Podcast Summary: The Breakfast Club – Good Moms Bad Choices: The Green Flags of Cheating (Feat. Marcus Black)
Date: February 21, 2026
Hosts: Erica & Mila (Good Moms Bad Choices), featured guest: Marcus Black
Main Theme: Rethinking relationship dynamics, healing, and what the “green flags” are when dealing with cheating, plus an unfiltered dive into submission, masculinity, religion’s role in love, and emotional safety.
1. Episode Overview
This episode brings together relationship coach, author, and former Love & Hip-Hop star Marcus Black with single-mom hosts Erica and Mila to dissect the complexities of modern love, cheating, submission, and the narratives that Black families inherit from culture and religion. With Valentine’s Day in the air, the group gets candid about “wild womanhood,” partnership, emotional safety, and the real work required to “bulletproof” love.
2. Key Discussion Points & Insights
Defining "Wild Woman" and Modern Femininity
- The term “wild women” is explored as a reclamation of free, authentic, and untamed womanhood—not in opposition to men, but as a flow of primal, feral energy separate from social constructs.
- (06:08) Erica on wildness:
“You are who you are all the time, through and through. There’s nothing that tames the spirit of who you are.”
- (05:08) Marcus Black’s take:
“Wild as in uncontrolled by men. Right? So... Not controlled.”
Submission, Partnership, and Choosing the Right Person
- Submission for women is not seen as a default; it’s a conscious choice given to a deserving partner.
- (07:13) Erica:
“I think a lot of women say for the right man, I will submit, but that’s not always true. Because when you find the right man ... there’s actually, like, a training that has to happen.”
- Both Erica and Mila discuss how generational patterns and single-parenting inform their struggle with submission and trust at home even with men they trust.
(10:58) Erica:“I’m still in the practice of learning how to do that ... Even though I have a good man, even though I have someone I can be soft with.”
Bulletproof Love: Relationship Education and Healing
- Marcus Black introduces his book and “curriculum” (Bulletproof University) meant to fill the educational gap around healthy partnership:
- Marriage is unique in that you need no training or test to get “licensed,” unlike most life skills.
- Healing requires self-reflection, therapy, and intentional effort to break generational cycles.
- (11:47) Marcus Black:
“You pay $250, and you are now cleared to ruin your life... So, I created an actual curriculum on how to do it.”
Religion, Spirituality & Relationship Myths
- Religion often distorts, rather than clarifies, healthy ways to love:
- Many teachings in the church about marriage, control, submission, and cheating aren’t actually backed by scripture.
- The group examines the damaging effects of “struggle love” and how “favorites” and hierarchies in religious texts shape inequality.
- (14:25) Marcus Black on the church:
“If you actually read and studied... these are not the things that Jesus taught or scripture even. It’s not.”
- (42:54) Marcus Black on cheating & religion:
“Men don’t have the right to... Cheating is wrong. I don’t care who you cheating on.”
Cheating: When Can You Stay? What Are the Green Flags?
- The group gets candid about infidelity:
- When is forgiveness or staying justified?
- What does real “remorse” and transformation look like?
- (28:49) Marcus Black—Key Green Flag:
“You can’t go off of potential. You have to go off trajectory... If you hurt your partner and you’re not devastated, something’s wrong here.”
- Cheating discussed through a gendered lens:
- For men, infidelity is often a selfish, hidden act; for women, it's more often connected to unmet needs or neglect.
- (46:07) Marcus Black:
“Most women who are loved properly by their man... typically don’t have eyes for other men. ...With men, you can have the most amazing wife... and the eyes will still move.”
- Erica’s “high thought” challenges the existing narrative, suggesting maybe cheating by women needs more compassion because it typically signals deeper relational issues (49:23–50:38).
Double Standards & Emotional Honesty
- The hypocrisy of men who want “freedom” but can’t reciprocate is called out.
- (34:31) Mila:
“If you can’t handle it in your partner, then you probably don’t like the behavior in yourself. But you don’t have the balls enough to say that to me.”
The Lie of Masculinity & Keeping Your Woman "Out of Business"
- Marcus shares how inherited advice about “keeping your woman out your business” nearly destroyed his relationships:
- (53:09) Marcus Black:
“He told me, if you want to have a successful relationship, you keep your woman out your business. And I took that... it actually had me moving in silence... and it almost cost me everything.”
Emotional Safety—A Man's Perspective
- Safety means a space free from judgment, where truths aren’t weaponized, and support can be requested or declined.
- (57:35) Marcus Black:
“It looks like creating an environment where I feel safe enough to communicate my thoughts and my truths to you without me feeling judged, without me feeling ridiculed, without me having to pay for it later...”
- Separation between wanting “friend” or “wife” energy is highlighted as a skill partners should develop.
Healing Relationships, Generational Trauma & The Need for Education
- The need for community and education in conscious relationships.
- Lack of relationship “schooling” leads to repeated mistakes and intra-community strife (see: gender wars online).
- (63:25) Erica:
“We need school for dating... All of this can be resolved if school for dating existed.”
Misinterpretations of Scripture and the Call for Deeper Study
- Marcus advocates exploring the biblical texts for oneself, integrating knowledge from Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic to break harmful myths and liberate love from institutionalized oppression.
- The hosts suggest a Bible study round-table for a future episode (65:50+).
3. Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- On submission:
Erica (07:15): “I do. I’m very [submissive]—to the right man.” - On infidelity remorse:
Marcus Black (28:49): “If you hurt your partner and... you’re devastated, and they’re not devastated—something’s wrong here.” - On double standards:
Mila (34:31): “If you can’t handle it in your partner, then you probably don’t like the behavior in yourself. But you don’t have the balls enough to say that to me.” - On emotional safety:
Marcus Black (57:35): “...[It’s] creating an environment where I feel safe enough to communicate my thoughts... without being judged, without being ridiculed, without having to pay for it later.” - *Affirmation (70:03):
Marcus Black:“I take ownership of my life, my choices, and my healing. I don’t blame my past. I learn from it. I lead with integrity, I love with intention, and I move with wisdom. I am disciplined, emotionally mature, and built for longevity.” (70:03)
4. Timestamps for Key Segments
- 03:10 – Show intro: “Wild woman” and authentic selfhood
- 07:13 – Evolving submission in relationships
- 11:47 – Why “Bulletproof Love” was created, the missing “license” for marriage
- 14:25 – Religion, tradition, and failed marriage advice
- 28:49 – “Green flags” for staying after infidelity
- 34:31 – Double standards called out
- 46:07 – Why cheating plays differently for men vs. women
- 53:09 – The masculine lie: secrecy vs. partnership
- 57:35 – What emotional safety looks like for men
- 63:25 – The plea for “school for dating” and healing Black love
- 65:50–66:35 – Call for future Bible study episode
- 70:03 – Marcus Black's affirmation
5. Conclusion & Takeaways
With humor, vulnerability, and spiritual curiosity, this session centers the need for honesty, mutual respect, and real education on love. The candid exchanges on gender, trauma, cheating, submission, and the misuse of scripture all point to a deeper yearning: to heal individually and collectively, especially within Black families. The episode ends with a call for more transparency, a willingness to self-reflect, and a promise for future deep-dives—possibly even a “Bible study for baddies,” led by no-nonsense truth-tellers.
For books, resources, or to join Marcus Black’s continued relationship education:
- Website: thebulletprooflove.com
- Instagram: @marcusblack
Affirmation to remember (70:03):
“I take ownership of my life, my choices, and my healing. I don’t blame my past. I learn from it. I lead with integrity, I love with intention, and I move with wisdom. I am disciplined, emotionally mature, and built for longevity.” – Marcus Black