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Angela Yee
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Coca-Cola Announcer
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Sophie Cunningham
All.
Coca-Cola Announcer
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Charlamagne tha God
Mmm.
Coca-Cola Announcer
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DJ Envy
Hey, what up, y'?
Charlamagne tha God
All?
DJ Envy
It's DJ Envy. And the holidays are here. The time of year that's all about connecting with loved ones in person or over the phone. In fact, hearing someone's voice can emote a similar emotional response as a hug. And while most of us can hop on a video chat to really bring that connection to life, using tech isn't easy for everyone, especially some of the older folk in our lives. AT&T has been doing something special here to help. They offer digital literacy workshops that help older adults learn how to use technology to do things most of us take for granted, like video conferencing and sharing photos. Take Nancy Shand. She joined one of AT&T's workshops to learn how to video chat. For the first time this holiday season, Nancy won't just be hearing about family gatherings. She'll be a part of them. Sharing stories, opening presents, and making memories all through a screen. Nobody should have to go through the holiday season alone. So be sure to connect and stay connected to your loved ones this holiday season.
Sophie Cunningham
Connecting changes everything at and T.
Tamar Braxton
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Sophie Cunningham
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Charlamagne tha God
Hold up. Every day I wake up. Wake your ass up.
DJ Envy
Morning, everybody. It's DJ Envy. Just hilarious. Charlemagne the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. Lauren Laros is here as well. We got a special guest in the building.
Charlamagne tha God
Yes, indeed.
DJ Envy
Her new album, Heartbreak Heartbreak Retrograde is out right now. Ladies and gentlemen, Tamar Braxton.
Tamar Braxton
Hi.
DJ Envy
Welcome back.
Tamar Braxton
Hey, friends.
Charlamagne tha God
How are you?
Tamar Braxton
I'm excellent.
Charlamagne tha God
You look good.
Sophie Cunningham
Do I? Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
What you mean, do you do? Yo, Q. She asked me questions and she looked good. You got to do a better job, Q.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you.
Charlamagne tha God
Fred.
DJ Envy
How you doing? How the kids? How Logan.
Tamar Braxton
Kids?
DJ Envy
I'm sorry.
Tamar Braxton
Logan is great. Yeah. He's on break, and so, you know, I can't even reach him.
DJ Envy
No, I'm not mad at you.
Charlamagne tha God
You got a lot going on.
DJ Envy
New album. See, I'm going positivity.
Tamar Braxton
That's great.
Charlamagne tha God
Heartbreak Retrograde.
Tamar Braxton
Yes.
Charlamagne tha God
What does retrograde mean to you, like, emotionally?
Tamar Braxton
Well, you know, like Mercury retrograde. And so it's like a long period of time where, like, things are just, like, not adding up, not making sense, where you just, like, feel like you're not yourself. And I chose to take it as something that is positive instead of a negative. This is a time where I can evolve, I can be myself and figure out things that will best suit me in the future. And I feel like I want to say this. You know, Hartford Retrograde was born here.
Charlamagne tha God
Really?
Tamar Braxton
The last conversation that we had about cheating. So Heartbreak Retrograde is about a woman who cheats on her spouse and breaks her own Heart by breaking his heart.
DJ Envy
You talked about it that you cheated on her ex and you heard about it.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
So are these old wounds resurfacing? Are you finally releasing.
Tamar Braxton
I'm releasing it. You know, and I couldn't figure out. Remember, I was still feeling bad about it.
Angela Yee
I really talked about it.
Tamar Braxton
I couldn't figure out how to break it. And putting together this project along with the movie was very therapeutic for me, and so I'm just so grateful about it.
DJ Envy
Did you ever call that ex and have that conversation?
Tamar Braxton
I did.
DJ Envy
How did that go?
Tamar Braxton
Well, okay. So we went out to lunch, and I explained to him that this was about that portion of the relationship, and he appreciated that, but there were some things about the movie that he didn't like.
Charlamagne tha God
So, you know, what's so good about this? I don't know. You know, 2025 is the year of the snake. So we got, like, what, 14 days left to, you know, shed old habits and embrace personal growth. Just like a shake, a snake sheds its skin.
Tamar Braxton
Yes.
Charlamagne tha God
So this album, you know, it's divine timing.
DJ Envy
It helped me.
Tamar Braxton
It helped me, and I believe, like, it's been a lot of people, like, oh, my God, I've listened to it, and I feel like this is the medicine that I needed to get over my heartbreak retrograde.
DJ Envy
And what didn't he like? You said he didn't like parts of it. What didn't he like?
Tamar Braxton
I think that it was a lot of ego, you know what I mean? Because it was based on a true story. It wasn't everything that happened. Right. And so he was just. You know, I think it's hard to see your ex or somebody that you once cared about or care about and, like, those positions with someone else, because I'm sure it brought him back to that moment.
DJ Envy
Did it reunite feelings? When y' all had that dinner, did y' all re. Did anything, like, sparks pop off and say, let's try this again, since we're being so open, or.
Tamar Braxton
Nah, I don't think that person is healed in that capacity for that.
Charlamagne tha God
Did you cheat on him?
Tamar Braxton
Well, not necessarily. It's a long story. I tell y' all off camera.
Charlamagne tha God
Okay, okay, okay. Cause women don't ever have that conversation. Men do.
Tamar Braxton
Exactly.
Charlamagne tha God
Yes. But women.
Tamar Braxton
And I think it's time to have that conversation. I think we need to normalize that it's both of us. That's not just men, you know, it's. It's women, too. Because just, like, the same reasons why, you know, a man will cheat is because, you know, Things are not all the way together at home or things are all the way together with themselves. It's the same thing. Women go through the same thing.
Charlamagne tha God
Don't cheat.
Angela Yee
Explain to her what you mean before you trigger her. Please explain.
Tamar Braxton
What do you mean black men don't cheat? What do they do is another word for it must.
Charlamagne tha God
No, black men, comma, don't cheat. Like, I don't want black men to cheat.
Tamar Braxton
We don't want black men to cheat. However, thank you.
Angela Yee
Well, Tamar, I was wondering if the ex you were referring to is in the. The movie.
Tamar Braxton
You tried it? No.
Angela Yee
Okay.
Tamar Braxton
All right. I just was wondering because absolutely not.
Angela Yee
All right. Oh, stop it.
Tamar Braxton
Y' all don't believe that.
Angela Yee
I wasn't talking about that.
Tamar Braxton
Because let's just put on and bring this up, because I know y' all can't wait, so, like. But let's just talk about common sense. And first of all, we've been knowing each other a long time. Can we stop that? Can we dead that now? Okay? Because I'm just gonna be honest about. There has never been a man who has experienced Tamar who didn't want to marry me. And so if that was the case, he would be over here.
Angela Yee
Everybody clear?
Tamar Braxton
Now let's move on.
DJ Envy
Get them together. What y' all do this.
Angela Yee
Clock it.
DJ Envy
All right?
Charlamagne tha God
From Lauren. Cause Lauren, I'm like, who?
Angela Yee
I was just talking about Vince because he's in the.
Charlamagne tha God
Relationship advice.
Tamar Braxton
He is.
Sophie Cunningham
Yeah, he is.
Angela Yee
He is. But I didn't know if the reason why I asked that is because he's in the. Your visual giving you relationship advice. And just people seeing him on screen again. We always just wonder, you know, where the relationship is, like, what. What that looks like. So I didn't know if that was the person you had to sit down, have dinner.
Tamar Braxton
No, that's my baby daddy, cousin. And that's where that stops.
Angela Yee
When you get to that point, you're in a good place.
Tamar Braxton
He's a family member, and that's that on that.
Charlamagne tha God
Oh, you watch the video with Vince?
Tamar Braxton
I saw him here taking pictures. You know, Vince being the pictures, Vince being the pictures, Vince being the pictures.
Charlamagne tha God
They was killing Vince. When Vince was sitting in the background, they was like, there go Vince back there with his mouth open. Leave Vince alone, man.
Tamar Braxton
We love Vince.
Charlamagne tha God
Was this album about reliving heartbreak or reclaiming your power from it?
Tamar Braxton
It was about taking accountability, you know, and being responsible for someone's hurt that I caused. And like I said, when I was here, I felt really bad. That's really? When it like zoned in on me, like, oh, wow, I really did hurt a person that bad. And I'm, you know, I'm really sorry for that. And I hope that that person doesn't take that into, you know, their future. I hope it doesn't stifle their growth and like, really truly finding love.
DJ Envy
Was he surprised when you called to have dinner and talk about it? Because a lot of times they say women don't apologize. So was he shocked and surprised?
Tamar Braxton
I don't. I don't know. I can't. I don't know if I can answer that. I don't know.
Charlamagne tha God
I also don't think men cheat because you said that earlier, but I don't think men cheat because there's something wrong at home.
Tamar Braxton
I do. I think there's something that's missing.
Charlamagne tha God
I think there's something missing within you as a man.
DJ Envy
I agree.
Tamar Braxton
You think so? You think it's all about the man has nothing to do with the woman. It has nothing to do with the connection with another person.
DJ Envy
I think every situation is different. But I think a lot of times man trying to feed his ego, you know what I mean? And I think that's the main. I think men need to grow up at times, and I don't think they've got to the place where they understand what the word love really means and what it really is.
Charlamagne tha God
Cause you don't really love yourself.
DJ Envy
Correct.
Charlamagne tha God
And it's like, you know, it's like pouring water into a. A cup that ain't got no bottom. So you just constantly think he's feeling this feeling it's feeling and it's not. That's why most of the time you feel very empty after you, you know, cheat.
Tamar Braxton
But what if you can't reach that other person? What if you can't reach your. Your partner?
Charlamagne tha God
Well, yeah, that's a different circumstance. I'm not saying that there can't be times when, you know, it's problems at home, but it's really the guy. Yeah.
Tamar Braxton
Well, I learned something today. I didn't know that. Okay.
Angela Yee
How did you feel like on the other side? Like, did you feel like it was something missing or did you like, was there like some self searching you had to do when you decided?
Tamar Braxton
It was definitely some healing that I needed to address. And also I was just really confused. And if I'm being honest, I just wasn't ready. I just wasn't ready.
Charlamagne tha God
So was there any moments while you was recording this album where you had to stop because it was too real?
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, a lot. And the film too, because it just bought back a lot. Like, I'm gonna tell you one part that was really, really real. He shifted. Once again. You shifted my uterus. That is what he read.
Angela Yee
Oh, that was a real text.
Tamar Braxton
That was a real text.
Angela Yee
You got explained for the people so.
Charlamagne tha God
We know what the means.
DJ Envy
He's having flashbacks. He's having flashbacks.
Charlamagne tha God
See that? You mean he shifted your uterus?
Tamar Braxton
I said once again.
Angela Yee
So in the vision.
DJ Envy
Once again.
Charlamagne tha God
Why would you say that? Like, that's such a harsh thing. I'm talking about you.
DJ Envy
Calm down.
Charlamagne tha God
I'm just saying you already cheated him.
Tamar Braxton
I didn't have to say that.
Charlamagne tha God
I have to give all that detail.
Tamar Braxton
When a woman, like, really understands and falls into her masculine energy, we become you all. And that's what that text was. I was just basically macking.
Charlamagne tha God
I ain't never said being honest. Pussy wetter than yours.
Tamar Braxton
The way I've never told a girl.
Charlamagne tha God
I've never told a woman that.
Angela Yee
Wait, what? You mean her pussy is wetter than yours?
Charlamagne tha God
Yes. Imagine a man cheated on you and then told you that the woman he cheated with pussy was wetter than yours.
Angela Yee
Oh, okay, okay.
Tamar Braxton
Is that equivalent?
Charlamagne tha God
I don't know. Did somebody moving your view at that point? Does it matter? I'm just trying to hurt you.
LifeLock Announcer
Cause you hurt your.
Tamar Braxton
No, no, no. He went through my phone and read that.
Angela Yee
And did you clear that with the person that you actually. Your ex before you put that in the visual? Because that. I know that still hurts. And he had to watch it.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, but, you know, I only have to address it with honesty. You can't have accountability without honesty. I had to have honesty. That's it. That's it. I had to address what I know. That hurt you.
Charlamagne tha God
That's different. I'm a good woman.
Tamar Braxton
I'm rare, baby.
Charlamagne tha God
God damn.
DJ Envy
I gotta go get penile surgery after that.
Charlamagne tha God
Like, I wish we could get a ppl.
Tamar Braxton
I really wish we could get now, though. Thank you.
Charlamagne tha God
Jesus Christ.
Angela Yee
So, okay, the way that the album lines up and the way the visual goes, it tells the story, right? Because in the beginning, it's like you're happy. It's like you're. Y' all are just discovering each other. When you know, you know is the first song in the visual writing. When you know, you know about your ex. What is it that you discover you lost from that point to the point where you get to like, you know, Letter to a Leo man.
Tamar Braxton
What you mean?
Angela Yee
What changed in your relationship, like, at that point? Or what changed in you, where you were like, okay, I just was so sure about this. And then it went from so short to like, you met somebody else, and you just completely forgot about what you were sure about.
Tamar Braxton
I didn't meet nobody else. I basically revisited something that I wasn't asking that completely over. And if I'm being honest, I was honest with that person about that. When we first started dating, you know, we were still talking, but we wasn't. We were still platonic, but I still had feelings. And I told that person, for the.
Charlamagne tha God
Uterus shifter or somebody else.
Tamar Braxton
For the uterus shifter, you're something else.
Charlamagne tha God
You really hurt.
DJ Envy
I don't know if you really hurt over there.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, I would.
Charlamagne tha God
Devastated.
DJ Envy
It's bringing back flashbacks.
Angela Yee
Explain.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you.
Angela Yee
No. Yeah. What's that conversation like then, like, when y' all first meet up and you're like, okay, I want you to know I still got feelings for my ex.
Sophie Cunningham
Yeah.
Tamar Braxton
But I never thought that I would act on them. I just thought that they were feelings that would eventually go away. Does that make sense? Because we kind of. I think that when we're in the single outside moment, sometimes we go into situations having unresolved feelings. Right. That you never think that you're going to, like, revisit. And I think that's honest, and I think that's normal. You're not gonna, like. Especially if you really. You really truly love a person and spend time with the person, it does just doesn't go away overnight.
Charlamagne tha God
That's why you can't be laying down with everybody, because you really do be exchanging energy.
Tamar Braxton
You really do.
Charlamagne tha God
And there is a piece of you that, you know, you have shared with that person forever. Like, you can't unfuck people.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, but I was after. I was very, very sure that I wanted to be with the other person.
Angela Yee
The person after the ex.
Tamar Braxton
I was very, very sure.
DJ Envy
Does it hurt you to talk about.
Charlamagne tha God
It over and over and over again?
DJ Envy
Does that bother you, or. No problem.
Tamar Braxton
I'm completely healed. Yeah.
Angela Yee
So safer on the app, on the project, right? You talk about, like, I feel safer beside you. You make me want to press rewind or which person are you?
Tamar Braxton
Both. Anybody been in love with two people at the same time?
Charlamagne tha God
Nope. Yes, you have never.
Tamar Braxton
Yes, you have. What do you mean? No, of course you have.
Angela Yee
A long time ago.
Tamar Braxton
You get what I'm saying?
Charlamagne tha God
Like, it's like, a couple weeks ago.
Angela Yee
But no, that's not true.
Charlamagne tha God
We used to call her Two Nigga Low just earlier.
Angela Yee
That's not. Don't listen to that.
Charlamagne tha God
Is a fact.
Tamar Braxton
I mean, you outside, so you kind of got to have a roster. Pasta. Pasta.
Angela Yee
No, not.
Sophie Cunningham
No more.
Angela Yee
But my la. My last relationship before I became single.
Tamar Braxton
A variety. A bowl of variety at the time. Yeah.
Angela Yee
But my last situation before I became single, I. I was experiencing, like, how the heck am I still have love for you, but in love or feeling like I might be able to be in love with a person again. Like, is that a thing? Like, I was kind of, like, confused. And I know you had that conversation in your visual as well. Like, what is happening right now. Because you don't know if it's just butterflies and lies, because a lot of times it's not love. It's butterflies and lies. Or if it's actual love with this new person that you and you got.
Tamar Braxton
It was actual love with the new person, but I had to button it up with the other one. Does that make sense?
Angela Yee
Yeah.
DJ Envy
Because if you was really, truly in love with somebody, right. Your feelings would take over where you would never want to hurt that person and you would. There would be no way that you could love two people the same way. Well, one could be infatuation. One could be you just love the dick and the uterus moving. One could be just a butterfly.
Charlamagne tha God
Clip that, please.
DJ Envy
So don't clip that, don't clip that, don't clip that. Whatever you do, don't clip that.
Tamar Braxton
Or it could be the memories or the. What could have been. And am I walking away from something that is truly meant for me? You know, was I mature at the time? Was I, you know, healed at the time? Was I a good enough woman? Did I understand myself at the time? It was all of those things that I had to figure out, you know, with those two situations. And I regret that I hurt that person. I really do. But I don't regret that I found myself.
Charlamagne tha God
I love this honest conversation.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
I mean, I do. Do you feel lighter now that this music is out?
Tamar Braxton
It really, truly helped me. It really did.
Charlamagne tha God
Do you feel exposed in a way?
Tamar Braxton
Not in. Not in a scandalous, bad way as some people want it to be? No.
DJ Envy
If somebody dates you now, can they truly believe that you're into them and not possibly have feelings for an ex or possibly.
Tamar Braxton
Well, I was honest with that person. I'm gonna be honest about it. Hey, we're grown, and I hate that I'm outside. I don't believe I'm supposed to be however I am. And I'm just too old and evolved and just secure to just sit around and play a game. I don't really have time.
DJ Envy
Why is dating for you now? How is that going?
Tamar Braxton
I'm not really doing a lot of it, but outside sucks. Sucks, you know, that's it.
Angela Yee
Are you intentionally dating or are you just, like having a good time again? Little pasta, pasta.
Tamar Braxton
I am not having a good time. I'm not having a good time. But it is what it is. And, you know, I feel like now I put myself in a position to really truly be with my person and get it and get all that comes with it, and I'm ready for it, and so that situation will never, ever, ever happen to me again.
Charlamagne tha God
So what does being lighter feel like? Because you said not as the music is how you feel lighter.
Tamar Braxton
What does it feel like? Okay, so you know when you really, truly let something go, Guilt go. That's what I feel like. I've completely let it go, you know.
Charlamagne tha God
I'm telling you, this is the perfect time to do it. This is karmic. It's the year.
Tamar Braxton
Is it really?
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah. And it was a. It's a nine year.
Tamar Braxton
I love that about you.
Charlamagne tha God
And it's a nine year. So nine is the highest level change. So all of this stuff, you're literally supposed to shed all of this like a snake shed.
Tamar Braxton
So it's supposed to happen, huh?
Charlamagne tha God
Absolutely. It was supposed to.
Tamar Braxton
It was supposed to have this conversation a few. What was it, eight months ago? To put this record together, get with tricky, put this record together, make this film, make my wrongs, try to make my wrongs right and grow from it. Wow.
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah. But you did make.
DJ Envy
You did make your wrongs right. You, you, you owned up. You did what you had to do. Now it's on them to heal. But you did what you were supposed to do. I think.
Tamar Braxton
Why, thank you.
Charlamagne tha God
So what did heartbreak teach you that like success never could personally about yourself? What did heartbreak.
Tamar Braxton
Well, I've been let down in both areas. I think one of them I can control and one of them I can't. Yeah. Heartbreak I can control. That will never happen to me again. I will never be heartbroken ever again.
Angela Yee
How can you control that?
Tamar Braxton
Because I just believe that you're not supposed to. To give all of you, I have to have some of me to be whole. If I give you all of me, then that means I've lost control of myself. I can't do that. No, I can't show up for you. I can't show up for me. I can't show up for my kid. I can't show up for your kids. I Can't show up for my businesses and other people who need me. I can't give all of me. You can't have all of me.
DJ Envy
You know, I always want to know, Tamar, with your career, right? You're amazing vocalist.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you. Fran.
DJ Envy
You're just a dope person, right? Anybody that knows you know you're a dope person. You're not stuck up, you're fun. Speak to everybody. You hug everybody. You make amazing music. Why don't you think you're a bigger artist than you are? Because you're everything. I just feel like a line misses something, misses at some point. Do you know what that is? Cause even with you go to your ex who found Lady Gaga, and you've had the record, you had the success, but it just seems like it hasn't hit like it's supposed to.
Tamar Braxton
Really?
DJ Envy
I think so.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, I think that's awfully kind and true. At the same time, I think that if I'm honest, if that is in God's plan for me, I think that it will absolutely happen. But I am proud of the success that I've had thus far because I've sold out all of my tours. I'm my own promoter. I have numerous television shows, number one television shows. Some that I've executive produced, some that I created as well. But I think that sometimes people put me in the box of the shadow of Toni Braxton, and that's disheartening for me because we are two totally different people and artists. And if that is something that is always talked about and brought up when it comes to my talent and my tours and my success, if you are comparing that to hers, it would look like that I'm less successful. Does that make sense? It does, yeah. And I don't really like that because it's not fair to her as an artist, and it's not fair to me as an artist either, because I think that if she wasn't, if it wasn't my sister, it wouldn't be a Toni Braxton that comes up in any conversation in anything that I do.
Charlamagne tha God
I mean, I understand whatever you're saying, and it is an interesting conversation, but I feel like you found your lane in other ways.
Tamar Braxton
I do.
Charlamagne tha God
You know what I mean? And your star has risen and, you know, just as big as Tony's in other ways.
DJ Envy
But she makes dope music. She's a dope artist. But I feel like she doesn't get the looks and likeness of other artists, not even her sister, just other artists in general. And I always Just thought to myself, why? I just wonder why that was, you know.
Tamar Braxton
That's really kind. Let's meditate on that. Come on. You're a good meditator. I can tell.
Charlamagne tha God
I do. I'm getting better.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, it's really hard to kind of. When I first started, it was really hard for me to kind of tap in.
Charlamagne tha God
I can do probably, like, up to four to five minutes now.
Sophie Cunningham
Really?
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah.
Tamar Braxton
That's impressive.
Charlamagne tha God
But it takes a while to get there. Yeah. You know, I mean, once I get there, I can probably do it, but it takes a while for me to get. Get to that space.
Tamar Braxton
That's impressive.
Charlamagne tha God
You count your beats?
Tamar Braxton
I don't.
Charlamagne tha God
I count beads.
Tamar Braxton
I'm just really started in it, and I really enjoy it, but it takes a long time to get there. How long did it take you to get to that point?
Charlamagne tha God
Probably. Probably a year of constantly doing.
Tamar Braxton
Really? Okay, all right.
Angela Yee
Seven days a week.
Charlamagne tha God
Yep.
DJ Envy
Now, also, you also down with the shits, too. We seen you at Versus and is now. Why. Why did you decide to go to Versus and support Birdman?
Tamar Braxton
Because, first of all, that's my friend, my real friend. Did y' all make up yet?
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah. I mean, you know, it's so funny. He was on beat when BG was up here. He was on. But I've talked to him on the phone, too.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, good.
Charlamagne tha God
But BG When BG was up here a couple weeks ago, he was on the phone too. Like, what's up, little bitch? You know what I'm saying?
Angela Yee
Yeah, it was like, probably the loving way.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah. That's my friend. And the truth is, I introduced him to his wife, and so we were really, like, locked in. And Tony couldn't make it.
DJ Envy
When you met Birdman, what made you say, this is the perfect person for my sister?
Tamar Braxton
That didn't happen like that.
DJ Envy
Oh, how did that happen?
Tamar Braxton
I assumed her through me. At first, he was like, yeah. I was like, she's married. Leave my sister alone. And then when she got a divorce, he was very intentional about her.
Charlamagne tha God
Now, the Internet was saying that you dated.
Tamar Braxton
I've never dated Ryan ever in my life. So I met him through somebody else, one of my other homegirls that was dating him. And then when I went out with them, he found out that I could sing. It was actually Slim who found out that I could sing, and they wanted to sign me the cash money. And that's the story.
Charlamagne tha God
How do you feel when folks were criticizing you about supporting him as if it was something else other than just you supporting him?
Tamar Braxton
I Just think it's another form of Tamar cyber bullying, because why wouldn't you support your family? That's my brother in law. That's my family. You know, we spend holidays together. You know, we have intimate conversations about my family. You know, so, like, why wouldn't I support a man? Why would I not brush them off or wipe them down? Because, as you should. And I'll do it again. Thank you.
Angela Yee
Like, after they had the video of y' all FaceTiming Toni Braxton and just, you know, how excited all of you guys were in that moment, but people still turned that into, like a team, a thing to make a meme about.
Tamar Braxton
And people make things what they want it to be. You know, I'm not going to chase people and try to beat them over the head and talk them into liking me or, you know, supporting me in the things that I do. It's not a Tamar problem.
Charlamagne tha God
Has it gotten worse?
Tamar Braxton
Because it has since.
Charlamagne tha God
Since, I want to say since the reality show, because I don't feel like it was like this when y' all had the reality show. I feel like it's gotten.
Tamar Braxton
It has. I feel like it has. And I don't. I don't. I don't have a definition as to why. I think maybe because, you know, I. I was really kind of diving into this the other day with my therapist. I think because I don't address things. Do people just keep going and going and going because they know, number one, Tamar is clickbait number one, right? Whether I say anything back or not, it's going to go viral and it's going to be all over the place for a few days. And if I don't address it, then people believe it to be the truth. And the reason why I won't address it is because I have to address everything. And I just simply don't want to do that. I don't. I don't want to stop doing what I'm doing and address some. Can I cuss some bullshit that I don't care about? Do you get what I'm saying? So, yes, it has gotten worse. And I think that because big artists like Cardi B will hop her ass on the Internet and read you your rights. She don't care who you are, where you come from, and it's going down, Bobby Brown. I just don't. Simply don't want it. I don't feel like it. I don't. I don't want to do that.
Charlamagne tha God
Do you feel like the headlines are.
Tamar Braxton
Scrapped from your music no, no. I. I don't think it distracts from any success because I still have it, which I feel like I have more. Although it's not as loud as it used to be. I feel like I have more now. But I do think it distracts from my personality and who I really am, and that sometimes is troublesome for me.
Angela Yee
Without talking about headlines, when everything happened with your accident and you came out online and told people what happened, and the reaction just wasn't as supportive as it should have been for someone who was going through it, you know, you went through. How did you feel on the inside? Like, you. You're like, hey, I almost died. I woke up in a pool of blood.
DJ Envy
What happened? First of all, for people that don't know.
Charlamagne tha God
So ask if she want to talk about that.
Better Picks Announcer
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Tamar Braxton
And let me tell you why. But let me tell you why I've.
Angela Yee
Reached out to you privately. So, you know, and I appreciate that.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you. I think that it was a specific situation that made it negative. I think that at first that people were really genuinely concerned, actually was supposed to be in my close friends, if I'm being honest. Yeah. It was supposed to be my close friends, and I. I was just. So that it went out on the regular.
DJ Envy
Oh, gotcha.
Tamar Braxton
So I think that that situation turned to be negative because it was a negative spin on it, and it was really something that truly, that was traumatic that happened to me, and I'm going to decline from speaking any further because I. I can't. I'm tired.
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah.
Angela Yee
Well, back to the project.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah.
Angela Yee
I mentioned letter to Leo man earlier.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah.
Angela Yee
Which man is.
Tamar Braxton
I will not be telling y'. All. I can't do that.
Angela Yee
Letter to Leo man is like.
Tamar Braxton
Okay, so is a. Leo man is a tough man. That's a tough one. That's a tough cookie to crack. And so is a Sagittarius.
Angela Yee
And so these are tough, too.
Tamar Braxton
Aries man. I've never dated an Aries man. I won't.
Angela Yee
It's a great time.
Tamar Braxton
It's a good time.
Angela Yee
But they're definitely tough to crack.
Tamar Braxton
They are. And Scorpio. It needs to be a song about them all.
Charlamagne tha God
Actually, you ain't Name no beautiful Cancers. Cause we so sweet.
Tamar Braxton
I like a Cancer and I'm a Pisces, so we like this.
Charlamagne tha God
You see what I'm saying? Yeah.
Tamar Braxton
What's your sign?
DJ Envy
Virgo.
Tamar Braxton
I like a Virgo Virgo. But the mother ones we got to stay in the prayer list for and fast.
Charlamagne tha God
And Terry, you know, we had a. We got a producer up here. Her name is Taylor. And she keeps saying this joke. I don't even know if it's a joke, but she keeps saying, if you want something green and slow, next time, go buy you a turtle.
Tamar Braxton
That was me.
DJ Envy
I know.
Charlamagne tha God
But yeah, I. I think I know what it means. Yeah, don't be green. I'm not green and I ain't slow.
DJ Envy
Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
I don't know why she can't get that joke.
Tamar Braxton
She doesn't get it.
Charlamagne tha God
She keeps saying it over and over like, nobody wants something green to slow.
Tamar Braxton
Go buy you a turtle.
Charlamagne tha God
Buy you a turtle. But she's a little green.
Tamar Braxton
Do you guys get what that means?
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah, I get what it means.
Tamar Braxton
Don't hurt that meditation list.
Charlamagne tha God
Do you think healed people love differently? Are they just more honest about their limits?
Tamar Braxton
I think both. I think that when you're healed, you're. You're very careful about how you love. Right. And I. And who you love. Because there is no way that I'm going to get with a person who has a lot of healing to do. It's just not going to work. You know what I'm saying? It's not going to work. And I don't care how much chemistry we have or what the vibe is.
Charlamagne tha God
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DJ Envy
Hey, what up, y'?
Tamar Braxton
All?
DJ Envy
It's DJ Envy. And the holidays are here. The time of year that's all about connecting with loved ones in person or over the phone. In fact, hearing someone's voice can emote a similar emotional response as a hug. And while most of us can hop on a video chat to really bring that connection to life, using tech isn't easy for everyone, especially some of the older folk in our lives. AT&T has been doing something special here to help. They offer digital literacy workshops that help older adults learn how to use technology to do things most of us take for granted, like video conferencing and sharing photos. Take Nancy Shand. She joined one of AT&T's workshops to learn how to video chat for the first time this holiday season. Nancy won't just be hearing about family gatherings, she'll be a part of them. Sharing stories, opening presents, and making memories all through a screen. Nobody should have to go through the holiday season alone. So be sure to connect and stay connected to your loved ones this holiday season.
Sophie Cunningham
Connecting changes everything. @&t. Whoo.
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Angela Yee
All.
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Charlamagne tha God
Mmm.
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Tamar Braxton
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Angela Yee
This is where mindset comes in.
Sophie Cunningham
Someone will be eliminated.
Angela Yee
Pressure is coming down.
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Charlamagne tha God
Watch the trailer on trainergames.com vibe a good time.
Tamar Braxton
It's just never, ever, ever going to work. And I think that if I hadn't started my healing journey, and it is a journey, and I want to say this, a lot of people say this about me online. Oh, she's been on this healing journey. Here she go again. A healing journey is forever.
Angela Yee
Every single day, it's forever.
Tamar Braxton
And you have hiccups along the way. But my healing journey will never stop because I know what I know and I know.
Charlamagne tha God
And you said something. You expressed a sentiment that so many women I know say, they were like, I don't even want to deal with nobody if they're not trying to do some work on themselves, if they're not doing the work on themselves because why.
Tamar Braxton
Where are we going to end up? Toxic in your 40s is not it. You know what I'm saying? It's not. That's not it. We were supposed to be fighting and arguing, and I ain't doing that.
Charlamagne tha God
No.
Tamar Braxton
I'm laying on the beach and making some coins. Good night. Yeah.
Angela Yee
Is that why you said you're not having fun outside? It's because you keep running into toxic and over 40.
Tamar Braxton
I. I'm not running into anything.
Charlamagne tha God
Yo.
Tamar Braxton
You know what I'm saying? Like, thank you.
DJ Envy
And how's your relationship with your sisters? How y' all doing? I look at this show, I'll be wondering what's real, what's not real, what's made up behind the scenes. Did y' all speak?
Tamar Braxton
This season was definitely unfortunately real, but it was necessary. You know, we had a lot to get through and talk about and figure out and that we're still figuring out. And I'm just happy that we're on a path to not being stuck in yesterday. We can move forward from that and have different conversations about what happened and why it happened instead of people holding on to different things that has been buried along the way.
DJ Envy
You feel like your sisters are jealous of you? I know one time you believe that.
Tamar Braxton
Listen, when you're in an argument with your family members, you say anything happens. No, I don't truly believe that. I don't believe that. I really honestly feel like, you know, in everybody's individual way, that we all really have a real strong love for each other. I think that as individuals and as women, I think that some of us are still trying to figure out what that looks like. And I know I am. What it looks like and what it. What it is and how we fit into our sisterhood now today as adults.
DJ Envy
And how do y' all fight as sisters? Like, how. Like, after y' all fight, do y' all say, I need five more minutes? Or, like, how does it stop when y' all get tired?
Tamar Braxton
Like, I think everybody go to their corners and patch up and heal up.
Charlamagne tha God
That's what I think, you know, rest in peace. To Tracy always. Did that not bring y' all together? Did that not make y' all say, you know what, all the petty shit or things we haven't addressed, let's just sit down and do it? Because you. You know, life is short in a.
Tamar Braxton
Sense, but in a sense, it kind of made things exasperate. Yeah. Because, you know, we never thought that, you know, we would. Of course, growing up, you don't think you're going to lose a sibling. Right. And. But the way that, you know, she passed, she. She got sick, and it happened very rapidly. And so I think that there's a lot of anger and it's a lot of healing that needs to happen that bubbles around Tracy in that situation. And I think that the Tracy situation made everything else so much bigger.
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah, I saw you. I saw you beating yourself up about it. You know, should have, would have, could have of it all.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, we wasted a lot of time. But the truth is, I wasn't ready to heal back then. Right. And it doesn't matter, you know, how much time we wasted. In the end, we really made up for it, and I'm grateful for that. I just wish I had more time with that kind of time with Tracy.
Charlamagne tha God
And all those heartbreaks overlap. Like, that's all forms. Different forms.
Tamar Braxton
It is different. Yeah. Yeah. But, you know, I went to grief counseling before Tracy passed. And not to say I was prepared for it, but I was more prepared for it and how to deal with it. So for me, with cancer is very, very tricky. Right. Because it's. I feel like it's almost like a sense of sitting around and waiting for somebody to pass. Right. You know, it's coming, especially at her stage. And so I just feel like going through grief counseling prepared me to deal with it. Like, I was Dealing with it while she was sick, if that makes sense. So when it actually happened, I was more relieved than anything because I asked her a specific question one time. I was like, how do you feel? Like, are you in pain? Like, because she was heavily medicated, she was like, tamara, there's never a moment when I'm not in pain. Yeah, that was really hard.
Angela Yee
What has been your.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, but we love Tracy. She's with me all the time. So let's bring that back up because she'd be mad if we was upset about it.
Angela Yee
Okay, so this. This project was your release from the grief of your ex. What do you find is your relief from other griefs that you go through? Like loss of your sister, friendships, whatever the case may be.
Tamar Braxton
I stay in therapy and I'm on medication. I won't even do it. I'm not on med. I got off medication two weeks ago just to film this movie because it was very. It's a very emotional film. But I can't wait to get back. Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
What you on?
Tamar Braxton
I'm Alexa Pro.
Charlamagne tha God
Oh, yeah, I know. Alexa Pro.
Tamar Braxton
It's the best thing that ever happened to me. Everybody needs Lexapro.
DJ Envy
What is Lexapro? I don't know what Lexapro is.
Tamar Braxton
Why don't you tell the people whether Lexapro.
Charlamagne tha God
I just know people that's on it. I feel like it's like something that calms you.
Tamar Braxton
It just reduces anxiety. Just. It's good for my nervous system. Okay. You know what I mean? You know, like when people, like, hear tea on the Internet and. And it buzzes and everybody. Nervous system is all over the place. It just keeps it calm.
Sophie Cunningham
Calm.
Tamar Braxton
It's the best without being high. It's the best.
Angela Yee
So how are you dealing with things as they come in these couple? Like this time that you're shooting your movie, since you're used to having, like, you know, like, help with dealing with things that might pop up and things. People saying, like, are you. How. Because you're on the Internet. I'm on the Internet, Yeah, but, like, how do you. How you coping? How you getting through now, girl?
Tamar Braxton
Therapy. Therapy. You do what you got to do for work, right? You do. You do what you got to do because you want more things and bigger things and bigger opportunities. And I don't look at my mental health journey as a handicap. Right. It doesn't stifle me in any way. I. I just now know how to navigate it. And I'm responsible with my mental health. Mental health. And it's okay. Listen, I Don't. I don't have to be on mental health medication. It's just helpful. Does that make sense? Yeah. And so. Yeah. And. And I know that. And Because I know that it doesn't make me feel away because I'm not on it. Does that make sense? I hope that makes sense.
Angela Yee
I got you.
Tamar Braxton
Okay.
Angela Yee
I got you. When you're in therapy, are you talking to your therapist? About what?
Tamar Braxton
Everything.
Angela Yee
Oh, okay. What's. What's like. I mean, everything.
Charlamagne tha God
Do you have a culturally competent therapist?
Tamar Braxton
I do.
Charlamagne tha God
So they. So they. They're aware.
Tamar Braxton
I have two.
Angela Yee
Okay. So they're aware of all the.
Charlamagne tha God
That's.
Tamar Braxton
And so helpful. Yeah.
DJ Envy
Do they call you when they see stuff coming up? Let me just call and do.
Charlamagne tha God
Okay, good.
Tamar Braxton
Call me at three. Yeah, it's. Things like that.
Angela Yee
Do things trigger you? Like, I know there was the. You sent the census because of the funky Deneva stuff.
Tamar Braxton
Do we have to talk about that?
Angela Yee
We don't have to talk about it.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you.
Angela Yee
You're welcome.
DJ Envy
He's told your ass before.
Angela Yee
That was different topic.
DJ Envy
Not to get up here and twirl you around like she does, Sister. Then you'll be like, feel away.
Angela Yee
She knows that this is not any spite or anything like that. It's just a conversation.
Charlamagne tha God
Well, let's go back to heartbreak. Heartbreak can feel isolating. Right. So what do you hope women who are listening to this album alone at night feel?
Tamar Braxton
Oh, the number one thing from my takeaway, the only way out is through. You just kind of got to go through the process, and you got to allow yourself to feel. And just like my major feeling was grief and guilt, I had to get over that. I had to, you know, go through all the steps to get out of it. And I think that with heartbreak retrograde, I just wanted to, you know, be the piece for women to know that, you know, you're. You're not a broken person because you cheat on your spouse. You know what I mean? You're not. You're not damaged goods. You went through something, and you take accountability, and you go through the motions to heal and. And be better and get better.
Charlamagne tha God
I agree with all that, but it's just the way. No, no, no, no, no, no. There's certain things you have to say. You don't want the guy.
DJ Envy
You can't.
Tamar Braxton
Don't.
Charlamagne tha God
You don't need to tell the man that the other man shipped you. Did you.
DJ Envy
You.
Tamar Braxton
I didn't tell him. He read it.
Charlamagne tha God
Well, you know what? He shouldn't have been going through you.
Tamar Braxton
He shouldn't have been going through.
Charlamagne tha God
Why would you tell that other guy.
Tamar Braxton
I was in my. I was macking. Damn. I mean, we whacked, too.
Charlamagne tha God
Oh, so you was lying. You didn't really do it. You just.
Tamar Braxton
I was macking. I'm telling you, I was macking.
DJ Envy
Oh, so you just helping his ego?
Tamar Braxton
Thank it.
DJ Envy
Okay.
Charlamagne tha God
He did have a big ego.
DJ Envy
Calm your ass down. Why?
Tamar Braxton
You don't know about that, man.
DJ Envy
Ego.
Angela Yee
I love that you are just. This triggered by.
Charlamagne tha God
First of all, she got a ball spot because of her last ex.
Angela Yee
All right, first of all, turn around.
Charlamagne tha God
Turn around. Eli, get the camera.
Tamar Braxton
You pulled your hair out?
Angela Yee
No, girl, never.
Charlamagne tha God
Why? I want to grow in because I got stitches.
Angela Yee
So grow where the stitches were, stupid.
Charlamagne tha God
She changes the story.
Tamar Braxton
I have a dermatologist for you. Your hair grow back.
Angela Yee
It'll work.
Tamar Braxton
Yes. God.
Angela Yee
You still gonna give them to me after my last question?
Tamar Braxton
Girl, I'm not upset about it. You're doing your job. And I'm just gonna say this. She's amazing. You found her, right?
Angela Yee
I found them. They found me.
Tamar Braxton
It's kind of like that.
Charlamagne tha God
There was a lot of people that recommended me. It was people that was close to us recommended her.
Tamar Braxton
But I tell you that all the time.
Angela Yee
You do. You're so supportive. And that's why, like, when. So today, when I came in, I gave you some hugs. Before this, I'm like. It's such a dynamic of, like, doing your job and, like. Because I keep up with everything that you do. But also in real life, whenever things happen, I'm like, hey, you good? Like, I appreciate that. And a lot of times, I don't bring it to air, because when we talk, I know you're going through things for real. For real. And it gets really tough for you. So I will say this.
Charlamagne tha God
She found us while being here. She found herself. And I think when she found herself, that's when we were able to find her.
Tamar Braxton
She started to flourish, and that's what happens. Isn't that amazing when you find yourself, like, the level of, like. You never thought that you could even think that big. You know what I mean? But finding yourself is the key to it all. And I'm telling you, I'm not plugging my record. I'm just telling you. Heartbreak Retrograde. I think it saved my life. It just did.
Angela Yee
The visual, too.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah.
Angela Yee
I think when people listen to the music, you should watch the visual with the music, because I think it really shows something that all women go through. Not just about men and cheating, but just about figuring out who you want to show up as.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah. Medici's is still upset with me about this, about this scene, but it's a very important scene that's in the film. It's the breakup scene when he sits me down and he's just like, absolutely, positively not like, what you do with them lips. You think you gonna kiss me with those lips? Like, it's. It's really important to men because I just feel like we never see the other side. And we always talk about when a woman's fed up, but we never talk about when a man is done. They're done, and it's over with and there's nothing you could do about that shit.
DJ Envy
Charlamagne about to cry.
Tamar Braxton
It's true. And I didn't know that until that situation.
Angela Yee
What, that men can really be done.
Tamar Braxton
That men can really be done with your ass.
Charlamagne tha God
Many feelings get hurt too.
DJ Envy
Yeah.
Tamar Braxton
No, you can hurt your feelings, but they out come back.
Angela Yee
Yeah.
Charlamagne tha God
Damn. Is there a song on the album that represents closure for you?
Tamar Braxton
Yes. I think the record loved me. It's just talking about I miss it and I love it, but it's over and that's it. I had to take that situation as a lesson because I really wanted it to work out. And when it didn't, I just had to accept that. That this was your lesson. And I know this is my lesson. To become the best version of myself for the best person that God has for me, which is my partner.
Charlamagne tha God
Does that scare you, though? That you I can't wait with somebody else.
Tamar Braxton
Huh?
Charlamagne tha God
Does that scare you that you have been in love with somebody else?
Tamar Braxton
No, it doesn't. What do you mean?
Charlamagne tha God
Because I'm saying, like, could. Could that happen again?
Tamar Braxton
No, never. I will never experience another heartbreak.
Charlamagne tha God
Okay.
Tamar Braxton
Even if the person passes away, I will not experience heartbreak.
Charlamagne tha God
I don't know how that's possible, because.
Tamar Braxton
It'S a part of life. I'm not arguing with God.
Charlamagne tha God
True.
Tamar Braxton
You understand what I'm saying?
Charlamagne tha God
But you still got to feel your feelings, though.
Tamar Braxton
I feel it, and I know how to process it. You understand what I'm saying? Like, I'm not going into a deep depression over it. I know how to handle my emotions, you know? And I'm just never going to experience heartbreak ever again.
Charlamagne tha God
Is that not suppressing it, though?
Tamar Braxton
No, I'm going to feel it. I'm not going to say I'm not going to be sad, but I'm not going to be heartbroken.
Angela Yee
You're saying you're not going to allow yourself to get to that dark, deep. I know what you're talking about because I've. I think men y' all deal with.
Tamar Braxton
They don't get it.
DJ Envy
I couldn't be there. Something happened. One of my kids, I'm heartbroken.
Angela Yee
That's different.
DJ Envy
It's so heartbreaking. I'm heartbroken.
Tamar Braxton
Different.
DJ Envy
If my wife walks up and tells me she had sex with somebody else and had a bigger penis, I'm heartbroken. Sorry, Charlemagne. I would have to be heartbroken. Like, if I'm gentlemen, I would be heartbroken. I'm sure it was a light skinned guy too.
Charlamagne tha God
Clue Teller's story.
DJ Envy
Yo, shut up, man.
Angela Yee
Well, I know what you mean though, of going through like that deep, dark place because of something that you think was done or was done. And you're like, I'm never gonna allow myself to get back here.
Tamar Braxton
It's not possible.
Charlamagne tha God
Possible. I don't think. I mean, everybody grieves different. I just think grief is something we should allow ourselves to feel. That heartbreak is something we should allow ourselves.
Tamar Braxton
Not to that degree. That was unhealthy.
Angela Yee
Do you feel like that blocks you from having real love again, though?
Tamar Braxton
What that.
Angela Yee
What that you are set on? I'm never going to experience heartbreak. So it's kind of like. I mean, I'm talking about myself personally, right? Because I decided that after going through a really bad situation in a good situation, I found myself almost like waiting for the next shoe to drop because I wanted to, like, get out before I was gonna feel anything that would hurt me. Because I didn't want to go through heartbreak again. And then it was messing up what was good. Like it was creating things that weren't even really happening. Do you experience, like, are you able to be vulnerable and really accept that, like, you might not have all good with a person that is good for you.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah. But there is a wall. But you're not getting past. Yeah. Because I'm not going back. And that's that on that. You know what I mean? I'm not anticipating pain. Not doing it. I'm gonna. Somebody makes me feel good and we having a moment and you know, the vibe is vibing. I'm gonna sit in it and enjoy every second until it's not there anymore. And then I'm going to move to the left.
Angela Yee
It's just no struggle love. You don't want struggle love.
Tamar Braxton
I'm not doing it. Why? I'm a great woman. I'm a great catch.
DJ Envy
There you go.
Tamar Braxton
Hello.
Charlamagne tha God
I do understand what you're saying though, because it's all, like you said, you caused the heartbreak I did. So you're not gonna beat yourself up over, I guess, a mistake that you made?
Tamar Braxton
I did beat myself up.
Charlamagne tha God
That's what I'm saying. But you're not gonna do that.
Tamar Braxton
Yeah, I'm not gonna do that. I'm not doing that.
Charlamagne tha God
Got you. So what version of Tamar walked into the studio? What version walked out?
Tamar Braxton
Well, I came in here a little heavy because, you know, you're not talking about this studio.
DJ Envy
Someone, when you did that.
Angela Yee
Studio.
Tamar Braxton
Today was rough for me because I think that sometimes, like, it's a lot. Right. And I have anxiety and I know. And I recognize that I'm not on my medication right now, so it's probably heightened.
Charlamagne tha God
You're gonna get asked stuff that you probably don't want to talk about.
Tamar Braxton
I don't want to discuss, you know, and, you know, I don't want to make things worse, not only for myself, but for my loved ones and loved ones being the person heart that I broke or my siblings or. I know it's tough for my mother to see her daughters that way. And I also don't want to give opportunity for anybody to say anything.
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I got you. Yeah, yeah.
Tamar Braxton
But I'm okay now. Yeah. You know, before I came in, I just centered myself and I'm like, I'm in a safe place. I'm in a safe place because I'm in control of me. I'm in control of what comes out of my mouth. And it doesn't matter what the headlines say. I know that whatever I say, I'm going to stand by and that's it.
Charlamagne tha God
How you know the uterus shifting ain't gonna come out because this is partially about him. What if he start doing it?
Tamar Braxton
He's not going to. He's not.
Angela Yee
As the uterus shifter.
Charlamagne tha God
Yes.
Angela Yee
That sounds like.
Charlamagne tha God
Not the man Diddy in jail. Like I should have hired him. Oh, my God. The punisher and the uterus. God damn.
DJ Envy
Well, we just want to tell you we love you up here. We always support you.
Angela Yee
Yes.
DJ Envy
We always have your back.
Angela Yee
And congrats on Brazilla too.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you. Thank you.
Charlamagne tha God
I do have one more question, because after heartbreak retrograde, what does love look like moving forward? Forward? Is it softer? Is it guarded? Is it fearless?
Tamar Braxton
It's all of that. But I'm looking forward to a soft love.
Charlamagne tha God
Okay?
Tamar Braxton
I really am. I'm. I'm looking forward to. To catering to and catering to me.
Angela Yee
It's a great place.
DJ Envy
There you go.
Tamar Braxton
What?
Charlamagne tha God
She don't know.
Angela Yee
It's a great place to be.
Tamar Braxton
Do we need to talk up? We'll talk after. Are we open about it?
Charlamagne tha God
Hey, Mom. She don't know she got a boo.
Tamar Braxton
I feel the boo.
DJ Envy
She got a boo.
Charlamagne tha God
She got a boo.
Tamar Braxton
I feel the boo sensation. Are you open? Are you public? Because I won't be public ever again.
Charlamagne tha God
Wait, just four or five months ago.
Angela Yee
First of all, she had two.
Charlamagne tha God
Yes.
Tamar Braxton
She had to figure out which one it was going to be.
Angela Yee
I'm exactly single, and I was dating.
Tamar Braxton
That's fine. And you should date more than one.
DJ Envy
She's happy. She's glowing now. She's in love.
Angela Yee
And it's the same thing.
DJ Envy
I fixed that, though, for.
Charlamagne tha God
I fixed that before.
Tamar Braxton
Y' all are terrible.
Angela Yee
He brought me spray on hair dye.
DJ Envy
Like spray paint. Just spray it so it covers it.
Angela Yee
Q, wait, hold on.
Charlamagne tha God
Let Q look at. Let Q just look at. This is Q Love Bug, the legendary Harlem Zone.
Angela Yee
To answer your question, I will talk about being in a relationship, but I do want to keep certain things to myself.
Charlamagne tha God
That crop circle.
Tamar Braxton
Because I haven't seen him on your page. Do not show him.
DJ Envy
I can fix that.
Tamar Braxton
I just don't show him. I think that's when things get a little. Well, I mean, don't show.
Angela Yee
Justin already posted them, but.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, wow.
Angela Yee
But I will say I think certain things I want to keep to the chest a little bit just because I think I just. It's a. People be having a lot to say and a lot going on, and everybody's not built to deal with all of that.
Charlamagne tha God
And you don't know if that man got a whole other family. Look what Q's doing.
DJ Envy
Q did the same thing that I did.
Angela Yee
Exactly what he got and he don't got. Don't play with me.
DJ Envy
That's what I did.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, that's your boo boo.
DJ Envy
Yes.
Angela Yee
This is girl.
Tamar Braxton
How long has it been?
Charlamagne tha God
Boom.
DJ Envy
Can't even see that bald spot.
Charlamagne tha God
Stop lying. How you gonna lie to Tamar like that and say sometimes she asked him how long she's been with the man? She said sometime.
Angela Yee
I've been dating him for a while.
Charlamagne tha God
What's a while, Lauren?
Angela Yee
You all in my business.
Charlamagne tha God
We'll talk, okay?
Tamar Braxton
We'll talk. Did he know about the other people you were dating while you was dating him?
Charlamagne tha God
Oh, wow.
Angela Yee
When I met him, the people that I was like, kind of having a conversation with, we had that conversation. Yeah.
DJ Envy
Awkward.
Angela Yee
100%.
Tamar Braxton
So how did you feel about that?
Angela Yee
We weren't exclusively together. Like, what he gonna. You know what I mean, I think more so because we were friends before this. Like, he's not like a stranger. He wasn't really focused on it. I think he pulled up and understood, like, okay, once I'm here, I know all that is gonna go by the wayside, so let's just focus on each other for real in this new space, not as friends.
Tamar Braxton
And so how does men feel about that? Women dating multiple.
Angela Yee
They think I'm open.
Tamar Braxton
Openly dating.
Charlamagne tha God
I used to call her too low because I feel like you, like, she young. You know, me and she in the scene in New York. Now go have some fun. But I just thought it was ridiculous when he took her on vacation and put, will you be my girlfriend? It's like you went out the country with him.
Tamar Braxton
I'm sorry you saw it.
Angela Yee
It was cute.
Charlamagne tha God
But all the way out the country to get asked to be his girlfriend?
Tamar Braxton
Absolutely. You better, because this is what I think. I think that you were supposed to date several and made. And made the best man who steps.
Charlamagne tha God
Up win, but you didn't let the man sweat on you. So it's like, I'm just saying.
Angela Yee
He's saying that that should have happened.
DJ Envy
No, not Tamar. They were. They were seeing each other, but they were joking that. She said, you never asked me. We just came to. It just happened. And he. That was his joke back, will you be my girl? They were exclusive.
Angela Yee
They were exclusive because I feel like even in my joke, as a person trying to figure out, like, how to go into a relationship, because I was in a relationship young, and then it ended when I was, like, 30, 31. So when I was single, I'm like, this is my first time being an adult and being single. I don't even know how you get back into a relationship at this point. So we've had that conversation. And so that was him being like, okay, even if you don't know and you're joking, I want to make sure you feel as secure as you need to about everything. He doing what he need to do. And big Fatty over there is.
Charlamagne tha God
I know you ain't calling me big fatty. And your man built like Drew Ski. That's crazy. Just ignore him. Let's get into it.
Tamar Braxton
Before. Remember Vince used to be. I love Vince.
Angela Yee
I met him and he was a really nice person. But I, I, he's not.
Charlamagne tha God
Vince ain't even big like.
Angela Yee
You was with him.
Tamar Braxton
Teddy Rap Skins.
Angela Yee
Yeah. No, it's not that. But he is a man, though. This is a man.
Tamar Braxton
I was hot.
Charlamagne tha God
Oh, okay.
Tamar Braxton
No, go.
DJ Envy
No, no, no.
Charlamagne tha God
No, no, no.
DJ Envy
I was gonna try to save him. Okay.
Tamar Braxton
I was going to say, you know, I enjoyed my Teddy Repskin era. I didn't think I would be able to enjoy that, but I enjoyed a little thickums. It's okay to be thickums.
Charlamagne tha God
The words you used was hustle. That's what you said.
Angela Yee
I don't think it's for me.
Tamar Braxton
It's not for me Now.
Angela Yee
Yeah, I couldn't do. He's not built like Drisky. He's just angry. And he's happy for you.
Tamar Braxton
He's just playing.
Angela Yee
I think so, too, because when I was.
Tamar Braxton
And he's super happy.
Angela Yee
Now I'm inside and being.
Charlamagne tha God
I'm not happy for her. I'm happy when the man proposes and they walk down.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, that's because they get to.
Charlamagne tha God
That's when I get up. Nothing to me.
DJ Envy
Don't rush.
Angela Yee
That's all he did.
Tamar Braxton
Oh, no. Let me see the ring.
Charlamagne tha God
Make sure he walked down the aisle. Now, that's all.
DJ Envy
Yeah, you good Take.
Tamar Braxton
How long do you need? No, don't say that.
DJ Envy
It's only been like five months. Six months.
Angela Yee
But I've known him.
Sophie Cunningham
But he knows.
Tamar Braxton
He knows. So why are we waiting for things.
DJ Envy
They gotta do well. What I advise. I live with each other. So you really see the true meaning, you know, have those conversations about bills and finances and have that conversation about the future. How many kids you want? How many kids he wants. You need to have those conversations before you just get into it. And I'm just saying, have those conversations.
Angela Yee
I'm not rushing, but I am also, like, you know, I'm in. I'm. I'm good.
Tamar Braxton
Got it.
Angela Yee
I'm in a really great place.
Tamar Braxton
But when I meet him, it's not going to be long.
Angela Yee
I don't think it'll. Even before you meet him. If it was up to him, it wouldn't be long.
Charlamagne tha God
Yeah. Heartbreak retrograde.
Tamar Braxton
Heartbreak retrograde.
DJ Envy
Let's get into it. Which one of you off the album?
Charlamagne tha God
I see it.
Tamar Braxton
Love me, Everybody. I don't know. I don't know.
Charlamagne tha God
That's hard for me to choose between.
Tamar Braxton
4Am or love me. I don't know.
Charlamagne tha God
Both.
DJ Envy
Okay, we'll play both. Well, we appreciate you for joining us. Happy holidays and all that.
Tamar Braxton
Thank you.
DJ Envy
Happy holidays to the family. It's Tamar Braxton. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning.
Charlamagne tha God
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Podcast: The Breakfast Club (iHeartPodcasts)
Date: December 17, 2025
Hosts: DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, Charlamagne tha God, Angela Yee
Guest: Tamar Braxton
Episode Theme: Tamar Braxton opens up about her new project "Heartbreak Retrograde," shares personal journeys of healing, accountability, family dynamics, grief, and relationships, and discusses growth as a woman and artist.
Tamar Braxton joins The Breakfast Club to discuss her latest album "Heartbreak Retrograde," a bold, deeply honest project rooted in personal heartbreak and transformative healing. In this intimate interview, Tamar delves into the inspiration behind her music, the ethics of accountability in love, evolving family relationships following loss, public scrutiny, and mental health. The tone is candid, vulnerable, and at times, playful—showcasing the layered, real side of Tamar Braxton.
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On Cheating & Gender Stereotypes
“I think we need to normalize that it’s both of us. It’s not just men...women go through the same thing.”
—Tamar Braxton [07:17]
On Accountability & Honesty
“You can’t have accountability without honesty.”
—Tamar Braxton [12:49]
On Self-Preservation in Love
“If I give you all of me, then that means I’ve lost control of myself. I can’t do that.”
—Tamar Braxton [20:10]
On Healing as a Journey
“A healing journey is forever. And you have hiccups along the way.”
—Tamar Braxton [34:24]
On Grief
“Going through grief counseling prepared me to deal with it...when it actually happened, I was more relieved than anything because I asked her...‘are you in pain?’...‘There’s never a moment when I’m not in pain.’”
—Tamar Braxton [38:02]
On the Album’s Message to Women
“You’re not a broken person because you cheat on your spouse...you went through something, take accountability, heal, and be better.”
—Tamar Braxton [41:53]
Tamar Braxton’s appearance on The Breakfast Club is a raw, humorous, and emotionally intelligent exploration of how heartbreak can become a catalyst for growth. Through candid storytelling and reflection, Tamar prompts listeners to re-evaluate accountability, transparency, forgiveness, and the ways grief shapes us. The episode is layered with practical wisdom for healing and self-discovery, all delivered in the unmistakable Breakfast Club style.
For fans of Tamar, those navigating heartbreak, or anyone interested in honest discussions on growth, this episode offers both deep vulnerability and affirming humor.