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Jess
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DJ Envy
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Jess
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Jess
Hold up.
Charlamagne Tha God
Every day I wake up. Wake your ass up. The Breakfast Club. Y' all finished or y' all done?
DJ Envy
Morning everybody. It's DJ Envy. Just hilarious. Charlemagne, the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Lorna Rose is here as well. We got a special guest in the building.
Charlamagne Tha God
Fliggy Flame. Flame Monroe.
Flame Monroe
What's up? Breakfast. Good morning, baby. Good morning, Jess.
DJ Envy
You look good.
Flame Monroe
I, I thank you, girl, you know. Thank you, Jess. Good morning, Laura.
Jess
Good morning.
Flame Monroe
I just met her in the lobby. Lovely woman. What's up?
Charlamagne Tha God
You don't know. How you doing? You don't know her long enough to say.
Flame Monroe
Are you gonna get started?
Charlamagne Tha God
He just met her.
Flame Monroe
You have just met you. I just met you. I just want to say congratulations, first of all, Charlemagne. And if you listen. Don't you Love Auntie Pay LaBelle?
Charlamagne Tha God
I love.
Flame Monroe
Don't you love her song? When you've been blessed, you just got blessed by iheart. I've been with you for five and a half years. Pass it on. God damn it. I need a raise. I had to ask.
Jess
What did you do for Valentine's Day?
Flame Monroe
I got a wallet.
Jess
Ooh.
Flame Monroe
I got a Michelle Obama and President Obama that look like a purse.
Charlamagne Tha God
Does it identify as a wallet? What is that.
Flame Monroe
This bullshit? It's too early, Charlemagne. I've been up all night. Look, who gave you. Who gave you the.
DJ Envy
Who's your valentine?
Lauren
Yes.
Flame Monroe
I got a honey, I got a sweetheart. Five years, almost two years.
Jess
Congratulations.
Flame Monroe
We got together during the pandemic and we got stuck.
DJ Envy
Oh, okay.
Flame Monroe
Literally. Literally, like dogs. They threw some water on us, but we still stuck. Oh, L.B. my partner's name is L.B. she wonderful, wonderful, wonderful person.
Jess
Amazing.
DJ Envy
Now, you said y'.
Flame Monroe
All.
DJ Envy
You had a monster night last night. So y' all were going in last night?
Flame Monroe
No, no, I'm here alone.
DJ Envy
Oh, I'm sorry.
Jess
Oh, you did say you were a monster last night.
Flame Monroe
I was a monster last night, but I didn't say what type of monster. Okay, don't be trying to read between the last is just. Girl, I got my tubes tied and a vasectomy. I ain't having no babies. I'm double protected up in this piece. I'm glad to be here. You know what? Let me tell you something, because I just got a movie. I taped a movie. I did two movies last year.
Charlamagne Tha God
Congratulations.
Flame Monroe
Thank you. Congrats. One is a short called We Got Ours Produced, directed by Alicia Cooper, starring Omar Gooding, Michael Collier, Dominique. And then I did a whole movie called 1-800-day-night. I think it's gonna be a to be movie, honestly. But it was so fun. I shot it in Atlanta. I'm saying I want to forget the producer's name is Jeremy Middleton. And Brandon Jones. There's a guy from Milwaukee named Brandon Jones, a young actor. Y' all look out for that young boy. That young boy is so smooth. And when we were taping the movie, he had never dealt with somebody like me. So in the movie, the premise is his girlfriend broke up with him. He back on the dating se. So he went to a dating app and he saw mother. He ran into auntie, but this auntie do uncle shit. Just know that. And so when he was so unfamiliar with somebody like me, so we had to hold hands and get really intimate with each other. So I sat him down before we started filming because I'm a new. I'm really new at acting. And I'm like, I just wanted him to be comfortable. So I said, let me. Let me talk to you. So I took his hand. I'm holding your hand, sir. And I was like, listen, I'm. I'm. I'm. Let me make you real relaxed. I'm a dad who's working to take care of his children just like you work to take care of your kids. When I said that made me nervous. I had to disarm him. Charlemagne. Cuz he had to have his face in my breast and my arms. So tubi movie?
Jess
Yes, I think so.
Charlamagne Tha God
I just t. Oh, that is true.
Jess
Please relax.
Flame Monroe
Shut up. Good movie, good premises and sometimes good act. And I just wanted to disarm him. So when we got ready to shoot the scene, he was so comfortable. And so Jeremy was like, damn, flame, what you do to him? I said, rubbed on his thigh. I said no. I just needed him to know that we're just working out.
Charlamagne Tha God
That probably wasn't his first time.
Flame Monroe
Yeah, see, well you always trying to start some. He had his girlfriend there with a beautiful new baby show, man. Always talking. If you wasn't my boss, I'd slap this. Wait a minute. What happened?
Charlamagne Tha God
We are partners.
Flame Monroe
Flame.
Jess
And then what's the other movie that you were talking about that you dated?
Flame Monroe
This one. The one, 800 day. But the. The short. The short was called we got hours. That's Alicia. We had a bunch of awards for that. A bunch of, you know, black independent awards and everything. It was a really good time. So I had to change my trajectory for who I was. It's the comedy. The comedy world is so oversaturated. Like ridiculously everybody who fail at something else. Rene Comedy st. Comedian. You're not a comedian. You on stage talking about, man, my mama tripping. Where is the goddamn joke? Ain't no joke, everybody. Mama tripping.
Charlamagne Tha God
Why do people think that stand up is so easy? To me, that's the hardest thing to do on stage. To go up there by yourself and try to make a room full of people laugh on purpose.
Flame Monroe
It is a very. It is a. It is a very skilled profession and people who are dedicated to it take the time to learn it. But I don't think that you can learn it on the Internet. This is not going to dig at no Internet comics. The whole in a wall clubs when it's 30 people and they will boo you right in your face. Boo. Those are the clubs that get you ready for the arena. Those are the ones that get you set up. Like, I can do anything. Let's do this shit. And first of all, let me give a shout out to my co host, Bobby Clifford, who is not here for my podcast. I heart Spotify, Apple, Amazon or wherever you listen to your podcast that see how I did that. And we've been with Charlemagne for like five and a half years. How many left from the originals? Because it was 14 when we started. We left.
Charlamagne Tha God
Oh, no, we asked. We had like 60 something.
Flame Monroe
I don't.
Jess
I'm talking about.
Flame Monroe
That started originally.
Charlamagne Tha God
All of them. Except for like.
Flame Monroe
No, it's only like three. No, you dropped a bunch of folks. Damn. Don't be trying to be all nice. Thank you, God. I'm still got my job.
Charlamagne Tha God
People either want to move on and do other things or like, you know, like.
Flame Monroe
Yeah.
Charlamagne Tha God
If it's not mutually beneficial.
Flame Monroe
Yeah. Hold on, Jess.
Jess
So what do you like better? You like acting or comedy?
Flame Monroe
Because I'm a comedian in my blood.
Charlamagne Tha God
Okay.
Flame Monroe
I love to entertain and make people feel good about who they are and make them laugh. But this acting thing is great. I'm hoping to get more opportunities as an actress. And I'm tell you something right now, my lead is not that I'm trans.
Charlamagne Tha God
They typecast you.
Flame Monroe
Of course they will. My life is trans. My lead is I am a dad, actor, comedian, friend, sister, brother, uncle, auntie, all of that. That was on my leads. Trans is my life. Yeah. So there's no need for me to come in and say, oh, I'm trans and I'm a comedian. No, that's way in the back. Yeah, I'm way. And you know, I'm starting to see a lot of these people who come out now because the closet empty. Everybody coming out the closet. I'm going back in. It's room for my shoes, my wigs. So everybody come out the first. That lead is well, you know, I'm gay or I'm trans or I'm pansexual. I'm like. But what got you there? Yeah, you're acting, you're dancing.
Charlamagne Tha God
What you mean?
Flame Monroe
What you mean?
Charlamagne Tha God
What you talking about? What got them there?
Jess
Like, what's the story?
Flame Monroe
That sounded real personal. Charlemagne, right? No, but, you know, that's how I want the people to perceive me. I want you to see me and my talent don't perceive that I'm trained. You already know that's the elephant in the room. But I can do anything you ask me to do.
Jess
Have you ever had to, like, go and like, rearrange a script? Like, y' all leaning too much on the fact that I'm trans and not my talent and the fact that I.
Flame Monroe
Absolutely, absolutely. So I did a movie years and years ago, maybe 15 years ago, with Diana Ross's son, Evan Ross, and with Kerry Washington, long before she did Scandal called Life is Hot in Crack Town. She played a trans woman, a prostitute. It was such a great movie and she was so cool with us. But she went in to. Came and talked to the trans girls in the room because we were just extras and asked us, is this appropriate? Would this be nice to say? She was so respectful. I'm telling you that K. Washington is a phenomenon I love.
Charlamagne Tha God
Okay, so she played a trans.
Flame Monroe
She played a trans woman dating a straight guy was prostituting and he couldn't tell the family. Her family didn't accept her. In the movie. It's called Life is Hot in Crack Town. It was like a to be movie.
Jess
But it was really what it's called.
Flame Monroe
It was 15 years ago. Life is Hot in Cracktown Life and that ever Ross is just the nicest guy. Oh, my God. You know I'm in love with his mama, Dana Ross. If you young sisters took a lesson out of Danna Ross's playbook, you all will be monsters. Diana Ross is the smartest black woman on the planet. Let me tell you why. Because she didn't sleep with the supervisor or she didn't sleep with the manager. She had a baby with the owner of the company.
Charlamagne Tha God
Is that confirmed?
Flame Monroe
Yes, it is. Rhonda Ross is Barry Gordy's daughter. Then she married the Jewish man, Weinstein. Goldberg or Olstein. They had him raised. The black kid had two more for him. When that didn't work, she went on, married the billionaire who had no sons, who was Norwegian and you know, Norwegian faith. Sons are the legacy, not daughters. She gave him two sons, not one. When she went in for her six weeks checkup after having the first one, she was pregnant with the second one. Just in case that first one wasn't right. I said, that's. That's smart. That's some smart right there.
Charlamagne Tha God
How you know all of this?
Flame Monroe
Oh. Cause I love Diana Ross. Diana Ross is the ultimate everything to me. Y' all going crazy over Bad Bunny. Super bowl last week, Diana Ross came in flying on a hoverboard before hoverboards was even out. Then change clothes twice, then said, oh, my ride is here. Take me higher. And jumped on the helicopter and it took her all the way home. She had a check and everything already went. Oh, my God. That was the most gangster ever seen. You ain't seen the Super Bowl?
Charlamagne Tha God
No, I don't. I'm lying.
Flame Monroe
You didn't like.
Jess
You didn't like the Bad Bunny performance?
Flame Monroe
I didn't say I didn't like it. They keep overlooking Diana Ross's performance. Who was the first to actually do it alone and such an amazing job because they look at it. And I love Beyonce. I love Bruno Mars. I love Michael Jackson, of course. And there's so many others that hell, look. Kendrick Lamar hit me up last week. Talking about last year. We not. They not like us. I said we ain't like them.
Jess
You said you want Chris Brown.
Flame Monroe
That's why we here. Yeah, I want Chris Brown to do it next year.
Jess
Same.
Charlamagne Tha God
Me too.
Flame Monroe
I seen Chris Brown live. Chris Brown.
Charlamagne Tha God
You haven't.
Flame Monroe
I have. Oh, Chris Brown got so much energy. Back flip, front flip, side flip. I just wanted to run on stage and throw my panties at him.
Jess
I know that's right. I know that's right.
Flame Monroe
Charlamagne. Cause I ain't throwing yours. Wait a minute. What happened?
Charlamagne Tha God
Yo, that's crazy. I don't remember that dining around Super Bowl. And that was the last super bowl the Cowboys played in.
Flame Monroe
Really?
Charlamagne Tha God
Yeah.
Flame Monroe
Oh, my gosh. It was so phenomenal.
Charlamagne Tha God
I do not remember that one.
Flame Monroe
And before the times. And I just don't think that Ross get enough credit. And I have not met Ross. I hope I get to meet her before. I've been see about 12 times. I love Diana Ross, but the acting thing is great.
Charlamagne Tha God
No, go back to Chris Brown. Why? You know why you. Why you didn't like Bad Bunny performance?
Flame Monroe
I did not see. Don't. Don't put words.
Charlamagne Tha God
Breezy, we need you next year.
Flame Monroe
Yes.
Charlamagne Tha God
As if Bad Bunny did a bad job.
Flame Monroe
No, I see you. Breezy, we need you next year. Because he deserves next year. He deserves.
Charlamagne Tha God
You can't Want him?
Flame Monroe
No. Let me tell you what Bad Bunny, I loved him for his culture. Just like a lot of us didn't understand the English, a lot of black folks did not understand what Kendrick. The message that Kendall Kendrick Lamar was pushing. So you push your culture. What I'm saying is that what we keep it overshadowed the goddamn game. We didn't even wasn't focused on the game. All we was talking about was the Bad Bunny performance. No, that's not good. Because it's all about the NFL. It's about the football. I entertained. I'm not saying that Bad Bunny's performance wasn't good. But Chris Rock, I mean Chris Brown is an entertainer that going to dance?
Jess
No. Did you watch the game? Do you like watching?
Flame Monroe
Absolutely watch. And I already knew that New England came out with butter on their fingers. They was eating P but it came out cuz they kept drop your favorite.
Charlamagne Tha God
Position on the football field.
Flame Monroe
Huh?
Charlamagne Tha God
What's your favorite position?
Flame Monroe
Where I had to catch him. He was trying to get me caught up. 26, 37, 42, hike. I want my hand up under there so I can get the ball as it come out. Damn. You know what's so funny? So let me tell you something because you know, I've been doing comedy now for 25 years. There's so many comedians that used to terrorize me years ago. Call me trans or gay or whatever. All them got trans kids now. Oh my God, it's wonderful. Thank you God for teaching them a lesson. Because when I tell you between Marlon Wayans. No, Eddie Murphy, who I lost Miami to and Tommy Davidson, all three of them got trans men. They went at your Benley. What? They all went at you.
Charlamagne Tha God
Hold on. You lost the Emmy to Eddie Murphy?
Flame Monroe
Yeah, I lost everyone for my comedy special they ready with Tiffany Haddish.
Charlamagne Tha God
You weren't nominated though.
Flame Monroe
I was nominated.
Charlamagne Tha God
You was nominated for the Emmy?
Flame Monroe
I was the only one from the dating ready series that was nominated for the Emmy. What the fuck are we missing all this because it was a pandemic. Nothing went on. Everything was shut down. But I was nominated and I lost to Eddie Murphy. And it's okay. Cause it's about time he beat a queen. And by the way, Katie Murphy, if you talk about coming back to do said that I got the greatest plan ever since he want to come back and do stand up. If you want to get rid of all this trans stuff. Drive out in a big body beans. Let me get out the passenger side and walk around and introduce you. It will kill all that trans Because I am a real comedian. So all I could come out and say, well, hey, y', all, he might not have gave me a job, but he damn sure gave a ride right here to introduce him. Y' all couldn't even make jokes about it. Yeah, because he took once you own some.
Charlamagne Tha God
I am so upset that I didn't know this flame, and I apologize, man. I'm looking at this, right? That says comedian Flame or this one you signed with Cultivate Entertainment Partners and it said you're best known as the host of Charlemagne, the God's Black Effect podcast, Laugh and Learn, and the Netflix Day, ready with her episode receiving an Emmy award nomination for outstanding Director for Variety. I did not know that.
Flame Monroe
Congratulations.
Charlamagne Tha God
Congratulations.
Flame Monroe
Thank you.
Charlamagne Tha God
Well deserved.
Flame Monroe
Now I'm ready for my next special so I can actually win one. But I got a qu.
DJ Envy
You said they used to terrorize you.
Flame Monroe
Who terrorize all comedians, baby. Everybody that you name terrorized them. Three from Chicago because they didn't understand. God did not give them trans children to punish them. He gave them trans children to make them understand. This is how you learned to love something that you didn't understand. Was it.
DJ Envy
Was it a personal attack on you or just attack on the trans community?
Flame Monroe
No, no, no. It was me, cuz it was only me. There was nobody else. I've been around for a long time.
Jess
So it was like in their set.
Flame Monroe
Yes, it was just me. So now they all got a little flaming robots walking through their house. Oh, my God. Horrible. Baby. I'm from Chicago. Corey Holcomb, Dion Cole and I mean, they were still cool. Damon Wood. Oh, but they all still talk. Their. The problem was mother talk back. And I'm from the west side.
Charlamagne Tha God
Why didn't. Why didn't y' all jump them?
Flame Monroe
For what? Comedians.
Charlamagne Tha God
Who is y'?
Jess
All?
DJ Envy
Yeah, using pronouns.
Flame Monroe
Don't entertain this fool. Just clarity. Have.
DJ Envy
Have you seen him after? Have y' all seen him after?
Flame Monroe
Oh, my God. We are great friends, all of us. But what I'm saying is that because it was 25 years ago and they didn't understand, now they all got trans kids.
Charlamagne Tha God
And I also think that a lot of them just realize you just funny.
Flame Monroe
Well, thank you.
Charlamagne Tha God
They had to disrespect you.
Flame Monroe
But out of those three that I mentioned, that Tommy Davidson son, Jersey Saint. Good Lord Jesus. That thing is fine, fine, fine. From Baltimore, your city. He. I would wear his jersey every day of the week. Good Lord, J. That's my type, honey. That's my type.
Charlamagne Tha God
How old is he?
Flame Monroe
Or she? Oh, she no, it's a he. Okay, okay. It's a he. I think he's less than 30. That's my age bracket. 25 to 35 is my age bracket.
Jess
Oh, that's right.
Flame Monroe
I like him young, like a young man.
Jess
Your boo who gave you the. I'm not gonna be mad about.
Flame Monroe
She know my job.
Jess
Oh, okay.
Flame Monroe
This my. This my job.
Jess
Got you heard you.
Flame Monroe
She know. She know me intimately in person. I'm a cancer like this one. The people who we deal with know all of our at facets and they know where to leave us the alone.
Charlamagne Tha God
That's very true.
Flame Monroe
What's your signs, Lauren?
Jess
I'm November 22nd, so I'm Sagittarius, but Scorpio on a good day.
Flame Monroe
Oh, you nasty. Scorpio's nasty. By the way, my friend who's Scorpio came, told me to tell you hello. You. He said you signed the book for him at the book sign in la, the little show. He told me to tell you hello. Anyway, I want to tell you this, Jess, I'm going to say this right here while I'm here right now, because I got to get it off my chest. I'm watching Jessica, I'm watching all the hooplaha and all, and I always inbox you and tell you this ain't our fight. I had to have a come to Jesus moment with myself about my own community to realize this ain't my fight.
Charlamagne Tha God
What community?
DJ Envy
What fight?
Flame Monroe
With the comedy community? No, with the gay and trans. I already fought my generation, generations before me, and maybe one or two we fought and we won. We got marriage equality. We could change our name, we could change our sex, we could work as women. We had health. We had all of these luxuries, had work. We work to get them marched and protested and we handed it to this younger generation and they spit in our face because they couldn't go to a woman's. I've been using woman bathroom for 40 years in Drago. Out. I didn't make a announcement about it. I didn't make it a parade. I just went to pee, wash my hands, and came the hell up out. But they did all that. I ain't even trans no more. I don't even identify as trans. You know what I am? I am a he that identifies as a she. When I forget, I go pee to remind myself that I have a wee wee. You see how easy it is? You see how easy? I ain't got no identity because I ain't got time for this.
Charlamagne Tha God
It's.
Flame Monroe
It's it's is so beyond repair at this point. And they went after me Charlemagne. Cause you caught me problematic on here six years ago. And you know they held on to that.
Charlamagne Tha God
I called you problematic.
Flame Monroe
You damn sure did.
Charlamagne Tha God
My problematic ass cause somebody problematic.
Jess
What was the context?
Charlamagne Tha God
Yeah, what was the context?
Jess
Because you definitely can't call nobody problem.
Charlamagne Tha God
Oh, I might have said that they deem you problematic.
Flame Monroe
No, that ain't what you said. You want me to pull up with the 1.6 million views that you got? You said I was problematic and that's what they took and ran with. I'm not. Everything I said on there was absolutely true. If we had created a lane for sports, it wouldn't even be on the Supreme Court's desk right now where the trans athletes can compete or not. The argument is it's not enough of them. Of course it's not. Why would I come out to put myself in an arena where everybody is hooplahan? It's too much hoopla. I bet you it was a way more athletes that will come out if they felt welcome in a space that was created for them. That's all I would say. They just don't like the way I speak because I'm from Chicago and I have an aggressive tone. I got an even more aggressive purse. Did you catch that? She from Baltimore.
Charlamagne Tha God
She know and I mean it all. I always thought you made sense when you said you. You. You emulate.
Flame Monroe
Well, because I'm very comfortable with who I am and my purpose on life is to disarm people. You know what my how my advocacy works on stage. I change minds one stage at a time. Because I did 27 cities with Tiffany Haddish. Shout out to Tiffany Haddish, who lost her baby sleeper the other day. Her fur baby. We love our damn dog. And sleeping went on every date on that tour with us. Tiffany took that dog everywhere we went. We did 24 red states. I'm talking about MAGA hats in the audience, white folks with their arms folded. I came out, they was like this at first. Fifteen minutes in, I had those people eating out my hand. They would come to my table, purchase so many fans, buy T shirts and tell me their life stories. I got a trans kid. I didn't know what to do without watching you. I'm so inspired that my kid is going to be okay because I don't have an agenda. My agenda is I just want you to be happy. Yeah, you be whatever you want to be. I think you should be a certain age. None of that will ever change. For me, you need to be 18, 19. For you start making some real changes to your body and your physical internally. But outside of that, I just want you to be happy.
DJ Envy
Yeah.
Jess
Do you ever feel pressure to represent the LGBTQIA community?
Flame Monroe
No. Plus no.
Jess
Okay.
Flame Monroe
And let me tell you why. Just because when we tape, they ready in 2019. And I got. I mean, one of the producers on the show, it wasn't. Tiffany was like, you could be the spokesperson. You could be the voice. But I was like, Kevin Hart. That ain't what I want to do. I want to make people feel good and laugh. It's not. It's not a job that I want. It wouldn't be for me, because I'm not going to say anything that I don't believe. You're gonna watch my face. Like, I, I. I'm not caring. Levitt. That Caroline Lever that could laugh for real. That baby gonna come out strange as a. What all them lies that maybe gonna come out upside down, backwards with three heads. And I can't do that. I have to say how I feel because I have to look at me in the mirror. Yeah. And I like this. I don't give a who else. I like this. And other people love her. They're gonna come. They love me so much, they come to see me. Tomorrow night, Wednesday night, we will be at Comedy in Harlem meeting. Yeah. Tonight, Comedy Harlem me, Rolanda, watch y'. All. Make sure y' all get y' all tickets to come there. And then Thursday, I'm at the Funny Bone in Orlando. So y' all get your tickets to come there. But that. That is what it is. Yes. And because I didn't take that position of being the spokesperson, I lost a lot of work. I lost a lot of gigs. It deemed me transphobic because I wouldn't say what they wanted me to say. That is not what I've never. I was on the panel with Don Lemon, a whole bunch of other trans girls. They asked all the girls, what is a woman to you? One girl. Social construct. One girl. Oh, a birther. Oh, somebody with uterus. They asked my dumbass. They said, flame, what is a woman to you? I said, your mother. That's a fact. It was a completely. The room just flatlined like I had said something wrong. I was like, it is. That is the first woman you love, admire, admire, hate, anger, with mad. But you see her and you respect her. And most of us who dress up and live as our lives and shrimp, when you look in the mirror, guess who the hell you see your mama? Cause I see Valerie all the time. Now, she wouldn't wear this green hair, but I see Valerie all the time.
Charlamagne Tha God
Yeah, I see them ask people that question. I don't know what they supposed to say, like, what do you mean? What is a woman? A woman is a woman.
Jess
Like, because the definition thing is what everybody is arguing about.
Charlamagne Tha God
What's a woman?
Flame Monroe
Lauren, My mom.
Jess
I'm a woman.
Flame Monroe
I don't know what I'm doing. I hate that some of the girls from the community make biological women because I don't say that. Other make biological women feel bad for saying that they're a biological woman. You can't make a woman feel bad for being a woman, because if she wouldn't have gave up the goose, you wouldn't be here.
Charlamagne Tha God
What's a woman, Jess?
Jess
So did when you went, get him, Jess, get him.
Flame Monroe
I don't have time. You ain't got your fan. And you know what? When I watched you, it broke my heart to see when you was on here and Ms. Pat was on here and you was talking about you missed that opportunity. I missed lots of opportunities I have missed. So that's why I was like, that's why I inboxed you and said, girl, it ain't worth it. I'm telling you, at this age, I missed so many opportunities that I wish I would have just. But sometimes when you in the moment and you really don't want to hear the. I can't. You can't push the lies to me. Pushing the lies is why this country is in the situation we in right now. The fight I'm in is to be a free black person in this country. That's the fight. That's the only fight I'm in right now is to be a free black person in this country.
Jess
So I guess, all right, yes, I. Why even talk about it at all then? Like, if you know that, like, all of the stuff is going to come and you can't really change people's minds, you're comfortable where you are. Like, I feel like, why even talk about it at all?
Flame Monroe
Because I don't need anybody to think that I am in this pigeonhole of these circle of people who don't see reality. I'm not in that. I'm over here. So you need to know. Because when they say they hear the word trans, they think we're all grouped together and they love the Holloway, not a monolith. I ain't even in the group. I'm over here. I'm rain. I'm Rudolph. They didn't let me play the reindeer game, and I'm cool with that.
Charlamagne Tha God
Now you identify the reindeer. You got to pick something.
Flame Monroe
I take it all my nose was real last night. You go all in my business on you, a little girl. Because I don't want to be pigeonholed. That that is what they wanted. That I don't want to be Charlamagne the breath. The best interview I ever did to this date was the brilliant idiots with Charlamagne and Andrew Schultz and Bo Nang. And it was so genuine and pure. Because what you're doing is about if I'm spreading lies, then she's never going to learn. If I'm spreading lies, then you're never going to learn. But if I'm telling the truth, you may not always agree with it. And that's what we have to do as Americans. We might not always be in agreement with, but we better get in alignment because we're about to lose our. We have to get in alignment. Nobody agrees with nobody. Everything somebody says. But you got to be in. Understand that. Listen, this is where we at. Everybody was, oh, Kamala, come. I'm angry with black people who didn't vote for Kamala Harris, male and female. Because I've been in Ubers and taxis and the airports and people say I couldn't vote for no black woman. These are black people. I could. I said, but ain't your mama black? So you just spitted your mama face. Let me be very transparent. She was never my favorite candidate when it was 23, but when it came down to two, she was the only option I had. I didn't have another choice. I would have voted for ass 12 times though. I could have. But y'. All that people wanted to understand. They wanted to be in this movie. Now we in this movie and we're losing you.
Jess
You lost opportunities. You know, going against, not taking that.
Flame Monroe
Spokesperson taking that spokes, not saying that a trans woman is a woman. Not just a whole lot of other things. And I never said it to dis. Disrespect my community or tell you don't work with them. Don't. Don't book them. I never did any. If I don't want to work with you, I have the luxury and option to say, oh, I don't want to work. Well, I'm not doing that. But they just took it upon themselves to bombard and push. And that's what they got angry said, we. We forcing you. When I said that, they were forcing it. Look where we are at Right now.
Jess
Did you lose a lot of friends as well, like from that same community?
Flame Monroe
No, because friends I've had. I've had friends for 40 and 50 years. I have friends. I ain't got no one year friend. And we friends on the Internet. I got friends that know me personally, know everything it is to know about me. And we are friends for real. But I did lose a lot of opportunity, Jess. Now I want to see that happen to you. You young, you in the game, you selling out the shows, girl.
DJ Envy
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Flame Monroe
To her to be the transfer be no damn trans nothing.
Charlamagne Tha God
Oh.
Flame Monroe
I almost hit you. If I wasn't trying to get a six year I would have slapped stupid y'. All. But if we don't come to a place of putting our hands on the table having a real conversation of why we don't understand each other or what we need to understand about each other. We gonna always be this and I'm telling this Internet this Internet bullying have real life consequences.
Jess
Yeah, well what I've realized is it's, it's not even.
Charlamagne Tha God
I don't think it's not important.
Flame Monroe
You know what I mean? I don't even think she's talking to me.
Jess
It's, it's, it shouldn't make any difference to me either way.
DJ Envy
You know what I mean?
Charlamagne Tha God
Like doing really good.
Flame Monroe
Well let me, let me, let me be on your on your behalf on this.
Jess
We got so many other things to wear. It's the very true country It's a lot.
Flame Monroe
When I first came on the show and you was here. The last time I was here, maybe two years ago, that was the first time I actually met you. So they thought that I came in kissing your butt, and you kissing you. You pandering for the straight people. You kissing. I say, y', all. What you kissing? Charlemagne ass. That's why he gave you a job. I say Charlamagne hired me. First day he met me and told me he had something coming up. It took a year, but nevertheless, he hired me the first day he met me because I came in and gave Charlamagne authentic. Authentic flame. I gave Jess authentic flame. When Jess met me, she gave me authentic Jess. That is not your fight, sister. It is not even for you to bark on, to type on. When you see those stories, guess what? You're gonna be in a grown woman and do. You're gonna keep on scrolling. That ain't got to do with you. You got a beautiful daughter to raise, a son and a good looking man. Girl, you and a job. You got everything you need.
Lauren
That's right.
Flame Monroe
Yeah.
Charlamagne Tha God
How do. How do they feel about your relationship with Dave? Because Dave embraces you a lot. Dave Chappelle.
Flame Monroe
He does. They gave me the blues behind that, so they canceled all my bookings after I did something. And then so Dave. When I went on CNN to talk about Dave with Don Lemon, and they wanted me to attack Dave, but what I heard was a man saying about his transgender friend, she. Which is what we want to be called. He gave her an opportunity to be on stage with him, which anybody should. You would open for day.
Charlamagne Tha God
Absolutely.
Flame Monroe
Any comedian and right now would want to open for day. And when he called me and gave me the job and I was so excited, I posted, I'm going to open for that. Oh, my God. Honey went more crazy. So you don't want me to work, but now I can't work with somebody that you don't like because you deem him transphobic. He ain't that ain't transphobic. Nothing that he was cool as a game. Got so many gays working with him. It don't make no sense. It was so many punks running through there. I'm just looking like, oh, my God, I thought I was the only one and everybody super pleasant in his camp. So I'm telling you, it is a hypocrisy of if you allow them to bully you and bombard you, but if you can avoid it, Jess, I'm telling you so, sister, walk past that like it's not let it roll off your back.
Charlamagne Tha God
So what is staying true to yourself cost you? You think Flame?
Flame Monroe
Oh, I could have been a big star probably by now. But I don't even know if I want to be a big star. Look what they doing to all that big black big stars. They. They dismantling everybody, attacking everybody. I'm trying to get on. I was trying to get on Club Shay Shay, but now I don't know if I want to go on there no more either.
Charlamagne Tha God
Good.
Flame Monroe
Let me tell you something. My girlfriend asked me last night. She said, flame, do you think Shay Shay is.
DJ Envy
Is.
Flame Monroe
Is gay? I said, no, I don't think he's gay. She said, oh, you think he's straight? I said, well, I didn't say that. She said, oh, you think he bad? I said, I don't know if he bad, but that damn show purchased. Good God. He paid a lot of money for Fukuchi. Oh my God.
Charlamagne Tha God
You definitely.
Flame Monroe
Yeah, that was.
Charlamagne Tha God
You definitely ain't getting on there now. God damn it.
Flame Monroe
Let me tell you something. We gotta have more strong courage. The courage of. Of our elders and the black community from the 50s and the 40s, 30s is so different from what we have now. Our courage is this. Their courage was. They was out there. They stood together. The Fannie Lou Hamers, the James Baldwin. They protested. They. And they did stuff to make great, great change. Rest in peace, Jesse Jackson. I don't think I said that.
Charlamagne Tha God
Wait until you find out how much of this is orchestrated and paid for.
Flame Monroe
Oh, I believe.
Charlamagne Tha God
Wait until you find that out. Wait until you find out who paying people who getting paid to. To do a lot of these campaigns against folks.
Flame Monroe
Well, Sean, let me tell you what really hurts me as part of being as a trans person right now. Because anything that happens to anybody in the Republican Party, death or shooting or any they. Some kind of way they tie trans up in there. Last night they had a shooting at a hockey game and the guy was. His name was Robert, but he identified as Roberta. Understand that that is going to be another nail in our coffin because again, why I'm not in that group because that's how they're gonna group us. Oh, it's another trans. Kill them all, baby. I'm not getting in there and I'm not. I'm not disregarding them, but I'm choosing. I got children, I got. I want to see my grandchildren one day. I want to be here for the long term. So I'm not getting in there. I'm telling you, that ain't my fight. And the Republican Party was smart with how they did that. They push, they pushed everybody. Holland it was the price of eggs, it was the price of gas, it was the price of groceries. But the face of the Republican Party was trans issues. I watched football one of the games right before the playoff when Trump won. They showed the commercial three times. You're going to send your kid to school as a boy and he's going to come home as a girl. That would scare middle America, West Virginia. That scared the hell out of those people.
Charlamagne Tha God
Now, there's a lot of trans people that will be hearing this and watching this, and they'll say, just because you choose not to identify as what you are, it's not going to make you exempt from. If they want to get rid of.
Flame Monroe
Us, I was thinking, oh, these titties. Let me tell you something. They can have these titties back. I like anyway, I'm good. You want the real? Real? Let me give it to you, man.
Charlamagne Tha God
What the is your problem?
Flame Monroe
When we talk Charlemagne, you know, I'm gonna be brutally honest. I don't give a damn. Listen, I'm cool. Because what we did was we allowed anybody to identify as trans. When they just let somebody throw a wig on and then go to the women's presentation and then women, all the women in there getting pregnant by this. It.
Charlamagne Tha God
Do you think. Do you feel like y'.
Flame Monroe
All.
Charlamagne Tha God
It went too far?
Flame Monroe
Oh, yeah. Absolutely. Pushing the trend every. What happened to tomboys growing up, by the way? I used to love tomboys. Tomboys would always protect me and they always put out. I love tomboys growing out. What happened to the little feminine boys? That was just a little feminine. But when they grew up, they got married, had kids. You cannot tell everybody because you're masculine, you're trans, or cause you feminine. You got to be. You know what I'm saying? You just let me live my life. Life is stages and changes and you might 13 to 15, you think one thing. 18 to 22, you think something else. Then 28 to 35, you think something else. You want to know why so many trans, not even just trans people, some of these kids are killing their parents because that was unheard of. When I was a kid, we were scared to death about. I'm still scared about her little ass to shoot me. They. There's no authority. And you're so busy trying to be your kids friend. And so then when your kid 13 and say, Mommy, I identify as a this or that, and you let them do what they want to do. And then they get 20 and they made changes to the body. They mad at you for not being a parent to say, no, you cannot do that. Leonard, sit your ass down. Put them genies on. Go to school. I ain't telling you when you see you get 18, but you know what I'm saying? But we don't do, oh, I want my friend. I want my kids to be happy that I'm the daddy and the mama in my house.
Jess
What about the parents?
Charlamagne Tha God
So funny to me.
Jess
Like, they'll say they do it, like, so that they can protect their kids and how their kids are moving through the world.
Flame Monroe
And, like, you know, protecting your kids starts at home. Acceptance is a blueprint that starts with you. I'm not gonna send you out to the world when I know it's hell and I ain't accepted you at home. I got to let you know that this is your safe place. That's why I was telling all those MAGA people when we was on the road. Thank you for loving your kid. That's all you need to do is love your kid. You don't get a chance. Listen, I got three of them. I had one that was going to mit. He ain't no mo. I had one that's a great writer. She ain't no more. And I got one that's a good singer. She still sing. But they only a reflection of me. They don't do exactly what I wanted them to do. They also don't move out at 18 no more. That didn't change. When did that happen? These kids stay home to 42, don't pay no bills, sleep on the couch. Good God.
Jess
My kids getting the money so they don't need to.
Flame Monroe
I ain't getting no money.
Jess
Just.
Flame Monroe
I can't even see my boss. I need to be on tour with somebody, and I love touring with big names. To me, because I don't like doing the clubs that much. I prefer to do the things the arena, the theaters, and the casinos. Because you don't have. The hustle is different in the comedy clubs. And I'm not. I'm not knocking the comedy because I do it because I'm working on my one hour. But you got ordering over the chicken wings, you arguing over the bill. Who order extra ice? Who wants gratuity? That's at the black club. At the white club, they put their American Express card down and started laughing before the show even started. At the black show, they fold their arms, too, like this. So you got to work. I got to shoot rockets out my ass. I got to work to make them laugh. And this. I pedal the bike. I'm a comedian. I'm gonna pedal the bike till I get it.
Charlamagne Tha God
If you shooting rockets out your ass that you should be getting top down.
Flame Monroe
I turned you on, didn't I? Could feel it. I could tell.
Charlamagne Tha God
You should be doing radio in Chicago.
Flame Monroe
Well, I'm ready to go back home. That's my city. I want you to hook me up in Chicago. I did. So let me tell you what's so funny. I did the radio in Chicago for 10 years for free, long before I moved to LA to start doing stand up there. But they wouldn't hire me because I was trans. This was before the Internet. And I'm like, they can't see me through the radio. But Elroy Smith, I'm calling his name out from gci, would not hire me because who I my presentation.
Charlamagne Tha God
He hired me to do mornings in Philadelphia back in the day.
Flame Monroe
I overheard it from his mouth, though.
Charlamagne Tha God
Really?
Flame Monroe
Wow. Oh, yeah. Listen, you don't know Elroy like you think you know.
Charlamagne Tha God
That may be true.
Flame Monroe
I think everywhere he looked at me and saw a mirror. Wait a minute. What happened? Shoot.
Charlamagne Tha God
Jesus, that goddamn flame.
Flame Monroe
My. My trajectory ain't never been off. I'm always on top of everything.
Charlamagne Tha God
Your gator?
Flame Monroe
I don't know about the gator. My trajectory. We're not gonna say gator. I don't want to claim the board. Nobody doing in their bedroom.
Charlamagne Tha God
Okay, so what's the trajectory? Let's break that down.
Flame Monroe
Same word. I'm trying to save you.
Jess
I'm trying to save you.
Charlamagne Tha God
I asked you earlier, what is staying true to yourself cost you? But what does it earned you?
Flame Monroe
Oh, it earned me touring with Dave Chappelle, the greatest of all time. Right now, touring with Tiffany Haddish. I have done about 60 cities with Tiffany Hash. I got nominated for Emmy. And all my stuff are like quiet stuff. I'm on the New York Times bestseller last year for a book called Did Nobody Give a About what happened to Carlotta. I didn't write the book, but I was the narrator, which is the hardest work I ever done in my life.
Jess
Congrats.
Flame Monroe
Sitting in the booth for eight hours, non stop. You can't move, you can't breathe. Oh, that was hard work, but it was. It was a great. And mind you, Carlotta had a New York accent. What you hear, Arkansas, Memphis. But because I. Carlotta was a trans girl who went to prison and left her son. He was three years old when she came out. When she Went as a gay boy. She came out as a trans girl 25 years later and connected with her son. So when he said, well, flame, when I was going to fire you, but when you got to the part about the kid, you gave Carlotta so much heart, I said, that's because I have children. So I understand what it's like to be a parent. And people who are not parents. I always gonna say this. I don't think you should speak on people's issues with kids. If you ain't got no kids, you on shut the up. Because you don't understand the level of love, you know, you people. I die for my kid. Dying is the easy part. Will you live for your kid? I live for my. Everything I do is for my children. Unfortunately, I'm so headstrong on how I feel and I can't take the. That I don't know how to just like, okay. I can't be the okay. I ain't never been an okay. I'm the dominant alpha male and complete alpha female.
Jess
Did you. Does your kids ever, you know, question, you know, you being trans or you want.
Flame Monroe
This is who I was when I came. Just. Yeah. So I. I didn't have to do the explaining and all of. But I had with schools and, you know, I have to break in a new school every time we go to school. I had to break it.
DJ Envy
How is that going to school for parent teachers or for events today say anything to you at all?
Flame Monroe
Well, my kids ain't in school no.
DJ Envy
More when they were in school.
Flame Monroe
Absolutely. And it was never the kids, it's the parents. Racism is a learned behavior. Understand? Absolutely. Nobody is born raised. They don't pull you out your mama ass and slap you on the ass. And you say, don't put your hands on me. N word. That's racism. But somebody teach you that. So I had. I had to school a couple of parents. And it's not the kids, it's the parents. And I was part of the pta. And when I tell you this mouth at the pta, I didn't show up like this. I should have. I would not have embarrassed my children like that. I would embarrass the out my kids and kids as mean as hell. But it was a couple of parents.
DJ Envy
Like a parent like, you know how you have playdates and somebody comes spending that at your house? Would a parent be like, no, because of. Yeah, blaming because they didn't understand.
Flame Monroe
Here go the funny part. Lots of kids came to spend the night at my house because in the Epstein, file. Statistically, trans people ain't key. I mean, ain't having sex with children culture. I ain't had no sex with no kids.
Jess
Have your. Your kids ever been bullied?
Flame Monroe
Absolutely. Yeah, but we're from Chicago just like you're from Baltimore. All my kids know how to get down, but kids don't even get down no more. Everything is on the Internet. So I tell my kids, don't read that. Y' all live with me. Y' all whole life. Different people don't know me. Oh, Flame beats up his girlfriend, kick her down the stairs. I was like, that was two years ago. That's old. I'm not even a violent person. But that's what the kind of they put about me on the Internet that I'm fighting and, like, I'm.
Charlamagne Tha God
I never saw none of that about you.
Flame Monroe
Yeah. When I leave today, like I did the first time.
Charlamagne Tha God
Oh, they on your.
Flame Monroe
They about to be all.
Charlamagne Tha God
They on you.
Flame Monroe
Cookies. They. They know they're not on me. Let me tell you what's on me. God is on me. My career is on me. My. My intelligence is on me. My wit and my personality and me on these politics. That's what we need to be on. We really. Let me tell you something they didn't want. I thought she should have got booted. Jej. And I read. I read some of her books, and I knew why she couldn't get Booty Jazz. They wouldn't have to had a black woman and the gay man.
Charlamagne Tha God
I thought that was a very honest thing for her to say, and I.
Flame Monroe
Thought that would have been the face of what we would have took to win. But they were so worried about Booty Jazz, who he was sleeping with. Buddha Jazz is a great candidate. He has a great format, and all his policies are pretty good.
Charlamagne Tha God
And he's married with kids.
Flame Monroe
And he's like. He's sneaking like they was doing on the damn rnc. He is married to him, and y' all worry about what he doing. Buddha Jazz should have came out. Since we living in a world champion.
Charlamagne Tha God
I don't think that's his name, man.
Flame Monroe
In a world of transparency, Monday, Wednesday, and Friday is my turn. Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday is his turn. On a Sunday, we pray and ask God to forgive us, because we're gonna do it again. You would have killed it all. But, you know, oh, you can't say that. But y' all let this man say everything. He wanted to question Kamala Harris's black black card. Is she black enough? Is she black? When she was on the debate, I wish she would have reminded them just how black she was and said, and this we would have lost. You would have never had the question whether she was black again. And then we. I think they pushed her in too late. I don't push it in too late. They should have never let Sleepy Joe debate. I bet y' all miss Sleepy Joe right now. Hell, I miss Sleepy Joe. I miss the black man. Cause Diaper Don is taking us out.
Charlamagne Tha God
I think it's a necessary evil, though.
Flame Monroe
No, I do not. And I. Oh, can I say this to you without you firing me?
Charlamagne Tha God
Why would I fire you?
Flame Monroe
Okay, that wasn't the answer.
Charlamagne Tha God
The reason I think it's a necessary evil is because you have to destroy in order to rebuild. And we are realizing that America has been a house of cards for a long time.
Flame Monroe
Charlamagne, I love you as my boss. I love you as a person that I respect and admire. But when Kamala Harris was running for office, I couldn't tell whether you were for her or against her.
Charlamagne Tha God
It's not true.
Flame Monroe
Don't tell me how I feel. I'm watching from afar. And why you say that, though? Listen, I'm about to explain it to you. If you don't cut me off, jumping on the defense like you're gonna do something, whoop your little ass up in here. Not just you. So many black power black people. I'm going to get to you. I'm going to get directly to you. The Stephen A. Smiths and some of those, they went after her like, okay, we see her. But all they kept pointing out was her flaws, not her pluses. This woman didn't get this job because she was appointed. This job, like all this administration is because they're loyalists. She worked her ass off.
Charlamagne Tha God
What that gotta do with me?
Flame Monroe
When you were. And when they were interviewing you, you were. You were not. You were like this.
Charlamagne Tha God
No.
Flame Monroe
Yeah. I'm telling you, when you were on Jonathan Carl and you cussed, I was mad at you. And. And when you. When she was here, I. You know, y' all never let her get her policies out. You were so big. Hold on now. You just asked me to explain it to you. Don't cut me off. You never let her get her policies out. Because y'. All. Y' all kept comparing her to Biden. No, hold on, player. And then when she was on the View and said that she wouldn't change much, that Biden did, she didn't mean that she wouldn't change much. She was just trying to make it look Like Biden didn't make any mistakes. We all.
Jess
Think what you talk for yourself and I'll tell you what I mean. Go ahead.
Flame Monroe
Well, I just never felt like you had behind her 95%. No, it was only like 87.
Charlamagne Tha God
What you saw was me questioning the Democratic Party and telling the Democratic party everything that they were doing that was going to cause them to lose. From Biden to. Even when Kamala ran For those 107 days, I saw all the mistakes that they were making. So when you see me critiquing the Democratic Party, I'm telling them all the reasons I think they were going to lose. And guess what? I was right.
Flame Monroe
But Charlamagne, it's not about being right or wrong.
Charlamagne Tha God
Yes, it is.
Flame Monroe
We lost.
Charlamagne Tha God
No, you missing the point. You can't say we should always tell the truth and then wonder why we in the position.
Flame Monroe
Charlamagne as black people. As black people.
Charlamagne Tha God
You read our book, right?
Flame Monroe
I read some of it.
Charlamagne Tha God
Most if you read her book, everything that I've acknowledged and most people acknowledge it, the reasons they lost, she acknowledges.
Flame Monroe
Hold on. But if we as black people would get behind each other and again get in alignment, we might have a little right now. We just being pushed around.
Charlamagne Tha God
Black people did get in alignment with Kamal Harris.
Flame Monroe
Not enough of us.
Charlamagne Tha God
98% of black women, almost 90% of black men. We not the reason Kamala Harris lost all that money. You gotta stop. We gotta stop doing that. We gotta stop blaming us.
Flame Monroe
I just wanted you all to push her in problem a positive light.
Charlamagne Tha God
We got to stop blaming us. Black men and black women showed up for Kamala Harris.
Flame Monroe
I damn sure did. The black man and the black woman.
Charlamagne Tha God
That's what I'm saying. Like we always do for the Democratic Party. So I don't know why. We like to point the finger at each other.
Flame Monroe
I'm not pointing fingers.
Charlamagne Tha God
But never at those. What about all those white women who didn't vote for Hillary? Who didn't vote for Biden?
Flame Monroe
I'm not. I'm not. I can't compete to talk about the white community because I'm not white. I'm black. I'm only talking about white.
Charlamagne Tha God
But the data shows you who listen.
Flame Monroe
Racism made them lose. All he did was them for took their collars off. They still in the yard. They're never getting out the yard. They just took their collars off.
Charlamagne Tha God
But all I'm saying is data shows you who didn't vote for her. It wasn't us.
Flame Monroe
Data shows you that Elon Musk has some Tricky fingers. Lauren, what were you gonna say, sweetheart?
Jess
I was just gonna say, I feel like. What. I mean, he said it, but I think what people were trying to do with her was we needed, like, a sharp cut through. We needed her to, like, speak against a lot of the things. And that kind of would have pushed her over because she had such limited time, and she didn't do it. And I think what he was trying to do was like, a call out, like, here's the map. Here's the plan. Step up. But I think the position she was in, she didn't feel like she could have, but I don't think she, at that point, she should have just, like, bet it all on herself.
Flame Monroe
Were you a black woman in America? You know that y' all still have to walk a little bit on eggshell. Since this administration got in, 300,000 black professional women have lost their job.
Jess
Yeah, I do, but I feel like. So I asked you earlier, like, what's the point of even talking about the trans stuff if you know nothing's going to change? And you said, you got to talk about it because of, you know, you got to speak truth.
Flame Monroe
Because I have you. I have youth that actually follow me. Me and listen to me. And I want them to know you don't have to live in a fantasy. You can live in the real world. And when you live in America, you have the wherewithal and the due diligence. You can live whoever you want to be.
Jess
Right.
Flame Monroe
The reason they're pushing back at us, because now we're infiltrating places. Not that we're not welcome at. But as a trans woman, a biological woman have always been our closest allies. Biological women have always been our allies. I mean, we have some brothers that school with us, but they're not going to march for us. They're not going to stand up. A women will. But now these young sisters, these young trans girls, are trying to alienate the women. I'm not gonna alienate the women.
Jess
But the reason I brought that up is because the same way you got young people looking at you is I'm looking at Kamala. And when I read her book, even when I saw some of the episodes, I'm like, why didn't you just say this?
Charlamagne Tha God
Absolutely.
Flame Monroe
Cause she a black woman.
Jess
Yes, but okay, so now me as a black woman, looking up to her, I have to be in spaces where I'm like, ooh, I gotta tread. I gotta this, I gotta that. And then my niece is gonna tread. And, like, when are we gonna put a Stop to it. I think the point like you it's a protocol that you go about.
Charlamagne Tha God
Lauren's not wrong, but I don't even like pointing the finger at Comma. Kamala. The reality is the Democratic Party played it way too safe. And if you're going to tell me that somebody is a threat to democracy, then you need to govern like it and you need to talk like it.
Jess
But you also need to support.
Charlamagne Tha God
Why didn't Mary Garland ever go after.
Flame Monroe
Donald Trump and the Democratic Party bigwigs were in her ear telling her to move a certain way. Oh, a bunch. Absolutely. And that's what I'm saying. It was a pressure from that she couldn't. I get what you're saying, Lauren. I wanted her to come out jazz Jasmine Crockett, but I needed her to have Stacey Abrams temperament and staby. A Stacey Abrams. If Stacey Abrams was a man, she'd be Barack Obama.
Charlamagne Tha God
You know the interview y' all should watch when I had her on my TV show. No. The vice president. I saw that interview when I was asking her who's the. Who's the real president? Joe Mansion or Joe.
Jess
And she got mad because if you.
Charlamagne Tha God
Go watch that interview, I'm telling her then she gotta step up and take the reins of this party. Because that seven days. No, no, no. This was 2022.
Jess
That ignited something her though. Because that moment when she. That was the first time I think I ever saw her like, just talk straight. And I was like, oh.
Charlamagne Tha God
Because I try to stop because I know how she talks. Because envy. When the first time you met Kamala Harris.
DJ Envy
2016.
Charlamagne Tha God
2016, 2017. You know why? Because I bought it to the Breakfast Club. I was on the campaign hush. I was on the campaign trail with her in 2020. When did none of y' all with her. And that's still my. That's my.
Flame Monroe
My.
Charlamagne Tha God
That's my people to this day. Watch your language right now. That's my actual lady in the room. You're right. But that's my actual friend right now.
Flame Monroe
Oh, I listen. I voted for her. I had my kids vote for her. All of my. We. We did a whole TikTok thing where we danced and went to the polls to vote for her because I knew what it was. I did not want the monster that was coming to be where he is right now because I didn't even know it was going to be as bad as it is.
Charlamagne Tha God
Well, Democrats shouldn't have played it so safe.
Flame Monroe
Democrats. The Democratic Party been weak ever since they lost the gangster, which is now Nancy Pelosi, she was the most gangster in the Democratic. But we got new ones. We got a young Maxine Waters, which is Jasmine Crockett. I like that young sister. Stacey Abrams. Stacey Abrams. The way she delivers. It's always factual. You can't change her temperament. You can't get up under her skin. She gonna part them lips and show that gap and give it to you, baby. I'm like, I want me a gap. I'm going to give me a gap tomorrow.
Charlamagne Tha God
We should be okay criticizing our elected officials. You see all the people on the right right now who supported Trump. They ain't got no problem criticizing Trump right now.
Jess
It's so different.
Flame Monroe
But they won already.
Charlamagne Tha God
But you still. But you still got to tell the truth when the person is in office.
Flame Monroe
No, Charlemagne, we might have needed to lie on this one to get. To get her in office.
Charlamagne Tha God
So they should lie about Trump and act like he doing a good job.
Flame Monroe
What he doing.
Charlamagne Tha God
But that's my point. The people on the right who supported him are now holding him to task and criticizing him. That's good. That's a good thing.
Flame Monroe
They only doing that because there's too many names on those Epstein files that they might be on there, by the way, when those P. Diddy files come out. Tape number 17. That's not me. That's AI.
Charlamagne Tha God
What's something people still don't understand about you that frustrate you?
Flame Monroe
I'm a genius. You know what? I am a fun person. Charlie, man, you said this when I came on here the first time. I just like to laugh and talk. Yeah. I do love to learn and I love to listen to people's stories. And I don't listen for the trigger word. I want to hear the whole story so I can hear where you coming from. Because, you know, some people like, well, flame. How you feel about this? Like you said, playing what you feel as the trans. All I heard was trans playing how you feel about your community. I listen to me. My community. Cool. For the ones that rock with me, I rock with them. And the ones that don't listen, we. We just don't. We. I ain't got no. No beef. No argument. But I'm a great dad. I'm a fantastic entertainer, and I'm a funny comedian most of the time.
Charlamagne Tha God
There you go.
Flame Monroe
Because then nobody ain't gonna kill it every time. Well, I did. I've done arenas with big names, a big, big stages with people, and I've seen them struggle and. And have a heart. And sometimes it's my Night. But a lot of these comedians that be on rolls with people, I'm telling you, they get on there. Oh, it's my night. I turned this one. You ain't sold one damn ticket. Your name ain't on but your paycheck. But I'm not like that. I'm not a big headed person. I'm a humble. I just talk my and. And like working Shelly, man, I need more work. Chicago radio needs me.
Charlamagne Tha God
Chicago radio needs you. People subscribe to the Laugh and Learn podcast on the Black Effect Podcast network because we need more downloads.
Flame Monroe
There you go. We damn sure need more download, more downloads, more money. Hold on, hold on. Envy, don't be trying to rush me. I gotta talk about my show tomorrow night. I mean tonight at the Comedy Harlem. Harlem Comedy. And then tomorrow night I will be at the Funny Bone in Orlando, Florida. By the way, Charlamagne. My friends in New Orleans told me to tell you hello. Next time you come to New Orleans, they got you up at Adam. They say you got a life. Oh, I love up in Adams the chopper too. You like the Seafood Biscuit? What?
Charlamagne Tha God
That Seafood Biscuit was fire. Oh, yeah, I love it.
Flame Monroe
So they have a pageant every year and I'm the host every second Saturday in December. If you ever know Orleans on the second Saturday of December, y' all come.
Charlamagne Tha God
But that's that pageant you keep talking about.
Flame Monroe
Up and at them restaurant. Restaurant is the greatest. Their food is fantastic.
Charlamagne Tha God
Oh, they so good.
Flame Monroe
Fantastic. A little small.
Jess
Yeah.
Flame Monroe
Same sex couple restaurant. And they are the nicest guy. Rayshawn and nicest guy.
Charlamagne Tha God
And they told me same sex couple restaurant.
Flame Monroe
They already told me. No, it's not. They own. They're same sex couple.
Jess
Like I was in the club.
Flame Monroe
Envy.
DJ Envy
You always want to turn something around.
Flame Monroe
Is that what it is? Is that why he brought you the fake booty? Stop trying to turn stuff around. How your new baby? How old is she now?
Charlamagne Tha God
3? 4?
Flame Monroe
Is that the last one?
Charlamagne Tha God
Yeah, that's it.
Flame Monroe
Oh, God, that 200 million. I don't know. You'll pull up. I don't know what you're talking about right now.
Jess
I don't know what you're talking about.
Flame Monroe
I read the blog. 200 million.
Charlamagne Tha God
I don't know what you talking about.
Flame Monroe
You're not going to spread, Pastor.
Charlamagne Tha God
I don't know what you talk.
DJ Envy
Yes, boy.
Flame Monroe
You're not gonna pass them. Get them. Get. See, just called you boss. You didn't tell her she was your partner?
Charlamagne Tha God
She is my partner.
Flame Monroe
But you didn't say it just then. She is.
Charlamagne Tha God
But you.
Flame Monroe
No, you didn't say it.
Charlamagne Tha God
I don't know what you're talking about.
Flame Monroe
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for having me. Y' all look out for my movie. 1-800-date-night. I got beat up through off a bridge. Jumped on all of that.
Jess
Damn.
Flame Monroe
And I did all my own. I was gonna say, did you do your own style? I did.
Jess
I know that's right.
Flame Monroe
It felt beautiful.
DJ Envy
It's the Breakfast Club.
Charlamagne Tha God
Good morning. Every day I wake up. Wake your ass up. The Breakfast Club.
DJ Envy
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Podcast: The Breakfast Club (The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts)
Hosts: DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne Tha God, Lauren
Guest: Flame Monroe
Date: February 18, 2026
In this engaging episode, comedian, actor, and podcaster Flame Monroe joins The Breakfast Club to discuss her career in comedy and acting, the challenges of typecasting and backlash in the comedy world, nuanced perspectives on trans identity, and pointed social/political commentary—including candid takes on Kamala Harris, Democratic politics, generational change in advocacy, and the comedy community's evolution. Flame brings her trademark honesty, humor, and sharp wit, tackling serious topics with laughter and poignancy.
“Everybody coming out the closet. I’m going back in, it’s room for my shoes, my wigs… Trans is my life, not my lead.” —Flame Monroe [08:32]
“There’s so many comedians that used to terrorize me… Call me trans or gay… they all got trans kids now…” [13:25]
“When Kamala was running, I couldn’t tell whether you were for her or against her… All they kept pointing out was her flaws, not her pluses. This woman worked her ass off.” —[45:09]
“Internet bullying has real life consequences.” [30:11]
Flame Monroe’s interview is unfiltered, introspective, and consistently hilarious. While never shying from accountability—whether in comedy, activism, or American politics—she stresses the importance of individuality, truth-telling, and resilience in the face of both community critique and industry adversity. Flame's refusal to pander, her loving but blunt advice to upcoming comics and activists (especially Jess), and her insights into modern culture wars make this episode a must-hear for anyone interested in the intersection of comedy, trans identity, and the state of American society in 2026.
Listen to Flame Monroe and subscribe to "Laugh and Learn" for more of her trademark candor!
Summary by PodcastGPT | For citation or sharing, please credit The Breakfast Club, iHeartPodcasts, and the Black Effect Podcast Network (Episode: February 18, 2026).