The Breakfast Club: Good Moms Bad Choices — Misconceptions of a Wild Mom

iHeartPodcasts | October 4, 2025
Hosts: Erica & Mila

Episode Overview

This episode of Good Moms Bad Choices, featured on The Breakfast Club, digs into the myths, stigmas, and societal judgments surrounding “wild” or “liberated” moms. Hosts Erica and Mila, both single mothers, use real-life anecdotes, sharp wit, and candid conversations to dismantle the misconceptions about modern motherhood—especially for women who refuse to conform to the “perfect mom” mold. They offer a funny, honest, and empowering exploration of parenting, womanhood, sexuality, and self-prioritization.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Breaking Out of the “Good Mom” Mold

• Erica and Mila start with playful banter and affirm their identities as unapologetic, liberated mothers who make unconventional choices (03:00–03:50).
• They introduce the idea that wild or liberated moms are subject to unfair scrutiny—not just from society, but from other women and mothers as well.

2. Mom Tips & “Wild” Aspirations

• Facebook Marketplace as a Lifesaver:
  Erica shares her “Mom Tip of the Week”—use Facebook Marketplace for everything from furniture to exotic animals.
  • "You can sell and buy pretty much anything. I’m pretty sure you can buy exotic animals on that bitch." (03:46)
• Dreaming of a Commune Life:
  Joking-but-not-joking, Erica and Mila fantasize about buying land in Costa Rica and starting a “Good Moms” community for off-grid, tribe-style living.

3. Spotting & Discussing “Crazy”

• The perils and prevalence of “crazy” in everyday life, and how the current state of the world makes true sanity rare.
• Defining sanity as “self-awareness” and limiting emotional “crash-outs”—even as the hosts recount their own wild child stories and current parenting challenges (06:42–10:15).

4. Kids and School Drama

• Candid stories about their daughters, including a shocking account of a fourth-grade bathroom fight at a “predominantly Caucasian charter school” (08:01–10:44).
• Erica’s parenting retrospective:
  • "At night, I was like, I should have never said that. I have...I lack emotional maturity now." (10:15)
• Nuanced discussion about modeling emotional maturity and reflecting on the pressures placed on children.

5. Fights—In Childhood, Adulthood, Even with Moms

• Recounting fights in youth, college, and even with their own mothers, the hosts point out that generational cycles of conflict often shape their own mothering style—and the desire to heal and break those cycles (13:22–20:46).
• Cycle-breaking declaration:
  • "Dear God, please don’t ever let me have to get into any physical altercations with my child. Because that is ghetto and we are moving on from that." (20:36)

6. Weekly Bad Choices & “Mom Confessions”

• Hilarious admission: Mila had sex on her couch and only realized her friend sat there after—the importance of owning your “bad” choices and not shaming honest sexuality (21:21–22:31).
• On the etiquette (or lack thereof) regarding bodily fluids and home furniture, drawing laughs and solidarity from both hosts.

7. Liberated Mom Misconceptions—Top Five List (28:13–88:54)

Misconception 1: Moms Can’t Smoke Weed

• The stigma against mothers who use cannabis, even for medicinal or anxiety-relief purposes.
  • "Shut the fuck up. Let the bitch—let the mother...I say bitch with all the love in my heart—queen, smoke the weed." (32:34)

Misconception 2: Moms Have to Dress Conservatively

• The myth that motherhood means abandoning personal style for Banana Republic or “kitten heels.”
• Laughter over the “church mom” look and robust defense of dressing sexy at any age.
• "I’m gonna say, I’m not gonna be 70, rocking my cleavage out, because that’s a goddamn lie." (48:31)

Misconception 3: Single Moms Are Reckless Daters

• The accusation that dating as a mom equals exposing children to instability or danger.
• Discussions on boundaries, protecting kids, and allowing for safe, guilt-free exploration of sexuality and partnership post-divorce or breakup.
  • "If you’re wild, you’re generally probably more likely to talk about things that most moms won’t." (38:50)
• Normalizing “having your hoe phase” after motherhood, and breaking the shame cycle (59:32).

Misconception 4: Moms Must Sacrifice Their Careers

• Refuting the judgment that career ambition is selfish for mothers, especially single moms.
• Balancing ambition, self-care, breakdowns, and evolving priorities.
• The acknowledgment that children benefit from witnessing their moms following their dreams and self-fulfillment (71:46–74:55).

Misconception 5: Only Biological Parent Relationships Deserve Priority

• Arguing that new romantic relationships can and should be prioritized by single moms—these partnerships matter too and deserve investment.
  • "No one really cares if a single mom has to go like date or find their mate. They’re almost like, should have made the first one work, bitch." (87:14)

8. Mother-Daughter Honesty & Education

• Practical parent talk about sex, anatomy, and even personal hygiene, with humor and candor.
• The importance of honest, sometimes “cringe” conversations so that children feel empowered to ask questions (40:08–43:12).

9. Handling Shame, Growth, and Setting Boundaries

• Discussing internal and societal guilt around every aspect of “wild” motherhood—from sex and relationships to self-image and finances.
• Unapologetic encouragement for women to follow their joy; the double standard is real, and men rarely face the same scrutiny (76:33).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "Your family can come...we’re gonna vet you. I’ll look you deep in your eyes and I'll know." — Mila, on forming their mom commune (05:43)
• "I don’t know how any of you people are raw doggin' life. I don’t even like condoms for sex, let alone this life." — Erica (37:04)
• "If you’re wild, you’re generally probably more likely to talk about things that most moms won’t." — Erica (38:50)
• "I’m a liberated mom because I don’t want to be an incarcerated one." — Erica (91:34)
• "Wild moms are good moms too." — Mila (91:45)

Timestamps of Important Segments

| Timestamp | Segment Description | |-----------|---------------------------------------------------------------------| | 03:00 | Episode theme and affirming “liberated” momhood | | 04:46 | Facebook Marketplace “Mom Tip of the Week” & commune discussion | | 08:01 | School bathroom fight story and emotional maturity reflection | | 13:21 | Childhood and adult fight stories; generational parenting cycles | | 21:21 | Weekly “bad choices” confessions—sex on the couch and more | | 28:13 | Introduction to “Five Misconceptions of a Wild Mom” | | 32:34 | Moms, weed, and harsh societal judgment | | 38:50 | Open honesty with kids about sex and anatomy | | 48:31 | Fashion freedom—dressing sexy as a mom at any age | | 59:32 | Breaking the “reckless single mom” myth & post-mom “hoe phase” talk | | 71:46 | The taboo of prioritizing career as a mom | | 87:14 | Prioritizing new romantic partners as a mom | | 91:45 | Affirmation: “Wild moms are good moms too” |

Affirmations & Closing

• "Let your titties swing…especially if you’re a mom. I’m swinging my titties right now. Me too. I feel ten times better, actually." (92:18)
• The episode ends with a Tarot card (Ace of Pentacles) that predicts abundance, prosperity, and holistic wealth—a perfect metaphor for the freedom and fulfillment that comes with choosing a wild, authentic path in motherhood (96:54).

Vibe & Takeaways

The episode is refreshingly candid, blending humor, vulnerability, and real talk. Erica and Mila challenge the rigid expectations placed on mothers and encourage listeners to own their choices, reject judgment, and make space for joy, sex, ambition, and self-love—no matter what society thinks. Their stories, advice, and affirmations empower women to know: wild moms are good moms, too.

Perfect for:
Anyone seeking permission to be themselves as a parent or woman, craving relatable stories, or needing reassurance that “imperfection” is not just normal—it’s liberating.

Listen to the full episode for laughs, wisdom, and a strong dose of permission to live—and mother—wild and free.