something's got a shift. And so the invitation here is start small. Start with subtle shifts, like bringing you into deeper alignment. Maybe you're out of your spiritual practice. Maybe you need to eat better. Like, small, subtle shifts. And the more you start to gain your energy back by closing up some of those holes that are erupting that you've been trying to like, the more you just say, okay, I'm gonna let that burst. Cause that's no longer working. Okay, great. I'm gonna take my hand off of this. Okay, great. And then you start to free up energy to have more clarity to go. Okay, now that I've got a little more space and I feel more aligned and I'm on the right path, where do I want to go? And that's where we can start designing instead of reacting. And that's a really key piece. Like our woman, life can look a lot different, but sometimes it looks so subtly different, but who she is is different in the face of it because she's showing up with this designed outlook on life, this designed range. I want to be a woman who enters every day with joy, or I want to be a woman who's in touch with her pleasure and sensuality. Okay, great. That woman is going to work differently. She's going to send emails differently. She's going to parent differently. She's to do all these things differently, but she's more in alignment with what's calling her forward. And that's why Em said it does look different for every woman. But you've got to ask your the question, like, what type of woman do I want to be and how is my life living out of alignment with that vision? How do I get it closer to who she is?

A (11:59)

And what about for the woman who's like, I hear you, but life right now feels like a never ending magical to do list. It's just like I take one thing off and 10 things are added and I'm exhausted. I can't fathom adding more to my plate.

C (12:14)

Great, you want to take it, you.

B (12:15)

Can if you're alive.

C (12:16)

I just. Real quick, I just want to speak to that. That was me. I was like, do not give me another thing to do. I cannot do it. But that is the invitation. What would be in the highest alignment is space. If you're genuinely feeling overwhelmed, space. Your higher self is going space. Breathe, rest, take care, nourish. And we're going, no, tick, tick, tick. I gotta keep ticking. So for that woman, ask yourself, what is the 20%, 80, 20 rule? What's the 20% that is absolutely necessary, necessary to keep this train running? 80%, delegate it or delete it. And just focus on the essentials and give yourself some space because that's what your body probably needs.

B (12:51)

And it's really also like everything that we've been sharing in this podcast, right? Even that feeling of there's so much. There's literally no space for me. Like there's no space for me to even think about this. That is a symptom even in and of itself that this is the initiation that's happening. Right? Because being a woman like this has been a big piece of work for legs. Like to be a woman who can hold space because she is like her pattern is production and proving constantly.

C (13:13)

Fill the space, make space.

B (13:14)

Yeah, same. Yeah, exactly. So like even that knowing, you know, I think we've addressed that a lot in this podcast of the fact that you're not going to get to the bottom of the list. We're in here like it's where our lives are busy forever and always. But it's how. What's the context that we want to show up to that because it's the solution. Isn't going to be life magically changing so that you can have this experience? This is part of the whole point, right? We have to prioritize this how I am in my life is the experience of my life. So if there's literally no space to do that, you will forever have the experience of not having space. That's right.

C (13:45)

Because the we do have never end y.

B (13:47)

We have to prioritize. And again, this is. The more and more we do this work and the more and more we feel our life shifting because it does, the easier it is to make this space. So in a way, it's kind of like a trustful at the beginning. Like, trust us, this is going to help you. It's really important.

C (14:01)

But it's like you need the evidence sometimes you have to try it out and go, oh, okay, my life isn't going to fully fall apart. And it might actually get better because.

B (14:08)

It may be your nervous system strategy to never have space. Because space is threatening. Because when we think about what lies in the space, it's probably for most of us, all the stuff we haven't felt, all the stuff we're trying to avoid, all. All the stuff we're perpetually putting in the space to not feel, to stay numb, to stay stuck. So a lot of that is also a symptom of energy. We haven't felt emotion we haven't felt as well. So again, everything in our life makes sense, the way that we're approaching life and our systems and our strategies, that it makes sense for what we're currently experiencing. So if we want to experience something different, then we have to prioritize becoming the woman that can experience something different.

A (14:43)

And as we're wrapping up the series, too, Alexi, one thing you said on our last podcast together, which I just think sums a lot of this up, is we're at wherever I go, there I am. And it's almost like we cannot sit here and think that when we tick off these things, or when we're in a new relationship or when we burn the business down and start a new one, when we do all the things, we'll show up differently.

C (15:06)

Right.

A (15:06)

Because we're taking the same person to the new party.

C (15:10)

Yeah. And.

B (15:10)

And.

C (15:10)

And we're. It's a little different because the newness, the novelty gives us that dopamine hit and that rush. So we're like, yes, it is different. Oh, my gosh, I feel so different. Oh, then I'm not. And then, like you. You get the sobering of, like, here I am again. And it's so true. I've had that uncomfortable and unfortunate moment of going, damn, didn't work. The strategy, the change, the novelty, the high last for a second but to actually do the work of working the fundamentals of who we are, working the patterns, working the traumas, working the nervous system, working safety and trust, working enoughness and worthiness. When we work that, yes, it's hard at first, but that is an investment. You want to talk about investment that pays dividends for a lifetime, that investment. There is no other investment like that because I take that person into every deal I make, every house I buy, every relationship I have, every moment with my kids and my husband.

B (16:07)

Every moment of your day.

C (16:08)

That woman lives life completely different every day and is not waiting for some magical moment to show up for me to then have permission to feel different. I feel different because I've done the work to actually land in safety in my body.

A (16:23)

So bad.

B (16:24)

Because that's also like the tough love piece on this is like, we do have to take responsibility for that. Life will never just create that perfect situation. And I say this to my students and clients all the time. Like, we have to be disciplined about this work if we want to actually experience something different. Then it's fine if you don't, but also understand that that's what your situation of life will look like if you do want to experience something different. There is this pathway. There is so much hope, there's so much possibility, there's so much expansion, and it will still also require you to choose that. It will require you to say this matter. My. My experience of my life matters. The experience of my woman matters. And I'm going to do. It could be five minutes a day. Like, I mean, I, you know, and if you don't have five minutes a day, then you have bigger questions to ask. Right. And so this allows us the pathway into what we're wanting, but we also have to take responsibility for the fact that, you know, am I. Am I going to find the reasons why I cannot, or am I committed to actually knowing that I can move towards this? Because we do have to have discipline about it.

C (17:19)

And I. I just have to say, as a mama of four with a very busy life, with like, end to end, my schedule, my life bursting at the seam, sometimes, I made that a priority. And I'm so grateful that I finally did. And literally it was five minutes a day. It was three minutes a day when I started because I was like, I just gotta give myself a small win. Like, I can find three minutes. I was doing practices in the shower. I was doing practices when I was driving to work. There is space. You just have to choose yourself and put yourself first in those moments. Because I know for me, I was the person that's like, there is no space. I don't have time. And I found so much evidence for it. But I was keeping myself in the victim of why my life wasn't working. And in order to change, I had to. I had to create it. I had to create time. I had to become unreasonable. I get bigger than my circumstances to know that I actually mattered. My life matters. And every person that my life touches matters, too. And if I actually believe that, I gotta take care of the source first.

B (18:12)

Yeah. One of the most liberating questions you can ask yourself is, how am I the source of this? And like, actually it's. It feels like a lot of responsibility to do that and step out of. It's all because of my life and all of these pieces, but it actually gives you choice and power. Okay, so if I'm the source of this, then I can also create something different. And I think it's the most liberating, liberating thing ever. Yeah.

A (18:33)

And that's it. That's a big reason I wanted to bring this series to my community. Because it is the best investment. Like you said, you are the one that's going to all of these deals. You are the one that's showing up in negotiations. You are the one in your marriage, you are the one who's parenting. You are the one who's going and dating. You are the one who's making the funnel work, who's creating the offer, who's managing the team. You are the one.

C (18:59)

It.

A (18:59)

So what if instead of investing in all the other things, the things outside of us, we just stepped back and looked at the one that is actually doing all the things?

C (19:09)

Yes.

A (19:09)

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