BONUS* Is There A Time Limit on Gift Giving?

Summary

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Podcast Summary: The Breakfast Club

Episode: BONUS Is There A Time Limit on Gift Giving?*
Date: December 29, 2025
Host(s): DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne Tha God
Guest/Contributor: Lauren LaRosa (segment host), Brandon (producer), Anonymous Caller

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Episode Overview

This bonus episode of "The Breakfast Club" (segment: The Latest with Lauren LaRosa) dives into a lively, relatable holiday debate: Is there a time limit on gift-giving when you start dating someone? Lauren LaRosa leads the conversation with producer Brandon, exploring the etiquette, expectations, and emotional nuances of exchanging gifts in new relationships, especially around Christmas. The discussion is enriched by an anonymous caller’s perspective and sprinkled with pop-culture references and stories from celebrity relationships.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Dilemma: When Is It "Too Soon" to Give a Gift?

• Lauren and Brandon open the conversation on navigating the gray area of new relationships during the holidays.
  • Is there a timeline that determines when you “should” give someone a Christmas gift?
  • Does the seriousness or exclusivity of the relationship matter more than the duration?

Brandon:

"If y’ all are not together and it’s, like, real new, maybe y’ all talking for a few weeks, I don't think they necessarily get a gift, like, real new, like, a week, like, weeks." (05:55)

Lauren:

"It don’t got to be like, you got to buy me a new house, but, like, something that's just like, oh, I got—I’m enjoying conversation with you, here’s, like, a nice perfume... I think it’s a nice gesture." (06:15)

Consensus:

• If you only just started talking or have only been on a date or two, a gift isn't expected.
• After about two months or with “official” status, exchanging gifts feels more natural to them, but small, thoughtful tokens (even early) aren't a bad move.

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2. Price Points, Thoughtfulness, and Social Expectations

• Should the value or “grandiosity” of a gift align with the stage of the relationship?
• Lauren and Brandon agree smaller, thoughtful presents are acceptable—and preferable—early on.
• The thought behind the gift is more important than price.

Lauren:

“I think the bigger the gift...depends on the amount of time that you’ve spent ... I can understand you not wanting to throw a lot of money into someone you barely even know, but I think it’s a nice gesture.” (06:15)

Brandon:

"A grandiose gift without a commitment is a little odd." (06:56)

• Valentine’s Day vs Christmas:
  • Brandon feels Valentine's Day “demands” a gesture no matter how soon, while Christmas is more family-oriented, so expectations may differ.
  • Lauren points out that social media and celebrity culture raise the bar visually, but sentimental, family-centered aspects make Christmas more sensitive for early-stage couples.

Lauren:

“There should be at our big age ... a conversation about when is it too early to even introduce you to the people I love.” (08:47)

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3. Real-Life Example: Lauren’s Own Experience

Lauren reflects on how her past and present relationships have influenced her view of holiday gifts:

• Her previous relationship was “very material,” and she received gifts early.
• In her current (more meaningful) relationship, she values time and shared traditions more than presents.

Lauren:

"In this situation I'm in now, I would much rather like how things are right now with us. I mean, babe, you know, I want my gifts, but I value just being able to be with him on the holiday and be with his family..." (11:38)

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4. Listener Call-In: Anonymous Caller’s Take

[16:41 - 21:09]

Lauren and Brandon bring in a listener for a fresh perspective.

• The Anonymous Caller is in a new but “official” relationship (under 6 months) and shares they exchanged gifts their first Christmas.
• She says frequency of communication and thoughtfulness matter more than formality or time:
  • Small, personal gifts (favorite snack, candle, etc.) are meaningful, even if new.
  • Price isn’t as important as intention.
  • She wouldn’t change her approach in a future relationship, even if things didn’t work out this time.

Quotes:

Anonymous Caller: “I feel like it depends on the rate at which you speak to the person, because we speak every day. So even if you didn’t get something grand, it could have been something personal, but like low pressure...” (18:05)
Lauren: "Consideration is. Baby, get me that for Christmas every year." (18:46)
Anonymous Caller: “I don't expect something huge until, like, we're in a committed relationship...after the six-month mark...then I would need you to use your brain and think a little bit.” (20:09)

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5. “Givzy Backsies”: When Do Gifts Get Taken Back?

[26:19 – 30:41]

Lauren and Brandon debate the etiquette (and pettiness) of “taking back” gifts, referencing Drake’s story about buying Quavo’s gifted Bentley (originally for Sweetie) after the couple split.

• Lauren calls it “corny” for both Drake to share the story and for gifts of that magnitude to be repossessed.
• The conversation pivots to control, maturity, and boundaries with major gifts in relationships.

Lauren:

"I also think that taking a gift back like a car that you buy...I think it's very, like, corny. I also think it's a...controlling [move]." (28:07)

Brandon:

"That's the very mature thing to do. You gave somebody a gift, then you...let them have it. But I just know that's—theory versus practice when you're hurt." (29:51)

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6. Final Thoughts & Takeaways

• Thoughtfulness is the recurring theme: Even small gifts can—and should—be exchanged in new relationships if the intention is genuine.
• Gift value should be appropriate to relationship stage but rules aren’t hard and fast.
• Major material gifts (cars, expensive items) complicate things; real gifts shouldn’t have strings attached.
• Open communication about expectations is key.

Lauren (summarizing):

“Thought begins the day you breathe at me.” (25:23)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Lauren, on the origin of thoughtful gift-giving:

  “If I've ever heard you breathe or saw you blink your eye on FaceTime, that is when thought begins.” (25:39)

• Anonymous Caller, on the essence of early gifting:

  “It doesn't have to be something grand. So for you to still not go ahead and get something is kind of crazy to me.” (20:48)

• Brandon, on the “no returns” rule:

  “That's crazy to me, taking a gift back.” (26:06)

• Lauren, on what matters most:

  "Consideration is. Baby, get me that for Christmas every year." (18:46)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [05:55] – When is it “too soon” to exchange gifts?
• [08:23] – Is Christmas about family, and does that affect gifting expectations?
• [11:38] – Lauren shares her personal relationship perspective
• [16:41] – Listener call-in: When should couples start exchanging gifts?
• [18:05] – The value of frequency and thoughtfulness in gifts
• [26:19] – “Givzy backsies”—taking major gifts back after a breakup
• [30:41] – Wrapping up: Is it ever OK to take a gift back?

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Tone & Language

• The hosts use a candid, relatable, and humorous tone, tackling the nuances of gifting with both seriousness and playfulness.
• Lauren’s language is spirited (“If you breathe in my way…”), and the flow is conversational and energetic.

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In Summary

This episode unpacks the often unspoken rules about gift-giving early in dating—advocating for thoughtfulness and open communication over dollar amounts and grand gestures. The lively banter, real listener insight, and pop-culture context (hello, Drake & Quavo!) ground the chat, making it both entertaining and insightful for anyone navigating new relationships during the holidays.

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"The moral of the story is if you breathe in my way...thought begins." – Lauren LaRosa (25:23)

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Transcript

[Lauren LaRosa]

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[DJ Envy]

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[DJ Envy]

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[Lauren LaRosa]

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[Brandon]

Mmm.

[Big Loon]

Yeah, that taste always hit the right note. Just like the band at halftime. Passionate fans, school colors everywhere. The an ice cold Coca Cola that's a winning combo. No matter the place, no matter the moment. Everybody knows fan work is thirsty work. So grab a Coca Cola and keep that HBCU pride going.

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[Lauren LaRosa]

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[Brandon]

You know, she don't lie about that.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Right? Lauren came in hot. Hey, y', all, what's up? It's Lauren LaRosa. And this is the latest with Lauren LaRosa. This is your daily dig on all things pop culture, entertainment news, and all of the conversations that shake the room, baby. So today we are, you know, getting into another holiday conversation that is going to shake the room for show for show. And we're going to have someone on the line. We have an anonymous caller, you know, here at the Latest with Lauren LaRosa. We get on the line with the low riders and just hear how they're feeling and what they have to say. So we were here, we were having a conversation about the holidays. And you're seeing all the celebrities at this point with the gifting and the, you know, all of the, the fine things that they do for their significant others. Some of the biggest celebrities have been all up and down our timeline with the gifts that they've been giving that they've been receiving. So we want to know what is too soon? How soon is too soon to buy holiday gifts for someone that you are dating? So Brandon is here with me. He's on the pod.

[Brandon]

Yes, yes, I'm back.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So tell the people who you are. I don't think we've ever given you, like an official title. Brandon produces this segment.

[Brandon]

Yes. So I produce this segment. I work with Lauren on the Breakfast Club. I help with the latest. And yeah, so we decided to do this segment, and we said, we're gonna do what, like, once or twice a month?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yes. Yes, we are. He. He was like, you know what? We need to get the people more engaged. It's like 5 to 8 million people on the audio side. You know, just a little flex for before we get into the new year. So we decided, you know, we wanted to do more to be able to get y' all involved and kind of just engage a bit. And coming from radio now, I could say that I see how important it is for your listeners to feel like they're a part of the show. So here we are. So we will actually be posting the number via, like, on all my socials. I'm Lauren LaRosa everywhere. But I also say it pretty often on the podcast as well here, too. So you guys will know the number. It'll be an easy call in. We'll have it established eventually in later episodes, so you'll have that. But getting to the question, how soon is too soon to buy holiday gifts? When with someone that you are newly dating?

[Brandon]

Okay, so I feel like there's a lot of unwritten rules to this. So if y' all are not together and it's, like, real new, maybe y' all talking for a few weeks, I don't think they necessarily get a gift, like, real new, like, a week, like, weeks.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I don't care if you've been talking to me for a week.

[Brandon]

If the holiday, like, like, just started dating, like, maybe one or two dates, you getting a Christmas day.

[Lauren LaRosa]

It don't got to be like, you got to buy me a new house, but, like, something that's just like, oh, I got. I, I. You know what? I'm. I'm enjoying conversation with you. Here's like, a nice perfume or a perfume. Or, like, I think the. The. I do think the bigger the gift can. I wouldn't be mad if it depends on the amount of time that you've spent that matters with me, because I can understand you not wanting to throw a lot of money into someone you barely even know, but I think it's a nice gesture.

[Brandon]

Yeah, I don't know. And then I feel like if you're.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Like, so what's the time period? Like, at what point in a new relationship do you buy a gift? Like, what's the mark?

[Brandon]

I believe maybe like, over, like, two months. Like, two months, then we can get a gift. Or if y' all are official and it's new, you can get a gift. And even, like, if y' all are not Official. I feel like that even depends on what the gift is. Like a grandiose gift without a commitment is a little odd.

[Lauren LaRosa]

What?

[Big Loon]

Why?

[Brandon]

All right, all right, explain. Maybe I'm tripping. Explain your point.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I just, I don't know. I mean, I. Again, it does have to be like a brand new car or house. Unless that's how you come in. I'm not mad at it. Just make sure, you know, everything is in my name and fully paid for. Don't give me nothing that I got to figure out. But I don't think that there's anything wrong with the gesture of, hey, it's Christmas. I'm enjoying your company, I'm enjoying your voice, I'm enjoying your conversation. Here's something. So, like, maybe in those two weeks of conversation I mentioned to you I like to get my nails done at a certain place or, you know, I like to eat at a certain place, or I'm headed on a trip for New Year's Eve.

[Brandon]

I mean, no, that's cool. But I do feel like the price point matters.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay. And I'm not mad at that. Yeah, I mean, I'm not mad at that whatsoever. I don't think that it's required, but I think it would be nice. Like, dang, that's like. I also, you know, for this conversation, I always think too about like, Valentine's Day and when you're newly dealing with somebody, it's like, when do you guys officially celebrate Valentine's Day to a point.

[Brandon]

Where you feel like that makes more sense than Christmas? I don't know what it is, but I feel like Valentine's Day even, like, no matter how short of a time it is, I think you should do something like some type of gesture dinner gift. I think Valentine's Day, but Christmas, I feel like it's more of like a. A family thing. I think maybe that's what I'm thinking of. It's more like, you know, it's more familiar.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I could understand that. I definitely can understand. I also feel like too, there's such a family sentimental value, like what you're saying, you know, I mean, that comes with Christmas. I know. I was reading this People magazine article, not in the Physical magazine, but I was on people.com and they began to rank celebrities and like the best Christmas tree decorations. And it made me think about just how family oriented Christmas is as a holiday. And like when you are newly dating someone or having a conversation with them, I think that there is like a. There should be at our big age anyway. There is A pause or like, a conversation about, like, when. When is it too early to even introduce you to the people I love? Like, the people that would be surrounded by my Christmas tree and be happy. You know what I mean?

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

But on the top of that list was Jada Pinkett Smith and the Smith in the. What?

[Brandon]

What?

[Lauren LaRosa]

Keep his name out your mouth.

[Brandon]

Keep his mouth. True, true.

[Lauren LaRosa]

But on the top of that list was her. They did a, like, a very artistic, like, velvet. Velvet top tree with, like, a. A huge star on the top. Number three was Al Roker and Deborah Roberts. His wife. Kevin Hart was number four with history. And all these trees are, like, over the top right this year. Yeah, this is this year. But all these people in. In just reading this article and thinking about when is it too soon to buy a gift? I'm like, dang, I don't know the last time I've even had to think about that. Because even in my new relationship, we are settled in, like, when we first started, you know, having conversations and, like, whatever it was that was happening, we weren't even in the point. Like, it was just around this time. You know what I mean? So.

[Brandon]

Yeah, but y', all, like, together, though, now?

[Lauren LaRosa]

But I'm saying last year, y' all.

[Brandon]

Were like, oh, let me not put your business. Y' all dealing for. With each other for.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Not at Christmas time. No, like, we.

[Brandon]

Oh, since last year.

[Lauren LaRosa]

We knew each other around that time, but we. We got through Christmas. But. But Valentine's Day was.

[Brandon]

So what you get for Christmas last.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Year, that has nothing to do with that because that's not where I'm at this year.

[Brandon]

Wait, but what you get.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I got things.

[Brandon]

And. And y' all just started.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You're not.

[Brandon]

Listen, how long were y' all dating.

[Lauren LaRosa]

By last Christmas, the person that I'm talking about? Yeah, it was a few months.

[Brandon]

Yeah, that's a. Like, that's a few months.

[Lauren LaRosa]

It was still very new, and he was still very much alive and didn't have nothing going on. I got. I got something.

[Brandon]

You got what?

[Lauren LaRosa]

You.

[Brandon]

You can't say.

[Lauren LaRosa]

It's irrelevant to where I am now, because what I got had nothing to do with where I ended up, because it was just. That was a completely different person.

[Brandon]

Oh. Oh.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And it was also all very material. Like, in that situation, I knew I was going to be receiving things because a lot of the basis of our relationship was very material.

[Brandon]

Okay.

[Lauren LaRosa]

In this situation I'm in now, I would much rather like how things are right now with us. I mean, babe, you know, I want my gifts, but I value just being able to, like, be with him on the holiday and be with his family and get to meet who's important for him. Because that's another thing too. When it's a new relationship, you're meeting new people and you're me, you know, you're getting into, like, what are their holiday traditions? Is decorating the tree a big thing? Do y' all get together to do that? So, like, I'm excited about experiencing that stuff more than I am about my gifts. But I know my man, so I know he got me. You know, I can say that confidently.

[DJ Envy]

Hey, what up, y'?

[Lauren LaRosa]

All?

[DJ Envy]

It's DJ Envy. And the holidays are here. The time of year that's all about connecting with loved ones in person or over the phone. In fact, hearing someone's voice can emote a similar emotional response as a hug. And while most of us can hop on a video chat to really bring that connection to life, using tech isn't easy for everyone, and especially some of the older folk in our lives. AT&T has been doing something special here to help. They offer digital literacy workshops that help older adults learn how to use technology to do things most of us take for granted, like video conferencing and sharing photos. Take Nancy Shan. She joined one of AT&T's workshops to learn how to video chat. For the first time this holiday season, Nancy won't just be hearing about family gatherings, she'll be a part of them, sharing stories, opening presents, and making memories all through a screen. Nobody should have to go through the holiday season alone. So be sure to connect and stay connected to your loved ones this holiday season.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Connecting changes everything. AT&T.

[Big Loon]

What's up? It's Big Loon from It's Up There podcast. On this episode, we're unpacking the difference between toxic love and a real bond. How so many of us were taught to survive love instead of experiencing it. A lot of men think being solid means being silent. I'm good. I got it. That's the script we memorize before we even know ourselves. Because somewhere along the line, expression got labeled weakness. So now we perform composure while we're falling apart. You'll share your body, but not a conversation. And that's not intimacy. But what if being a man really means you care enough to communicate? Real love isn't loud. It's consistent. It's the small things. The small check ins, the shared accountability, the honesty that feels awkward but keeps everyone safe. Stop confusing numbness with dependability. We gotta break the cycle and break the pattern. This special episode of It's Up There podcast with Lone, brought to you by Healthy Sexual from Gilead sciences on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcast.

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All.

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[Questlove]

Hey, audiobook lovers, this week on the podcast, I'm sitting down with musician, producer and walking encyclopedia Questlove. We're talking about Mark Ronson's memoir, Night how to be a DJ in 90s New York City. All right, like we talked about before, Mark Ronson found sanctuary in the DJ booth. What's a tool or piece of equipment in the studio or on stage that gives you the most control?

[Big Loon]

So I have two microphones on stage. We have the microphone that you hear as the audience. Then we have a second microphone in which we communicate with each other. I feel like that second microphone kind of saved all of our friendships. No band likes each other after 20 years or 25 years. The Beatles broke up in seven and a half years and we're going on 35.

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[Lauren LaRosa]

But we do have a caller on the line because again, we wanted to hear what the people had to say about these things. So our caller, who is anonymous, I want to know how soon is too soon to begin gifting BAE for Christmas, if it's a new relationship. Hi, how are you?

[Anonymous Caller]

I'm good.

[Brandon]

I'm good.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Well, first of all, I want to know, you know, are you in a relationship? I am. How new is this relationship?

[Anonymous Caller]

It's pretty new, but we. We were dating for a while.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay. All right. So he's not a new person, but the exclusivity and the intensity of, like, we're together is new.

[Anonymous Caller]

Yes.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay. So did you guys spend Christmas together?

[Anonymous Caller]

Yes.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And it was your first Christmas together?

[Anonymous Caller]

Yes.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And you guys exchanged gifts?

[Anonymous Caller]

Yes, we did.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So are you guys under the six month mark?

[Anonymous Caller]

We are.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Okay. All right, so at what point were you like. Like, for you. Is there a time limit on. No, we're not getting. We're not doing the gifts thing. Like, if you guys had not been a hundred percent together, right. Like, you. Y' all are still just dating. It's still very intentional. But there's no. We're. You're my boyfriend, I'm your girlfriend, would you have exchanged gifts this Christmas?

[Anonymous Caller]

I would have, because I feel like it depends on the rate at which you speak to the person, because we speak every day. So even if you didn't get something grand, it could have been something personal, but like low pressure or something that you mention all the time. It could be something small like a candle, your favorite snack. Like, it doesn't have to be.

[Lauren LaRosa]

A.

[Anonymous Caller]

Grand gift, but I feel like it depends.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I agree. I think as women, though, for us, is the thoughtfulness correct? Is that what you're looking for at that point? Yeah.

[Anonymous Caller]

And I think that we are just naturally more thoughtful.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I agree. Consideration is. Baby, get me that for Christmas every year.

[Anonymous Caller]

Yeah. I think we'll think of, like, the little things that they may not think of.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So were you happy with your Christmas gifts?

[Anonymous Caller]

I was.

[Lauren LaRosa]

And moving forward, right, Because. Because, all right, you got Christmas. Y' all did the Christmas tradition and all the things, but God forbid, this were not to work. Would you do Christmas differently with a new bae? Because y' all are. It seems like y' all are pretty early in this situation. Would you do Christmas differently with a new bay based on if. If this doesn't work, just trying things new. Do you feel like no gifts at Christmas is. Is okay for new relationships?

[Anonymous Caller]

No, I think that just being the person that I am, I would just get a gift regardless, because I. I don't think I'm going to change the type of person I am. Even if a situation didn't work out.

[Lauren LaRosa]

How much money they got to spend in this new relationship, though? So we. Three months in, six months in. How much money? Like, what's The. What's the average good price point?

[Anonymous Caller]

I don't think there's a. I don't think there's a price limit or like a, an amount.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Oh, you a good one.

[Anonymous Caller]

I don't, I don't expect something huge until like, we're in a committed relationship. And maybe like after the six month mark, if that holiday comes afterwards, then I'm like, okay, I would need you to use your brain and think a little bit. Would you, prior to that, would you.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Would you have ended your relationship if your person came to you and said, you know what, we're pretty new. We haven't even been in a relationship a year yet. I don't think exchanging Christmas gifts makes sense.

[Anonymous Caller]

Would I end it? No. I probably argue a little bit though.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Oh, girl, you a writer.

[Anonymous Caller]

Okay, because I would need to hear your reason. I would need to hear like, because if you know me, you know that it doesn't have to be something grand. So for you to still not go ahead and get something is kind of crazy to me.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Well, there we have it. Thank you for coming on the line with us. Happy holidays. Thank you.

[Anonymous Caller]

You too.

[Big Loon]

What's up? It's big long from it's up there podcast. On this episode, we're unpacking the difference between toxic love and a real bond. How so many of us were taught to survive love instead of experiencing it. A lot of men think being solid means being silent. I'm good. I got it. That's the script we memorize before we even know ourselves. Because somewhere along the line, expression got labeled weakness. So now we perform composure while we're falling apart. You share your body but not a conversation. And that's not intimacy. But what if being a man really means you care enough to communicate? Real love isn't loud. It's consistent. It's the small things, the small check ins, the shared accountability, the honesty that feels awkward but. But keeps everyone safe. Stop confusing numbness with dependability. We gotta break the cycle and break the pattern. This special episode of It's Up There podcast with Lone, brought to you by Healthy Sexual from Gilead sciences on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcast.

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[DJ Envy]

All.

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[Questlove]

Hey, audiobook lovers, this week on the podcast I'm sitting down with musician, producer and walking encyclopedia Questlove. We're talking about Mark Ronson's memoir, Night how to Be a DJ in 90s New York City. All right, like we talked about before, Mark Ronson found sanctuary in the DJ booth. What's a tool or piece of equipment in the studio or on stage that gives you the most control?

[Big Loon]

So I have two microphones on stage, we have the microphone that you hear as the audience. Then we have a second microphone in which we communicate with each other. I feel like that second microphone kind of saved all of our friendships. No band likes each other after 20 years or 25 years. The Beatles broke up in seven and a half years and we're going on 35.

[Questlove]

Listen to Earsay, the Audible and iHeart Audiobook Club on the iHeartradio app or wherever you get your podcasts.

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[Big Loon]

Who wouldn't?

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[Brandon]

Well, I like, I like, I like that calling.

[Lauren LaRosa]

She said exactly what I said.

[Brandon]

I think it's more important to be thoughtful.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yes, but thought begins the day you breathe at me.

[Brandon]

They just said it better. They just said it better.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Thought begins the day you breathe at me the moral of the story is if you breathe in my way. Especially if you. What?

[Brandon]

Because when you breathe, that. That's crazy. I mean, it's not crazy. You know, everybody's entitled.

[Lauren LaRosa]

But if I have to. Listen, if I've ever heard you breathe or saw you blink your eye on FaceTime, that is when thought begins. And it's nothing wrong with. Even if it's just like a cute little Christmas card and some candies.

[Brandon]

I'm all about thoughtfulness, though. That's. I. That's where I feel like I'm good at thoughtfulness.

[Lauren LaRosa]

That's what men be saying. That's. That's what men always be saying. And then the thoughtfulness kick in, and then they take the gift back as soon as the thought, oh, I don't do that.

[Brandon]

That's crazy to me. Taking a gift back.

[Lauren LaRosa]

No givzy backsies. You can't say the other words because it's not you.

[Brandon]

What's the other words?

[Lauren LaRosa]

It starts with a I.

[Brandon]

And the second one starts, we not.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Going to get canceled here. You can't say that.

[Brandon]

Got you.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You know what you saw? Drake was on stream with and was talking about the car that Quavo got for Sweetie that he then said he took back. And he said that he bought it back as a gift. Like, he bought it for Quavo as a gift. And Cable didn't really understand. Let's take a listen to that. Okay.

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All right, I'm gonna tell.

[Big Loon]

Let's say it.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You remember.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

You remember when.

[Lauren LaRosa]

When.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

When the Sweetie Bentley was going viral.

[Big Loon]

Remember there's an ice blue baby, apparently.

[DJ Envy]

Huh?

[Big Loon]

It was Sweetie's car. Yeah, they said that Quavo.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I got it for it.

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Big Loon]

And I was like, oh. Like, I saw it for sale somewhere.

[Lauren LaRosa]

So.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

And this is like when we were.

[Big Loon]

First on stake, and I was just. Paper was just running. So I was. Or maybe it was before that.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

It was before that.

[Big Loon]

No, it was around that time. And so I was like, man, just. I was like, I saw it for sale.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

Like, yo, I'm gonna buy that back for my dog.

[Big Loon]

So then I'm like, I, like, kind of tried to do the same thing.

[Brandon]

Where I was like.

[Big Loon]

I invited him over, and I'm like, yo, like, come over to this party. I parked the whip right in the front. But you did buy it. I bought it for him and I was like. He pulled up, like, he's like, oh.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

Like, he thought I.

[Big Loon]

He thought she was there. But he.

[Lauren LaRosa]

What did he say?

[Brandon]

What did he say?

[Coca Cola Announcer]

It's not about it's not about what he said.

[Big Loon]

Shout out to Ch.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

But he really didn't understand.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Speaking of giving things back, first of all, I think it was. I really think it was corny. A Drake to share this story.

[Brandon]

Yeah. Wait, so he bought it from Sweetie and give it back to Quavo?

[Lauren LaRosa]

No, no, no, no, no. That's why I said when that caller was talking to us, remember I said make sure everything is all the notes and all that is right. And I actually own it. Yeah, it was, it couldn't have ever.

[Brandon]

Been fully like oh, that's a little like disrespectful though, right? That's a little like shady than to do that. Right. Like I could actually buy it.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yes.

[Brandon]

Okay.

[Lauren LaRosa]

What don't get me nothing that you can give back. Like what? And it was like I remember when this went down. So it was, it was ice blue Bentley. He got it, he got this gift for Sweetie in Christmas, Christmas of December. December, Christmas of 2020. And it had like, it was customized. She had like the icy snowflakes embroider on it like the headsets. And it was really cute for them. Was a fine moment she brought. Cuz people were always trying to make it seem like Sweetie was getting more out of relationship than he was. But I remember she returned the gift later on and like brought him some cars as well too. Like he was I guess really into old schools and stuff like that. But I think number one, it was corny for Drake to tell us that he did that. I also think that taking a gift back like a car that you buy. Yeah, I think it's it's very like corny. I also think it's a. It's just a controlling. It's like something that you can. You know what I'm saying?

[Brandon]

Well, I've never been in that situation that allegedly Quavo was in where like she cheated on you with somebody you may know and it's like, I don't know. I've never been hurt to that. That extent. So I don't know what I would do in that situation.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I mean. Yeah.

[Brandon]

But I would hope. I wouldn't.

[Lauren LaRosa]

I'm pretty sure that no relationship is perfect.

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You know what I mean? Like I, I don't. We don't know everything that went down. There have been allegations of like see know Sweetie doing certain things and offset or whatever. And I know things have been, you know, offset is spoke out and tried to clear that up or whatever. But I think you don't know all of the details into a Relationship ever. But I just feel like if you going to buy me something, especially something as big as a car is different. If it's like a little necklace or whatever, but as big as a car, like, if you standing on that. Stand on it.

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Let me go about my business in my car.

[Brandon]

Yeah, no, that's the very mature thing to do. You gave somebody a gift, then you.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Don'T really feel that way. No man feels that.

[Brandon]

No, I do, but I just. I just know it's like, that's the. That sounds good in theory, but if somebody really hurts you in a real way, like, you'd want to not hurt them back, but, like, you wouldn't want them to enjoy something like that that you gave them, like just riding around, swallowing another dude in the passenger seat, like, I don't know. I. I don't know. Or let another dude borrow the car. And I feel like that would add insult to injury. But the mature thing to do is definitely just leave the gift and let them have it.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Yeah, well, listen, there was speculation back then that the car was repossessed. Drake basically just confirmed that the car was taken back. We, you know, all the things have happened. I just. We could deal without this news heading into our new year is all I'm saying.

[Brandon]

Yeah.

[Lauren LaRosa]

You know, but the news is there and we will talk about it and we will report it, of course. So thank you, Drake, and thank you, Steak for that stream. This has been another episode of the latest with Lauren laros. And I want to hear from you guys. Get at me on social. It's Lauren LaRosa everywhere. L O R e n L o r o S a. What do y' all think? When is the time when you and new BAE exchange Christmas gifts for the first time? Is there a time limit and is there like a monitoring of like, okay, and babe been talking for a few weeks. Is there a certain amount of money he has to spend? Is it the thought that counts? I want to know where my low riders live with this one. So make sure you guys hit me up. Get in the treat. Get in this. Get in the streets, in the tweets. We will hear from you soon. I'm Lauren LaRosa. This has been another episode of the Latest with Lauren LaRosa. I tell you guys, every single episode, y' all could be anywhere with anybody. But y' all choose to be right here with me. I will catch you guys in my next one. Happy New Year.

[DJ Envy]

Hey, what up, y'?

[Lauren LaRosa]

All?

[DJ Envy]

It's DJ Envy. And the holidays are here. The time of year that's all about connecting with loved ones in person or over the phone. In fact, hearing someone's voice can evoke a similar emotional response as a hug. And while most of us can hop on a video chat to really bring that connection to life, using tech isn't easy for everyone, especially some of the older folk in our lives. AT&T has been doing something special here to help. They offer digital literacy workshops that help older adults learn how to use technology to do things most of us take for granted, like video conferencing and sharing photos. Take Nancy Shand. She joined one of AT&T's workshops to learn how to video chat. For the first time this holiday season. Nancy won't just be hearing about family gatherings, she'll be a part of them, sharing stories, opening presents, and making memories all through a screen. Nobody should have to go through the holiday season alone. So be sure to connect and stay connected to your loved ones this holiday season.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Connecting changes everything. AT&T.

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What a matchup we got, y'.

[Big Loon]

All.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

This is that classic HBCU vibe. Non stop action. The band is rocking and the crowd lit. Chance, echo, drum beat everybody showing that school pride game like this. Yeah, it calls for an ice cold Coca Cola. Ah, crisp and refreshing. That's a game changer right there.

[Lauren LaRosa]

Mmm.

[Coca Cola Announcer]

Yeah, that taste always hits the right note. Just like the band at halftime. And just like that, we're back at it. Passionate fans, school colors everywhere and an ice cold Coca Cola. That's a winning combo no matter the sport, no matter the yard. Everybody knows fan work is thirsty work. So grab a Coca Cola and keep that HBCU pride going.

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