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Feminism, Toxic masculinity, Red pill Bros. How on earth are people supposed to find a partner and find love in this insane dating landscape? I've talked about this a lot. We have talked about the Gen Z mental health crisis, which in my opinion is just a loneliness epidemic. We are so lonely, we have literally been dubbed the loneliest generation. I know that we're trying to work on that, obviously, but even though that loneliness has been fostered through social media and Covid and all of these things, I think that the dating divide and the ideological divide played a huge role. Wendy Walsh, who is a psychology professor at California State University, Channel Islands and an Ambassador for Dating Advice.com told Newsweek recently that, quote, in the last few years, males have become increasingly conservative and the most liberal and progressive group in America is young females. The political polarization is already creating problems in the dating scene. People in their 20s are either not dating at all or competing for a very small group of people who match their political views. And. And guys, as I am sure you are well aware, by just being young people and humans in this weird culture, I'm sure you are aware that this divide did not happen overnight. And so we need to look back over the political landscape in the 21st century to see how we got here and most importantly, what solutions we can employ to actually fix the situation. But before we do, make sure that you are following our podcast page and please rate the show if you are enjoying it. It helps us out so much in the algorithm. And if you want to stay up to date on all things Brett Cooper and live events and fun things that we're doing, make sure to head on over to Brett Cooper dot com. That is where we house all of that information. Now back to the show. I think that the easiest place that we can start is with men. And we talk about this all the time. I have been talking about this basically as long as I have been on the Internet. And anyone who follows politics even remotely can see the way and understand the way that our culture has alienated men massively over the last decade to 25 years or so. And most recently, in my opinion, it has been the MeToo movement and the lasting impacts of that, that really unfairly generalized men as predators, which led to massive, massive reput. Reputational damage. Innocent until proven guilty was basically thrown out in the courts of social media, in the actual courts of law. Like that has just not been a thing anymore. There was and still is this attack on toxic masculinity, which stereotyped, you know, normal male traits like stoicism or assertiveness as being inherently harmful. And they even went so far as to say that things like football and hunting and just like normal male hobbies were actually very toxic and were hurting America and were oppressing women. Women would say, f the patriarchy, we want to stamp out the patriar. You literally have women who say, I'm a lesbian because I don't need men. I don't want men. I could literally survive without them. We don't need them as a society. And all of this has been the M.O. for years now. And therefore society has shamed a whole generation of young men into thinking that they are inherently monsters or predators or less than. It has turned them inward. It has made so many men insecure and feel like they don't actually have a place on our culture and our society, when in reality, you men are so important. I say this all the time. You are the backbone of civilization. You are the backbone of families. We literally cannot exist without you. And yet that has not been the message that you have been receiving from pundits from Hollywood, from girls, on college campuses, whatever it may be from podcasters. That is not what you have been hearing. And interestingly, a recent British study revealed that nearly 50% of young men reported feeling that being a man is not a source of pride for them, which is just insane. That is the core part of your being. That should be something that you love about yourself that is so integral to who you are that you should be proud of. And the fact that 50% of young men say that, that is just. That's not even a thing anymore. And this is what some of the participants had to say, quote, there are a lot of negative stories about how men are treated women, which makes people assume that all men are the same, which isn't the case, commented one 20 year old. Another young man said, there is a feeling that men are responsible for patriarchy and you feel a sense of guilt or although things were this way before I was born, and in spite of personal effort for equality, these men are trying. They have, like, heard, they've tried to respond, and yet they still are made to feel so guilty and so out of place. Another one said, social media is damaging to men's mental health. As a society, we have an expectation of what a man should be. This puts pressure on men to live up to this expectation. So in trying to connect this with current events, it's like, yeah, no wonder young men move to the right. No wonder in 2024, young men came out in droves. For Donald Trump and J.D. vance, who, you know, they might not be perfect, but they are men who seem to be proud of being men. They are manlier men who have families and seem like the heads of their households. Young men can look up to them and maybe even see themselves in those two men. It's the reason why UFC has absolutely blown up. It's the reason why the male podcasting space is dominating right now, because they are speaking to multiple generations of men who've been ignored for years. Right now, millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha. That is coming up. That is why the male podcasting space is dominating. 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And unfortunately, when a whole society, when a whole political party turns against and vill as one sex, you are not Just going to move to healthy role models and find some common middle ground. It's not going to work like that. You are going to see the consequences of young men who fell through the cracks, who were left behind, who were villainized to no end, who were made to feel guilty. They are going to have to go somewhere, and often they're going to lash out. Which leads us to the creation of the red pill man, which is a hot topic in 2025. Whenever anybody brings up the red pill bros, if you talk about them, if you tweet at them, I feel like they're going to end up in this comment section. They're going to, like, pop out to, like, talk about their values, whatever. But the red pill man is playing his own role in this very, very complicated and convoluted dating landscape. And these men, in my opinion, view modern feminism as a societal evil whose express goal is to oppress men. They believe that women hold unfair power in today's culture, which is definitely true in our modern culture. And I agree with them on feminism. I agree that modern feminism has gone too far. It's shifted from being about equality and uplifting women to actually dominating men. Like, they vocalize that they do not hide, that that is something that they are proud of, they speak about. So these men are not wrong when it comes to any of those things. But they don't just stop with fighting that they don't just stop by saying, hey, this is wrong. We disagree with that. Instead, they in turn idolize these hyper dominant, quote unquote alpha traits. They have a perverted view of masculinity and femininity and a woman's role in society. They also very often lump women together and see us all as being inherently menac, manipulative, interested only in exploiting men for their resources and their money and their status. And possibly the thing that turns me off the most is that they often assert that their manhood is something that is defined by how many women they can exploit, how many women they can sleep with, how many women they can impregnate, how far they can sow their seeds and how many children they can have, how tight and ill fitting their suits can be, how nice their cars are, like how many cigars they can smoke. It is a caricature of. Of masculinity. It is bitter, and in my opinion, it is incredibly performative. And while I know that I just spent two minutes basically complaining about them and saying what I think is wrong with their ideology, their core grievances, like the reason why the red pill bro was created in the first place. Like, their core grievances are often very legitimate, like liberal women and progressives. You created a space for the red pill man to thrive. You pushed men for years, for decades, so far into a corner that they had no choice but to turn to people like Andrew Tate to create these ideas, ideologies, so that they could feel powerful, so that they could have somebody who would say, hey, it's pretty great to be a man. Even if that version of a man is kind of performative and a caricature, in my opinion. And I'm sorry, but the result of all of that, what this has become, is a major turnoff for women, even women who might share your values or politically agree with you, because, like, you didn't want to date a feminist woman who hated you for your manhood and just hated your basic identity and wanted to take advantage of you through sex. Women also are not going to want to date men who are assholes and hate them for just being women. And I really think that a lot of these men online that we see just generally don't like women. Like, I read their posts, I'm like, have you ever like been friends with a woman? Like, have you ever had any, like, moment of enjoyment with like a female, a person of the opposite sex? Because based on what you're saying, it seems like you just don't like us. And so it is no surprise to me that this is a situation that is occurring more and more frequently in our modern dating culture. This is from the New York Post, a recent article from a couple months ago. According to 19 year old Liza, who's dating someone in his 20s and sat down with the outlet, she said, I'd go on the odd date with someone my age and more often than not it would end up in a straight up argument. When he started saying that. Andrew Tate makes good points. Her boyfriend now this older guy is, quote, super chill, a feminist, and weirdly, so are most of his mates. He missed all of the manosphere stuff and it shows. So now, unfortunately, because of all this red pill bro stuff, women are being pushed even further into the opposite direction, into the welcoming arms of these older, chill feminist bros with their chill, older feminist bro mate. But of course, because we need to be fair, the women in this scenario are also not blameless, literally at all. Like, they might have started this whole thing from the get go. And in talking about this, my mind immediately goes to Alex Cooper and her podcast, Call Her Daddy. But before we keep going, I wanna thank today's sponsor. Now if you've followed me for the past few years, you know that there is a product that I have loved for a long time and that would be my Bon Charge Infrared Sauna Blanket. Guys, this thing is is incredible. It gives you all of the benefits of an infrared sauna, like sweating out toxins, boosting circulation, easing sore muscles and improving sleep, but in the comfort of your own home and without overheating your environment. 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She and her original co host would often tell women that they needed to have a roster of men lining up waiting for them to date, that they should, quote, unquote, have sex like a man, that they should toy and play games with men as a way of gaining power and confidence like this is literally how they named their podcast. Call Her Daddy. Take a listen.