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All right, guys, so the trailer for a new Hulu Docu series came across my timeline last night. It actually came across every single Timeline x TikTok Instagram. I saw it everywhere, and immediately after I watched it, I texted that link to everyone I know and I said, I have to talk about this, because if I had to watch it, so did everyone else. So this series, I'm so excited. This episode is so freaking insane. This probably is not the best for children's ears. Just putting it out there for you parents. But anyway, let's dive in. So this series is called Big Girls Escaping Pear Idice, Spelled like pear shaped. All right, let's take a look at this trailer.
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You are now entering Paradise. Welcome to Paradise, a body positive world of love and affirmation. But some say this oasis dedicated to larger ladies may not be all that it seems.
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What did you expect going in and
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what was the reality?
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I expected to, I don't know, just have fun with my friends. But I didn't expect to leave feeling like I was violated or feeling uncomfortable or feeling like, wow, did that. Did that really just happen?
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I was scrolling on TikTok one day and I came across a TikTok where he was holding up a large swimsuit. I click into the profile and I just see this guy, this kind of dorky looking guy has like all these plus size women in his home. So I click in there and I'm just fascinated. I had never seen a world like that.
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Emily Kask found Paradise and its founder, Stephan Villamy, like so many others did, by accident.
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And I'm just a normal guy. You know, that's my tagline on Instagram.
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He's just a normal guy. I have no words other than, this is insane, but you guys obviously know that it's a lie. I'm doing an entire video about this. I have a lot of things to say, but it is insane. And this is so perfect because this entire last week, I've been considering doing an episode on the Controversy with Ariana Grande. Right now she's on Tour people are just shocked at how much weight she's lost since being finished with Wicked. Now she's on tour, people are actually really concerned with her. And then it hit me, like, this is actually one video. Now, obviously, neither extreme that we're going to talk about today is healthy. And at the core of both of these extremes is an intense desire for affirmation and attention. Hence why these fat girls ended up in a freaking cult. Because that is what it is. So what I have learned this week in all of the videos that I've been making is that all roads lead back to 2020, because just like Charli D', Amelio, who we were talking about just yesterday, paradise again spelled P, E A R, Paradise, a body positive community, blew up on TikTok during COVID So this community, aka a cult, it is a cult, was founded by a man named Stefan Williamy, Freak, and it is based in Las Vegas at his home. So this is a cult started by a freak, allegedly at his home in Las Vegas. And this man, I just have to say, might be the most idiotic cult leader ever, because he is promoting the new docu series that is exposing him, his transgressions and his quote unquote, community. So let's just dive into the entire website that he made about paradise. Here is the TikTok that, back in 2020, started it all. All right, now, if any of you guys are listening on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, number one, go to to YouTube. This is an episode that must be watched, that must be experienced. But if you refuse, if you're doing your commute, I understand. Let me just explain what is happening in this video. So this man, Staphon, is in his office, he's spinning around in a chair making a TikTok. And in this video, he's like, hey, I'm Stephane. I moved to Las Vegas from Germany. I love electronic music. And then in all capital letters, he goes, and I love big girls. And I love seeing all of your body positivity videos. And so he just joined TikTok. He was scrolling on his for your page. It was obviously probably because of the things he was searching online, immediately served him all of these videos of big girls. And he was just putting it out into the ether that he was real into what the TikTok algorithm was showing. And from there, his entire online presence just grew. And don't worry, guys, on his website, he wrote out the entire story for us to dive into. So he writes, Chapter 1, the Early Beginnings on TikTok. He says, by late of June 2020, I discovered the live feature on TikTok. And from then on I had a mission. Talk to viewers, encourage viewers and bring a smile to people's faces by remind everyone that being plus size is not a crime and that for men it is completely acceptable to have a preference for plus size women without feeling pressured to hide it. What an amazing mission. You know, some people are out there to, you know, help the hungry, to end human trafficking, to stop abortion. And this man, I mean he's really topping it all. He's out there to make sure that you are comfortable with your fetishes. Love to see it. Anyway, he goes on and he says the Live grew so popular that we eventually needed another communication platform where people could make friends friends without me having to be online all the time. And that is how the Discord was born on July 4th. Oh, amazing. Independence Day of 2020. Throughout this period of rapid growth on TikTok, not on the scale, just so we're all on the same page here. His account was suspended time and time again for guess what? Sexual things for it being too mature, sexual content. He kept getting dings on his account until finally his original account was banned. And so he came online and he made a new one with a new username. And that is how paradise was was founded. And don't worry, he wrote about this in chapter two on his website. He said, chapter two a new hope, Paradise One. Encouraged by friends, I made a new account and chose a fun, memorable name, Paradise. It was a play on words combining pear shaped and paradise, while also referencing Paradise, Nevada, the part of Las Vegas where I live. The new Paradise One account took off like wildfire. Videos went viral and the account grew to over 200,000 followers in less than six months. Paradise 1 lasted until March 2021, until March of 2026 when it was permanently banned by TikTok. Again without warning and without any proper explanation. Sorry, Staphon, that's just what happens on TikTok. We've all been there for you. It was because you were posting little nudie videos of fat women. For me, it was because I dared question somebody in the government. Anyway, moving on, he says along with it, my other accounts, including Paradise2 and other backup accounts, were also permanently disabled. Through it all, the mission stayed the same. Body positivity, friendship, fun and a place where people could feel seen. Paradise One now continues on other platforms like YouTube, Kick, Instagram and Discord. And of course right here on his website, which is called paradise.net. if any of you Guys want to go peruse. But remember, guys, it's body positivity. It's fun, it's friendship. It's the mission to make fat women feel seen. AKA in other words, a man making a community based around his fetish. Anyway, now back to Paradise. And between the years of 2021 and 2026, the community grew in real life. So in Paradise, Nevada, this man, Stefan, had a home. He bought a large home for his big girls. Like imagine a Covid era hype house, content house. Like the type of hype house where Charli d' Amelio was making all of her tiktoks. But instead it was in Las Vegas and it was Stefan and his ladies. These are the types of videos that they would make. I'm pretty sure one of those was a man just saying, we can zoom in on Mrs. Mr. Orange Bikini. But that was kind of the vibe that I was getting. Anyway, that video got over 16 million views worldwide. But here we go. Here is another one. Make new friends. That's all that's happening for sure. And then this right here is a video that he published in April of 2021 where he explained what paradise was along with some of his big girls.
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What is Paradise?
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A body positive community. A judgment free zone. A support group for those who have been bullied for their weight.
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A safe space where you can wear whatever you want without the fear of
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being body shamed, whether it's online, on Discord or offline in Vegas. A place where friendships are formed, whether
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it is on Discord or in person at my home where my cameras are watching, you can come wear whatever you want, whether it is in my hot tub where I am naked or otherwise. It's so weird. It's so weird. Why did these women go to this? Well, I know we're gonna talk about it, but it is just so weird. Now, this entire home in Paradise, Nevada was designed for plus size women. It had extra large space, it had sturdy beds. Everything that you could need for a fun ruckus of a time building community and finding friends. And he certainly needed to make room in this home because according to the documentary series, Stephane's type was women who were 6ft plus and over 500 pounds. But he didn't just stop there, because girls also said that he had a fetish for watching people eat and gain weight, also known as a feeder. So I guess it was even better for him if you just continued getting bigger. Now, Staphon, throughout this entire experience, has been adamant that all of this was just wonderful. Consensual, happy, fun, community building, girls being girls with their guy. Stefan. But people on the outside began describing what they saw as being cult like. Watch this video.
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Wow, someone's going really hard for their views back. That's three videos now in two days of the same trend of you fetishizing bigger women's stomachs. Stephan this is just a reminder that the guy who runs BBW paradise is one predator who has multiple essay allegations against him, who refuses to address those essay allegations because they're not gruesome enough by his standards and instead will blame a thermostat.
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Now, interestingly, when I was looking at this woman's TikTok, I noticed that there was a lot of pressure around this time to shut down accusations and comments. Accusations like hers. Like just look at the comment section under her specific video. One person said, what? You're trying to get views by reporting things that are not true? I hope you have the day and the life you deserve for spreading lies. Another person said, you sound unhinged. It's mad cringe to make content covering a page unironically. Another person said, leave him alone, stop talking about people. And interestingly, all of these were pretty private accounts, didn't have any videos. Anonymous, no faces behind them, kind of looked like made up things. And so not to be conspiratorial but like was that staphon? I feel like objectively as a society we should be able to say that having a bunch of fat women that he is openly sexually attracted to move into his home with him and then making content of them in their bikinis, it's just a bit odd. Like objectively, like from his mouth, he is saying that that is his fetish, that is his kink and he is monetizing it through this content. He is using their insecurity, their desire for his attention to make him money and so that he can get off. That is exactly what was happening there. Anyway, those comments under videos like hers did not do so much because when videos like that started going viral, girls started coming forward. One article reads. Several former members later challenged that image of it being this happy, joyful, fun, warm, cozy friendship circle. And in 2021, multiple women began posting videos on TikTok detailing their troubling experiences. Some alleged that Wihemi Stephane crossed personal boundaries and used the body positivity movement to pursue his own interests. Imagine that. Imagine that. One former member, Kimberly Ann Houder, publicly claimed that paradise uses the body positivity movement for his own personal harem and and argued that Stephane's videos fetishize bigger women rather than making them feel accepted and normalized. You don't say this is the least shocking thing of the century. Like ladies, there is a lesson here. If a man is wanting you to move into his home to dance around in your underwear in bikinis with other women as he films you and monetizes your body, that literally is him using and fetishizing you. He is not doing that out of the goodness of his heart. That is his penis. That is his penis. That is doing that. Like those are his desires. And I know that you are feeling insecure and you needed affirmation that, you know, fat was beautiful and sexy and healthy, but please, this was not it. 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Father's Day. Give him something that actually matters. Now, getting back into the story, let's dive into the more serious stuff. So that same article continues on and says other women made more serious allegations. At least two former members accused Stephane of touching them without consent. Several women later described him as being a quote unquote predator and voiced support for those who came forward. The allegations eventually expanded beyond unwanted touching. The Razdana legal group shared A testimony from a woman who claimed that he pressured her into sexual activity while she was experiencing an emotional breakdown. In a sworn declaration, the woman alleged that she was in the middle of having an emotional breakdown. She was crying with tears streaming down her face. And then Stephane approached me and said, quote, you know what would make you feel better, Porky? If we fucked in the hot tub. I explained to him that I was having an emotional breakdown, but he continued to pressure me into having sex with him. In my emotionally vulnerable state, I eventually acquiesced to this pressure. However, I would not call the encounter to be consensual, but. But rather predator. Porky. He called her Porky. I'm sorry. That in and of itself is grounds for a lawsuit. Everything else just make matters so much worse. Like, this man is a freak. Allegedly. Allegedly. But this. Like, this is freaky behavior. And we're going to talk about this power imbalance a little later on. But the common thread here is that these were women who were insecure, that did not feel wanted, that were broken. They came into this home to try to find attention, to feel desired. And he allegedly abused that position. And this is the most extreme example of this, because it wasn't just that she was living her normal life. She was in a moment of emotional distress. And how did he respond? By using her weakness to pressure her into having sex. Allegedly. But again, that's just the most extreme example. Now, moving on from that and getting into the docu series that just came out yesterday, the women in that lawsuit are not the only ones who have now spoken out about this predatory behavior and all of the power imbalances. Like, almost everything in the paradise home was filmed. And at one point in the docu series, Stephane was assuring people that, you know, there were no cameras in the bedroom. That was, you know, they didn't do that sort of thing. And then they immediately. It's like perfect comedic timing. They immediately cut to a camera in his bedroom. Now, apparently, he would turn off all the cameras at the home during hot tub time because apparently everyone was naked during that time. Girls also compared the way that he would run up and grab their bellies to the way that a man would grab a woman's butt. Stephane said that he took the flirting that took place in the house and women, you know, responding to his affection as consent, and that the girls would be all up on each other, touching each other. So, like, why wasn't that an issue? Now, also in the docu series, the woman said that, quote, having sex with him was not Required. But it was an unspoken rule. And he allegedly, allegedly, I'm not trying to get sued by Stephane Wilhelmy. Allegedly, he had romantic or physical encounters with most of the women in the house. AKA the man is a pimp. He created this paradise to fulfill his own sexual fantasy. And listen, you know, it is a free country. Unfortunately, sometimes I wish it was a little less free in situations like this. But if he wants to run a content house with his beloved porkies in America, he is welcome too. But we also, as other normal Americans, do not have to sit idly by and agree that this is normal. And moving forward, the lesson here, the very niche, specific lesson, is that women should realize that they are being used. That this weird man isn't just really into feminism and really into girl empowerment, body positivity. It is something else. Since all of this has come out over the last couple of years, Stephane decided to retaliate. And he filed a lawsuit against several of these women, seeking a million dollars in damages, alleging defamation, false light, invasion of privacy, and conspiracy. And his legal team argued that the sexual assault framing was defamatory because Nevada's criminal definition of sexual assault requires penetration, which he said didn't occur. So TL Dr. He is saying, you can't accuse me of these things because this, you know, under textbook definition, is not sexual assault. And what you were saying did not happen. But unfortunately for him, that backfired because then the women invoked Nevada's anti slapp laws and the court sided with them, dismissed his claims, and ordered him to pay everyone's attorney fees. And this is really where it gets crazy. I mean, the entire thing is crazy, but this is just a funny little tidbit, is that even though he lost in court and he had to pay all of them, even though this documentary just came out that is slandering him and is talking about all the accusations, he is still promoting it. I was just on his Instagram earlier today and he's saying, celebrating his paradise being on Hulu, which just further confirms that for him, this was all about attention. He was preying on women who wanted attention, but he himself wanted them to pay attention to him. To the point that a whole documentary alleging that there were nefarious things going on within the walls of this mansion strokes his ego. Just crazy. Anyway, now that you guys are officially caught up on all of the chapters of Paradise, I'm sure you now see why Hulu is doing a docu series on the this man. And even though there is a lot of weird stuff here that obviously we should be laughing at and mocking at, which is why I'm doing this video. Aside from all of that, this entire thing really is sad because everything comes back to these women just desperately wanting to feel validated and desired. And a body positivity movement that was started to make them feel good about themselves, you know, in a more normal light exploited them. Like, this is the most extreme example of this. Like, for example, the documentary literally opens with women talking about how body positivity content online, like on TikTok, and made them feel confident and seen. And so they sought out more of that content, which is how they came across this man in his original TikToks about loving the big bodied women. And they all said, all of them agreed that a core belief that they had was that they were not wanted or desired, that nobody thought they were attractive or sexy. And Stefan, this weird German man, made them feel wanted. So they were willing to go along with all of this and join his community. And that is why affirmation culture is so unhealthy. And it's not just the fat bodied version of this spectrum. The same goes for our current science stick skinny Ozempic culture that we are in right now. And the main topic of conversation being Ariana Grande. I don't know if you guys have seen this story, but Ariana Grande just launched a new tour. She's back from her moment in Hollywood doing Glinda. She's back being the pop star. But a lot has changed since the last time she was tour in 2019. Now, obviously think back to Wicked part one, part two. Everyone noticed how skinny the entire cast of Wicked had gotten when they were doing their press tours. But I think everybody was kind of joking around and maybe hoping that it was just kind of some Wicked curse. Like it had been a really grueling experience doing the film and doing press, but that once everything was done, everybody in the cast would simply get back to normal. But they haven't, especially not Ariana. And so now she is back out on tour and she looks skinnier than ever. Unfortunately, like most of Hollywood, just look at this. I mean, that is not normal. And all across social media, videos like this are going viral and all of the comments are saying the same thing. Like, what happened? Like, she looks worse than she did just nine months ago. She is sticking bones. This is not toned. This is like a bad kind of skinny. And it's also not that, oh, she's just been that skinny for her entire life. She hasn't. She's grown up in the Spotlight. We've known what she looks like. This is a drastic change. Like look at the difference from the last time that she was on tour in 2019. I mean, that is a totally, totally different woman. And it's not just her body and how it looks. Her arms, her sternum, whatever we're seeing, it's her energy levels, it's her ability to get around the stage and dance. And I mean, think about her doing these two hour long shows every single night, flying around the world, doing these huge arena tours. Fans are not just nitpicking her because they don't like her body. They're saying you could kill yourself. Like we're looking at old videos of you when you were able to dance. You had stamina. We don't think you have that anymore. And you know, people have argued that, you know, maybe she's just changing her brand. She's still doing the dainty girly Glinda thing. She's wearing the long dresses. She's not doing the same type of dancing. This is like an intentional brand shift. But that really doesn't work either because she is attempting many of the same dances. It is just simply not working. And so obviously now, like I said, the Internet has noticed and people are going back and forth arguing over whether it is smart to even talk about this, whether it's a good thing to comment about it, bring attention to it or whether that will just affirm and validate her more. Like if that is actually because of an eating disorder, that is their concern. Because in that case her seeing concerned comments from fans would encourage her and say that, you know, whatever she is doing is working, that she's actually super skinny. Like people notice me and like that is why it is called an eating disorder. Now I don't know if that is what is going on or if it is an abuse of Ozempic or drugs or something else. But I do know that this is a trend. Obviously we've talked about this in other videos. I'll link them below if you wanna watch. But she's not the only one. Jenna Ortega, oh my gosh, she is stick skinny. Jenna Apatow's daughter looks tiny. Nicole Kidman looks overly unwell. The Osborne women, Demi Moore, everyone looks like they are on drugs. It is like no longer ozempic body and Oz epic based. It is like heroin bodies. Like why can't people just be normal? Why can't we just have normal bodies? That is what the body positivity movement was created to encourage. It wasn't actually at Its origins about obesity and trying to lie to the public and convince us all that actually fat was super healthy and being obese was really cool. The message was really clear. It was like, listen, you don't have to be that skinny. You do not have to be as tiny as, you know, a high fashion model walking the Runway at Paris Fashion Week. You can be a normal woman, a normal mom. You can be strong, have different shapes of bodies, be tall, short, whatever it is, and still be beautiful. It was not celebrating extremes in any way until it was co opted and not to quote Jojo Siwa, but it does feel relevant for this moment in time. But in terms of body image, our culture is going back and forth like a frigging boomerang. Like that is hot and healthy. Worship fat women or else. Or else you are a racist and a bigot. Actually, now we have GLP1s and it's easy to lose weight. Everyone needs to look like they're smoking crack with Hunter Biden. I mean, it's like the whiplash is insane and it's so awful. And it also just reaffirms that the body positivity movement truly became a sham. You know, we were told to celebrate fatness simply because people couldn't or didn't want to lose weight. And that was fine, that was empowerment. But now that losing weight is more accessible, you don't have to do the work and calculate the points on Weight Watchers. You can just, you know, shoot yourself in with some kind of GLB one. All of that has gone out the window. It's just all ridiculous. None of it is healthy. In thinking about your body, this is how I view it. Like your biggest priorities in terms of your body need to be health and self confidence in that health and your healthy body's capabilities, end quote. That is all. Those are the only things that you should be concerned about. If there are things on top of that, once you are healthy, maybe you want to tone a little bit here and there, that's great. But you have to start from a place of confidence that will shield you from falling prey to these awful extreme trends. And in some circumstances, even cults, like if you have self confidence, you will not end up in a cult. Honestly, that be a TED talk. I'm going to pitch that. But for now, those are your lessons for today.